Michael Chernow Is A Creature Of Habit: A Story of Sobriety, Resilience & Redemption

Michael Chernow is a restaurateur, entrepreneur, and the founder of Kreatures of Habit. This conversation explores Michael’s cinematic journey of sobriety, resilience, and redemption. We discuss his traumatic childhood, the depths of his addiction, the heights of culinary success, and how fitness and recovery eclipsed a life beyond his dreams. Michael emphasizes the power of daily habits, morning routines, stacking small wins, and breathwork in his transformative process. With no-nonsense insights, Michael discusses healing one’s inner child and his unwavering belief that anyone can change their life—no matter how far gone they think they are. Michael is an incredible individual. And this conversation is powerful. Enjoy! Show notes + MORE Watch on YouTube Newsletter Sign-Up Today’s Sponsors: Seed: Use code RICHROLL25 for 25% OFF your first order 👉 seed.com/RichRoll On: Enter RichRoll10 at the checkout to get 10% OFF your first order 👉on.com/richroll Momentous: Save up to 36% OFF Protein or Creatine + 20% OFF all of my favorite products 👉 livemomentous.com/richroll This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp: Listeners get 10% OFF their first month 👉BetterHelp.com/RICHROLL Check out all of the amazing discounts from our Sponsors 👉 richroll.com/sponsors Find out more about Voicing Change Media at voicingchange.media and follow us @voicingchange Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:03Michael Chernow?

  I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. And I looked over there and I said, "I hate you." Like legit, "I hate you." And, "You should die." Like, "You should just do it." "You've been playing around with the idea for so long." "You should just..." "You should do it." You know, and two weeks prior, I had overdosed on heroin. And I could not... I just couldn't figure out how to stop. I wanted to stop desperately. I did. I really did. I remember walking from that apartment that I overdosed in. I was walking west on 13th Street. And I was like, "That's it, man." "No more. Done." "How have you let yourself go get to this place?"

• 0:48Michael Chernow?

  That night, I was back at it. And so for those two weeks, I kinda had made a commitment in the opposite direction and said, "All right, dude, well, you're not gonna figure out how to end this. In a positive way, you might as well push as hard as you can till it's over." Like, "Till you're dead."

• 1:07Rich Roll?

  Michael Chernow has earned the right to deliver you a message. And that message is, "Anyone, no matter how dire your circumstances or daunting your obstacles, has the ability to change, to liberate yourself from your past, rewrite the script of your life, and transform yourself wholesale, one day at a time." I don't wanna spoil it, but I will say that this is a powerful conversation about sobriety, about resilience, and redemption. It's about humility over ego and the power of consistent, small habits to move mountains.

• 1:51Rich Roll?

  It's about gratitude and it's about service. But first...

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• 3:09Rich Roll?

  Okay. Michael's story is cinematic. It's very Anthony Bourdain. He's sort of like the love child of David Chang and Ken Rite Out. And I guess the movie pitch of his life might be something like Burnt. Did you see that movie? Burnt meets The Karate Kid. And today, he just lays it all out in an old-school round of what it was like, what happened, and what it's like now. Layered, of course, with earned wisdom, and just no shortage of practical and potentially life-altering takeaways. So, waste further time, we shall not, because this is a long one, and you're gonna wanna listen right up until the very end. Enjoy.

• 3:56Rich Roll?

  Awesome to finally meet you. I'm so excited to get into your story. I've been looking forward to this for a while, but I have a confession to make upfront, and this will give you a lens into just what an alcoholic I am. So, over the years, I have been hit up by so many people trying to get us together. Gary Vee, Lance, everybody's, "You gotta meet Chernow, you gotta meet Chernow." And there's something in my brain that just says, "Well, if these people are telling me I have to meet this guy, or if this guy is so keen to meet me..." It had the opposite effect, Michael.

• 4:28Michael Chernow?

  Go the other way.

• 4:29Rich Roll?

  It shut me down. Yeah, it made me think, "I need to move in the other direction." And that's my character defect. I don't know what that's all about. For some reason, I had this resistance, but it's contempt prior to investigation, right? And when Lance was hitting me up, and then he was sharing what you guys did together, I was like, "What is the matter with me? This guy's awesome. It's all on me, dude." So, I owe you an apology, and also an amends. I think what you're doing is dope. I think your message is super powerful. I think you're an incredible ambassador of what you're trying to share, and I'm excited to hear all about it with you.

• 5:09Michael Chernow?

  Wow, dude. Thank you, man. You're one of these guys where I've been a fan for a long time, and I've been listening for a long time. And I think the thing that we have in common, well, we have a few things in common, actually, but being in the world of recovery, and having a platform to be able to say, "Hey," like, not only is there a way out of this life that you feel like you're locked into, but the other side is so much better. And here's an example of what that could be. I think that's a powerful thing. So, that connection that I just knew that I had with you was something that I

• 5:51Michael Chernow?

  really wanted to, I really wanted to just be able to come here and connect on that. And then also, you've made an impact on so many people's lives. Whether you know it or not, and I know for guys like us, it's kind of hard to hear that, but you have, you have.

• 6:07Rich Roll?

  Thank you. I'm trying to get better at just taking stuff like that in, but I appreciate that, man. That means a lot to me. And I know that you probably, as I do, think a lot about how to bring voice to the recovery aspect of our lived experience and how to contextualize it. I know personally that had I known what I know now about what recovery is when I was struggling to get sober or resisting going into the program and raising my hand and asking for help and receiving help, that maybe I would have come in a little bit earlier.

• 6:48Rich Roll?

  And I think that occasionally pushes up against the tradition of anonymity and what you're kind of permitted to share publicly and what you're sort of chastised for sharing publicly. Do you think about that at all? Like, I just think, I'm just sharing my personal experience. I would never reveal the identity of anybody or talk about details that would be transgressive in any kind of way, but I feel really strongly about sharing this message of recovery because it revolutionized my life, changed everything about my life. It gave me the life that I have today, and I know that, you know, you feel the same.

• 7:24Michael Chernow?

  I think it's a controversial question in regards to where we came from, right? For me, there's no controversy. Every single time I share about my recovery, I get a plethora of DMs from people asking if I can give them a couple of minutes to chat. You know, I remember early on in my career, probably not early on, but I'd say after I opened up my second restaurant concept, I had an opportunity to do a pretty sizable Wall Street Journal piece. And they wanted to talk to me about, you know, restaurants in New York and my life story of how I, you know, kind of navigated the streets of New York City into the restaurant guy.

• 8:07Michael Chernow?

  And I spoke to my sponsor, which for people that don't know what that means, and, you know, in recovery talk, that's basically the mentor, right? I called my mentor, who's a super successful guy, dude who I love and respect.

• 8:22Michael Chernow?

  And I said, hey, you know, what are your thoughts on me sharing about my real recovery story, not just the sober community, you know, just being really real about what it's like for me? And he was like, absolutely not, absolutely not. You cannot do that. You cannot do that. Not only should you not do that because you're a business person and you don't need other people knowing the ins and outs of your personal life because this is a business focusing. And that really turned me off. And I decided from that moment on that this is a huge part of my life. Without that change in August of 2004 for me, I have zero. Truly, I believe that.

• 9:07Michael Chernow?

  I mean, the chances of me being alive now with like all the fentanyl and all this stuff that's in the market today are slim to none based on how I was tracking. I have no problem talking about my journey. And I actually feel like, you know, the literature that we are accustomed to was written a hundred years ago, essentially. And times were very different. And now 100,000 plus people are dying every year in the United States of America from overdoses. And that's probably a small number in comparison to what actually is happening. But hundreds of thousands of people are dying because of alcohol and drug abuse. It's a real epidemic.

• 9:50Michael Chernow?

  I feel like if I don't share about the success of coming through that, I'm not doing what I know I have to do, which is be of service.

• 10:00Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I'm on the same page. I appreciate that. I think that there's just an astonishing number of people out there who are suffering. And despite our sense of understanding that, you know, help is available or there are these meetings and these places that you can go, based on the DMs and the emails that I get, there's still a lot of people who are like, what do I do? And I'll always take the time to respond to those DMs because that's my primary purpose, right? And even though people have heard my story, or I talk about, you know, I talk about recovery constantly, the questions will still be the same. Like, here's my thing, like, what would be your advice? The advice is always the same, right?

• 10:45Rich Roll?

  Like, well, I share my experience. I'm not giving advice. That's the other thing that we learn. I'm not here to judge you or to tell you how to live your life. I'm here to tell you, like, here's what worked for me. And if you're interested in that, like, I can hold your hand and walk you through it.

• 10:59Michael Chernow?

  The other thing that I would just add to it is the success rate of people getting sober and staying sober is small, right? However, as a human being, and I don't know if we're born with this predisposition to extreme ways of life, right? I would imagine that there's some level of, I don't know if it's in my genes, or it's in my DNA, you know, but, but I am an extreme human. Everything I do, for the most part. If I don't do it, if I don't like it, I'm not gonna do it. If I like it, I'm gonna do it, I'm gonna go hard, right?

• 11:32Rich Roll?

  To your benefit and to your detriment.

• 11:33Michael Chernow?

  Probably.

• 11:34Rich Roll?

  This is a superpower, and it's also your Achilles' heel.

• 11:37Michael Chernow?

  But what I learned about, once I made a decision to, to change my life and get sober, I then can apply that ability to commit and discipline towards that commitment to every other area in my life. And that is a humbling power to understand about yourself, that if you can do that. Like, I just finished listening to your book, and I'm listening to the book, and it was so wonderful for me to just know that I'm not, I'm not alone in this crazy, extreme way of thinking. And I have other, you know, friends that are also sober, and not sober, that are also, you know, pretty hardcore extremists in, in things that they wanna pursue.

• 12:21Michael Chernow?

  But I know for sure that if I wanna do something, and I say it out loud...

• 12:28Michael Chernow?

  I'm gonna fucking do it. That was given to me from the ability to get sober and stay sober.

• 12:33Rich Roll?

  Did you go through that experience of being told or chastised for being an extremist? And being told time and time again that you need to find more balance?

• 12:45Michael Chernow?

  Like yesterday.

• 12:46Rich Roll?

  I just know, yeah, it's like, okay. It was a long journey for me to kind of just own that aspect of who I was instead of feeling bad about it or trying to change my fundamental wiring and instead just embrace it and try to channel it in positive directions with some self-awareness. I mean, obviously, you don't want to be so out of balance that, or so single-minded that you're losing sight of the other things in your life that are important or perhaps more important than the thing you're focused on in the moment. But, once you kind of own it and allow yourself to indulge in it and you direct it with some conscious awareness, it is a superpower. And I'm grateful for it.

• 13:28Michael Chernow?

  It is what has given me the confidence and the courage to walk the path that I've walked since I've gotten sober. There's just no doubt. And I think also, it's what's helped me be a great husband, father, and leader. The ability to do what I say I'm gonna do. You know, I've gotten better at this over the years, but if I don't think I'm gonna do it, I typically won't say it. So if I'm contemplating something that happens to be hard and challenging, which I do all the time, right? Like, I'm like, oh, man, I'm gonna climb Everest.

• 14:10Michael Chernow?

  But like, if I'm thinking about something, I choose not to actually speak it. I'll write about it, I'll journal about it, you know, until I'm ready or not to just go. But typically, the first person I'll tell is my wife. And once I do it, once I tell my wife, you know, she is not an extreme human, and she rolls her eyes at everything that I tell her I'm gonna do that's extreme. But if I tell her, it's happening.

• 14:36Michael Chernow?

  No matter what.

• 14:37Rich Roll?

  Then it happens.

• 14:38Michael Chernow?

  Hmm.

• 14:38Rich Roll?

  Yeah, that's incredible. And the results, you know, demonstrate that. You've had some tremendous successes. You're on to a new venture. We're gonna, we're gonna talk about that. But let's add some color here. Like, let's take it back a little bit. I mean, your story is very cinematic. You know, it's part Bourdain, burnt. It's got a little light dusting of Requiem for a Dream, a little Trainspotting in there. And also some Karate Kid on top of it, right? Like, in the screenplay of your life, like, let's verbalize the screenplay. You know, opening scene is like your nadir, your lowest moment, like, interior apartment dawn.

• 15:21Rich Roll?

  Like, where's the bottom here?

• 15:24Michael Chernow?

  So the bottom here is August 1st, hot New York City summer. I'd been up for probably 48 hours. I knew I had work. For whatever reason, throughout the whole time, I've sustained a legitimate job while I was really, while I was, you know, in the depths of my addiction.

• 15:46Rich Roll?

  And did that help to maintain the denial and just empower you to keep going?

• 15:51Michael Chernow?

  Tethered me to life.

• 15:52Rich Roll?

  Yeah, that sense of like, I can do it all. I can party all the time. I can show up for work. I can do all this stuff.

• 15:58Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, and it was in the restaurant business. So it's, you know, like, I mean, I was definitely like a, I used to take it further than, but I also worked in an environment that was like somewhat okay. It was a Monday, and I had been up for days.

• 16:14Michael Chernow?

  And the two guys that I was with kind of called it quits. And I remember very clearly being in my apartment, not wanting to stop what I had in my pocket and in the booze that I had. And for whatever reason, I caught a, um, I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. And I stopped and I, and I looked over there and I said,

• 16:42Michael Chernow?

  I hate you. Like legit, I hate you. And you should die. Like you should just do it. You've been playing around with the idea for so long. You should just. You should do it. You know, and two weeks prior, I had overdosed on heroin. And I could not. I just couldn't figure out how to stop. I wanted to stop desperately. I did. I really did. I remember walking from that apartment that I overdosed in. I was walking west on 13th Street and I was like, that's it, man. No more, done. How have you let yourself go get to this place? And um. That night, I was back at it.

• 17:25Michael Chernow?

  And so for those two weeks, I kinda had made a commitment in the opposite direction and said, all right, dude, well, you're not gonna figure out how to end this. In a, in a positive way, you might as well push as hard as you can till it's over, you know? Like till you're dead, basically, cuz you almost died. Can't figure it out. You're so close. I really wanted to, to end it that, that morning. But I didn't. I blacked out. And I came to 16 hours later. I'd slept through work for the umpteenth time. My boss. I called my boss and I, you know, said, I'm so sorry, man. He's like, Mikey. That's it. Sorry. Like, I love you.

• 18:08Michael Chernow?

  You're a great person, but you're dying. And everybody knows around you, you're dying. I'm not gonna allow that to happen on my watch. You, you're done. You're fired. And man, I loved my job. I really did. I loved, I loved where I worked. And I said, Frank, please, please give me another shot, man. Please, I will get sober. And he said, there's no chance you're bartending or running, you know, bar managing this restaurant in your condition. Just no chance. But if you show to the, show up at the restaurant at 8 o'clock in the morning for the next 30 days, I'll consider giving you your job back, but you have to get sober. And I said, "Whatever, whatever you want me to do."

• 18:52Michael Chernow?

  So I began that journey and that was like, kinda like a kick in the ass that I needed. I don't know what really was different that day than, you know, all the other times that I'd slept through work and wanted to kill myself and, you know, felt like my life was useless or hopeless. But I made a phone call to an old friend who was kinda like an older sister to me when I was running around the streets, you know, without a home. I knew that she was dating a sober guy and I think she was sober at the time as well. And I said, "I'm done. I need help. I'm desperate. I need help." And so she introduced me to this guy, Marcus. Who showed up?

• 19:34Rich Roll?

  He's the Juice Press guy, right? Yeah, one of the co-founder of Juice Press, yeah.

• 19:39Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. Yeah, he showed up for me. And at that time in my life, I had no idea. I didn't know much about sobriety, you know? But I did know that a lot of people meet in church basements and I knew, I knew that my life was basically over. I was gonna be a boring human. I probably wasn't gonna hook up with another attractive girl ever again because I'm sober.

• 20:03Rich Roll?

  You'll be alive, but everything's gonna be a shade of gray.

• 20:07Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, everything's gonna be bleak. I'm gonna hang out in libraries, you know, and this was, this is what I knew. And then I met Marcus and he was covered in tattoos, just like, you know, total badass and listened to me for the first time ever. I really felt like when I talked to him, it was the first time anybody had ever listened to me.

• 20:30Rich Roll?

  Was that one of the first times you were open and honest about what you were actually doing and took the mask off?

• 20:38Michael Chernow?

  You know, I think that there were probably a lot of, a lot of times, you know, 36 hours into a run where I'd sit, I'd be sitting with somebody in some weird, cracked-out environment, telling them about my life and how I was gonna change and how I knew I had a problem and... But I think sober, kinda sober, that was the first time that I got real.

• 21:07Rich Roll?

