Throwback Ask, Tell, Confess: I'm Pregnant - Is My Ex the Father?

We’re off for the holiday week, but we didn’t want to leave you hanging—so enjoy this throwback episode of Ask, Tell, Confess. We’ll be back next week with fresh episodes. This week on Ask, Tell, Confess, a listener drops a full-blown baby-daddy bombshell, someone admits to doing drugs in a crusty Taco Bell bathroom, and Bunnie gets brutally honest about BBLs and the risks no one wants to talk about. The Coven also dives into the beautiful, terrifying, and wildly rewarding chaos of parenting. Watch Full Episodes & More: YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@Dumbblondepod

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:01Bunnie XO?

  Ask a tell a confetti.

• 0:19Bunnie XO?

  Hello friends.

• 0:22Bunnie XO?

  Hello places where the whiskey drums and the beat chases my blues away.

• 0:33Bunnie XO?

  And I'll be okay.

• 0:39Bunnie XO?

  Well, I'm not big.

• 0:45Speaker 01

  Hello guys, how are you? I flared my not. Tach, you got one in the chute buddy. Hey, you were mad at me earlier, yeah. You got one in the chute honey. You got one. He said you were fluffy on me, I'm fluffing on you. Alright, who's ready to kick it off? Okay, I got one. Um, this is from Ari, it's a confession and an ask. Me and my soon to be husband, we went separated before committing at the end of last year. I may or may not have seen an ex in that time, but I'm now pregnant. I've only let my man come close to the possibility. The timing is so scary, but I'm positive it's my now fiance's just a scary thought.

• 1:26Speaker 01

  How do you tell your future husband when you weren't together, you were with someone else around conception?

• 1:34Speaker 01

  That's rough.

• 1:35Speaker 02

  That's not something I would ever want to do.

• 1:40Speaker 01

  Sit him down.

• 1:41Speaker 02

  Yeah, I feel like you're, first off, you need to do that now.

• 1:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:45Speaker 02

  Let's not wait till any closer.

• 1:49Speaker 02

  That's rough.

• 1:50Speaker 01

  You're gonna have to get up a tree. I don't have anything nice to say, so I'm not gonna say anything at all. And I'm not judging, I just feel like.

• 1:59Bunnie XO?

  When it comes to babies and like being pregnant, you don't ever lead somebody on because that is fucking, one, it's life changing to be able to have a baby.

• 2:08Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 2:09Bunnie XO?

  And two, to make somebody believe that a child is not theirs, I think is probably one of the scummiest things you could do to somebody.

• 2:16Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 2:16Bunnie XO?

  So if she's really asking for help, it's a she, right?

• 2:20Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 2:20Bunnie XO?

  Okay. So if she's really asking for help, then you need to come clean and be honest.

• 2:24Speaker 02

  Now, now, like do not wait another second.

• 2:27Bunnie XO?

  I mean, it's still gonna break his heart, whoever the daddy isn't, it's still gonna break his heart.

• 2:31Speaker 01

  But I would, I would sit him down and talk to him and then definitely get a paternity test.

• 2:35Bunnie XO?

  For sure. And you never know, it could be his, but at least the truth is out and.

• 2:41Speaker 02

  You don't want that to happen later on.

• 2:42Speaker 01

  You're gonna have that guilt with you forever.

• 2:44Bunnie XO?

  I just wish women, like what if men did that to women? Like, you know, like in a, just a fake world, what if men could have children and were leading women on to believe that babies were theirs? Like that's just fucked up. And I'm, listen, I'm girl power all the way, but that is just a fucked up situation.

• 3:02Speaker 02

  With all this new like DNA testing and stuff, the amount of families I've personally witnessed be ripped apart because of it. And it's like.

• 3:09Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 3:10Speaker 02

  I mean.

• 3:11Bunnie XO?

  You don't want that baby being born into chaos too. You're just literally passing around generational trauma to your child when you could break it before they're even born.

