Getting Unstuck

Scott begins by breaking down the business move we’re all thinking about: Lululemon buying Mirror for $500 million. Adam Alter then joins Scott to discuss behavioral addiction during COVID, the power of positive rewards and who should be held accountable for addictive technology, as well as how we should be thinking about the “new normal.” Adam also shares his research around regrets and feeling stuck. He is the New York Times bestselling author of Irresistible and Drunk Tank Pink and an associate professor of marketing at NYU Stern. This week’s Office Hours: Why some businesses can’t join the Facebook ad boycott, pivoting to DTC, and how to land a spot on a corporate board. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:01Scott Galloway?

  Episode 16, the minimum age to get married with parental consent in many countries, including, including Scotland. It's also the legal drinking age in Germany, Belgium, and Switzerland. You gotta love Europe. It's the minimum age at which you can donate blood. This episode's gonna be all plasma, no blood. Hit it!

• 0:29Scott Galloway?

  Welcome to the 16th episode of the Prop G Show. In today's episode, we speak with Adam Alter, Associate Professor of Marketing at NYU Stern School of Business. Heard of him? Heard of him. Who's also in the psychology department. He's a bestselling author, just an all-around, super impressive guy. And we'll be talking about addiction, and we'll also be talking about the regrets we have or don't have at the end of our life. But let's bust right into today's episode, the big news. The big news. The gangster news that fits to all the stuff we talk about in our sprints, the Prop G core sprints, where you have something called the T-algorithm. And one of the pillars of success, when we

• 1:10Scott Galloway?

  disarticulate the components of success for companies that have managed to get to $8 trillion or near $8 trillion, one of them, vertical. And that is, see, K. Prahal, I think his name was, Professor Prahal, University of Michigan, kind of this key business principle that you have a core competence and you outsource everything else. Well, guess what? That shit's been blown out of the water in like a crazy way. And there are very few companies that have amassed that kind of, or created that kind of wealth that don't have, or shareholder value that don't have vertical business models. So, Google makes the product, they deliver it, they offer the support. Apple is in the manufacturer,

• 1:52Scott Galloway?

  they even do their chips now. Supposedly, antitrust action might split up the chip company, which would be kind of interesting. They assemble, they design, they now retail and support. So, if you think about the companies that have gone totally vertical, these are the ones that populate the most valuable companies in the world. So, what did Lululemon announce this week? That's right, they are buying Mirror, a fitness startup for $500 million. Mirror is a connected fitness company that sells a $1,500 wall-mounted machine for streaming workout classes. It's Lululemon's first acquisition and follows a $1 million investment in Mirror made last year. By the way, when a company with, I think they have a $42 billion market cap, makes a $1 million investment, they're not investing. What they're doing is they're

• 2:37Scott Galloway?

  saying, "We want to get under the covers or behind the curtain and to conduct diligence on the company such that we can decide if we want to acquire it or not." Calvin McDonald, who's the CEO of Lululemon, gangster CEO, Canadian guy, so also very, very nice. Is that racist? Is that racist? By the way, I love that. I love the notion that Canada's wondering if they're living in a, living in the apartment above a meth lab. I use that joke over and over and it never gets old. Anyways, Calvin and Lulu have purchased Mirror for half a billion dollars. So think about this. This is about a one and a half percent dilution. And let's assume there's a two-thirds chance it doesn't work, because most two-thirds of acquisitions don't work. It's still a gangster move, because it gives them the opportunity to try and go

• 3:19Scott Galloway?

  further vertical into the home. You can see all kinds of opportunities here for different merchandise, for getting consumer intelligence, for moving to a membership model that might include, that might include not only, not only your membership for your connected fitness mirror, but perhaps, perhaps they start sending you clothes automatically. What do we call that? What do we call that recurring revenue? Bundle? Oh, wait. Oh, wait. Wait for it. Rundle. This is a fantastic move. Going vertical. Lululemon, which by the way, trades at a higher multiple on earnings than almost any other specialty retailer. Why? Because they went vertical. Amazing product, amazing fabrics, amazing technology, athleisure,

• 3:59Scott Galloway?

  which I constantly refer to as douche wear. But still, this company is gangster. By the way, I love their products. I just finally surrendered to Lululemon. I think they make fantastic products. And it was great technical products, not a lot of advertising. Why? Because they've decided to pour all that money into the product, as any company that doesn't have its head up its ass has been doing since the introduction of Google, because people find greatness in products now. But then, then what did they do? First step towards going vertical, open their own stores, really nice, really well merchandised, really well lit in the right neighborhoods, and boom, they're going even further down the supply chain and they're getting into your home. Oh, my God. Mind blown. The props mind is blown. The G-Dog is blown. Lululemon, $500 million acquisition. And

• 4:43Scott Galloway?

  boom, let's check in on the stock. Let's check in in the stock. Oh, what do you know? On the news. On the news. Up 6.5%. What does that mean? That means they made a $500 million acquisition and the markets rewarded them with $2.5 billion. In other words, they just bought this thing for free. Imagine going into Chipotle and spending $9 on a burrito bowl and they give you a burrito bowl and another $18. That's what's happened here. That's vision. That's Calvin McDonald. That's Lululemon. Let's get on with the show. Stay right with us. We'll be right back.

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• 7:36Scott Galloway?

  We're back. Here's our conversation with Adam Alter, Associate Professor of Marketing at NYU Stern School of Business and New York Times bestselling author of Irresistible and Drunk, Tank, Pink. Adam is the star of the Marketing Department faculty at NYU Stern. He is, in addition to being very likeable, which is, let's be honest, very important in any setting, he has done incredible research, two-time bestselling author, a great teacher, relevant research. It's very rare you get the whole package in academia. People are usually great at research, which is unfortunately what most credentialing or most rewards are focused on in academia. But he's also a fantastic instructor. He won Best Instructor and just

• 8:18Scott Galloway?

  generally a very impressive, successful young man. Anyways, our conversation with Professor Adam Alter. Professor Alter, how are you?

• 8:27Speaker 02

  I'm doing pretty well, thanks. How are you, Scott?

• 8:29Scott Galloway?

  Where does this podcast find you, Adam?

• 8:32Speaker 02

  It finds me at home with my family in Connecticut, where I've been for the last four-plus months.

• 8:37Scott Galloway?

  Let's use that as a jumping off point. Talk about addiction and COVID-19 and what is different about our addictions or our behaviors due to the pandemic?

