Finding Meaning After Success: The Blueprint of Belonging | John R. Miles - EP 717

What if the "stones" of your success, the titles, the trophies, and the milestones, feel loose and unconnected because you’ve ignored the invisible bond meant to hold them together? In this powerful solo episode of Passion Struck, host John R. Miles explores "The Mortar of Connection." Drawing on the collective intelligence theories of Steven Sloman and the psychological insights of Alex Imas, John explains why the "Hollow High" occurs when we optimize for the "win" while neglecting the "join."This episode takes you from the ancient Giza plateau to the modern boardroom to discover the "alchemy of the mix." You will learn how to transition from Quiet Disorientation to a life of Unity over Uniformity, using your Sacred Values as the grit that makes your connections unshakeable. It’s an invitation to stop bidding on a life that doesn’t fit and start building a structure that can finally support the weight of a life that matters. Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health podcast and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is ranked #1 on FeedSpot’s list of the Top Passion Podcasts on the Web, recognizing the show’s ongoing commitment to thoughtful, human-centered conversations like this one. Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/finding-meaning-after-success/All links gathered here, including books, Substack, YouTube, and Start Mattering apparel: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesKey Quote: "The cost of conviction is the grit in the mortar; without it, connections crumble under pressure, but with it, meaning seals the architecture against isolation’s erosion." — John R. MilesIn This Episode, You Will Learn:The Alchemy of the Mix: Why meaning lives in the "Between Us" space and how collective intelligence turns a pile of rocks into a sanctuary. The Grit of Conviction: How to identify your Sacred Values and why they are the non-negotiable "grit" required for connections to hold under pressure. Avoiding the Winner’s Curse: A deep dive into Alex Imas's research on why we overpay for "stones" that actually weaken our internal structure. The Application vs. The Pit: Why meaning is an act of application, and how to move your values from the "pit of someday" to the joints of your current relationships. The Miracle of the Cure: Understanding the "Setting" process of our choices and why unity—not uniformity—is the ultimate goal of a cured life. Extraction vs. Circulation: How to stop treating life as an auction to be won and start seeing it as an architecture to be inhabited. The Mortar of Connection Companion ResourcesDownload our free digital companion workbook featuring practical reflections on avoiding the Winner's Curse, identifying your "sacred grit," and mapping your own collective layers of meaning. Explore the guide:Connect with the EcosystemPre-order You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Support the Movement: https://StartMattering.comJoin The Ignited Life Community: https://TheIgnitedLife.netDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a licensed physician, therapist, or other qualified professional. Connect with John Pre-Order The...

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• 0:00John R. Miles?

  Coming up next on Passion Struck, it's the moment we all chase. The gavel falls, the contract is signed, the win is finally yours. But as the adrenaline fades and the room goes quiet, a strange, cold realization sets in. You have the prize, but you don't feel the peace. You have the stone of success, but it feels loose, unconnected. This is the hollow high. It's the result of building a life out of massive achievements while ignoring the invisible bond that was supposed to hold them together. Today, we're going back to the dawn of architecture to find what's missing. We're going to discover why the things we fight hardest to win are often the things

• 0:44John R. Miles?

  that weaken us and why true meaning isn't found in the stones we stack, but in the mortar we mix between them. Welcome to Passion Struck. I'm your host, John Miles. This is the show where we explore the art of human flourishing and what it truly means to live like it matters. Each week, I sit down with changemakers, creators, scientists, and everyday heroes to decode the human experience and uncover the tools that help us lead with meaning, heal what hurts, and pursue the fullest expression of who we're capable of becoming. Whether you're designing your future, developing as a leader, or seeking deeper alignment in your life, this show is your invitation to grow with purpose and act with intention.

• 1:26John R. Miles?

  Because the secret to a life of deep purpose, connection, and impact is choosing to live like you matter.

• 1:39John R. Miles?

