Do THIS Today to Reset Your Life, Energy, & Happiness

This episode will help you hit reset on the rest of your year and make your life feel like yours again. In today’s personal solo episode, Mel will help you pause, reconnect with yourself, and ask you two powerful questions that can change how you experience the rest of the year. Because somehow, the year is already almost halfway over. And if you’re like most people, you’ve been moving so fast that you haven’t stopped to recognize the hard things you’ve gotten through and the progress you’ve made. If you’ve felt like: …your life feels like one long to-do list …you’re tired, flat, or stuck in the same routine …you need something to look forward to, but don’t even know what that is anymore This episode is your mid-year reset. It’s also a hilarious and intimate catch-up with Mel after 56 days on tour. She answers these questions alongside you and shares never-before-heard, behind-the-scenes stories from the road. Then Mel walks you through two simple questions that will help you pause, take stock of your life, and reconnect with parts of yourself you may have forgotten: These questions force you to stop and give yourself credit for the hard things you got through and the ways you keep showing up even when nobody sees it. They also remind you that life is not just about work, bills, errands, caregiving, laundry, and getting through the day. Life is meant to be lived. In this episode, you’ll learn how to: - Stop measuring your life only by what you haven’t done - Give yourself credit for the progress you keep overlooking - Recognize the hard things you’ve already made it through - Break out of autopilot and the same old routine - Understand why having something to look forward to matters so much - Create more energy, novelty, anticipation, and joy - Put something on the calendar that gives your mind somewhere good to go This episode will help you stop, take a breath, give yourself credit, and create something to look forward to - because if you change nothing, nothing changes. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-401/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:52 The Summer Reset You Need 05:44 The 1 Question To Ask Yourself to Feel Better 12:01 The Daily Wins You’ve Been Missing 15:15 The Secret to Enjoying Everyday 27:11 Why You Miss Life When You’re Stressed 34:55 The Simple Fix for Feeling Stressed & Stuck 40:24 The Power of Having Something Planned 44:52 How to Reclaim Happiness and Joy In Your Life Now 56:19 Stop Waiting for Life to Feel Better 58:06 The Two Questions That Get You Unstuck Immediately — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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• 0:00Mel Robbins?

  Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast.

• 0:08Mel Robbins?

  Oh my gosh, I am so excited that you're here. I have been dying to get on this microphone and to catch up with you. I feel like we have not had the kind of episode where it's just been you and I talking for months. And look, I just got back from being on tour. Holy cow, 56 days, 15 cities, 21 sold out shows, almost 100,000 of you came who are fans of this podcast. And now I'm back at home in Vermont. I've slept for like a week to try to recover from being on tour. I'm back above the garage. I'm back on this microphone. I am so excited to be back here with you. And I

• 0:51Mel Robbins?

  was thinking about, okay, what is the first thing that I want to talk to you about? I just really wanted to connect with you. I mean, here's the thing, while I've been on tour, I know you've been busy. You're busy living your life. I mean, can you believe that this year is almost halfway over? The time was like, what the heck? So here's what I thought we could do. We could hit the pause button together, you know, almost like support each other and doing a little reset right now, and help each other take stock of all the things that happened this year. The hard things that you got yourself through, the progress that you made, the moments that you handled so much better than you used to, the ways that you keep showing up even when no one else notices. And here's how

• 1:33Mel Robbins?

  we're gonna do it. As we kind of go on this little walk and catch up together, I'm just gonna throw out two questions that force you to pause, probably for the first time in months, and questions that help you reflect on all the things that you've experienced and done so far this year. And then we'll get to the second question. And the second question I love, because the second question is grounded in research. And it's also the kind of question that a good friend asks you when you're going for a walk after a couple of months. And that question is, what are you looking forward to? And there's fascinating research about why this question and having something to look forward to is so important in life. And I promise you, by the time we're done with this conversation,

• 2:18Mel Robbins?

  you're going to feel so much better because we're going to reconnect and we're going to reset. I love spending time with you and I love being together. And today, that's what we're doing. It's just you and me, two friends catching up, hitting the reset, and reconnecting over these two powerful questions.

• 2:46Mel Robbins?

  Hey, it's your friend Mel and welcome to the Mel Robbins Podcast. I am so glad you're here. It's an honor to spend this time together. If you're new or somebody shared this episode with you, I just want to start by personally welcoming you to the Mel Robbins Podcast family. And today, it's just you and me. And I have been so looking forward to this conversation with you because it's been a long time since you and I just hung out without experts, without somebody else, without a ton of things to do. And there's a lot that's happened in the last three months while I've been on tour that I've been wanting to share with you. Funny stories, a bunch of insights. And so I want you to think about our conversation today as if you and I are two friends just

• 3:31Mel Robbins?

  going on a walk and we're catching up. And I've asked you about your family and what's been going on for the last three months and you've filled me in. And now it's my turn. And I'm going to fill you in because the fact is, I just got home from being on tour. And I cannot believe how much work it was. I know that sounds like it might not be surprising to you to hear that, but I think I was very naive about just how much work it was going to be. To be on the road for three months and be in four different countries, in front of almost 100,000 listeners of the Mel Robbins Podcast, traveling with almost a crew of 30 people from place to place to place. I often thought, as we were

• 4:16Mel Robbins?

  working these 16 hour days, how the hell do musicians do this? I mean, honest to God, how do musicians have this schedule for 100 to 200 days? I'm 57 years old. It nearly killed me. It was also one of the single most incredible experiences of my entire life. And isn't it true that a lot of the things that you look back on in your life and you say, that was one of the highlights of my life? It had a lot of work and a lot of hard things about it. And maybe you didn't even know I was on tour. Maybe you couldn't get a ticket. And so this is my way to just tell you what's been going on for the last three months.

• 4:56Mel Robbins?

  And I also am going to ask you during our conversation today, two questions. Now, these are two questions that act like a reset. When you ask yourself these two questions, they force you to stop and to take a step back from your current life and to really look at what's happened. Because let's face it, we're almost halfway through the year. But can you believe how much time has gone by? And I bet you have not stopped for a second. And you want to know how I know you haven't stopped for a second? Because I know you're the kind of person that's busy doing a lot of stuff. You're taking care of a lot of people. You're going to work or you're going to school. You're trying to pay your bills. You're taking care of your dog. You're taking care of kids. You're taking care of your parents. You're taking care of the apartment that you live in. You're taking care of dishes.

