How to Feel More Alive in 2025 with Transformation Expert Mimi Bouchard

If you want to transform any area of your life but don't know where to start, this is the episode for you! We are joined by Mimi Bouchard, founder of the Activations app, to discuss the most effortless way you can start to manifest money, love, and more. She shares her story of transforming her life and what led her to start the app (hint: no meditation required), and we discuss things that numb you vs. things that make you feel alive, how to act like your future self even in the smallest moments, reducing your screen time, and our personal favorite, manifesting during sex. Before Mimi joins us, we're sharing our individual goals for 2025, our one (very specific) shared goal, our listeners' (always amazing) goals, and how we're leaning into unhinged joy. Happy new year! Follow Mimi on Instagram @mimibouchard, listen to her podcast Mimi, check out her website, and preorder her book Activate Your Future Self. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more info. Thank you to our partners this week: Activations: For a limited time, get a massive discount off your subscription at activations.com/gge. AG1: Get a welcome gift with your first purchase at https://drinkAG1.com/gge. Quince: Get free shipping + 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/GGE. BetterHelp: Get 10% off your first month at https://betterhelp.com/gge. Rocket Money: Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  It's not this far distant goal in the future, in this life that you want. Like, you can live it now while it's happening.

• 0:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  This podcast is a Dear Media production.

• 0:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Hi, guys.

• 0:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  Hi, guys.

• 0:26Rayna Greenberg?

  Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat.

• 0:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Happy New Year.

• 0:30Rayna Greenberg?

  Happy 2025. Welcome.

• 0:33Ashley Hesseltine?

  Not happy January 6.

• 0:35Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh, it's January 6. I was like, it's January 2, actually.

• 0:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  If you celebrate that.

• 0:40Rayna Greenberg?

  You could too, not now.

• 0:41Ashley Hesseltine?

  Shouldn't be listening.

• 0:44Rayna Greenberg?

  How are you still here?

• 0:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  If you're celebrating today, this podcast is not for you. So, yeah, this episode will be dedicated to what happened at our Capitol four years ago.

• 0:56Ashley Hesseltine?

  New day, we don't want to think about that. New year, new day, new year.

• 0:59Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, you're not as fucked up as I am today. I was not ready to come back to work. I am in this vortex. I mean, we haven't, I mean, we work really hard and we've gotten a lot of places the last, like, couple of weeks, but January 2, I didn't know. I'm not ready to come back to work.

• 1:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, so if you guys are curious, we are recording on January 2nd, day after New Year's Day. Okay, so I don't want to tell you this because I really don't want to brag or rub it in, but my New Year's Day was the least hungover I've ever been. I, actually, I wouldn't even say I had a hangover. That's the best I've felt maybe ever.

• 1:30Rayna Greenberg?

  I-

• 1:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  In your whole life? On a New Year's Day. I usually get drunk on New Year's Eve. Like most people, like, I don't get drunk a lot. You know that. I usually really hit it, New Year's Eve.

• 1:42Rayna Greenberg?

  When you are okay on a January 1, it is a day you will remember forever. I remember the one time I was okay on January 1 and it was, it was 2021. Me, you, Bobby and Izzy went to that Mexican restaurant and got obliterated.

• 1:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  During the day. Yes, you're right. We did wake up, not that hungover, one year, and then we got wasted that day, which actually is tough because then you're, then you have another day of like not starting the year fresh. But, I mean, we had a fun New Year's Eve. I hosted a comedy show, so I wasn't really drinking during that. And I guess you were pounding tequila.

• 2:16Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, if you'd consider a, a double tequila with no, no, nothing else, that was how I started the night. Just double tequila with lime, nothing else. No water, no soda, just mozzarella sticks and tequila.

• 2:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  The mozzarella sticks slapped.

• 2:32Rayna Greenberg?

  But I had so much fun at your show. I really just like, I love an activity on New Year's.

• 2:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, it was really fun. I liked doing comedy on New Year's. And then we went to this very glamorous New Year's Eve party at Gravitas in Beverly Hills, which is this private club. And we're gonna talk more about it because we might be recording from there.

• 2:48Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 2:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, we kind of transitioned studios. And it was incredible. And it was probably the fanciest party I've ever been to.

• 2:54Rayna Greenberg?

  There was just a lot of tuxedos. I mean, everybody was in like, full glam.

• 2:58Ashley Hesseltine?

  Cause I was like- I was gonna say the shrimp.

• 3:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  You were like, there was a lot of black tie. I was like, but the shrimp-

• 3:04Rayna Greenberg?

  There was-

• 3:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  A shrimp station hates to see me come in.

• 3:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Multiple floors. I was like, okay, how cheesy would it be if I asked for a Teggo box? You know they weren't gonna eat all that shrimp.

• 3:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  I know.

• 3:13Rayna Greenberg?

  That was the nicest, biggest shrimp I've ever seen. And also, I didn't know what to wear, because like, we went to a comedy club first, and then we went to Gravitas, which was black tie. So I was like, how do I reconcile these outfits?

• 3:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  Brittany was in jeans. I was like, you look like the most famous person in here.

• 3:26Rayna Greenberg?

  Rolling Stone t-shirt and jeans.

• 3:28Ashley Hesseltine?

  And a hat that said, "Tell your dad I said hi." I was like, you're an icon. Everyone in here takes themselves very seriously, especially tonight. Okay, let's thank our partners, which we have not done.

• 3:37Rayna Greenberg?

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• 3:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  And thanks to AG1. New subscribers get a free gift when they sign up at drinkag1.com/gge. And Rocket Money. Cancel your unwanted subscriptions at rocketmoney.com/gge. And activations. For a limited time only, get a massive discount off your subscription at activations.com/gge. But yeah, I just want to say, I woke up like, 8:30 in the morning, ready to go. And for the second time in a week, I thought you might have died.

• 4:17Rayna Greenberg?

  You've checked on me a lot this week. You called me.

• 4:20Ashley Hesseltine?

  Raina!

• 4:21Rayna Greenberg?

  What did you think happened?

• 4:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  Cause you dropped me off. Abnormal behavior from you!

• 4:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, I'm up early, actually.

• 4:27Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, yeah. Like, I'm sorry. I think that we should all be concerned about our friends when they're abnormal. They live alone.

• 4:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  You've had a lot of people in and out of that house that could have abducted you.

• 4:38Rayna Greenberg?

  That's true. I rekeyed the locks.

• 4:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, it's just like, there's been two times when it's late in the morning and I haven't heard from you and I should have because of certain things that I have sent. And then Sparkle Eyes is like, well, check, see if she's viewed your stories. You know, he's on the case too.

• 4:52Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh, no, totally. I wouldn't disrespect you by doing that, by the way. I'm not some fuckboy man. I wouldn't be watching your stories and not responding to you. That is so disrespectful. Imagine doing that.

• 5:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  But you just, yeah, you were not okay.

• 5:04Rayna Greenberg?

  I was not. Yesterday, I don't think I responded to you till like 12:30. It was really a rough day. Well, okay, so I had the craziest thing. I told you yesterday was the craziest thing happened. So I sound fucked up today. Yesterday, I woke up and no sound would come out of my body. I've never experienced this. Like, I could speak at a whisper, nothing else. I couldn't like, crack out a sound.

• 5:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, that's my nightmare. I'm straight to the ER. To imagine not talking, I've never lost my voice. Even when I got my tonsils out, I was talking within 30 minutes. They were like, she's a medical miracle.

• 5:32Rayna Greenberg?

  Yes.

• 5:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like, I have to talk. I talk for, I can't, I couldn't, if I just couldn't talk one day, I'd be like, call an ambulance.

• 5:38Rayna Greenberg?

  It was a insane feeling. Like, I was trying and nothing would come out. And I like, tried to voice note you and I was like, this sounds crazy because I'm whispering. I can't like, send her this.

• 5:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, I would have been like, ew, too sexy.

• 5:48Rayna Greenberg?

  I know. It was sexy. It was so weird.

• 5:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Ew, if you sent me a whispering voice note.

• 5:53Rayna Greenberg?

  It was like, hi, Ashley, I don't know what to tell you, but I can't do the podcast tomorrow. I didn't know I was gonna be able to record today. And I was like, I have worked through so much over the last seven years. Like, I will get surgery and like, a couple days later, like, we can record the podcast. Like, I have gone on stage not feeling well, the bad things have happened in my life, we'll still record. I was like, this is, Tessa's gonna have to do the podcast with you.

• 6:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, I would welcome it, because Tessa ended the year with a bang.

• 6:19Rayna Greenberg?

  Lots of bangs.

• 6:24Rayna Greenberg?

  And we have never been more proud of her.

• 6:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  Anyway, so Boston was great.

• 6:30Ashley Hesseltine?

  Everybody gets laid in Boston. No, to close the loop on your voice, it's back.

• 6:34Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, it's back. I Googled how to get your voice back.

• 6:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  Did anything inspirational showed up? It's like how to find yourself.

• 6:42Rayna Greenberg?

  How to get your inner voice.

• 6:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  How to leave a bad relationship.

• 6:45Rayna Greenberg?

  So that actually segues into what we're talking about today. No, I was like, how to get your voice back. And I was like, I'm about to get like blown away with advice. This is crazy. And the advice was drink water.

• 6:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 6:53Rayna Greenberg?

  Who is water's publicist? It's like, no matter what your problem in life is, I swear to God, the internet just says drink water.

• 7:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  I'm obsessed with this because they know that you were just a drunk ass bitch. Like, I swear the internet is like, that bitch is dehydrated and she got wasted last night. Drink some water, bitch.

• 7:10Rayna Greenberg?

  Less cigarettes, more water.

• 7:11Ashley Hesseltine?

  Less cigs. That's the theme for 2025. Remember when I found cigarettes in your bag?

• 7:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  I found Marlboros in Raina's bag just a few months ago. It was Q4.

• 7:26Rayna Greenberg?

  I told you guys I cried a lot between like September 19th until like mid-November. I had like seven weeks of a lot of crying and I was smoking cigarettes.

• 7:33Ashley Hesseltine?

  We were in this green room and I thought I needed something out of your bag. I needed a pen. So I'm like, do you have a pen? You're like, yeah, it's in my bag. I'm like, this bag with the Marlboros in it?

• 7:42Rayna Greenberg?

  I have never been more upset. I mean, I would have rather you found meth and coke than a bag of cigarettes in my bag.

• 7:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's so funny because if I would have pulled out a little bag of coke, I'd have been like, okay, Raina. But I was like, what are these Marl- they're not even Marlboro Lights.

• 7:54Rayna Greenberg?

  No, they were Marlboro Lights.

• 7:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  They were Marlboro Reds.

• 7:56Rayna Greenberg?

  No, that's not true. And be honest, Ashley, I've never smoked a red. That's crazy.

• 8:02Rayna Greenberg?

  Sometimes I have a little secret cigarette. I don't tell you about it, but I was having a bad couple of weeks. So they were coming with me on the road.

• 8:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  Less cigs, more water in 2025.

• 8:15Rayna Greenberg?

  I just thought maybe Tessa would want a cigarette after some of her activities. So I brought them on the road with us.

• 8:25Ashley Hesseltine?

  Tessa, at 9 a.m., when he left her room.

• 8:32Rayna Greenberg?

  Imagine, imagine Tessa knocked on my door like, hey, can I have a cig?

• 8:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, but we were all on the same floor. If I would have went in the hallway and he would have walked out of her room, I would have lost my mind. I would have had to call for help. I would have been all on the floor.

• 8:46Rayna Greenberg?

  If you didn't wake me up immediately so we could both go to her room together, I would have been so mad at you.

• 8:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my God. It is funny when we stay on the same floor because I walk by and I hear what you're playing and it's always like Jason Derulo.

• 8:57Rayna Greenberg?

  One time it was Jason Derulo, okay, and I'm on shuffle.

• 9:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, it's hot in here.

• 9:03Rayna Greenberg?

  It is hot in here.

• 9:04Ashley Hesseltine?

  But we just want to say we wrapped the tour up and it was like really so special and that was the end of an incredible tour and the end of shows for a while. And it was in Boston, which was such a special city. And it's obviously like where I met my fiance and things like that. But we performed at the Wilbur and we don't have to say too much about it, but we had the Celtics dancers and the drum line and it was just incredible. I mean, we did three shows. We loved all of them so much and had so many people there and our team. And we just, you know, want to say thanks again for you guys for coming out to any show you came to on the No Crumbs Tour. And we just had a great time in Boston. We always do.

• 9:38Rayna Greenberg?

  Yes. Love you guys. That last show really like wrapped the tour up so perfect. For us, it was my favorite show of the tour. I just thought it was like so special and to have like Sparkle Eyes and Ryan and Tessa and Alex and like we just were so lucky to have the people that work with us.

• 9:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 9:51Rayna Greenberg?

  And it was just so special. So, thank you guys, as Ashley said, for any shows you guys came to.

• 9:56Ashley Hesseltine?

  And then we went to Delaware for Christmas.

• 9:58Rayna Greenberg?

  I really had the best time.

• 10:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  It was good. It was so fun. I mean, I was ready for Christmas to be over. I will never do this again. I did Christmas trees, music, movies, vibes for six weeks straight, and I will never do that again. It was an overload. It was an overcorrection. I thought I wanted. I don't need it that long. And so by the time Christmas came around, I was like, I'm so done.

• 10:21Rayna Greenberg?

  And on Christmas, what your family was like, was like, we're gonna do the Christmas gauntlet. And much cooking and cleaning and gift opening is possible. I mean, it was just, it was Christmas max.