• 8:49Speaker 02

  Well, I think, you know, humans are constantly looking for the most entertaining, most enjoyable thing to be doing with their time. Obviously with some constraints. And during a pandemic, we're dramatically constrained. So there aren't that many things we could be doing. It's pretty tough to enjoy time with other people, to have time face-to-face with other people. For a while, we couldn't really go out of our homes much at all. And so we were restricted to doing things that were inside the home, which basically meant spending a huge chunk of our times on screens, of our waking hours. And so I think what that just did is it, it meant that the opportunity cost of spending time on screens was much lower than it normally is. And so I think a lot of people were drawn to screens for all sorts of different reasons.

• 9:31Speaker 02

  It made the technology that we usually use that's tough for us to resist even more difficult to resist.

• 9:37Scott Galloway?

  Are some screens worse than the other? Are some more addictive? Is TV less bad than an iPad, which is less bad than your phone?

• 9:46Speaker 02

  Well, the screen is, the screen is just a vehicle. It's obviously conveying the content and it's the content that matters. And the content that's been designed specifically to be tough for us to resist is usually on our phones and on tablets. And to a lesser extent, obviously, screens like TVs and laptops and things like that, they have content that we find pretty tough to resist, but nothing like what goes on when you're using, say, social media programs and apps and things like that. So it's, it's much more difficult for us to resist what's going on on our phones. And so when you look at the data, the average American adult spends somewhere between four and five hours looking at a phone every day, which across the lifespan is something like fifteen to twenty years.

• 10:26Scott Galloway?

  And you wrote in your book, you kind of broke down in the book Irresistible, what are sort of the components or the DNA of addictive programming? Can you just break those down for us?

• 10:38Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah, there are a whole lot of different ingredients. So it's sort of like a toolbox and you're picking little tools out and you're embedding these hooks into, into the platforms that become addictive. And the biggest one, I think, is, is intermittent rewards or feedback that is positive, but that's unpredictable. So essentially turning things that we're doing into slot machines where every now and again, you're going to hit some sort of jackpot, some really positive rewards, some positive feedback, but you don't know when that's going to happen. So that might be, for example, posting something online. Maybe several of your posts don't get a huge hit, but then something really hits and, and people respond to it very, very positively. They share it widely. You get a ton of positive feedback. You know, you feel terrific as a result of that.

• 11:21Speaker 02

  So that brings you back over and over again, seeking that, that high again. Building goals into these platforms, things like Inbox Zero, getting to the bottom of your emails, things like hitting a certain count of followers on Twitter or Instagram or a certain number of responses to certain posts. These goals are kind of built in. Everything's metricated. We kind of measure everything and it gives us, gives us something to strive for. That's even true about things like the Fitbit, where you have that chirp that comes after ten thousand steps to say you've reached your milestone, your goal. Um. There's socializing everything, embedding everything with social feedback. So, you know, one of the, one of the things that social psychologists have, have learned over the last hundred years or so is that

• 12:03Speaker 02

  we, we love rewards, but the reward that just keeps on giving that we never get tired of is social feedback. So if you, if you could get people to tell you what they think of you, once a day or two or three times a day, you'll keep going back for more. Humans are never not going to be curious about that. So when you embed a platform with, with that kind of social feedback, it's, it's impossible for us to resist.

• 12:23Scott Galloway?

  Yeah, or several hundred times a day. And I'm, I've also found that personally that um while I loathe people, I'm desperate for their affirmation. And what keeps me coming back to Twitter at least is not only the positive affirmation, which is ninety eight, ninety nine percent of it. But I wonder if the real hook or the thing that makes the positive affirmation more real is I get a, a healthy amount of like very, very negative feedback. And it creates a level of rage and upset in me, and I've gotten better with it. Is desire at least dope a two? Talk about negative feedback and the role it plays.

• 12:59Speaker 02

  Well, negative feedback's really important for a number of reasons. One is that it contrasts, it, it presents a contrast. So you can say when you feel good that it feels good relative to something. And if that something is a relatively very deep, low, a huge trough, that makes the positive all that more meaningful. And also, when you experience that negative feedback, you get this huge dose of motivation to claw your way back. And I think that's when people are hunting the most. That's why you give people a massive loss when they're in front of a slot machine. That's exactly when they're going to double down because they're, they're hunting even more furiously for, for that next hive, that next jackpot. And the same is going to be true about social feedback. In the face of negative feedback, you're going to be hunting much more intently for positive.

• 13:40Scott Galloway?

  Yeah, it's really um frightening just to think about um your own behavior. So we know the social media platforms have taken a ton of time and energy to really understand the addictive qualities and the biomechanics of it and hardwire it into every aspect of their.

• 13:59Scott Galloway?

  Product features and interface, likes, retweets, et cetera. The platform I'm most interested in recently is, and I know you know about this, but Robinhood, or specifically online trading applications where there's confetti, bursting, visual stimulation, rewards, even, even this is my favorite, tap here a hundred times like a rat and you get, you unlock access to a high-yield checking account. And then, most recently with the death of 20-year-old University of Nebraska student, Alex Sterns, who got a, who got a notification from Robinhood that he was down $700,000, even though he wasn't, he wasn't down, and then threw himself in front of a train. Is this an opportunity, I have a couple of questions.

• 14:44Scott Galloway?

  One, what is it about, have you looked at online trading applications? And two, is this an opportunity maybe to step in as we should have done with Instagram and create the link or observe the link between Instagram and self-harm among girls? Is this an opportunity to step in and understand or better understand and maybe even arrest the link between these online trading platforms and mental wellness among our young men? So, Robinhood and trading apps, I'll start, I'll start there.

• 15:11Speaker 02

  Yeah, I, I think so. It's, it's a pretty big concern. I think what you're doing is you're taking an experience or an app that requires a huge amount of expertise to, to really fully understand. And, you know, you're sort of pushing the American dream, this idea that it's available to everyone, you're opening it up. There's some benefit to that, obviously. There's nothing wrong with, with making opportunity egalitarian and, and available to everyone, but...

• 15:36Scott Galloway?

  Learning about the markets, learning how to invest, there's some good stuff, right?

