Jay Shetty, Best-Selling author & Podcast guru, brings years of study, wisdom and experiences into the sports space, challenging Ryan, Channing and Fred to find clarity and balance in a busy world with pressures of relationships, love, work and society.

“Even if you hate your job, you hate your career- Collect everything you possibly can from this experience and then move to the next thing and collect everything from that.” Jay Shetty Pivot Family, in this introspective and soul-stirring episode, we go outside our comfort zone of sports and entertainment, approach topics we tend to ignore and ask questions that will help guide us to not just find our purpose but to LIVE our purpose, and who better to do it with than a man who sits atop the space, globally known for his wisdom and guidance. New York Times Best Selling author, Award-winning podcast host and former monk Jay Shetty brings a powerful blend of vulnerability, clarity, and wisdom to the discussion. Known for helping millions navigate personal growth and emotional healing, Jay sits down with the newly minted Black Monk (our own Ryan Clark), Channing and Fred to share how his life has been built on pivots. Spiritually, emotionally, and professionally, “My life has just been full of pivots… I don’t actually want to be ever not pivoting,” he says, embracing change as a lifelong practice rather than a one-time choice. Jay opens up to the guys about his unlikely journey from chasing status in London to giving it all up to become a monk, living in an ashram. Ryan asks if it was a failure to leave the monastery after three years to pursue his calling for motivational speaking as the guys discuss the reality of how life shifts and if we don't evolve, we can't grow. Jay recounts the days when no one showed up to hear him speak, the power of pushing forward and not being afraid to start at zero, reminding us all that growth requires humility, patience, and persistence. Throughout the conversation, Jay breaks down the challenges people face in modern relationships, identity, and purpose. He speaks candidly about love. What it is, what it isn’t, and why we often confuse instability for excitement, flipping the cultural script on romance and connection. Whether discussing solitude, emotional baggage, or finding meaning through pain, Jay delivers deep truths with the calm assurance of someone who’s lived every word. Jay opens up about marriage, failure, grief, and the challenge of letting go of people, careers, and versions of ourselves we’ve outgrown. He shares with the guys that we lose love to remind ourselves that there are other emotional skills to be developed by challenging us to grow beyond heartbreak, not just recover from it. More than just motivation, this episode is a toolkit for self-discovery. With his signature compassion and clarity, Jay Shetty proves that pivoting isn’t something you fear, it’s how you evolve. Whether you’re starting over or standing still, this conversation might be the shift you didn’t know you needed. Like and Comment what your biggest takeaway is from the conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:01Speaker 00

  Every game day, you show up for your team. Now, it's your time.

• 0:11Speaker 00

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• 0:30Ryan Clark?

  What's up?

• 0:30Speaker 02

  Good to see you, Jay. You all right?

• 0:32Ryan Clark?

  Good brother.

• 0:33Speaker 02

  How you doing?

• 0:33Ryan Clark?

  What's up, man?

• 0:34Speaker 02

  Good to see you. Congrats on the Emmy now.

• 0:36Ryan Clark?

  Thank you, brother. I appreciate you. Good to see you, baby.

• 0:38Speaker 02

  How you doing? So good to see you. Thanks for having me.

• 0:40Ryan Clark?

  It was last year in Cannes. Alicia made me run up on you to get your autograph. I was the sacrificial lamb, you know? She had been walking around for three years with the Black Monk. But she wanted to meet somebody that had actually been at a monastery and not just me pretending to be. Told you he calls himself the Black Monk.

• 0:59Speaker 02

  But he calls himself that. That no one actually...

• 1:04Speaker 02

  It's a self-imposed title.

• 1:07Ryan Clark?

  Jay, if you don't believe it, who else will?

• 1:09Speaker 02

  Very well said.

• 1:10Ryan Clark?

  You know what I mean?

• 1:10Speaker 02

  Yeah, Muhammad Ali to us.

• 1:33Ryan Clark?

  Jay Shetty, man, welcome to The Pivot. This is Fred Taylor. This is Channing Crowder. I'm Ryan Clark, Pivot fan. Thank you for pivoting with us. This is an exciting show today. We have bestselling author, motivational speaker, and big-time podcaster Jay Shetty, who's out on, let y'all know now, out on his All Purpose Live Tour right now. Speaking of that, man, I think it's so cool, Jay, when you show the pictures of how it started to how it's going. And I actually counted the people in one of the picture. It was only 12. To be in the position that you're in now. When you started out on this journey, how could you ever have imagined that it would end up where you are now touring the country, touring the world in some senses,

• 2:18Ryan Clark?

  and people pile into arenas to see you?

• 2:21Speaker 02

  I don't think you could ever imagine it. And that's what's beautiful about it. I think the challenge today is everyone has too much pressure. Every video has to have a million views. Everything you post has to get lots of engagement. Everything you share has to get lots of attention. When I started giving my first talks, I was in a room,

• 2:43Speaker 02

  the corner of this, the size of the corner of this room. And the first time I went to speak, zero people showed up. So I just practiced to the four walls. And the second time I showed up, no one showed up. And so I practiced to the four walls. And the third time I realized that five are the person who was putting the flyers out because they obviously weren't doing a good job. But for years, nearly 10 years before I posted a video, I was speaking to groups of small rooms. I was speaking to groups of three people, five people, 10 people. And I'll be honest with you. I never ever felt, why is it only 10 people? I never ever felt, oh, it's only 20 people today.

• 3:27Speaker 02

  I would have loved it to be 50 or 100, don't get me wrong. But I never thought it needed to be more than that. I was just happy that anyone would take time out of their day to come and hear about things that were meant to be good for them. But, you know, it wasn't, hey, here's how to do this, or here's how to get rich, or it was, here's how to improve your life. And so for me, those years of spending hours and hours and hours with people, roughly 10 years later, when I post my first video and I start to have the groundswell experience of more people finding out about my work, I live in gratitude every day. I post those to show people that no one starts in an arena. Everyone starts at zero.

• 4:10Speaker 02

  And the reason why we don't start is not because we're scared of starting at zero. We're scared of people watching us start at zero. We're scared of the opinions of people around us starting at zero. We're not scared of starting from scratch. We're scared of our friends seeing us start from scratch. And I just want to remind people that everyone started at zero. You did, you did, you did, and everyone on planet Earth did. And that means you can do it as much as I have.

• 4:35Ryan Clark?

  Hey, Chang, by the way, I just want to say this. This is the first time Fred's voice has been out sexy'd on our show.

• 4:41Channing Crowder?

  Oh, yeah. These guys are something else. That London, that London is sexy now. I see, I can see it. I wanted to ask you about motivational speaking and spiritual advisors. What about on the other, why do people need them? I'm a, I'm a, I'm a, not a pessimist, but I'm a, you know, I'm a person that thinks about it like, I don't talk to anybody, like, this is, this is probably my therapy, us doing this. What about on the other side? Why do people need you to get them going? Like, bro, tighten up.

• 5:14Speaker 02

  You know what's really interesting is when you're doing it, you don't think that's what you're doing. So when I first started learning from the monks, I was just trying to share what they were teaching me because I thought it was valuable. It's almost like if someone told you, "Hey, there's this really cool thing, there's this cool spot, there's this great movie, there's this great song, there's this great rapper, there's this great artist." If someone introduced you to that, you'd start talking about it because it was cool. And so for me, wisdom was cool. And so I was just sharing it because it changed my life and had an impact on me. And I thought it would help other people. So from my side, you don't even see yourself that way. You just see yourself as a spiritual dealer because you're just sharing what's helping you and you want it to help other people.

• 5:58Speaker 02

  So from my side, I don't look at myself as that. I think for people, what happens is we're all looking for people who represent what we're chasing, who represent what we're pursuing, who represent what we admire. And I think the thing is, everyone needs someone or something to believe in. Now, I don't want people to believe in me, I want them to believe in the wisdom. So that's my responsibility to make it very clear. I don't want you to believe in me, I'm flawed, I'm human, I have weaknesses. But the wisdom has lasted for 5,000 years. There's nothing in the world that has lasted, apart from the world, the planet, for, you know, 5,000 years. I remember talking about the Bhagavad Gita, which is the book that I reference a lot in my books.

• 6:42Speaker 02

  I was speaking about it with a guy that I'd met, and he was big in business. And he said to me after the interview, this was years ago, he said to me, he goes, "How long did you say that book's been around?" I said, "5,000 years." He goes, "Oh, there must be truth in it if it's lasted 5,000 years." You think about the best music artists, they're not gonna last 5,000 years. You think about the best movies, they're not gonna last 5,000 years. Well, I'm definitely not gonna last 5,000 years. So, the fact that something has stood the test of time, that's worth sharing. So I'm trying to get people to believe in that, because that is actually gonna change their life. Them believing in me or another person or whatever is kind of insignificant and irrelevant.

• 7:23Fred Taylor?

  You also try to get people to believe in their purpose. Because you speak about passion being what you like and purpose being what you give. Take us back to the moment when you say you were just in the room waiting for people and you were staring at the four walls, right? If your purpose wasn't greater than your passion, would we be doing this interview today?