• 10:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes. But it was, it was so great. And if you guys are new around here, we do this appetizer contest on Christmas Eve and everyone makes an app and then we vote and there's winners and prizes and.

• 10:43Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yet again, Raina got second and you get second every year.

• 10:46Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, cuz Matt wins every year.

• 10:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, Buck won twice.

• 10:50Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, I really look forward to it all year. I just get like so, so, so excited. I like when we're all in the kitchen together cooking. Like I just, that was not my experience growing up. That like I, that everybody could like be making a mess and joking around like all together in a kitchen. And so that's like really nice for me. But yeah, I get second place every year. This year I was excited. Sparkle Eyes gave me the idea. I made a crab ragoon egg roll. And I made this like dipping sauce that was like ginger, kind of like a sweet chili sauce with like extra ginger. And I really loved it. It was really good. I accidentally bought the wrong kind of egg rolls. I got vegan egg rolls, which I didn't notice until after.

• 11:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  I'm gonna stand by what I said. I think you need to perfect this recipe and bring it next year and win with it. They were a little too big. They were giving hot pocket.

• 11:34Rayna Greenberg?

  They were big.

• 11:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  And I was like, they need to feel more like a roll.

• 11:38Rayna Greenberg?

  They were thicky. They were thicky thick.

• 11:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like you could only eat, I ate half of one. I was like, I gotta save room.

• 11:44Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 11:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  I think you perfect this till you win with it. It's a winner. It is a winning dish.

• 11:48Rayna Greenberg?

  I got a whole new thing for next year. I've already decided what I'm doing next year.

• 11:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 11:52Rayna Greenberg?

  I like to start with new stuff.

• 11:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 11:53Rayna Greenberg?

  But anyways, that was really fun. Of course I lost to Matt, but I mean, if I'm gonna lose to anybody.

• 11:57Ashley Hesseltine?

  Matt in his home.

• 11:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, Matt in his home.

• 12:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  It was good. It was so great to hang out with my nephews and they just like love you so much.

• 12:05Rayna Greenberg?

  I love them.

• 12:06Ashley Hesseltine?

  It was a really special Christmas.

• 12:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 12:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  And then we came back to LA. My fiancee came back with me. We did a little couple of days trip to La Jolla in San Diego and then we came and we did New Year's and now we're here.

• 12:19Rayna Greenberg?

  It's just been a nice end of the year. And I really was reflecting on last year. I feel like two weeks ago on the episode when we were talking like for Christmas, I was like, oh my God, how much more can I talk about my house? And everything that happened. But I was like going through my camera roll and feeling like really excited about this year that we've had and all the people that we got to be around and all the shows we got to do. And I just feel like we had a really special year and I'm very excited for this year.

• 12:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  Me too. If, you know, the world doesn't end.

• 12:42Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 12:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Let's keep it light.

• 12:43Rayna Greenberg?

  I

• 12:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's January 6th, let's keep it light.

• 12:45Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah. Listen, I'm really excited for this year. It's gonna be a great year for us.

• 12:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Your house is unbelievable. I hate my house now. I like was worried this was gonna happen because it's just like to to leave your house and go to my house. It's to let down.

• 12:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, you didn't buy a house yet.

• 13:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  I know.

• 13:00Rayna Greenberg?

  Buy a house and you're gonna have your dream.

• 13:02Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like Sparkle Eyes, who is what we call my fiancee, if you're new here too, if you're if you're new here, welcome. If you're just like, you know, 2025, new podcast, I'm gonna, I'm gonna do it. We're

• 13:10Rayna Greenberg?

  We're happy to have you guys.

• 13:11Ashley Hesseltine?

  So we went over to your house and when we got back to my house, I was like,

• 13:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  he was like, you need to stop. He was like, you're spiraling. I was like, my house isn't as bright. I hate my kitchen. I hate this.

• 13:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, thank you. Well, you didn't buy something yet, so you'll buy something and make it your own. But I finally moved into my house and I feel like really emotional about it. It really is just like, this is what all the work was for. This is what running two companies is for and being on tour. And you and I, I don't want to be like, we kill ourselves, but we work really hard and I'm really proud of it. And like, this is what it's all for. And I feel really excited. I've worked really hard round the clock since we got back.

• 13:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes.

• 13:49Rayna Greenberg?

  Unpacking boxes and the renovation went incredibly. And I just want to like plug my renovation company one more time. It's called Realm. My girlfriend Liz owns the company. They help you source and find contractors and manage the project. And she and her company found me the greatest contractors. I love them. Not only did they give me my dream home, but they made the process just so amazing. I mean, they were just dependable and fun and good looking.

• 14:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 14:15Rayna Greenberg?

  I mean, I just

• 14:16Ashley Hesseltine?

  They can fuck. I'm kidding.

• 14:18Rayna Greenberg?

  TV day.

• 14:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Great head.

• 14:21Ashley Hesseltine?

  Huge dicks.

• 14:23Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, if you want to fight, so do you huge dick.

• 14:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's how you review them. Like the dick was fire.

• 14:29Rayna Greenberg?

  And they made an amazing butcher block for my kitchen. Yeah, I mean, I just, I couldn't have been happier. I love their company. I'm gonna make a reel this week of the renovation and post it so that you guys can

• 14:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  Ooh, not another reel.

• 14:39Rayna Greenberg?

  Are you so proud of the reels of the one reel I made?

• 14:41Ashley Hesseltine?

  You did one for your moving company and it was like your first voiceover reel. And what I liked about it is you still sounded like you because I think sometimes people do voiceover reels and they take on a different voice, which is fine. People have like different voices for different things, but You know, sometimes people can sound a little too sexy or try hard. I don't know how to describe it. It's like not their natural voice that you're used to. And it's weird when it's your best friend and they put on a different voice. So I saw that and I was like, what's it gonna be? And you were just like, natural and you're so you.

• 15:10Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, I thought about it a lot. Thank you. I appreciate you saying that because I think the old style was like vocal fry or be like really excited. And you're like, that's not what somebody sounds like. And then I think the pendulum swung to people sounding a little low energy. And you're like, but that's not what you sound like either. So I was trying to sound normal.

• 15:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  Normal.

• 15:25Rayna Greenberg?

  But I'll make a reel and I'll do Instagram stories of the renovation because it turned out so beautiful. And I really could not have done it without Realm because I mean, I just, I don't know where I would have found contractors. And they found me a bunch of people to give me bids and I really trusted them and they were phenomenal. So it's my dream to move in there and you and Brittany are going to come over. And at this point, it would be last night, watch the Globes, watch Nikki host. And it just feels really nice. And I'll talk about my goals for the year later, but one of my goals is to just get better at home improvement projects. If I can't lift it or reach it, I'll hire somebody. But I want to learn how to like do stuff in the house. And I painted some stuff, like I painted a wall and I taped off everything myself. And I was like, this feels nice to have like done this myself.

• 16:04Ashley Hesseltine?

  You can do, anyone can do it. Like, I mean, I know people learn those skills, but a lot of people who do these things also just YouTube them.

• 16:12Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 16:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  Some people just do it, just go for it. I mean, I know there's a different levels of all the types of like contracting and carpentry. I'm not trying to diminish that, but like some of the stuff like we think we can't do it and you absolutely can. Yes, super heavy lifting and stuff you can't get to, but it's just like YouTube it.

• 16:27Rayna Greenberg?

  Our videographer built his entire van he lives in by watching YouTube videos. And listen, I don't, I'd hire a plumber if I needed plumbing or electric. But like, I was like, I can paint this wall. I can tape this off and like do a good job myself. And I was like proud of it. I didn't have to hire somebody. So that is one of my goals this year is to just do home improvement projects.

• 16:43Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 16:43Rayna Greenberg?

  Anyway, so thank you for what you said about the house and I'm so excited to just have you there and Tessa and Azul.

• 16:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  I'll be there all the time.

• 16:49Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 16:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Azul.

• 16:50Rayna Greenberg?

  Azul's coming house. This house is more pet friendly than the last one. Yeah, this house is more pet friendly except for the one couch.

• 16:57Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 16:57Rayna Greenberg?

  But the rest of it is mostly concrete floors.

• 16:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 16:59Rayna Greenberg?

  So it's actually fine.

• 17:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  Azul can come, put on wax.

• 17:03Rayna Greenberg?

  Yep.

• 17:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, so we talk about our goals?

• 17:05Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 17:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 17:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, so talk about your goals for the year and your theme for the year.

• 17:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  And again, like Raina and I are very, we're like loose with resolutions. Like obviously the last episode we did, we're like, oh, we didn't achieve our goals, which. Some we did. I just, I've always been a like, here's what I'm thinking. But it could change.

• 17:22Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 17:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  We love to change our minds.

• 17:24Rayna Greenberg?

  So I made a Google Doc of mine last year and it was nice this morning to like run the tape on them and be like, I did some of these things and that's like something to be proud of.

• 17:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 17:33Rayna Greenberg?

  You know, like it's nice to just like be able to look back and be like, was I intentional about my year? And some of these things. I was.

• 17:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, and you just also don't have to.

• 17:41Rayna Greenberg?

  No.

• 17:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like, I think I just saw a headline that Jennifer Aniston said she doesn't do resolutions, like, we're already too hard on ourselves, like we don't need to be doing this, which I, that's all I saw. I just saw like one headline. So I don't know like the full context of it, but it's just like also fine if you don't. But I have a few things I want to achieve this year. So I am focusing on my stand-up. So I, I plan to tour my, on my own and go out there and do shows and like run this material. That's always been my goal and to shoot a special. So I'm just gonna say it out loud and that is the plan. I mean, I have my material. I have been doing some of it. I'm so excited about it. It is completely different than it was obviously last time I toured in 2022.

• 18:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  And like hardly anything has stayed the same, you know? So again, if I do announce a tour and you've come before, you're gonna see the totally new hour, the hour that I would shoot a special with. It just has a really nice theme surrounding it and our agent came to the show. He's also my personal agent. He came to the show on New Year's Eve and he was like, I love this. This is so great. This is so different. And I just feel really excited about it. Like I have loved doing stand-up for so many years, like 10 years. But this feels like different. This material feels different. It feels like it has a real purpose, which not that it didn't before, but a lot of my reason for doing stand-up was obviously to get on stage and make people laugh. And I have fun doing it and it's cathartic, you know, especially it's very cathartic to have like a crazy or bad hookup story

• 19:11Ashley Hesseltine?

  and be able to go on stage and make people laugh about it. I mean, comedy is therapy for me and for a lot of people. But this just feels like really purposeful and meaningful and special and funny, obviously. And I'm so excited to get out there and do it.

• 19:22Rayna Greenberg?

  I've watched you just change and excel. And just get better as a comedian since I met you and you were always great at it. And you get better every year and the material changes. And I took all the time. I don't really, I don't really love going to watch comedy anymore. I just, I've done so much of it and it's like I, you're so good at storytelling. And I hate this like joke punchline observational humor. It's so forgettable to me like your storytelling ability is really great. And I'm just, I'm really excited to just watch you go do this thing on your own. And like just watch you succeed by yourself, only you, you and your brain on a stage. I just think it's gonna be like really exciting.

• 20:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  Thank you.

• 20:03Rayna Greenberg?

  I just want to manifest a Netflix special and I want you to make a ton of money. And then I want you to buy us a place in New York.

• 20:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, fine. No, that is the top, obviously. I mean, there's obviously different types of specials you can get, but yeah, that will be the goal. But just, I, I want to shoot one by the end of the year and I'm planning on getting married. I'm gonna become a wife. I'm gonna put it in my Instagram bio. Wife.

• 20:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Podcaster and wife. dildo salesman.

• 20:27Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, nothing about our businesses. It's gotta be wife, dog mama, faith, family, football.

• 20:36Rayna Greenberg?

  Dog mama.

• 20:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  Family first, God first, very blessed. Uh, no, so yes, I'm gonna become a trad wife this year.

• 20:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's my bridal era, you know, that's what we're doing. That's the plan. I wanted to in tandem do the special and the wedding. And that's a crazy thing, but if I could do that, it would go together.

• 21:01Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, I'm amped.

• 21:02Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, if I can figure out how to kind of work that.

• 21:04Rayna Greenberg?

  Tess will figure it out. Yeah.

• 21:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  Tess has got this. Okay, guys, I'm almost done. Those are the two main things.

• 21:09Rayna Greenberg?

  I'm all, there's two things. Actually, it's like, stick with, stick with me, guys.

• 21:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  I think those are pretty big.

• 21:14Rayna Greenberg?

  This is really funny. You're like, I'm gonna wrap this up soon, I promise.

• 21:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's a shortlist.

• 21:18Rayna Greenberg?

  All two of these.

• 21:21Ashley Hesseltine?

  This one is the most major.

• 21:23Rayna Greenberg?

  What?

• 21:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  Get my pussy lasered for good.

• 21:26Rayna Greenberg?

  Last year I had laser on my list and now I had to put it on my list again.

• 21:30Ashley Hesseltine?

  I'm gonna tread lightly the place we've been going. We are dissatisfied. I have to do a full shave. I have done eight sessions and I have to shave my fucking pussy and I'm so mad.

• 21:40Rayna Greenberg?

  So mad.

• 21:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  Every time I look down, I'm mad. I have voice noted you before and be like, I just looked at my pussy and I'm fucking pissed off.

• 21:45Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, that's how I feel. Do you know how many times I had to truck my ass over to West Hollywood, come to Venice?

• 21:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes.

• 21:51Rayna Greenberg?

  Do you know how much I fucking hate coming over here? Listen, I love West Hollywood. It's great. But I don't want to drive over here to do a four-minute laser session eight times with no results.