• 15:39Speaker 02

  There's some good stuff there, absolutely. But I think you can easily become blind to the danger of, of taking something that requires great expertise where the downsides are colossal potentially and, and not considering them. So I think when, when the people behind Robinhood put the app together, I'm sure they were thinking, thinking about making it smooth, gamifying the process, turning it into effectively a slot machine. Without really fully paying attention to the worst case scenario. So for me, what every tech company should be doing, and in fact, every single company in the world is is applying some sort of Hippocratic oath to every decision that's going to affect consumers. That'll be consumer facing. So the question is, what is the very worst thing that can happen when I make the next move I'm about to make? It should be the first question you ask, really.

• 16:22Speaker 02

  Because if you don't get over that hurdle, there should be no follow up question. And so the question is, if you're going to say, here, I'm going to make this really catchy. There'll be confetti, there'll be a whole lot of gamified elements. I'm going to show people that for a brief time, they'll, they'll be massively in the red. Although later on in the day, it'll, it'll correct itself. What's the worst that can happen? The worst that can happen is a young guy who doesn't know enough about what he's doing on the platform sees that is hugely distressed by it. And that obviously has major mental health concerns and implications. So I, I, I think you're right. I think this, uh, this should be, there should be a reckoning in response to this.

• 16:58Scott Galloway?

  And what does our reckoning look like? Do we force, do we shame Robin Hood into, and I'm kind of taking this on because I was really shaken up by this kid. Or his death, I should say. I mean, I mean, there's a very solid argument that people have a right to become addicted once they're adults. And there's life lessons in doing really stupid things. And if you're, have a driver's permit and you go out and decide to rent a Ferrari and you get in an accident, that's part of life. And a pulled put option that levers up massively your, your unemployment check as you're in your parents' basement. Well, you know, boss, that's part of life. Or do we, do we need to move in, do you think, with some sort of regulation? Or do we shame them into deprogramming the most addictive components? Uh, what, what do we do?

• 17:43Scott Galloway?

  What are your thoughts on this?

• 17:44Speaker 02

  I, I think one thing we've got to do is we've got to say, where does the power lie here? Um, and if you look at the situation you described, a kid with an unemployment check in his parents' basement who hasn't got a lot of exposure to the markets, doesn't understand the way these things work versus a company with a lot of sophisticated engineers, designers, psychologists, people working to make the platform as, as difficult to resist as possible. I think all the power lies with Robin Hood and it almost always lies with the platform developer. You, as the consumer, are up against an incredible foe and. It's true, there's got to be some personal responsibility here, I'm not denying that. But I, it's, it's kind of like punishing the drug user rather than the person pushing the drug, the chemist, the distributor. You know, those are the people, you always go to the source, you start there.

• 18:28Scott Galloway?

  Right.

• 18:28Speaker 02

  So I think certainly education's important. It's a shame that people are using platforms when they don't fully understand them. But I think a lot of the responsibility's got to lie with the platform. And so then that does mean things like considering legislation. We've already seen some companies boycotting social media platforms because they don't like what those platforms are doing. I think pressure on these platforms, whether it's by legislation or through other means, is, is absolutely critical.

• 18:54Scott Galloway?

  Yeah, it's, I mean, the, obviously, the analogy that was used over and over in the nineties and the aughts was the crack dealer giving out free crack at schools to get kids hooked. And if you go on the Robin Hood app, what is the first thing you see? Get your free stock now, get your free share now. Is there something about our culture, is there something? What is it, is that we figured out human behaviors faster than we figured out regulation? Talk more meta here about our society and, and what is happening and any thoughts on how we, how we get out of this rabbit hole?

• 19:26Speaker 02

  You know, in theory, if what you want from people is money, if you're asking them to pay you, the, the pie can always get bigger, people can get more money over time, the economy grows and so on. And so the pie could keep, might expand consistently. And so that's, that's in some sense a good thing. But I think when the economy is an attention economy, you're resting on time, you need people's time. You need them to devote as much of their day as they possibly can to you. That's a fixed resource. And what ends up happening then is it's not just that you're hunting for a piece of the pie that keeps getting larger and larger and larger. So theoretically, everyone wins in some sense, but it's, it's a zero sum game. And so you have these companies that need you to spend as many minutes with your eyeballs glued to the screen on, on exactly what they're presenting to you as possible. And so I think that creates a sort of arms race.

• 20:11Speaker 02

  And it's a race for sophistication, whoever can design the best, most catchy platform, who can turn their platform more effectively into a slot machine in effect. And Robin Hood's done that, I think, very, very successfully. So it's partly about that. It's about understanding the psychology of how you build a slot machine as the overlay, as the user experience of pretty much every product that exists now. How can you make it as close to a slot machine as possible? But also, if you have access to enough data, you don't need to be a genius. All you need is to just throw, you know, do a thousand A B tests. And your product evolves over time. It becomes the kind of weaponized version of what it was when it was originally released. And so if you happen to be a consumer who gets to that product during its 10th or 11th or 12th iteration,

• 20:56Speaker 02

  how are you supposed to resist it? So I think that's why this economy is so exploitative of its consumers. And it's because you are taking time from people. And that's obviously one resource that cannot be replenished, and that's finite.

• 21:11Scott Galloway?

  And have you seen in your research, have you seen any countries deal with this more effectively than us?

• 21:16Speaker 02

  Yeah, there are countries in Western Europe in particular that are certainly more thoughtful about it than we are. We aren't doing much about this issue at the moment, at least from legislative perspective. France has a whole lot of laws that govern the way, say, email can be used in the workplace and the extent to which you can encroach on people's time outside of that. There are a number of interesting laws in Germany as well that regulate what happens when someone goes on vacation and how you manage email while they're on vacation, so they actually get a true break. East Asia's got a number of interesting laws. I don't think all of these laws are correct, are right, are ideal. I think a lot of them punish the user, going back to that analogy, rather than punishing the distributor or the designer of the drug.

• 22:01Speaker 02

  But these countries are thoughtful and these regions are thoughtful about the issue in a way that I don't think the United States is right now. And so we really should be pushing more in that direction.

• 22:10Scott Galloway?