  Hey friends, welcome to episode 718 of Passion Struck. We're continuing our series, The Meaning Makers. Last week in my solo episode, I discussed the architecture of significance and we uncovered the structure that emerges when the noise of achievement fades. Earlier this week, we explored the raw materials of the human bond with two of the most insightful minds in their fields. On Tuesday, Dr. Stephen Sloman joined us to unpack collective intelligence. How meaning isn't something we create in a vacuum, but some Something we find in the between us space of shared beliefs and sacred values. Then yesterday, Alex Emes dove into the psychology of trade offs and a phenomenon called

• 2:19John R. Miles?

  the winner's curse, helping us understand why the things we fight hardest to win are often the very things that weaken our internal structure. Together, they help us see a profound truth. Significance is the architecture we reveal in silence, but meaning is the binding agent we apply together. We often think of our lives as a collection of heavy things. We talk about the weight of our responsibilities, the solid nature of our achievements, and the massive goals we're trying to move. We spend years cutting these stones, shaping them, and hauling them into place, thinking that if we just stack enough of them high enough, we will finally have built something that lasts.

• 3:03John R. Miles?

  But if you look closely at the ruins of history and at the ruins of many modern lives, you'll see that it's rarely the stones that fail, it's the space between them. Without a bond, a pile of the most expensive limestone in the world is still just a pile. It's shifting, it's vulnerable. In our own lives, we call that feeling quiet disorientation. It's that haunting suspicion that while we have all the right pieces in place, we are still one heavy wind away from it all coming down. Today, we are moving from the stones to the space between them. We're moving from the architecture we build in private to the mortar we apply together. Before we dive in, a quick note on a project that mirrors these themes of significance.

• 3:48John R. Miles?

  We often spend our adult lives trying to rediscover the value we should have been anchored in as children. My new children's book, You Matter Luma, is a bridge to that truth, a reminder that your significance isn't earned by your performance, it is a fact of your existence. You can preorder it now at Bard Zenoble or go to youmatterluma.com. If this episode resonates, please share it with someone navigating a similar season. And if you haven't yet, a five star rating or review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify helps these conversations reach the people who need them most. Now, let's get on to episode 718. Thank you for choosing Passion Struck and choosing me to be your host and guide on your journey to creating an intentional life. Now, let that journey begin.

• 4:37John R. Miles?

  Imagine a single worker at dawn on the Giza Plateau. The sun is just rising over the Nile, turning the sand gold. In front of him sits a shallow pit. He pours in lime, white and fine as bone dust. Then sand, rough and golden. Finally, water from the river, carried in a cracked clay jar. With a wooden paddle, he begins to stir. At first, the ingredients resist. Dry clumps float, water pools separately, sand sinks. Nothing wants to become one thing. This resistance is exactly what we feel when our deepest values clash with our ambitions,

• 5:19John R. Miles?

  when individual drive pushes against the pull of shared life. It's not a sign the mix is failing. It's the signal that alchemy is beginning. The worker keeps turning the paddle, slow and steady. The mixture thickens, colors blend, air bubbles rise and disappear. What was separate becomes something new. Mortar, a humble paste that will hold stones weighing tons, that will seal the pyramid against time itself. But here's the truth. The worker isn't mixing just for himself. He knows the mortar only works when it fills the space between the stones.

• 6:00John R. Miles?

  In our lives, meaning lives in that same space between us. It is the inner subjective bond, our collective intelligence, that turns a pile of rocks into a sanctuary. That worker understood what we often forget. True endurance starts in the mix, not in the grand stones already cut and waiting, but in the quiet, invisible blending of elements. Last week, I revealed the architecture of significance, the foundation of quiet recognition, where inherent worth stands solid. The pillars of circulation, where giving flows outward and returns. The windows of attentional maturity, opening us to see deeply.

• 6:42John R. Miles?

  The roof of shelter, where presence becomes a safe place for others. Those elements are powerful. They are real, but in a world flooded with choices, they can remain separate, strong in isolation, but vulnerable when the winds come. Without this mix, the structure isn't just quiet. It's structurally unsound.

• 7:04John R. Miles?

  Unable to hold across time or weather life's real pressures. So we begin here with the mix. We shift from stacking stones in solo ambition to blending them in communal harmony. The ingredients in our lives are our experiences, relationships, convictions, and daily decisions. Lime represents the sharp, binding conviction of personal values. Sand is the grounding texture of shared beliefs and collective wisdom. Water is the flow of choices that brings everything together. The alchemy happens when we honor the proportions, allowing collective intelligence to guide the blend, sacred values to add the necessary grit,

• 7:48John R. Miles?

  and trade-offs to decide what stays and what must be set aside. Because if we don't, if we ignore the proportions and just chase every shiny object, we fall into what Alex Emes and I discussed yesterday, the winner's curse. We overpay for elements that actually weaken the whole. We think we're building a legacy, but we're actually just collecting a pile of expensive, unbonded stones. To avoid the curse, we have to stop theorizing about the mix and start the work of the join. That's why, back on the Giza Plateau, the worker at dawn finishes his stir.