• 21:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  I don't know what they got going on. I think the lasers are weaker. Yeah. I'm down for the pain. Like if we need to, if we need to go to laser away or whatever the fuck is the most painful, intense lasers, powerful laser. Yes. We will white knuckle it in a room together. We'll get couples laser.

• 22:16Rayna Greenberg?

  If you are not bare pussy'd onstage filming a Netflix special, I'm gonna be upset.

• 22:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's what it's gonna be called, just bare pussy, bare pussy bride.

• 22:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  But like, I know how laser is supposed to work. I got my arm, my underarms done.

• 22:34Rayna Greenberg?

  What's supposed to work?

• 22:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  Eight sessions 10 years ago, you know, like no hair since. I don't have coarse hair. Like, we're good candidates for it. It has not been working and we're fucking pissed. And we're not gonna name any names, but we need to go somewhere else. Okay, I wanna get Lasik. So I am not yet a candidate for an upper eye bleff, so I'm gonna do something for my vision, not my cosmetic looks.

• 22:57Rayna Greenberg?

  Bleffs are hot in 2025.

• 22:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  I thought I was gonna get an upper eye bleff, but we talked to Dr. Barrett. He was like, I wouldn't do it yet. You don't really need it. Well, I thought I did. So I'm gonna fix my eyes somehow this year. Either it was gonna be cosmetic or it was gonna be vision. And so I think I'm going vision. And so I do wanna get Lasik.

• 23:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  And I want to be on my phone less. I say this every year, but we talk about it a lot today with Mimi. And I read a stat that said we spend an average of two and a half months of the year on our phone. And that's only five hours a day, which easy math. We could have figured that out on our own. But five hours a day on your phone equates to two and a half months of your year on your phone. And, you know, I want to be gentle with myself. Like, we do a ton of work on our phone. Like, when I look at my screen time, I'm like, how many hours were we texting with our team? Or, you know, messaging and emails and things like that. But I really want to stop with like the mindless scrolling and the wasting the months of my life on my phone.

• 23:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  And especially now, I have a real thing other than, obviously, the work that we have to do with two of our companies. But like with the stand-up, like I can be thinking of like jokes and finessing the set and, you know, going through kind of the layout. Like, I want to be like, if I feel the need to mindlessly scroll, like I can do that. Or pick up a book, you know, we need to time off too. Yeah. But do anything but that. And so I'm going to really work on that. And we talk about it a lot today with Mimi, and we're really excited for you guys to listen to this episode. We found her to be really inspirational, and there's just a lot of great takeaways. It's the perfect episode for the new year about manifesting and picturing your future self. And you can help do this with her app called activations, which we will talk way more about when we have her on. But we just found it to be really impactful, and we loved hearing her story

• 24:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  and the way that you can achieve certain things. And it doesn't have to be that hard. Of course, you'll see what we mean, but just in terms of at least to start with visualizations and manifestations. And again, we're going to talk about her app and how you can utilize that. But just like really shifting your mind to at least get in the right mindset of bringing abundance, love, wealth, health, whatever it is, to you. So we will talk with her shortly. But again, we have a deal for you guys, and we will talk about it with her more. But you're going to be able to try the app activations for 14 days, risk-free. And then there's this huge discount off your subscription. And to get that deal, you're going to go to activations.com/gge.

• 25:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  And that is only going to be applicable to you guys, the Girls Got to Eat audience. And it's only available through the website, not the App Store, which we will say again. But we just want to give you a heads up that we're going to be talking about today. We hope you guys enjoy the interview. And then, of course, we have this deal for you on the app.

• 25:37Rayna Greenberg?

  I love your goals.

• 25:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  Thanks.

• 25:38Rayna Greenberg?

  They're measurable, actionable, achievable, all the things. I mean, you really took forever with your two goals.

• 25:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  Sorry, guys.

• 25:46Rayna Greenberg?

  But I think you're gonna do both of them, your major ones. I think you're gonna get married.

• 25:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 25:50Rayna Greenberg?

  And I think you're gonna shoot special. And I-

• 25:52Ashley Hesseltine?

  The special comes first.

• 25:54Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, but listen, we'll do them both in tandem together. And it's gonna be great. So I think that your goals are great and we'll look back and you will really be able to say, "I accomplished every goal." Really, the main thing with this is to have less goals so that you can definitely do them.

• 26:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Exactly. I didn't put any travel on there. I was like, it might not be, it might not be a travel year for me.

• 26:13Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 26:13Ashley Hesseltine?

  I was literally like, I wanna put a trip on this list. And I was like, I don't know. I, I'm gonna travel, of course, but like, nothing, say, Italy. I'm like, maybe that's not in the cards this year. If we get, maybe that's our honeymoon. Maybe we get married at the end of the year. We don't do that. Like, I just was like, nothing is speaking to me, so why force it? So, of course, we're gonna travel, but like, I'm taking that off my list.

• 26:31Rayna Greenberg?

  Just, let's be open-minded.

• 26:33Ashley Hesseltine?

  Exactly.

• 26:33Rayna Greenberg?

  Let's be open-minded. So don't put stuff on the list because if you don't achieve it, then you didn't achieve your goals.

• 26:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, I can always hear your list.

• 26:39Rayna Greenberg?

  I mean, my list is not that long. I was looking at last year's list and I had a lot of, a lot of actionable things. I did some of them. This year, my theme is enjoy my shit.

• 26:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 26:47Rayna Greenberg?

  I just, I wanna enjoy my shit.

• 26:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 26:49Rayna Greenberg?

  I wanna be in my house and enjoy the house.

• 26:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 26:52Rayna Greenberg?

  I wanna enjoy my body.

• 26:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh.

• 26:54Rayna Greenberg?

  Last year on my list was like, stop being so hard on myself and saying such negative things about myself. And I think I did do that. I think I talk about how hot I am all the time, and I mean it.

• 27:04Ashley Hesseltine?

  Raina is not faking it until she makes it. She made it.

• 27:07Rayna Greenberg?

  I made it. I get hotter every year. I don't know how I did it. I'm almost 40 and I get hotter every single year. What?

• 27:13Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's money.

• 27:13Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, I just, it's plastic surgery, actually. I know exactly how I do it.

• 27:18Ashley Hesseltine?

  This just happened. I don't know, I've just, it was manifested. No, it's the surgery.

• 27:23Rayna Greenberg?

  Dr. Daniel Barrett is how I've manifested it.

• 27:28Rayna Greenberg?

  But yeah, I want to enjoy my body. I want to be excited about my look. I want to enjoy my pussy. Get a laser. I want to fuck more.

• 27:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  I like our joint goal.

• 27:35Rayna Greenberg?

  The vagina. Yeah, no, it totally is. I want to enjoy my family. I want to FaceTime with my nephew at least once a week. I just want to like enjoy my shit.

• 27:43Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 27:43Rayna Greenberg?

  And I think that I can, I think I can do this goal.

• 27:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  Wait, I'm, I think I can do this goal. Your goal is just like, have fun.

• 27:52Rayna Greenberg?

  That's the goal.

• 27:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Just ride on vibes.

• 27:54Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, just hang out. I just want to hang out.

• 27:56Ashley Hesseltine?

  I just want to have fun. You have my pussy laser.

• 27:59Rayna Greenberg?

  I just like want to enjoy my pussy and my money and my house. And that's my goal.

• 28:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  I just want to walk around my fucking mansion with my pussy out and not be mad about it.

• 28:12Rayna Greenberg?

  I told you on the way over here, you'd like my goals.

• 28:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love it.

• 28:16Rayna Greenberg?

  Like, I think we're all really hard on ourselves about our goals. Like, what if we just woke up and thought like, my goal this year is to enjoy my shit.

• 28:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 28:22Rayna Greenberg?

  And that's, that's what I'm doing this year.

• 28:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 28:24Rayna Greenberg?

  Also, last year I said that I was going to become a sex therapist and I meant it and I did pay for those classes.

• 28:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 28:30Rayna Greenberg?

  So this year I'm gonna do it.

• 28:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay. I love the wink. Yeah. But if you're not enjoying it, fuck it.

• 28:35Rayna Greenberg?

  If I'm not enjoying it, I'm gonna stop.

• 28:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  Actually, it doesn't align with my goals. I'm not enjoying school. So I'm gonna quit.

• 28:42Rayna Greenberg?

  What if I emailed them and I was like, listen, I know you guys have like-

• 28:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  Is this gonna be fun?

• 28:45Rayna Greenberg?

  Thousands of dollars of my money, but I'm not enjoying this shit. So if I could get a refund. They're like, ma'am, that's not a reason for a refund.

• 28:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  To whom am I concerned? This just like, isn't that fun? It's just not really aligning with my goals this year. So, could you Venmo me back?

• 29:01Rayna Greenberg?

  Venmo me. I put it on my list to do the sex therapy courses unless it's not fun.

• 29:07Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 29:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Unless I'm not enjoying it and I'm not gonna do it.

• 29:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 29:13Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love that.

• 29:13Rayna Greenberg?

  Those are really my goals. I'm gonna spend a little more time manifesting this week because I spent all day yesterday trying to survive. But, you know, I didn't really, I, travel's not really a big trip is on my list. I mean-

• 29:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  I know. That's how I felt too.

• 29:25Rayna Greenberg?

  I mean, we travel a lot.

• 29:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 29:27Rayna Greenberg?

  And I want to have like a huge birthday party in June and like plan a big thing, I think in the Hamptons and have all of our friends come out.

• 29:33Ashley Hesseltine?

  Big year for you.

• 29:34Rayna Greenberg?

  It is a big year. I'm gonna enjoy my shit.

• 29:38Rayna Greenberg?

  And then, okay, my only, my only work goal is that we start doing Vibes Only events.

• 29:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes.

• 29:42Rayna Greenberg?

  And that is our like joint work goal and Tess will work on them with us and you know, we said that we were gonna pivot what touring looked like and so hopefully we will plan some really fun stuff for you guys that are sex and intimacy based.

• 29:54Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, yeah, exactly. I mean, we didn't stop touring because we didn't like it, you know? It was just we want to pivot and we did it for a long time and we want to do something different. We never want to not come see you guys and meet you in real life.

• 30:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 30:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's our favorite thing to do. Okay, well, I love those.

• 30:11Rayna Greenberg?

  Thank you. I love yours. Yeah, I think we're gonna do it.

• 30:13Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I think we're gonna do it too. I also just thinking like, when it comes to travel, like, I don't know, I have these like big trips on my bucket list, but you know, I'll get to them when I get to them.

• 30:23Rayna Greenberg?

  You've always kind of been like that. I've always been like making this list and I gotta get to all these places and you've always been a little more lax, like, I have time, yeah, I will take the trip. And it has made me get a little more calm about it too.

• 30:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, you know, you would hope that you would just make more money as you get older and you can have a better experience, you know, or different experience at least. There's something to be said for, you know, traveling with not a lot of money and, you know, that as well, especially when you're younger and backpacking and all that. I've never backpacked, I wouldn't know, but you know, just that kind of thing. So there is that. But yeah, I mean, I only in recent years just really felt like I really want to go to Japan and now I feel like it's very high on my list. And a lot of that has just been seeing different people's content, like Jeremy, for example, and his travels and stuff like that. It was something like, yeah, I thought that would be cool, but now I'm like, I really want to go and I'll make it happen. I'll do this romantic Italian trip sometime. We'll get back to Australia sometime. Like, we'll do it.

• 31:17Rayna Greenberg?

  I think it's just good to remind yourself that life is long, you know?

• 31:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 31:20Rayna Greenberg?

  And you'll have plenty of time to do it. And I just, I placed a lot of value my whole life in being like the girl that traveled a lot because I have traveled so much and I've gone everywhere. And I did a lot of what you're saying, which is not backpacking, but like staying in hostels.

• 31:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  Right.

• 31:31Rayna Greenberg?

  I couldn't afford to eat anywhere, but it's nice when you're an adult that you're like better at planning and better at figuring out how to like budget, monetize certain things. So yeah, I don't know. I don't have any trips at the moment planned. We'll see.

• 31:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 31:43Rayna Greenberg?

  Also, I don't like deciding I'm gonna go somewhere and then like I can't go immediately. Like, I like to decide where I'm gonna go and then go next week.

• 31:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Just go.

• 31:49Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 31:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay. Well, we want to read some of our listeners' goals. They never disappoint. And, you know, throughout the years, this is where we got fuck more, cry less. Which is just the one that's sticking out to me the most. And we just love seeing what you guys are up to. I mean, I love hearing what our audience accomplishes at the end of the year, but I think I like this even more.

• 32:10Rayna Greenberg?

  I like the both.

• 32:10Ashley Hesseltine?

  Just like what, you know, because you know what I noticed, like when people, and we put this on Instagram, we did a question box, like, it's a lot of like excitement. It's like exclamation points, you know, like people are excited to be like, I'm fucking doing this this year. I got my mindset on it. And so we just want to read some of those. I have a few faves. This was like all on like the same screen. Do get a boyfriend. Don't get pregnant.

• 32:30Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay.

• 32:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  Love that. This one is very me-coded. Get promoted, go to Italy, fuck in the shower, and then vacation sex. Big cancer, water sign energy.

• 32:38Rayna Greenberg?

  Did you write this?

• 32:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  All I did was fuck in the water.

• 32:41Rayna Greenberg?

  Do I remember?

• 32:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Every time I could fuck in the water, there I was in the water. Fuck it.

• 32:45Rayna Greenberg?

  I have the biggest shower upstairs, and I think one day I'm gonna come home and you guys are gonna be in it.

• 32:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Hundred percent.

• 32:49Rayna Greenberg?

  Just running around that shower.

• 32:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  It'll be Q1.

• 32:53Rayna Greenberg?