  What's interesting and what I kind of want to explore a little bit more deeply here is the utter, the sheer powerlessness that the addict or the alcoholic faces. You had just talked about how you have this superpower. When you say you're going to do something, you do it. It's happening. It's already happened. When you direct that laser beam in a certain direction, it's like game over before it even starts. And yet, with this problem, with heroin, with drugs, that laser beam was completely ineffective. You said, "I'm done. I'm not going to do this anymore." And then, within the same day, you were doing it.

• 21:47Rich Roll?

  And I think that that is very difficult for people who are not addicts or alcoholics or don't really understand the true nature and power of addiction to wrap around their brains, right? Like, just stop. You're going to kill yourself. You've got to cut this out. And you, who are so strong-willed, you have this incredible self-will, this, you know, well-honed discipline, it still eluded your ability to do it yourself. And I even noticed it when you were talking to Lance. Like, Lance is trying really hard to understand this disease of addiction. And there were moments in that conversation where you could hear his bafflement because he doesn't suffer from it.

• 22:29Rich Roll?

  And so that's why there's something really magical and mystical and powerful about one addict talking to another. So when you sit down across from Marcus, who's sober, there's an energy there where you feel understood because this person has lived it himself and gets it. And you don't have to explain the confusing, complex emotions that are part of that experience.

• 22:54Michael Chernow?

  Something that I realized a handful of years ago.

• 23:02Michael Chernow?

  Is that addicts and alcoholics are incredibly disciplined to the drugs and the alcohol. Like, as disciplined and as committed as I am to living a well life today.

• 23:20Rich Roll?

  Crafty as well.

• 23:21Michael Chernow?

  Insanely resourceful, will do anything, right? Like, anything, you know? Like, when I listen to your book and you broke that pedal and you were like, "I'm done." And then somebody shows up with a fucking pedal for you. You got back on the bike and you finished the thing, right? And similarly, in the world of addiction, you know? When you're in it and you're active, you're in it hard and something happens like an overdose. And you're like, "I'm done." And then someone shows up with another opportunity and you're like, "Oh, let's go."

• 24:00Rich Roll?

  Yeah. And with that, all the shame and the guilt, which butts up against that sense of being superhuman, like, "I can work at the restaurant for 48 hours straight and party and do..." You know, like, that idea, like, "I'm more capable than the average person and I'm the worst person ever because I can't solve this fundamental problem."

• 24:22Michael Chernow?

  Mm-hmm. I've been away from it for a while now. And when I think about how catastrophic just a typical day in my life was then compared to where I live today, if I go back and think about just like a standard day for me then, I would consider that today catastrophic, like, what I used to live like.

• 24:51Rich Roll?

  And exhausting.

• 24:52Michael Chernow?

  Just terrible, right? Like, from the moment I opened my eyes, which was typically 4 o'clock in the afternoon, to the minute I closed my eyes, which could be 48 hours later. The order of events that I would walk through, I can't even believe that I lived a life like that. I think that is very, very difficult for someone who has never experienced it to understand.

• 25:18Michael Chernow?

  That in those days, I did not have any ownership of my life. My life had complete ownership of me. And so I just followed my life around, or it really kind of dragged me around. And today, I am absolutely 100% driving the ship.

• 25:39Rich Roll?

  The other wrinkle here is emerging out of this childhood that was rife with chaos and abuse. Like, it was a rough situation for you as a kid, growing up in New York City.

• 25:53Michael Chernow?

  Hmm, it was.

• 25:55Rich Roll?

  And for you to be this committed family guy in a healthy relationship, and being a dad, and all of that, like, obviously sobriety is fundamental to that, but there's a lot of other, like, mental health work that has to go into healing that trauma and kind of transcending, you know, the pattern that could have been generationally, like, passed down. So talk a little bit about that, like, growing up.

• 26:21Michael Chernow?

  I grew up in a small, one-bedroom apartment. My father was an electrician and a lighting designer, and my mother was a secretary in the dentist's office. And my father was a hoarder and mentally ill. So my sister and I shared a bedroom.

• 26:44Michael Chernow?

  We were at each other's throats. We were very close in age.

• 26:49Michael Chernow?

  And I wanted to escape from as early as I could remember. My father was very, very aggressive, very, very abusive. And when he wasn't abusing, he was neglecting. And my mom, she's just a loving, caring person, but she was also caught in the crossfire of abuse from my dad. My dad is no longer here. And I want to make sure that we get to it. I want to share a story, a real sort of groundbreaking story that's happened to me recently and some breathwork stuff that I've done.

• 27:20Michael Chernow?

  But I wanted to escape from as early as I can remember. And that that meant sleeping at as many friends' houses as I could from kindergarten on. That also led me to being sexually abused by a sports coach and a Cub Scout leader, because I really just wanted out. I wanted out, and any opportunity, any time someone would say, hey, you know, come hang out with me, I did. Because it just wasn't safe at home for me, mentally, physically, and now I know spiritually. But, yeah, my dad was abusive. I do believe some people were were meant to be parents and some people weren't. And my father was certainly not meant to be a parent. He, I know, loved me.

• 28:05Michael Chernow?

  I believe it for sure. However, I don't think he had the capacity to get past his own mental illness and struggles to share that love. And that's why, I think, today, I'm unashamed to say that I put my well-being before everything else in my life. Because I watched someone who didn't ever. And that person, my father, could not get past his own shit to be able to tell me, my sister, my mother, that he loved us. Because I don't even know if he knew, because he was so caught up in his own shit, because he never took care of himself.

• 28:47Michael Chernow?

  So I, today, make myself the priority in my life, and I really do. I make sure that I take care of myself so that I could show up as a father, husband, and a great one, and then also a business person. But, you know, I would sleep out at as many friends' houses as I could, and I remember, you know, this is like a clear memory of mine at this kid Ross Delafield's house when I was, I think it was probably first grade. And he lived on 79th Street, between First and York. And I was at his house. I don't think it was the first time I was there, but he was like a good friend of mine. And his father, Danny Delafield, was like my ideal dad. I was like, man, I want this guy to be my dad. And I remember saying to myself, sitting down at dinner with the fam- with his family,

• 29:31Michael Chernow?

  which my family never ever did. I mean, maybe two times in my life did we ever sit down at a table and have dinner in our apartment.

• 29:38Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 29:40Michael Chernow?

  And I said, "Man, I've gotta get these parents to love me. I gotta get them to like me." Like, it's like, that's what I gotta do, so that they can- they'll invite me to sleep over here, you know? Like, this was like-

• 29:51Rich Roll?

  Out of survival.

• 29:52Michael Chernow?

  This is what I was thinking at that age, you know? And that's how I kind of, literally all through elementary school, I gotta get their parents to like me. I gotta figure out a way to get them to like me. And I got really good at that. Super good at getting people to like me.

• 30:09Rich Roll?

  Mm-hmm. Being the chameleon?

• 30:11Michael Chernow?

  Being the chameleon.

• 30:11Rich Roll?

  The people-pleasing chameleon. Who do you need me to be right now, so I can make sure that my needs are gonna get met?

• 30:17Michael Chernow?

  Totally.

• 30:18Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 30:19Michael Chernow?

  And so, you know, sleeping over at friends' houses led to, you know, getting into a lot of trouble early on. And, you know, at 12 years old, I got put into pain when he mentally was too soon, because I had attempted suicide, but really, it was a cry for help, you know? They evaluated me. I remember my mother was hysterical, but that's when the child services got involved in our family. And, you know, it was- it was illegal for two kids of opposite sex to share such close quarters in a bedroom, so I had to say that I slept on the couch in our living room. And anytime my father and I would get into an altercation, it was no longer like just arguing at that age, you know, it was now,

• 31:03Michael Chernow?

  you know, like, full-blown battles. I got to a point where I was now fighting back. I wasn't just like taking it on the chin, literally. I was fighting back, and cops would show up. And so finally, I was, you know, at 13 years old, I'd totally succumbed to addiction. I'd, at that point, by the end of my freshman year in high school, I was proud too. Like, very proud. Like, I had found it, you know? I was like, "This is me. I'm excited." Like, this is it.

• 31:32Rich Roll?

  I'm gonna be the drug guy. Were- was it alcohol first, or what was the introduction?

• 31:36Michael Chernow?

  It was actually cigarettes first in sixth grade. Cigarettes, and then marijuana the summer between sixth and seventh grade. And then, a friend of mine went to this, like, super-

• 31:48Michael Chernow?

  Like, small, private school. While I was still in public school, she went to this super small, private school for like, troubled kids. And that's when party drugs kinda came into my life.

• 32:02Rich Roll?

  And you grew up on the Upper East Side, like on like First and 87th or something like that? So, for people that don't know, despite the fact that you're in a one-bedroom apartment, it's a prosperous neighborhood. You go a couple blocks over and it's penthouses and, you know, like a lot of wealth. So I imagine, and everybody in New York City is kind of living together, right? Like, you're bumping into those type of kids.

• 32:24Michael Chernow?

  Hundred percent. And they have all the best drugs.

• 32:27Rich Roll?

  Yeah. And they're ready to buy whatever you're gonna sell, probably. But it's not surprising, like, you're this kid who's in a very challenging situation, without any tools, without any guidance, has all of these emotions coming up as puberty, you know, starts to progress, right? What are you supposed to do with that? And when drugs and alcohol enter the picture, like, they're the solution, like, they're the cure to alcoholism and to addiction. And it's important to understand that they serve a purpose and they work. They ultimately, you know, stop working and then they destroy your life, but there is a period of time where this is the medication that you've been looking for your whole life

• 33:08Rich Roll?

  that allows you to finally, like, you know, exhale a little bit.

• 33:13Michael Chernow?

  Saved my life.

• 33:14Rich Roll?

  Feel okay in your own body.

• 33:15Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, they saved my life at that time. At that point in my life, I really do believe that they saved my life. And I don't say that so that people can go out and say, "Oh, gosh, that's what's gonna do it for me," because ultimately, they almost killed me as well. Made me miserable and took everything, every ounce of self-confidence and self-worth from me. From every cell in my body, at the end. But at that time in my life, it was...

• 33:43Michael Chernow?

  I had found what I was looking for. I needed an escape, an ultimate escape that I had complete control over. You know, I can control everything. I can control the good feelings, the bad feelings, the insecurities, the fear. All of it. I had complete control. And that felt like I had figured it out, you know, at that early age. And honestly, it was a lot of fun. I mean, you know, eventually the child services got deep involved. I was 15. They had, you know, threatened to put me in foster care or told my mother that, you know, she'd have to take me out of the house because my father and I were fighting too much, you know, physically. I just kind of packed a bag and I said, Mom, I'm out. You know?

• 34:28Rich Roll?

  At 15?

• 34:29Michael Chernow?

  At 15.

• 34:29Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 34:30Michael Chernow?

  And I was out. I just left and I didn't go back. I moved into NYU dorm with this girl that I had met.

• 34:41Rich Roll?

  Uh huh. And. Who's in college?

• 34:44Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. And.

• 34:46Rich Roll?

  This is the other thing, like you're a hustler and you're a super handsome guy and, you know, wild and free on the streets of New York City, you're gonna find a way.

• 34:54Michael Chernow?

  I always landed on my feet.

• 34:57Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 34:57Michael Chernow?

  And like, you know, I landed on my feet in some really amazing places, you know, like Lofts, you know, and Soho, you know?

• 35:05Rich Roll?

  Sure.

• 35:06Michael Chernow?

  Those first few years, when I got out of my parents' house for real and I was working in restaurants and then ultimately in nightclubs. I felt free. I did. And that's not sugarcoating it. That's being the truth. It was so scary for me as a kid. So scary for me. I didn't even realize, even though I've done so much work on myself, the 12 steps and therapies on and off for years and years, you know, I didn't know how scary it was for me as a kid until I had this experience with breathwork that.

• 35:43Michael Chernow?

  Just opened a lot up for me recently.

• 35:46Rich Roll?

  So, do you want to footnote that for now?

• 35:48Michael Chernow?

  I want to footnote it. I'm out in the street. I'm working in restaurants and selling a lot of drugs. You know, running the streets, going to nightclubs, traveling up and down the East Coast, going to parties and selling, you know, all sorts of drugs and making money. And stayed in high school somehow, you know, I stayed in high school.

• 36:07Rich Roll?

  You still showed up for school.

• 36:09Michael Chernow?

  I still showed up for school.

• 36:10Rich Roll?

  I just assumed like, school was done with.

• 36:12Michael Chernow?

  So, it's funny. I mean, I did go to school, but I didn't go to school. Like, I would show up and then I just like barely went to class. And I don't know, again, like those moments as a young kid, having to look at my friends' parents and make them like me. I did the same thing with all of my teachers.

• 36:29Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 36:29Michael Chernow?

  You know, like all of them. And I made sure that I just established a relationship with all of my teachers in school so that when I didn't show up, I could come back in and be like, you know, I've got a pretty fucked up situation at home. You know, I was just like a master manipulator, master.

• 36:51Michael Chernow?

  Even though I'm a good person, I just figured out how to do that in a lot of areas in my life.

• 36:58Rich Roll?

  That also serves you well as a business person, as an entrepreneur. And I would imagine in the work that you've done, and maybe we're getting ahead of ourselves, like having to undo that must have felt like a threat to another superpower, which is your people skills and how to kind of gather people together around a particular goal that you're self-interested in, right?

• 37:23Michael Chernow?

  Well, you know, it's a thin line.

• 37:25Rich Roll?

  Mm-hmm. What's authentic and what is a manipulation?

• 37:28Michael Chernow?

  Totally. And I think because of me understanding pretty early on that I had this...

• 37:39Michael Chernow?

  Superpower of connecting with people. And even though it was a forced thing as a young person, it was a way for me to escape my home. I do believe that is inherently what I'm here to do. Is connect with people. If someone were to ask me, so what is your superpower? I would say it's the ability to connect with people at scale in an authentic way. And I think at that age, I was just learning about that about myself. And then, once I kind of figured it out that I could do this, when the drugs and alcohol became part of my life,

• 38:21Michael Chernow?

  now I knew I could use it as a weapon, you know? And then, once I gave up the drugs and alcohol, I realized that it didn't have to be a weapon anymore. It is who I am.

• 38:44Rich Roll?

  So where do the restaurants enter the picture? Like, you get your first job as a dishwasher or something like that? Like, how do you enter that world?

• 38:52Michael Chernow?

  I get a job as a delivery boy in a vegan restaurant on the Upper East Side called The Candle Cafe. Just still there.

• 38:58Rich Roll?

  I know that place. I know. Benay? Do you know Benay? Who was the hostess there? For a while. She's not there anymore. Anyway, I've eaten there many times.

• 39:07Michael Chernow?

  Bart and his wife.

• 39:10Rich Roll?

  The owners.

• 39:11Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 39:11Rich Roll?

  Is it still there?

• 39:12Michael Chernow?

  Joy and Bart.

• 39:13Rich Roll?

  Did it close?

• 39:14Michael Chernow?

  I think they're still there.

• 39:15Rich Roll?

  Are they still there?

• 39:16Michael Chernow?

  I think they're still there. I was illegally 12 years old when I got a job there.

• 39:19Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 39:20Michael Chernow?

  And I was on roller blades. And this is when roller blades were cool.

• 39:23Rich Roll?

  Uh huh.

• 39:23Michael Chernow?

  Just have to throw that out there. I was delivering videos, VHS videos, for Couch Potato Video. And my buddy Daniel, who is my partner in the meatball shop, who I'm staying with now, he's a year older than me. He was answering phones in the delivery department of this restaurant and said, "Hey, man, you should come deliver food for us as well." So I was delivering videos, ended up getting the job at Candle Cafe, delivering food for them. About six months after that, I also picked up a weed delivery opportunity. So I was delivering videos, food, and weed. And it kind of all worked out together, you know? Like, anybody who was ordering videos, I'd like sort of suss them out and be like...

• 40:08Michael Chernow?

  Can I interest you in anything else?

• 40:10Rich Roll?

  Sort of the weed version of Gadar, like, you know, is this a potential customer here?

• 40:15Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. In the restaurant business, it's called reading your customer. Read the table.

• 40:19Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 40:19Michael Chernow?

  So, I did that, ultimately got a job in the kitchen as a dishwasher, and then a prep cook, and then they put me on the floor, and that began my journey in the world of restaurants. And I stayed working in restaurants my whole life until very recently when I launched Creatures of Habit. But I learned that the restaurant made me feel like I could be myself for the first time. I was like in this place where, for whatever reason, my insecurities kind of like dissipated in the restaurants.

• 40:49Rich Roll?

  Interesting. I wonder if that has something to do with just the chaos of that world, and it has a very unique energy, right, that can make you feel alive if you're somebody who's well-suited to that. All the people, and there's moving pieces, and everything's happening really quickly, and you do have to be able to interact with people and communicate with them to get anything done. It's exciting.

• 41:14Michael Chernow?

