How to find laughter anywhere (w/ Dan Harris and guests)

Humor is all around us— you only need to be intentional about seeking moments of laughter and joy in your life. In this special compilation episode on humor, Chris shares six short snippets from his conversation with thoughtful guests such as TikTok forager Alexis Nikole Nelson, meditation and happiness journalist Dan Harris, peace activist Aziz Abu-Sarah and more on how they flex their laughing muscles. From foraging mugwort to drawing a stranger for 60-seconds, Chris and his guests encourage you to practice mindfulness and embrace the spectacle of life. Follow Host: Chris Duffy (Instagram: @chrisiduffy https://www.instagram.com/chrisiduffy/?hl=en | chrisduffycomedy.com https://chrisduffycomedy.com/) Guests: Alexis Nikole Nelson (Instagram: @blackforager https://www.instagram.com/blackforager/?hl=en | TikTok: @alexisnikole https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisnikole?lang=en | YouTube: @blackforager https://www.youtube.com/c/BlackForager) Dan Harris (Instagram: @danharris https://www.instagram.com/danharris | Website: danharris.com https://danharris.com) Wendy MacNaughton (Instagram: @wendymac https://www.instagram.com/wendymac/) Laurel Braitman (Instagram: @laurel_braitman https://www.instagram.com/laurel_braitman/ | Website: laurelbraitman.com/ https://www.laurelbraitman.com/) Lear deBessonet (Website: lct.org/shows/people/lear-debessonet/ https://www.lct.org/shows/people/lear-debessonet/) Dave Nadelberg (Instagram: @davenadelberg https://www.instagram.com/davenadelberg/?hl=en | Website: getmortified.com/ https://getmortified.com/) Neil Katcher (Instagram: @neilkatcher https://www.instagram.com/neilkatcher/?hl=en | LinkedIn: @neilkatcher https://www.linkedin.com/in/neilkatcher/ | Website: getmortified.com/ https://getmortified.com/) Aziz Abu-Sarah (Instagram: @azizabusarah https://www.instagram.com/azizabusarah/ | Website: azizabusarah.com/ https://www.azizabusarah.com/) Subscribe to TED Instagram:@ted https://www.instagram.com/ted/?hl=en YouTube:@TED https://www.youtube.com/@TED TikTok:@tedtoks https://www.tiktok.com/@tedtoks?lang=en LinkedIn:@ted-conferences https://www.linkedin.com/company/ted-conferences Website:ted.com https://ted.com Podcasts:https://www.ted.com/podcaststed.com/podcasts http://ted.com/podcasts For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts https://go.ted.com/BHTranscripts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy https://acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 1:22Chris Duffy?

  You're listening to How to Be a Better Human. I'm your host, Chris Duffy. On this show, I have spent the past five years interviewing writers, scientists, and all sorts of experts. And increasingly, I've come to believe that if you want to be a better human, if you want to treat other people better and to live a good life, well, one of the most important things you can do is cultivate a good sense of humor. The world desperately needs more people who are able to laugh at their own shortcomings, to notice absurdity, and to connect with others over a shared delight. And the great news is that we can find humor even in the most unlikely places and situations. So today on the show, we've got a compilation of moments from interviews in the past on our podcast that got deeper into this idea.

• 2:07Chris Duffy?

  The more that you are present and attentive to the things that bring you joy, the times when you are unexpectedly delighted and the conversations and people who leave you giggling and giddy, the more that you'll find that you can really unearth humor anywhere, even in the supposed seriousness and hushed reverence of a silent meditation. Here's a snippet of my conversation with Dan Harris, host of the podcast 10% Happier, talking about the unexpected similarities between humor and meditation. This is one of the ways that you for sure won me over is, you know, I'm a comedian. I really resonate with things when they're funny. I know you don't necessarily identify as a comedian, but you have a great sense of humor. There are hilarious jokes in your

• 2:49Chris Duffy?

  book. There are really funny jokes in your TED Talk. And I think that is not necessarily a thing that I actually associated at all with mindfulness or meditation is funny and laughing, right? Like, I think about them as like zen and kind of like, everything passes me by. But, you know, reading your book and hearing you talk, I was able to see them in a different way of like, oh, laughter isn't the opposite of that. It can be part of it as well.