  You'll be like, hey, can we use the shower?

• 32:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  And then this one I thought was interesting. I want to hear what you think. Stop talking shit to people outside my group chat. So just like, she's just like, let's keep it contained.

• 33:04Rayna Greenberg?

  I love that goal. And I think sometimes we get, we get a little messy and sloppy and like, I do think it's, listen, it's also not shit talk if it's contained.

• 33:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 33:12Rayna Greenberg?

  It's observations.

• 33:13Ashley Hesseltine?

  Right.

• 33:14Rayna Greenberg?

  If it's contained.

• 33:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  Rebrand shit talk. Like, 2025.

• 33:20Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, exactly.

• 33:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  But I like that she's like, I'm not gonna stop talking shit. That's unrealistic.

• 33:25Rayna Greenberg?

  No, that's crazy.

• 33:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  But like, let's keep it in the chat.

• 33:28Rayna Greenberg?

  You gotta be realistic about it.

• 33:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  I wonder where she's talking shit. Because yeah, if she's like on the internet, in the comments, on Reddit, keep it in the group chat like an adult.

• 33:36Rayna Greenberg?

  Like, be in C-list friends.

• 33:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 33:38Rayna Greenberg?

  Is probably what that means to me. And it's like, I don't need to spread my shit talk around to everybody so everybody knows I'm like this.

• 33:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  Do you think that people who are like true internet trolls, like who are just like mean nasty trolls on the internet, like in all those threads, do you think they ever start the year and they're like, I should stop? Do you think they start the year, they're like, "I'm gonna keep being a shitty person."

• 33:56Rayna Greenberg?

  They don't seem like big goals people to me.

• 33:58Ashley Hesseltine?

  They're like, "I'm gonna keep being hateful and I'm gonna keep hating myself and everyone else." Like, I wonder if anyone wakes up New Year and they're like, "I gotta get off of there."

• 34:08Rayna Greenberg?

  No, I think that that is the best part of their day.

• 34:10Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, "I'm gonna go harder."

• 34:11Rayna Greenberg?

  Consistency is actually the goal.

• 34:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  "I'm not gonna enjoy it." Okay.

• 34:15Rayna Greenberg?

  I just, I like the people said, "Embrace joy, better self-talk, give birth to a healthy baby." "I really need to break up with my living boyfriend and come home to myself." I love it.

• 34:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  Love it.

• 34:25Rayna Greenberg?

  I love it. "Start the year off, break up with that guy." "Let go of the bad, nurture the good, adopt a dog." Financial literacy. I'll probably never have it, but I am proud of other people who do.

• 34:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  We pay people to have it.

• 34:36Rayna Greenberg?

  Sometimes I'm like, "I don't understand it, but I'm sure it's fine." And Ashley's like, "We should probably understand it, though." A lot of people want to have babies. A lot of people want to not have babies, though.

• 34:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  True.

• 34:45Rayna Greenberg?

  "Move on from my ex and don't dwell on the past." Perfect, perfect time for it.

• 34:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay. "Be less irritable." Seven exclamation points. Everything bothers her and I appreciate that. That, I love that goal. Just like, "Stop being bothered by everything. Be more unbothered."

• 35:00Rayna Greenberg?

  How do you do that?

• 35:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  First step is to write in this question box.

• 35:03Rayna Greenberg?

  I just, don't you feel like sometimes you hate in your heart and you're like, "I don't know how to do it or not?"

• 35:06Ashley Hesseltine?

  Getting laid helps.

• 35:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Totally.

• 35:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Or not even. Masturbating, just having more orgasms helps be like, less annoyed at life.

• 35:13Rayna Greenberg?

  I've been masturbating continuously.

• 35:15Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, yeah?

• 35:16Rayna Greenberg?

  I've been like, I've been nude two a days.

• 35:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, wow.

• 35:18Rayna Greenberg?

  For like, not two a days. I've just, all I've done is be at the house. I landed from Christmas last Thursday and all I've done round the clock is pack and organize and masturbate.

• 35:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  And you seem happy.

• 35:27Rayna Greenberg?

  I do feel happy.

• 35:28Ashley Hesseltine?

  So, live like Reina. Okay. My roommate and I both put, "Get paid, get laid" on our vision boards. I love that. Always get that bag, get that ring if you want it. Get a boyfriend. Don't get pregnant or do. A lot of people want to read this year. We love our audience. They love to read. You are unsure about if you're gonna keep reading, right?

• 35:46Rayna Greenberg?

  So, it's interesting that you brought that up. Thank you. I think I've read everything.

• 35:54Rayna Greenberg?

  What? I've done reading.

• 35:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  The Taylor Jenkins Reid has written.

• 35:56Rayna Greenberg?

  I got to the end, I did it. Like, I've read all the books. And I know that you guys have a vested interest in me continuing to read because you love the Library of Rayna Greenberg. And you like to come over, you and Tessa, and take those books. I don't want to not read, but 30 books is not the goal this year.

• 36:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 36:13Rayna Greenberg?

  20 books is the goal.

• 36:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's still a lot.

• 36:15Rayna Greenberg?

  That's a lot of books, but...

• 36:16Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's a... 12 is a lot. Like, what a month. Six is a lot.

• 36:20Rayna Greenberg?

  I'm better than that. I can do that. I have, like, a nice future now. Yeah. I could do 20. 30 was the goal this year, and I hit it, but that was a lot.

• 36:28Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 36:29Rayna Greenberg?

  But I also, like, it was easier to get to 30 because I had a lot... I started reading late in life. So I had a lot of books everybody's read that I still had to, like, get to.

• 36:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  I like this one. My personal theme is unhinged joy. That's really something to strive for. Imagine someone being like, she... Her joy is...

• 36:47Rayna Greenberg?

  Violent.

• 36:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  Her joy is aggressive. It is rubbing off on me. No self-sabotage, people-pleasing, or judgment. Heart emoji. I... Unhinged joy. There we go.

• 37:00Rayna Greenberg?

  I love it.

• 37:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  New boobs. Take Spanish lessons.

• 37:03Rayna Greenberg?

  Stop wasting my time with bitches I don't like. I love that goal. Like, I think it really, as you get older, it just gets more clear that you can't waste your time with people that aren't bringing you joy.

• 37:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  Block more men. Grow a produce garden. Grow your own food. What a goal.

• 37:19Rayna Greenberg?

  Couldn't be more.

• 37:20Ashley Hesseltine?

  I thought... What an elite thing to do. I grew that.

• 37:23Rayna Greenberg?

  That's...

• 37:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's crazy.

• 37:25Rayna Greenberg?

  I grew... The tomatoes are great. I grew them.

• 37:27Ashley Hesseltine?

  Exactly. No, when I go home in the summer, my mom makes me a little caprese plate with her own tomatoes and her own basil from her garden. Like, I'm just like, this is unhinged joy.

• 37:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  A lot about, like, mental health. Buy a house. Listen, it's on my list this year, you guys. It's been on every other year.

• 37:44Rayna Greenberg?

  You're gonna buy a wedding.

• 37:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  I'm never gonna... Yeah.

• 37:46Rayna Greenberg?

  You're gonna spend a lot of money this year.

• 37:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  I'm gonna buy a wedding.

• 37:50Rayna Greenberg?

  You guys have a lot of money to spend, so, you know, you guys will spend that money next year.

• 37:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Someone wrote to be more flaky. I'm tired.

• 37:55Rayna Greenberg?

  That's so funny.

• 37:56Ashley Hesseltine?

  Day one of the new year. I'm tired already.

• 37:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, so, I... Here's my thing. I don't like being flaky, but I like accepting that I don't want to commit to stuff. So I like just saying, I don't really feel like socializing today.

• 38:06Ashley Hesseltine?

  You've already said it three times today.

• 38:08Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, and I meant that shit.

• 38:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 38:13Rayna Greenberg?

  I'm ready for 2025, Ranul.

• 38:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  She's gonna overcorrect, though. She's just gonna start bailing on everything. That's not bringing me joy.

• 38:22Rayna Greenberg?

  Sorry, that doesn't sound fun to me. Somebody was just like, do you want to come over and lay out at our pool today? And I was like, I don't want to socialize. That won't bring me joy.

• 38:28Ashley Hesseltine?

  Money festing. I love that. And we'll talk about that today. Again, money festing is a big theme of the interview today. Stop buying so many clothes I don't need. Yes. God, we all should think like that.

• 38:40Rayna Greenberg?

  I put that on my list, but then I didn't read about it because it wasn't funny.

• 38:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  But you've been doing that. You've been selling stuff.

• 38:44Rayna Greenberg?

  So here's the thing. I was really proud of myself that I have stopped buying stuff like clothing.

• 38:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 38:49Rayna Greenberg?

  Because I promised myself, if I wait 48 hours and I still want it, I can have it. But what I did instead was just spend endless amounts of money on furniture. I have replaced t-shirts with furniture.

• 38:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, but you got, there's a cap on that, right?

• 39:01Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, I have to stop at some point.

• 39:02Ashley Hesseltine?

  Exactly. Like, no more furniture can fit. But, yeah.

• 39:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Try me.

• 39:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's not the best addiction. I really was like, oh, I'm doing so good. I've been buying t-shirts. Then I was like.

• 39:14Rayna Greenberg?

  I have bought 19 couches.

• 39:16Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my God. Yeah. That's when you know you've made it. You're like, I'm just gonna stop buying jumpsuits and start buying couches. Okay, well, I love these. We love that you guys are sharing. I mean, there's so many different things here, just balance and alignment and boundaries and all the things that you guys shared. Giving less fucks, but fucking more. We love that. So, yeah, we always appreciate you guys sharing with us. This is like my favorite thing to read that our audience gives us.

• 39:42Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah. You just, you guys are the most amazing, the smartest, the coolest, the best. If you're new here, thanks for being here, like we said earlier. And we're excited for another year of the podcast.

• 39:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, well, let's just talk about some partners and then we will get into it with Mimi. I am telling you guys about AG1. If you want to be more healthy this year, AG1 is one of the easiest things you can do for your health. And it can be the one habit you'll actually stick with. So if you really want to start healthier habits, leave behind an unhealthy habit. This can be the way to do it. So if you want to have more energy, immune support, even a healthier mood, AG1 will be ready to help you take on what 2025 has in store for you. And it's fun to do this with a Friend too. So if you're like, let's get healthy together, invite a friend to share the experience of AG1. We really love this. This has been something that's been a part of our life for a long time. And the way that you do it is just you're going to have a scoop of AG1 in a cold, preferably liquid, so just something like ice water. And you're

• 40:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  just going to drink that in the morning if you want, or you know, whatever time works in your day. But it's a great way to start the day. And you're just going to do that daily. And keeping consistent with that is really just going to improve all the things we we mentioned before. And we we love it. I mean, you are going to get the powder, but then we love the travel packs. It makes it really easy to travel. So you never are without it. So this year, try AG1 for yourself. It's the perfect time to start a new healthy habit. And that's why we've been partnering with AG1 for so long. And AG1 is offering new subscribers a free $76 gift. When you sign up, you'll get a welcome kit, a bottle of D3K2, and five free travel packs in your first box. So make sure to check out drinkag1.com/gge to get this offer. That's drinkag1.com/gge to start your new year on a healthier note.

• 41:23Rayna Greenberg?

  Yes. And since it is the new year, this is a great time to just reimagine your wardrobe. We talk a lot in this episode about acting as if. And I think some of that really starts with how you dress, and how you appear in the world. And Quince, Ashley and I just love it so much. It is a great website to get quality pieces and stay on budget. And I have just shopped there a lot. It's great for yourself. It's great for gifts. They have incredible cozy Mongolian cashmere sweaters. They're great for winter. They have cardigans that are buttoned down. They have sweaters. They have turtlenecks. I'm obsessed with it. Tons of colors. I love the red. I love the maroon. I have the beige. They have workout gear. I mean, we just love their site so much.

• 41:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, workout stuff's great.

• 42:00Rayna Greenberg?

  They have moisture-wicking bras. They have leggings that are designed to move with your workout. And however you decide to like, refresh your wardrobe, Quince has really everything. Belts, accessories, purses, all of it. And they only work with factories that use safe, ethical, responsible manufacturing practices. And they use premium fabrics and finishes for that sort of luxury feel. So check it out. Ashley and I are huge fans. You can upgrade your closet this year without the upgraded price tag. Go to quince.com/gge for 365 day returns plus free shipping on your order. That's Q U I N C E dot com slash G G E to get free shipping and 365 day returns. quince.com slash G G E.

• 42:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, let's get into it.

• 42:40Rayna Greenberg?

  All right, guys, we are very excited to welcome our guest today. She is an entrepreneurial trailblazer and the founder of a new type of audio, activations, a top rated motivational audio app, which has amassed tens of thousands of subscribers in just two years. Designed to fit seamlessly into daily life, activations are functional audios designed to help subscribers make the most of moments every day to live the life they have always imagined. What a great way to start the year. Please welcome to the show, Mimi Bouchard.

• 43:08Speaker 00

  Thank you so much for having me.

• 43:09Rayna Greenberg?

  Hi, Happy New Year.

• 43:11Speaker 00

  Happy New Year.

• 43:13Rayna Greenberg?

  So I was just listening to your app last night and

• 43:17Speaker 00

  How did you like it?

• 43:17Rayna Greenberg?

  I love it. I mean, I just love that it's the way it's categorized and it's like, whatever you need in that moment, there, there you are. So.

• 43:23Speaker 00

  Did you feel energetically different after listening?

• 43:27Rayna Greenberg?

  I did a like a more of a relaxing one. It was, I was doing it at night. So I was like, I don't need to get all gassed up.

