How to Respond When Someone Hurts Your Feelings, says “I was just joking,” or is Passive-Aggressive w/Jefferson Fisher

Do you know How to Respond when someone says to you “I Was Just Joking,” but they actually really hurt your feelings? ? Communication Phenom Jefferson Fisher says it’s so important you “don’t let it go!” and well share why! We’ve all had someone say something hurtful or passive aggressive and then follow it up by “I was just joking” and today we’re learning the secret tips and tools on how to handle this, in a way that helps instead of hurts your relationships! These are tools that truly impact your life. Back by popular demand, Communication Phenom and trial attorney, Jefferson Fisher is here to talk with you and me today about how we handle this the right way and avoid handling it the wrong way, and how it impacts all areas of your life! JEFFERSON FISHER is a trial lawyer, 5th generation award-winning attorney, writer, and speaker whose work has gained him millions of followers all over the world, through short, simple, practical social media videos teaching people how to argue less and talk more. Whether it’s handling a heated conversation, dealing with a difficult personality, or standing your ground with confidence, Jefferson helps you communicate during life's everyday arguments and conversations! His brand-new book, The Next Conversation – Argue Less, Talk Moreis out now! Jefferson says you can change everything about your life by what you say next! And you and I are in for a treat because Jefferson has stepped away from his busy legal practice to fly here and be with YOU and me today! Full Video Available on YouTube @JamieKernLimaOfficial. Are You Ready to believe in YOU?🙌 jamiekernlima.com 👈 Sign up for my FREE Inspirational Newsletter here and you’ll ALSO get special prompt questions to help you grow in your self-worth-building that pair with each episode!🩷 Make sure to click the “Follow” button for the show on your favorite podcast app, so you’ll be the first to get each episode! ____ And whether you're joining me today for yourself or because someone that you love shared this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast family. And remember this episode is not just for you and me. Please share it with every single person that you know because it can change their life too. Episode Reflection Questions for YOU: Jamie writes prompt questions each episode to spark revelations in your self-worth journey and help you apply the tools and lessons from each episode into your real life right now. Please make sure you’re signed up for Jamie’s free inspirational newsletter jamiekernlima.com 👈 Get my new book WORTHY plus FREE Bonus gifts including a 95+ page Worthy Workbook and more at WorthyBook.com Jefferson's new book, The Next Conversation – Argue Less, Talk More, is now available at https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/book. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here https://jamiekernlima.com/show/ for the podcast episode page. It’s such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note: I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Click Here to Subscribe to the YouTube Channel Follow me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook Website — Sign up for my inspirational newsletter for YOU at: jamiekernlima.com — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! WORTHY Believe IT

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• 0:00Jamie Kern Lima?

  Do you know how to respond when someone says to you, "I was just joking," but actually, they really hurt your feelings? We've all had someone say something hurtful or passive-aggressive, and then follow it up by, "I was just joking. Oh, I was just joking." And today, we're learning the secret tips and tools on how to handle this in a way that helps instead of hurts our relationships. So backed by popular demand, communication phenom and trial attorney, Jefferson Fisher is here to talk with you and me today about how we handle this the right way and avoid handling it the wrong way, and how it impacts all areas of our lives. Jefferson Fisher is a trial lawyer,

• 0:45Jamie Kern Lima?

  a fifth-generation, award-winning attorney, writer, and speaker. His work has gained him millions of followers all over the world through short, simple, practical social media videos teaching people how to argue less and talk more. Whether it's handling a heated conversation, dealing with a difficult personality, or standing your ground with confidence, Jefferson helps you communicate during life's everyday arguments and conversations. And his brand-new book, called The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More, is out now. Jefferson says you can change everything about your life by what you say next. And you and I are in for a treat

• 1:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  because Jefferson has stepped away from his busy legal practice. He got on an airplane, he flew here to be with you and me today. Whether you're listening for yourself or because someone that you love shared this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show Podcast family. Remember, this episode is not just for you and me. Please share this with every single person you know because it can change their life too.

• 1:56Jamie Kern Lima?

  Before we jump into this episode, I'd be so grateful if you'd take two seconds to click on the follow or subscribe button on the app you're listening or watching the podcast on. It'll help you because you're going to be the very first to get the episodes and it's going to help the show because by you following it, it's more likely to be promoted to others to discover. And if you leave a five star review, that would be even more amazing. And just thank you so much. This is our show together and it truly means so much to me.

• 2:25Speaker 01

  Jamie Kern Lima is her name.