  Well, it's also like, you don't spend too much time with any one person. So, you know, it was like a bunch of mini-conversations that I was having.

• 41:22Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 41:23Michael Chernow?

  You know, it was like, I'm like...

• 41:24Rich Roll?

  You're in and out. Yeah, there's no, yeah, there's no risk to it, yeah.

• 41:28Michael Chernow?

  You know, like, I was like, "Let me help you here. Let me help you over here." And then I'd find some, you know, but I loved it. I loved it, I loved it, and I felt like that was, you know, this is where I was gonna hang my hat for a while. And so I worked in restaurants all through high school, got a job in a nightclub, worked at one of, you know, New York City's sort of coolest nightclubs in the 90s.

• 41:48Rich Roll?

  Which one?

• 41:48Michael Chernow?

  Life.

• 41:49Rich Roll?

  Oh, yeah.

• 41:50Michael Chernow?

  It was an amazing, it was amazing place. I had, I mean, I was the young...

• 41:53Rich Roll?

  I'm sure you saw a lot go down there.

• 41:55Michael Chernow?

  I was the youngest, I got a job there when I was 16. I was the youngest person by a long shot that worked at the club, and everybody loved that. Everybody loved the cute 16-year-old boy, you know, that, like, all of them. Everyone loved it, and I took, you know, absolute advantage of that, and it was a lot of fun.

• 42:14Rich Roll?

  It's so crazy, that would never happen now. Yeah.

• 42:19Michael Chernow?

  No way. If somebody saw a 16-year-old kid running around the nightclub with a big, you know, it was a bar back, so I'm like running through the club with a huge bucket of ice on my shoulder. You know, they'd call the cops, man. They'd be like, what's happening here?

• 42:33Rich Roll?

  Was that Madonna era?

• 42:35Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, it was like 90.

• 42:36Rich Roll?

  D-Lite, like, all of that was happening around that time, right?

• 42:38Michael Chernow?

  No, D-Lite was a little earlier. D-Lite was probably like 93, 94. This was like 96. But I was going to, like, The Roxy and Limelight and The Tunnel in 1993 and 94 when I was 13 and 14 years old. You hear about, like, the New York City crazy club kid, kids, you know, the movie kids. Like, I lived that life.

• 43:00Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 43:00Michael Chernow?

  And that was, you know, a big part of, I believe today, my success. Going through that. And I say this all the time, because I believe it to be true. You have to go through what you go through to get to where you're at, right? I've been asked also a bunch, like, do you regret any of this stuff? Because it got really ugly, there's no doubt. I mean, I was selling a lot of drugs, doing a lot of drugs, you know, I got, you know, held up at gunpoint, pistol whip, duct taped, thrown into my bathtub, robbed, you know. I remember there was a, towards the end, I got violent, because I was angry and I didn't

• 43:43Michael Chernow?

  care anymore. And I'm not a violent person, but the anger and the lack of self-confidence and self-respect that I had just made my fuse so short that I thought everybody was thinking about me, hated me, you know, that self-centered fear. And so if somebody did something that I didn't like, I could be laughing with you one minute, and you said something to me that I didn't like, I would punch you right in the face, and I didn't think twice about it.

• 44:11Rich Roll?

  Like a Goodfellas moment? Like a Joe Pesci sort of flip the switch?

• 44:16Michael Chernow?

  Not even like that. Like, I'd be laughing with you, and then you'd say something to me, and I'd just be like, bop. You know, and people kind of were like, who is this crazy dude? I don't even want to be near this guy anymore towards the end. I got 86 from every single bar, you know, east of Allen, west of Essex, south of Houston, and north of Canal. Like, I literally did, that whole square, I managed to get 86 from everywhere. And so the last two years were really bad, but I wouldn't change a thing. I wouldn't change a thing. I don't know if I'd wanna go through it again. But I wouldn't change any of it because I really do believe that every moment of it has made me the guy I am today.

• 44:59Michael Chernow?

  And I can honestly say, looking at you today, that I love my life. I fucking love my life. I'm so blessed and grateful for my life. And if you took a snapshot of my household, 13 years old, to just a typical Saturday in my household today with my family, you would never, ever, ever say, "This person has any chance of living this life." No way. Zero chance. And I'm not talking about material shit. I'm talking about, like, this human being going through what he went through here, the picture that's painted does not end here.

• 45:44Michael Chernow?

  It ends like this kid in jail or dead. What was going through my mind and the experiences that I was having in those days.

• 45:52Rich Roll?

  What do you make of that? What do you want people to understand about that? And how it applies to their own lives?

• 45:59Michael Chernow?

  Very simple. You can allow your past to predict your present or future. You certainly can. All day long, you can be a fucking victim. And you can allow what happened in your life to completely dictate what happens today or tomorrow. Or not. Or not. And I've chose to not allow what happened in my past to dictate what I do, think, say, or how I conduct in my life today. I just don't.

• 46:29Rich Roll?

  But also to own your past and to not deny it. To accept it for what it was and to, you know, honor yourself having had to endure it, right? We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. And your life is a miracle. And that miracle is built upon sobriety and discipline, but also, you know, staying in it until the miracle happens. It's a spiritual program, right? So... The letting go, the, you know, release of that self-will or holding on to that sense of who you were at that time and allowing other people in and making yourself available

• 47:10Rich Roll?

  for, for something new and something beyond your ability to control as somebody who needed to control their life, that's like the fucking gears upon which that change is constructed.

• 47:22Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, I also think that, and it's no news, lots and lots of successful people that have done extraordinary things have deep traumas and adversity.

• 47:38Rich Roll?

  Mm-hmm.

• 47:39Michael Chernow?

  You know, it's just, it's not news.

• 47:42Rich Roll?

  Yeah, it's the engine of resilience if you survive it and you're able to, you know, learn from those experiences. And it's the dilemma of every successful person who's emerged out of their version of your experience to then have kids, you know? And you wouldn't wish, you know, any of those experiences on your children. You're creating this better life for them, but it's a life that lacks, you know, the type of challenges that you had to face to become who you are.

• 48:09Michael Chernow?

  I guess the other piece of what the message is and what I believe I'm here to do today, anyone can change at any time. It's never too late. You're never too far gone. You might think you are, you might not believe with every ounce of, of, of life in you that it's too late. It's too far gone, I'm too old, I'm on Skid Row. There's no way. It's just, I gotta, I gotta throw in the towel. And it's just not true. It's just not true. You know, something that, that I did in October with Creatures of Habit, so October is Alcohol

• 48:51Michael Chernow?

  and Substance Abuse Awareness Month, and in October I partnered with GoRuck and a foundation called The Release Recovery.

• 48:58Rich Roll?

  Sure.

• 48:59Michael Chernow?

  And I worked on this for a long time. I worked on it for about a year and a half, but I had a custom Creatures of Habit, GoRuck weight vest made. And when I got sober, running was a huge part of my life. Running became...

• 49:13Michael Chernow?

  You know, just a big part of my life. And I used to do this run in the city that I kind of coined the triple bypass. But I lived in Williamsburg and I would run over the Williamsburg Bridge, down to the Brooklyn Bridge, over the Brooklyn Bridge, back over the Manhattan Bridge, back up to the Williamsburg and back home. I said, you know, that run was so monumental for me. I remember like, probably like the first, within the first year of sobriety, fitness was a huge part of my... I don't know if I'd be sitting here today if I wasn't introduced to fitness right away. But I remember, like it was yesterday,

• 49:56Michael Chernow?

  the Williamsburg Bridge, when you're going down towards Manhattan from Brooklyn, far on the Manhattan side, there's these orange metal, like sort of rafters.

• 50:07Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I know exactly what you're talking about.

• 50:09Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. And I was running over that bridge and the sky was just the perfect blue. It was just the perfect blue. And I'm running over that bridge and I'm looking up and I'm, these like red rafters are sort of contrasting against the perfect blue. And I just said to myself, "I can't fucking believe that this is what I'm doing right now. Like, I am so lucky. How did I get here? How was I able to go from where I was to where I am now?" And I remember kind of just like putting my arms out and being like, "Oh my God, thank you. Thank you. I'm alive. Not only am I alive, but I'm living."

• 50:53Michael Chernow?

  And so when I was thinking about what to do, I wanted to do something that was gonna make an impact, not like donate money to some charity. I wanted to be able to say, "Okay, man, I'm gonna get in there. I'm gonna try to help save lives in the world of this thing that I know, you know, so well." So I designed this GoRuck Way vest and I said, "All right, GoRuck. We're gonna, we're gonna invite as many people as we can to raise money and we're gonna do the walk. We're gonna, we're gonna ruck the run that I did, you know, for the first many years in sobriety, you know, four or five days a week." And so, sure enough, we got the weight vest made.

• 51:34Michael Chernow?

  You know, we raised $75,000, 100 people showed up. Flew in from all, you know, all over the country to do this thing.

• 51:43Rich Roll?

  When was this?

• 51:44Michael Chernow?

  October 14th.

• 51:45Rich Roll?

  Last year.

• 51:46Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 51:46Rich Roll?

  Yeah, wow.

• 51:47Michael Chernow?

  And we all rucked. And it was so like, powerful for me to like, know that all these people were rucking this run that I did, that when I was really in the early days of doing this. And because of these people coming together to do this, there's a good chance that we can like, literally save, save lives. Because that money is going towards getting people who are ready and willing to change, that don't have the cash to get into treatment, we're paying the whole way. We're just gonna pay for their whole entire.

• 52:19Rich Roll?

  Basically underwriting their, their treatment, right? I mean, Release does incredible work. Zach Clark is the name of the guy who founded that. He's really made a huge impact in the sober universe and the work that he's doing and that way in which he's helping people.

• 52:34Michael Chernow?

  Really good friend of mine.

• 52:35Rich Roll?

  Yeah, he's cool. And a runner, big runner, right? Yeah, yeah. Do you know Dan Churchill then, too, as well? He's coming in here next week.

• 52:41Michael Chernow?

  Oh yeah, Dan's a good friend.

• 52:43Rich Roll?

  And I know that those guys are buddies. Was he part of that ruck? Did he do the ruck with you?

• 52:46Michael Chernow?

  He didn't do the ruck. I know that he wanted to do the ruck, but he wasn't able to make the ruck. I think he was, I don't remember, he was traveling somewhere.

• 52:53Rich Roll?

  I love that story. But I wanna drill down a little bit more on this notion of empowering people to understand that it's never too late and that you can always change. And I think something to underscore or highlight here is, within that reality, we can all change. All we have is today. Everybody's got one day. You can't do anything about tomorrow. You can't do anything about yesterday. Just what are we doing right now? What gets lost is... The patience and the time window. When you Google you, or if you Google me, it makes it look like these transformations took place relatively quickly. And it wasn't the case for me.

• 53:38Rich Roll?

  It wasn't the case for you. So I want to go, and this kind of plays into the fitness aspect of your story, like those early days when you met Marcus, you're in the program, you get introduced to fitness and martial arts. But there's that period of time, at least for me, I'm curious if this was your experience, all you're doing is what you can control that day, which is basically, I'm going to wake up, I'm going to go to a meeting. I don't know what my life is right now. I'm in this weird purgatory state where I can't see my way forward. I know I can't go back to what I was doing before, but I barely know what I'm going

• 54:19Rich Roll?

  to be doing today, other than I'm going to feed myself, I'm going to try to hit the pillow without taking a drink or a drug. I'm going to talk to people in the program and maybe take care of myself in the gym or something like that. And it's a great time. It's sort of like your version of that is very much a montage in this movie, in this screenplay of like doing, you know, doing kickboxing and going to meetings and stuff. But when you're in it, you don't know if that's ever going to end. You might think, well, this is my life now. It's never going to change, right?

• 54:54Michael Chernow?

  If you told me when I got sober, if you told me that my life would be what it is today then, I would have zero, like I wouldn't.

• 55:06Rich Roll?

  A hundred percent for me. Yeah. I mean, I look around, I'm like, what is happening? What is happening right now, Michael? How is this even? Real.

• 55:16Michael Chernow?

  Right.

• 55:17Rich Roll?

  Like if you knew, like, do you understand? And it's not because I planned it. I mean, you're very directed, all of that sort of, you know, I can be a lot of disciplined too, but I can promise you that what's happening right here, right now, was not the result of some plan that I hatched for myself.

• 55:34Michael Chernow?

  Totally. Yeah. I'll tell the story because I think it's a good story and I think it'll, it'll help sort of, you know, paint a picture of a few things that happened later on. But anyway, I reached out to Karen and that's the woman who had, you know, sort of introduced me to Marcus. She's the woman that took me in when I was younger. I was working at Life. She was bartending. I was bartender. She kind of was like an older sister type. And when I knew I, when Frank said, you gotta get sober, you gotta show up at the restaurant in the morning, she was the next person I called. Called her, she called Marcus. Marcus showed up and listened to me for the first time.

• 56:12Michael Chernow?

  He basically said, you're gonna go to this meeting. And then after this meeting, you're gonna come down to this Muay Thai kickboxing gym and meet me there. I had never heard of Muay Thai before, right? Like, the only thing that I know about kickboxing is like the terrible fights I'd had in the street had nothing to do with kickboxing, but I knew that there was some sort of physical component to it.

• 56:42Rich Roll?

  Did you play sports as a kid?

• 56:44Michael Chernow?

  I did. I did. So when I was young, I, I like fell in love with roller hockey and then ultimately ice hockey. But it was short-lived, you know, because things got ugly pretty, pretty quickly for me and, you know, 12, 13 years old. And that's when I stopped. But I just listened to what Marcus had to say. So I went to a meeting that morning. I went to the Muay Thai gym right after that meeting and I met him down there and there was another guy there, Gavin, who's also a very good friend of mine and he would, these guys were both sober Muay Thai guys. And they basically said, look dude, here's the deal. You're young, you're 23. You've got unbelievable life ahead of you. You, you don't think so.

• 57:26Michael Chernow?

  We know, because they'd already been sober for like 10 years. They were like, "You don't think so, but we know so." So you can either listen to what we have to say and do what we have to say to the T, or not. And if you listen to what we have to say, they weren't playing, you know, they weren't bullshitting with these or suggestions. They weren't doing that. They were like, "This is what you gotta fucking do. This is it. If you listen to this and you do these things, you will have a life beyond your wildest dreams. Period. We guarantee." And I'm like, I mean, these guys look cool. They look tough.

• 58:05Michael Chernow?

  I'm like, "Okay, fuck it."

• 58:06Rich Roll?

  And you needed guidance and some strong male role models in your life.

• 58:11Michael Chernow?

  I hated authority, and I still struggle with male authority. Still. At that time, I don't know what, outside of the fact that I thought they were cool, I don't know what propelled me to wanna literally listen to every word that they said and hold on to those words like it was the last thing I did. But basically, they wrote a plan for me. And the plan was this. Wake up as early as you can. Get out of bed. Brush your teeth. Wash your face. Put on your contact lenses. That, for me, in those days, was like a massive ask. You know? That was like a big ask, right? Like, brush my teeth? I mean, I don't even know. Like, did I ever brush? I don't know, you know? Wash my face? Never happens.

• 58:55Michael Chernow?

  Never, never happened. I never washed my face. Outside of being in the shower, you know? Take a piss, you know? We'd do that. So brush my teeth, wash my face, take a piss, and then drop down on my knees and pray. And I was like, huh? Like, what? They were like, "Don't ask questions. Just drop down on your knees." And ask God for help because you need help and you have no idea how to ask for it. So if you ask for help in the morning on your knees, the chances of you asking for help later on in the day will just be greater. We don't give a shit if you believe in God. We don't care what you talk to or who you pray to. Just do it. And I was like, okay.

• 59:38Michael Chernow?

  So they said, get on your knees and pray, put on a pair of sneakers and go out for a walk or a run. That could be a walk around the block. That could be a run around the block. That could be nine miles. That could be whatever you want it to be. Just get out and move your body right away, right away. And I said, okay. And then they said, as soon as you get back, make a bowl of oatmeal. A big, huge bowl of oatmeal. Add whatever you want to it. But we're telling you to eat oatmeal because it's cheap. It's relatively healthy. It's inexpensive and we need you to start putting healthy shit into your body. Right as soon as you're done with that oatmeal, go to this meeting at 10 a.m. Get your hand up and say who you are and what you are. And who you are is Michael Chernow and what you are is an alcoholic.

• 1:00:23Michael Chernow?

  And I was like, okay. And then they said, right after that meeting, come down to the Muay Thai gym and we're gonna kick your fucking ass. And we're gonna teach you how to be, at that time, you know, could be controversial to say today, but we're gonna teach you how to be a man. And we're gonna teach you about integrity. We're gonna teach you about honesty. We're gonna teach you how to get back up, which honestly, in my opinion, is probably the greatest lesson I've learned to date. The only thing I think we have to do perfectly in life is get back up. And I learned that there with those guys because they really did knock me down physically all the time, constantly. I got my, you know, ass handed to me every single day in the, in the, in the rings of Muay Thai. And the one thing I prided myself on was always getting back up.