  So let's talk a little bit about, you and I are both parents. I didn't realize the can of worms I was opening. I was on the beach in Montauk, and I think it was three or four years ago, with my six and nine-year-old. And I filmed my nine-year-old doing a handstand on the beach. And he said, can we post it to YouTube? He had watched stuff on YouTube. And I said, sure, we can. And I think of myself as a tech guy, and I thought it would be a plus. And I posted it to YouTube. And I should have turned off comments and he got a thumbs up and a comment or some sort of positive affirmation. He read the handstand. He said, great forum on the handstand. And by the time we got home, he was asking every 10 minutes if we could check YouTube to see if

• 22:53Scott Galloway?

  anyone had said anything else. And that was the beginning. And then my nine year old, at that time, my oldest, got a little bit addicted to Fortnite. I think the constant feedback, the visual stimulation, for whatever reason, for my boys, it happened at nine. It seems like the age of nine is when they're very vulnerable. And then he grew out of that. We recognized we would go to the beach and all he would think about is getting back to Fortnite. When are we going home? Can we stop by home? And it was obvious that he was just, all he was thinking about was Fortnite, but he grew out of it. Most recently, and it's, it's arguably been the most, one of the most frightening things I've ever dealt with. And maybe that's a function of just how charmed a life I've lived. But my youngest,

• 23:37Scott Galloway?

  who is now nine, is entirely addicted to screens. And you see a nine year old melt down when you take his iPad away. And you see this, just this raw addiction. He doesn't even have the screens to, to see how obvious what's going on is versus someone who's older and probably more manipulative. And it is terrifying. I mean, it is really terrifying. And people say, well, you're a parent. This is your fault. And that's partially true. But when your kid is getting his homework and his class assignments and he's on his iPad for school, all his friends are on it. You know, the only way they socialize during COVID is through an iPad, doing something through FaceTime.

• 24:19Scott Galloway?

  And it has been, like I said, one of the most frightening things we have ever dealt with. What steps can you recommend to parents who have kids who are struggling with device addiction?

• 24:30Speaker 02

  Well, let me just say first, this is, this is universal. I've been running this informal study for a while. It's several years now where I've been asking people of ages, everything from a little bit older than your boys were, so about 13 up to people in their 80s, to make a choice. So you either watch your phone tumble out of your pocket and it shatters on the ground into a thousand pieces, or you can have a small bone in your finger broken. You ask them to make the choice, which would you prefer, the broken phone or the broken bone? And There's just an unbelievably strong relationship between age and how people respond to that. So above about age thirty, the question is taken as a kind of insult. Like, obviously, it's a broken phone is better than a broken bone. But the younger you get, the more people struggle with the question.

• 25:13Speaker 02

  They bargain and they ask follow up questions and they say, when my phone, when my hand is broken, can I still swipe my phone? You know, things like that. And and one response to that is to say, what's wrong with this generation? Have we broken the generation? But I think the the correct response is to say, well, let's try to understand why this is happening. And I think it's happening because psychologically, the things young people in particular get from these phones, especially people in early tween and teenage years, those phones are so central to their wellbeing, their social wellbeing, that their social lives live inside those small devices. So it's it's really easy to see why that's actually a difficult choice. Maybe a broken finger is, is, you know, you'll recover in a little bit. But to be out of the social loop for a while while you have to wait for a new phone, that might be really incredibly painful.

• 25:58Speaker 02

  So I think it's really important for us to understand as parents and just as human beings, what these phones represent. A huge number of really deep psychological needs are being met by them. I think a lot of the, a lot of the interventions, getting back to your question, depend a lot on the age of the kids you're dealing with. I have young kids, my my kids are two and four. And your kids are obviously much older now. You can reason with your kids, you can have certain kinds of discussions with your kids that I can't. But I'm also lucky because I have a lot more control over what they do and I can take devices away in a way that you can't. I think the most important thing is as soon as kids are old enough to understand concepts like balance, that's got to be part of the conversation. One thing I've already started doing with my kids is talking about how, you know, sometimes we eat candy and cupcakes.

• 26:42Speaker 02

  Not very often, though, most of the time we're eating healthy food. And when we think about time and how we spend our time and what we do, being on a screen is is kind of like cupcakes and candy. It's got to be there reserved for the the top part of the food pyramid. It's the top part of the time pyramid. You only do a very little bit of it and it goes a long way. We shouldn't be doing too much of it. So they're kind of starting to learn about this idea of balance, which seems to be helping a little bit. Another thing to do, really, I think, much more practically than that, is to say, there's got to be a certain period of the day or certain periods of the day or the week where You are not living attached to a screen and you know that ahead of time. It's it's a habit. It's something that's it's it's a ritual. So one thing we do is, you know, we try our very best, but around dinnertime, there should be no phones. There should be no screens.

• 27:27Speaker 02

  And that's got to be a hard rule. So what you do is everyone has a little box. They put their phones and their devices in the box. You leave the box as far away from the dinner table as possible. And so you know that is sacred time. And there are other ways of doing this, too. I know people who on weekends, for example, they they'll take their phones at nine AM, put them on airplane mode and only turn off airplane mode at five PM. So they have their phones for, you know, using it as a camera is fine, but they're not using it beyond that. And things like that, if you you make these things habits and um kids are also looking to us to see the way we do things. If we do that, it it does to some extent trickle down. It has a huge effect on the way they behave as well.

• 28:05Scott Galloway?

  You said, or I saw you on CBS this morning, I think, and you said that you everyone talks about the new normal, but you don't buy that. You think that post COVID, whether it's our screens or behavior that's somewhat abnormal because of the pandemic. And once the pandemic's over, loosely speaking, our behavior will kind of regress to the mean. Is that true?

• 28:24Speaker 02

  Yeah, my argument basically is is not that things don't change. If you look at a big enough time scale, I mean, a hundred years ago, everything was different. There's almost nothing that's the same as it was in in nineteen twenty. So I I do think things change. I just think we massively overestimate the extent to which things change in response to shock events in particular. So so this pandemic has has changed our lives in a way that's profound, that was unexpected, that's changed our well being, the way we work, the way we interact with other people or don't interact. And there's something about it that feels profound enough that maybe things will change. People talk about how we're going to be working from home more. People talk about how um maybe the way we interact more will will change. And a lot of a lot of things will be remote rather than in person.

• 29:07Speaker 02

  I don't think that's true, or if it's true, it's going to be to a much smaller extent than we think. So if we have this conversation, you know, five years from now, twenty twenty five, I think a lot of things will look the way they did in two thousand and nineteen. I think a lot of the very profound things that we think have changed. Will slowly or maybe quickly revert back. Uh, that's, that's my general sense. There's this illusion in psychology known as the end of history illusion. And it's this, this sense that we always feel like today is the culmination. You know, this is the point I was reaching with the last five, 10, 15, 20 years, however, many years of your life. And now I've arrived. But today is also part of whatever journey we're on moving forward. Um, and so we always have the sense that things as they are now are crystallized. They're unlikely to change.