• 5:41Mel Robbins?

  Like so much going on that you might be in that mode where it's like the year is like a blur and you wake up and you're like, oh, my God, how are we already here? This year is flying by. And so I want you to really take a pause. And I'm going to ask you these two questions and I'm going to answer them as well because they act like a reset. They allow you to take a step out of your life and to see what's already transpired this year. That's the first question. And then the second one, has you look forward so that you and I make sure that we don't just put our heads down and race through the second half of this year? And then look up and go, oh, my God, the year's over already? I didn't get to this, this, this, and this.

• 6:24Mel Robbins?

  And don't worry, this is not a productivity conversation. There's nothing you need to do. This is not going to be hard. We're going to have a lot of fun as I ask you these two questions. Okay, you ready? I'm so excited for this. So the first question's a really important one. And the question's this, if you look back to the beginning of this year, what's something that you're really proud of? That you either did or that you experienced or that happened this year? I want you to take a step out of your life for a minute and think back, what are you really proud of? Because I don't think you're giving yourself enough credit. I think you're so busy doing things in your life that you're not taking time to stop and pat yourself on the back.

• 7:09Mel Robbins?

  For all the little things you're doing well, all of the little challenges you've overcome, all of the weight that you're carrying. And so that brings me to my answer to this question. What are you proud of that you've either done or experienced so far this year? The thing that I'm the most proud of isn't the tour itself. What I'm most proud of is before I went on tour, I was so freaking stressed about all the things that were going to go wrong, about whether or not I was going to be able to manage the amount of work it was going to be, whether or not I'd be able to do that and perform and run the company and, and, and, and, and. And my therapist, Ann Davin, said to me,

• 7:54Mel Robbins?

  she said, Mel, before you get on that plane, I need to tell you, you are in a very dangerous moment. Because if you get on that plane and you start this tour as stressed as you are right now, you're going to miss the entire thing. You're going to be so in your head and so just intense to make sure everything is right. And of course, you can't guarantee that everything's going to go right, that you're going to miss one of the greatest experiences of your life. And it scared me. And so I said, okay, what should I do? And she said, you have to get so serious about how you're going to manage your sleep,

• 8:37Mel Robbins?

  how you're going to manage your emotions, how you're going to manage the food that you're eating, how you're going to manage taking care of yourself so that you can both move every other day to a new city, a new hotel, a new venue, a new this, all while managing all these people and get on a stage and perform in front of 9,000 people every night. And she was right. And it scared the daylights out of me. And so I made a whole new schedule. I prioritized sleep. I got serious about eating really good food. I walked every single morning, regardless of what city we were in, or I lifted weights. I really like cut back, way, way back on the alcohol.

• 9:19Mel Robbins?

  And I had a laser focus on my emotions. And it worked. And I gotta tell you, the thing that I am so proud... About that happened is for the three months that this tour was happening, I maybe snapped and was kind of bitchy only twice. And in both cases, I was exhausted and hungry. Do you have any idea how revolutionary it is? That I could take on one of the most stressful things in my life,

• 10:00Mel Robbins?

  both good stress and like a lot of hard work stress? And be in a state where I was present? And I was calm and non reactive? And I was optimistic? Like, I barely recognized myself. That's how different this was. And again, I know you're going to flood me with emails about, well, Mel, how did you do it? I'm telling you, but for any reaction, let them just say, let them and release control. And then say, let me and choose your response. Because there were things that went wrong every single day.

• 10:43Mel Robbins?

  And instead of allowing it to freak me out, I just rode the wave. And that allowed me to have so much fun. I mean, half the stuff that I'm going to tell you about, I can remember because I was calm. I can remember because I managed my stress. I can remember because I actually took care of myself. And that's why I enjoyed this so much, even though it was the hardest and most grueling amount of work that I've ever done in a three month period of my entire life. And I'm 57 and that says a lot about how hard this was. But that's the thing I'm proud of. And I wanted to share that with you to start off, because it was a real revelation to me

• 11:25Mel Robbins?

  that, you know, you can have something really challenging going on and you can change how you show up to it. I have two very close friends who have parents who have both been diagnosed with something extremely scary. One is late stage Alzheimer's. The other is a stage for cancer diagnosis. And in life, there will be things that happen that are out of your control. I mean, that's what life does. It knocks you on your ass. We can't control that. But I'm proud of the fact that I learned through this experience how to control my

• 12:06Mel Robbins?

  response and my stress levels regardless of what was going on around me. And I'm very proud of that. And I'm sharing it because if you're going through something stressful right now, whether it's something scary like my two close friends, or maybe you're doing something that's exciting, you're starting a new job, or you're planning a wedding, or you just got into graduate school, or you're moving, or you're in a new relationship, and it's really exciting, but there's that stressful excitement, you can really learn how to be serious about managing a response to all the things going on outside of you.

• 12:46Mel Robbins?

  And that's the thing that I'm really proud of. And so now let me turn it back over to you. What are you proud of? And I want you to really think back to the beginning of the year. And you may not even remember what you're proud of. In fact, Cameron, who is the producer that worked with the team and me on this episode, she asked her brother this question, hey, so you know, what are you proud of that's happened this year? He's like, nothing. And she's like, what are you talking about? You got into a PhD program, dude. He had forgotten. And it's so easy to do because you're so busy just getting through the day. You're busy going to work. You're busy going to school. So let's take a moment. And I want you to really think about this. What are you proud of? Are you

• 13:28Mel Robbins?

  proud that you're expecting your first baby? Are you proud that you got into graduate school? Are you proud that that breakup didn't kill you? In fact, now that you're about 11 to 12 weeks through it, you're feeling a little bit better, a little stronger, you know it's the right thing? Are you proud of the way that you managed your money? And I don't want you to wait for these giant things, you know, to pat yourself on the back. What's fascinating about life to me is that we tend to obsess over all the things that went wrong, or all the things that we didn't do, right? Like, at the end of the day, you tend to think about, oh, my God, I didn't get this, I didn't get that. And you don't celebrate all the little things you actually did. Do I mean, you sent out a hundred emails. You answered the calls.