• 1:01:06Michael Chernow?

  And then they said, right after you're, we're done training, we're gonna train here for two, two and a half hours. You're gonna eat chicken and broccoli. You're gonna take a nap and you're gonna go to work. You're gonna eat chicken and broccoli as early as you can for dinner and you're gonna go to bed as early as you can. And that's just gonna be a rinse and repeat. And before you go to bed, you're gonna drop down on your knees and you're just gonna say, thanks. And that's it. That's all you gotta do. And I was like, I mean, you know, I just did it. I did it.

• 1:01:36Rich Roll?

  What a gift, though, to have these guys invested in you and giving you direction when you needed it. And to almost be this safety net, like, just do these things and you can always come by the gym. We're here. We're gonna tell you what's what. And to have a sense of what you needed to do every hour of the day. You went back into the bars and the restaurants? You were working there?

• 1:01:59Michael Chernow?

  Oh, I-

• 1:01:59Rich Roll?

  Were you behind the bar, like, newly sober, serving up the drinks?

• 1:02:03Michael Chernow?

  Frank gave me my job back relatively quickly.

• 1:02:07Rich Roll?

  Right. Frank's the name of the... It's a pretty fancy restaurant, right?

• 1:02:11Michael Chernow?

  It's not. I mean, it's a very, very popular restaurant.

• 1:02:14Rich Roll?

  Popular.

• 1:02:14Michael Chernow?

  It's this New York City, like, iconic restaurant. Super small Italian restaurant called Frank on Second Avenue between Fifth and Sixth Street. Been there now probably close to 30 years. And Frank is like a surrogate dad to me. He was part of the cohort of humans that helped save my life. I owe him, you know, I don't know what I owe him.

• 1:02:35Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:02:35Michael Chernow?

  But he was an angel in my life, for sure. And so that program that I was given, that daily structure, is very close to how I live my life today. You know?

• 1:02:52Rich Roll?

  Nothing's changed, but everything has changed, you know?

• 1:02:56Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. It's very close.

• 1:02:58Rich Roll?

  Consistency, this is the thing.

• 1:03:01Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:01Rich Roll?

  Right? You got sober young, so you're 43 now. It's 20 years ago.

• 1:03:07Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, so this August will be 20 years sober.

• 1:03:10Rich Roll?

  Yeah. The same principles still apply.

• 1:03:14Michael Chernow?

  Hundred percent.

• 1:03:14Rich Roll?

  Yeah. It's that thing, though, where you're like, "Am I ever gonna get behind the velvet rope and get the next level of tools here?" It's like, "No, it's the same shit, man. Get up, wash your face, brush your teeth," right?

• 1:03:28Michael Chernow?

  Take a... Yeah. I mean, my morning routine has certainly grown.

• 1:03:31Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:32Michael Chernow?

  But it all... It starts that way every day. It starts that way every day. Discipline and structure are essential. I think there's the three things, and you'll probably agree.

• 1:03:48Michael Chernow?

  I think discipline, structure, and patience are just essential for accomplishing anything great. It's just, if you don't have those three things, very difficult, very difficult to like, put numbers up on the board in any area of your life. I'm not talking about just business and stature. I'm talking about in any area of your life, with the absence of structure, discipline, and patience, there's no staying power.

• 1:04:16Rich Roll?

  I think those all need to be broadly defined and construed as well, because I think there's a sort of culture around discipline that understands it only in the context of like, doing hard things physically. You know, who's gonna carry the boats, or like, you know, the idea of like, getting out of your comfort zone. Of course, we all have to do that. We have to apply discipline and welcome hard things into our life. But at some point, especially with consistency and over time, like, for you to go to the gym and do a hard workout, that requires discipline. But also, you've been doing this for a long time. It's actually not that hard, right? Like, it's what you prefer to do.

• 1:04:57Michael Chernow?

  I love to do it.

• 1:04:58Rich Roll?

  And so, the discipline has to come in, in those other areas of your life that you are still turning a blind eye to, that need redress, right? And I think that gets missed in the kind of emotional and mental growth aspect of what it means to be disciplined and committed to your constant evolution.

• 1:05:16Michael Chernow?

  Anybody who subscribes to something that would require discipline, understands that there's a period of time, traditionally is not a short period of time, typically is a long period of time, but that discipline is ultimately going to equate to freedom at a certain point, right? And I do think that anything that requires discipline is also deeply engulfed in fear. You know, deeply engulfed in fear, just, there's just like, a cloud of fear. When you're like, okay, I need discipline to do this. It's typically like, I'm scared, and I don't know if I can do it, but I'm gonna take the risk.

• 1:05:58Michael Chernow?

  And so, it's like, you know, discipline propels courage and growth, for me, and...

• 1:06:07Michael Chernow?

  I get a lot of shit from people today. Three, four years ago, you know, walking through my morning routine, which is ultimately how I pour the foundation every single day, which is my structure. I don't care what you think. I don't care how silly you think it is. I don't care if you roll your eyes and say, "Get to fucking work, dude." Like, for me, I need it. It makes me feel really good to do it. So I have a pretty intense morning structure, right? And it really, truly does set me up for success. And it allows me to, like, face the day with wins. So I really do believe in structure. Hardcore, hardcore structure. And structure, for me, is basically understanding

• 1:06:52Michael Chernow?

  that I have a list of things to do in order to take the next step. And, you know, I kind of like correlated to, if you were building a home, you got the dirt. You bought the dirt. You bought the property. You bought the land. You're building a home. No one's gonna say, "All right, man, let's go get some wood. Let's go get some nails and let's go build on that dirt." No one's gonna tell you to do that if they wanna build something successful. They're gonna say, "All right, well, we're gonna bring in the dozer and the backhoe. We're gonna excavate and we're gonna put underpinnings and we're gonna pour a ton of concrete in there

• 1:07:35Michael Chernow?

  so that when the wind comes and the storms come, that house is not gonna fall because it's gonna be sitting on top of solid rock concrete." You know? And that is literally how I think about my day. If you start your day on dirt, when the rain comes, that dirt's gonna turn to mud and that mud is gonna sink your goddamn house.

• 1:07:57Rich Roll?

  The other piece to that is that if you watch a house under construction, for the longest time, it doesn't look like anything's happening. There's bulldozers, like, pushing dirt around, right? And then at some point, they pour the concrete for the foundation. That, like, takes the longest amount of time. And if you're just driving by and noticing it, you're like, "Are they ever gonna build that house? Nothing's happening." The framing then goes up quickly, but only because all the time and energy went into building the foundation correctly. And I think that, you know, applies, obviously, to... To life, like, nothing's happening until suddenly it is. Because the whole time, every day, you've been chipping away, building that foundation so that it's rock solid. And that's the result of discipline and patience and, you know,

• 1:08:42Rich Roll?

  welcoming challenge into your life and learning from losses and failures and everything that gets packed into that.

• 1:08:49Michael Chernow?

  I also think that you said it earlier. Yesterday is long gone. Tomorrow, not guaranteed. Every day, like, the way I think about life, today is my life. Like, what happens in life happens now. Doesn't happen yesterday. It's already happened. It doesn't happen tomorrow. Like, what happens in our lives truly happens right now. And I learned that from, you know, the power of now, really. Where I kind of like heard him say, like, whatever happens is happens right now. It happens right now. You could be present for it or not.

• 1:09:34Michael Chernow?

  And so that building of the structure, that point in the foundation for me every morning, is really like, if I want to live my life this way,

• 1:09:44Michael Chernow?

  I know I'm not a unique person, but I do know that I require a certain amount of structure and discipline in order to live the life I want to live. And the cool thing about

• 1:10:00Michael Chernow?

  the decisions that I've made over the last 20 years is that I know that I have the ability to do this shit all the time. It makes me a better person. It makes me a better father. And at the end of the day,

• 1:10:16Michael Chernow?

  really, all I care about is...

• 1:10:22Michael Chernow?

  Being happy with my wife and kids. That is like, I really, I love Bill, I love my friends, I love, you know, business. I love the fitness, you know, endeavors. But really, I wanna have the best fucking life with my wife and kids. I really do. How old are your kids? Nine and six. Yeah. You had a scare, right? Well, I've got two sons, so, so my first son, his name is Dakota. Yeah, Dakota is an amazing child, but when he was born, he had, his eyes weren't tracking. So like, you know, they always say like, hey, you know, the eyes should be tracking, make sure everything is healthy.

• 1:11:05Michael Chernow?

  And when he was born, like, I noticed that that was like something weird. So we went to the pediatrician after the first month. He would like turn his head and his eyes would kinda stay there. And then they would like kinda slowly come over. And so I said to the pediatrician, hey, this is happening, like, what should we do? And she was like, oh, you know, some kids just take a little bit more time to develop. And, you know, it didn't change. After eight weeks, nine weeks, 10 weeks, I was like, hey, this isn't changing. Like, what should we do? We should see a specialist. And they referred us to this optometrist or ophthalmologist, whichever it was. That woman said, you know, I don't really know. Let me, I think, I think you should go see a pediatric neurologist.

• 1:11:49Michael Chernow?

  And that, of course, is like, oh, gosh, a neurologist, you know, that's a little scary. So we went to the pediatric neurologist and he just did not have great bedside manner. And was like very kinda, didn't make it like super comfortable for us, which is what it is. But ultimately did an MRI and found that his cerebellum was shaped differently by a couple of millimeters. And so they said, okay, well, we wanna run a massive gene study on him and the two of you. And now Donna and I are scared, cuz they didn't really allude to any, you know, potential

• 1:12:32Michael Chernow?

  of what this could be, but they were like, we wanna run a gene study. And so that gene study took three or four months. They took our blood at the same time altogether. And then they called us into the office, he was about six or seven months old.

• 1:12:48Michael Chernow?

  And they were like, "We've got some stuff to talk to you about." And Donna and I were like, "Okay." And they said, "There's two genes, mutated genes, that we identified in his gene study. One of them is from you, Michael, one of them is from you, Donna." The good news is, the two genes are not identical. Meaning, you know, you have two sets of genes. If there's a mutation on a specific gene and another mutation on a specific gene, it's very, very easy to identify exactly what it is. But, the two different mutated genes have only been recorded

• 1:13:31Michael Chernow?

  less than a dozen times in history, the two different mutated genes that he has. And so, they said, "There's two things. One, there's a good chance he'll never walk." And Donna and I were like, "What?"

• 1:13:46Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 1:13:47Michael Chernow?

  And they were like, you know, "He has a very low muscle tone potential disorder, and there's a good chance that he won't walk." And I'm, at that point, devastated. And then they follow that up by saying, "And out of the 12 or so recorded situations like this that we have, 30% of the children developed a terminal brain cancer. So he's gonna need to get an MRI every six months until he's eight years old."

• 1:14:29Michael Chernow?

  And, I mean, you know, talk about like-

• 1:14:33Rich Roll?

  That's as heavy as it gets, man.

• 1:14:35Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 1:14:35Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 1:14:36Michael Chernow?

  I didn't know what to make of that. Donna and I were just completely gutted. The gene doctor and the neurologist, I can't imagine what it would have to be like to tell a set of parents that, right? You know, they're very poker-faced. There was like, very little, like, emotion from them. Because I can only imagine that that's something that they have to do relatively often, and it's just not, you know, talking about somebody's like-

• 1:15:11Rich Roll?

  I could never do that.

• 1:15:12Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. So-

• 1:15:14Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 1:15:16Michael Chernow?

  I'm grateful that I have tools. You know, that was like a very, very, very difficult time. And I just kinda went into this mode where I was like, no. Uh-uh. Like, I'm not, that's not gonna be the case with my son.

• 1:15:34Michael Chernow?

  No way. It's just not gonna happen. Can't let it, I'm not gonna let it happen. I'm gonna, I'm gonna fight this one, just like I fought my addiction, just like I fought in the ring of Muay Thai, just like I fought for that first marathon I ran, just like, you know, I was like, I know how to fight. I know how to fight. I'm gonna fucking fight. And we did. We got immediate early intervention, and we had a guy show up at our apartment three days a week.

• 1:16:09Michael Chernow?

  And I prayed my ass off.

• 1:16:14Michael Chernow?

  And

• 1:16:17Michael Chernow?

  Dakota is, uh...

• 1:16:23Michael Chernow?

  He's, uh...

• 1:16:26Michael Chernow?

  Fucking amazing.

• 1:16:27Rich Roll?

  He's doing good.

• 1:16:28Michael Chernow?

  He plays, he does karate, he plays soccer, he jumps off, he fucking... I was on the phone on the way over here today, and he was telling me how he fell off his four-wheeler. He's totally awesome.

• 1:16:42Rich Roll?

  So, when he took his first steps, that must have been a big thing.

• 1:16:48Michael Chernow?

  Didn't happen until he was two years and two months old. I had an unwavering belief that this kid was gonna be okay.

• 1:17:00Rich Roll?

  Where does that come from?

• 1:17:04Michael Chernow?

  I don't wanna sound too woo-woo, but I have to, because I can't tell you what it comes from outside of the fact that I I pray every day, and I've developed a relationship with a power greater than myself that I fucking believe takes care of me.

• 1:17:19Michael Chernow?

  Legit, I do. And I don't know what it is at all. I don't care. I don't question it. I don't analyze it. But I do know that I have a relationship that when shit goes down and when shit's not going down, I believe I can connect to and get through whatever I've got to get through. I mean, I'm sorry for getting emotional, but it's just like, when I think about the kid, you know, he's... I mean, I love that human. And watching my son, you know, watching him get like his...

• 1:18:01Michael Chernow?

  Watching him getting his like karate belt promotion last week in there with all the rest of the kids. And he's got a balance issue, you know? He'll probably have it until he gets old enough to realize that it's happening and then he's going to want to take action. But I can't tell you why I had that unwavering belief that he was going to be okay. And it doesn't mean that I wasn't scared and I didn't have fear, but it does mean that I was able to fucking charge through it with courage.

• 1:18:40Michael Chernow?

  And that is what I think this like sobriety thing is.

• 1:19:08Rich Roll?

  When you got emotional a moment ago, what was coming up for you?

• 1:19:14Michael Chernow?

  I think it is, you asked me, what is it? And I think in combination with me thinking about my son and how he's okay and knowing that I have a relationship with God.

• 1:19:35Michael Chernow?

  I'm the luckiest guy sitting on the planet. Is that like truly what felt it felt like for me? Like, I believe that I am one of the luckiest guys. And I know that I've put a lot of work into my life over the last 20 years. But, man.

• 1:19:56Rich Roll?

  I think that there are people who have great lives, people that have overcome things to live really beautiful lives. People who are innately grateful, like have the self-awareness to recognize that. And other people who have a very determined, dedicated practice of cultivating gratitude so that they can be in contact with that, which allows you to feel grounded and understand what's really important. My sense is that you're somebody who, I don't know if you're innately grateful, but you certainly cultivate gratitude. Like, making sure that you're connecting with gratitude and in touch with how good your life is, is a very conscious practice on your part.

• 1:20:42Michael Chernow?

  I mean, the first part of my day, every single day, the first thing I do, call it corny, is upon waking, I flip back my eye mask, I open up my eyes. If I'm in my bedroom, which is, you know, where I like to be, I look up at the ceiling fan, I smile from ear to ear, like shit-eating grin, and I go right into gratitude. Immediately, first thing, immediate, first 30 seconds of my day. All the shit that I'm grateful for. And I do that because, well, I really do it because I met somebody who told me that that's something that they do, and it's been very helpful.

• 1:21:28Rich Roll?

  I appreciate the honesty. Look, you know, making a gratitude list, these are, these are programmed things also. We're taught this early and often.

• 1:21:35Michael Chernow?

  This like first way to like wake up with this sort of smile and gratitude.

• 1:21:39Rich Roll?

  That very specific practice, yeah.

• 1:21:41Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, this woman Dana Cowan, who was the, um... Chief editor at Food and Wine Magazine for 25 years. She told me that that's what she does. And that was probably in 2018, 19. And I was like, really? She smiles like, you know, big old smile first thing in the morning. I'm like, let me just try that. And I started doing that. And I do it every single day. And it's uncomfortable. But I also was told from early on that, you know, as an alcoholic, I wake up with untreated alcoholism and anxiety every day. So like, what can I do first thing in the morning to say like, F you, anxiety. Let me give the, let me tell you how I want to live my life. And that's what I do.

• 1:22:25Michael Chernow?

  And so, yes, gratitude is, I am

• 1:22:31Michael Chernow?

  beyond grateful for my life.

• 1:22:36Rich Roll?