• 29:49Speaker 02

  And I think the profound changes we're experiencing during COVID and during the pandemic are they're temporary, they're part of this, this same journey. That's it. This is not the end of time and things will keep shifting a little bit. But I think a lot of the things that we think of as permanent changes now will not be permanent.

• 30:06Scott Galloway?

  I hear you say that and I think I should go about and buy a bunch of REITs or commercial office space because the assumption is offices, you know, office space is going to, the demand for office space is going to drop thirty, fifty, seventy percent. And what you're saying is that's an exaggeration that it'll change, but it won't fundamentally alter. It will still be going back to offices.

• 30:26Speaker 02

  I think so. I mean, I think there's a lot we can do remotely, but there's a lot we can't. And a lot of the magic, I think, is gone. It's tough to create serendipity when you're so far away from other people. These kind of unexpected positive interactions that are, that are unplanned. Nothing is unplanned anymore. Our whole lives are scheduled and, and that's in some sense really good. If you're busy, it's good to have everything scheduled so you can preserve your own time and your own free time. But I think a lot of the greatest ideas, when you look back, this is something I've been thinking about a lot is, is what's the origin of great ideas? What's the origin of, of change, of, of progress? A lot of it happens accidentally, at least at first, that first germ is an accident. And there are no accidents anymore.

• 31:09Speaker 02

  There's just nothing, nothing happens by chance in the same way when you're, you're all behind screens and you've had to type codes in and, you know, make sure the other person's there and check the microphones are working and things like that. It's just a very different environment. I don't know if that's something that workplaces and, and, and managers are going to recognize, but I think innovation to some extent requires that you are around other people in, in a, in the same space at least. I think it's quite important.

• 31:34Scott Galloway?

  That programming you're talking about during the day, the hour long Zoom call, the podcast. I've noticed it especially among young people that they're just exhausted, that whatever the energy is. There are the protein that gets released through walking around the office and seeing people in random encounters and say, hey, let's grab a minute in the conference room. That that actually creates energy in our constant programming. By the end of the day, when I get on these Zoom calls with our team, they all just look exhausted. They look beaten down. So there must be something to that randomness that gives people energy that we're just not giving to each other right now.

• 32:11Speaker 02

  Yeah, I think that's a big part of it. I also think it's the nature of the attention you have to pour into a screen. I have a friend who's a therapist in Australia and I was asking him about what it's been like to be a therapist through the screen instead of face to face. And he told me that after just an hour of therapy, of delivering therapy, he feels like he's had a whole day. And I asked him, what's so different about it? It seems like it's pretty similar. You're still talking to someone face to face. I'm sure you always have to pay good attention to what they're saying. And what I realized is the kind of attention you have to pour into a screen, you can't look off to the side. It looks like you're kind of bored. You know, you don't have the same shared cues. You don't have the same shared environment that signals what's going on.

• 32:54Speaker 02

  If I'm talking to you face to face, I can glance off to the side. My mind can wander a little bit for a second. There's not the same intensity, whereas through a screen, you have to stare at the screen. Your view is so myopic, it's so narrow and focused. There's something exhausting about that. Humans weren't made to do that for hours and hours and hours in the day. And I think a lot of that exhaustion comes from having to exert that kind of very narrow, focused attention for much longer than we're used to doing as a species.

• 33:21Scott Galloway?

  So let's shift to something more inspiring. I love the work you've done around end of life and regrets. Can you talk a little bit about your research and your findings there?

• 33:32Speaker 02

  Yeah, I think this is just a fascinating question. You know, how do you know if you've lived a good life or if you're living life the right way or prioritizing the right things? And I think one way to do that is to ask people who are near the end of their lives. You ask these people, what do you wish you had done differently? What do you think you needed to do more of? How did you waste your time? What things should you have done less of? And what you see is that as people approach the end of their lives, they develop a kind of wise perspective that is not really present for most of us who are just busily running around like headless chickens throughout our lives. And you learn about what's important. And the most important thing, and I don't think it's all that surprising, is the importance of social connection, of time with family,

• 34:15Speaker 02

  friends, of a lot of the things that are quite difficult during a pandemic, actually. That stuff matters the most. Everyone almost universally says, I kind of wish I worked a little bit less hard. I wish I'd spent a little bit more time with with other people that I loved. It's profound in a different way when you're speaking to someone who really doesn't have that much longer to do those things. You get a different sense of it. It's really much more powerful in shaping the way you think about your own life when you hear it from that perspective.

• 34:43Scott Galloway?

  And give us some of the takeaways around the big regrets.

• 34:47Speaker 02

  The really interesting thing is, almost no one regrets the things they did. Almost everyone regrets the things they didn't do. So there's an asymmetry there. The default rule, according to people who don't have much longer to live, is say yes. If you're given an opportunity, the worst thing that can happen is you say yes, it didn't work out, you revoke, you back out, you say I'm done, thanks very much. But letting an opportunity pass by, a golden opportunity, it's interesting how sometimes people are plagued by these occasions where they said no, sometimes for decades of their lives, sometimes for much of their lives. I give a talk to the freshmen at NYU some years where I talk about the importance of having a default rule of saying yes. That doesn't mean overcommitting yourself

• 35:30Speaker 02

  to the point where you're, you know, developing mental illness. That's not good for anyone. But I think having this default rule of saying yes, of being open, of being receptive, is absolutely critical. It's one of the most important things. And the most consistent things that's come across in these conversations is people say, I wish I had not passed up that thing that I could have said yes to. And they almost never say, I wish I hadn't done that thing that I did, which I think is important to understand.

• 35:59Scott Galloway?

  And isn't a lot of it feeding into the reason a lot of times people say no is that they're living, living the life others want them to lead. They have this kind of notion, they grow up with a notion based on their parents and society that this is the life I'm supposed to lead. So if I have an opportunity to go be a Broadway dancer or a Navy SEAL, it's outside that, that swim lane that's been fashioned for me. So I say no.