• 2:27Speaker 02

  Everybody needs Jamie Kern Lima in their life.

• 2:29Speaker 03

  Jamie Kern Lima.

• 2:34Speaker 03

  Jamie, you're so inspiring. Jamie Kern Lima.

• 2:40Jamie Kern Lima?

  Jefferson Fisher, welcome to the Jamie Kern Lima Show.

• 2:43Speaker 04

  Thank you so much for having me, Jamie. I'm honored to be here.

• 2:46Jamie Kern Lima?

  I'm so excited you're here. Wow. What has happened with you, with your advice, with your videos, it has become a phenomenon.

• 2:56Speaker 04

  Thank you. You're very sweet. Thank you. Yeah, it's truly been a blessing and right now I'm just holding on.

• 3:02Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, yeah. Well, I'm excited. So much to dive into today. We've all had, we've all had somebody say something that was like hurtful or passive aggressive and then they followed up by, I was just joking. And so many of us don't know how to handle that the right way. It can cause issues in friendships and relationships. I know we can handle it wrong or we can handle it right. And so Jefferson, when someone says, you know, I was just joking.

• 3:30Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 3:31Jamie Kern Lima?

  How do you process that? How do you handle it? How do you not blow up a relationship or harbor resentment because of it?

• 3:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, what you don't do is let it go. When somebody's

• 3:42Jamie Kern Lima?

  Don't let it go. Cause you know, so many of us, we let it go. And while we bury it inside.

• 3:47Speaker 04

  You got it.

• 3:48Jamie Kern Lima?

  But, but on the outside.

• 3:50Speaker 04

  You're carrying it.

• 3:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 3:51Speaker 04

  They, they just gave you something to carry is all they did. Whenever you don't speak up for things like that, because they will do it again. But when you speak it out and when you call it out, you don't let it go, you're telling them, this is not going to fly with me if you do this again. Let me give you some responses to that. I'm just joking. Some of my favorite are, one,

• 4:15Speaker 04

  To look them just, and this is where a breath comes into place, right? When you're able to have that conversational breath, you just kind of take a moment. You say, hey, look, I'm just joking. It's, then be funnier. Then be funnier. Another I like is then you need to find new material.

• 4:32Jamie Kern Lima?

  Hmm.

• 4:33Speaker 04

  Or you need to work on your material. So it all depends on that personality. Even if you were to say, well, then you need to work, let's work on your material. Like, that's a very, almost humorous way to say, no, that's not gonna fly.

• 4:45Jamie Kern Lima?

  Not gonna fly. I want to break this down for a second. Because this happens to so many of us all the time. It could be a colleague that says something. It could be our partner. It could be a family member, a friend, another mom at school, whatever. They say something and, and then they're like, I was just joking. And then you're like, but where are you? And you, and you start thinking about it and you harbor it. And like you said, you hold on to it. So the first thing you're saying, before you even react, your first reaction is a breath.

• 5:17Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 5:17Jamie Kern Lima?

  A conversational breath.

• 5:19Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm. Is it worth my time?

• 5:20Jamie Kern Lima?

  Is it worth my time?

• 5:21Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 5:22Jamie Kern Lima?

  Just take us through that. Okay, take us through, for anyone hearing about this concept for the very first time.

• 5:27Speaker 04

  Right.

• 5:27Jamie Kern Lima?

  Okay, because this is so powerful, you guys. I don't want you to hear this like, okay, take a breath, got it. No, no, no, no, no, no. This is like legit, changes the chemistry in your body, gives you your power back, okay? On how you handle situations, whether it's your partner at home, or your friend, or your, you know, in-law, or that person that does not like you, no matter what you do. Whatever it is, the power of a breath right after something like this happens. Can you explain?

• 5:51Speaker 04

  Yes, absolutely.

• 5:52Jamie Kern Lima?

  Okay, for the person hearing this for the very first time. What does that mean?

• 5:55Speaker 04

  A conversational breath, or just injecting breath into your sentence, so let your breath be the first word that you take, you are using the power of what they call physiological sigh. And you do it like this, you ready? You're gonna take two seconds in, then one second at the top, and then about six seconds of exhale. And you can do it all just right there, nasal breathing, in your nose.

• 6:17Jamie Kern Lima?

  In our nose.

• 6:17Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 6:18Jamie Kern Lima?

  Two seconds in.

• 6:19Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm, one at the top.

• 6:20Jamie Kern Lima?

  Another one at the top.