• 3:15Speaker 02

  Absolutely. Because it's my job now of like, kind of like the beat reporter for Buddhism. I get, I know all of these, a huge percentage of the living teachers today because they come through my show and I write about them in my books. And so I know a lot of these people. Like, I really know them. This, you know, I have dinner meals with them. I do business with them. They sleep over at the house. I really know these people. And they're really funny. They don't tend to emphasize the humor in their public facing work, which I'm not quite sure why that is. I'm a little bit glad because it's created a market opening for me. But I do think that if you spend any amount of time

• 3:59Speaker 02

  Taking a look at your mind, you will have to laugh eventually because it's ridiculous. I mean, the teacher, the meditation teacher that I work with personally, his name is Joseph Goldstein. He's, you know, a great friend of mine and just a huge figure in my life. He uses that word. It comes up a lot because if you are looking at your mind, I mean, it's chaos and it's embarrassing and humiliating. But after a while, you can learn to laugh at it. And I find that that spirit is shot through many of the teachers that I know. The greats don't take themselves seriously because how could you after looking at your mind for an extended period of time?

• 4:39Chris Duffy?

  There's also this thing that I've been thinking about a lot with humor, how you have to be really present to notice the unusual, weird, ridiculous things in the world. Like, a lot of our day to day, we're programmed both by society and just by, you know, the sheer fact that so many pieces of stimulus come at us. If we've seen something a million times, we just ignore it. And yet, when you start to really look at things, that's when you can see the funny. And I noticed that comedians that I know, one of the few things that they all have in common, even if they have wildly different styles, is that they're, anytime they notice something funny or strange, they take a note of it. That is actually quite a similar practice to some forms of Buddhist meditation, to just be noticing and paying attention to the things that go through our heads and

• 5:24Chris Duffy?

  through our perception.

• 5:25Speaker 02

  Gold star. That's a great observation. Observation is a huge part of comedy, and you can't observe if you're asleep. So for sure, there is an overlap right there between comedy and contemplation. Because contemplation or meditation is all about waking up. Because we live our lives in this, in this kind of automatic pilot. And not much can get done when you're in that mode. And sadly, we're in that mode a lot. You know, it's bringing to mind a story about how, and I wrote about this in my first book, where I was on the beach with a friend of mine who's a very successful comedy writer. This was many years ago, but he's gone on to be way more successful. And he spotted me reading a book about Buddhism.

• 6:08Speaker 02

  And he said, I don't think I could go down that path because I need to stay judgmental, because my comedy comes from being judgmental. But I wish that the technology worked that well, that you could start meditating and you're not going to be judgmental or cranky or crazy or whatever, all the stuff. It doesn't, what happens is you just get to be more familiar with the way the mind works. And so I think it can put your comedy on steroids because you can notice the judgment that's going to come inevitably. And then instead of being owned by it, you can make a joke out of it. And that's really helpful.

• 6:47Chris Duffy?

  We are going to have so many more laughter-filled moments on this show, including the comedy that you can find in nature, on stage, and in even the hardest and most challenging of circumstances. But first, we are going to take a quick break for some ads, so we will be right back after this.

• 7:13Chris Duffy?

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• 10:07Chris Duffy?

  And we are back. On today's episode, we're hearing from a range of guests from our podcast about humor. And up top, I told you that I believe that you can find something joyful and hilarious just about anywhere. Well, now to prove it, in this next clip, we are going to find humor in the literal dirt, in the ground where you walk. Here is Alexis Nicole Nelson, talking about the surprising moments of delight that can be found while foraging for wild plants. I also am curious about the times when people are surprised to see you doing what you're doing or foraging, because they just don't understand what foraging is. Like, have you ever had someone spot you foraging and have a really strange or interesting reaction to that?

• 10:50Speaker 04

  Absolutely. My first year making TikToks, I was gathering some mugwort around this time of year. And two women who were just power walking together stopped in their tracks and were just like, what are you doing? And I was like, oh, you know, just gathering some aromatic herbs. I wanted to roast some potatoes tonight, and I needed some mugwort, and here it is. Honestly, it was a great interaction. They had so many questions. And for them, it just wasn't, it was just not something they ever expected to see anybody doing. I think my identity maybe made it more surprising, but even if it was someone

• 11:32Speaker 04

  their own age, I think they would have been really surprised. And those are always really delightful moments when people approach it with just like a childlike curiosity. I love those times. There are definitely other times when people approach it from a point of apprehension, being like, oh, my God, I don't know what that six foot tall, very loud, gregariously dressed black woman is doing. So I'm gonna go ask her about it. But I like to, I like to think that usually I end up changing that apprehension to delight almost every time. It definitely hasn't worked every single time.

• 12:13Chris Duffy?