• 14:12Mel Robbins?

  You fed yourself. The dogs got walked. You did get a load of laundry done. You didn't pick up your phone and waste two hours. You actually read a book. Every single day, there are little moments to be proud of. And I love this first question because it hits the brakes on life. What are you proud of? That you've done this year so far? Or that you've experienced? Or that you are trying to do? What's something that you're proud of that you did today? Was it a hard conversation that you had? Maybe you picked up a bunch of extra work. Because you're helping out a colleague who just lost a loved one. Maybe you started therapy.

• 14:56Mel Robbins?

  Because every single day. There's a little thing that you've done that you're proud of. And it doesn't have to be some huge thing. It all counts. All of it, they're all little wins. And this simple question, you can ask yourself this, and we're doing it as a reset to think about what's already happened this year. What are you proud of? Because every time you name it, you are now patting yourself on the back and you're reminding yourself. That yes, you have things that are worthy of celebrating. It starts with you. And let me go back to the thing that I shared with you. I'm so proud of myself for managing my stress and being present. And being calm.

• 15:35Mel Robbins?

  And really being intentional about taking care of myself so that I could be calm and present. Because I had a blast. I had an absolute blast. And every step along the way. There were funny things that happened and it made me realize. It's hard to have fun when you're stressed out. It's hard to see the joy in something when you're constantly gripping the wheel of life. And I'm going to tell you a couple of stories like we got on the plane. To get to our first stop, which was New Zealand. And one of my members of the team, Lynn, is incredibly scared of flying.

• 16:17Mel Robbins?

  And she went into the bathroom. It's like a 16 hour flight. We're flying over the ocean. And so she had this deep concern that we would not only die in a plane crash, but we would die in a plane crash and then she would somehow survive and be eaten by sharks. I mean, this is what your brain can do to you. So she comes out of the bathroom. She is wearing a shark themed, like, I don't even know what they're called, like onesie, with a hood where you pulled the hood over. In fact, you know, if we're watching on YouTube, there's a photo of her next to me. You pull the hood over and it's all the shark teeth. She even had on shark slippers. She had glasses on that were the shark teeth. And we were like, Lynn, what are you doing?

• 17:01Mel Robbins?

  And she just laughed and said, well, if we're gonna go down and sharks are gonna be around, I want them to see me and like, think I'm a shark. And so they go after you. I mean, it was, that was the beginning of the trip, first flight. Second thing that happened that was really funny is traveling is stressful. Traveling internationally, way more stressful. And different rules apply. And I know we have a ton of people that listen in New Zealand and Australia. And I got permission to tell you this story because it features one of our incredibly talented videographers, editors and directors, who is also in the room right now, recording this. Shout out to David Faxon. Hello. So, we are in New Zealand.

• 17:44Mel Robbins?

  And we have to take a flight from Auckland to Brisbane, Brisbane to Sydney, Sydney to Melbourne. Now, here's the thing. We are packing for three weeks on tour. And it turns out, I did not know this, that Australia and New Zealand are very strict about the weight limit for the luggage. Like, if you're here in the United States and you think about luggage and, and, you know, weight limits, you think, okay, if I'm gonna have to pack for three weeks and bring all this equipment and also bring all these outfits to be able to be in different climates and to be on stage, you just pay extra, right? I mean, that's what you do. You bring an extra bag, you pay extra.

• 18:27Mel Robbins?

  That's not what you do in Australia and New Zealand, apparently. They're so strict. That, number one, you cannot pay extra. Number two, you can't just check extra bags to distribute the weight limit. It's literally by person. So, Faxen has packed his suitcase and this huge backpack, not only with all of his camera gear and all of the clothes that he needs for multiple different climates, but he has also decided, because we're traveling for three weeks, that he needs to bring journals and some books. In case, you know, when you're on tour, you might just have time to kick back and read some books.

• 19:12Mel Robbins?

  And he's already laughing. Are you hearing this, Faxen? I feel like we need to put him on a microphone because he's starting to chuckle. And not just any books. You want to know what? Three hardcover books Faxen packed in his luggage to New Zealand and Australia? Three Harry Potter hardcover books. And here he comes. David, this is like 30 pounds alone.

• 19:36Speaker 01

  It's very heavy. It's a lot of journals. Well, this is a screenplay. This is my journal to write my screenplay. This is Harry Potter. This is another journal. This is two filmmaking books. Robert Rodriguez. He met Once Upon a Time in Hollywood. A lot of books. I thought I would have the free time to finish this Harry Potter, read this Harry Potter, write a screenplay. Didn't have the free time.

• 20:02Mel Robbins?

  Did you crack open a single book on tour?

• 20:06Speaker 01

  No.

• 20:09Speaker 01

  I had to, the thing is, because we were not able to just pay the fine for the luggage, I had to put a lot of these in my actual backpack, put my Steadicam in my backpack. It was a complete disaster.

• 20:19Mel Robbins?

  Yeah, so here's the thing you got to see. So, I'm the leader of the tour because I'm the CEO of this company. I am dragging everybody with me. So, I'm both the mom and the CEO. And you know how parents get when you're traveling. And we roll up like a herd of turtles, everybody carrying all kinds of luggage, dragging it behind. Do you have your passports? Are you got passports? And I'm just practicing, be present, be present. You're not responsible for anybody. They can get on a different plane. Da, da, da, da, da, da, da. All of a sudden, we start hearing, "There's a weight requirement. There's a weight requirement. David's bags are heavy." And I'm like, "Well, he's got equipment. And then David kind of looks at us sheepishly and he's like, "Well, it's not just equipment." We're like, "What's in your bag?" He had to then unpack his bag. And now we see all of these books. He's like, "I got it.

• 21:04Mel Robbins?

  I got it. I'll figure it out." So we go. We go through security. He's figuring it out. We're waiting at the gate. We look up at the escalator coming down. Faxon is wearing his backpack. And I don't know, you had maybe four jackets tied around your waist. In the other arm, he has Harry Potter books, three of them. The entire team is dying laughing. And on top of it, he has a nightgown that he has bought at the airport.