• 6:21Speaker 04

  And then, if you can, six seconds, five to six seconds of exhale. And what it's doing is, it's giving you the effects of a sigh that's going to calm you down. If you listen to this and you did it with this, I can almost guarantee you feel calmer and more at peace than you did before you did this. And what it does is it injects you with the choice. The choice to understand, is this worth my time? The choice to make sure that, is this who I want to give my time to? Is this person worth me getting out of my chair for to stand my ground? Who does this person to me?

• 7:01Speaker 04

  It gives you some time to think about it, have your analytical side working and not get emotionally flooded in that moment. And what I love about when somebody says, I was just joking. Depends on if it's somebody that's a total stranger to you, somebody who is a work associate or somebody who's a friend to you. But it's as easy as saying, oh, it doesn't sound like a joke. It sounds like an issue. That has a different context to it than be funnier or let's work on your material. It just depends on who you're talking to. If you're talking to your mother-in-law, you might use, well, let's work on that material. That's a little bit kinder. Or if it's somebody who's being passive aggressive at work and they go, I was just joking.

• 7:45Speaker 04

  Didn't sound like a joke, sounded like an issue. I mean, whenever you were using that, what you're telling them is this, I was just joking stuff isn't going to fly with me, so don't do it again. That's the message you're sending whenever you call it out like that. But then be funnier packs a punch every time.

• 8:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  Okay, and so when we take a deep, we take a conversational breath, two in through our nose, one at the top, and then out for six, it gives us our power so we can make a decision, a thoughtful decision on what we want to say. Versus just reacting or internalizing it or anything else. And then, and then letting them know, you're saying, don't leave it, like, don't leave it. You want to let them know. And I love that you're giving us tools to put in our toolbox, right? That we can pull them out and we know exactly what to say when somebody says those things. And now, when you say that, what happens then if they're like, oh, no, no, no, I was just kidding. Oh, don't take it so seriously. Oh, what if they get defensive?

• 8:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  What if, you know, it goes into a whole thing? Or then they just kind of like, how? How should you handle it after you tell them clearly? Like, well, get better material.

• 9:02Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 9:03Jamie Kern Lima?

  Or I'll be funnier then.

• 9:04Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 9:05Jamie Kern Lima?

  How do you handle it then afterwards if they don't know how to handle it?

• 9:09Speaker 04

  Yeah. Are you saying, what's the next conversation? Is that, how do you, how do you handle it next?

• 9:13Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yes.

• 9:13Speaker 04

  And it's gonna depend greatly on context. But the biggest thing is when you're making sure you keep that conversational breath and you're staying engaged and your logic side is dialed in and focused in, you can get real curious and start asking more questions. So if you say, then, then be funnier. And they go, well, I mean, look, I, I, sorry, I was just doing X, Y, and Z. And they go, okay, I was letting you know. It didn't, didn't sound like a joke to me. You're having that next conversation of, is this something that we need to, to talk about? Or I'm happy to go deeper on this with you. Often, they're gonna start just backpedaling. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And that happens, you let them go. So it's, it's part of the boundary setting. You're, you're, you're letting them go. You've let them know, hey, you, uh, that offense that's around my property here?

• 9:58Speaker 04

  Yeah, you started to step into that. Oh, okay, you didn't mean to? That's no problem. See you later. And you're just kind of letting them go, but you're not being the attack dog. You're, you're not going crazy and barking everywhere. It's that controlled sense of, I know where my line is. I know where the perimeter is. And now you do too.

• 10:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  Hmm. And now they're so much less likely to keep doing it, right? Cause a lot of people just keep doing it over and over and over. What happens in a group setting? You know, you're around a group of people and somebody does it. And they're like, oh, I was just joking. How do you respond in that moment? Like, what are a couple of good things to say? And maybe, maybe those fit. Like, oh, get better material. Or, you know, what do you do? What do you say when someone does that? They belittle you or, um, or they just say, oh, I was just joking. And you knew that, and it was hurtful. And it was in front of everyone else. There's so much more coming up in this episode. You are not gonna wanna miss it. But first, I wanted to share this with you. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams.

• 10:58Jamie Kern Lima?

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  It's the place to be, and I sure hope you'll join me there. So if you're not on the list yet, you can sign up for free at jamiekernlima.com or click the link in the show notes. Show notes below and here's to becoming unstoppable together. And now more of this incredible conversation together. What do you say when someone does that they belittle you or or they just say, oh, I was just joking. And you knew that and it was hurtful and it was in front of everyone else.