• 43:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  She needs less energy at night.

• 43:33Speaker 00

  I'm like the, I love the motivational ones. Like I, we created the nighttime ones just because people wanted them. But like, most of the app are these like motivational, like energy changing ones that I was actually listening to in the car before coming. And they just got me so, they get me so amped up for life. It's like a natural high.

• 43:51Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, who doesn't need like a pep talk, like at any time of day, you know, so.

• 43:56Speaker 00

  Just a reminder to be who you want to be.

• 43:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Mm hmm. I love it. Well, so we were conceptualizing this episode with you and so much of your story is so inspirational and so much of what you talk about is about just like being a better you in the new year and like not spending a ton of money to do that and really relying on your own self. So this is a perfect episode to like start the year and let's like meet you, get to know you and your story. Cause your story, you were just saying to us, I'm a totally different person than I was eight years ago.

• 44:21Speaker 00

  Yes, well.

• 44:22Rayna Greenberg?

  Let's unpack it.

• 44:23Speaker 00

  I've transformed my life in every way, shape or form in the past eight years. And I feel like when I share this, it, it's honestly just a way for me to express to people that it doesn't need to be that hard. And of course it took effort, but I feel like once I realized that it was all about my self-image and how I saw myself, then the change started happening faster and faster. So. About eight years ago, I was, just to paint a picture, it didn't feel good on me, but I was 20 pounds heavier. I was very unhappy. I was depressed, anxious. I had a binge and purge eating disorder.

• 45:02Speaker 00

  I had eight dollars in my bank account. I was partying a lot every weekend, doing drugs, living paycheck to paycheck. Really not the version of myself that I wanted to be, obviously. I was numbing every day. I felt like life was just happening to me. I didn't feel responsibility for the life I could create. I had huge self-image issues. I was incredibly insecure. I was one of those people that just looked in the mirror and always just found faults. And I just wasn't happy. I was, I was very depressed. And then I found personal development and really started diving into all of this work. And this is back almost a decade ago when personal development wasn't cool.

• 45:44Speaker 00

  Like the books that I was reading were these books that were like with old white guys on the cover with their thumbs up. Like, read this success principle book or something, you know?

• 45:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  The self-help section of the bookstore where it's like embarrassing to be there or something, you know?

• 45:57Speaker 00

  Now it's cool. Now it's cool. But before, I, I started getting into it when it wasn't cool. And I just became obsessed because I felt I was at this time in my life where I hated how I felt. I hated how I looked. I hated this relationship I had with myself. I hated what I was producing in, in the world. I knew I wanted to create something of my own one day, like for a business. I knew I wanted to have success. Money was always very important to me because I grew up in a household without a lot of money. Both of my parents are artists and we, you know, grew up struggling a lot. There were bankruptcies in the family. You know, my parents had to remortgage the house very often to survive. And it just, there was this lack there, constant lack. And reading personal development books, honestly, at that time was so life-changing for me

• 46:42Speaker 00

  because it gave me these new beliefs and it gave me hope that I could actually create a life that I wanted. And some of these beliefs that I had learned were take 100% responsibility for your life. You know, you're an average of the five people that you surround yourself with most. Rejection is redirection. You know, no means next. Like, keep going. You can create it.

• 47:04Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love all these.

• 47:04Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 47:09Speaker 00

  Basically, so I just, I became obsessed. I started consuming as much content as I could about personal development and I started transforming my life. And the first few years of this transformation happened slowly. You know, I would slowly start, you know, drinking less. I would slowly start doing my morning routine in the morning and then I'd fall off track and I didn't have a quick bounce back rate, which is something I talk about. And I just would kind of, I would try and fall back off the bandwagon and then try again. And I was seeing these very, very small steps forward essentially. And then there was this moment, a few years in, where I was trying to meditate and I couldn't concentrate on it. I just felt like it wasn't doing anything and

• 47:54Speaker 00

  meditation was one of those things that I kept trying to do because everyone in the books were like, you need to meditate. And you need to visualize because visualization is so important for you to reach your goals and for you to think about who you want to be. But I just couldn't stick to it. I felt this resistance and I felt like I needed something to invigorate me, to energize me, to give me this like intense, beautiful like excitement towards the future that I'm creating. And I just felt like it was not meditation that was going to do that because meditation is all about calming you, relaxing you, clearing your mind. I wanted something to like get me ramped up and to go like achieve. So intuitively, I stopped meditating and I started recording these audio memos on my phone,

• 48:37Speaker 00

  on like the voice memos app on my phone. And I just started to describe the future that I was creating. I was like, this is what it feels like to have millions of dollars in my bank account. This is what it feels like to have this home that I love, this relationship that I love. I was, you know, 21 at the time and still had never had a boyfriend and I felt really insecure and like I wouldn't find this love. And, you know, I was describing all these things that I wanted. How I wanted to look. I wanted to effortlessly be in this body that I love without thinking about food a lot. Intuitive eating, without having this binge, like eating disorder, without having food consume my mind all day. I wanted to live this life of my quote, future self. And this, what all did I know, is the first activation. I started creating loads of them.

• 49:22Speaker 00

  I would record them on a professional microphone and add music from YouTube behind them because music is such a big part of activations. Like, we use very cinematic, movie moment epic music that just makes you feel alive. And when I started doing these activations, my transformation went from like zero to a hundred. It was insane. Within a few years, I started earning an incredible amount of money. I met my now fiance, literally the day after I described him in one activation.

• 49:51Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh, my god.

• 49:52Ashley Hesseltine?

  What?

• 49:53Speaker 00

  And now, and every single year, the transformations just double, double. Like, it's like this compound effect. It's this bell curve. It's like, the more I do it, the more I live it, and the more I live it, the more I create it. And I could get emotional, like, honestly, thinking about how my life has just changed so much. It's been such a blessing. I genuinely just feel so good every day. And looking back, like, I didn't think that that was possible for me, and I did it. And it's just, it's been the biggest blessing of my life. I'm the happiest I've ever been.

• 50:24Rayna Greenberg?

  Wow, congratulations. That is so beautiful. No, really, I mean, you overcame, everything that you mentioned, like, those things, I've never had a relationship. I had an eating disorder. I was doing drugs too much and drinking. And by the way, you were 21 years old. Who didn't have every one of those?

• 50:39Speaker 00

  Exactly, I know.

• 50:40Rayna Greenberg?

  Body issues, drug issues, alcohol. I mean, I was so bloated. I was always on drugs.

• 50:43Speaker 00

  Yeah. A lot of us don't get out of it, and I needed to get out of it because I was going down a bad path.

• 50:48Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, and it affects your mental health. That was what was, like, making me feel bad the next day, you know? And you just, all those things, like, compounding. You can't, like, achieve what you want to achieve.

• 50:58Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 50:59Rayna Greenberg?

  I couldn't.

• 51:00Speaker 00

  Well, I'll tell you why. It's because alcohol numbs you.

• 51:02Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 51:03Speaker 00

  And I have this theory that if you do the things that numb you, you are directly less alive. So, you're either feeling numb or alive. And things that numb you, it's things like overeating, overdrinking, doing drugs, being on technology, too much mindless scrolling, distracting yourself. And then the things that make you feel alive are things that slow down time. Numbness quickens time. You're wasting your life. You're gonna Blink and your life is done if you do numbing activities all day long. Feeling alive is like these activations specifically make me feel alive. Like having a beautiful, deep conversation with someone makes you feel alive. Like that feeling after a workout, being present, being in the moment makes you feel alive.

• 51:43Rayna Greenberg?

  I like the mental exercise that you talk about of like, imagine your future self. And who is she surrounded by? What does she wear? How much money does she have? Where does she live? And I think it's sort of like picking a goal and working our way towards it. Cause we talk every year at the beginning of the year about like, why is it hard to lose weight? And you know, these goals that are not like measurable and achievable and they're just, it feels so like, I don't know, it's just this like floating goal. But I think you're really like, do this mental exercise of like, who do you see in three years? And like, let's go be her.

• 52:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, saying it out loud, I've said that before on the podcast. It's so important and people just feel silly sometimes and you double down on saying it out loud. You know, like this is what you did to achieve what you have. But I've always said that, like, stuff has like come to me that I've just said out loud, you know? And I feel like I, I've talked about this a lot, manifested my fiance and saying it out loud on this podcast, saying it out loud to myself. Like, it's always worked for me, like little things too. I don't need to get into all of them. But just when I'm like, I was alone in my home and I like said that thing out loud and it

• 52:48Speaker 00

  Who cares about looking stupid if you're creating your dream life? I'll do anything that looks stupid if it means I'm going to be wealthy and happy and abundant and joyful every day.

• 52:57Rayna Greenberg?

  Absolutely. And I think that you can make every decision based on that. You can say, okay, what I want in three years is X. And so would the person that's going to get those things make these decisions? Would they eat this food? Would they take this trip? Would they make these business decisions? And I think that's a really good way. Like people say manifest, I think it can sound a little bit like, what does that mean? But to me, it's like, you pick a goal and every day you say to yourself, is the person that want that goal, do what I'm doing today?

• 53:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  And I just love the rejection of the traditional meditation. I think that's going to speak to a lot of people because I never thought of it the way you said it. I'm like, this is not what I want. I need to be amped up. I don't need to be in stillness about to fall asleep.

• 53:33Speaker 00

  Like meditation's great if you want to calm down, but it's not going to help you. You reach these like huge goals that you have really like you need something that just changes your energy. Because when that energy inside of you changes, everything else changes. Your self-image changes, your your thoughts change, your beliefs change. Everything in your life changes when you change how you feel. And that's the trick, like it actually, once you know that version of you that you want to be, once you have clarity on that future self, all you need to do is become them in everyday moments. And the more you do that, the more you'll naturally take the actions that that future self version of you takes. The more you naturally embody this energy, the more you'll start seeing opportunity everywhere that was always there.

• 54:18Speaker 00

  You just didn't see it. Because the reticular activating system, the RAS in your brain, wasn't triggered in that way, because that RAS is it's basically a filtration system in your brain that decides what you consciously notice. And it is triggered by your beliefs and your thoughts and your self-image. So let's just say you're the type of person that says to themselves, oh, I'm not lucky, I'm, you know, bad things always happen to me. I'm a victim, like, yes. If that is what you're telling yourself, that's your truth, you're right. You're a hundred percent right. Because you're only going to ever find reasons to confirm that belief. But if on the contrary, you say to yourself, I am one hundred percent responsible for my life.

• 55:01Speaker 00

  I am empowered, I know I'm moving in the right direction. I believe that with this work with changing my energy, I am creating this life. I am becoming my future self. Your RAS is filtered in a different way. And you're going to start seeing reasons why everywhere you're going to start seeing opportunities. It genuinely changes everything in your life when you do this.

• 55:22Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love that. I mean, that was kind of the lucky girl.

• 55:25Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 55:25Ashley Hesseltine?

  On TikTok, lucky girl syndrome. Yes, it's just like, people talked about, obviously, TikTok in a lighter way, but obviously, this is the reasoning behind it. And just, yeah, of course, if you're thinking like, only good things happen to me, I'm so lucky. Like, you're gonna find reasons to prove that all throughout your day.

• 55:40Speaker 00

  It's so true. And, you know, I I'm just such a believer in what you deeply believe is actually the truth. In your life, like if you believe the world works in a certain way where things are really hard and you're just, this is how life works. And it's just not the kind of life you can create for yourself. Like that is exactly the life that you're gonna live. That's the reality you'll live in.

• 56:01Rayna Greenberg?

  Mm hmm. You just, you create your own lens. I have like a close family member that always, she always says like, everything bad always happens to me. If it can go poorly, it always does. And the same amount of bad things have happened to her as your average person. It's just the lens through which she chooses to see things. I, I find it very interesting. Mm hmm. I want to like back up to you being 21, so we have like some young listeners and you were like, I, I thought about like who I was surrounded by.

• 56:23Speaker 00

  Oh my gosh.

• 56:23Rayna Greenberg?

  So like, it's not hard for me in my like late 30s to surround myself with people that want like a little bit of a slower lifestyle, do less drugs, drink less, go, go home earlier. But when you're in your twenties, that's like pretty tough. So like, did you have to take an inventory of like who was in your life and like cut people out?

• 56:38Speaker 00

  Oh gosh, massively. I cut out so many people. I actually realized that I'd rather be alone than with people that were not aligned with where I was going. And I had to be quite cutthroat about it. I didn't do it in this dramatic way where it's like, you're not my friend anymore. I just like phased out these people. And I noticed direct changes from doing that. I also realized that there were people in my life that like just couldn't see a big vision. And I wanted a big life back then. I, I was living this small life, but I wanted a bigger life. I wanted to have my own business and make millions and have, you know, just this really special relationship. I wanted to have just like the above average human experience. Okay?

• 57:20Speaker 00

  And unfortunately, the people that I was surrounded by back then felt threatened, I think, from that. Like I remember there was this one girl, I overheard her actually. She didn't know I was in the next room and she was a good friend of mine at the time. But when I kind of started sharing that I wanted to move to London and create my first business, which was an online magazine. And I wanted to start, you know, be an entrepreneur and, and leave school and just, you know, go do something different. I remember overhearing her talk to another friend of ours. They were like shit talking me and they didn't know I was behind the next door. So I could hear everything that they were saying. And they were laughing at me and they were saying, oh my God, she's so pathetic. She's Going to go start a blog or an online magazine. They were like mimicking me and like laughing at me.

• 58:03Speaker 00

  And I just remember then I was like, all right, this is part of my story. I'm going to go make success. And these girls, you know, obviously wish them well, but there were definitely moments in my journey that I was just like, yeah, this is like, I'm definitely living a better life and

• 58:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I wonder what they're doing now.