• 8:29John R. Miles?

  He doesn't have time to marvel at the alchemy in the pit because he knows the clock is ticking. In that pit, the transformation is complete. The mortar sits thick and ready. It's no longer a collection of separate ingredients. It's become a single, living substance. But here is the tension. The mortar is at its most potent right now, yet it is also at its most vulnerable. If it stays in the pit, it hardens into a useless lump. Its entire purpose is to be used, to be spread, and to be pressed between the weight of something heavy. Meaning, like mortar, it's not a state of being. It's an act of application.

• 9:11John R. Miles?

  In our lives, this application phase is where so many of us falter. We have the ingredients. We have the sacred values we heard from Stephen Sloman on Tuesday. We have the relationships and we have the goals, but we hesitate to apply them with conviction. We keep our mix in the pit of someday, or maybe never quite willing to let it set. The worker scoops a generous portion onto his wooden trowel. You can almost hear the wet, heavy thwack as it hits the wood. He approaches the first massive limestone block, already positioned on the growing foundation we discussed last week. With steady, practiced hands, he begins the application.

• 9:53John R. Miles?

  He spreads the mortar across the stone's surface, thick enough to fill every jagged gap and hidden fissure, yet thin enough to allow for perfect alignment. He isn't just putting goop on a rock. He is creating the interface where two separate entities will become a single structure. He lifts the next block, a stone that weighs as much as a man, and he presses it down firmly. This is the moment of truth. The mortar squeezes out slightly at the edges, bleeding into the light, and then it sets into the joint. In that specific moment of pressure and release, the two stones become one. The bond is made. But notice what it took. It required force.

• 10:37John R. Miles?

  It required intention, and it required a total willingness to commit, even when the stones resist, even when the work is backbreakingly heavy. Without that application, the mortar remains just potential in the pit. And friends, this is exactly where so many of us are stuck. We have done the work of the mix. We have the values. We have the relationships. We have the ingredients of a significant life sitting right in front of us. But we are terrified to scoop it up and apply it. We are afraid that if we commit to a specific join, we might lose our flexibility. This is where conviction enters our own architecture.

• 11:20John R. Miles?

  This is exactly what Steve Sloman helped us understand on Tuesday. That meaning doesn't happen in the center of the stone. It happens in the intersubjective space, the space between the stones.

• 11:34John R. Miles?

  It is the bond that exists between us. We have mixed the elements: our experiences, our relationships, our daily decisions. Now comes the harder part, applying them with a level of commitment that makes them non-negotiable. We spread the mortar generously across the joins of our lives, between our private values and the shared beliefs of those around us, between our solo ambitions and the collective wisdom that tempers them. But here is the catch: the cost of conviction is real. Applying this mortar means saying no to the easy compromises that would weaken the bond. It means holding sacred values as anchors, even when they polarize the room or demand a sacrifice of your comfort.

• 12:19John R. Miles?

  Solomon's research shows that a community or a life is only as strong as its sacred values, the things it refuses to trade away. That is the grit in your mortar. If your life is made of utility mortar, where everything is up for negotiation, where you'll trade your integrity for a win or your time for a status symbol, your mortar is just smooth, slippery mud. It will wash away the moment the weather turns. You need the friction, you need the grit, you need the willingness to press firmly. In ancient quarries, builders knew a secret: skimpy application leads to cracks that time only widens.

• 13:00John R. Miles?

  A thin, hesitant layer of mortar might look fine today, but in 50 years, the weight of the structure will cause it to fail. However, a generous, committed spreading creates joins that endure for dynasties. In our lives, the same principle holds. We apply meaning when we show up fully in our relationships, not just when it's convenient, but when it's hard. We apply it when we mentor others without needing the credit. We apply it when we circulate our presence and our resources with the specific intention of making the whole stronger, not just our own stone. We apply it when we honor the sacred, those deep, unshakable rights and wrongs that define

• 13:42John R. Miles?