• 13:40Speaker 04

  Well, pausing like we've, I know we've, we've been talking about is the power of the pause. Not only does the conversational breath control you, it naturally injects a pause into it. And so when somebody says something that's hurtful, it could be as easy as, don't be so sensitive. I was just joking, or maybe they really said something to a backhand, a compliment, or they put you down in front of other people.

• 14:04Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 14:05Speaker 04

  Imagine we're in a group setting, there's a lot of people and maybe you're part of the crowd and somebody says something to me that's hurtful. And instead of going reacting to that, of like, I can't believe you, oh, my gosh. And having this big emotional reaction, you just have that pause that's given by the breath and you just let their words fall to the ground. Now there's just silence, now everybody feels uncomfortable. So everybody now is going to share, they're not going to be looking at you. They're going to be looking at the person who said it because when you give that pause or you ask questions of intent, which is deep into what I go into the book on saying things with assertiveness.

• 14:46Speaker 04

  And handling just these specific questions, when you can ask questions like, did you mean to say that out loud? Now the spotlight's not on you, that's right back at them. And so every time they say something hurtful.

• 15:01Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 15:02Speaker 04

  They're wanting the dopamine, they're wanting that response from you. They feel that, that control that they get, they're wanting that spotlight on you. So hey, everybody, look at what I just said to so and so.

• 15:14Jamie Kern Lima?

  And half the time, other people laugh.

• 15:16Speaker 04

  Yes, they do, right. And when you can let that just fall as if you're, like, if you said something hurtful to me and instead I, instead of catching it, Jamie, instead of me catching it and throwing it back, which is what so many people do.

• 15:29Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah.

• 15:29Speaker 04

  They grab onto it, I gotta do something with it, I have to hit it back over the net. I have to send it right back to them. Instead, you just had the choice. You throw a pitch, let it go by. There's things called balls and strikes. It's a bad pitch. You don't got to swing at it. You don't have to hit it back over the net. You just let their words fall to the ground, which allows you to, in that moment, which is given to you by the breath, that pause to say, this is the message you're sending when you pause like that, to say, are you sure that's what you wanted to say? There's a power in just letting their words sit there. Because often, when you don't say anything, people will say, I mean, what I meant to say was, or they'll apologize before they even say anything.

• 16:14Speaker 04

  I'm sorry, I shouldn't have said that. The pause says it for you, without you having to say anything. But when you use questions of what I call intent, or questions of purpose, or were you wanting to embarrass me? Did you say that to embarrass me? All of a sudden, spotlight goes whoop, right back to the other person. And now they're going to start feeling the heat. And now it's the peer pressure that they're going to be feeling of, yeah, you said something you shouldn't have said. Or what I also encourage people to do when you're in that group setting, get the other people involved. And you're using words like "we", or "did y'all", I'm from Texas, so y'all's going to be what I said. But if somebody says something hurtful, you could easily say,

• 16:56Speaker 04

  did y'all hear what I heard? That right there is going to call attention real quickly, not to you, but to the other person. And so I think there is a way that you can use your words to embolden the group, which they're trying to use, to switch over to your side of saying, what you just said was not acceptable.

• 17:19Jamie Kern Lima?

  Two things that you just said are such good tools, because I think we so often just play back. Someone throws that at us, we don't let the ball drop. We think, oh, I've got to hit back.

• 17:30Speaker 04

  You got to catch it.

• 17:31Jamie Kern Lima?

  I got to catch it. I got to swing at it. I got to, and it, but then you take it on in you, and you're carrying it.

• 17:38Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 17:39Jamie Kern Lima?

  And you're saying, mm-mm, let it drop.

• 17:42Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 17:42Jamie Kern Lima?

  And you take your breath, and then... And then the pause, and this is big. And I know your new book, The Next Conversation with Jefferson Fisher, again, so good. I've read it cover to cover. And this idea of the pause is gonna, people are gonna be hearing this for the first time right now as we say this, as you're talking about it. And it might just seem like, oh yeah, pause, I get pause, I push pause on the whatever. No, no, no. The pause, I find it personally, Jefferson, I find pausing and just letting there be

• 18:13Jamie Kern Lima?

  is one of the hardest things to do.

• 18:14Speaker 04

  It is hard.

• 18:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  It's one of the hardest things to do, but it is so powerful.

• 18:17Speaker 04

  It feels so good.

• 18:18Jamie Kern Lima?