  How do you deal with the conflict or the tension between self-will and surrender and letting go? Cause you're somebody who's like, we're gonna fight this. This is what we're gonna do. This is not happening. I'm gonna make sure, you know, that control instinct of, you know, being at the helm, being, you know, in charge of the command center versus the letting go and the surrender and the allowing and the acceptance and all the kind of fucking, you know, recovery parlance. That's part of, you know, what it means to be this spiritual being in connection with something that, you know, we can't fully understand that is in control in ways that we are not.

• 1:23:15Michael Chernow?

  I think it's a great question. And I think the hard part is understanding when to turn one on and off. And for me,

• 1:23:28Michael Chernow?

  and I've had to learn the hard way, of course, many, many, many, many, many, many times, specifically with my wife. Cause I am a fixer. I like to wanna fix things, you know?

• 1:23:40Michael Chernow?

  I've had to learn like, hey, with Donna,

• 1:23:45Michael Chernow?

  she does not want you to come fix her shit. Don't like, try to fix everything. Just tell her you love her.

• 1:23:53Michael Chernow?

  Tell her you love her. And that's been an amazing practice for me. I think when it came to Dakota,

• 1:24:00Michael Chernow?

  I felt that I just needed to take immediate action.

• 1:24:06Michael Chernow?

  And.

• 1:24:11Michael Chernow?

  I've learned, and this is sort of where the patience comes in. I've learned that just because I take action doesn't mean I'm gonna get what I want. And typically, anything that's noteworthy takes time. And so with that, I had to like push it into sixth gear because I was immediately in fear. And I'm like, you know, what do I know about fear today? Like, if I run from fear, if I brush it under the rug, if I don't deal with it, it's not going anywhere. It's just not going anywhere. I gotta get into it, you know? And so now, like, I've kind of committed to this, like,

• 1:24:54Michael Chernow?

  the fear is there, I look for it, and I run at it as fast as I can. And I know that that's not the greatest way to be with everything in my life. It's just not. But I am sort of like inclined to want to do that.

• 1:25:06Rich Roll?

  Where does the fear show up for you these days?

• 1:25:11Michael Chernow?

  I think in a number of different ways. Business, I get fear around business. You know, I'm a startup entrepreneur. I've built three companies over the last 15 years. And so, you know, three different companies in 15 years, it's a five-year clips, right, basically? And so, in the startup, you know, it takes a kind of person to be able to navigate and power through how stressful it is to build a business and raise money and you know, weather the storms and, you know?

• 1:25:50Rich Roll?

  Yeah, and lots of high highs and low lows.

• 1:25:53Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, you know, like, I think about it, like, you're an endurance athlete, one of the best in the world, right?

• 1:26:02Michael Chernow?

  You spend so much time, so much time training for an endurance race. So much time, way more time training than you do on the race. And way more time racing than you do finishing the race. In the world of building businesses, you're training for the race, you're running the race. And like when you get to crossing the finish line is like so short-lived. So short-lived, you know, like I'm like looking up at the mountain all the time. So I'm always looking up. I'm like, man, there's that summit up there, you know, we'll get there. And then you summit every once in a while. And you look to your left and you look to your right and you're like, high five, man.

• 1:26:47Michael Chernow?

  All right, man, let's go get that next mountain.

• 1:26:50Rich Roll?

  I think the difference though, is that in the entrepreneurship startup world or just business in general, you're racing every day. Like you, you don't get to like train and then show up and do the race and be evaluated. Then you're being evaluated every single day. Like every day has its own training, racing and finish line, right? That the world is judging you by. And that's basically becomes instrumental in whether you're going to get to live to see another day to train, race and finish.

• 1:27:19Michael Chernow?

  Well, I think the cool thing about being an entrepreneur is every day really is training day. It's training day because there's so many things that come up that are a first. Like all the time, you're like, oh my God, like, how do I, that, that hasn't happened before? What do I do now? And you're training, you're literally training for, you know? I mean, I hear what you're saying about running the race every single day. And yes, like you're on the track and you're hitting it hard, but there's so many things, like when you're on race day, you've kind of prepared for.

• 1:27:57Michael Chernow?

  The course. You kind of know where you're up against. You know where the hills are. You know where it could get. You know, the terrain can get rocky.

• 1:28:06Rich Roll?

  But you're saying it's more like the Berkeley marathons, where they don't tell you what the course is or what time you're going to start, and you have to figure it out every day.

• 1:28:14Michael Chernow?

  So you're training on the course.

• 1:28:15Rich Roll?

  Right, and then you learn all this stuff, and then the next day, the course is completely different, and there is no map for it.

• 1:28:21Michael Chernow?

  I mean, there's definitely some, you know, similarity, obviously, and there's definitely a lot of things that you're able to get better and better and better at. But, I mean, every single day, I look across my business partner, and I'm like, my gosh, man. Like, does this ever end?

• 1:28:41Rich Roll?

  Well, the interesting thing is that, I mean, we're like over an hour and a half into this, and we haven't even talked about like all the restaurants that, you know. So you had this incredible success with Meatball Shop. You repair your life. You did a lot of kickboxing. You did all that shit, right? Like, life comes together. You're in a position to now step into the restaurant world in a new way as an owner. And you open up this place, Meatball Shop. I mean, it's a long story, but like, it becomes this massive sensation, super successful. How many of them? Ultimately, there were five of them, six of them?

• 1:29:17Michael Chernow?

  Six of them.

• 1:29:18Rich Roll?

  Six of them?

• 1:29:18Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 1:29:19Rich Roll?

  So right out of the gate, like, your first true entrepreneurial venture is this massive win. Does that lead you to believe that like you just have the touch? And that this is how it's going to go every single time? I mean, there's a lot of peril packed into that story, too, and, you know.

• 1:29:38Michael Chernow?

  You know, you asked me about, like, where does fear show up in my life? And I had to stop and think about it for a minute, because there's fear like all throughout. But the one bizarre thing for me is that, like, people would ask me before going into business in Meatball Shop, they'd be like, oh, my gosh, like, aren't you scared? And I'd look at them and be like, I'm not. Like, I'm not. Like, for whatever reason, there was something that did not allow that fear to impact and/or penetrate my desire to want to do it.

• 1:30:11Rich Roll?

  Because you were keeping the fear in abeyance? Or because you just felt like, no, I actually know this is going to work?

• 1:30:19Michael Chernow?

  The latter.

• 1:30:19Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:30:20Michael Chernow?

  To a fault, I have a level of optimism in my life that...

• 1:30:27Michael Chernow?

  Has carried all the things that I've done, actually. I believe every Sunday morning that the New York Giants will win the fucking football game. I do, man.

• 1:30:39Rich Roll?

  Good luck with that.

• 1:30:40Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, I know. You know, like, I just have a level of optimism that I think is... I just, there was not a doubt in my mind. Similar with Dakota. There just was not a doubt in my mind, even though I was scared. There was a level of optimism that I had that I was just like, no. This is gonna work.

• 1:30:58Rich Roll?

  Do you work on that, or do you just think that's bred into you?

• 1:31:00Michael Chernow?

  I think it's bred in me, honestly. I do. And, you know, the story of Meatball Shop, Daniel and I, we were standing in the back of the restaurant. Little restaurant on Stanton Street between Orchard and Allen, 2010.

• 1:31:17Rich Roll?

  Lower East Side.

• 1:31:17Michael Chernow?

  Lower East Side, coming out of a depression, kind of a depression, coming out of a recession. And we had paper up on the windows. Our publicist at the time was very adamant about, you cannot show anybody the inside of this restaurant. New York Magazine had the exclusive, you know, there's like a whole thing, you know, in restaurant press. And I said, I remember standing next to Dan, and I was like, dude, we are gonna kill it. This is gonna be awesome. Like, I was so ready. You know, both of us had spent our lives working in restaurants. So, like, I was ready for the war. I just was, like, fired up for it. Daniel was like, no shot. No one's out there. This is gonna end terribly.

• 1:32:03Michael Chernow?

  And it was like, that's, you know, the two of us are that way. Sure enough, pulled the paper off the windows, looked outside, over 200 people online to eat. Pulled them all in front of the restaurant. I was like, guys, you, this is insane. You gotta come out in front of the restaurant. Took a picture, Daily News, you know, wrote a piece on using the picture.

• 1:32:24Michael Chernow?

  And, you know, just absolute mayhem in the best way.

• 1:32:29Rich Roll?

  From there on, yeah.

• 1:32:31Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 1:32:32Rich Roll?

  It's wild.

• 1:32:33Michael Chernow?

  I mean, we were cooking meatballs, just no clue that this was gonna happen. No dream, you know, but just, who would've thought that a restaurant, little restaurant?

• 1:32:46Rich Roll?

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:32:47Michael Chernow?

  But, within six months, we were on Good Morning America. Within eight months, we were on the Today Show. Within the first year, we were on Jay Leno, Chelsea Handler, Jimmy Fallon. You know, crazy, craziness, craziness. People were like, who are these guys?

• 1:33:01Rich Roll?

  Right, you become this media figure, and you being kind of the face of the whole thing ends up causing some, some issues with Daniel, your partnership, right?

• 1:33:12Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, yeah, I felt very comfortable on camera. I enjoyed it. I felt like, uh, I just felt very comfortable there. And the media also enjoyed me, you know? And I think that became a problem for Dan and I, because, I mean, I could see why that would be a problem, you know? He didn't love it as much as I did. And he wasn't as comfortable as I was, although he's good.

• 1:33:41Rich Roll?

  But, the public impression that this was all you, and it wasn't an even-handed partnership between the two of you, even if he's not comfortable and doesn't want to do all the press that you seem to enjoy, probably grated on him.

• 1:33:56Michael Chernow?

  I actually don't know if it was perceived that way. I mean, I really don't. I don't know if it was perceived that it was all me, and I think that, that it was the meatball guys, but I think, like, when they would call for the media, you know, it would start with me.

• 1:34:10Rich Roll?

  Uh-huh.

• 1:34:11Michael Chernow?

  And I think it became tension there, around that. And in a partnership, whoever's listening, you know, the millions of people that are listening, I'm sure there's lots of people that are in partnerships here, whether, whether it's a marriage, or a business partnership, whatever. Once one person feels like the other person is not doing enough, and that trust breaks right there, I'm bringing more to the table.

• 1:34:42Michael Chernow?

  It's the beginning of the end. And that's kind of what happened. And we built this amazing thing in New York. And we opened up a bunch of restaurants. And it was just, people were, you know, and it's still open, still there 14 years later. And still considered one of the greatest restaurants in New York. You know, people are like, you say Meatball Shop, and people are like, oh, I love that restaurant. You know, it used to be, oh, that's my favorite restaurant in New York. Anywhere I'd be, anywhere I'd go, you know, if I say Meatball Shop, you know, people's heads turn. And then it'd be kind of, it sort of like evolved from, oh, that's my favorite restaurant in New York, to every time my family comes in, I take them to the Meatball Shop. Anytime my friends come into New York, that's where we take them. And that, for me, actually meant far more than that's my favorite restaurant.

• 1:35:27Michael Chernow?

  Because, you know, your favorite restaurant changes over time.

• 1:35:30Rich Roll?

  Yeah, things go in and out of vogue pretty quickly, right? It's, it's sort of the difference between a book that hits the New York Times Bestseller list and then is kind of gone a little bit shortly thereafter, and the perennial bestseller. Like, do you want to be a New York institution? Or do you want the flash and the glam of like, being the super hip place that is unsustainable for almost every nightclub or restaurant or bar?

• 1:35:55Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, so we became NR. Like, Meatball Shop is a New York institution, you know? However, it was tough. It was tough to sustain the partnership. And we had a huge opportunity, huge opportunity, financial opportunity. And I couldn't convince my partner, Dan, that it was the right opportunity. He thought it was worth more money than...

• 1:36:23Rich Roll?

  Basically, a private equity firm came in, wanted to buy it, add a massive valuation.

• 1:36:28Michael Chernow?

  Massive. Unheard of. Twenty-something X valuation, of EBITDA, of earnings. And I was like, dude? And we were already fighting at that point, but I was like, dude, this is it. You put in 20 grand, I put in 20 grand. Each of us put in 40, we raised 350. We paid those investors back a bunch over already. And then we have this financial partner who's, who's given us money to scale the thing. I was like, dude, you and I are going to put millions of dollars in our bank account. We're thirty, I'm thirty-one, you're thirty-three, thirty-two, thirty-three. Like, this is it. Let's go. Now. Couldn't convince him. Worth more money. I'm like, oh, my gosh.

• 1:37:13Michael Chernow?

  Like, this can't be. You know? And we were already at each other's throat. We were thinking about where to take the business out of market. I knew that the media was what really helped propel this business and put us on the map. So I was like, man, like, we gotta go to LA. Like, if we go to LA and we open up in LA, we're just gonna get smashed up onto the billboards again because the media's gonna love it. We'll do all the LA local stuff. We'll have all the celebs come into the restaurant. Like, it'll be like this, it'll be the resurgence of the New York City thing in 2010, just in 2015. And, you know, he wanted to open up in, which operationally makes more sense, Connecticut, New Jersey, Long Island, you know?

• 1:37:54Michael Chernow?

  We had a meeting with Ron Sheik, who's the founder of Albon Pen and now Panera Bread. And he met with us at one of our restaurants and we were talking to him. There's two things that he said in that meeting that I'll never forget. One was, you know, once we opened up the restaurant, there were so many knockoffs of the meatball shop globally. I mean, there was like tons and tons of people opening up meatball restaurants.

• 1:38:20Rich Roll?

  In the way, kind of, everybody did that to Dave Chang, too, with Mom Fugu.

• 1:38:24Michael Chernow?

  Exactly.

• 1:38:24Rich Roll?

  Yeah, all the ramen shops and all that kind of stuff.

• 1:38:27Michael Chernow?

  So I remember saying it to Ron, like, what do we do with all the competition? Like, all the people that are knocking us off? And he looked at me, like, a deep eye contact, and he said, "Are you fucking kidding me?" And I was like, "I'm asking you." He said, "The second you spend thinking about what other people are doing is the second you're not spending thinking about what you're doing. Who gives a shit what they do? All you should care about is what's going on in front of you." And I was like, "Great piece of advice. That helped." And then he said, and this is why I think, kind of, stuck in Daniel's mind, you know, he basically took out, like, the back of our menu. He had a marker, we had these markers where you check things off on the restaurant, and

• 1:39:10Michael Chernow?

  he went boom and slammed the marker down on the thing. And he was like, "If this pen were to bleed right now, you need to grow concentrically, like, the ink would come out of this pen. So you don't grow, you don't grow here, you don't grow there, you grow here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here. So you can scale it responsibly, operationally." And I think that's kind of stuck in Daniel's mind. And for me, I was like, yeah, fuck that idea. Like, I wanted to go where the media was. And so we couldn't agree on that. Couldn't agree on the PE deal. And I ended up selling a bunch of my equity in 2014 to the partners. And I thought that I had what it took to do it again. So that's when I went out and put a lot of my own money

• 1:39:54Michael Chernow?

  and then raised a little bit of money to open up my second restaurant concept.

• 1:39:57Rich Roll?

  With Seymour's?

• 1:39:58Michael Chernow?

  Seymour's Sustainable Seafood. And I did it on Broom and Mulberry Street. And then I replayed the tape and did the exact same thing.

• 1:40:06Rich Roll?

  Six of them total and then ultimately exited, right?

• 1:40:10Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 1:40:10Rich Roll?

  That's how it worked. I mean, two successes like that in a row is crazy when you think about how volatile the restaurant world is. I mean, everybody will tell you, don't go into the restaurant business. It's a terrible investment. Almost every restaurant fails. Setting aside, you know, kind of pandemic issues that afflicted the industry at large. How do you account for your success in the light of, you know, the statistics that would say like, almost all of these things fail? Like, what did you do differently? Or what was the secret that allowed you to transcend those odds?

• 1:40:48Michael Chernow?

  Culture. That's it. Culture. I believe that I'm like a real culture cowboy in the world of restaurants. I put culture first.

• 1:41:00Rich Roll?

  What does that mean?

• 1:41:01Michael Chernow?

  That means that I don't care. I'm gonna get assassinated for this. But I could give a shit about a P and L. Like, I don't care what a profit and loss statement looks like. My number one priority in a world, in a restaurant, that the success of a restaurant is how somebody feels when they walk out the door. That is the success of a restaurant. It's not about what the P and L says. If that person, like you've got to think about it, right? Like you're in the world of, of creating environment that some, you're feeding someone. You're creating an environment that somebody is ultimately going to walk into.

• 1:41:41Michael Chernow?

  And if you do your job right, he's going to love every second they're in that space. That is the success of a restaurant.

• 1:41:48Rich Roll?