  the core of our architecture of significance, even if it costs us our flexibility, our speed, or our comfort. The cost of conviction is the grit in the mortar. Without it... Connections crumble under pressure, but with it, meaning seals the architecture against isolation's erosion. This application is what finally bridges the individual to the collective. It turns the me of solo ambition into the we of shared strength. It prepares your structure for what comes next, the setting where your choices finally harden these bonds into permanence. Ask yourself right now, where in your life are you skimping on the mortar? Where are you trying to keep your stones loose because you're afraid

• 14:27John R. Miles?

  of the pressure of commitment? And what would happen to the strength of your life if you finally decided that some things were simply sacred? We've just looked at the invisible bond that holds our lives together, that shift from solo ambition to the grit of shared conviction. But even with the right mortar, the structure of our lives faces one more hurdle, the pressure of the market. How do we let our lives set without falling for the traps of competition? We're going to dive into the second half of this architecture, the setting and the cure. But before we do, I want to pause on something important. Listening to me describe the grit of conviction is one thing. Actually standing by those sacred values, especially when the world is offering you a shortcut, is another.

• 15:12John R. Miles?

  That tension between the pressure to win at all costs and the desire to build something that actually lasts is exactly what we designed The Ignited Life to hold. This architecture isn't built overnight. It's built through the quiet, consistent choice of alignment over achievement. That's why each episode in the Meaning Makers series is paired with specific reflection tools inside the community. We help you map your own architecture of significance by asking the questions the noise usually drowns out. What stones am I chasing just because the crowd is bidding on them? Is my mortar strong enough to hold my values under pressure? Or is it just drying into dust? Inside The Ignited Life, you'll find weekly prompts tied to my interviews

• 15:55John R. Miles?

  along with identity and agency practices to help you move from a hollow high into true unity. Because significance isn't a destination you reach, it's a structure you inhabit one choice at a time. You can join us at theignitedlife.net. Now, a quick break for our sponsors. Thank you for supporting those who support the show.

• 16:17John R. Miles?

  You're listening to Passion Struck on the Passion Struck Network. Welcome back. Before the break, we were standing in the pit, mixing the mortar of our lives with the grit of our sacred values. We looked at how we apply those convictions to the joints of our relationships. But as any builder will tell you, the application is only half the battle. If we don't understand how a structure sets, if we don't recognize the traps that can ruin the bond before it even cures, we risk overpaying for a life that won't hold. And that brings us to the third element of our architecture, the setting. In the world of ancient masonry, this is the point of no return. You can nudge a stone for a few minutes after it's laid, but eventually, the moisture leaves the mix.

• 17:02John R. Miles?

  The minerals lock together, and the position of that stone is no longer a suggestion. It's a permanent decision. In our lives, the setting represents the choices that lock our architecture into place. We often live as if our decisions are infinitely reversible, as if we can keep bidding on new lives, new careers, and new identities forever. But as we heard from Alex Emes yesterday, the reality of a life of significance is that it requires the courage to let things set. It requires us to move from the fluid maybe of our twenties and thirties to the solid, uncompromising, "this is who I am" of an intentional life.

• 17:44John R. Miles?

  But right here, in the middle of the setting process, we encounter a psychological trap that ruins more structures than we care to admit. It's the concept Alex and I dove into, the winner's curse. Imagine you're standing on the floor of a high stakes auction. The item up for bid is something you've wanted for years. A stone you believe will finally complete your wall. You've done your research, but the moment the bidding starts, the atmosphere changes. The energy in the room spikes. You see, your peers raising their paddles. You feel the heat of competition. Suddenly, the goal shifts. You're no longer trying to acquire something of value. You are simply trying to win.

• 18:25John R. Miles?

  When the gavel finally falls and the room goes quiet, you feel that surge of adrenaline. You won, but as Alex explained, in a world of uncertainty, the winner is almost always the person who made the largest estimation error. You didn't win because you knew more. You won because you were willing to overpay more than anyone else, often more than the prize is actually worth. We do this with our lives every single day. We compete for the title that demands our entire soul, the lifestyle that stretches our integrity to the breaking point, or the social validation that requires us to perform a version of ourselves that isn't real. We see the market of social media bidding on these things,

• 19:10John R. Miles?

  and we raise our paddles. We bid our time, our health, and our most sacred relationships. And then we win. We get the trophy. We get the follow button. We get the seat at the table. But as the mortar begins to set, the adrenaline fades and the winner's curse kicks in. We realize we forced an unfit stone into our wall. We've overpaid for a prize that doesn't actually provide the shelter we're looking for. This is the hollow high we felt at the start of this episode. It's the realization that we've optimized for the bid rather than the build. Alex's work is a sobering reminder that optimization is not the same as wisdom. You can be the most optimized person in your industry