  I used to teach at an elementary school. I taught fifth grade and I remember so clearly that at one day we were reading a book. It wasn't even a science lesson or something. It was just a book where it kind of came up incidentally and it said like, and they picked the lettuce out of the ground and the kids were like, lettuce comes from the dirt? Oh, that's the most disgusting thing I've ever heard. It grows out of dirt. Which is like hilarious. Of course, like you have to learn that at some point. But, but the other thing is, and I feel like this is maybe, I wonder if this is the, the thing that must not be said in foraging circles, but I'm like, they also have kind of a point. It's a little gross that things come out of the dirt and that they're fed by poop and like

• 12:56Chris Duffy?

  rotting things. I'm like, you know what? It is gross and it's delicious and that's just how things work.

• 13:00Speaker 04

  And that's life, baby.

• 13:04Speaker 04

  It is delightful and it is often icky and there are usually bugs. That's life.

• 13:11Chris Duffy?

  That's a great phrase for life. I put that on a T-shirt. I'll buy that T-shirt.

• 13:17Chris Duffy?

  Obviously even in that short clip, you can already just hear how much fun Alexis is. She's got such a great laugh and, and such a real spirit of play to her work. That ability to do big work while not taking yourself too seriously, that's something that the artists and writers Wendy MacNaughton and Laurel Braitman are masters at. They're living proof that giving yourself permission to be silly and goofy sometimes can foster a real deep creativity. Wendy and Laurel, as friends, they push each other to find delight and joy in the everyday. And together they created something called Attention Club, a group dedicated to encouraging the act of noticing. So much of humor, so much of comedy, of laughter, starts with just paying close attention.

• 14:00Chris Duffy?

  And for Wendy and Laurel, a great way to dive in headfirst is with other people. Wendy often encourages people to look at and connect with a stranger. And at first, just looking at someone you don't know well, that can be really uncomfortable. People often start laughing right away at how absurd it feels, but then it can lead to something really deep. Here's Wendy.

• 14:23Speaker 05

  I ask people to turn to each other, ideally a stranger, or it can be somebody they know, but ideally a stranger, and then draw each other for 60 seconds with two rules. The first rule is you're never allowed to pick your pen up off the paper. And the second rule is you're never allowed to look down at the paper upon which you're drawing. Okay, it sounds totally disorienting. It is, but the actual point of that is that you are looking at somebody closely for 60 seconds without looking away. And moreover, you are allowing yourself to be looked at for 60 seconds. So it creates this immediate vulnerability and openness and exchange between two people

• 15:05Speaker 05

  that, I mean, has led to people becoming friends, you know, or like exchanging, you know, their social media information from different countries and they're staying in touch. But more so, it just takes off this little bit of the armor that we all have. So as we go forward, we're open to that exchange. And then, when you follow that up with a prompt like Laurel gave.

• 15:27Speaker 06

  Describe the last time you were wildly happy. And you told the person who drew you that story and they told you yours. And we had each person take a few notes down on the drawing they did. And, you know, there's nothing like being in a room of strangers while they recount the last time they were wildly happy to each other using all sensory detail. It's so much fun. There is just such an incredible energy and you could do it with someone you know well, you could do it with someone you don't know well. I do think it's fun with strangers, but it's something easy to do even around the dinner table. And part of the reason I think it's so effective is like, the drawing is quote unquote bad, right? Like, you don't look down at the paper. Like, you draw something, it looks like a Picasso, you know, but like, not a good Picasso.

• 16:12Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 16:13Speaker 06

  There's like a floating eyeball.

• 16:17Speaker 06

  It's a very weird thing and it forces you into, oh my God, this was enjoyable. This is actually a quote unquote good drawing, even though this looks nothing like the person. And I think that from the, from that place, then you're like, okay, we've reframed, like, who is bad and good at this? And the point isn't to make it look like the actual thing or the person. And I think that's huge. It goes back to, you know, what we were saying around how to help people, you know, feel more creative, I think, and how they lose it. I think part of it is not just being shamed perhaps by someone in your life saying like, oh, well, that doesn't look like our house. But it's also because you start to have tastes that you can't possibly meet. And so I think that's a part of like, particularly if you're someone

• 17:02Speaker 06

  who loves the creative arts, like, you may love great music, you have your favorite artists, you have your favorite comics, you have, and you realize you're not that good. And so instead of pushing through to get to the place where you find your own unique way of doing it, you're so intimidated because it doesn't look like your heroes that you also shut down. And so I think all of this work is really about showing people like, you know, we're bad forever, all the time, you know, even though those of us who do it as a job. And so any of these kinds of ways where you can make yourself kind of productively uncomfortable or bad in practice is just so much fun.

• 17:41Chris Duffy?