  And if you have that success, the P and L ultimately, hopefully, works itself out, right? But if you don't have that, it doesn't matter what the P and L does.

• 1:41:56Michael Chernow?

  Doesn't matter.

• 1:41:56Rich Roll?

  How did you learn that? Is that just all the years working in these places?

• 1:42:00Michael Chernow?

  I think, I think, I think really what it boiled down to for me was I understood a few things about people working in restaurants. I remember clearly I was bartending and there was this, this guy Dominic, who was just a true character, older than me, also alcoholic. I mean, I remember when I first started working in this restaurant, he was, we would bartend together. And he taught me this lesson that was so powerful. He goes, he goes, "Watch this." And we played crazy music in this restaurant. I played whatever the hell I want. I would play fucking Megadeth, Biggie Smalls, Billie Holiday. Yeah, I played whatever I wanted. Didn't matter.

• 1:42:44Michael Chernow?

  And Frank was like, "Go for it." We were bartending and I don't know, there was probably some, you know, loud crazy music on. And this, this older couple walked into the restaurant and this place is packed, you know? Older couple walked into the restaurant and they're just like, and he goes, "Look at those two." And he's like, "Watch this." And he grabbed the iPod, because that's back in the day when iPods were there. And he put on, he put on Frank Sinatra.

• 1:43:11Rich Roll?

  Uh huh.

• 1:43:11Michael Chernow?

  And he goes, "Look at them." And as soon as the music came on, both of them went.

• 1:43:18Michael Chernow?

  Totally changed the environment. Totally changed their whole entire experience in that moment. It went from crazy chaotic music to the music that they understood. The music that they, that made them feel good. And I was like, wow, you can really change someone's experience like that, just like that. And that is going to be the, the difference between that couple. You don't know who they are. You have no idea who they are. That person, those two, could be neighbors with, you know, Barack Obama. And leave the restaurant and say, you know, we went into this restaurant and they were playing crazy music and then all of a sudden, they just turned on Frank Sinatra and the whole entire environment changed.

• 1:44:00Michael Chernow?

  And we sat down and we had the best food ever and the service was awesome. I can't wait to go back there. I'm going to tell everyone I know. And that is the success.

• 1:44:11Rich Roll?

  It is a service industry, but really appreciating the fact that it's all about service being the distinguishing determining factor of success, I think is really powerful. And I can't help but think about The Bear. Did you watch The Bear? Of course you watched The Bear, right? So in season two, when the lights go on for Richie, who's struggling and trying to figure out how he fits into the world and how he can find meaning and purpose in his life, which eludes him until he's stodging at that, at that fancy restaurant. I think the episode, is it called Forks?

• 1:44:52Rich Roll?

  Where the guy that he's reporting to starts to tell him about his sobriety story. And Richie starts to realize that it's all about service. And Richie has always been the hospitality guy. Even when he's all fucked up and yelling at people, he's the guy who's making the people feel comfortable when they come in. And he's the one who really appreciates and honors the customers. And when he's able to like, do the math and put that equation together. And he returns to The Bear for that like culminating scene. And he can marry like his understanding of how to serve people with an appreciation

• 1:45:34Rich Roll?

  for the art of cuisine and what the restaurant was trying to achieve. It's like the lights go on. It's like this magical moment in that show.

• 1:45:42Michael Chernow?

  The other thing that I'd like to add to it.

• 1:45:45Rich Roll?

  Yes.

• 1:45:46Michael Chernow?

  Yes.

• 1:45:46Rich Roll?

  I mean, was that your experience when you saw that? Or as an insider, is it impossible for you to watch a show like that without?

• 1:45:53Michael Chernow?

  You know, the funny thing about that show is it evokes real emotion. For sure, for someone like me that has experienced that. The number one thing that people say when they watch that show is, oh, my God, it made me so stressed out. It just made me feel so much stress. And that's true. You know, it is a very stressful environment. There are certain people that were born to do it. You know, like thrive in it. I thrive there. I thrive. I'm the guy, when there's the disgruntled guest, the same disgruntled guest that comes in. I'm the guy that they send to the table, you know, because I love it.

• 1:46:36Michael Chernow?

  I'm just like, man, let me get this guy right.

• 1:46:39Rich Roll?

  I mean, that's Richie energy, right?

• 1:46:42Michael Chernow?

  So the thing that I will say, though, is when I say culture, internal culture of the company. For me, it's not about, I am so against the customer is always right. And I, quite frankly, put very little thought into the guest of the restaurants. I put all of my thought and energy into the team. Because I know, you know, think about it this way. Professional baseball team, football team, basketball team. The coach of that team is not sitting around the locker room saying, all right, guys, we've got to make sure those fans are happy.

• 1:47:26Rich Roll?

  I get it.

• 1:47:27Michael Chernow?

  You know, how do I create these human beings? How do I make them feel supported? How do I make them feel confident? How do I make them feel excited and motivated and fired up to attack in the best possible way? Because it is, you know, like if you turn the lights on on a Friday night and you're not in attack mode, you're on your heels and you're playing defense. Absolute disaster happens, you know, it's just you could, I could walk into a restaurant and I know immediately they're on defense and they're fucked. They're in the weeds deep, you know, like I was, I was down in Florida at my sister's

• 1:48:10Michael Chernow?

  in February and they were like, my sister was like, wow, we're gonna take you to this great Mexican restaurant, big, beautiful, great restaurant. And it was a holiday weekend. It was like President's Day or whatever it was. And we walked into the restaurant and they were packed, slammed. And I looked at my sister and I was like, this isn't gonna be a great experience. And she was like, why? I was like, because they staffed for a Monday night, but it happens to be a holiday. And I just knew it from the second I walked in, it was just like, you see people, when anybody's walking like a walk run, that looks like they're important.

• 1:48:45Rich Roll?

  Something's way off, right?

• 1:48:47Michael Chernow?

  So, you know, the culture, the, and I'm reading this amazing book from this guy, Marcus Collins, right now called For the Culture. And he's so good. It pertains a little bit more to the business that I'm in now, because it's a little bit more of a marketing book, but culture is everything. People want to be part of culture. People travel. When people travel, you know, you go to Italy, whether you think so or not, like you're like, oh, I want the food, I wanna go experience the people, I wanna go experience, you know, I wanna see, you know, I wanna hear the music, I wanna see the art, and I wanna like see the architecture. And like, the culture is what defines a group of people. And so if your culture is rich and awesome, when people walk into your restaurant, they're gonna feel that.

• 1:49:32Michael Chernow?

  They're gonna feel it and they're gonna wanna be a part of it and they're gonna tell their friends. They're gonna tell their friends. And there is no better form of marketing. Period.

• 1:49:43Rich Roll?

  Than word of mouth.

• 1:49:45Michael Chernow?

  Period.

• 1:49:46Rich Roll?

  How do you translate that into what is a very different business that you're running today that isn't about creating a public space for people to come in as much as it is a product that, you know, you're shipping? You know, it's a D to C sort of thing for the most part, right?

• 1:50:04Michael Chernow?

  It is 100% D to C.

• 1:50:05Rich Roll?

  So walk me through creatures of habit and how this came about and what you're trying to achieve here.

• 1:50:11Michael Chernow?

  Well, I got to rewind back to that plan that was given to me almost 20 years ago. And Marcus and Gavin sort of agreed on this plan to deliver to me and said, hey, you know, you're going to wake up, take a piss, brush your teeth, wash your face, hit your knees, put on your running shoes, go for a walk, and you're going to have a bowl of oatmeal.

• 1:50:33Michael Chernow?

  And I sold equity at Seymour's in 2019.

• 1:50:39Michael Chernow?

  The pandemic hit in 2020.

• 1:50:42Michael Chernow?

  My career as I knew it was kind of over in terms of brick and mortar business, restaurant tour.

• 1:50:48Rich Roll?

  Were you still living in the city at that time?

• 1:50:50Michael Chernow?

  I was still living in the city. And I said, oh, my gosh. Like, I felt, obviously, I was grateful that I had sold equity before the pandemic, also a little guilty. But I was like, what the hell am I going to do? I am a restaurant guy. I know restaurant well. I know in real life, you know, before the pandemic, I R L wasn't even a thing, right? Like, now, I'm like, oh, in real life, like, I know this hand-to-hand combat, man, me and you, I can sit here and talk to you forever, right? That's how I am in the restaurants. I like touch every single table. That's my sweet spot.

• 1:51:34Michael Chernow?

  And I was like, what the hell am I going to do?

• 1:51:37Michael Chernow?

  Donna and I decided, that's my wife, we had decided that we were going to pack up a bag. We had bought a house about two hours, a little over two hours out of the city in 2012. And we said, hey, this is pretty bad down here, you know, the kids aren't in school. Let's go upstate and we'll, we'll see what happens. So we moved into our house upstate.

• 1:52:02Michael Chernow?

  So grateful that that was the decision that we made.

• 1:52:06Michael Chernow?

  And that bag just got bigger and bigger. And then finally, a year in, we were like, okay, sell the place in Brooklyn, we're upstate. But those first three months were really stressful for me because I had, I was like, man, I'm gonna have to figure out my new path forward. You know, I hired an executive coach who is a wonderful human being. She basically helped me to see that a restaurant was a medium for me. And I'm a creative entrepreneur, a creative human being. I can build culture and business and environments, products, service, whatever. Like, it doesn't matter, the medium, I can do what I do.

• 1:52:47Rich Roll?

  Was that a breakthrough to realize that it wasn't about restaurants? It was about being this creative person who was always iterating on that creativity or sharing these ideas that you were coming up with?

• 1:53:00Michael Chernow?

  100%.

• 1:53:01Rich Roll?

  You didn't have the awareness of that prior to her? Yeah, that's interesting.

• 1:53:05Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, I did not.

• 1:53:06Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 1:53:06Michael Chernow?

  She was slowly just sort of giving me the confidence that I was looking for. And my creative process for the last many years has been silent running. So I like to go out and take a pen and pad, you know, a little piece of small pad and a pencil, and I'll go out intentionally on five to seven mile long runs with the intention of, let's figure this shit out, man, let's figure it out. And, you know, I don't have my phone with me, I'm not listening to music or podcasts. I'm just like, I'm literally trying to dig. And originally, I was gonna open up a restaurant called Creatures of Habit.

• 1:53:50Michael Chernow?

  That was sort of like my next plan. So Creatures of Habit was already in the mix. But when the pandemic hit and there was no like,

• 1:54:01Michael Chernow?

  Way forward there. I was like, I have to, I want to use this creatures of habit thing because it felt like it was a wellness restaurant. And the idea of creatures of habit was going to be, I'm going to open up this wellness restaurant. And the restaurant is gonna. The trajectory of scaling this business was going to be through consumer packaged goods. I was going to make products inside the restaurant that that we use on the, we would use as sauces. We would use as breakfast items, whatever. And we would, we would have a little retail area in the restaurant. And then whatever people were grabbing or buying or taking home with them. We would then invest money in and grow it in, in consumer goods. And so I had that idea already that that was going to kind of be like what the future was, but nowhere near it. I had no idea what we, what I was gonna.

• 1:54:44Michael Chernow?

  Package up, but I knew creatures of habit was the, the name. Cause I am just an absolute creature of habit. I just am, I mean, I find something I like, I stick to it, you know, for real. I was out on a run. And I was thinking about what the hell I was gonna do. And I was like, it came to me.

• 1:55:03Rich Roll?

  Just get rid of the restaurant part. Go right to the product part.

• 1:55:07Michael Chernow?

  Well, I knew that was the case, but I just didn't know. I, I knew that I was gonna draw a line through the restaurant. I had a feeling that I was gonna. Still be in food and most likely it was gonna be consumer goods, which is what I'm in. When anybody hears CPG, that means consumer packaged goods. When anybody hears DTC or D2C, it's direct to consumer. I said.

• 1:55:32Michael Chernow?

  What the hell? Am I gonna sell? You know, like I know how to sell an environment. I know how to, I know how to sell. A service oriented experience.

• 1:55:46Michael Chernow?

  I just don't know how I'm gonna be able to sell my magic in a fucking product.

• 1:55:52Rich Roll?

  Yeah, but you're a storyteller. You're a born marketer too.

• 1:55:55Michael Chernow?

  Well, what happened was I was on this run and it came to me all like on one run. And I said, my oatmeal, it's been eating this stuff every single day. For at that point it was 2019, so whatever it is 15 years. I mean, I've been, and I've added stuff to it over time and, but I've really, I got it down to a science. And it takes me 20 to 30 minutes to make every morning and I'd love it and I crave it and it's like. I love it. And in that concoction is, well, at that point glyphosate wasn't even a conversation, but it was now, you know, it's gluten and glyphosate free oats. I always added 30 grams of plant-based protein to it. Chia seeds, flax seeds, pumpkin seeds, and pink Himalayan salt.

• 1:56:39Michael Chernow?

  So the way I would do it would be, I'd take the oats, half a cup of oats, two cups of water, like eight twists of pink Himalayan salt, shaker, tablespoon of chia seeds, teaspoon of flax seeds, and like a handful of pumpkin seeds. And I would cook the oats with the chia and the flax, low and slow, like make it, you know, let them really, really cook and soak. Then I'd steam it. Once it was like steamed and was the right consistency, I'd add my protein powder to it and I'd stir it. And then, once I felt like that was right, I put my pumpkin seeds in and the pumpkin seeds would stay crunchy and crispy. And that's, that was my morning.

• 1:57:21Michael Chernow?

  And then on the side, I always had my omega-3 fatty acids, probiotic digestive enzymes and vitamin D3. And that was sort of like my supplement stack for years. And I was on that run and I said, holy shit, man, if I can figure out a way to get all that into a pouch, I not only am going to be able to sell a habit that I've stuck to for so long, that has, that has literally kick-started my day with nutrition, that I feel really strong about, that I stand behind 100%, it's a full meal, it's not a snack. If I could sell that, not only will I be able to give somebody something to potentially change their life, because it was a catalyst in changing mine, but I could tell my story. And honestly, the only reason why I'm sitting here today is because I launched Creatures of Habit. And that's the truth.

• 1:58:05Michael Chernow?

  Creatures of Habit has given me an opportunity to tell my story. And the restaurants didn't give me that opportunity. They allowed me to tell the restaurant story. The stars have aligned for me in this idea and this mission of being of service and being able to tell my story. And so, I came home, I said, Donna, I'm doing, I'm starting an oatmeal business. She's like, oh my God, what are you doing now? You know? And I said, no, I'm doing it. And I put a quarter million bucks into a bank account that night. And I began the process and spent a year working on the formula, pitched it to Gary Vee eventually, once I felt like I, you know, I had it and I created this cool line of apparel to go with it.

• 1:58:46Michael Chernow?

  Gary was like, "This is Kith meets Quaker. Let's go."

• 1:58:49Rich Roll?

  Kith meets Quaker. Did he, did he put money in?

• 1:58:51Michael Chernow?

  First check in. Yeah, first check in.

• 1:58:53Rich Roll?

  Imagine that guy. Well, what I think it is, yes, it gives you this opportunity and this reason to tell your story, right? Because it's so ingrained and integrated authentically into who you are. It's basically, you know, the wax and wax on, wax off, right? Like, this is the thing, you know, this is, this was this tool, this piece that goes all the way back to those early days and is still a part of your life, which speaks to the, like, what persistence and consistency can render with even the simplest habit over time.

• 1:59:29Michael Chernow?

  I needed something to sink my teeth into, pun intended, at that time in my life. I needed a win every day in the morning. I needed it. And now what I've learned about these habits and fitness and nutrition, and ultimately now mindset's a big part of my life, but what I've learned for someone like me, and I would imagine also someone like you, the ability to control wins is powerful. And I don't mean winning the race. I mean these small little wins that I can stack up that make me feel accomplished. And eating healthy, for me, major massive win.

• 2:00:15Rich Roll?

  It's an estimable act.

• 2:00:17Michael Chernow?

  Major massive win. There's no, there's no surprise that when your life, even though you were sober for almost a decade, when your life really changed, it was on the back of making a food-based decision, right?

• 2:00:34Rich Roll?

  Yes.

• 2:00:35Michael Chernow?

  Like, you started, "We are what we eat," literally. And those guys gave me that gift early on, where they were like, "What you put into your body is ultimately going to dictate what you do. It will." And I believe that. I know that what I put into my body generally dictates how I feel and the actions I take. One of the most intimate relationships human beings have.

• 2:01:08Michael Chernow?

  Is with food. It goes into our body. Literally. And metabolizes. And then either gives us energy. Or kills us. There's no more intimate relationship human beings have. And so we take that for granted. Right? I know that the food that I put into my body is either going to give me energy, make me feel good, or take energy away from me and ultimately kill me. And I choose the better. You know, I choose the better. And so that's where it started and you know.