• 19:54John R. Miles?

  and still be a victim of the winner's curse. When we treat life as a series of auctions to be won, we lose our ability to ask the most important question. Is this stone worth the mortar it's taking to bind it? In this setting phase, you have to be the gatekeeper of your own architecture. You have to realize that every time you chase a win that doesn't align with the sacred values we discussed with Stephen Sloman, you are adding a weak point to your structure. You are using up your limited supply of mortar, your finite energy, and your precious conviction on something that will eventually crumble under the weight of time. True binding happens when our choices align with the collective flow

• 20:39John R. Miles?

  of the we rather than the ego of the me. It happens when we realize the most expensive bid isn't always the best one. Think back to my conversation with Alex. He talked about the power of trade-offs. Meaning isn't just about what you gain. It's about what you're willing to give up to keep your structure sound. It's about having the wisdom to walk away from a win that would cost you your significance. It's about letting the right thing set.

• 21:10John R. Miles?

  The winner's curse is the high cost of a wrong win. True significance is found in the trade-offs that protect the architecture of the soul. Ask yourself, what am I currently bidding on that I actually hope I don't win? What stone am I trying to force into my wall just because the crowd is cheering for it? The mortar is setting. The choices you make today are becoming the permanent joints of your tomorrow. Make sure they are bonds that you can actually live within. Because the goal isn't just to win the bid or even to set the stone. The goal is to build a shelter that lasts. If the winner's curse is the anxiety of overpaying for a life that doesn't fit,

• 21:55John R. Miles?

  then the process that follows is the peace of finally becoming part of something larger. Once the choices are made and the stones are set, the work of the hands ends and the miracle of the bond begins. So far, we have mixed the mortar in the pit. We have applied it with the grit of our sacred values. We have watched it set through the weight of our intentional choices. Now we reach the final and perhaps most mysterious stage of the process: the cure. In the world of ancient masonry, curing is a quiet, invisible process. Most people think it's just the mortar drying out, but it's actually a sophisticated chemical reaction. It isn't just losing water.

• 22:38John R. Miles?

  It's a transformation where disparate ingredients—lime, sand, and minerals—bind together into a single stone-like substance. This is the stage where the ingredients stop being a list of parts and start being a unity. In your life, the cure represents the moment when your fragmented efforts finally stop feeling like work and start feeling like belonging. This is the stage where the quiet disorientation we talked about at the top of the episode finally begins to fade. You are no longer just a cog in a machine, an actor on a stage, or a bidder in an auction. You have become a bonded contributor to a structure that is bigger than yourself, a legacy that can finally stand on its own.

• 23:23John R. Miles?

  What's fascinating about cured mortar... Is that it doesn't try to hide the gaps between the stones. It doesn't try to pretend the wall is one solid monolithic piece of rock. Instead, it celebrates the joins. It creates wholeness exactly where the fragments used to be. It turns the spaces between into the strongest part of the wall. This is the between us meaning that Stephen Sloman talks about. The intersubjective reality where my significance and your significance are locked together by shared conviction. When the mortar cures, the roof of our architecture finally becomes a shelter. It becomes a place where others can feel held, safe, and truly at home. Because they can see that the structure isn't just for show.

• 24:08John R. Miles?

  It's built to endure. But there's a catch that our modern world hates to hear. Curing takes time. We live in an era of optimization and instant wins. We want the success now. We want the death now. We want the meaning today. But you cannot rush a chemical cure. If you put too much weight on the wall before the mortar has cured, the whole thing will shift. The stones will crack and the structure will fail. The winner's curse is almost always a result of rushing the cure. We overpay for speed. We overpay for the certainty of a now over the integrity of a later.

• 24:47John R. Miles?

  We choose the fast win of a status symbol over the slow bond of a deep relationship or a long-term craft. But true significance is a slow burn process. It's the result of letting your choices and your values sit together in the silence until they become inseparable. When the bond finally cures, something miraculous happens. Unity replaces uniformity. In a uniform world, we all have to be the same to fit together. We have to follow the same scripts, chase the same trophies, and use the same metrics. But in a unified structure, our differences are exactly what give the mortar room to work.