• 3:19Speaker 01

  Also like health problems, like later on down the line, he could think, you know, like, I'm fine and healthy if this guy's healthy, but it's not really his dad. So like, you know?

• 3:28Speaker 02

  Yep, exactly.

• 3:30Bunnie XO?

  That's so sad. Like the parents that wait until fucking kids get DNA tests on like my aunts' ancestry and they find out that the parents aren't theirs.

• 3:37Speaker 02

  I've been to a friend of mine, she found out that her two older sisters are her mom and dad's. And apparently the mom cheated later on, so she's the baby of the family.

• 3:47Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 3:47Speaker 02

  And I even, she's not, I wasn't her dad and she didn't find out until we were in our late twenties.

• 3:52Bunnie XO?

  So wrong. My dad didn't think I was his, he made me do fucking ancestry.com. He's the one who made me get on it. Bill Carter came to fucking Nashville and made me get on, and made me do a DNA testing with him.

• 4:04Speaker 02

  Not know this.

• 4:05Bunnie XO?

  Yes.

• 4:06Speaker 02

  And not know this either.

• 4:07Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh my God, I didn't tell you guys.

• 4:09Speaker 02

  But that's when he found out like all his history too, right?

• 4:13Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, yeah. So he made me, and I think he made my little sister do it too. I'm not positive, but he for sure made me do it.

• 4:19Speaker 02

  Yeah. How can you deny that you are literally your father? Oh, I know. You and your mom, like when I was finally able to like, you know, spend time with you and your mom together and then you and your dad together. It's crazy to me how DNA actually works. There are things, cause like you don't spend a lot of time, like you're not super close. With your parents at the time and like they are, you know, coming into your life and you're like, you haven't been in your mom's life. Yeah. And you do things that are so similar. Just like her, yeah. It's crazy. No, DNA is fucking insane. Oh, oh, yeah, you, it's like looking in a mirror. Sometimes Olivia says stuff and I'm like, it's so infuriating. You guys are literally.

• 4:56Bunnie XO?

  Oh, you and Liv are fucking twins.

• 4:58Speaker 02

  Yes, a thousand percent. She is me. She's so funny.

• 5:01Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 5:02Speaker 02

  The thing she's. She's Loki me too.

• 5:04Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 5:04Speaker 02

  Swear, these two get together and she's like, tell it to the judge, sister.

• 5:10Speaker 02

  I love her so much. She's like making that um, age turn right now. We're going from eight to nine and that's such a monumental time. Eight to nine is like, she's no longer a child and she's like becoming, not a teenager by any means, but. Tween. Tween. And we are talking about boys and you know, all those kinds of things and it makes me.

• 5:33Bunnie XO?

  Oh, just Wade.

• 5:34Speaker 02

  No, I, I get the prequel of my child's life through you.

• 5:40Bunnie XO?

  When they hit thirteen, they become the fucking demonic devils and they don't come back.

• 5:46Speaker 02

  No.

• 5:47Bunnie XO?

  They don't come back.

• 5:47Speaker 02

  Ever. They're never cute and little ever again.

• 5:50Bunnie XO?

  No, it's, I, I think the saddest thing I've ever realized with Raisin Bailey was she was the, I mean Bailey's always been a little sassy fucking. Trooper, you know, like that's just been her personality from the get, but she was so sweet and just so loving and then thirteen comes around and you're like, who the fuck are you?

• 6:10Speaker 02

  Hormones.

• 6:11Bunnie XO?

  Oh my, she's getting better. Now that she's seventeen, I feel like thirteen to seventeen is the most brutal fucking years. And then she's gonna go away to college. So I'm just like, you know what? Go, we'll be there. We're going to the frat parties. Can't wait. You know, like, hey, Haley too. Let's go. Oh, we're going. I already told Jay, I'm like, I'm gonna be Stifler's mom. Okay, don't fucking play. I'm gonna be the one.

• 6:34Speaker 02

  White claws.