• 2:01:46Rich Roll?

  It's beautiful, man. When did you start it? When did this? 2020? 2019?

• 2:01:51Michael Chernow?

  I D8 2020, launched the business in August of 2021. And you know, we've been in business about two and a half years. And it's going really well, you know? We, we launched with, with Meal One, which is the product I just said. It's an overnight, overnight oats, 30 grams of protein, plant based.

• 2:02:12Rich Roll?

  And then you got the, you got the nightcap, which is the evening.

• 2:02:15Michael Chernow?

  Nightcap is the way to wind down.

• 2:02:17Rich Roll?

  Bring me down.

• 2:02:18Michael Chernow?

  You know, it's like a cup of hot chocolate about an hour and a half before bed. Tastes really good and really great ingredients, you know? So.

• 2:02:27Rich Roll?

  But it's a lifestyle brand. I mean, you have a podcast by the same name. You got the merch and the apparel line and all that kind of stuff. I can tell, you can see the seeds of a bigger idea. That's still in gestation right now. That is probably swirling in your brain.

• 2:02:45Rich Roll?

  He looks at me with a shit eating grin, right?

• 2:02:48Michael Chernow?

  I mean, it boils down to commitment and consistency. Breeding confidence. Breeding courage. Daily.

• 2:02:59Michael Chernow?

  Anybody can do whatever the fuck they want. Anybody can do anything they want to do. I really do believe that. I should be sitting here because I have done the stuff. You know, I kind of hate when people are like, "I should be dead," or "I shouldn't be here." I should be here. When somebody tells me like, "I did a great job today," I'm like, "Thank you." I believe you. Not 100% of the time.

• 2:03:22Rich Roll?

  Mm-hmm.

• 2:03:23Michael Chernow?

  But I never believed people before when they told me I did a good job. Now I do. So I do believe that we all have the ability to do, and I'm not going to say what we say we are going to do, because a lot of people say shit, but to do what we want to do. Every human being on the planet wants. All of us want. We all want. Everybody wants. There's not a single human being on the planet that doesn't want. But there's only way to get from want to have. One way. You know? And I've said this before. I really believe the only way to get from want to have is to do. Only one way. No one is coming for you. No one's going to give it to you.

• 2:04:04Rich Roll?

  So what's the difference between those who take action on the to-do and those that don't? Because, yes, everybody aspires to a better life. Everybody has dreams and ambitions or ideas around things they would like to accomplish or achieve. And there's also things we have to overcome or confront or transcend in order to evolve and grow. And some people sign up for that journey, and they walk the path, and they make the changes, and they build a better life for themselves. Other people say they're going to do it, and for whatever reason, they can't, or they struggle, or they meet enough obstacles where they retreat.

• 2:04:49Rich Roll?

  And then other people are like, "No, thank you." So what are the key differentiators between those archetypes? And you coach people, so I'm sure you're... It's self-selecting because anybody who shows up for you probably has some willingness to put in the work. But you find out quickly who's really committed and who isn't.

• 2:05:12Michael Chernow?

  I want to sort of answer that question in two ways. One, with a story that Malcolm Gladwell writes about in The Tipping Point. And it resonates a lot with me, so I bring it up. From time to time, because it's about New York City. When I was a kid, I was born in 1980 in New York City. I was on the trains a lot as a young kid. And I grew up in Manhattan, so I was in the thick of it. And the trains in New York City were just scariest place on earth. Very scary. They were covered in graffiti, not a lot of order, and just scary. And a police commissioner came in to New York City.

• 2:05:57Michael Chernow?

  And crime and murder was through the roof at the end of the 80s and into the early 90s. Like, number one in the country. And by 1992 or 1993, that crime and murder had diminished by 50 to 75%. And you would think, like, what the hell happened? Like, how did that happen? And when you peel back the onion and understand the story that Malcolm Gladwell tells, it's very similar to answer the question that you asked me. That guy came in and said, "We're gonna clean the trains. We're just gonna clean the trains." And people were like, "What? There's fucking, people are getting murdered by the hundreds. You're gonna clean the trains?"

• 2:06:42Michael Chernow?

  And the guy says, "Yep, we're gonna clean the trains. And we're gonna make sure that there's no graffiti on the train. And then, once we get the trains sorted out, we're gonna start arresting people for jumping the turnstiles." And like, people were like flabbergasted, like, "There's a crack epidemic. People are dying. You're gonna clean the trains and you're gonna arrest fare hoppers?" This is what the guy did. And within two years, murder rate was down 50%. And so, ultimately, it's the small wins. From my experience and from what I've seen and from what I know about myself, the small wins and the commitment to the small wins are the distinguishing element to taking

• 2:07:26Michael Chernow?

  the risk and having the courage to go.

• 2:07:29Rich Roll?

  And we can all find a way to build small wins into our day, no matter who we are.

• 2:07:33Michael Chernow?

  I mean, it's defined who you are as a human being right now, right?

• 2:07:37Rich Roll?

  100%. I also think it speaks to that idea of how you do anything is how you do everything. And if you care enough to... Strip the graffiti off the trains. That sets in motion like a domino effect. And now what do we care about? Now what do we care about? If you brush your teeth in the morning, if you wash your face, if you eat your oatmeal, all of those things, seemingly in and of themselves feel meaningless, but they're actually the most important things.

• 2:08:06Michael Chernow?

  They begin to paint the picture. You know, like the Mona Lisa didn't just show up, right? Like, how many times was that thing? How long did, you know, like? It takes time. It takes consistency. Ultimately, that consistency is going to evolve into more and more confidence. And confidence is what breeds courage. And so I think the do part of the want plus do equals have comes with starting your day winning. And it doesn't mean that every day is going to be awesome. You know that, but I mean, it's not like there's many days.

• 2:08:50Rich Roll?

  You do it anyway. You do it anyway. I mean, also, it's you have to have some level of willingness to entertain change and weather some discomfort. I mean, for me, it all goes back to what I learned day one in the program. Like, just don't, just get through the next hour. Like, that's all you have to do. Like, if your head hits the pillow and you didn't take a drink, which sounds to a normal person insane and ridiculous, like, there's your huge win. Like, that's a major victory for the day. And you just start stringing those together. And then it slowly, to the same analogy of the restaurateur who said you have to expand outward organically from the middle. Like, what's the next little habit that you can chip away at?

• 2:09:35Rich Roll?

  And it builds day by day upon that. And I think particularly in this internet era of like biohacking and how to expedite a quick result with everything. Everyone's looking at these finish lines and thinking about how they can get there quickly. And it's really not about that at all. It's about how are you becoming a better master of yourself in the tiny little things that all of us have to like contend with every single day?

• 2:10:04Michael Chernow?

  It's so hard building a business. Like, it's so hard getting people to believe in something. And an idea that you have, having the audacity to like come up with an idea and think that you're gonna make millions of people wanna fucking move for it, you know?

• 2:10:23Rich Roll?

  Yeah, I'm selling oatmeal and I'm telling you, if you eat this every day, you're gonna change your life.

• 2:10:28Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, right?

• 2:10:29Rich Roll?

  That's pretty fucking audacious.

• 2:10:31Michael Chernow?

  Audacious, big time. And not only like saying that, but having people believe in you to give you like hundreds of thousands of millions of dollars to do it, right? Like it's, it's very hard. And I think a mix of my belief in the power greater than myself, looking at my past and understanding that I have been consistent, having an unwavering sense of optimism, and staying humble throughout that process, and not giving a fuck about the money. I don't.

• 2:11:16Michael Chernow?

  I've never been motivated by it. And I'm not saying that to wear it like on my sleeve, I'm saying that that's just the truth. Like I have not been motivated by the money, you know? And I could tell you, the last year has been so hard, so, so hard, raising money for this business, for raising money for any business. But, you know, so hard. In my podcast, my business partner and I, every month, we drop an episode called Creatures of Habit, What's Really Happening? Cause I said to Jonathan, "Hey dude, I wanna completely rip the doors open on this thing. I wanna bring the community along on this journey, fully transparent the whole way

• 2:12:01Michael Chernow?

  through. I want them to know when we're struggling, I want them to know when we're crushing it." So every month, we have an episode that sort of recaps the month prior.

• 2:12:09Rich Roll?

  That's sort of a way of recreating the restaurant and creating an experience that that is, yeah, to your point of bringing people in, but the transparency and the honesty with that is what breeds trust also and loyalty to whatever it is you're building.

• 2:12:24Michael Chernow?

  I also like, you know, you would ask like how, you know, the difference between, you know, being in the restaurant and now having this business in the digital landscape. And I have figured out ways to break that wall down. You know, I write an email every single Thursday from my email address to 38,000 people and share with them my life. And really what I'm doing is I'm writing my book.

• 2:12:53Rich Roll?

  Right.

• 2:12:53Michael Chernow?

  And I'm sharing this weekly passage with the community. And so many people write back. And I am so happy to respond to them. And it takes a lot of time. I believe it's one of the most important things I can do as a founder of the company. Because I've never gotten a fucking email from a founder before and then written back and then they reply back to me like, hey, it's Chernow. You know, like that's me doing, being the guy in the restaurant, touching you on the shoulder and asking you how your meal is. If you've ordered from us over 24 times, Caroline on my team, who's like a godsend,

• 2:13:35Michael Chernow?

  she's been with us from the beginning, she does so much. She'll go in and she'll, she'll take down because we have access to people's phone numbers. And so if you have over 24 orders from us, she'll send me a bunch of numbers and I ruck every day from 4 to 5:30, just like what I do. And I have a list of phone numbers and I'll just randomly call someone from the list. And I'm like, hey, it's Chernow. Thank you. I just wanted to say what's up. Thank you. What are we doing good? Like, what are we doing bad? How can I be better? You know, thank you. And like that little touch, you know?

• 2:14:19Michael Chernow?

  So I'm figuring out ways to really sort of just like blur the line of digital and being able to like touch people, you know?

• 2:14:30Rich Roll?

  You gotta tell me about the breath work and the healing with your dad.

• 2:14:36Michael Chernow?

  So I was at an event that you were at called Running Man.

• 2:14:41Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:14:42Michael Chernow?

  I went down there, I got invited to it. I don't know Jesse, I know Devin. I had no idea what to expect. Running had not been a big part of my life like it was, you know, years past.

• 2:14:56Michael Chernow?

  But I was like, man, I'm getting invited to this thing, I'm going, fuck it. You know, in the middle of nowhere, Georgia, I was like, alright, this will be, this will be cool. You know, like, I'm not a big, like, event-go guy, you know, like, I don't love going, like, you know. You know, it was kind of explained to me, it's, it's, I was like, it's the Burning Man for fitness. And I was like, oh, great.

• 2:15:18Rich Roll?

  In the middle of nowhere, Georgia, like, you mean it, like, it is not close to the Atlanta airport.

• 2:15:23Michael Chernow?

  No.

• 2:15:23Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:15:24Michael Chernow?

  This is like, anyway, I get there, I'm like, this is pretty cool, it was cold as hell when I got there. And we, we went down, we, we set up our stuff, and then this guy Sean, who I went down there with, was like, hey, do you want to do some breathwork? My friend Mike Gazza is, is doing breathwork at the, at this tent over here. And this is like an hour and a half after we, we got in, and I was like, oh, yes, I, I love breathwork. I'm doing Wim Hof and box breathing and, you know, listening to Huberman about the double inhale, long exhale. Like, I do, I do it all, you know, like, I'm like, totally. So we walk over to this thing, and we're a little bit late, they had already kind of started the breathwork session.

• 2:16:07Michael Chernow?

  And Mike walks over to the side of the tent and says, hey, you know, have you done breathwork before? And I was like, yeah, yeah, I've done breathwork. He goes, okay, well then, you know, just come on in and, you know, lie down and just take my, you know, take my lead. So I go in, I lie down, and he explains to me that it's gonna be about a 25, 30-minute-long journey. I had never done breathwork like that. I had never done like a long, extended thing, outside of Wim Hof, where you do, you know, whatever, three to five rounds, and...

• 2:16:39Michael Chernow?

  Anyway, he goes, it's a double inhale, and, you know, all mouth breathing, you breathe into your stomach, into your chest, out of your mouth. It's just an easy flow, just non-stop, just flow like that. So I'm on the ground, I'm doing it. I got an eye mask on, I'm breathing. About 10 minutes in, I start this physical sensation. It was overwhelming, scary. My hands started to curl in. My arms started to feel pressure and kind of numb. And my chest started to feel a little, like, uncomfortable. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm having a heart attack. Like, this is not good. You know, I'm having a heart attack. This fucking scary. And I just kind of like jump up and I'm looking around to see if anybody else is

• 2:17:24Michael Chernow?

  experiencing this, and no one is. He sees me, he beelines over to me. He grabs me and he like rubs my chest and he's like, dude, relax, relax. This is normal. You're having a physical, this is a somatic thing. You're having a physical experience. Just do me a favor. Don't look too deep into it. This happens. Just breathe. He goes, do you have family, people that you love? You know? And I was like, yeah, of course. I'm married, I have two kids. I love them more than anything on the planet. And he goes, just think about them. And I want you to breathe deeper into it. I'm like, okay. Scared as hell, but I'm like, I'm just gonna listen to this guy.

• 2:18:09Michael Chernow?

  I mean, he would tell me if I was dying, you know? Yeah. And so I start, I start breathing deeper into it. And I'm thinking about my wife and kids. And Rich, within two minutes, I felt this. Again, this is gonna sound woo woo to the person listening that has no experience with this kind of thing. But I felt a sense of love. Like I had never felt love before. Like I felt so much love from my wife and my kids to me and from me back to them in this breath work.

• 2:18:51Michael Chernow?

  Totally unexpected, I just lost it. The emotional release that I got, but in a happy, joyous way, was beyond anything I can remember to date feeling. It was so potent.

• 2:19:08Rich Roll?

  Wow.

• 2:19:09Michael Chernow?

  And literally, I'm in this thing and I'm lying down and I'm feeling like, almost like I'm floating. And I'm like, oh my God, this is insane. I'm thinking about my wife and children and I'm like, I, the love was so real. And I, the way I can just kind of describe it is like, I kind of felt like somebody had like walked over, like had a big fluffy blanket that they waved over me and just let drop on me. And it just felt so good, this blanket of like love. And even when I say it, it sounds, you know, far out, but it's what I experienced. And it was unbelievable. And I had an outer body experience in that moment. I was just like, oh my God.

• 2:19:52Michael Chernow?

  My body was buzzing, buzzing, like, like I felt that. And the music stopped and everybody started getting up and I was frozen, I was stuck. My hands were stuck like this. My arms felt super heavy. My mouth was like kind of stuck.

• 2:20:10Rich Roll?

  You get that tet knee where your fingers?

• 2:20:12Michael Chernow?

  Yeah. Hundred percent. No one had told me, no one had warned me about that.

• 2:20:18Rich Roll?

  So it's like, it was an aggressive kind of holotropic?

• 2:20:21Michael Chernow?

  It was a holotropic experience that he calls the rebirth breath.

• 2:20:24Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:20:26Michael Chernow?

  So finally, I was like, you know, I'd been on the floor for probably about 35 minutes at that point. I felt, I was crying, I was, you know, I felt so light. And I like kind of rolled over to my side and was able to like get myself up. And I walked over to him. He knew that I had just like a very intense experience. And he was like, congratulations.

• 2:20:53Michael Chernow?

  And I was like, dude, I'm embarrassed of how intense that was. I don't know, like, I don't know what to say. I'm so grateful for that experience. And he was like, you don't have to say much, dude. He just gave me a big hug and he was like, go enjoy your day. And the rest of that day, man, I, you know, the sun was shining. I was, I was in the sauna, in the cold plunge, you know, like, meeting people. I felt like I was on drugs, like, I did. And also, I will say that that event, for me, I didn't see the sign that said, "Check your asshole" at the door, but like, there was not a single asshole at that event.

• 2:21:38Michael Chernow?

  Everybody that I met was just cool and down to connect. And I was like, wow, like, that. And it could be that I just had that experience and something shifted for me there.

• 2:21:50Rich Roll?

  Probably a little of both. I mean, talk about culture, like Jesse, I don't know Devon as well, but like Jesse certainly understands how to create a certain kind of culture. And it's not a surprise that everybody there was super high vibe and positive.

• 2:22:05Michael Chernow?

  I mean, it was just such a great event. Anyway, I went back to breath work the next day. And, you know, Mike said, I don't know if you're gonna have the same experience, man. You know, like, it was intense and wonderful. But he was like, now you know that the physical component could potentially happen. I'm just gonna ask you to not allow it to derail whatever experience you have. Just go with it and understand that it's possible. That you were fine yesterday, you didn't die, you're all good. If you have the experience, just blow through it. And within five minutes of the breath, I dropped right into that same experience. And I felt really emotional.