• 58:20Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, I know, I'd die to know.

• 58:21Speaker 00

  I hate to say that because I'm like, I'm now like, I actually truly wish them well, but there were times in my journey where I was like,

• 58:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  I still want to know.

• 58:27Speaker 00

  No, I know, I know. There were definitely times in my journey where I was like, ha, like, you know, but anyway.

• 58:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  No.

• 58:32Rayna Greenberg?

  No, I mean, there's always going to be people that laugh at you. And I think it's like, kind of funny looking back at it because I was a food blogger and

• 58:38Speaker 00

  Oh, I love that.

• 58:39Rayna Greenberg?

  It led me out of this tech job I really hated. It led me to meet Ashley and have this podcast. And everybody was like, you're taking pictures of your food. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

• 58:48Speaker 00

  But I've noticed, this is the thing, the people that are going to judge you and say rude things about what you do, it's like, they're not happy. I've never seen a happy person ever say something like that. So you just have to realize that, like, those people are just unhappy and they probably deep down have jealousy because they want to do something different and outside of the box. They just don't have the courage.

• 59:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's every hater you see on the internet, like you're, they're all telling on themselves, like, you know, tell us you hate yourself without telling us. So. And I think it's good to have people like that want a big life, that have big dreams and people you look up to. And those are the people you talk to if you want advice on certain things, like anything I've ever started in my life. I've, I've, I've used to blog as well, many, many years ago. And then I started an Instagram account. It was Influencer, the podcast, stuff like that. I always ask people's opinion that I like, trust and value and that I look up to, you know, like, and those are the people that are always going to say, that sounds like a great idea. I think you should do it as opposed to the people that are going to knock you down.

• 59:48Speaker 00

  Totally.

• 59:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, just going to take a quick break and we will get right back into it. I am telling you about Rocket Money. Okay, it's a new year. Stop paying for subscriptions that you are not using. I think this is such a small goal that puts money right back in your pocket. And just, I mean, I hate that feeling that there's like stuff that they're just taking your money. You're not using it. You don't even know. Yeah. So I signed up for Rocket Money. I used it. They found subscriptions I didn't know about. I was, I was embarrassed to look. I honestly, I get scared to look. Like, I was just like, I've been paying you? No, it's crazy. For, for nothing? No, it's crazy. It makes me want to like, be like, retroactively pay me back. But no, I just really, I love using it. It's super easy to use. I love the dashboard. I love the way that they find these subscriptions for you and help you cancel them and get you that money back.

• 1:00:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  So you can use Rocket Money to find those subscriptions you forgot about, or maybe you paid for them twice, you didn't realize it, and they're going to help you get organized, and they can help you set your goals and prioritize what matters most. So if your top priority is financial wellness, which, you know, always is top of mind for us, they can really help you achieve that. So they're going to show you all your subscriptions right in one place, and then help you easily cancel the ones you forgot that you were paying for. They'll pull together all of your spending across all those different accounts, so you can clearly track your spending habits and see where you can cut back. So we all know how this works. I mean, you sign up for something, sometimes you do the trial, and then you forget about it, and then you're being charged. And 85% of people have at least one paid subscription going unused each month. So 85% of people, most people, you probably have one, you're probably one of them.

• 1:01:16Ashley Hesseltine?

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• 1:02:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's rocketmoney.com/gge. Rocketmoney.com/gge.

• 1:02:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Yes, and this show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Every January brings you 365 blank pages waiting to be filled. I love that notion that it's just like a new year, you can start fresh. I think therapy can help you hone in on your goals for the year, and ones that are really attainable and that you can keep up with. So whatever it is that you want to do this year, whether it's professional, personal, romantic goals, you want to... Find better boundaries. You want to learn better coping skills. Therapy can help with all of those things. They can help you write new chapters to create a meaningful story for your 2025 year. And BetterHelp is fully online, making therapy affordable and convenient, serving over 5 million people worldwide.

• 1:02:49Rayna Greenberg?

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• 1:03:19Speaker 00

  Okay.

• 1:03:20Rayna Greenberg?

  Great takeaways that you had.

• 1:03:21Speaker 00

  Great.

• 1:03:21Rayna Greenberg?

  So the first thing was doing a life audit, which you talked about, you know, who am I, who's around me? Adopt a quick bounce back rate.

• 1:03:28Speaker 00

  So the bounce back rate is this term that I developed and essentially it's just the rate at which you bounce back into being your future self, the person that you want to be. So for example, if you, if your future self is very healthy and cares about vitality and for some reason you go out and eat like a fast food meal one night, like that's okay, but it's just how quickly you get back to being your future self. And it's not, oh, I've ruined it now. I have to wait till Monday. So your bounce back rate is essentially like the measure of how successful you'll be because perfection is completely like not attainable. No matter who you are, whether you're a supermodel and you know, you have millions in the bank. No, these people that we see in magazines have never once had one completely perfect day where they wake up at 5 a.m. They don't procrastinate. They eat organic

• 1:04:13Speaker 00

  all day. They, you know, like do their perfect skincare routine. Like no one ever has a perfect day. We're human. So perfection is not what we should measure success as. It is a quick bounce back rate because what successful people have. That not successful people have is a quick bounce back rate. When they do something that veers off of the person that they aspire to be, they just naturally get back on the bandwagon quickly because it's part of their self-image. But someone, for example, that hasn't been able to create success in their business or something, and maybe they're procrastinating too much or mindlessly scrolling throughout the day, or they're not doing what they know that they need to do, they'll often just wait until they find inspired motivation.

• 1:04:56Speaker 00

  But the people that actually do it and achieve that, they'll just naturally do that because it's just who they are. So a bounce back rate is a great measure. When I first started my journey, I mentioned I had a very long bounce back rate. And now I can bounce back to being who I want to be in seconds. So that's just a tool you can think to yourself at home. It's the beginning of 2025. First, get clarity and do a life audit. Figure out who you want to be. Figure out the version of you that you want to be. And then in everyday moments, in these little moments, bounce back to being them. Whether that's just a thought spiral you're going down, a rabbit hole, how you're feeling, your energy, how you're thinking, your posture, just how you're embodying yourself.

• 1:05:39Speaker 00

  Just bounce back to being her in everyday moments. And you'll see, it's such an easy thing. It's just about the speed.

• 1:05:48Rayna Greenberg?

  I like giving yourself grace. And if you really read anything about habits, we talked to James Clear about this, who wrote Atomic Habits, which is the greatest book about habit forming. And he talks a lot about, like, it's okay if you decide you're going to work out all the time and lose weight. It's okay if you take a week off, but can you get back into it? And like, that's it. And nobody has this perfect day. And I like that notion of that.

• 1:06:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  100%.

• 1:06:08Speaker 00

  Exactly.

• 1:06:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, you can apply it to anything, like dating. If you're on some sort of journey and you slip up and you sleep with your ex, whatever, we're all human, you know, just get back into it. Like, don't throw it all away because you made one mistake. Well, maybe it was a mistake. You know, you decide if it was a mistake or not.

• 1:06:23Rayna Greenberg?

  Maybe it was a fun night. You'll get back to being her. But maybe you want that little dopamine rush of toxicity. And that feels good too sometimes. Okay, so your third thing, act like you are already your future self.

• 1:06:34Speaker 00

  Yes, act as if.

• 1:06:36Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 1:06:36Speaker 00

  The best way to be who you want to be is act like them.

• 1:06:40Rayna Greenberg?

  Is be who you want to be.

• 1:06:40Speaker 00

  Exactly. Like, you don't need to overcomplicate it. All of this is so simple. It is so easy. You don't need to be in the perfect situation, the perfect time, with the perfect mindset to just act like your future self and do all the things I speak about. You just have to do it in everyday moments. Like when you're in line at the grocery store, if you have a minute, just like, don't even say anything. You don't have to think anything either. Just hold yourself like the person you want to be. Pretend you're like the main character in your movie and this main character is creating their dream life, they're transforming, they're becoming this next level version of themselves. You just have to hold yourself like it. Act as if you're meeting a stranger on the street, or if you're at that grocery store

• 1:07:23Speaker 00

  and you're at the cash, like speak to the person like you are your future self. Have these little moments that are seemingly insignificant, but if you keep doing this, you do them in bigger and bigger ways and it just ends up becoming who you are.

• 1:07:36Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay. And rounding it out with reducing, Ashley's gonna love this one too, and this is so good for you, reducing the time that you spend staring at a screen.

• 1:07:44Speaker 00

  Oh my gosh. This is game changing and I was speaking earlier in the podcast about numbing versus feeling alive and those two things are complete opposites to each other. When you're feeling numb, you're not feeling alive. When you're feeling alive, you're not feeling numb. And I have noticed from both personal experience and from just, you know, looking at the world around us and reading certain things about this as well, there is science to prove it. Your brain actually like does this weird thing where it just disassociates. It shuts off when we're mindlessly scrolling. And one of the best things you can do this year to feel more alive and more present, and when you're feeling alive, you remember to bounce back so much more. Everything is going way better in your life when you're feeling alive.

• 1:08:28Speaker 00

  The best thing to do is just to limit your screen time. I saw this kind of scary thing the other day and it was this guy showing, it was like a piece of paper with all these dots on it. And it was like every single dot, he was doing this TED Talk, every single dot is a month of your life. And he showed all the dots filled in for like a typical 18 year old. And it just shows how many months left we all have. And he said, okay, and then now all of these months are going to be spent you sleeping. And then all of these months are going to be spent you doing errands and then all these ones are you working, which leaves like just a few rows left of you having free time in the time you have left to live on this earth. And he said, at this rate, 93% of that time will be spent staring at a screen.

• 1:09:13Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh my god.

• 1:09:14Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:09:15Rayna Greenberg?

  I knew you were gonna say some shit like that.

• 1:09:18Ashley Hesseltine?

  And it's like, it really hits. Yeah.

• 1:09:21Speaker 00

  You really just need to, in this sobering way, realize how precious time is.

• 1:09:28Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 1:09:28Speaker 00

  And get emotional about it. You know, like, if you really want to change your life, you need to get emotional about the fact that we don't have that much time living our one chance being alive. What is that one chance, that one opportunity that you want to experience in your life? And if you want to live an existence where you just rinse and repeat the same day that never actually makes you feel that great, and you're just kind of getting by and waiting, and it's like, we constantly live in the state of waiting for something. And then you reach the end of your life and you're like, what? Don't end your life with regret, is what I'm saying. And that's why I feel so passionate with personal development work, with the activations I've created. They help you live your future

• 1:10:12Speaker 00

  now. They help you be alive and present and live in this beautiful, precious moment as the person you want to be, embodying the feelings and thoughts and emotions as the person you want to be. It's not this far distant goal in the future, this life that you want. Like, you can live it now, while it's happening. You can just embrace this beautiful, precious life right now. And that is what I feel the most emotional, like, talking about, because it's like, what is life if, if you're not going to do that?

• 1:10:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. I mean, unfortunately, you can look at your screen time and you can break it down that way. And when we talked with Scott Galloway, he was like, when I coach men, I take their phone and I'm like, here's the hours and hours you spend doing god knows what porn, gambling, whatever it is, you know, social media, not that those are all created equal, but you know, like, all the, everything else you could be doing with that time.

• 1:11:04Speaker 00

  And like, you can also, sometimes people have to, like, forcefully actually delete the apps, not just trust.

• 1:11:10Ashley Hesseltine?

  I do the time limits, which is a slow start.

• 1:11:13Speaker 00

  I used to do that. And I would, every single time, just, I had this, like, it became habit for my finger just to go, oh, snooze, or next, or like, turn it off. Like, so, I was telling you guys off air, I actually spent the past six months, like, deleted Instagram and TikTok and everything. And it was. The most freeing, beautiful time like I genuinely feel like I have never been happier in my life.

• 1:11:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  Can we back up and like talk about?

• 1:11:36Speaker 00

  Why and everything?

• 1:11:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I want to hear. This is like major, like six months off and like the apps you weren't on. You know, were you still communicating with people? Like, I just want to hear about it.

• 1:11:45Speaker 00

  You know, I was playing with the thought for a while. I had to combat the random belief that like, oh, with my work and business, I should be online because I have a following on there. And, and I was like, does it actually influence like my revenue for my business? No, like it doesn't. And does it actually, what is it actually doing? I was really thinking like, what is social media actually doing to benefit me? And I couldn't come up with a great reason. Like it doesn't directly influence the revenue for my business. Like everyone that is subscribed to activations by now that follows me like is subscribed. Like it doesn't really make a huge difference if I do. But like people are already like subscribed and I, you know, I, I just didn't.

• 1:12:28Speaker 00

  I didn't feel like there was a massive benefit when it comes to like my big goals in life right now. And I was always kind of, you know, a weekend here and there I would turn off, I would delete the app from Friday to Monday. Like I was doing things like that already. But then I just realized that there was just no benefit to it. So I played with the thought of just deleting it for a while. And I, it's been six months. I actually just did a post like as an update and then I re deleted the app. So I still, I don't have, like it's going to be another six months probably. And I have, you know, my assistant can probably do a post for me if I need her to, or like, I can, you know, I like sharing and I'm going to revive, I think my podcast like we were talking about before.