• 6:35Bunnie XO?

  I'm ready. We're going.

• 6:37Speaker 02

  Bringing the white claws.

• 6:39Bunnie XO?

  I got them. Let's go. I'm so ready.

• 6:41Speaker 02

  Lord, that's so funny.

• 6:42Bunnie XO?

  All right. You ready?

• 6:44Speaker 02

  Okay, this one says, I once worked at a Taco Bell and I always get to my shift a little earlier to do my hair and whatnot. And I thought I was alone. Turns out that there was a woman in there as well. I startled by the tapping of a credit card on the back of the toilet seat. Turns out she was doing coke in the bathroom because my boss at the time found residue. Of all places you choose to do coke on a dirty toilet seat.

• 7:08Bunnie XO?

  That's the most blown up bathroom in fast food.

• 7:11Speaker 02

  Saying you choose the Taco Bell toilet to do cocaine?

• 7:15Bunnie XO?

  Early in the morning?

• 7:16Speaker 02

  Get at, well, what if she did night shift?

• 7:20Bunnie XO?

  I don't know how people do cocaine and function. That's the crazy thing. I've, I've snorted cocaine off plenty of bathroom stalls. So I can't be a hater with that. I've even crushed up. I've even crushed up, who knows? I've even crushed up Laura tabs and fucking snorted them off of the back of fucking toilets in like clubs. Okay. So I know, I know. Trust me. Why do you think I'm such a germaphobe now? I saw a video of me the other day rubbing some Vegas performers, like, like, you know how they have performers on like downtown? I'm like rubbing this guy's stomach and then I kiss his cheek and I was like, I was like, how did I do that? Like, who are you? Like, I would never know.

• 7:59Speaker 02

  Gosh, she doesn't even shake people's hands.

• 8:02Bunnie XO?

  My problem is, is how do people do cocaine and then want to fucking function? I can't do it. Cocaine, just without alcohol, makes me want to sit in a corner and rock back and forth and shit my pants. It doesn't feel good. Have you ever done cocaine?

• 8:19Speaker 02

  No.

• 8:20Bunnie XO?

  Hey, Mimi, have you? Yes, no, maybe so?

• 8:25Speaker 02

  No.

• 8:25Bunnie XO?

  No? Yeah. I've done it and it's fucking terrible. I don't like it. Cocaine's fucking gross. I can't do it. And I don't know how people do it unless I'm completely shitfaced, then I can take a bumper ski.

• 8:37Speaker 02

  Because I was gonna feel like that, that's a different feeling.

• 8:40Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 8:42Speaker 02

  Bumper roof ski.

• 8:43Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 8:49Bunnie XO?

  But I'm serious, like anybody who's sober doing cocaine, like, bro, just take a diet pill. You might feel better. I don't know. Cocaine, just the drain, it burns your nose, it makes your teeth numb. Like, no, thank you. I'm good.

• 9:02Speaker 02

  Sound like a fun time.

• 9:03Bunnie XO?

  Yeah. And then people gotta use that bathroom too. God.

• 9:07Speaker 02

  Imagine a little kid get, oh.

• 9:09Bunnie XO?

  I will not touch anything in a public bathroom. I will hover over the toilet. I won't do it at all. What is happening over there?

• 9:16Speaker 02

  Mom brain. She goes, imagine a little kid just walking on. I was like.

• 9:20Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 9:21Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 9:22Bunnie XO?

  That's what you have to think about.

• 9:23Speaker 02

  I will say, you guys, I used to be a big, like, last stall user because the stalls were bigger and I was bigger, you know? Okay, I'm much smaller now, I can use different.

• 9:33Bunnie XO?

  Has the less germs.

• 9:34Speaker 02

  Well, yes, I did learn that on Tyra Banks one time. Yeah. Did you guys see that? Tyra Bank? Yeah. So, but I saw an EMT one time, like, make a TikTok that says, I've found more dead people in a handicap stall of anything. Cause that's where they go to do drugs because it has the child thing.