• 7:46Speaker 02

  That's a great question. The purpose is what drives you, because when you're doing your passion,

• 7:54Speaker 02

  there may not be the result immediately. And so for me, the way I like to explain it is your passion is for you. Your passion is doing something that brings you joy. It could be baking, it could be photography, it could be organizing your kid's birthday, it could be coaching them, you know, at football or soccer or whatever it may be. That could be your passion. But as soon as you start doing it to improve other people's lives, that's where it becomes a purpose, when you start connecting it with making someone else's day better. So instead of just baking for you, you're now baking for the homeless. Instead of just baking for you, you're now baking for the community. Instead of just taking pictures for yourself, you start sharing it so that people who don't have the money to travel that far can now see what it looks like to experience it. All of a sudden, you start to get that feedback

• 8:39Speaker 02

  and you realize you're meant for more, you're made for more, you're here for more. For me, I... Would have kept going and I did keep going for 10 years of sharing it in small rooms. Because I saw impact on one person. And I think if anyone wants to build a product, a business, a service, a show. You've got to see how it impacts one person before you can impact 1 million people. If your product can't change one person's life. It's never going to change a million people's lives. Because the feedback you get from that one person is everything. That one person could help you improve your product, your service, your energy, your show more than anyone. I'm sure you guys have had it like you've had somebody who watches every Pivot podcast, right? Every episode.

• 9:22Speaker 02

  They're like, you know what, I really liked it when you guys did that. I wasn't sure when you guys did that and same for me. People will be like, I really like it when you share your opinion. I really like it when you stay true to your values. That's what helps you keep going. So to me, I kept going because there was always one person who was being moved. And even today, when I'm speaking to a large audience or an arena. I'm visualizing being in that small room with three to five people. Because that's how intimate I want it to feel. I want it to feel like this, this is special. Just the intimacy you guys have created here. This is special and I want people in a room full of thousands to feel like this. Because this is what we're all craving. No one's craving to be in a room full of thousands of people.

• 10:05Speaker 02

  Everyone's craving this eye contact, this kind of connection, this kind of space. And it's our job, and that's what you guys do so well here. Whenever I watch your clips, this is how I feel. I feel this close to you. Before I met you, I felt like I knew you. Because I'd seen so many of your guys' clips. And it felt like you guys were genuine, sincere, you were doing this for the right reason. And so I think we've got to give that, give people that experience. And that's what I've always tried to do, whether it was five people or 5,000.

• 10:33Ryan Clark?

  Jay, I look at you, man, the finely manicured hair, right? The beard always taped up, obviously the gear. And I see you in Bad Boys and moving around and it's like, man. Like this dude's kind of like me. Make sure his hair is nice, he make sure his clothes are tight, right? He gonna stay clean. And I see the lifestyle you live now. And I try to just put my mind and say, okay. Jay Shetty, after being college educated, decided to follow the monastic way.

• 11:05Ryan Clark?

  What was it about that lifestyle that drew you to the ashram?

• 11:12Speaker 02

  When I met my monk teacher, I saw that he dedicated his life to mastering his emotions and his mind and serving other people. And that's what attracted me. I felt that that felt like a life worth pursuing. When I met him, I remember I'd met people who were rich and famous and successful, but I don't think I'd met anyone who was content and happy in their own skin. And my monk teacher didn't have any of those other things, but he was happy in who he was. And I was like, I want that. Like, that feels like the life I want to have. And he graduated also from IIT, which is the MIT of India. So he went to one of the best colleges in the country.

• 11:57Speaker 02

  For example, the current CEO of Google went to that university. Like, that's the level of institution. And he gave that all up to be a monk. So I was thinking, and I was at college at the time, and I was thinking, wait a minute, if I'm gonna aspire to get a job like that, this guy's giving it up. There's something amazing about him. So to me, it was truly the fascination, and I'm sure you've had it in sports, I'm sure you've had it in business, where you see someone and you just like the way they move. And you think, how are you that happy, that peaceful, that content? And I just wanted to know. And so to me, it was as simple as finding one person who is living differently. And I always say to people, everyone needs to find their monk. And what I mean by that is, who's the one person you haven't met yet that's gonna change the trajectory of your life?

• 12:42Speaker 02

  Who's the one person who embodies what you believe life is about? It might not be a monk, it might be something else, but everyone has to find that. And for me, mental stability, resilience, and peace, and service to others have always felt like the best pursuits. And now, when you're talking about, you know, the hair or the clothes or whatever it is, I'm giving myself permission to be all of myself. So I enjoy presenting myself well. I like living an intentional life. I think the way we dress, the way we appear, everything's about intention. And that's what mindfulness is. Mindfulness ultimately is am I mindful about what I wear? What I think about? How I show up? What energy I walk into the room with? If I'm kind to people?

• 13:27Speaker 02

  That's what mindfulness is about. So to me, everything from... Like, this room has been mindfully designed. I walked in and I felt happy. I felt good. I felt it was comfortable. It was inviting. But let's say you were like, "Oh, it doesn't matter. It only matters what's on the inside. We'll just sit in a black room."

• 13:44Channing Crowder?

  Yeah.

• 13:44Speaker 02

  Well, that's gonna affect your mindset. So mindfulness also means focusing on the outside and the inside. And I think immature mindfulness is like, "Oh, it only matters what's on the outside." And materialism is, "It only matters what's on the outside." Right? So I think that's the mistake we make as humans. We think, "Oh, if I'm spiritual, it means only the inside matters." And if I'm material, only the outside matters. And intentional mindful living is, they both affect each other. If I'm in a messy outside space, I'm gonna be messy up here. And if I have a messy world here, it doesn't matter how clean my outside is, I'll never be at peace. And that's what I learned in the monastery for sure.

• 14:23Channing Crowder?

  I love that, man. Monk-ism. Is it like, is it like the Fight Club? Where you can't talk about the Fight Club? Like, I know how to become a cripple of blood, you get jumped in. What's the process of becoming a monk? Like, you meet your advisor, your monk teacher.

• 14:40Speaker 02

  Yes, yes, yes.

• 14:41Channing Crowder?

  And then you become a monk. What is that process?

• 14:44Speaker 02

  Yeah, no, there's a system for sure. And it's not like Fight Club, you can totally talk about it. So there's no...

• 14:51Channing Crowder?

  And you don't get jumped in?

• 14:52Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 14:52Channing Crowder?

  Do they jump you in? Cause I've seen some, I've seen some with some yoked upness to them.

• 14:58Speaker 02

  The initiation is the daily practice and commitment to it. So you're waking up at 4:00 a.m. You're meditating for four to eight hours a day. You sleep on the floor on a thin mat and have a sheet. When you're in India, you have a mosquito net, cause the mosquitoes will bite you all night. So you gotta be inside of this tent-like thing. You get two sets of robes. You wear one, you wash one. All your possessions fit inside a gym locker. And you live that practice. You eat what you're given. You don't get to choose, there's no menu. You don't get to say, "Today I want pizza," and it doesn't exist. Everyone eats the same thing. There's no space that's yours. So we'd be in a room like this, and there's thirty men sleeping in it. And you just put your mat down and go to sleep. It's not like, "That's my corner."

• 15:43Speaker 02

  The idea is to lose a sense of "I, me, and mine." And so you have very, very few possessions. And it's that daily practice and commitment that if they see you're dedicated to, that allows you to become a monk.

• 15:58Channing Crowder?

  But is it like, "Let's ride to the monastery"? Like, I've seen movies. Like, yeah, that process of it, like you being a monk and your book, you know, the mindset. The, like, okay, I met this dude. And then, now I'm sleeping on a mat with thirty dudes sitting in a room with me. Like, that, that process, like, what, why? Like, but what, what is that, those steps? Is it something mental? Then the shaving of the hair and all that stuff? Like, I like the day, the, the, the process from living a normal life. Have an apartment, graduated from one of the best schools, and now I have no possessions. I'm in a locker, and I'm sleeping on the floor with twenty-nine dudes.

• 16:37Speaker 02

  So, I was so young when I did it, that there was a sense of naive following. And what I mean by that is, I was just like, "Yeah, let's give it a go." Like, "Let's try it out." Like, "Let's test it out." I kind of went in there as an experiment. I was like, "Can I do this? What does it look like?" And I think I had that openness of that age, where you aren't necessarily asking all these questions. You're kind of just like, "Let's see how it goes." And to me, it was as simple as, I spoke to the monk in England, which is where I first met him. And then he invited me to India to spend time with him. So I flew over during my Christmas breaks and college vacations. And I would spend time with him at the monastery. And now, at that time, I would get a more comfortable room, and I'd do the practices.

• 17:22Speaker 02

  So they didn't throw me right into the deep end. But I did that so often, that I got so used to it, that when I graduated, I knew what I was getting myself into. It's almost like you've seen the spaces you're gonna sleep in. You've seen what it looks like. And I truly, if I'm completely honest, I didn't give it too much thought. I was just like, "I'm open to it. Let's see if it works. Let's test it out." And so, to me, the mindset was being open, not being skeptical, and being a human guinea pig, and going...

• 17:52Speaker 02

  Let's see if this proves to be true. And the more I did it, the more I gained confidence in it. Because, I mean, to me, a kid from London waking up at 4 a.m., you know, as a college student, that's unheard of. You're getting back at 4 a.m., right? From going out. And so all of a sudden, I'm waking up at 4 a.m., but I literally said, "I'm just gonna do this properly and see if it works." And I think that's something I'd like to encourage, especially young people, to do. Is if you're gonna try something out, go all in and test it out for seven days. And if it doesn't work, don't do it again. But the problem is, we never go all in. We do it for a day. If I said to you, "I really wanna learn about American football, right? I really wanna understand the game." Well, if I come to one game a year, what am I gonna learn?