• 36:23Speaker 02

  Yeah, I think so. I think the life we're leading right now is the one through a series of actions, choices, accidents is just the one of least resistance in this moment. And making any kind of change that involves saying yes is a little bit overwhelming. Humans are obviously resistant to change in general. So I think that's right. I, you may be living this life because someone else thinks it's the life you should be living. You may be living it because it's the easiest one to live right now. And saying yes takes energy. It takes commitment. It takes motivation. But I think when people do say yes, and when it becomes a rule, a kind of habit, you know, let me check this out. Let's see what happens. It tends to work out pretty well in the very, very long run. And what's kind of more long run, more important, more broad than, than saying, you know, across the lifespan, what

• 37:08Speaker 02

  matters the most? Turns out what matters is, is being open, is saying yes, rather than the times when you said no.

• 37:14Scott Galloway?

  What are you thinking about now? Give us some, I, you're, you got two bestselling books. I know you're thinking about a third. Give us, walk us through what you're, some of the ideas you're, you're bouncing around in terms of, give us, give us a preview of Adam Alter's next New York Times bestselling book.

• 37:33Speaker 02

  Yeah. So one of the things I've been very curious about is the fact that we all get stuck. And the fact that when you are stuck, even though it's universal, it feels like, almost like a personal affront. It feels like a glitch, instead of feeling like a feature of the way we live. But when you talk to absolutely everyone, there is no one who at some point doesn't feel that, that you're, you know, whatever you're doing now, you can't see a way forward. When you look at almost every single successful business, there was a moment, or sometimes there were two, or three, or 10, or 100 moments where The business was stuck, the entrepreneur was stuck, the founder was stuck. Something wasn't going quite to plan. And it's not just about business. This is about everyday life. I mean, you talk to parents, you talk to artists, you talk to athletes, you talk to writers.

• 38:18Speaker 02

  You find anyone in pretty much any domain and you'll you'll see that there are these kind of turning point moments, these pivotal moments where where people are stuck. And and the way you deal with that moment is the difference between shining and succeeding and striving for really great things and and not. And so I'm trying to understand that and and trying to understand kind of three aspects of this. You know, psychologists talk about three aspects of the human. There's there's your emotions, your affect, A, your behavior, B, and your cognitions or your thinking, C. So the A B C of the whole thing. So I'm trying to understand the A B Cs of not just dealing well with getting unstuck, but also using it as a kind of springboard to to colossal success. And so I think that's what the next book is going to be about.

• 39:00Scott Galloway?

  And what are it? Have you have you stumbled upon any sort of critical success factors around getting unstuck?

• 39:07Speaker 02

  I mean, there are a ton of them. There are a whole lot of little ingredients. Some of them are, people raise this, have this bar for originality that's incredibly high. When we're trying to do things, we're always trying to be original and different. And I think there's it's critical to differentiate yourself from other people and whatever else has gone before.

• 39:24Speaker 02

  But when you talk to even some of the biggest names in, say, the recording industry and the music industry, you talk to artists, everything is just recombination. And and when you speak to people in the music industry, I think that's the the most kind of pure example. A lot of them will say, there is nothing that's truly new that's available to us now. The building blocks have been used. What you have to do is find a way to recombine. So that's a big one is is working out how to do that, how to break free of the kind of fixed view you have of how things work together. That's a massive part of it, I think. I think also having an experimental mindset is really important. And I've been fascinated with this idea for a long time. You see certain people, they treat life always as a kind of experiment where there are multiple conditions and they're trying different things out constantly.

• 40:07Speaker 02

  They're looking at like the A B C D conditions, which one leads to the best outcomes, then they pursue the one that does the best for them, then they do another experiment on the back of that one. And I think that kind of philosophy goes hand in hand with this idea that you should never stop learning and growing in life, no matter where you are in your life. And it's a huge part of being of getting unstuck, but also succeeding in the face of that kind of that stickiness is constantly making small kind of incremental experimental shifts. And I think that's, that's a really big one as well.

• 40:37Scott Galloway?

  Give us one last, just to wrap up here, Adam, you and I know each other pretty well, not really well, but pretty well, but from all exterior measures, you strike me as a successful person. You're successful professionally, we know that, but you have what appears to be a great relationship with your wife, you have kids, you like what you do, you're in great shape. You appear to be living a successful life. What advice, what one piece of advice would you give to your 25 year old self or other, to our younger listeners? What would you tell them? What would your, what would your advice be?

• 41:13Speaker 02

  It's funny, I, I was stuck a lot in my twenties. I did three or four different degrees. I was pretty unhappy in college for certain periods of time where I, I just, I couldn't find something that I really wanted to do. I think it's really important to work out that, or to understand that, that there is a way through. So part of this, this exploration to understand stickiness and why we get stuck and how to unstick ourselves is, is it, it's a very personal thing that I want to understand it for myself, for my kids. And if you can codify it, and if you, if you can work out a really reliable way to get, to, to break free of that kind of stickiness, a way, like an algorithm that you can just give to someone when they say they're stuck. I think that's an incredible, incredibly powerful thing.

• 41:56Speaker 02

  And it's something that, that I would like to tell my 25 year old self. You will be stuck a lot and that's okay. It's part of the process and you will emerge on the other side and, and things are going to work out okay.

• 42:09Scott Galloway?

  Yeah, I always thought that I would, if I could speak to my younger self, I would say, "Everything's going to be just fine. Just keep on moving, keep on moving." I hear you. I hear, I hear the two-year-old. Adam Alter is an associate professor of marketing at NYU Stern School of Business with an appointment in the psychology department. He's also the author of two New York Times bestselling books, Irresistible and Drunk Tank Pink. He joins us from New York. Adam, thanks so much. It is great. It is great to hear from my successful friend, Professor Adam Alter. Stay safe.

• 42:43Speaker 02

  Thanks so much, Scott. You too.

• 42:45Scott Galloway?

  So if you enjoyed listening to Adam, the good news is that Adam is going to be on the Prof G platform and will be teaching our core marketing sprint. As I mentioned before, one best professor, a best teacher at NYU Stern, and we're fortunate that he is going to be teaching our core marketing principles sprint at Prof G. One more break. Stick with us. We'll be right back.

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• 44:29Scott Galloway?

  Welcome back. It's time for our office hours, my favorite part of the show where I take your questions on anything. If you have a question, submit a voice recording to office hours at sectionfour.com. Roll tape.