• 2:22:51Michael Chernow?

  And a mantra showed up in my head. And it just said, "You got everything you need. You got everything you need. You got everything you need." And for 20 minutes, that was the mantra. I was crying and emotional and I felt this release again. And I was like, "Oh, my gosh." Like, this is like some, this is some deep therapy that I've needed. This is finding cracks in my psyche that I've needed to see. I've wanted to see. And so, I had that experience again and, um...

• 2:23:33Michael Chernow?

  Like, I would never imagine myself talking like this about something like that before going through it. I said to Mike after the experience, I was like, "Dude, we gotta fi-" He's, he lives here in LA. He, I'm actually, funny enough, right after this, I'm going to do breathwork with him and do- Oh, wow. Sauna and cold plunge, because he lives 20 minutes away at his house. So, we've been meeting every two weeks, virtually. And the first two breathwork sessions that I had were wonderful. The remainder of them were painful. Hmm. Deeply painful. And I don't know why that shift happened, but I think, you know, we, we set an intention before everyone.

• 2:24:18Michael Chernow?

  And honestly, I didn't think that it was gonna work virtually. You know, like, the first time we did it, I like, set up a yoga mat on the floor of my office. You know, I, I dimmed the lights and tried to make it as comfortable as possible, like, in terms of just like, feeling safe and comfortable. But it wasn't like being in person with the music and everything. However...

• 2:24:45Michael Chernow?

  As effective. And the first one that we did virtually was so sad. I felt so sad. He said, let's set an intention. And I said, man, I just want to continue to dig. I want to continue to dig. I want to continue to learn more. Like, this is a powerful practice for me, I think. Let me just be open to whatever shows up. And as soon as we started going, I kind of went right back into that physical kind of experience. And then I just got really sad, like, super duper sad. Not feeling happy emotions, like, really sad emotions.

• 2:25:28Michael Chernow?

  And the thought that went through my mind was, everything I've done to date is in an effort to get my father's approval and love. There it is. Everything I've done, from the drugs, to the fitness, to the business, to the family. I want my dad to tell me he loves me. And I want a pat on the back from him, no one else. And it sucks because he's fucking dead and I can't have it. And that just crushed me in that moment. Really, really, like, I felt my chest sink.

• 2:26:11Michael Chernow?

  And the tears and the emotion that came out of that was just really, really, like, guttural. That's how I can describe it. You know, I was like, I felt like, ugh. Mike saw, I guess, in the, he was like, set your computer up on the side. I want to be able to see you from the side. He obviously saw that I was going through it hard in there. He holds the space. I didn't know what that meant until I started doing breath work. But I think he was able to see that, like, he has control over, obviously, there's music that I listen to when we do it. He has control over the music. And he explained to me that he has heartstring music, and he has deep penetrating music.

• 2:26:53Michael Chernow?

  And I think he saw that I was kind of going through it. And he put on some music that kind of changed the course of this thing for me. But the vision that I had here was...

• 2:27:09Michael Chernow?

  I saw myself breathing, not in my office, but like in somewhere, the vision that I had was of me on the floor breathing. And I was kind of like down next to myself, looking up this way. And my father walked into the room. But then like five minutes left in the breath work. My father walked, he opened up the door, he walked into the room. He was young, he had facial hair. He looked healthy. And he walked into the room and walked right over to me and kneeled down next to me and put his hand through my hair and said, right up into my ear, "I love you."

• 2:27:52Michael Chernow?

  And that was crazy for me.

• 2:27:56Rich Roll?

  Had he said that to you in real life?

• 2:27:59Michael Chernow?

  Not that I remember. And obviously, I lost it, right? Like in that moment, I felt, the emotions went from pain to like insane relief. Like whoa.

• 2:28:17Rich Roll?

  But it was real, like the experience of that felt, it wasn't like you were imagining it.

• 2:28:22Michael Chernow?

  It happened.

• 2:28:23Rich Roll?

  It felt visceral. Yeah, it happened.

• 2:28:25Michael Chernow?

  It happened for me. Full on. I felt him, I smelled him. He was next to my head. I felt his hand in my hair, like.

• 2:28:38Rich Roll?

  Make of it what you will.

• 2:28:39Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, yeah, you know, like I don't know what to say, right?

• 2:28:43Rich Roll?

  That's some fucking crazy shit. Beautiful in so many ways. I mean, thank you for sharing that story. I don't have quite as dramatic a story about holotropic breathing, but, but similar, you know, the first time that I did it must have been.

• 2:29:04Rich Roll?

  2000, I was new in my relationship with my wife. And we did it together and it was absolutely euphoric. Like, all the feelings of love and I think it brought us closer together and it was just, it was an unreal experience. I'd never had any kind of experience like that. And I, at this point, I was only like a year and a half sober. Like, I was still very much in early sobriety. And then maybe a year later, I did it again and just went into a spiral of darkness. It was the complete opposite experience. Like, after it happened, I had to get away from people and I locked myself in a bedroom

• 2:29:48Rich Roll?

  for like 18 hours straight. Like, I couldn't be around people. And it was scary. And I thought, well, maybe that's an aberration. So, two or three months later, I tried again, same thing. But I was too early in my emotional, mental, health, sobriety journey to be in a place where I was, I could like contend with whatever was bringing that up, right? And I've done a lot of work since. And I, for that reason, I didn't do holotropic breathing for a very long time. Have you reconnected with it at all? And I did it like a year and a half ago, maybe. My wife, when we do our retreats, we do these retreats in Italy, and she takes people

• 2:30:33Rich Roll?

  through this experience. And she made this brilliant decision on our last retreat to do it on the first day. Like, all these people arrive from all over the place. Nobody knows each other. And normally, she would host that experience on day three or four or something like that. She's like, no, we want, let's do it right away. You know, and then, so you do it, and there's lots of people that are monitoring and helping. Like, you know, it's not like, it's a, it's well organized. But everybody has their version of that experience. And then everybody gets an opportunity to share whatever they feel like they want to share about what happened. And it's every-

• 2:31:20Rich Roll?

  Flavor under the sun of experiences from the absolutely psychedelic to the traumatic to the beautiful and joyous and lovely. But then everybody doing that, like, without even really knowing any of these people, like, suddenly the group is like-

• 2:31:34Michael Chernow?

  Connected.

• 2:31:35Rich Roll?

  Yeah, connected. So I did it the last time we had our retreat and I had a much better experience. I haven't had anything that tactile or specific, but powerful in a more general way. I mean, certainly-

• 2:31:49Michael Chernow?

  The idea that, like, breath is so powerful is- There's another, the next virtual experience I had after that crazy experience, when I sort of sat up after that, my father telling me he loved me. I told Mike all about the vision and he was like, you know, "You can believe that it was a manifestation or a vision, or you can believe that that happened." It's up to you how to interpret that, but do with it what you will.

• 2:32:24Rich Roll?

  Right. That's wild, man. And he's here, like, he's in the area.

• 2:32:29Michael Chernow?

  He's 20 minutes away.

• 2:32:30Rich Roll?

  Yeah? I think I need to meet this guy.

• 2:32:32Michael Chernow?

  I'm gonna hook you up. The next one was equally as important for me going forward in understanding. And I say it's like, you know, a therapy because I've done so much therapy over the years, so much in and out, and nothing has highlighted these things for me in the way that this has with the breath. So we're in the breath and Michael said, you know, "What's the, what would you like your intention to be today?" And we were kind of in this, like, we had stepped into the trauma zone already, so I was like, "All right, well, let me just continue to, you know, uncover what's going on here."

• 2:33:14Michael Chernow?

  I said, "You know, there's a number of areas that I still really struggle in my life. One happens to be in being in presence and focus, you know? I meditate for so long and I still can't fucking, you know, like, I could be sitting at the dinner table with my wife and kids and it's not all the time, but more than I'd like it to be, I'm just physically there but mentally checked out. It's hard for me to-

• 2:33:38Michael Chernow?

  Transition my business and, you know, I said, I really wanna just like, understand why I have a hard time focusing when I want to on being present in the moment. And he has a great intention. Let's figure out what it is. Or try to, anyway. And so we're in the work and things start to sort of happen for me, you know, like, almost psychedelically. And I have this like, vision of like, a Japanimation chaotic scene, you know, like, lights and it's dark. It's dark and there's like, a city in the background and there's like, this little character

• 2:34:22Michael Chernow?

  at the bottom of this crazy, chaotic scene. And I'm getting like, kinda closer and closer to this character. And I see it's a kid. And the kid has got his shoulders, sort of like, he's like, leaned back like this. His shoulders are like, in his ears. And he's trembling and scared. Like that, you know, like, really out of like, a Japanimation film. And I'm like, what the fuck is this? You know, in my head. And I'm getting closer and closer to it. And I find, and I see that that kid is me. The kid that I'm looking at, that's scared, stuck in this crazy scene, is me. As like, a six-year-old kid. And I was like, what? Like, what is this? And I realize that

• 2:35:07Michael Chernow?

  that is me as a child scared to death of his life. Not of his life today, but of his life then. And I didn't realize that how scared I was then. Like, I was scared. Really, really scared. And, you know, you hear about, oh yeah, like, trauma as a kid, you know, there's, everybody has stuff. But, and you can talk about it. And even come to terms with it, of course. Like, I've come to terms with it. But I had never seen or had been exposed to how scared I was then.

• 2:35:48Rich Roll?

  And what does that do for you? Does it just allow you to have a lot more compassion for that kid?

• 2:35:55Michael Chernow?

  Honestly,

• 2:35:56Rich Roll?

  How does that inform?

• 2:35:56Michael Chernow?

  I didn't know what to do.

• 2:35:58Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:35:58Michael Chernow?

  I was sad because I'm like, can I help this kid? Like, in that breathwork, I'm like, what can I do to fix this problem? You know, actually, and when I came out of it, I was like, "This is what happened, Michael." And he was like, "That's your inner child, Michael." And I was like, "Okay, like, what do I do?" You know, like, how do I? He's like, "Look, you know, inner child stuff comes up a lot in breathwork.

• 2:36:30Michael Chernow?

  There's a few things, a few ways that we can approach this together, or you can approach it yourself, but realistically, what ultimately has to happen is, is you need to figure out a way to heal that kid and make that kid feel safe. Because that kid is what's standing in your way. That kid wants your attention all the time. He is stuck in fear. And he wants you to comfort him. He wants your attention all the time. And he wants the attention of other people. And he doesn't know what that attention's supposed to be like, because the attention that he got from those days was out of anger. So, and I'm like, listening to this guy tell me this shit, and I'm like,

• 2:37:14Michael Chernow?

  like, between my father, the approval that I want from my father, and the love that I have for my father, and now seeing me as this young scared, terrified kid, he's telling me, "You need to start doing things that are gonna make that kid happy and make that kid feel safe and comfortable."

• 2:37:29Michael Chernow?

  So I said, "Well, I've got two kids, what if I, you know, like, what would, what would I have wanted as a young kid? Ultimately, my father's love. I would have loved my father to take me out, uh, I don't know, anywhere, and, and hung out with me and like, connected with me." And I asked myself an honest question. "Do you spend time with your kids alone?"

• 2:37:53Michael Chernow?

  You know, and, and the truth is, no. We are a family and we love, we spend a lot of time together and we go out on, you know, we do, every weekend, we're all together all the time. But I don't spend time with my kids alone, one-on-one, bonding with my sons. And so I said, in that moment, to Mike, "My commitment to this process now of understanding that this is something I need to do to fix some, you know, potentially rehabilitate some shit, I'm gonna commit to spending alone time with my sons, whether it's one-on-one or whether it's just me and both of them, that's what I'm gonna do." And that was in the beginning of the year.

• 2:38:33Michael Chernow?

  And then organically, my wife got her real estate license and she started doing real estate upstate where we live. And that requires her to work on the weekends. And so I've been giving my sons.

• 2:38:50Rich Roll?

  So you're just full dad?

• 2:38:51Michael Chernow?

  Full dad on the weekends.

• 2:38:53Rich Roll?

  The one-on-one thing is qualitatively different than all the other experiences, though, for sure. And it's hard. It's hard when you have multiple kids and it's hard when you want to do stuff as a family to carve out and to do it delicately if you have multiple kids, because that has to be sort of spread out evenly, of course. But it's, it's the most special when you can just get that completely focused one-on-one time.

• 2:39:20Michael Chernow?

  That is the latest and greatest of work on Michael.

• 2:39:24Rich Roll?

  So you're paying it forward in your kids. It's not about looking inward and trying to like heal the inner child as much as it is how you're showing up in the world now to be the dad that you wish that you had, who is meeting the needs that weren't met.

• 2:39:43Michael Chernow?

  My inner child is showing me how to be a better dad.

• 2:39:46Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:39:47Michael Chernow?

  Period. And it came through the breath. That's the, that's the truth.

• 2:39:53Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:39:54Michael Chernow?

  You know what I mean? Like?

• 2:39:55Rich Roll?

  Yeah.

• 2:39:56Michael Chernow?

  Like that's.

• 2:39:57Rich Roll?

  That's wild, man. That's cool.

• 2:39:58Michael Chernow?

  Yeah.

• 2:39:59Rich Roll?

  That's really cool.

• 2:40:00Michael Chernow?

  So like, that's where, that's where I'm at.

• 2:40:01Rich Roll?

  We gotta end this. We gotta wrap it up. But I want to end it with, give the person who's out there struggling, who can't see their way forward, who might be in that place that you were in when you came into the program, broken, alone, feeling incapable of being able to put your life on a better trajectory, that sense of powerlessness and the lack of self-esteem. What do you tell that person?

• 2:40:29Michael Chernow?

  Whether it's alcohol and drugs, or hardship in life, you know, let's say it's alcohol and drugs.

• 2:40:41Michael Chernow?

  The greatest piece of advice I can give is, "Ask for as much help as humanly possible in life." "Don't be ashamed of it. Don't be afraid of it. You absolutely need it. We all do." When I learned that asking for help was like, "One of the greatest things life has to offer", it became a requirement for me in everything I do. And so, if you're struggling and you don't think there's a way out, I'm here to tell you, and I'm sitting across from a guy that can also tell you the same exact thing, there's absolutely a way out,

• 2:41:25Michael Chernow?

  and it begins with asking for help. And there's nothing to be ashamed of. And nine out of 10 people are not gonna do it. Not gonna just throw their pride to the side and ask for help. Because no matter what you think or say, no matter how bad the drug and the alcohol has their grips around you, it is not the way to live. I don't care what you say or think. It's just not. My best friend of all time is on Skid Row, has been there for four years. And every time I get to talk to him, which is not often, he tells me that he's living a better life.

• 2:42:09Michael Chernow?

  And when he's down and out and in jail or knocking on death's door, he calls me crying. There's nothing I can do for him. So if you're listening to this, I'm here to tell you, I promise you, that where you and I sit on the other side of, we're the same people. The same, you and I are the same person. We've just given up the shackles of addiction and through alcohol and drugs. And all you gotta do is ask for help. That's it. If you're not dealing with alcohol and drugs and you're dealing with life and you feel like you're stuck and you feel lost and you feel directionless, the only piece of advice I can give you is two things. One, ask for help.

• 2:42:52Michael Chernow?

  And two, find a form of fitness.

• 2:42:59Michael Chernow?

  To connect to and make your priority. There's a documentary that Jonah Hill did about his therapist.

• 2:43:08Rich Roll?

  He was in here last week. Phil Stutz.

• 2:43:11Michael Chernow?

  So in that documentary, this Dr. Stutz essentially says, when you're lost, anyone, go back to yourself. And that starts with fitness and movement. It starts with movement. Attach to movement. That's my story.

• 2:43:33Rich Roll?

  It's a powerful one, man. I think that's a great way to end it. That was incredible, man. Thank you.

• 2:43:41Michael Chernow?

  Thank you.

• 2:43:42Rich Roll?

  It was really special to spend a couple of hours with you. Very moved by your story and I think your ability to tell it and to offer hope and a lifeline and a sense of possibility for people is a great public service, man. You are a change agent.

• 2:44:01Michael Chernow?

  Thank you, man.

• 2:44:02Rich Roll?

  Yeah. We didn't even talk about fitness at all. Can you believe that?

• 2:44:08Michael Chernow?

  Yeah, well, we talked a lot about it, but we didn't talk about it.

• 2:44:13Rich Roll?

  Right. So you're gonna have to come back. We'll do a little bit more.

• 2:44:16Michael Chernow?

  Awesome.

• 2:44:17Rich Roll?

  All right. Thanks, man. I appreciate it very much.

• 2:44:20Michael Chernow?

  Stoked.

• 2:44:21Rich Roll?

  Cheers. Peace.

• 2:44:33Rich Roll?

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• 2:45:58Rich Roll?

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