• 1:13:05Speaker 00

  Because I think that like audio will never really make you feel numb. That's why I love audio so much. That's why I love listening to podcasts. That's why I love activations. Like audio, you're still present. There's something about staring at a screen where you disassociate. Anyway, so I also had this realization that, um, so I'm getting married in, in July and my life. You know, I'm ending this one era of my life right now. There's, you know, just a bit of time left I have before my wedding and after the wedding, maybe we'll start a family and you know, kind of that era of my life will, will begin. And I just felt, you know what, this is a very important year for me. I want to be as present as possible. I want to be alive, as alive as I possibly can. Like this is a very precious

• 1:13:48Speaker 00

  time for me. So I thought, I'm just gonna delete it. And I realized as well that like, I just stopped caring. Like my ego just really calmed down as well. Like there were little things, like the past six months, I've done the craziest trips. I've been on yachts. I've been like in the coolest places and I just have had zero craving to like post and gloat about it. So I just think that shows just a level of evolution I've had recently. Cause obviously we all, you know, social media is where you show off. Like it's hard to be real on social media. And I just didn't feel like I resonated with it anymore. And I just didn't want to spend my time that way. And it was hard because there were people that I stayed in touch with on there. But then like I realized I, you know, my real friends

• 1:14:31Speaker 00

  are gonna text me. I don't need to have loads of friends. Like I want to just be a bit more private as well, I've realized. And I think that just being glued to my phone and feeling this pressure to post all the time, it wasn't healthy. And I had withdrawals at first. I literally did. Like I, for weeks, actually, it took probably a whole month for all the cravings to go. It was insane. And I just deleted Instagram and I actually was never that big at scrolling on TikTok, but Instagram was just like, you know, where you could get into this mindless pit of scrolling for me. And even if it was just for five minutes at a time, like it's not like I was spending all day. Like I work, like I'm busy. It's not like I was spending all day scrolling.

• 1:15:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Right.

• 1:15:08Speaker 00

  But it was just, I noticed that these like little moments, like even for five minutes before a call, or if I, you know, like was stressed and I just wanted to like numb out for a minute, I would just like scroll or like check something and feel like I was always needed on there. And I noticed that even five minutes of that affects the rest of my entire day. I wasn't as creative. I wasn't as good at doing things. Like the past six months, I have created so many life-changing activations with my team of audio engineers for the app, where I just felt this like connection. With something that I I really was hard to connect with before. Like the content on the app has improved. My career has improved. Everything has improved. My business has almost doubled in the past six months. Like,

• 1:15:50Rayna Greenberg?

  Congrats.

• 1:15:51Speaker 00

  Thank you. I I didn't need social media to do that.

• 1:15:54Rayna Greenberg?

  Uh huh. I think about, you know, people ask us all the time, how do you, how do you stay confident? How can I be more confident? When I think about, when am I the happiest? When I feel confident? And what makes me feel the least confident is comparing myself to other people on the internet. And it's the most like, everybody says all the time, you know, comparison is the thief of joy, but it really is. And like, I can see something sometimes first thing in the morning, it'll wipe me out for a couple hours. And over the years, Ashley and I have spent a ton of time talking about this on, on the show, but unfollowing people to make you feel bad about yourself. I moved Instagram to the last screen on my phone. So I kind of broke that muscle memory of going to it on the first screen all the time. And I love, I'm pathologically online and I love it. I love fashion tips and cooking videos and comedy. But I've certainly, I've muted a lot of words so they just don't come across my desk.

• 1:16:37Rayna Greenberg?

  And I just don't want to spend my day comparing myself to other people. It doesn't benefit me. It doesn't make me more creative. Doesn't make me a better person. It certainly doesn't make me a happier person. And even taking it off your phone for like three or four days, it just feels nice.

• 1:16:50Speaker 00

  Yeah, like even just for weekends from Friday to Monday, delete, like, you don't need to go cold turkey like me. Like I'm, I'm just a bit more of an extreme person, I think, but I agree with you, like just limiting it. And I've also realized that, so when I re-downloaded it last week to do like a, I just did an update post. It was on my phone for like a few days and I actually didn't have the craving. Like I maybe looked a few times, but that craving actually went away.

• 1:17:13Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:14Speaker 00

  So it was really cool to see that because, you know, you just kind of didn't care anymore.

• 1:17:18Rayna Greenberg?

  It really is like an addiction. I mean, I say this lightly in the, the way that like drinking and food can be. Cause you're doing something excessively like for trying to get a hit of something. I don't know.

• 1:17:30Speaker 00

  I think it's just as addictive.

• 1:17:31Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, like I'm scrolling, like, what am I looking for? What am I hoping to feel? Like, what am I wanting to come across? You know, and I'm the same as Raina, you know, and I love to look at comedy and, you know, we need to stay in tune with pop culture and stuff for our podcasts and all that stuff. Like it is a necessity and it does benefit our business, both.

• 1:17:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Our businesses as well. So I mean, that goes without saying, but it's just like, sometimes I'm scrolling. I'm like, what am I hoping to feel? You know, what am I, what am I trying to get, get out of this? And then I like, when I realized that I put my phone away most of the time. You know, like you're numbing, but yet still trying to get a hit of something, you know, that we all have our own reasons for doing it. But it does, it does feel like excessively eating or drinking or something else too.

• 1:18:12Rayna Greenberg?

  Can we talk a little bit more about activations?

• 1:18:14Speaker 00

  Absolutely.

• 1:18:15Rayna Greenberg?

  And just like the, the, the science behind it and the ideas behind it and how people can use the app. Cause we've referenced it like a lot, but I would love to just.

• 1:18:23Speaker 00

  Yeah, for sure. Well, activations are a new type of audio that I developed. So it's not meditation, it's activation. And it's this beautiful mix of visualization, motivational guidance, and this music that makes you feel so alive. And we actually use a lot of composers. I met with one of our composers yesterday for lunch that do like a lot of movie scores. So that create these like movie moment type of audios, like music that just really tell a story. And as we all know, music has such an influential role in how we feel in our state. Like imagine watching a movie without any background music. Who doesn't know how to feel?

• 1:19:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  You hear like shoes squeaking on the floor. Like awkwardness. Yeah.

• 1:19:05Speaker 00

  Yeah. You don't know when to be scared. You don't know when to be hopeful. You don't know when to be happy. You don't know when to be nervous. Like it, music really does tell you how to feel. It's like another language almost. So can you imagine using the power of music, like very cinematic, movie moment, emotive music that makes you feel like you are transforming. You are evolving. It is changing your state, even just listening to that music. That plus these visualizations, these affirmations, these like subliminal messages, changing how your brain works. That together paired with certain frequencies that our audio engineers layer into a lot of our activations. It is like this audio that is transforming you, whether you are listening to it consciously or just in the background.

• 1:19:50Speaker 00

  So it is the most powerful tool that I have ever, ever found when it comes to transformation. It's what's transformed my life. We also have tens and tens of thousands of users that use the app every day. And those people send in their stories all of the time. We're hearing these insane transformation stories. We have people from all over the world that are genuinely doing a 180 in every aspect of their life by listening to these. And the crazy thing is, is that I haven't really done that much marketing with the app. Like, it's all been pretty organic, honestly. We have experimented with some paid marketing this year, but like, over the past three years, it's been organic. Everyone's talking about it. Like, word of mouth has been the biggest way that we've grown.

• 1:20:32Speaker 00

  So that just shows that, like, it's so good. People are changing. They're talking about it. So, anyway, so activations, it's just an audio app. And it's the only place you can find activations. And we have activations for every moment of the day. We have over fifteen categories from walking to seated. If you want a bit more of like a, like, internal reflection moment. We have writing activations with guided prompts. We have cooking ones, cleaning ones, workout ones, legs up wall ones for lymphatic drainage.

• 1:21:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love the legs up the wall. I saw that category last night. I'm like, oh, my gosh. I do it like, at least once a week. I'm like, legs up the wall.

• 1:21:07Speaker 00

  Amazing. It's so good.

• 1:21:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, so I love that you could put on the activation for that.

• 1:21:10Speaker 00

  We literally have an activation for everything. Getting ready in the morning, doing your makeup. Like, we also have-

• 1:21:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  A date, before date.

• 1:21:15Speaker 00

  Before a date. We have a pre-date one. We have like, literally every scenario you could think of. There are over seven hundred activations on the app. There are somewhat, something for everyone. And the main thing with activations is that it changes your state. It changes your energy. It helps you rewire your mind so that you become your future self. There are activations on there that will help you understand who your future self is. So many of us, we're like, okay, we want to improve our lives. Like, what does that actually look like? I don't know. So, I have a two-step formula to transformation. That's number one. Clarity, number two, becoming. So first, you need to get crystal clear on who your future self is. Really understand her. That's where you want to go to a writing activation. Journal about it, write about it, put pen to paper. And then, the only thing you need to do is become that person.

• 1:21:59Speaker 00

  Become them in everyday moments. And the beautiful thing about activations is that you can habit stack them. They don't require you to carve out twenty minutes every morning. And, you know, we're all so busy activations. It's just something that you listen to, just like you listen to a podcast, or an audiobook, or music. Then you have this craving to listen to an activation when you're in that mode to like, step into a new energy. And this is how it works so well with transformation. It's like the Pavlov dog theory. We've all heard of the Pavlov dog theory. Where Pavlov- Law rings a bell, the dog salivates, that's classical conditioning. Activations are classical conditioning for the average person to help you become your future self. So when you're pairing these new thoughts and new beliefs and and new feelings and emotions with everyday actions,

• 1:22:41Speaker 00

  this is when change really happens. So for example, if you're listening to a walking activation, which is my favorite category.

• 1:22:47Rayna Greenberg?

  That's my after your favorite one.

• 1:22:49Speaker 00

  And the getting ready in the morning ones too. Like I'm a morning activation girl, but anyway, if you're listening to a getting ready activation every morning when you're doing your makeup or skincare routine, or if you're listening to a walking activation for 10 minutes every morning when you're walking your dog, like soon enough, you're not even going to need the activation to feel abundant, unlimited, like confident and just like in love with life. So when you weave these in through your day, and even if you do them like, you know, for two minutes a day or three times a week, like you're just going to start noticing these changes. And the more you do it, the more you feel like you're looking back and it's like, oh my God, so much has changed. It just crept up on me. Like this is what a lot of our users notice. It's like, okay, they're just playing it even in the background.

• 1:23:34Speaker 00

  They don't have to consciously even listen to it, but it's just, it's programming their subconscious. It's like a subliminal. And within like a week or two, we get these messages of people being like, I didn't even think it was doing anything at first, but then I was like, oh my God, all of this has changed. Like my thoughts are changing, my habits are changing, my patterns are changing. I'm creating like so much more of what I want in my life. And it's amazing if you want to make more money as well. I think financially, like a lot of people that come to our app, they want to create more wealth in their life, or they want to be happier, or they want to, you know, create a new relationship. But for me, money is always a fun thing to manifest. Like I think money is the easiest thing for me to manifest. It's just a very fun frequency to tune into because it's like this big expansive feeling of like abundance and wealth

• 1:24:18Speaker 00

  and unlimitedness. And a lot of our activations have that undertone to it. It's like this excitement. It's, it's almost like a natural drug. And you're just listening and with headphones, it's the best experience. And I was actually just listening to one in the car with headphones on the way here. I think it's called embody magnetic. Manifestation energy. It's like one of our new anytime ones that you can listen to whenever. And I was just like fully feeling this way that I want to live the rest of my life feeling that way. It's like this buzzing throughout my body, this excitedness, this awe for life, this aliveness. And I just know in that moment that my energy is attracting even more of that. And it's like this snowball effect.

• 1:25:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, exactly.

• 1:25:02Speaker 00

  So if anyone is listening and they want to try it, I know you guys have a special link to get two weeks free and a discount. But yeah, it's just, it's life changing and you guys can try it for two weeks free. And if it doesn't do anything, you can cancel it. And if you forget to cancel, you can get your money back. We have a full money back guarantee. Like we just want to make it so low effort and so easy for people to try. Cause it's genuinely life changing. And yeah, I'm just so, so excited.

• 1:25:25Ashley Hesseltine?

  And so just so you guys have the details on that, again, we set it up top, but you can get the 14 days risk free. And you can get a massive discount off your subscription. So go to activations.com slash GGE. So you are going to go to a website to get that discount. So you can see the URL in our episode description. It'll be on our website as well, but that is going to be activations.com slash GGE. The discount is only available through the website, not the app store. Obviously your app is on the app store. But to get that two weeks free, that's going to be the link.

• 1:25:57Speaker 00

  Yeah. Annoyingly, the app store doesn't let us do discounts.

• 1:25:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  We know, we know.

• 1:26:01Speaker 00

  Yeah. You can just quickly sign up on the website, free trial, and then download the app and use your existing sign in details. And take advantage of that two weeks free. Cause in two weeks you can, you can see a difference. Like that's why we wanted to do a long trial period because we just wanted to prove it. Like we have nothing to sell here. We're just showing people something that they can try and they're going to see it works. Like we wanted to make it low, low risk and low effort.

• 1:26:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. And it's a beautifully designed app. There's hundreds and hundreds of activations to choose from. I mean, there is so much to explore. Yeah. But like easy to navigate. It's not overwhelming. You know, you've got the categories are really, really helpful. So you're not going to go in there and be like, where do I start? I think you're going, and you're naturally going to gravitate towards one of the categories. And I just love that you're like, guys, it's not that hard. You know, like I think people get overwhelmed with change. And what do I need to do and change my whole life?

• 1:26:46Rayna Greenberg?

  And it's like, you're over here like, listen, it's just, you don't have to pay attention. It's just gonna creep into your brain.