• 18:36Speaker 02

  If you go to one meditation a year, what are you gonna learn? I'm not gonna learn anything. But if I sat with you every single day, if I followed you around, if I followed the players around, then I'm actually gonna learn something, right? And so I think it's that intimacy and that connection to a coach, a mentor, a guide, that makes it easier to understand what's happening and what's going on. So it's an immersive experience. Does that make sense? I wanna make sure I answer your question.

• 18:59Channing Crowder?

  Yes, exactly what you're saying. It sounds, yeah, it seems crazy to do, but you wanted to dive in, and that's...

• 19:07Speaker 02

  Totally. It is crazy. It was so... Now, when I look back, I'm like, "What was I thinking?" But I had that young, naive spirit of, "This guy has something I don't have, and I want it." And you could think about how that mindset can get you into trouble, right? When you're young, I'm sure I saw lots of guys who had amazing cars and rims and, you know, clothes and whatever it is. And you can get involved in the wrong things, because you also want that. I just was really lucky that the person I was inspired to be like was a monk. People always ask me, "How did you have that at such a young age?" I truly think it's because of their aura and their presence. I don't, it's a little bit of me. I have a good heart. I was raised to be a good man. My mom raised me well.

• 19:51Speaker 02

  But they are just so powerful in their presence that you just couldn't help but want to live that way. And I'm lucky that it was the right people, not the wrong people, because that naive mindset can end up, you know, in completely the other direction.

• 20:17Speaker 00

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• 20:35Fred Taylor?

  I just want to add to that too, Jay, before I get into the immersion, because you're here now, you're one of the boys. And this is more so for Channing, but I just want to say before I get into that question is you're not your thoughts, right? You're not your emotions, you're the observer of those things. And a young Jay, you were able to observe, you know, what you wanted when you met this monk, and it allowed you to discover your identity and your real purpose, if I'm on the right line.

• 21:03Speaker 02

  Yeah, absolutely.

• 21:04Fred Taylor?

  But in terms of Channing, I want to go back to when you say being mindful, right? And your appearance and your approach. What drives that? Because Channing calls it insecurity. Oh, this conversation. More so than awareness, because he feels that the way Ryan dresses, or the way I might dress, or the things I wear, which comes across as materialistic, but it's something that I like, right? How do you, what drives your mindfulness? I'm sure it's not an insecurity, more so than it is awareness itself, of wanting to present yourself this way.

• 21:41Speaker 02

  The way I like to think about it is two people can do the exact same thing, but for completely different reasons. Let's say we were at a charity event, and two celebrities signed a million dollar check for the charity. We don't know what's happening inside their head. One of them signed it because they want to be seen as charitable. The other person signed it because they really believe in the charity. We don't know, only they do. And that's how it works with everything in life. Two people go to the same job every day. One person does it because they love the job. The other person does it to put food on the table. You could see two people dressed in three-piece suits. One does it because they're insecure.

• 22:26Speaker 02

  And one does it because it represents who they are and how they want to be presented. No one knows. The only person that knows is the person wearing the suit, wearing the watch, giving the money in charity. Externally, it's both. It could be whatever. And so sometimes we see people and we project our own insecurities onto them. So I'm not saying that about Chani. I don't know you well enough.

• 22:47Channing Crowder?

  No, y'all, look at me. I just, I'm gonna go off what Jay said. Some people do it for their security. Others, how they want to be presented. Presented to who? Other people.

• 22:55Speaker 02

  And themselves.

• 22:56Channing Crowder?

  If the world was blind, would you dress up?

• 22:58Speaker 02

  So I'll give you an example. I'll give you a really good example. My friends back in London rip the way. What word do you use for like, dear? I don't know. What's the word? Like, what's the word in American?

• 23:08Channing Crowder?

  You can take a real, you can take a zone, yeah.

• 23:09Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah, yeah. So like, I'm just making sure I'm not speaking too much British slang.

• 23:12Channing Crowder?

  They like to wear it, so.

• 23:14Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah. So my, yeah, my friends back at home will see me on the red carpet and destroy me in the group chat. Right? They'll post it up and be like, what is up with your hair, bro? Like, you know, like, what are you wearing? Why are you wearing that? Why are you looking like a girl? Like, you know, like, that. My friends will completely destroy me in the group chat. So I get no clout for dressing the way I get. Like, I have taken some risks. My wife, we made a video last week, which wasn't my idea, but it was Taylor, who's here with me. So Taylor did, she set me up. She invited me into a space with my wife, and she had printed out all my looks in the last nine years of my public figure career. Like, since I left the monastery and since my career took off. And she got my wife to rate my looks

• 23:59Speaker 02

  and roast me on each one of them. My wife doesn't even like the stuff I wear. So if I'm completely honest, and this is why I like Ryan, because he has good taste, right? So. Ryan compliments me on what I wear because he has good taste. You know, a lot of people don't have good taste. So actually, I wear a lot of stuff that no one wants to see me in. And so what I'm trying to say is that actually, I would argue that some of the things, and I'm talking for myself, I can only talk for myself. I'd argue and say, a lot of the stuff I wear, the people around me don't even like it. But I like it. It makes me feel comfortable. It makes me feel confident. It makes me feel like I appreciate, like, for me, I also like to dress up to feel how I want to feel in this space.

• 24:41Speaker 02

  So I'm comfortable in this. I feel casual in it. I feel like myself. I feel relaxed. Do I want people to think I care about my appearance? Of course I do, definitely. Do I care what people think about my appearance? Of course I do. I'm not beyond that. And I think it's the honesty of that which is what makes me authentic, not the not caring. I think we live in a world where we think, oh, if that person don't care about what anyone thinks, they're authentic. No, authentic is me being honest about what I care about and what I don't. Do I care if Ryan thinks I dress well? Yes, of course I do. But that's honesty. That is authenticity. I think today we've made authenticity feel like, oh, I don't care about anyone. I'm above it all. I'm beyond it. That's not authenticity. That's just fake. Name me one person. By the way, when I walked around as a monk, that's when I really didn't care.

• 25:26Speaker 02

  Because we had robes, we had shaved heads, and there was nothing attractive about our appearance. And I remember walking through city centers. We traveled across Scandinavia, teaching meditation in Copenhagen and Stockholm and Oslo. And I'd be on the streets, and people are laughing at you. People are looking at you like you're dressed weird. Like, I've done that too. So I have lived in a world of no one cared, that I didn't care what people thought. But now at this point, I'd rather be honest and say, I like taking pride in my appearance. I like dressing a certain way. Some people hate it, some people love it. But I think that no one knows what's going on inside someone's mind. And that's what's most interesting to me, is that we can all have projections of why people dress the way they do,

• 26:10Speaker 02

  talk the way they do, or do what they do. And then you realize... What you said, I think the inner reflection is more important to me than what we think of others. So, the inner reflection is, am I doing this for the praise? Because if I am, I'm gonna be let down by it. Because sometimes people are gonna notice it, and sometimes they're not. So do I keep doing it when there's no praise? Or do I only do it when there is praise? Am I doing this because it makes me feel comfortable? Or am I willing to wear something completely uncomfortable in order to impress people? Right? So I never wear a suit these days, because I don't like wearing suits, I don't feel comfortable in them. Right? It doesn't make me feel at ease.

• 26:49Channing Crowder?

  He wears the tight crotch suits. They can't be comfortable.

• 26:53Ryan Clark?

  Why are you looking at my crotch?

• 26:55Channing Crowder?

  Because I know you got a yeast infection.

• 26:59Channing Crowder?

  Jay, I gotta ask you, with the honesty too.

• 27:01Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 27:02Channing Crowder?

  Because they've killed me on this show before, we've been doing this a long time.

• 27:05Speaker 02

  Oh, they usually roast you?

• 27:07Channing Crowder?

  No, no, no, but when I tell dudes, like, "You're a good-looking dude." Like, "What's the boy's name?" "Denzel Ward." Like, I see a dude, and I'm like, "Bro, you a fine dude." Like, Jason Momoa, Idris Elba. I got some dudes that we could raise a baby together.

• 27:23Channing Crowder?

  But, like, do you think... You're a very good-looking man. The pretty eyes, like, and the way you talk, and the little, you know, the accent. Would you be as successful if you were a big, old, fat, ugly guy?

• 27:38Speaker 02

  I don't know. There's two sides to this. One side is, I'm also an Indian man. You don't see a lot of brown Indian people having huge public profiles. Like, it's just not that as common. Right? It's just not... I mean, to be honest, I think most Indian people, when they come to America, it's like, most people don't even know where to place you. Born and raised in London, there's lots of Indian people, so it's very common. But, in the media, you didn't really see that. And, so if you think about America, the most successful Indian person in America of all time is Deepak Chopra. Like, the only person I can think of. And then, there would have been, like, a musician, Jay Sean. More recently, there's Riz Ahmed and Dev Patel, both amazing actors. But there's few and far between, like, there's a handful of South Asian people.

• 28:23Speaker 02

  I think it's a hard question to answer because I don't know is the reality. But what I would say is that, subjectively speaking, there's plenty of people who've succeeded in life not based on their appearance as well. And they would say that themselves. And I don't think anyone is attractive to everyone. Like, people always meet me and go, "Oh, you're a lot shorter in person." Right? Which means that there's a presence on screen that, like, people expect me to be bigger. But that's a personality thing. That's not my shape or size. Some people also tell me that I look more fat on social media. People meet me and they're like, "Oh, you're really lean. You look fit in person." And I'm like, "Oh, wait. What do I look like on screen?"