  We're gonna take another quick break and then we will be right back.

• 17:57Chris Duffy?

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• 19:41Chris Duffy?

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• 20:10Chris Duffy?

  And we are back. Today, we are talking about the surprising places and unexpected moments in which we can find humor all around us. Lear Dubesne is the founder of Public Works and the resident director at the Public Theater in New York City. For Lear, one of the biggest joys of her work is getting to create a spectacle, a striking display or performance. But as she's come to learn, spectacles are happening all around us, not just on the stage. For Lear, traveling to work every day in New York City, she's constantly witnessing spectacles. And during our conversation, talking to her about this idea, it made me realize how many memories and how many images I have in my head of extremely silly things that I saw while growing up in New York City.

• 20:53Chris Duffy?

  So I grew up in New York City and I was obsessed for at least three or four years of my childhood with this street performer who performed at the South Street Seaport and her name was The Squirrel Lady. And what she would do, her act was, she would stand on an upturned like mail crate, right? So she just had a little stage. And then if you gave her a dollar, she would take a sleeve of saltine crackers and she would just destroy, eat them like a little squirrel, like just like making, like spraying saltine crackers everywhere. And I was like, that person is Michelangelo. That is my Da Vinci. I was like, that is the greatest genius of our time. And I would beg, constantly beg, like,

• 21:35Chris Duffy?

  can I have a dollar and can we please go see The Squirrel Lady? And to this day, I still think it's one of the most incredible pieces of art I've ever seen.

• 21:42Speaker 07

  This is now a new obsession of mine. And my question is like, is she available? Because I would like her to be in my next production.

• 21:48Chris Duffy?

  My belief is that she retired to some mansion funded by her squirrel performance, but I haven't seen her in literally a decade. So I don't know. But if she was in a production, I would fly anywhere in the world for that ticket. I would certainly go.

• 22:03Chris Duffy?

  Anyway, there is no limit to the types of performers you can find in New York City. But also, more broadly to your point, like in the world, anywhere, there are people who have these like little unusual, strange things that would be perfect for spectacle.

• 22:18Speaker 07

  Yes. And my dream is to sort of walk through life noticing those things and then to ask a person to do like whatever that thing is, to do like exactly that in the production and to somehow create the conditions within the story where that whatever that person is doing makes sense in a storytelling way. That was my dream.

• 22:43Chris Duffy?

  Two people whose jobs involve creating the conditions in which any story can be told are Dave Nadelberg and Neil Katzer, creators of the hit podcast and live show Mortified. These guys help people reframe their most tragically embarrassing childhood or teenage diary entries. And they turn them into gloriously funny, heartwarming stories that they share with a live audience on stage. It is mortifying, it is so funny, and it is an idea that we can all tap into. So I have done stand-up, but I also started, I was a fifth grade teacher. And the thing that has influenced my life most from being a fifth grade teacher is the idea of a growth mindset, right?

• 23:24Chris Duffy?

  That like, almost nothing about who we are is fixed, that you can, you maybe have natural abilities or talents, but that you can build these muscles. And I think a muscle that mortified is so great at showing is the muscle of like, you can build the muscle of laughing at yourself. You can build the muscle of like, taking this stuff and finding it to be funny and transforming it into a strength rather than a private shameful weakness.

• 23:49Speaker 08

  Life is not always kind. You know, it's a very comforting thing, the reminder that we mess up. And like, the end of, at the end of every mortified podcast and stage show, we say, what did we learn? Well, we learned a million things, but most of all, we learned that we are freaks and we are fragile and we all survived. To me, I take all of that to heart. It's not just like a pithy thing, because I think these are valuable. Like, there is a lesson to that. And you could, whether that comes from a thing like mortified, or, or whether you can apply that same logic to a million other things in life. Did I say life weird? I think I did. I think I said laugh.

• 24:27Chris Duffy?

  I didn't even notice that was weird, but I love it.

• 24:29Speaker 08

  I have faith you'll do it better in the future, though. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you. Thank you. Growth mindset.

• 24:35Chris Duffy?

  Finally, to close out this episode, I want to leave you with a piece of a conversation that I had with Palestinian peace activist, author, and travel company founder, Aziz Abu Sarr. Aziz spends the majority of his time thinking and talking about extremely difficult topics, particularly now with the situation in Gaza. But as a person, Aziz is anything but dark and depressing. He's got one of the best senses of humor of anyone I've ever met. And talking to Aziz about that, about the contrast between the seriousness of the work that he does and the lightness of his person, it illustrates for me a really important point, that it is possible to find humor in even the most devastating situation. Not always, and not for everyone. It doesn't mean you have to, or that everything is funny.