• 25:28John R. Miles?

  Your unique stone, your specific background, your specific failures, your specific talents is exactly what

• 25:36John R. Miles?

  Makes the wall strong, provided the mortar of shared meaning is there to hold it. This is how we solve the existential cost of a life organized around winning. We stop asking, did I outperform others? And we start asking, is this structure worth inhabiting? We stop looking for the next auction to win, and we start looking at the strength of our joins. As you move into this week, I want you to look at the mortar in your life. Don't just look at the trophies on the shelf. Look at the spaces between the trophies. Look at the quality of your connections. Look at the grit of your convictions. Are they curing into something that will last? Or are they just drying into dust?

• 26:19John R. Miles?

  Meaning's mortar cures not to erase our differences, but to unify them, creating a structure where individual significance finds its fullest expression in the we. Meaning's mortar cures not to erase our differences, but to unify them, creating a structure where individual significance finds its fullest expression in the we. Pass the trial, my friends, the mortar awaits. Think back one last time to that worker on the Giza Plateau. The sun is high now, the heat is intense. He wipes the sweat from his brow and looks back at the wall he has spent the day building.

• 27:03John R. Miles?

  To an outsider, it's just a line of stone and mortar. But he knows better. He knows that the invisible bond he mixed this morning is now the only thing standing between those stones and the weight of the desert winds. He packs up his paddle. He walks away, knowing that his individual effort has been swallowed up by a structure that will outlast his name. He didn't just build a wall, he participated in a unity.

• 27:33John R. Miles?

  Thank you for spending this time with me today. My friends, let's bring this home. We began today with a truth hidden in the dust of the plateau, that a life of significance isn't built of stones alone. It's built in the mix. It's found in the between us space where your drive meets our collective strength. We felt the grit of application. The realization that meaning isn't a trophy won at auction, but the cost of conviction. It's the sacred values you refuse to trade away, even when the winner's curse tempted you to overpay for a life that didn't fit. We watched the architecture set and cure, proving that we don't need to be the same to be whole. We just need a bond strong enough to weather the storm.

• 28:17John R. Miles?

  And so, we end with a vow, not a demand for perfection, but a commitment to the mortar. A commitment to fill the spaces between us with integrity, with presence, and with a love that actually holds. This isn't about winning more. It's about being more, right where the stones of your life are already laid. If you're listening right now and you feel like you've been chasing the wrong win, or if your architecture feels a little shaky, a little unbonded, hear this: You're not out of chances to strengthen the join. You're one intentional choice away. Tonight, tomorrow, this week, cast one small vote for the "we." Put the phone down. Honor a sacred value.

• 29:00John R. Miles?

  Stay long enough for the bond to actually set. That's how significance is rebuilt, one ordinary, chosen application at a time. Now head over to theunitedlife.net and grab the free companion workbook for this episode. It will guide you step by step through identifying your sacred grit and avoiding the winner's curse in your daily decisions. If you know someone who needs to hear today's message, please share it with a friend. Coworker or family member. Next week, I'm sitting down with Shanna Pearson, author of "The ADHD Manual for Women." For many of us, a struggle to set the mortar and stay focused on what is sacred is complicated by the internal noise of neurodiversity. If you've ever felt like your internal

• 29:43John R. Miles?

  architecture was a chaotic work site, Shanna's work is a guide for all of us who struggle silently with the unique challenges of ADHD. We'll explore the why behind the struggle and the how of moving forward, and how to build a life of focus in a world designed for distraction. Because becoming isn't just about the strength of the stones, it's about how we show up for the challenges our own minds hand us next.

• 30:08Speaker 01

  It bothers me when people refer to ADHD as a superpower. It really does, because there's nothing about ADHD that makes life easier. And it's difficult to manage ADHD on so many levels, like in your relationships, career, personal health, name it. And so when people are like, "Oh, it's a superpower. You should be able to do all of these things so much. You've got this." Oh, you don't. And you know that life is really hard, and you know that you're struggling, and you know you're working 100 times harder than every single human, and longer than anyone. There's no superpower. And so then you just feel like there's something else that's wrong with you, because you can't even use your superpower. You don't even know where it is. Like, where's the superpower part of this?

• 30:51John R. Miles?

  Until next time, choose the bond over the bid, the sacred over the superficial, and live like the people you love and feel the strength of the join. I'm John Miles, and you've been passion struck.