• 29:04Speaker 02

  And then, you know, so I think, you know, appearance and stuff is such a... It's so subjective, right? I'm sure you've met someone that like... Like, I get it. There's people that I think are attractive or whatever, and some people think they're ugly. It's such a messy thing. Ultimately, what I think it is, is it does come down to energy and personality and spirit. And that's what people hold on to with people. I think that's what works. When you look at the biggest YouTubers in the world today, look at some of the biggest podcasters, look at some of the biggest comedians. It's people telling great stories and people who make you feel something. And I think that's what wins in the online world. Because back in the day, people were choosing who people followed.

• 29:48Speaker 02

  Right? There would be an exec in a suit that said, "You're good-looking, you're ugly." The good-looking person gets to be front of a house, the ugly person has to be back of a house. No one decides that anymore. The public decides who goes up and down. So to me, when the public gets to decide, now you have to make someone feel something for them to keep being involved. And I've been doing this for nine years online. And my goal always is to make people feel something. By the way, if you look at my old videos... I didn't have like this, I'm wearing a T-shirt. I've got, you know, people, I remember my first video we posted. People were like, "Why has he got a wind machine?" Dude, it wasn't a wind machine, it was the wind. The wind's just blowing my hair, because I didn't have a team to produce the thing.

• 30:29Speaker 02

  My first video, I'm sitting there with a boom mic stuck into a backpack to hold it up. And my friend's got his camera, like, that's all we had. And so, when I started out, we didn't have, like, I wasn't, you know, wearing cool clothes. And my hair wasn't perfect, I was just some guy. So I think, to me, it's what we make people feel. To me, that's what people connect with.

• 30:51Ryan Clark?

  Life is about connection. And we're all searching for it in some way, and in something. And I thought you said something really profound about the language we use, right? There's two different ways to describe being alone. One is solitude, which can be looked at as a positive. And then there's loneliness, which obviously has a negative connotation. How does someone who is alone, or spending time alone, decipher between the two?

• 31:21Speaker 02

  I think in today's society, people would rather be in the wrong relationship than be alone. People would rather settle for less than they deserve than be alone. People would rather be in a toxic relationship than be alone. We've made being alone feel so scary and feel so bad that people don't even think about it. Eighty percent of people will pick out their phone in a crowd, just not to feel lonely. You just walk into a crowd and you just take your phone out, because you don't want to feel like you're alone. People struggle to eat on their own. Whenever you ever seen someone go out, sit at a table by themselves, and eat food?

• 32:06Speaker 02

  If we do that, we have to get our phone out. It's very rare. So we've made it, since we were young, if you think about it, if you were the kid eating lunch on your own table alone, you were considered the loner or the weirdo. If you turn up to a wedding and you don't have a plus-one, or you just got divorced, or you just broke up, everyone's looking at you like, "Are you okay?", like, "Poor you." It's like, if you don't have someone next to you, you're always seen as weaker, less than, or incomplete. We even say that, we say, "Find someone who completes you." What does that mean? It means you're incomplete without someone. So we've made people feel that if you're alone, you're incomplete. So we've villainized being alone. But Paul Tillich wrote about it, and the monk teachers reminded me,

• 32:51Speaker 02

  that there's two words for being alone. One is lonely, and one is solitude. Paul Tillich says that being lonely is the weakness of being alone, but solitude is the strength of being alone. So solitude is saying, actually, if I can be comfortable in my own company, that's success. If I can like the thoughts in my mind and the conversations I have in my head when I'm alone, then I've had success in my life. And that's what the monks were trying to train you to do. That instead of always looking for the next bit of praise, the next bit of validation, the next bit of approval, how do I feel so centered and happy and content with who I am

• 33:36Speaker 02

  that I'm not looking for other people to fill the parts of me that are gaps? I actually look for other people so we can enhance and grow together. And so to me, solitude is something we all need. By the way, we did this at my last show. Two years ago, I went on a world tour. We did nearly forty cities across the world. And my first segment was something I was so excited to do. So what we did is, I asked people in the audience, who's the most addicted to their phone? And we broke it down to the person who looks at their phone basically every two minutes. So I'd bring them out of the audience. Out of five thousand people, we'd take one person onto stage. And I asked them how that feels, and they usually feel pretty bad about it, naturally, as we all do. And I told them, well, they shouldn't feel bad about it because they're just the honest one. Everyone else is lying.

• 34:21Speaker 02

  Right. You know, everyone's addicted to their phone. And then what I did is I gave them one question. And what they didn't know is we locked them into a cave onstage. We had this big box come out, almost like a magician's box, and we locked them in it in pitch black, gave them noise-canceling headphones so they can't hear anything. I didn't even tell them how long they were gonna be in there. This person was in there for fifteen minutes alone. We had a night vision camera so we could see how they were settling in them. And I left them with one question. The question was, what's the one thing you value that you've been devaluing lately? What's really important to you, but you keep brushing it aside? I left them with that. Fifteen minutes later, people would come out of this solitude.

• 35:07Speaker 02

  Some people would be in tears. Some people would be in deep reflection. Some people would have had a moment. It was so good that people thought we faked the whole thing. Like, people afterwards coming up to me going, "You must have faked that." I was like, "Trust me, I'm in Australia. I've never been to Australia." We just picked someone out of the audience. People had huge experiences. And the reason I did that was to show people that when you take reflection into solitude, you come out with value. Right? We've been told if you're alone, you don't get any value from it. These people were getting so much value from it because they had a pointed focus and reflection. And then afterwards, we'd have a conversation about it. People were talking about how they valued their family and they don't care about them.

• 35:50Speaker 02

  They haven't been focusing on them. People talked about their kids. People talked about themselves. It was really beautiful, and we've got video footage to prove it. And what was amazing about it was just everyone walked away realizing that solitude and the discomfort of solitude was helpful. So, to me, it's all about showing people that they have the answers within themselves, not showing them that I have the answers. And solitude has the answers. You can't hear your voice when you're surrounded by all of this noise. You can't hear your inner voice when you're surrounded by opinions. You can't hear your voice when you're always asking the group chat, "What should I wear? What should I do? Where should we go?" You never get to know yourself because you never had to.

• 36:30Fred Taylor?

  How do you get people to embrace that solitude and that stillness? Because the world, it's a constant reminder of what hustle, how it can reward you, right? And then technology is forever evolving. You don't want to feel missed out. So, how do you get someone to... Like, I'm the person that's on my phone, right? All the time. If you ask them, I'm that guy that would have been pulled out of the stand, out of the crowd. But how do you get someone to embrace that stillness that you would hope that they could search for?

• 36:59Speaker 02

  I think a lot of people think that stillness and solitude means doing nothing and just sitting there. And that's not the goal. The goal is, we're gonna focus your attention on one thing. And actually, that's where Beast Mode comes from. To me, beast mode doesn't come from running around being busy. Beast mode comes from having super focus on one thing. There's this great quote I love from Bruce Lee, where he said, "I'm not scared of the man who's practiced 15,000 kicks, one time each. I'm scared of the man who's practiced one kick 15,000 times." Right? Because if you've practiced something once every time, you're not scared of that person because they can't do it that well. So the person who's running around trying to do everything,

• 37:45Speaker 02

  I'm not scared of that person. They're not winning. I'm scared of the person who stood at the hoop and shot 100 free throws every hour for the next 10 days. That person's scary. So that's what stillness and solitude is, is can I focus? Laser focus on one thing? Whether that's the mindset, whether that's clarity, whether it's strategy, whether it's my breath, whatever it is, that person's scary. That person's undefeatable. Because that person has done the same thing again and again and again. Does that make sense? Yeah, of course. Stillness and solitude isn't, "I'm just sitting there doing nothing. Time's going by, I'm wasting time." It's no, it's one pointed attention, energetically.

• 38:29Speaker 02

  I was talking to Carmelo Anthony yesterday, and he was saying that the best games he played was when his coaches showed him a video of like 300, when like Gerard Butler's like shouting "Sparta", or like, you know, the best games he played was when he was in the zone. It wasn't, the best games wasn't the ones where he's like, just doing a million things. It was like, he was shown a video that made him feel like a gladiator, that made him know what he had to go and do out there. That's what solitude gives you the space to do. Solitude gives you the space to go, "What is the energy I'm trying to create?" But you can't create that if you're hustling, running around, trying to win at everything and do everything.

• 39:12Speaker 02

  And that's what I want people to think of stillness and solitude as. It's priming the beast inside of you to do what Bruce Lee said, which is, "I'm so focused that, you know, I don't even need to move that much to destroy my enemy." Like, that's the energy you can create in solitude.

• 39:29Ryan Clark?

  You know, when I look at you and your wife now, right? It's like, your wife has her own thing, you have your own thing, and then you come together and you guys do your thing. You know, you met her while you were in the monastery. And then now you're out and you get an opportunity to develop this relationship. Was it difficult to be in something where it became about us? When for three years, you were dealing in the world of mindfulness, of understanding solitude, of having a certain level of peace by yourself, and now you had to give yourself to someone else?

• 40:05Speaker 02

  Yeah, I actually met her before I became a monk.