  Oh, my gosh. And also, like, everyone, okay, so listening to me and Jefferson right now, think about this. When's the last time you had a conversation with somebody? Or we're in a room of people or in a meeting, and there was all of a sudden just like silence or pause? There almost never is. And when there is, med conversation.

• 18:37Speaker 04

  Yeah. People listen.

• 18:38Jamie Kern Lima?

  They listen. They, they, and it's just, and your emotions, even when you look at someone in the eye, and if you're not talking. And it's just like that pause. I mean, you, it's such a thing. And so you're saying leverage that.

• 18:54Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 18:55Jamie Kern Lima?

  Because this is huge, okay? Because everyone, and if you're listening to us and you're like, yeah, I have this happen to me all the time. This person said that, that person, you know, and, and you're taking it on, uh, that's not good. That's not good. And you can start applying this right now by not, by just letting the ball drop, taking your breath, doing the pause. And then, you know, either saying something back, i- i- if it's a one-on-one or involving even the group.

• 19:22Speaker 04

  Right.

• 19:22Jamie Kern Lima?

  That sort of like you said, draws that line in the sand, like, you know, that this is your boundary and, and, and then they backpedal. Like, that's the thing that happens, that pause.

• 19:33Speaker 04

  Right.

• 19:34Jamie Kern Lima?

  Because I'm thinking of times, whenever that's happened in communications that I've had, and if you just pause, it almost gives that person like, oh. Oh crap.

• 19:44Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 19:45Jamie Kern Lima?

  And then they start backpedaling and then they almost apologize before it even happened.

• 19:48Speaker 04

  They start filling in that space for you.

• 19:50Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yeah, this is so good because so many people, Jefferson, they, they keep hitting back and, and it, and it becomes this multi-year-long thing. There's, there's friend groups where, you know, picking on each other, sort of a thing that just happens, but maybe not everyone likes it and maybe everyone's taking it on and it hurts them and they're just burying it or it's happening in families. It's happening, they go to Thanksgiving, they're dreading it because so-and-so is going to do this thing again and then say they're just joking and da-da-da-da-da and the next year it's the same, the next year it's the same. These are tools right now that shift the dynamic and give you your power.

• 20:25Speaker 04

  Oh yeah, and, and you always keep it. When somebody's saying something hurtful to you, what's more powerful? Who, who's the more controlled person? If somebody says something hurtful and I go, uh, me? What about you? And I throw it right back at them. I come back with that zinger. That's one way. Or they say something hurtful and I let it fall to the ground, putting my breath in place and having that pause and asking a question like, did you say that to be hurtful? Did you want that to hurt? Now it's a totally different dynamic. I have responded to their comment without responding to it. I just asked them to audit what they did. I'm now using my words as a mirror for them so they can hear exactly what they said.

• 21:10Speaker 04

  Like, and this can apply not only in the workplace, but also at home. Like my daughter, um, she hates for her hair to be combed, hates it. It's always a fight, but when I was like, uh, Rue, I need you to, um, it's time to do your hair and she'd be, oh dad, okay. But she knows it's not appropriate behavior. And instead of getting upset, getting mad, I just looked at her and just was silent. Without me saying anything, she goes, sorry. Like, you know what I mean? Like that, that silence is, I didn't have to do anything. And so often that's, that's the whole point is just because they threw something at you. You get the entire choice of catching it because what happens is people will catch

• 21:55Speaker 04

  it and they'll hold on to it for years.

• 21:57Jamie Kern Lima?

  Yes.

• 21:57Speaker 04

  There are people that are listening right now that you're holding something that you caught when you were five years old, when you were 10 years old at school. The mean girl at school said this and you are still holding on to it. Somebody said something to you in junior high that hurt your feelings, that said something about your hair or your weight or your size and you've held on to it forever. And the whole point of what we're saying here is the pause of that of knowing where you are to let that go. You don't need to carry any of it. The same power you had to allow you to catch it, you, everybody has the same power to let it go.

• 22:37Jamie Kern Lima?

  So good, so good. And you know, there's going to be so many people who are hearing this for the first time, realizing they're still holding that thing in their body.

• 22:47Speaker 04

  Everybody is.

• 22:48Jamie Kern Lima?

  Right? And if we don't learn how to not catch that thing, not catch the ball, let it drop, like it just keeps stacking and stacking. This is so huge. It's so, so good and it's going to change so many lives today. It already has mine. I'm already thinking about the ways I'm going to apply this right now. I'm so grateful for these tools. Remember this episode is not just for you and me. Please share this with every single person you know because it can change their life too. Make sure to pick up Jefferson's new book, The Next Conversation, Argue Less, Talk More. And check out his brand new Jefferson Fisher School of Communication. We'll link it in the show notes.