• 21:40Speaker 01

  Yep. Yeah, that Marcus told us about. But I couldn't put the nightgown in my luggage because of the weight limit. So I had to squeeze that into my backpack as well. Yeah.

• 21:51Mel Robbins?

  And it was not a nightgown for David. It was a nightgown for his beautiful, pregnant wife. They're expecting their second daughter. And you know, what I love about this story is that in life, you can't control what's happening, but you can always choose how you respond to it. Thank you for letting me share that story, David. Everyone, David Faxon. Faxon, you are the best. And you know, I'm telling you, every single day, there were dozens of things that would have normally made my stress level go through the roof. And that's why I'm so proud of the fact that I just threw every twist and turn and logistical nightmare and things that went wrong. I was just like, "Be present. Stay calm.

• 22:36Mel Robbins?

  Let them focus on what's in your control, Mel. That's let me part." And one of the biggest things that went wrong happened in Sydney, Australia. It happened live in front of 9,000 people.

• 22:53Mel Robbins?

  And I'm going to tell you that story next. But first, I need to take a quick break so we can hear a word from our amazing sponsors. But when we come back, I have so many more hilarious stories with awesome takeaways. And then you and I have got to answer that second question of this amazing reset and reconnection too. So don't go anywhere. Stay with me.

• 23:24Mel Robbins?

  Welcome back. It's your friend Mel Robbins. And today you and I are hitting the reset button together. We're reconnecting and we're answering two questions that are going to really make you feel better about where you are and where you're going. Now, before the break, I asked you the first question, which is, what have you done this year that you're proud of? And I was just starting to tell you the story of something that went crazy wrong in Sydney. Now, let me just set the table for you. This was the biggest show of the entire three-month tour. There were 9,000 people in the audience, 9,000. And the tour is about two hours long.

• 24:07Mel Robbins?

  And it's not me doing a podcast interview. It's not me giving a speech. It's a show. One of the big things in the tour is I wanted this tour to end with a massive confetti explosion. And the reason why I wanted this is because our family went to see Coldplay. I love Coldplay. And there's a lot of moments during the Coldplay concert where they are exploding confetti. And it's in shapes like stars and butterflies. And you see all these people on the floor of the arena they're playing in, and they're getting showered in this confetti. And we had really good seats. They were kind of in that like rung of seats that

• 24:49Mel Robbins?

  are right at the edge of the field. I almost dislocated my shoulder trying to reach for the confetti. I mean, the confetti was like, right there. And it was such a bummer to see all these people showered in it and taking photos. And we couldn't. Reach it. And so I said to the team when we were planning the tour, I want to douche this theater. Like, I'm talking Super Bowl. I want the back rows to be able to feel the confetti. I want this huge celebration and joy and just to honor the audience and to have it be experiential.

• 25:31Mel Robbins?

  So we've got this show in Sydney, the biggest show of the whole tour. It is our sixth show in the stretch from New Zealand through Australia. We have our six confetti cannons. We have the biggest amount of people and they're in this arena that goes like straight up so we can get the confetti to the top. And at the end of the show, I sign off the show saying the exact same thing that I say to you at the end of every podcast, that I love you and I believe in you and I believe in your ability to create a better life. And then I pause and I say, now, go, blank, do it. And the confetti's like,

• 26:18Mel Robbins?

  except for Sydney, the biggest show of the entire tour. You want to know what the confetti sounded like? A small silent fart.

• 26:28Mel Robbins?

  That's it. That's it. That was it. It was one of the six cannons.

• 26:37Mel Robbins?

  The confetti didn't even hit the front row. That's it. There we go. Okay. And you want to know something incredible? Because I'm really proud of, I'm not proud of the confetti, but here's what I'm proud of. I'm proud of the fact that I didn't even get upset about it. I wasn't angry. I didn't snap at anybody. I didn't yell at anybody because here's the thing. Do you think the person running the confetti cannons actually meant to do that on purpose? Of course not. Of course not. And wishing about things going differently robs me of the ability to celebrate how epic the show was and how amazing the audience was.

• 27:19Mel Robbins?

  And that's why I'm so proud of managing my stress because I didn't rob myself of all the good things that happened by over indexing and gripping all the things that didn't or that didn't go right. And now we can have a laugh about it because it's the show where the confetti farted. That's what it is. And all 9,000 people still had an absolutely epic, incredible, electric, life-changing experience. And those are just three examples of some of the crazy things that happened. But here is the other thing that I found to be incredibly difficult to manage. And I just, I really want to give another shout out to everybody

• 28:02Mel Robbins?

  who is a musician. Your tour schedules where you are sleeping on buses and you are going from performing night after night after night after night and the load in's the same day. If you're not in the music industry, or you've never toured, you have no idea how grueling of a schedule this is. Here's a sample schedule. You land in a city in the afternoon, or you pull in in your bus, you check into a hotel, and then that's it. You kind of go over lines, you figure out what you're doing. The next morning, 7:00 AM, you load in. You load in all the equipment. We have to build the full set. You have to build the huge screen, the

• 28:45Mel Robbins?

  lighting racks. You got to test it all. You got to wire in all the technology. That takes until about, I don't know, 3:00 PM. Then we roll over for tech rehearsals because we've got to set all the cameras. There are five cameras. We got to run through the show. We got to run through changes. We got to meet the local team that's going to be moving sets on and off. Then I go out into the lobby. I sign 500 books. Then I introduce myself to all of the people that are working as ushers at the event. We were also doing some activations for Pure Genius Protein, my protein shot company, handing out free samples. And so I then greeted all of the people that we were hiring in each city to be handing out samples and, you know,

• 29:28Mel Robbins?