• 40:07Ryan Clark?

  Okay.

• 40:08Speaker 02

  And we never dated. I just met her, I introduced her to my sister. They became friends. And so when I came back from the monastery, her and my sister were best friends and my sister was my wingman. So, in my first book, I wrote my dedication. I dedicated Think Like A Monk to my wife. And the dedication says, "To my wife, who's more monk than I'll ever be." And I mean that. My wife is way more monk than I'll ever be. I had to work to be a monk. My wife is a monk. Like, she's naturally that way. And I got lucky and fortunate that I was able to find a partner who actually brings me peace, rather than brings me drama. And I always say that the right person will reduce drama,

• 40:51Speaker 02

  and the wrong person will increase trauma. Right? The right person brings you peace. The wrong person brings you chaos. The right person brings you stability. The wrong person brings you inconsistency. And so to me, I found someone who was able to match that energy. But it was hard in the beginning, because I came out of the monastery as a bit of an avoidant. What I mean by that was, I used to constantly say to my wife, "You know, I'd be okay without you." "I used to be happy before this. You know, I'm okay without you." And I didn't realize how much damage that did to connection. Because I felt that was strength and confidence. It was just avoidance. It was the avoidance of connection.

• 41:36Speaker 02

  I'd be like, you know, I'd be happy on my own. You know, I'm happy on my own. I was, I was good by myself. It's not that that's not true. It's that when you're trying to connect with someone, that isn't the language and the approach that creates connection. So what did that do? That created a relationship where my wife was like, well, I'm okay without you too. Right? And now you're like two strangers living in the same house. We both think, oh, we're better without each other. We're fine without each other. So that's what the challenge was. Is that I came out as an avoidant and created an avoidant attachment style in my own relationship. And it took me a long time to realize. And partly it was me grieving a past life. And I'm sure you felt this in sport, business and everything else in your lives.

• 42:18Speaker 02

  When you're retiring, there's a grieving of who you used to be. And so for me, leaving the monastery, I was grieving that life that I'd created for myself. And what you do is when you're grieving, you take that into the next life. And you carry that baggage into your next relationship. Took me a lot of years to say, actually, I'm just gonna embrace. I'm a married man now. I'm not a monk anymore, and that's okay. And this is coming with new gifts, new blessings, new reflections. And this is gonna make me a better monk, a better man, a better person, if I embrace it. Rather than I keep holding on to this over here. There's a beautiful Zen teaching that says, whatever you're holding on to is what's holding you back.

• 43:03Speaker 02

  So if you're holding on to a past version of yourself, that's holding you back. If you're holding to a person in your past, that's holding you back. If you're holding on to a life that you once had, that's holding you back. So what's holding you back is something you're actually holding on to. But if you just let it go and free it, you're free to move forward.

• 43:22Channing Crowder?

  And I gotta ask you about the three-year stretch in the monastery. You were in college, you were having a good time, understand you. And then you got back into the world. There was three years, you didn't touch a woman or have no sex.

• 43:37Speaker 02

  Nothing.

• 43:37Channing Crowder?

  For three years?

• 43:39Speaker 02

  Nothing.

• 43:40Channing Crowder?

  Bro, that's crazy.

• 43:42Speaker 02

  It is crazy.

• 43:42Channing Crowder?

  Did you have to really meditate some nights? Like, bruh, it's three years, Jay, that's nuts to me.

• 43:49Speaker 02

  You know what it is? There's an environment. When you go to a place where people have meditated for decades, and some temples we went to in south of India, people have meditated for thousands of years. And people have been celibate for thousands of years. There's an energy in that space that you can't conceive. The only way I can describe it like is like when you go to a stadium that you love and you just get pumped. Because you walk into the stadium and it has an energy. Because your greats played there and you won Super Bowls there or whatever it is. And you walk into that space. And so I think the energetic sphere that's created by the monks is what makes it easier. Was it hard for me? Of course it was. Was it unnatural for me?

• 44:34Speaker 02

  Of course it was. But there was a value in it and it was made easier in their association. There are certain things that are easier when you're surrounded by people, right? There's that, there's that famous quote that says, if you're surrounded by five rich people, you'll be the sixth. If you're surrounded by five smart people, you'll be the sixth. If you're surrounded by five fit people, you'll be the sixth. And if you're surrounded by five idiots, you'll be the sixth. Right? You're going to be the sixth of whoever you are. So when you're surrounded by all these people that are committed to this practice, surprisingly, it becomes easier. But yes, there were times when I had to really lock in, when I felt weak, when I felt moments of vulnerability for sure. You're so engaged positively.

• 45:18Speaker 02

  This is another trick for the mind. The mind can't give up something hard if it doesn't have something that it's connected to better. Right, so when you think about the first car you ever got, that's how I like to think about this. The first car I ever got, I'll have to show you a picture later. It's a red Vauxhall Corsa, which I don't even think they have the brand in America, but it's like this tiny, little red Beetle-looking thing, right? It was the first car I ever had. To me, that was a Ferrari, because I was a kid who just wanted a car. Like, I would be playing like 50 Cent, the game, while driving around in my red, tiny, little Beetle-looking car, and I felt like the coolest kid in town.

• 45:59Speaker 02

  And this is when you had the cassette tape that connected to the MP3 player and then, you know, played the song. And I used to feel so cool. Now, when I look back at that picture, I mean, I look like an idiot, like that car was, you know, whatever. But if someone told me to give up that car for nothing, I'd be like, are you kidding me? I would never give it up. It's the best car in the world, because for me, that's all I could afford. That was the best thing I could have. But if someone said, hey, I'll trade you, at that time, I'll trade you a Mercedes for that car, I would have done it in an instant, obviously. That's kind of what it's like, where it's like you're addicted to this thing over here. You can't just give it up, like to theoretically rationalize how you can give it up is impossible.

• 46:40Speaker 02

  But when someone's offering you something, when it's enlightenment, mindfulness, presence, the greatest emotional and mental mastery, and it's being offered to you,

• 46:51Speaker 02

  it's because of that that it becomes easier to not follow this distraction, if that makes sense. Yeah.

• 46:58Speaker 00

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• 47:27Fred Taylor?

  Jay, tu as parlé de votre femme et de vous vivant dans le même logement comme des strangers. Est-ce que cela t'a aidé à créer votre livre "Les huit règles de l'amour"? Je pense que tu parles de construire et maintenir des relations. Et je voudrais aussi te demander, quel est le plus commun misconception de l'amour?

• 47:46Speaker 02

  Le livre n'a pas été écrit à partir de ce que j'ai compris bien. Le livre a été écrit à partir de ce que d'autres personnes ont fait mal qui m'ont partagé leurs histoires. Donc je n'ai pas écrit le livre à partir de ce que j'ai compris bien à propos de l'amour, mais à partir de ce que j'ai fait mal et des gens que j'ai interviewés et ce qu'ils ont fait mal. Parce que je pense que c'est vraiment intéressant de étudier les défis des gens. La plus grande misconception à propos de l'amour est que nous avons confus l'insistance avec l'excitation et nous avons confus la stabilité avec la carence. Nous avons confus que si quelqu'un arrive avec de l'effort, qu'ils sont désespérés. Si quelqu'un arrive pour nous avec de l' temps et de l'énergie, nous pensons qu'ils ont besoin de nous.

• 48:30Speaker 02

  Nous pensons que si quelqu'un a en fait un espace pour nous, alors il doit être le perdant. Nous croyons que l'amour signifie poursuivre quelqu'un qui ne veut pas rester plutôt que d'être avec quelqu'un qui ne veut jamais partir. La plus grande misconception est que l'amour est quelque chose qui doit être gagné plutôt que partagé. Et donc ce que nous faisons, c'est que nous voulons être avec la personne qui nous maintient à la hauteur. Nous avons tous rencontré des gens qui disent : "Je veux vraiment quelqu'un avec des valeurs", mais ils poursuivent la personne qui ne leur donne pas de validation. Nous avons tous rencontré quelqu'un qui dit : "Je veux vraiment quelqu'un qui est affectionnant", mais ils poursuivent la personne qui ne leur donne pas de l'attention. Nous avons tous rencontré quelqu'un qui dit :

• 49:14Speaker 02

  "Je veux vraiment quelqu'un qui est présent", mais vous poursuivez la personne qui ne montre pas à l'heure. Nous poursuivons toujours la personne qui ne nous donne pas ce que nous voulons parce que nous croyons que c'est l'amour. Et c'est la plus grande misconception. Et trop de gens poursuivent toutes les personnes mal comprises. And the right person is standing right there, ready to love them with all their heart. But they're boring, needy, desperate, and I'm not attracted to them. But wait, when you're gonna be with someone for five, 10, 15 years, I want the person who texts me back. I want the person who calls me back. In five, 10, 15 years' time, I want the person who shows up on time. I want the person who wants to hear how my day was. I don't want the person who's never around. I don't want the person who disappears when it's hard.

• 50:00Speaker 02

  Like, that's not the person I want. And so, people are choosing the sixth-month pleasure versus the 60-year presence. And yeah, those six months are gonna be the amazing six months. But guess what? You're gonna have to keep doing those six months every six months.

• 50:15Ryan Clark?

  Every six months.

