837 Set Yourself Up For Success

NOTHING HAPPENS EASILY. If you want to make real change in your life, you have to know it’s going to be uncomfortable. Everything has its process. You’re going to feel scared. You’re going to have growing pains. That’s part of being a human. But your ability to make mistakes and still stay true to your goals will determine whether or not you make it. You have to take it one step at a time. You have to surround yourself with people who share your belief system. And you have to be honest with yourself. Little by little, your self-confidence will grow, and you’ll be miles away from where you started. For this Five Minute Friday, I revisited a conversation I had with Gabrielle Reece where she shared strategies to increase your belief in yourself. Gabby is a world-renowned athlete, New York Times bestselling author, wife, and mother. Together with her husband, surfing legend Laird Hamilton, Gabby is an avid proponent of empowering people to take responsibility for their health and a truly authentic example of healthy living. Gabby has become a role model for women worldwide regarding how to achieve peak fitness, good health, and overall well-being for themselves and their entire family. Gabby says that you need to create the infrastructure around yourself to be successful. Learn how baby steps will help you reach your goals in Episode 837. “When it can be easy, allow it to be easy.” - @GabbyReece In This Episode You Will Learn: How to create an infrastructure around yourself to be successful (1:30) Why baby steps are the most impactful (2:00) Why you have to surround yourself with people who have similar messaging (3:00) How to make a safe space for you to fail (4:50) If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes and more at http://www.lewishowes.com/837 amd follow at instagram.com/lewishowes Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is Five Minute Friday!

• 0:09Lewis Howes?

  We have one of the greatest women's beach volleyball players of all time, Gabby Reese here, and she's also a successful model, actress, writer, and fitness expert.

• 0:25Speaker 01

  This is the thing, is how do you create infrastructure around you to be successful? Know your weaknesses. If you don't want to eat it, don't buy it at the grocery store and have it in the house, right? Say, "Okay, that's a go-out-to-get thing," right? So, I always say, on the nutrition side, take out your worst thing. So if you're a smoker, would I say to you, "Stop smoking"? No, I'd say, "Could you smoke less? Just today, could you smoke less?" Right? If you eat Twinkies, could you take that out of your diet? And just substitute, like, the three sodas, could you have one and drink water? Is it finding ways, baby steps, to kind of deal with the pillars? I gotta move consistently and eat, and eat well, to support my belief system.

• 1:06Speaker 01

  Because I can't get there through here and through here if I feel miserable. I just think it's very difficult. So I think that that's one thing. I think having the understanding that everything sort of has its process, and so, nothing happens easy. I have not had one thing in my career, in my relationships, parenting or otherwise, just happened easily. Now, they happen, and they're pretty good, they've never happened easily, right? So it's going into things, when you're integrating your belief system, know that it's gonna be a little bit of work. Doesn't mean you have to beat yourself up, that's the other side, though. When it can be easy, allow it to be easy.

• 1:51Speaker 01

  And who you surround yourself with, right? Your belief system is still a reflection on the people around you. So, I'll give you another example. Laird will have people around him, if they're his same age or younger, and they'll go, "Oh, well, yeah, 'cause now I'm 48 and I don't do that." They gotta go. They're in the way. They gotta go. Because for Laird and his belief system and what he's trying to accomplish, he can't be around those kind of people. So if you are trying to create a situation where you feel good about yourself, you have to have people around you that their messaging is similar.

• 2:22Lewis Howes?

  Can't be nagging you or talking about...

• 2:24Speaker 01

  Or like, "Why do you think you can do that?" Or "That's gonna be really hard." They could say, "It's completely doable. What's your plan of action? It's gonna be tough, but you can do it."

• 2:32Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 2:33Speaker 01

  You cannot have people go like, "Why do you think you can do that?"

• 2:36Lewis Howes?

  Questioning you.

• 2:37Speaker 01

  Correct. They gotta go. So I think it's all of these things and seeing this. But then understanding that, you know, and I'm not a particularly religious person, but there's a verse in the Bible that says that God knows each hair on each of our heads, right? Is it understanding each of us is special and has a special voice and a special mission? But we have to just believe in that and understand what that is, but be honest with ourselves. Not, "Hey, I'm gonna do X to make this dollar." Or if you are, be honest about that.

• 3:05Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 3:05Speaker 01

  Cool. Or, "Hey, I'm gonna do X so I can get this attention." Like, it's just about understanding why you're doing things. And sometimes, like, for example, I do photo shoots that I know why I'm doing it. It's to get attention. And certain jobs, it's to get money.

• 3:19Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 3:20Speaker 01

  Right. But be clear and be honest. Because if you're not, then you don't, you lose control and you don't really know why you're doing things and then you don't, you lose yourself.

• 3:28Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 3:29Speaker 01

  You gotta be straight up. So I think it's that too, but creating a really good environment. And when you feel scared and you doubt, know that that's part of being a human.

• 3:39Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 3:40Speaker 01

  And having a safe place.

• 3:41Lewis Howes?

  Don't beat yourself up, right?

• 3:42Speaker 01

  No, have a safe place. It's like people who are trying to eat better and they blow it one day. Get over it. It's okay. Tomorrow's another day. That's the great thing.

• 3:50Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 3:50Speaker 01

  You know, it's like, we don't need to wait to New Year's to start over.

• 3:53Lewis Howes?

  New Year.

• 3:54Speaker 01

  You can start tomorrow. You can start over.

• 3:56Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I love that approach.

• 4:03Lewis Howes?

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