• 44:41Speaker 03

  Hey Scott, Alex here from Melbourne, Australia. You've talked a lot recently about the damage companies like Facebook are doing to young minds, algorithms that exploit our weaknesses and lead to addictive behaviors that increase the likelihood of things like depression. But so much of my personal network and business strategies for clients now rely on Facebook's products. And although I may not like it, I really struggle to find an adequate alternative. Knowing there may be sooner competitor to Google on the horizon, and seeing businesses now boycott Facebook, it makes me wonder if we're finally ready for a social network that isn't so evil. So my question is, do you think that now's

• 45:23Speaker 03

  the time? Could this actually happen? And if so, what would that business model be? Who would fund it? And which audience would be the first to adopt it? Thanks, mate. Love your work.

• 45:35Scott Galloway?

  Alex, thanks so much for the thoughtful question. I am hands down moving to Australia. If they ever decide to allow Americans into the country, my experience with Australia is every time I go, I think, why am I not living here? If it wasn't so far, I think we'd all live there. I would say Sydney and maybe Miami, but Sydney's clearly number one. There's no place in the world that brings that kind of cultural collision and grit on an amazing beach. And Melbourne gets overshadowed, but Melbourne is sort of the unkept secret in Western democracies or in the Western world. I don't know if you call Australia the Western world. Anyways, but I digress. I digress. So I think your, your question kind of nails it in that as Facebook has become a utility, if you're a small business person, you have to use Facebook.

• 46:19Scott Galloway?

  There are eight million advertisers on Facebook. They have pixels on every website. They just kind of dominate and their technology and their tools to their credit are incredible. And so the notion that all of us are going to decide to forego our economic security as a small business and our growth because we're upset about Facebook is tantamount to saying, well, I don't like emissions in the air. I don't like global warming. Coal is the major culprit here, so my utility produces most of its electricity and it's a monopoly through coal-fired plants, so I'm going to turn off my lights. Okay, no, you're not. It's a utility. Facebook has become a monopoly or a utility and should either be regulated or broken up. Is there an opportunity for a new social media network?

• 47:01Scott Galloway?

  That's a tough one, just because there hasn't been a social media network of any real girth or have started since 2011, I believe, when Pinterest was founded. It's just that the game is sort of over, if you will. I think it's regulatory intervention. I think there's an opportunity for Twitter. And full disclosure, I am a shareholder to start their hat white and separate or disarticulate themselves from Facebook the way that Tim Cook did when he said that privacy is a fundamental right and announced a bunch of actions, including kicking people from the far right and the far left off the platform who put out incendiary, abusive, false content, misinformation, vaxing, white supremacists, et cetera. Also to clean up all the bots and basically, and then move, I think, to a subscription model.

• 47:45Scott Galloway?

  I think the key around all of this is that the reason that Netflix and HBO don't radicalize young men or don't put out anti-vax mini-series is because it's a subscription model and their underlying business model isn't fueled on rage. And unfortunately, rage starts when you start putting out more and more hateful divisive content. So the key to all of this in terms of social media platforms is that advertising is the tobacco or the shit that gives you cancer. Media itself and social media platforms is just the nicotine. It's addictive, but it doesn't give you cancer. And so the answer here is A, regulation, B, antitrust, and C, moving to a subscription model. I think there's going to be, I'm hoping, I'm hoping that Twitter launches some subscription model.

• 48:30Scott Galloway?

  I think it could be $100 stock if it moved that way and demonstrated that kind of growth. And again, pull the Tim Cook kind of moment and disarticulate away from Facebook. But bottom line is a small business person. I feel you, brother. You gotta be on Facebook. Yeah, so I don't know if these boycotts are really gonna have much of an impact. I worry they're gonna create cold comfort and we're gonna believe there's gonna be progress there. And Facebook will do what they always do, and that is do kind of a two-step, pretend they're doing shit and move right back to the evil corrupt company that they are run by a sociopath and his $2 billion beard. Thank you for the question, Alex. I am so coming to Australia once they open again. Stay safe, brother. Next question.

• 49:09Speaker 04

  Hey, Professor Galley. This is Luke from Deerfield Beach, Florida. You mentioned you want to hear about some unique industries, so here's one for you. I'm the US Director of Operations for Portal Games, an international board game publisher. Most people just don't realize how pick of an industry hobby games are. Hundreds of new games released every month, and our most popular titles are licensed in over 20 languages. Here's the thing. For as big of an industry as it is, for the most part, we're still a three-tiered system, consisting of publishers, distributors, and retailers. As you can imagine, with an industry focused primarily around social products, the pandemic hit us pretty hard. Though online sales channels such as Amazon spiked, brick and mortar stores had to close their doors,

• 49:54Speaker 04

  which led to distributors either slowing purchasing or halting it altogether. This has definitely cast a spotlight on a huge weakness in our industry, but how would you suggest we pivot in a time like this? We do have a modest direct-to-consumer online presence, but it pales in comparison to traditional sales. Do you know any companies that successfully broke the three-tier chain? Oh, and if you have a P O. Box, I'd love to send you some of our greatest hits. I think you and your kids would really like Detective. Nothing brings a family together quite like solving a murder mystery.

• 50:24Scott Galloway?

  Luke, what a thoughtful question and what an interesting way to make a living. We have become much more familiar with board games. We play Risk a lot, which creates a lot of real family agita and dissension when, you know, someone tries to invade or kutzk. But anyways, we enjoy it a lot. We play a lot of Clue. We play Sushi Go. Is that what it's called? I mean, quite frankly, I'm not a big fan of board games, but the boys love them and it's a way to get them off their screens. So, thank you for what you do. I think what you're doing is joyous and noble and doesn't turn our kids into crack addicts. Anyways, I think a lot of brands are struggling with this, and that is what happens when your distribution has an exogenous shock and is shut down.

• 51:07Scott Galloway?

  And the only way out, I would say, is to use this as an opportunity to do what you're probably doing, that is establish some sort of direct to consumer effort, even if it's just collecting emails. But probably the gangster move here would be to get really talented and deft with the platform Shopify. And Shopify is trying to be the non-Amazon Amazon. So according to Barron's, Shopify enabled nearly 6% of US e-commerce sales in 2019, making it the number two online commerce platform behind, you guessed it, Amazon. By the way, if you've seen their stock, it's just crazy what's happened there. I would argue Shopify is probably the most innovative company relative to where they were 10 years ago in North America. They're sort of the rim of Canada, if you will. It's nice to see Canada or a Canadian company creating that type of value.