• 9:50Bunnie XO?

  Nope.

• 9:51Speaker 02

  I never changed my child on one of those ever.

• 9:53Bunnie XO?

  Fuck no.

• 9:54Speaker 02

  Never in a million years put my child on one of those things. They said that's where they find the most amount of drugs and the most amount of OD'd people.

• 10:01Speaker 01

  Well, that and like, you remember when I was talking about the, like, the giant things of toilet paper?

• 10:07Speaker 02

  They would clean off.

• 10:07Speaker 01

  They would clean off their needles in it?

• 10:09Bunnie XO?

  Yeah. So that's fucking disgusting. I'm never gonna use a fucking public restroom.

• 10:13Speaker 02

  No.

• 10:13Bunnie XO?

  Ever again.

• 10:14Speaker 02

  No. No one talks about losing weight in the things you can do. I can sit in like, booths really good at restaurants now. I can use stalls in bathrooms comfortably. It's crazy the amount of things you get to do, like, when you make a big body transformation.

• 10:30Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, that's how I'm discovering with my husband. He's loving it. He's little skinny roll.

• 10:34Speaker 02

  Every time I see him, the other day when he came running out, I was like.

• 10:39Bunnie XO?

  He makes me look huge. Um, Jewel Baby has a question for Bunny. How was your BBL recovery experience? Any pain or discomfort? I'm also a skinny girl like you. I'm not skinny, baby. I'm 163 pounds right now. So I was wondering where they got the fat to make your booty big lol. I got my boobs done two years ago, which wasn't too bad. Contemplating a BBL. I was wondering your experience because I'm scared and it will be painful. Well. He said, hold on. When I got my boobs done, I went out to dinner right afterwards. Like, that's how minimal of a surgery it was. What I got, so I didn't get a full-on BBL. I got fat transferred to the top of my ass. So I didn't get like the full BBL.

• 11:23Bunnie XO?

  I've always had a big ass, but it started to like kind of flatten out on top. So they took it from my, my lower back, actually, and my stomach area. And, um, it was the worst thing I've ever gone through in my life. It took probably about six months to heal, six months to a year to heal. And I almost passed out because I had so much fluid leaking out of me. I woke up out of that surgery with the highest blood pressure I've ever had. My heart rate was in like the 200s. I remember looking at my doctor and asking him if I was gonna die because it was so bad. Uh, my dad came to visit me a couple of weeks after I had the surgery. And I tried to go eat dinner with him and I just had fluid just pouring out of me

• 12:07Bunnie XO?

  to the, the point where I thought I was gonna faint. Um, it's really uncomfortable. It's not, uh, it's actually a really scary surgery to have. You can actually die from having a BBL. And my high school weight was 140 pounds. I've always been like a thicker girl. And I appreciate you saying I'm skinny. Everybody's body holds weight differently. Um, but I've always been like a thicker girl. And since having my BBL, it is so hard to keep weight off. I literally have to lift weights four to five times a week. I eat so fucking strict and so clean. Granted, yes, I'll have cheat meals here and there, but the majority of the time I eat really, really

• 12:49Bunnie XO?

  healthy and I'm still 160 pounds. Granted, a lot of it's muscle now because of how much I work out, but my normal range is about 155 to 160 and it's so hard. Like your body completely changes. It changes the whole chemistry of your body. Whereas before I was kind of like lanky and like barely had any hips on me. Now I have childbearing hips. Like I literally am so against BBLs and I don't think anybody should get them.

• 13:19Speaker 02

  Well, and that fat is already going away. Like the girls who got the BBLs are now getting the lipo to remove the fat that they put in those places. That is a literal fad surgery.