• 50:16Speaker 02

  And so, you either date, you know, 30 people every six months for the rest of your life, or you have one person, or two people, maybe. Because, by the way, I also don't like to demonize divorce and breakups because I do believe it's honestly possible for people to outgrow each other and for people to grow apart. And I don't think we should demonize people who get divorced or break up or make it feel like a failure, when actually it could be the best decisions of someone's life and the best decision for that other person. And I think we have to learn in society to be okay with that. Because, A, 50% of people are doing it anyway. So you're gonna know someone who's gone through it.

• 50:57Speaker 02

  And B, it's actually, we should realize it's more rare to stay with someone than it is to leave someone. It's way harder to find someone on planet Earth that you actually can stay with than it is to find someone that you probably will outgrow or break up with. So, you know, I think we've gotta give people an easier time on that.

• 51:17Ryan Clark?

  That's interesting because in reading the title of your book, it's, you know, "Find it, keep it, let it go." And it's almost one of those things, you read that title and you're like, well, damn, he gonna get me to it, then teach me how to live when it's gone. But that is part of it. When you wrote that book, what sort of advice were you trying to give to people who are looking for love? Who are trying to continue to build on their love? And also, who are trying to let go of love lost?

• 51:51Speaker 02

  There's two things. The first is, everyone at one point in their life will have to let go of someone they love. Whether that be while that person's alive or while that person's about to pass away. Every single one of us is gonna lose someone we love. And the hardest realization is when you recognize that you love someone, but you still have to let them go because you didn't have the other emotional skills to keep love. Right? You can love someone, but not be good for them. And someone can love you, but not be right for you

• 52:35Speaker 02

  because they don't have the other emotional skills that make love stay. Love's not enough. You need emotional maturity. You need personal mastery. You need self-control. You need compassion. You need empathy. There is so much more needed to make love last. And so a lot of us are gonna lose love because we didn't develop those other skills. You lose love to remind you that there are other skills to be developed as well. There are other habits that you need to build as well. And the number one habit that I encourage all people to realize is that we've put romantic love on a pedestal. On planet Earth, we believe that romantic love

• 53:20Speaker 02

  is the number one type of love. If you look at all the spiritual traditions, they disagree. They believe that the number one type of love is a parent's love for their child. That's the deepest, most unconditional, selfless love that could possibly exist. But in humans, we've said romantic love is better than anything. So someone could be loved by their kid and love their kid. Someone could love their friends and be loved by their friends. Someone could love their brother or their sister and be loved by their siblings, but still feel incomplete because they don't have a partner. And I wanna remind people that you need to value all of those forms of love

• 54:04Speaker 02

  as much as romantic love. Stop putting this hierarchy on love. Stop rating love on a scale of romantic love is the best, family love is second, kids' love is fifth. That's what's ruining love in our lives. I think people don't realize how much love they already have. And by the way, that will probably help you find romantic love. Whereas when you walk around thinking, I don't have love in my life. Well, guess what? That's all you're gonna see.

• 54:30Channing Crowder?

  Speaking of love, does your passion for helping others, your passion for, you know, spiritually guiding people, does that take away from your personal love, relationships, your wife, your family? Because you're helping so many people, there's only so much energy, there's only so many hours in a day.

• 54:48Speaker 02

  That's a great question. Yeah, I've always felt like, in one sense, I always feel like I have so much parental energy. Because my work is so parental. Right? It's almost like you're giving parental love through what I do every day. So I feel like the parental side of my life is very satisfied. But I still want to have kids with my wife. Because I think she'll be a great mom. I think that I'd like to create with her because I'd want to have a kid that's just like her. So there's a beauty in that too. I think about it the other way around. If you love your kid, you have to love their friends.

• 55:28Speaker 02

  Because if you don't love their friends, your kid is surrounded by friends who don't have love. And if you love your kid and you love their friends, you have to love their school. Because if you don't care about the school they go to, your kid is gonna become like the school makes them. So if you love your kid and you love their friends and you care about their school, you've got to care about the city they grow up in. Because what they see on the streets is what they're gonna repeat. And then if you care about your kid and you care about their friends and you care about the school and you care about the city, you've got to care about the country they grow up in. Because the leaders they see are the people they're following. So if you actually care about your kid, you have to care about the world. Because your kid is growing up in that world.

• 56:11Speaker 02

  And so I think people don't realize, they go, oh, I'm caring about my kids. But if you just care about your kids, you don't really get them anywhere because they're growing up in the world that you hate. And that's not the world you want to create. And that's why I think so many people today are realizing it does matter who the leaders are. It does matter what they see on TV. It does matter who's represented. It does matter that people of color get a chance to have exec positions and leadership positions. It does matter that people are represented effectively on screen and off screen. It does matter that women are in boardrooms and are CEOs. All of this matters because your kid's going to grow up in that world. It's not good enough to say, I love my kid, I care about them. And because I just take care of them, everything's going to be okay.

• 56:52Speaker 02

  Now, I'm not saying everyone has the capacity to take care of everything. But the mom showing up at school to make sure the kids have support, that's making an impact. Right? The parent who's coaching their kid in Little League, that's making an impact. The fact that I get to try and show love to the world is making an impact in my own way. So to me, it's all connected. I can't really break it apart, if that makes sense.

• 57:21Fred Taylor?

  When I do speak to schools, businesses, whatever, I like to lead with routine versus commitment. Because I think routines are vital for everyone. Much like yourself as a monk, you believe in structure. I know, think like a monk, you talk about routine. When things are challenging for you, do you have like a personal mantra? Or something that kind of reminds you to get back in gear? Because in my speech about routine versus commitment, we all are going to have that. But the commitment reinforces the routine in those times when you don't feel like, you know, sticking to that routine. What's your personal mantra or guideline?

• 57:57Speaker 02

  Everything that is good for me is hard before I do it and easy after I do it. And everything that's bad for me is easy before I do it and is hard after I do it. Getting to the gym is hard. The feeling after leaving the gym is easy. Eating junk food is easy, but the feeling afterwards is hard. So I like to remind myself that if I don't feel like going to the gym right now, that's how it's meant to feel. It's gonna be hard. If I don't feel like eating a salad right now, that's how it's meant to feel, it's hard because it's good for me. So anything that is good for my body and good for my mind is hard to do right now, but it bears benefits afterwards.

• 58:41Speaker 02

  And anything that is not great for me to do right now, it's gonna be easy, but it's gonna create lots of pain afterwards. And that reminder to me allows me to recognize it's okay, it's hard because it's good for me. So I turn to that. When it's a bigger thing in life, a mantra that I love is, this only makes the story better. Whenever I fail or whenever I lose or whenever something goes wrong, I always say to myself, this only makes the story better. Because if you failed, you've fallen, you've made mistakes, you're human, it's more relatable. When you tell your story one day, more people will connect to you. Whereas if your story was just win after win after win after win,

• 59:23Speaker 02

  you're unrelatable. And so it only makes the story better.

• 59:26Ryan Clark?

  Jay, you seem really traditional in a lot of ways and then so progressive in others. I think when you have a mindset that's deeply rooted in history, some of those things are gonna carry over. But you also seem to understand, okay, as life changes and as life evolves, we have to. We had Jason Kelsey on the show and he talked about the famous swipe right or left, whatever way it is that got him Kylie. You know, for you, when you think of like dating apps and the way that people try to meet one another now, how much better do you think that makes it? Or do you think it's harder that way?

• 1:00:03Speaker 02

  You have to look at through what's actually changed. So we have more choices, but all the studies show that humans are bad with more choice. The paradox of choice is a recent study that shows how when humans have more things to choose from, they always make bad choices. And so I think there's a big challenge in the fact that now you're exposed to more people. Twenty-five, thirty years ago, most people married someone in a five-mile radius of where they grew up. So your friend knew them, your brother knew them, your family knew them, the person down the street knew them, someone knew them and that's how you met them. Today, people are getting married to people from different cities, different countries, different cultures, and that comes with a set of challenges.

• 1:00:47Speaker 02

  Not that it's bad, it just requires more maturity, it requires more openness and wisdom and so what I think we need to do is, we need to be really clear about the values and vision of the relationship we want. Because that hasn't changed. You could have married the person next door 25 years ago and they could have been abusive. They could have been a narcissist. And they probably were, and we just didn't think about it because people got arranged marriages and they didn't talk about it, it wasn't public knowledge. Just because you married the person next door doesn't mean they were right for you, that wasn't a good thing either. So I think we also have this nostalgic view of, oh, you know, the eyes crossed at the grocery store

• 1:01:31Speaker 02

  and I dropped a bag of potatoes and they came and picked them up with me and oh my god, it was so romantic, it's like, yeah, but that person was a psycho. Like, you didn't, you didn't know that, right? That's why they picked your potatoes up. Yeah, exactly, exactly. Right, it's like, well, you didn't, you don't talk about that, like, in the past, people didn't talk about this. Right. Right? You have so many marriages that have physical abuse, domestic violence, verbal abuse, going on background, behind the scenes, no one even knows about it. But, oh, we met them next door, they were my sister's friend, like, you know, it was awesome, like, we have this romantic view of the past and I don't think that's healthy either. We have to move with the times. So, one of the things I built recently is, I partnered up with Match.com to build a values-based matching system.