• 1:26:51Speaker 00

  No, but that's the thing. Like, I was there. I remember being at my bottom and being like, oh, this is all so hard. I have so much to do. I'm so far away from where I want to be. And this is the exact thing that I did to get to where I am today. And it, I'm telling you, is the most effortless way to transform. You can transform in a really hard, manual, like, labor way. Like, you can like, really, really work it. Or you can just take a bit more of a shortcut and change your thoughts and your self-image. This is what activations does. It changes your self-image. And then, when you change your self-image, everything else in your life changes. Because, think about like, an onion. The core of the onion is your self-image. And every other layer on top of that, it's like, your habits,

• 1:27:36Speaker 00

  your thoughts, your, what you do every day. And we, when you just try to manually change something without first changing your self-image, it becomes very hard to change. So for example, if you do not have the self-image of a runner, then you're not gonna wake up in the morning and go for a run. But if you have a self-image of a runner, then you're gonna feel weird in the morning if you don't get up and go on a run. I'm saying this, I don't identify as a runner. It's a really easy example. I don't want, like, I'm a Pilates girly. Like, I don't care to run. But if I wanted to, I would like, change my self-image first, before even trying to wake up early and, and like, drag myself out of bed and, you know, rely on discipline. Like, that's all hard. I'm just gonna do the work internally first, so that it becomes easy.

• 1:28:21Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah. I love that. Love the mindset shift.

• 1:28:25Speaker 00

  I am very much so in the middle of like, pragmatic and spiritual. I feel like I give a bit of a balance with that. But there is a part of me that is a little bit more spiritual. And I do believe in some of the quantum physics theories that state that your energy creates your life and the biofield around us, which is actually measured by science. We all have a biofield of energy around us. I deeply believe that the energy that you put out is the energy that you attract back.

• 1:28:51Rayna Greenberg?

  Really, we just, we can't thank you enough for just your openness about your own life and your story and your struggles. And it's really inspiring to see what you've done and how you turned your life around. You're getting married and-

• 1:29:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  And how long have you guys been together?

• 1:29:06Speaker 00

  Seven and a half years.

• 1:29:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, okay.

• 1:29:08Speaker 00

  He's my first boyfriend. Remember, I was single at 21 and I did an activation and the next day I found him. That was, he's the guy.

• 1:29:15Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my god.

• 1:29:15Rayna Greenberg?

  How did you guys meet?

• 1:29:16Speaker 00

  Bumble.

• 1:29:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 1:29:18Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay.

• 1:29:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Did you know, like, he was the one or like, I'm curious how like, your activations and your mindset and your manifestations kind of translated into him?

• 1:29:30Speaker 00

  Well, first of all, with activations, it's very important to focus on how it feels. So, some people think that you can like, manifest a very specific thing, but I don't believe that. I believe that you can manifest a very specific feeling that thing will give you. So, I'm kind of open to the universe surprising me with what it actually is. So, I was, the day before, on October 12th, 2017, I recorded an activation describing Ben, my partner. And there were some more visual aspects, like, he's 6'4" with dark hair, you know, obviously, I think that was a bit more luck because I believe in the feeling of it being more.

• 1:30:06Rayna Greenberg?

  He's 6'4"? You're little.

• 1:30:07Speaker 00

  I know, I know.

• 1:30:08Rayna Greenberg?

  Good for you.

• 1:30:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  So, you guys met the same week we met?

• 1:30:11Speaker 00

  Oh, my gosh. Wow. A lot happened energetically in that week.

• 1:30:16Ashley Hesseltine?

  17.

• 1:30:17Rayna Greenberg?

  October 17th. Listen, October is like a thing. We were the ninth. October is like, I just have a big thing about October.

• 1:30:22Speaker 00

  A big week for us. We love October.

• 1:30:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  That week, 2017. Look at us now.

• 1:30:28Speaker 00

  That's so crazy.

• 1:30:30Rayna Greenberg?

  You manifested for us, actually.

• 1:30:31Speaker 00

  Well, we're all manifesting together. But anyway, so, on October 12th, I recorded one and I obviously said something about how he looked, but I also said mainly how he made me feel. And I really emphasized that. I really like, I'm a helpless romantic. So, I'm like, we have these movie moments together all the time. Like, he makes me feel this way. He's charming. Like, I just described him. And the following day, I met him.

• 1:30:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my gosh.

• 1:30:55Speaker 00

  Like, one day later, I met him and since then, we've been inseparable. And yeah, he was my first boyfriend and we're getting married in July. And I definitely, I didn't know the minute I met him that he would be my fir-, like, I didn't have this feeling, oh, that's my husband.

• 1:31:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes, and I don't think that's real, by the way. People can say it and it's fine. If that's your story, then it's a coincidence. Coincidence that it worked out that way. But yeah,

• 1:31:15Speaker 00

  Exactly. And our relationship was not perfect from the back. I'm saying this perfect story, but the reality is we've had loads of ups and downs. Like we have had years where maybe we kind of fell out a little bit and fell back in. Like we've been together for a long time. So I'm not here saying that like, you know, it's been perfect from day one, but he it's just become more and more like this relationship that I just, I don't know what I would do without him. I'm so excited to marry him. I actually was meeting, I met with one of our like big composers yesterday for lunch, as I was mentioning, he's creating like a custom song for me to walk down the aisle to. I'm gonna be living in activation. I will. I will actually probably have it on the app too. Cause like

• 1:31:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's really special.

• 1:31:55Speaker 00

  We'll use it in the app, but like we're creating an activation, like a custom, like one minute, like, cause it's like a lot of like orchestral, like big intense, like the app, it's like, I'm literally gonna be walking in my own activation. So then I can also relive the moment a hundred times.

• 1:32:11Ashley Hesseltine?

  This is Yeah, music is so huge. I was talking to this wedding planner yesterday and I was like, I'm gonna DJ the wedding. Just, I need someone who can hit play, but I am such a psychotic person about music. Like I'm gonna have the playlist. This is when these things are gonna happen during dinner, during dancing. You know, I don't want to miss a song that I went played at my wedding. So, you know, I just need someone back there.

• 1:32:30Speaker 00

  When's your wedding?

• 1:32:31Ashley Hesseltine?

  Um, hopefully November.

• 1:32:32Speaker 00

  Oh, my gosh. So exciting.

• 1:32:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  So, okay. And then you mentioned masturbating.

• 1:32:37Speaker 00

  Oh, my God.

• 1:32:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  And manifesting.

• 1:32:38Speaker 00

  This is off air.

• 1:32:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  We can't. We don't have to talk about

• 1:32:42Speaker 00

  No, no, no, I'm kidding.

• 1:32:43Ashley Hesseltine?

  Your specific taste in masturbating, but if you want to.

• 1:32:45Speaker 00

  I actually don't do it that much because every time I'm horny, Ben is just like on it. Like he's such a guy.

• 1:32:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Love to hear it.

• 1:32:52Speaker 00

  I don't even know how, like, I don't share this a lot. But anyway, I'll be, I'll be girls gotta eat vibes right now.

• 1:32:57Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, vibes only.

• 1:32:58Speaker 00

  But no, when we were talking out there about like, I'm such a manifester that like, once years ago, I read, oh, like when you're about to orgasm, if you think about the things that you're manifesting, like it draws it in closer to you energetically. And I was like, kind of makes sense. Cause like, For me, like manifesting is all about how you feel and like, how do you feel when you're having an orgasm? You feel like incredible and your energy is like expansive and big and like you just feel high on life, right? So I have started and it's not even in sex. And so Ben is like, did you do it this time? I'm like, yep.

• 1:33:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh my god!

• 1:33:33Rayna Greenberg?

  Ben's like, I can tell you're manifesting.

• 1:33:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  Wait, I know.

• 1:33:36Speaker 00

  I'll do it with him.

• 1:33:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  This just like opened up my world. I've always done it during masturbation. I even did that with our company, our sex toy company.

• 1:33:42Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh my god, now you have something to do during doggy.

• 1:33:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, but now that's so funny.

• 1:33:46Speaker 00

  I'm doing it in sex. I'm manifesting during sex.

• 1:33:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 1:33:50Speaker 00

  Yeah, so.

• 1:33:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, do it in a position you don't love, you know? Sex manifestation. That is so funny.

• 1:33:57Speaker 00

  No, I'm not thinking.

• 1:33:58Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes, did you manifest?

• 1:34:00Speaker 00

  I don't do it every time. Listen, I don't do it every time, but it's a different type of orgasm. It's weird not to get into the specifics.

• 1:34:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  You could do it during anal and just disassociate.

• 1:34:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, but I like that.

• 1:34:08Speaker 00

  Like, I'll die without ever.

• 1:34:10Ashley Hesseltine?

  I like that you could manifest.

• 1:34:12Speaker 00

  I love how this podcast is just taking a complete turn.

• 1:34:15Ashley Hesseltine?

  We had to, we had to do it.

• 1:34:16Rayna Greenberg?

  We'll bring it back to anal.

• 1:34:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  But I like the sex manifestation with your partner and like what you want out of that relationship.

• 1:34:22Speaker 00

  Oh no, I don't even think about our relationship. I'm like, I've already got that. I'm thinking about money.

• 1:34:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  I know, because you already got the ring bitch. I'm saying like, if you want to get engaged, what better time to be like?

• 1:34:35Speaker 00

  Sure, but like I'm being honest, like I'm very like, I know it's sometimes distasteful to talk about money, but I fucking love manifesting money because I came from so little and I've created so much for myself. Like it's just such a fun thing for me to manifest because I really feel like it's unlimited.

• 1:34:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  I don't think it's really that distasteful. I mean, listen, there's a certain way to speak about everything, but like if I'm going to be life coached by somebody that's like, you can have this life you want and the money you want. I want to be like, have you done that? Have you gotten the money that you're talking about that I can have?

• 1:35:02Speaker 00

  Oh my god, so I started doing this, especially with money. So like when I'm about to, I'm like, okay, I'm thinking about the number. I'm thinking about how it feels. I'm thinking about the abundance. I'm thinking about, you know, the opportunity. Like I'm thinking about the number. And I was doing this and listen, at the end of the day, I have probably done this maybe 20 times in my life, like this orgasm manifesting. It's not going to do it every time, but it definitely works because. Because it like permeates your energy in some way and like it it makes you feel like I honestly feel like activations. You know how they say like, remember when you were younger, they're like, oh yeah, when you do this to your knee or like when you sneeze, it's like an eighth of an orgasm. I feel like doing activations is like an eighth of an orgasm.

• 1:35:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love that.

• 1:35:41Speaker 00

  Because I feel that way and I like tune into that same frequency when I'm in that state and this shouldn't have happened, by the way. Like I haven't done much marketing for my business. Like I don't have millions of followers online. Like it's not like it just all came to me like. My entire business in itself has been a manifestation. Like things just come to me. People just start talking about it. And I really do believe it. I'm the source of the energy that's been creating this.

• 1:36:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, that's the secret. I like that people are like, what's your secret? For a lot of people, it was, well, I had millions of followers and that's, you know, not such a secret, but you like.

• 1:36:17Speaker 00

  It just happened too easily almost.

• 1:36:20Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 1:36:20Speaker 00

  Like and and I had had, it's not like this is my first business and I'm just magically now a millionaire. Like before this, I tried many different businesses and I failed many, many times. But this is different. Like I all I really feel like because it's also a business that so many people are also getting the same results from. Like it's just this like. Ball, this like flywheel of just happiness, success, abundance for everyone involved. And it really just the energy of the business itself, it's it's what I preach, it's who I am, it's abundance, it's big, it's unlimited, it's happiness, it's awe. I love the feeling of an awe for life, like that feeling of like, wow, like this is like, everything's coming together, everything is connected.

• 1:37:02Speaker 00

  And it's extremely exciting to just even talk about because it's just, it shouldn't have happened. Like this has all happened in a very unique way. And then we just start seeing people out of the woodworks come out and like say that they love the app, like Miranda Kerr messaged me and she was like, oh my God, I love the app. Like, you know, just random people that I'm like, okay, like wow, like people are just talking about this. It's it's really special.

• 1:37:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, they're being impacted.

• 1:37:27Rayna Greenberg?

  And of course, you guys know where to get the app. But Mimi, tell everybody where to find you, your company, everything.

• 1:37:32Speaker 00

  Yeah, absolutely. So. I'm probably not on Instagram, but if you want to go on my Instagram, it's at Mimi Bouchard. My first ever book with Hay House is coming out in April, so you can preorder that now on Amazon. It's called Activate Your Future Self. And it is just so much info. I'm so excited for people to read it. It's like my whole life's teachings in one book. So go preorder Activate Your Future Self. And yeah, I guess, check me out on Instagram and see if I ever post again. I also, just to remind everyone, if they want to take advantage of the Girls Gotta Eat big, big discount on yearly memberships for the activations app, they can go to activations.com/gge and take advantage of

• 1:38:15Speaker 00

  the two weeks free money-back guarantee and the massive yearly discount.

• 1:38:18Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes. And if you guys forget that, it's on our website also at girlsgottaeat.com and in the episode description.

• 1:38:23Speaker 00

  I also think that we're putting a playlist of both of your favorite activations on the website. So if people want to go to the website and look at both of your favorite activations, they can see which ones there are.

• 1:38:33Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, absolutely. Okay. And you guys know where to find us, girlsgottaeat.com. Oh my God, no more tour. Girlsgottaeat.com, that's our website. Girlsgottaeat Podcast on Instagram and TikTok. I'm Ash Hess, Raina is Rayna Greenberg. Our company Vibes Only, so you can masturbate and manifest, vibesonly.com. Subscribe on YouTube. Share this episode with a friend and we will see you Thursday.

• 1:38:57Rayna Greenberg?

  Have a happy new year, guys. We love you so much. Thank you for being here, kicking the year off with us. We can't wait for 2025.