• 25:20Chris Duffy?

  But sometimes humor can be more than silliness and goofing around. Sometimes laughter can be a way to momentarily release tension and to find a bit of lightness in the dark. Humor can be a survival mechanism, too. You know, we got to spend a fair amount of time together in Vancouver and I had, it was such a pleasure to get to know you and to see your public talk, but also to have dinner with you and talk casually. And something that I've been thinking about since then, when I think about our interactions, is how there are ways that identity can really get flattened when we talk about these big issues like the conflict in Palestine and Israel. There's this way in which you, for example, can be presented only as this very serious person,

• 26:03Chris Duffy?

  right? This victim of the conflict, but also a peacemaker. But you are also so much more than that. You're hilarious. You're funny. You're complex. You're not any one thing. So how do you personally push back against that?

• 26:15Speaker 09

  It's a challenge I've faced through my whole career. One, I use a lot of humor in everything I do because that's part of who I am. And if I was as brave as you, I would have done stand-up comedy more often. I've done it a couple of times and man, it is so hard to put yourself out there and hope people will laugh in the first 30 seconds of speaking.

• 26:39Chris Duffy?

  Well, certainly if there's one of the two of us that's brave. Maybe that neither of us is brave, but certainly it's not me.

• 26:45Speaker 09

  Ah, you are. You absolutely are. But yeah, I try to definitely show that I am not only one identity. I don't want you to only look at Palestinians with pity or look at us only as victims. We are much more than that. I grew up, like many Palestinians, loving poetry. I started writing poetry when I was seven or eight. It was terrible poetry, but I still wrote poetry when I was that young. I used to call the radio almost every week to read my poetry. Now I'm very embarrassed of the kind of poetry I read on the radio. But that's how our culture is so different than what people think. And often I get like,

• 27:27Speaker 09

  oh, your culture is so much a culture of death, which is not the culture I grew up with. You have people like Sami Al Qasim who wrote... The day I'm killed, my killer will rifle through my pockets and he'll find three tickets, one to peace, one to the fields and the rain, and one to the conscience of a humankind. "I beg you, my killer, do not waste such a thing. Do not ignore these tickets. Take them. I beg you to travel." And I say, that is one of our most famous poets. And it's not a poem about glorifying death. It's telling his killer, in a time where he feels so much conflict around him, "I don't want this to continue. Even if the price is my death, I don't want you to live in this reality."

• 28:11Speaker 09

  And that's what I want the world to know. We're not only victims. You know, even in these hard moments and looking at what's happening in Gaza, and so much death, and so much suffering, and so much pain, if you only see people as victims, if you only see them in one small box, it's much easier also to dehumanize them. It's much easier to not see them as, as normal people who have dreams, who want to be teachers, want to be doctors, want to be comedians, want to be all these things. And that's what I want people to know about me, and I want people to know about Palestinians in general, Muslims, Arabs in America. That's where we start.

• 28:52Chris Duffy?

  That is it for today's episode of How to Be a Better Human. I have been writing a book about all of this that is called Humor Me. It's going to be out in January 2026. But before that comes out, we thought it'd be fun to explore some of these ideas that have been rattling about in my head on this podcast. And we're going to do that a few more times over the next few months. I, I hope that you enjoyed this first taste as much as we did. I had a great time doing this. Special shout out to Morgan Flannery, who was the producer on this episode and pulled all these clips together. And there is so much more to think about and discuss when it comes to laughter, humor, and being a better human. So, thank you so much to today's wonderful guests. I am your host, Chris Duffy, and you can find more from me at ChrisDuffyComedy.com. How to Be a Better Human is put together by a team who are genuinely hilarious delights one and all.

• 29:35Chris Duffy?

  On the TED side, we've got high-level comedic masterminds Daniela Balarezzo, Ben Ben Chang, Michelle Quint, Chloe Shasha Brooks, Valentina Bohanini, Lainey Lott, Tansika Summanivong, Antonio Le And Joseph de Brine. This episode was fact checked by Julia Dickerson and Matthias Salas, who laugh at the very idea of a factual inconsistency. On the PRX side, we've got legends of stage, screen and audio, Morgan Flannery, Norgil, Patrick Grant and Jocelyn Gonzalez. Thanks again to you for listening. You are what make this episode possible. You are what make this whole podcast possible. Please share this episode with a person who you love to laugh with. We will be back next week with more How to Be a Better Human. Until then, take care and thanks again.

• 30:22Chris Duffy?

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