• 23:31Jamie Kern Lima?

  And if you loved today's episode too, well, my only ask is you please click on the follow or subscribe button for the show on the app that you're listening or watching it on, then give it a five star review and then share this episode with everyone you believe in. Share it with another person in your life who could benefit from it. Post it and share it with others online or in your community who just might need the words and tools and lessons in this episode today. You never know whose life you're meant to change today by sharing this episode. Just thank you so much for joining me. And before you go, I wanted to share some words with you that couldn't be more true. You, right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy.

• 24:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  You're worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams, and all the unconditional love in the world. It's an honor to welcome you to each episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. And here, I hope you'll come as you are and heal where you need, blossom what you choose, journey toward your calling, and stay as long as you like because you belong here. You are worthy, you are loved, you are love, and I love you. And I cannot wait to join you on the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Living with a constant mental narrative that you're not good enough is exhausting.

• 25:01Jamie Kern Lima?

  I know because I spent most of my life in that habit. The words you say to yourself about yourself are so powerful. And when you learn to take control over your self-talk, it's life-changing. And I wanted to give you a free resource that I created for you if this is something that could benefit your life. It's called "Five Ways to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Love." And it's a free how-to guide to overcome that negative self-talk to build confidence and develop unshakable self-love so that you can dream big and keep going in the pursuit of your goals. Don't let self-sabotaging thoughts hinder your progress any longer.

• 25:46Jamie Kern Lima?

  It's time to rewrite the script of your life, one filled with self-love, resilience, and unwavering belief. If you're ready to take charge of your narrative, build unwavering confidence, and empower yourself to persevere on the path to your dreams, you can grab your free guide to stop overthinking and learn to trust yourself at jamiekernlima.com/resources or click the link in the show notes below.

• 26:15Jamie Kern Lima?

  Who you spend time around is so important as energy is contagious. And so is self-belief. And I'd love to hang out with you even more, especially if you could use an extra dose of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter that's also a love letter to you, delivered straight to your inbox from me. If you haven't signed up to make sure that you get it each week, just go to jamiekernlima.com to make sure you're on the list and you'll get your one-on-one with Jamie weekly newsletter and get ready to believe in you. If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration,

• 26:59Jamie Kern Lima?

  some tips, tools, joy and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes.

• 27:11Speaker 03

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• 27:20Speaker 05

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• 27:24Speaker 02

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• 27:25Speaker 05

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• 27:31Speaker 03

  Anybody who's ever felt that they were not good enough, didn't measure up, something's missing in your life, I have to tell you.

• 27:38Speaker 05

  It's powerful. It's happening. It's worthy.

• 27:42Jamie Kern Lima?

  Imagine what would you do if you fully believed in you? I went from struggling waitress facing non-stop rejection to founder of It Cosmetics, a billion-dollar company, by learning how to overcome self-doubt and believe I'm worthy of my hopes and dreams. And I'm sharing how you can too in my new book, Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life. If you're ready to truly trust yourself and break through that barrier of self-doubt and know that where you come from, or even where you are right now, doesn't determine where you're going, then Worthy is for you.

• 28:26Jamie Kern Lima?

  It's time to go from doubting you're enough to knowing you're enough. It's time to step into all of who you are and into the person you were born to be. And it's time to believe that you are worthy of it. Because in life, we don't become what we want. We become what we believe we're worthy of.

• 28:48Jamie Kern Lima?

  Join the Worthy Movement today by grabbing your copy of Worthy anywhere books are sold. Then head to worthybook.com now for free gifts, including my five-part course on Becoming Unstoppable and my 95-page Worthy Workbook Action Plan that teaches you how to implement the tools from the book into your real life right now.

• 29:12Speaker 06

  Worthy is groundbreaking. Yo. My God. Worthy, you are worthy.

• 29:16Jamie Kern Lima?

  This book is going to change lives. This book literally will teach you how to actually feel worthy so that you can have the strength, you can have the confidence.

• 29:24Speaker 06

  The lessons in this book and the strategies will change your life. You will never be the same again after you read this book.

• 29:30Speaker 02

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• 29:42Speaker 01

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• 29:44Jamie Kern Lima?

  The gifts are going away, but they're all free right now on worthybook.com.

• 29:51Jamie Kern Lima?

  It's such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note, I'm not a licensed therapist and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.