• 1:02:14Speaker 02

  What this does is it allows you to do a short test we created, where you get to learn your values, and everyone who joins that part of the app does the same. The goal for this was not to say I want you to find someone with the same values. The goal for me was, now at least you can see someone's values upfront. And when you meet them, you can check whether their values are aligned. Because here's the thing, no one walks around with their values stuck on the top of their forehead. Right. It takes years to figure someone's values out. But what if that becomes the thing you start talking about, checking out? When you meet someone and they say, "Oh yeah, I love my family, family's number one priority." Then you go to them, "When did you last speak to your mom?" And they're like, "I don't know, I haven't spoken to her for two years." It's like, oh, alright, this person's not in alignment.

• 1:02:58Speaker 02

  Someone says to you, "Oh yeah, yeah, I'm ambitious, I love, I love work." And then you go, all right, well, what are you building right now? And they're like, I don't know, I'm trying to figure it out. Right? It's like you can very quickly, when you talk about values, figure out whether someone is compatible for you and whether you're attracted to them and excited about them. And so to me, I'm more interested in making people clear about their vision and values. And that will make dating easier because that narrows the pool. That makes the choice easier. Rather than if you're just basing it on looks, or if you're just basing it on a clever little caption or a funny thing they said about themselves. I mean, now you can just get ChatGPT to write the funniest thing. And everyone's a comedian now, you know? It's like, it's not hard to fake it. And so I think we have to look deeper

• 1:03:42Speaker 02

  to find a relationship that's going to last longer. We have to look beyond looks to find a relationship that will last when the looks fade. We gotta look so much more at someone's heart than just how interesting they look on a page. And that only happens when you talk about vision and values.

• 1:04:02Speaker 00

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• 1:04:31Ryan Clark?

  My favorite Jay Shetty picture, you know? Like, I like all the red carpet pictures. I like all the different things that, you know, the events you show up at, you know, presiding over nuptials. All those pictures are cool. But the coolest picture is your high school picture. Right? And I think it's because of the story you shared on Instagram about it, though. All the things people told you you couldn't do. All the things people said you couldn't be. And it seems now that you are living in your purpose. And that purpose is a tree that's deeply rooted with a lot of branches. For people watching this show, Jay, how will they truly know that what they're doing, what they're pouring into, is them living in their purpose?

• 1:05:16Speaker 02

  The first step of finding your purpose is collecting. Wherever you are right now, even if you hate your job, collect every skill.

• 1:05:26Speaker 02

  Every person, every networking relationship, collect, collect, collect. Literally see yourself as a collector of like gold coins. Even if you hate your job, you hate your career, collect everything you possibly can from this experience. And then move to the next thing and collect everything from there. And one day after you've done enough collecting, you're gonna start connecting the dots. So my first ever job was I used to deliver newspapers in my area. All my friends who also delivered newspapers, they used to throw them on the train tracks. They never delivered them. So the guy who owned the newspaper company gave me more streets. So what did I learn?

• 1:06:11Speaker 02

  I learned when you do a good job, you get rewarded. My next job was I worked at Morrison's. Morrison's is our Walmart, like a grocery store. I used to stack shelves, I used to bring in pallets. I worked back of house. It was a hard job. I learned that not always just working hard leads to great rewards. Right? The third job I had, I worked in retail. The fourth job I had, like, I mean, in one sense, after that, my fourth job was being a monk. I learned all the wisdom. I learned all the wisdom that I learned. The fifth job I had, I worked in the corporate world. I worked as a consultant. I learnt negotiation. I learnt sales. I learnt connection. I learned understanding what people wanted and needed in different industries.

• 1:06:54Speaker 02

  Today, I'm living my purpose because I just connected all of that. Everything I'm living today is as much management as it is monk, as it is Morrison's, as it is paper delivery. It's all of those things. And people think, no, no, no, there's one job that's gonna be my purpose. Everything you do today, everything all of you do today, is this beautiful harmony and synergy of all the experiences you've had. That's what purpose is. And so, purpose is not about finding the perfect job, or the perfect title, or the perfect thing. It's about just collecting experiences, collecting people, and then connecting it one day.

• 1:07:30Channing Crowder?

  Just listening to you talk, and knowing your success, and watching your videos. Were you born different to be able to do what you're doing? Or with them, did those experiences make Jay Shetty?

• 1:07:41Speaker 02

  When you actually study the greatest athletes of all time, even if they were born with it, they're still working harder than everyone.

• 1:07:47Channing Crowder?

  But Randy Moss was 6'4", had a 40-inch vertical.

• 1:07:49Speaker 02

  Sure, so physical, physically.

• 1:07:51Channing Crowder?

  You know, like, the athlete side of it, but to be...

• 1:07:53Speaker 02

  But you probably know a lot of guys that are 6'4" and can't do that, so, you know.

• 1:07:56Channing Crowder?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:57Speaker 02

  I know a lot of people that are tall and built, but I know a lot of people that are attractive that are not actors on screen. I know a lot of people who can sing, who aren't musicians, like... I know a lot of rappers that made it, that have terrible verses, like, you know, but they stuck it out.

• 1:08:10Channing Crowder?

  Yeah.

• 1:08:11Speaker 02

  Right? Like, if you think about the amount of rappers that have terrible verses, but have hit songs. But when you hear their bars, you're like, "How did you make it?" But they stuck around.

• 1:08:20Channing Crowder?

  Yeah.

• 1:08:20Speaker 02

  So, consistency, like, what's that famous quote, like, "Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard"? Like, that, it's the oldest quote in the book, but it's so true. So, for me, I would say that I was... So much of it was nurture. So much of it was nurture. My parents were really scared I was gonna be a shy kid, so they forced me to go to public speaking and drama school when I was 11 years old. I hated it, but I went for seven years. And when I walked out of there, I didn't know what to talk about, but I knew I had skills. But I didn't have something to talk about. But then, when I became a monk, I had something to talk about. So, I found the passion with the skills. Because skills aren't good enough. What are you gonna do with it?

• 1:09:01Speaker 02

  And so, I really believe in people nurturing their abilities, and people investing in their abilities, and people realizing that it's possible for them. Is it possible for me to be a basketball player, a football player? No, right? Physically, I'm not even in the 50th percentile. Like, I'm 90%, like, right? Like, I'm like, I don't know, I can't, right? There are certain things I just can't do. So, I've got to be honest about that. But that's mainly sports, which requires a physicality to it. Or if you're a singer, but there's some singers who can't sing that well too. So, you know, it's like, there's a lot of careers where sports is probably the one that you just can't mess around with.

• 1:09:43Speaker 02

  Right? But then you get people like Allen Iverson, like, you know, you get a few players who don't really fit the bill. And that's exception. They're not the rule, they're the exception where they don't have the physicality, but they're just talented. So, I agree. I think sports is one of those things you can't break into if you don't have something you're born with. But 99% of other things, there's not many things that feel the same way as sports.

• 1:10:03Fred Taylor?

  Jay, throughout the collection process of you discovering your purpose, what was your biggest pivot? That's that, that one moment, and we always act off of our guests, this is the one moment you can look back on and say, without this happening to me or for me, I wouldn't be who I am today.

• 1:10:21Speaker 02

  So the reason why I love the name of the podcast is because my life is

• 1:10:30Speaker 02

  full of pivots. There's not one. Everything's a pivot.

• 1:10:33Fred Taylor?

  Yeah.

• 1:10:33Speaker 02

  So instead of getting a corporate job, which I was destined to get, I decided to become a monk. That was a pivot. Then, when I was meant to be a monk, I thought I was gonna be a monk for the rest of my life, but I left because it didn't feel right anymore. That was a pivot. Went back to the corporate world. I was just about getting steady in my job. I was gonna get married to my wife. And I went, this isn't my purpose. I'm gonna leave. That was a pivot. Started making videos. When I started making videos, I made these four-minute videos. They went viral. I wanted to launch a podcast and every podcast company said, "Don't do a podcast. People wanna listen to you for four minutes. No one wants to listen to you for an hour." So I did it. That was a pivot. Then I had a hit podcast. I wanted to write a book.

• 1:11:18Speaker 02

  14 out of 17 publishers said, "Don't call it Think Like a Monk. No one wants to think like a monk." I wrote the book anyway. That was a pivot. Then I wanted, so it's like, my life has just been full of pivots. I actually think, all I care about is pivots. I don't actually wanna be ever not pivoting because that's what we all have to do. And I think, the longer you take to pivot, the harder it gets. There's a beautiful quote I read the other day that I love, and it says, "The longer you stay on the wrong train, the more expensive it is to get back home." Yeah. And so actually, the more you pivot, because I started pivoting when I became a monk at 21, 22 years old. Because I pivoted that early, I've got so comfortable pivoting.

• 1:12:02Speaker 02

  So I would encourage everyone to not be scared of the pivot, because the pivot becomes the platform that creates the next moment of your purpose. Whereas if you stay where you are, that's what kind of crushes everything. And you get more scared to move, the more years go by. And so, I've just, I just keep pivoting, even now, like, you know, we're, we're trying to do, I mean, we've been talking about this, we're doing TV and film, we're doing production, we're doing all this stuff. And in one sense, someone say, "Well, Jay, what qualification do you have?" I'm like, "I just gotta keep pivoting." Life's full of pivots, and I've, I've learned that when I look back at my life, the best decisions I made were pivots. They weren't staying in the same place. That was never the good decision.