• 51:52Scott Galloway?

  And Shopify customers in-store sales slid by 71% during the first six weeks of the US lockdown, similar to what you're describing. But they claim they were able to replace 94% of those lost sales through their online stores. So, long story short, thank you so much for what you do. Try and establish or reinvest in direct-to-consumer, even if it's just collecting email addresses. And three, Shopify, my brother, Shopify. Thanks very much, Luke. Next question.

• 52:20Speaker 05

  Hi, Scott. This is Shabani. You've served on a number of corporate boards, and I was wondering if you could offer some tips on how to position yourself to get considered, for one. What does that process look like? What do the qualifications look like? And how does one go about putting their name up for consideration? Thanks so much.

• 52:40Scott Galloway?

  Shabani, thanks so much for the question. I get asked this a lot. I have a lot of people who reach out to me, corporate executives, senior-level people, and they say, "Hey, I would be open to serving on boards." It always cracks me up when companies say that, you know, if we embarrass our board members or we hold them accountable, people aren't going to want to serve on boards. Oh, my gosh, this is a club everybody wants into. I didn't, I started a company, served on the board when I went public, and then I used to raise money and demand board seats, but I wasn't asked to go on boards. I demanded to go on boards, but that's probably not the right way. And now I do get asked to go on boards, but that's probably not a feasible means of getting on a board. How do you get on a board? It's almost like one of those things where if you're asked to get on a board,

• 53:21Scott Galloway?

  it disqualifies you. It's like, you know, few are, many are called, few are chosen. In this instance, few are called, but you have to be called. And I would say that it's putting yourself in a leadership position, which isn't easy to do. A lot of boards are looking for other CEOs, serving on boards of nonprofits and starting to develop some background in governance, publishing a lot of material in your respective field or being known as a thought leader is how I got asked to come on boards and getting your brand out there. There is no, I would call it, algorithm for getting on boards. I will say this, that I have been asked to go on the board of two iconic New York brands. And what's happened with both those boards,

• 54:02Scott Galloway?

  both of them have called me back and said, "We need to hold off because we need to find a woman or someone of color." And by the way, it's about time. So another, that's discrimination against me, let's be honest. But another, you know, 400 years of discrimination against me favoring women and people of color, and they'll be all caught up. But anyway, so I don't, I don't really mind that. But it is a good time to be, have those skills, have those leadership skills, that domain expertise, if you're a woman and/or a person of color. I think we're about to have a long overdue rebalancing of boards, if you will. But anyways, to summarize, putting yourself in a leadership position, which is not easy to do, serving on other nonprofit boards, which are

• 54:43Scott Galloway?

  usually more attainable, at least initially, getting your IP and your thought leadership out there. And, you know, the first board is the hardest one to get on. And then I find, once you're on a board, you usually get a decent number of other offers. The other thing, finally, you could do is reach out to headhunters. There's, there's search firms that just focus on recruiting board members. There's a great company called, or organization called The Boardless, headed by a woman I serve on the board of Urban Outfitters with, named Sue Kinder-Cassidy-Sing, and that focuses on assembling a list of talented women who could potentially serve in board roles. And then she provides that list to companies looking for board members. Thanks for the questions. Sorry I couldn't be more prescriptive or specific, Shivani. Keep sending us your

• 55:26Scott Galloway?

  questions. Again, if you'd like to submit one, please email a voice recording to [email protected].

• 55:40Scott Galloway?

  So Algebra of Happiness, I was really struck by Adam Alter's comments about being stuck or how to get unstuck. And I see a lot of this with young men. And it's not as much, I would almost, I don't know if it's being unstuck or lost. And Adam, I thought, had some great points. And the first is being open to yes. And that is if you're waiting around for the perfect opportunity, or an opportunity that you think your amazing self is warranted, based on what your college or high school or parents have told you, that you're going to be a senator, have a fragrance named after you, and you haven't found your passion. Most of us don't find our passion at a young age. What we find out is that

• 56:21Scott Galloway?

  work is really difficult. But being open to yes, and that is a little bit ready, fire, aim. And that is finding something and going for it. And also, the ability to iterate or pull the plug. This isn't working. I decided I could be an investment banker. There was no reason why I couldn't, even though I had terrible grades. Got a job in Morgan Stanley, which was fantastic and amazing, and I learned a lot. And it wasn't for me. I didn't enjoy it, and I wasn't very good about it. So I wasn't afraid to leave. I also spent a year living with my mom after that, and just didn't know what I was going to do with my life. And then, a couple people, specifically, my girlfriend at the time, and my best friend

• 57:04Scott Galloway?

  were applying to business school. And I thought, well, I can't get into business school. I don't have grades. And my friend Adam said, well, why wouldn't you just try, boss? And I applied, and applied to seven schools, got into two, rejected from five. But that's all you need. You just need one yes. So saying yes, and putting yourself out there, and getting one yes, is the key. And also, just a recognition that everyone faces tragedy. Everyone knows failure. And your ability to move on, your ability to embrace the upset, but then move on, your ability to mourn.

• 57:43Scott Galloway?

  And move on is one of the keys to a successful, rewarding life. I was so moved by the movie Jojo Rabbit. I saw it on a plane and for some reason, whenever I'm on a plane, I get very emotional. I don't know if it's the oxygen mix, but I found this movie incredibly gripping. And at the end of the movie, there's this wonderful, this wonderful quote from the German poet Rilke, which goes something like this, or does go like this. "Go to the limits of your longing. Let everything happen to you, beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final."

• 58:26Scott Galloway?

  I have found that to be so, so right, so true. There have been so many moments in my life where I thought I just couldn't climb out. I was so upset, had disappointed myself and others so much, felt like a failure, had something bad happen to me that I didn't think I could recover from. And the key is, just keep going. No feeling is final. Just keep going.

• 58:55Scott Galloway?

  Our producers are Caroline Shageran and Drew Burrows. If you like what you heard, please follow, download and subscribe. Thank you for listening. We'll catch you next week with another episode of The Prop G Show from Section Four and the Westwood One Podcast Network.

• 59:19Speaker 02

  Sorry, that's my kids ringing the doorbell 100 times. I'm sure you can hear that.

• 59:22Scott Galloway?

  Nice.

• 59:23Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 59:25Scott Galloway?

  Put them in front of an iPad.

• 59:27Speaker 02

  Yeah, that's right. That's right.