  Talking to the fans that were coming, then I go backstage and that this is probably now about 5:30 or 6 o'clock. Now we're doing makeup and getting ready. Doors open at 6:30. The crowd is running through at 6:30. The show begins at 7:30 with a friend of mine, Sam, who dresses as a drag queen version of me named Melodrama. Oh my God, I gotta tell you about this thing that happened. This might be my favorite moment of the entire tour. This happened in Vancouver, the matinee show on Mother's Day. If you were there, you

• 30:07Mel Robbins?

  know how extraordinary this is. So Sam is dressed as the drag queen version of me, Melodrama, and he kind of, you know, warms up the audience, is funny as hell. Then he goes out in to the audience because I really wanted the audience and every person there, because a lot of people come alone, to feel threaded through the entire experience and to feel connected to and part of the community that's there. And so he goes out and he, you know, talks to people and it's hilarious. And he came up to this woman, I believe her name was Colleen, and he was asking, does anybody have a birthday? And she raised her hand and she said, my birthday was last week. And he said, well, what are you celebrating

• 30:50Mel Robbins?

  for your birthday? And she said, well, my birthday wish is to beat this damn cancer. And Sam turns around to the entire group of, there's almost 3,000 people, this is pre-show, at the Orpheum in Vancouver, and says to the crowd, all the lights are on, show's kind of like we're in pre-show zone, says to the entire crowd, who here wants to grant that birthday wish for Colleen? So she beat the entire theater, erupted onto their feet,

• 31:31Mel Robbins?

  jumping up and down and screaming and shouting for Colleen. She collapsed in tears. I was backstage, kind of watching the whole thing. And Marcus, who is our tour director, ran up to me and said, let's sign a book for her. So I'm backstage signing a book, because this is all going down live. To see-

• 31:55Mel Robbins?

  People walk into a theater as strangers and in one sentence, get up on their feet in celebration of someone's fight

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  for their life as she's facing this cancer diagnosis, was for sure the highlight of the tour. And again, if I had been stressed out backstage worrying about all kinds of stuff, I would have missed it.

• 32:25Mel Robbins?

  And I am coming back from this tour not only proud of myself that I managed my stress and had fun and was present and calm and experienced all the magic, but I feel so full from that energy of you and your fellow listeners and so clear about some of the topics we need to be discussing, some of the changes I want to make to the types of episodes that we've been doing on this podcast. And I also am very clear that I want to have a closer connection to you. And so one thing I'm going to tell you is if you're not on the newsletter that goes out twice a week, it is free.

• 33:08Mel Robbins?

  Go to melrobbins.com/newsletter because I write a personal letter twice a week. And that way you don't miss a thing and you'll be joining 2 million other people that receive that letter from me every single week on Mondays and Thursdays. And I would love to stay connected with you because we're going to be doing a lot more in the future around this podcast. We're going to be taking more questions. We're looking into ways to do interesting events or to do kind of live experiences around the releases of podcasts. Nothing is set in stone yet, but I'm just super excited to be more connected with you and to find ways that we can create opportunities for you to be in rooms and experiences like that.

• 33:52Mel Robbins?

  So the first question of this reset is thinking about this year. What are you proud of? What are you proud of that you've experienced? What are you proud of that you've done? What are you proud of that you've been working on? One thing that you're proud of, and I promise you if you look. You will find that thing. And then I want you to take a moment and I want you to really sit with it and pat yourself on the back and ask yourself, well, why am I proud of that? Because I bet that there's something a little bit deeper that will get revealed. You're going to realize, wow, I'm proud of this because I recognize that I'm changing.

• 34:33Mel Robbins?

  I'm proud of this because I see that I am putting myself first. I'm proud of this because I see that I'm doing the things that are important to me. I'm proud of myself because I've really shown up for other people and I've managed this challenge really well and I'm stronger than I think. So that's the first question. What have you done this year that you're proud of? Now let's talk about the second question. What are you looking forward to? I mean, when you think about now until the end of this year, what are you looking forward to? Because the time is gonna come and it's gonna go, it's gonna pass. That's what time does.

• 35:16Mel Robbins?

  And with the time that you have left this year, what are you looking forward to? And I want you to really think about this. What is something in your life that's personal to you that you are truly looking forward to? And if your answer is, Mel, I have no idea, or nothing, or maybe it's like, I don't even have time to think about what I'm looking forward to. I'm just trying to survive and get through the day. That is really important and honest information and I'm glad that you're being honest with me. Because when you have nothing to look forward to for the remainder of the year, this is one of the reasons why life feels so hard.

• 36:01Mel Robbins?

  This is why one day bleeds into the next. This is why you feel like you're in autopilot and survival mode because every single day is the same thing. Wake up, answer the text, check social media, make coffee, go to work, come home, figure out dinner, clean something, scroll, go to bed too late, make yourself wrong, lay in bed and think about your problems, wake up, do it again. No wonder life feels flat right now.

• 36:30Mel Robbins?

  Because everything is responsibility. Everything about life is managing or taking care of other people. It's about what's next, or work, or, oh my God. Nothing is, "I can't wait for this thing that's happening." And there's a scientific reason why it's important to have that feeling of anticipation, that sense of, "I can't wait for that thing to happen," whether it's a wedding, or it's a concert, or it's some trip that you're taking, or somebody that you're seeing. And this research was first shared on this podcast by Dr. Tali Sharot. Now, she's a renowned neuroscientist who's taught at University College London, MIT.

• 37:11Mel Robbins?

  She's the director of the Effective Brain Lab at University College London. Her research is very interesting because it's sort of this intersection between neuroscience, psychology, and behavioral economics. And her real expertise is studying how emotions influence your beliefs, your decisions, and your behavior. So, Dr. Tali Sharot came on the podcast and explained this concept of why it is that we can get into this rut. See, what happens is your brain loves familiarity. In fact, it is designed to learn patterns. But when your brain gets used to something, whether it's the way that you're moving through your day, you wake up, you go to work, you drive the same way, it's the same emergencies,

• 37:54Mel Robbins?

  same stress, same people, same conversations, you drive home the same way, you cook the same three meals, you watch the same stuff, you scroll the same, you go to bed. There's something happening in your brain where it stops noticing all the good things. It stops paying attention to change. And the more familiar something becomes, the less your brain reacts to what you're doing. This is what Dr. Tali Sharot calls habituation. And here's the catch, and this is why I'm bringing it up. If you're kind of in one of these modes in life where it's the same old, same old, oh my God.

• 38:35Mel Robbins?

  Yes, the less your brain is reacting to the same old same old. But it's also reacting less to the good stuff. That's why you can love your house, but stop appreciating it. That's why you can love your partner or your dog, but you get used to them. That's why you can have a life or a state of health that you've worked really hard for, but still feel kind of flat. Dr. Tali Sharot would say, this is a sign that your brain has, quote, "habituated." It has gotten used to the day to day. Whether the day to day is hard or the day to day is good, it's just the same old same old. One of the fastest ways to just wake your brain back up, snap you back into the moment is novelty.