• 1:12:46Speaker 02

  So, to answer your question, yeah, I've got a million pivots, and I hope there's a million more that surprise everyone. And I'm just collecting experiences, you know? Today I get to sit with you guys, like, how dope is this? Like, you know, I get to see with, I get to sit with all of you from this world. I was, I was laughing at my life, I was like, you were talking about it. Like, I was in Bad Boys like a year ago, sitting here with you guys today. Yesterday I was with Carmelo Anthony, then I was with a mindfulness expert, then my monk teacher's coming into LA to live with me for two weeks on Sunday. And my life is just made up of me collecting the random, and I wanna die having just had these beautiful exchanges, meaningful exchanges, with people that I maybe would never have crossed paths with, all because I was trying to help people. How beautiful is that?

• 1:13:31Speaker 02

  Why would I say no to having the opportunity to have this rich life of experiences? And I think when you get lost in your cocoon, in your echo chamber, in your little world, which we all do... You miss out on the joy that comes from, you know, I remember when Ryan realized that I listened to the game. And that was like a big moment for him. And it was like, and it was like, I was like, yeah, like all we did growing up in London was listen to American rap and hip hop. That's all we did. And you wouldn't know that from the way we dressed, the way we look, from where we come from, but when you can find commonalities and similarities, you know, the the Black Monk, like who would have known? You know, it's like,

• 1:14:12Ryan Clark?

  Hey, it's official now.

• 1:14:14Channing Crowder?

  We never getting away from this now.

• 1:14:16Ryan Clark?

  Jay called me the Black Monk too?

• 1:14:17Channing Crowder?

  Come on Jay. You can leave. We gotta stay around him.

• 1:14:21Speaker 02

  But who would have ever thought that a professional athlete, a former American football player who's had so much success in his career would call himself the Black Monk? Like just, I would never have guessed that in a million years. And that's the beauty of this amazing life that we live. That me and Ryan could sit and have something in common when we're so different, have such different backgrounds and different upbringings. We can both like the game and both like the idea of being monks. Like that is the, I love that. That's what makes life beautiful.

• 1:14:48Ryan Clark?

  I actually, and not, you know, not a Hindu monastery, but I actually spent a lot of time in a Greek Orthodox Christian monastery with Troy Palamalu. And the life was fascinating because those people seemed like the most authentic humans in the world. They were 100% comfortable in who they were. And so I understand when you say you met your monk teacher, you're like, I want that.

• 1:15:13Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 1:15:13Ryan Clark?

  Like whatever that thing is, that's what I want. And, you know, you mentioned commonalities. I'm excited. We're working on something now. I'm excited about continuing to move forward in that. I do have one last question.

• 1:15:25Speaker 02

  Yep.

• 1:15:26Ryan Clark?

  I have like a million of them, but we'll talk about them off air one day. You know, you mentioned pivoting, that your entire life has been a pivot. And when you decide that you're gonna dedicate your life and to the monastic lifestyle, that's a, that's a forever change. And you had to move out of that to move into something else that continued to move you towards your purpose. How do people decipher whether moving on or quitting or changing careers or letting a relationship go is a pivot instead of a failure?

• 1:16:02Speaker 02

  What's interesting about that question is that it's actually all in your head. Because what you label it as is what it becomes. So when I left the monastery, I thought it was a failure. And guess what? That's what it was then, it was a failure. Now, when I look back, I see it as a pivot. And often, when you're making the decision, it feels like a failure in the moment. More often than not, it will feel like a failure in the moment. But when you look back, you'll see it as a pivot. Because what you realize is that if you keep seeing it as a failure, you'll keep failing. And when I left the monastery and felt like a failure, which I did, I realized that at one point, that mindset didn't serve me anymore.

• 1:16:47Speaker 02

  There was only so much I could feel sorry for myself. There's only so much I could pity myself. There's only so much I could feel like I wish I was still there. And I had to own my life and take responsibility and say, "What did I love about it?" "I loved the fact that I got to study wisdom and share it." "I loved the fact that we woke up early and we meditated." "I loved the fact that we had a routine that made me feel good." Guess what? I can do that all now. I can still do that. I can still build that into my life. That's why I wrote the book, "Think Like A Monk, Not Live Like A Monk", because I'm not living like a monk anymore, but I'm still thinking like one. So to me, it's all about how you label it. And chances are, you will always label the end of something as a failure.

• 1:17:32Speaker 02

  Because again, society has conditioned you to believe that ending something or leaving something incomplete is a failure. So you will, in the moment, always think it's a failure. But the quicker you realize it's a pivot, the more you'll move towards your purpose. And so I would just encourage anyone to say, "If something's no longer serving you, if something's no longer fulfilling you, if you've tried everything you possibly can and you can't save, fix, or solve this thing, let it be. You will feel like a failure, expect it." And then pivot. Allow yourself to feel like a failure and then pivot.

• 1:18:13Fred Taylor?

  Our mantra here is accept the just and move forward. And also realize it's never too late to pivot.

• 1:18:19Speaker 02

  Never too late to pivot, I love that.

• 1:18:21Ryan Clark?

  So the tour, you know, that's the reason we were able to catch you here in New York. Just for people who are looking to tap in, people who want to get an opportunity to lay eyes on Jay Shetty and absorb some of that wisdom, but also experience some of the things you've experienced. Where are you going? How do they do that? How do they tap in?

• 1:18:41Speaker 02

  Yeah, I'm really excited. For the first time ever, we're doing a podcast tour. So we have 15 cities, 15 surprise guests across North America and Canada. I'll be interviewing people's favorites from the show, some new ones as well. And what I'm really excited about, if I'm honest, is it's gonna be walking into a room where when you look left and right, the person next to you listens to the same thing you do. So the amount you have in common with the people around you is huge. There's very few places in the world that we go into anymore where you feel connected to someone before you walk into the room. Now you can walk in and the person next to you has a favorite episode, you have a favorite episode, the energy's gonna be electric. And I'm gonna be sharing wisdom and insights that we haven't before.

• 1:19:26Speaker 02

  I think there's something special about memories that are made in person. In New York, we're gonna be at the theater at MSG, so that's gonna be incredible. In L.A., we're at the Greek Theater, which is beautiful. Then we're going Chicago, Dallas, Florida, Seattle, Vancouver, Toronto, Colorado, Philadelphia. You know, so we're doing 15 cities and you can go to jayshetty.me/tour and you'll find all the dates, all the tickets. And I hope people come out and leave with a connection with other people. That's my goal. I think we're all looking for, I'm hoping people come there and leave with a date, right? Like it's like, you see someone you like, they care about the same stuff you do.

• 1:20:09Speaker 02

  So, you know, how rare it is to go to a place where people care about the same thing you do. They're listening to the same show. You could leave with a date, you could leave with a proposal.

• 1:20:18Ryan Clark?

  It's like match.com in person.

• 1:20:19Speaker 02

  In person.

• 1:20:20Ryan Clark?

  You created it and now you're bringing everybody together to do it. Now Jay, this was amazing, man. This is something we've been wanting to do for a while. If I'm being honest. It's something that I didn't think was possible a while ago. But to meet you, man, to get to understand you a little better personally, and then now to sit with you. You truly are everything you seem to be from the outside, man. So best of luck on the tour. Can't wait to work with you further, but this was amazing.

• 1:20:45Speaker 02

  Now, you, all of you, when I met you in person, like, you know, like, you're like big scary dudes, you know? But it's like, you guys, you know, just the kindness, the genuineness, the curiosity, the depth of the questioning. I love the skepticism, and that's important, right? You need that. Like, I think it's great when people push back and question and check and, you know, reflect on stuff. And, you know, I mean, I was blown away, Ryan, by your hospitality, your kindness. When I came out to the game to meet you, all the Zoom calls we've had, I've really been humbled by how grounded and humble you are. Like, it is just, it's so rare in this world to meet someone who's operating at the top of their game, but is willing to make everyone else feel like a star.

• 1:21:31Speaker 02

  And you do that. Watching you in your element of like, literally being on TV, jumping off in between me and you, having like deep conversations on the sideline, jumping back on and off, like, watching you do that. You're, I mean, you're magnificent at what you do.

• 1:21:44Ryan Clark?

  Thank you, brother.

• 1:21:44Speaker 02

  But I was more impressed by who you were in just connecting. And so I want the world to know that you're even better in person. Congrats on the Emmy nomination, you deserve it.

• 1:21:55Ryan Clark?

  Thank you.

• 1:21:55Speaker 02

  You deserve to win it. And on top of all of that, it's just great to be around great men and great people. I think being around great men is something a lot of men need right now. And it's amazing that all of you are setting such an awesome example of what men can aspire to do, especially men who want to be powerful, make an impact, but then have a deep and good heart as well. So thank you for the example you're setting for men.

• 1:22:16Ryan Clark?

  Appreciate you, brother. That was dope.

• 1:22:17Speaker 02

  You guys are the best. You guys are awesome. I mean it. I mean every word. I mean every word, man.

• 1:22:22Ryan Clark?

  Sure.

• 1:22:22Speaker 02

  You guys are the best.

• 1:22:23Channing Crowder?

  That's crazy, man.

• 1:22:24Speaker 02

  You guys are the best.

• 1:22:25Ryan Clark?

  That was really cool. Appreciate you, brother. So what is this, man? Is this custom?

• 1:22:29Speaker 02

  No, no, no, this is a brand that I love out of France called Lanet. It's probably one of my favorite brands. That's nice. They make good stuff.

• 1:23:01Speaker 00

  Every game day, you show up for your team. Now, it's your time.

• 1:23:12Speaker 00

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