• 13:31Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, it is. And I know everybody's like, well, you got it done. And I'm like, absolutely. And that's why I can sit here and tell you, do not get a BBL. It is not worth it. One, it makes your, thankfully, my doctor, Doc Vegas, shout out Dr. Korsanyi in Vegas, did such a phenomenal job on my body. Like when I tell you, he did so good. But a lot of girls are very unfortunate and it disproportions their body. It doesn't look good. A lot of the time, the girls asses don't match their legs.

• 14:02Speaker 02

  They look like ants.

• 14:03Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, they're shaped like wisdom teeth. Like it's really bad. Yeah, that's what they call it. They say that they're shaped like teeth.

• 14:11Speaker 02

  I've never heard that.

• 14:12Bunnie XO?

  Yeah. And I'm not saying that to clown them, but that's what they say.

• 14:15Speaker 02

  Yeah. I've never heard that. I heard the ant. Because, well, I only say ant because that was like a trend at one point. Like people were literally asking for their bodies to look like that.

• 14:24Bunnie XO?

  No, it's so bad. And I've seen another thing on TikTok where people are talking about BBL smells. My ass has never smelled, ever. I don't know. I don't know if it's because the girls are getting their asses too big and they just can't keep up with it. Or like if it's just smells because it is so big, but I've never had that problem. So that's the only thing I can agree on with like getting a BBL is like if as long as you don't get too crazy, you don't have that problem. But yeah, definitely. I don't think it's worth it. I think it's a fat. I think natural bodies are so beautiful. That's why I had my implants removed. And I don't know, it's I we as women, we always want what we don't have. And I get that. I understand that. But I promise you, and I preach this all the time.

• 15:08Bunnie XO?

  No, what you want in your twenties is not what you are gonna want when you're forty five. I promise you that. So just if you're gonna get it done, research the doctor very well. Look at what his patients look like six months to a year after they get it done. You know?

• 15:26Speaker 02

  I was gonna say, also, see if you can do it in another way. Like, if you're wanting a bigger butt, you can work out and get a bigger butt. Like,

• 15:32Bunnie XO?

  Absolutely.

• 15:33Speaker 02

  You see so many girls are like, this is what I started with versus this is what I have now. And that's more controlled. You know, like you were able to add muscle in places or lose in places. Like, there are other options.

• 15:45Bunnie XO?

  And absolutely, at no, under no circumstances get shots in your ass. Do not do this. You can get, they have this thing where you can get shots in your ass now instead of, instead of doing a BBL or fat transfer. And these girls are getting like lumpy asses and like, it's just so bad because it's filler. Filler literally migrates. You don't know where that's going. There's blood vessels back there. Like, you just, you guys just have to be really, really careful. And yeah, so just know that if you do get a BBL, you will have an extra twenty pounds on you, no matter what. It doesn't matter. And there's so many, like, I am so fortunate because I've only had to have one fat transfer done. And one high def vaser lipo, and I did this in two thousand fifteen. So I mean, ten years ago, I did this.

• 16:30Bunnie XO?

  And I've been able to maintain it. Most women have to do multiple surgeries because they do not have the, the, you know, they don't, they don't work out. They don't eat right. They think because they're skinny right now and like the fat got taken out that they can get another one. And the more lipo you get done to your stomach, the more it jacks it up, like, Listen, I'm against plastic surgery. Even though I have had everything done, that is why I'm against it.

• 16:55Speaker 02

  You're against, I was gonna say you're against it because you have a personal experience with it. That's a completely different outlook than most people just never having it done and feeling some type of way about it.

• 17:04Bunnie XO?

  Yeah, absolutely. So I, it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but if you are gonna get any body work done, go to Doc Vegas in Las Vegas. Dr. Korsandi, he's fucking hot and he's just the sweetest soul ever.

• 17:18Speaker 02

  So sweet.

• 17:18Bunnie XO?

  You will love him. Good human man, like just love him to death, so.

• 17:22Speaker 02

  Mm-hmm.

• 17:23Bunnie XO?

  Yeah.

• 17:23Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 17:23Bunnie XO?

  Alright guys. Bye.