• 39:21Mel Robbins?

  Something different, something new, something on the calendar to look forward to, something to anticipate. And that means that putting something on your calendar, it isn't just this tiny little thing to shake things up. Oh, my gosh. The research is so cool because it gives your mind somewhere good to go. It helps you get out of the day to day and escape it for a second and time travel and anticipate something that reminds you of who you are, that reminds you that life isn't just work. It isn't just caretaking. It isn't just scrolling on social media. Life is meant to be lived and you can experience that now by putting something in the future that you look forward to.

• 40:05Mel Robbins?

  And so as you answer this question, between now and the end of the year, what are you looking forward to? I'm going to share some of the things that I'm looking forward to because I'm hoping to spark something in you, to inspire you, to remind you of parts of you that you may have forgotten. And the very first thing that comes to mind, because this is happening. In just a couple of days, I am going on this trip that I am so excited about. It has been in the works for two years. It is a backpacking, camping, and whitewater rafting trip with our family. And even cooler, we're going with two families that we love, that our kids grew up with.

• 40:49Mel Robbins?

  And I am so looking forward to this for a number of reasons. I'm looking forward to this because I love to camp. I love whitewater rafting. I love being on the river. I love hiking in canyons, and I love having our family together. And I also love experiencing these kinds of trips with friends and their families. And this is a big one because this trip has been on the calendar. Oh, my gosh, well, it's been on the calendar for 18 months, but it's been in planning mode for almost three years. We start at the Grand Canyon. We then hike down a full-day hike. This thing sounds like a death march in the desert. We have to carry all of our own stuff down on our packs.

• 41:33Mel Robbins?

  This hike is like nine hours long. It's going to be 100 degrees. Honestly, all of the materials are scaring the hell out of me. Then we climb into rafts, and it's just our three families and the guides. And we are rafting for nine days and eight nights. Camping along the river every night, sleeping in tents, pooping in a bucket. We are three days away from leaving for this trip. And we have tons of gear, so it's all spread out. We're laying out gear. We're trying to figure out what to bring. Our son, Oakley, has this like beautiful new backpack that he's just bought. That's only two pounds. And Chris has all this technical gear. And Sawyer did a backpacking trip through Asia for four months solo. And so she's got a pack that's like two years old.

• 42:17Mel Robbins?

  And there on the floor of our basement is my pack. Now, this pack is an OG. I bought this backpack in Grand Rapids, Michigan, in 1986 because I was heading off as a freshman at Dartmouth College. I hate having to do math on the podcast. How long ago was 1986? How long ago was that, everybody? What?

• 42:54Mel Robbins?

  Thirty-nine years. Wait, somebody check his math.

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  1986?

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  Wait, I graduated from high school forty years ago? Oh my God. In fact, you guys, let's go get this thing. I'm gonna run down to the basement while we take a quick break so you can hear a word from our incredible sponsors. And if you're loving this episode, if you're thinking about somebody that you're proud of, or somebody that you really wanna organize something that you have to look forward to for the remainder of the year, share this episode with them. Someone who needs the reset, someone who's been checking in on everybody else but maybe hasn't checked in with themselves lately? Be generous and copy the link, put it in a text, and send it to them.

• 43:44Mel Robbins?

  And I promise you, this episode's gonna inspire them to wanna create something to look forward to with you. Already, don't go anywhere because when we come back, I'm gonna be here with that backpack and another story to tell you. Stay with me.

• 44:08Mel Robbins?

  Welcome back, it's your friend Mel Robbins, and today you and I are reconnecting and doing a mid-year reset. And we're answering these two questions. The first one, we've already answered, which is all about, like, what are you proud of that's already happened this year? And the second one, we're digging into, which is, what do you have to look forward to? And I promised you before the break that I was gonna go to the basement and I was gonna drag my old pack up here so you can see that I am not exaggerating. This sucker is ancient history. And so, let me show you this pack. Here she is, everybody. This is the, oh God, smells like it's 39 years old. It's a low alpine backpack.

• 44:53Mel Robbins?

  Holy, this thing weighs, I've been doing resistance training, so I'm now familiar with weights, everybody, this feels like a seven pounder. This is really heavy. Wait, David, is it 39 or 40? I've now got the backpack in my arms, if you're listening in audio. Thirty-nine or 40 years?

• 45:12Mel Robbins?

  39 years and four months is how old this sucker is. It's got tears in it in the bottom, which is bad. It means stuff is going to fall out. It is stained to the hill. This backpack, holy cow. I have, I have climbed mountains. I have gone to the Wind River Range. I've gone down the Talachalitna in Alaska with this sucker. It is stained. It is heavy. It has served me well. So here's the question. Should I get a new one? What do you think? You know, I'm the kind of person that really, I kind of like rolling into a situation with the worst equipment and then smoking it.

• 45:51Mel Robbins?

  And everybody's shocked that I'm actually a great hiker with a outdated, almost four decade old ripped backpack, you know, held together with duct tape. But I'm kind of feeling like I'm not doing myself any favors because I don't want a repeat of what happened on our last big hiking trip. Now you may remember this story, and if you're brand new to the podcast, don't worry. I will just give you the details of it because I did an entire episode a couple summers ago about this, but here's the short version. Our family loves hiking and camping and we drove eight hours a couple summers ago to Baxter State Park in Maine to climb Mount Katahdin in Maine.

• 46:35Mel Robbins?

  Now, this is a huge family trip, a big bucket list. And if you don't know why Mount Katahdin is such a cool mountain, it is the northern end of the Appalachian Trail, meaning people that do through hiking up the Appalachian Trail, they either start the through hike at Mount Katahdin or they end it there. It is steep. It is rocky. I'm talking boulders the size of Volkswagen bugs. It takes all day. You got to start at the crack of dawn. So we prep. My husband is Mr. Camper. He's a Knowles alum. He was on the Knowles Advisory Board, which basically mean the guy loves to live outside. The man would live in a yurt if I allowed him to, but I'm not going to allow him to

• 47:19Mel Robbins?

  because you smell when you camp in a yurt, but that's a different story. So here we are. We have been prepping for a week. Chris had spent the entire day before the drive packing up the pickup truck. We were constantly checking the list, constantly like, you got this, you got this. And of course, we are all over our three adult kids because we think they're the ones who are not going to remember something important. So we pull into the park after eight hours in the pickup truck. And all of a sudden, I realize,

• 47:51Mel Robbins?

  oh my God. My hiking boots are sitting on the back porch in freaking Vermont, eight hours from here. The only shoes that I have are Birkenstocks. Birkenstocks to climb a mountain. When I realized this, I, I, I put my hands on my face and just bowed my head. Everyone in the car went silent, but here's what we did. We turned around. We drove 45 minutes in the wrong direction because Baxter State Park is in the middle of nowhere. We found a tiny farm supply store.

• 48:36Mel Robbins?

  And there between the muck boots and the work boots was a single pair of hiking boots, brand new. And they were my size. Now they were a little tight. They were extremely stiff, which if you know anything about hiking or doing a 5K or doing anything, you do not buy brand new things that you do not break in for this kind of thing, but I'm going to tell myself. I said, that's it. This is a sign. This is a sign that everything's going to be okay. And I told myself, these boots are going to be unbelievable. These boots right here, these are going to be magic boots. And you know what happened? I climbed the mountain. 12 hours, zero blisters.

• 49:18Mel Robbins?

  And the thing that I want to say about this is that one of the things that I'm super proud of about that moment, you get a choice about what your mindset is going to be. And I could have easily allowed my mindset and my attitude to be, okay, well, I have boots, but I'm screwed. I'm going to have blisters the size of Mount Katahdin by the time we're done. I'm never going to make it up the mountain. This is going to be horrible. Might even be better on my Birkenstocks. This is going to like, these aren't going to work. And if I had gone down that road. I guarantee you I would have had blisters the size of Mount Kataden and I wouldn't have made it up the mountain. But because in that moment when I saw the boots and I'm like, these are my size, I can make these work and I'm going to start telling myself, these are going to be the best boots on the planet. I am not going to have blisters.

• 50:03Mel Robbins?

  I swear to God, mind over matter. And it taught me an important lesson. Your settings in your mind about what you believe is going to happen, change what is going to happen. You get a choice about whether or not you're going to say, today's going to be a good day, or, oh God, today's going to be horrible. You get a choice about whether or not you say, I can figure this out. It's going to be better than I thought, or I'm screwed. And so, think about something right now that you're dreading, or that you have a negative attitude about, and I want you to apply what I just told you about the hiking boots to it. What could you say to yourself instead? Can you say, I can figure this out? I'm underprepared, but I can figure this out.

• 50:48Mel Robbins?

  I'm nervous and I can still do it. This is going to go way better than I think it's going to. I can make a mistake and still like have an incredible experience and learn for it. That's what I want you to do in your life. And honestly, that's what I'm choosing to do about this incredible trip going down the Grand Canyon. And what I'm really excited about when I think about why I'm looking forward to this is that when, you know, Chris and I were younger and our kids were really little, this is what we did all the time. We were always camping. We did this before we had kids. Chris and I were always fly fishing, or hiking, or camping, or out in the backcountry. In fact, our honeymoon, we went on a fly fishing trip to Montana in the middle of nowhere, Twin Bridges.

• 51:32Mel Robbins?

  Give you a big shout out there. And part of it is because we both love being outside. I grew up in western Michigan and was always outside. And Chris grew up hiking and skiing in Vermont and, you know, that was part of our life. And then what happens? Life happens. Kids, work, schedules, sports, bills, aging parents, dogs, homes, responsibility, and little by little...

• 52:00Mel Robbins?

  The things that you used to do, they just somehow slipped through your fingers and drift out of your life. Not because you don't love them anymore, but because you stopped making room for them. And I think that's one of the reasons why I'm so excited about this trip. And I bet there's something in your life. There's something that you used to do. And often when somebody asks you, what are you looking forward to? You think about things that are new. But maybe there's something to look forward to that's you bringing back the old. Something that makes you feel like yourself again. Maybe you need to pick up the guitar. Maybe you need to sign up for dance lessons.

• 52:45Mel Robbins?

  Maybe you need to take a Saturday and go fishing for the afternoon. I mean, what did you used to do that made you feel alive? What did you and your partner do when you were first dating? What did you actually love to do before life got so full? Did you cycle all the time? Chris used to do that. He used to do triathlons. Would you sit in a coffee shop and read for hours? Were you in a book group? Did you play tennis? Did you paint? See, having something to look forward to is important because it reminds you that your life isn't just about what you're dealing with today. It helps you pull your head out of the routine and look ahead and go, oh, yeah.

• 53:29Mel Robbins?

  Oh, yeah, I get to enjoy my life. It makes you feel excited again. It gives you a little spark. So what is it for you that you're looking forward to? And it doesn't have to be something big. Maybe it's a wedding that's coming up. Maybe it's one of your kids that are coming home. Maybe you're playing in a golf tournament. Maybe you're realizing, wait, I don't have anything. And maybe that's why I feel so down. I need something to look forward to. And one thing you could do is you could reach out to friends. It's our 30th wedding anniversary this year. And you know, Chris and I talked about whether or not we were going to do a big party. And one of the things about a big party, they're a lot of fun.

• 54:12Mel Robbins?

  But when you're hosting a big party, do you ever really talk to anybody? No, of course not. Neither do I, because I'm busy throwing the party. And so I said to Chris instead, why don't we just make a list? And let's pick all of our favorite friends that don't live near us. And let's schedule like five weekends where we invite people to come hang out with us. Or we go to them. And so another thing that I'm looking forward to, steal this idea, is we have groups of friends coming to Vermont and groups of friends gathering in other places, five different weekends. And in fact, I'm going to invite you to one of them right now.

• 54:54Mel Robbins?

  Because one of the weekends is August 21st. I am doing something so cool and I want you to come hang out with me. I'm throwing out the opening pitch for the Red Sox. It's a Friday night game at Fenway Park at 7:00 PM. Your friend Mel is going to be on that mound. I'm going to launch that ball. I'm going to be practicing. I want to make you proud, but it's let them night. And our daughter Kendall is singing the national anthem. And you can get tickets and you can come hang out with us. And I would love to have that experience to look forward to with you. And we've got a ton of friends coming into Boston to be able to be at the game that night. They're playing, I know you're going to ask me, so they're playing the San Francisco Giants.

• 55:38Mel Robbins?

  It's August 21st, Fenway Park. Talk about an epic summer night to look forward to. Plus, it's let them night. Plus, there's a bobblehead. Yep, it's the first time in Red Sox history that they are doing a bobblehead to honor a woman. So if you're in the Boston area, or if it's always been on your bucket list to experience Fenway Park and an evening Friday night. Game with the Red Sox in that historic stadium. Come hang with me and then we both have the same thing to look forward to. I've been blabbing on and on. I'm looking forward to the Grand Canyon trip. I'm looking forward to all of these groups of friends that we're going to be seeing.

• 56:18Mel Robbins?

  I'm looking forward to let them night at Fenway Park on August 21st and seeing you there. Now it's your turn. What are you looking forward to? And if there's nothing that comes to mind or there's nothing in the calendar, don't feel bad about that. It's just a cue. It's a cue that you gotta put something in there. And so I want you to pick one thing. Because as I've been yammering on and on and on about camping and about concerts and about just making dates to see friends. Oh, I had another thing I'm looking forward to. My niece is getting married. My niece is getting married in the fall. I'm looking forward to that because we're going to see a lot of family that I really love and I don't see very often. Do you have something like that?

• 57:02Mel Robbins?

  Put it in the calendar and if you don't have something like that, I want you to pick something. What is something that brings you joy? Whether it's something you used to do or it's something that you've been wanting to do. And here's one more thing, as your friend, I want to nudge you to do this. Is there someone else that you could invite to do it with you? Like, is there a bluegrass festival that you've wanted to go to? Is there a tennis clinic that you wanted to play in? Is there a trail that you've been wanting to hike that is just, you know, an hour outside the city you live in? Send the person the text, you want to do this with me? That's it. And if they say no, let them. Then ask someone else. Or go by yourself.

• 57:46Mel Robbins?

  But don't put your life on hold. Don't just stay in autopilot doing the same old, same old. Because here's one thing that I'm going to keep reminding you. If you change nothing, nothing changes. Nothing. If you change nothing, nothing changes. And one thing I want you to change is I want you to have something to look forward to. The research on this is very clear. And I think as you're listening to me and you're thinking about your own life, you're either thinking, well, it's nice for Mel, or you're thinking, God, I gotta get myself back. I gotta have, I gotta host a neighborhood barbecue. I gotta do something. And I'm begging you, the future that you want, the things that you are looking forward to in the future, they start today.

• 58:28Mel Robbins?

  They start by picking a date, picking a thing, making a plan, sending the text, buying the tickets, or just organizing the group that's gonna go on that hike. And you deserve to have something in your life that makes you look up and go, oh, my God, I can't wait for that. I can't wait for that. And the things that are out in the future that you're really excited about are also important because they help you get through the challenges that you're facing today. They remind you of who you are. They remind you that life is more than bills and going to work and grocery shopping and trying to do laundry and trying to answer all the emails.

• 59:12Mel Robbins?

  There are parts of your life that are meant to be enjoyed. But don't make the mistake that I made of just assuming that somehow it's all gonna magically fall out of the sky. If you don't have something to look forward to, as your friend, I'm telling you right now, I don't want you to do another thing after you're done listening to this, but to create something to look forward to because you deserve that. So that's it. I told you, we were just gonna hang out and talk as if we're on a walk today. And let me just remind you of the two things that you're taking away from this episode because these are the two things I'm taking away. First, stop and give yourself more credit. You are doing so much for everybody. You're taking care of everybody else. You're going to work.

• 59:57Mel Robbins?

  You're doing all kinds of stuff, okay? And yet, you're not giving yourself enough credit. Stop measuring your life by the things that you haven't done. Instead, I want you to ask yourself, well, what have I done this year that I'm proud of? That's it. What's one thing that you're proud of? And take a moment to really acknowledge yourself. The second thing that you're gonna take away from this, what are you looking forward to? And if there's something there, just like savor it for a minute. Because if you close your eyes and you think about that wedding, or you think about that trip, or you think about when your adult kids are coming home, or you think about,

• 1:00:39Mel Robbins?

  that's how you can tap into the power to lift yourself up right now. And I want to be clear about something, because this has been a very difficult year, for a lot of reasons. And no matter where you are right now, no matter what kind of year that you've had so far, using these two questions, you have the power within yourself to reset the way you experience the rest of the year. You will tap into the resilience inside of you that's already there, it was just waiting for these two questions, to remind you that, yes, you have the power to feel proud of some of the little things that you've already done this year. You have the power to feel proud of how you showed up for other people, to feel proud

• 1:01:24Mel Robbins?

  of the weight that you've been carrying, and you still get out of bed and you still go to work. You have the power to feel proud that you graduated, or that you got that new job, or that you got through that breakup. Those are things that you deserve to take a moment and go, you know what? Well done. There are lots of things that you have done a great job of this year, and I want you to take a moment and say, well done. And you also have the power to create something to look forward to. And don't underestimate how important that is. Remember what I like to tell you, if you change nothing, nothing changes. And the one thing that you could change is putting something out there that gives you

• 1:02:08Mel Robbins?

  a reason to look forward to the rest of the year, because I want you to have that. And one more thing, in case no one else has told you this, as your friend, I wanted to be sure to tell you, I love you, I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a better life. Answering these two questions, hitting the reset, reminding yourself that there are things that you deserve and should feel proud of, and taking the time to put something out into the future for the remainder of the year that gives you something to look forward to, of course, that's going to make your life better. And that's why I'm so excited that you spent this time with me, because that's what I want for you. Alrighty, I will see you in the very next episode.

• 1:02:51Mel Robbins?

  I'm going to be waiting for you the moment you hit play.

• 1:03:00Mel Robbins?

  Oh, and one more thing. And no, this is not a blooper. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers write and what I need to read to you. This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I'll see you in the next episode.