Why Women's Brain Health Is at Risk in Midlife (and What You Can Do Now) with Emma Heming-Willis & Helen Christoni

In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Emma Heming-Willis and Helen Christoni for an honest conversation about women's brain health, dementia risk, emotional overload, and the profound changes women experience in midlife. Women are nearly twice as likely as men to develop Alzheimer's disease, yet most are never taught how menopause, estrogen decline, chronic stress, caregiving, and emotional suppression impact the female brain. In this episode, we unpack the difference between dementia and Alzheimer's, why brain changes can begin decades before diagnosis, and why midlife is a critical window for awareness and prevention, not fear. We also explore how nervous system dysregulation shows up as irritability, withdrawal, resentment, or burnout, why so many women feel disconnected from themselves in their 40s and 50s, and how telling the truth, emotionally and relationally, becomes essential for both brain and body health. To view full show notes, resources mentioned, discount codes, transcripts, and more, visit https://drmindypelz.com/ep322/ https://drmindypelz.com/ep321/ Check out our community membership at https://resetacademy.drmindypelz.com Please note our medical disclaimer.

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• 0:01Mindy Pelz?

  Okay, let me ask you a personal question. And this one is a really important one, which is when was the last time you had your vitamin D checked? And I'm saying this because in all my years of working with women, low vitamin D is one of the most consistent findings I see, and one of the most consistently missed. And vitamin D matters for so many aspects of your health. We're talking about a deficiency that can show up as hormonal imbalance, mood struggles, poor sleep, immune issues, even stubborn weight that won't budge no matter what you do. But here's the part that most people don't know.

• 0:43Mindy Pelz?

  Taking an isolated D3 supplement isn't enough. This isn't like just running down to the local store and grabbing some D3. Your body actually needs D3 to be combined with very specific cofactors to actually absorb and utilize vitamin D the way nature intended it. And most supplements on the market don't include these cofactors. That's why I personally love Cataplex D from Standard Process. It's a whole food supplement. It's vitamin D complex, not just an isolated nutrient. There's an incredible difference between checking a box and actually moving the needle on your health, and this one really moves the needle.

• 1:27Mindy Pelz?

  In fact, in my clinic, we used to test vitamin D, and we could see with a product like Cataplex D, we could see on lab work, the vitamin D levels in people go up. So you can learn more and you can get yourself some vitamin D. You can test out Cataplex D at drmindypels.standarprocess.com. Enjoy.

• 1:58Mindy Pelz?

  On this episode of the Resetter Podcast, I am bringing you Emma Willis and Helen Cristoni. Now, I hope you are aware of what Emma has been up to because she has written a book called "The Unexpected Journey," and it's about her journey with her husband Bruce Willis through the experience of dementia. And she and Helen are on a mission to get the word out that your brain matters. And specifically, they have dialed in now to helping women. They have a beautiful organization called Make Time Wellness, which is giving women

• 2:41Mindy Pelz?

  the tools to take back their brains and to put their brains as a health priority. So what I love about this conversation that I think you all will be moved by is that they have come up with a very simple way of looking at our lifestyle to support our brain, not only in disease prevention, but in functioning the way we want it to function right now. Because let's be honest, as we go through menopause, there's the brain fog and the irritability and the trouble focusing. And we can blame that on the loss of estrogen, if that's where you're at, or we cannot be a victim to that experience and realize

• 3:22Mindy Pelz?

  that there are some simple things we can do to keep our brain working at its best. And what Emma and Helen bring forward that I really like is they kept it simple, you'll hear Emma say this a lot, and they give us five tools, five things that we can do on a regular basis. They are all free, and they are all easy to do. They line up with many of the things I've been teaching women over the years, and I think they're really important to prioritize. So I'm excited that the front half of this conversation is really built around what dementia is, how it differs, or doesn't differ, you'll hear this in a moment, from Alzheimer's, what are the five things we can do to support better brain

• 4:07Mindy Pelz?

  health. And then the back half of the conversation, we went into caregiving. And what's really, what I wanted to bring forward is when I look at the demographics of my audience, a lot of you are dealing with aging parents like me. And caregiving can be one of the more draining experiences that we go through. And if you know Emma's story, her level of caregiving has been extreme. And so at the back half of the conversation, she really talks about what she does to take care of herself so that she can turn around and take care of not only Bruce, but her children. She still has young children.

• 4:47Mindy Pelz?

  And it's just a beautiful heartfelt conversation about women prioritizing themselves, women supporting each other, and us all stepping into a new conversation around women's health where we are empowered, we are not victims, we can choose to live a life that supports a better brain. And it's really beautiful conversation, and I'm really excited to bring it to you all. So here you go, Emma and Helen, and please go get her book, The Unexpected Journey. It is so moving and easy to read, and you're gonna love it. And we're leaving codes in the notes, just so you know, if you're interested in their

• 5:31Mindy Pelz?

  company called Make Time Wellness, they have some really cool resources there, so we'll leave codes and notes for you on that. But most of all, as I always say, don't give up on yourself, and conversations like this will help you see just how powerful you are.

• 5:51Mindy Pelz?

  Well, Emma and Helen, I just want to say I am so looking forward to this conversation because I have watched the fear around dementia just start to permeate my audience. And as I mentioned in the pre-interview, about a year ago, I started doing videos on my YouTube channel about what women could do to prevent dementia, and I had no idea that they would become the most popular videos on my, on my channel, and that there was such a need for information. So I just want to say, welcome, thank you for your book, and I'm so excited to have this conversation.

• 6:31Speaker 01

  Thank you for having us. We're excited to talk to women about their brains because no one is talking to us about it.

• 6:37Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, that's why we're here. Thank you so much, Mindy. Yeah, yeah. So I think the best place to start, when I opened up your book and I started reading it, I was shocked at how complicated it was to even diagnose dementia. So can we start off and just explain what dementia is? I know there's a bazillion different types, but what exactly is it? And what are some of the early signs of it, I think would be the most helpful to start with?

• 7:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, so dementia is kind of like this one big term, right? And underneath dementia sits all different types of, all different types of diagnoses of dementia, which could be Alzheimer's, FTD, Lewy body. You know, what I've learned in the process of, you know, going through my husband's FTD and learning more about dementia is that there are 120 different forms, which is crazy. So, you know, it can be the loss of ability, you know,

• 7:45Speaker 01

  to function in everyday life, to be able to organize our thoughts, you know, how we are just moving in the world. There's, there's all these different, there's just, you know, dementia isn't just about being forgetful. It comes in all different shapes and sizes, which is so important to be talking about dementia, raising awareness about it, not talking about it in hushed tones anymore, because that's not helpful. We want people to get diagnosed earlier so that they can get the support that they need for their loved one and for themselves as they become a caregiver.

• 8:28Mindy Pelz?

  So dementia and Alzheimer's gets thrown around like they're the same term. And especially for women. Yeah. Can you explain the difference? Because it's almost like the fear I see in women is, well, I don't know if, I don't want to get dementia or Alzheimer's. Do I have it? Like, there's, it's so, such a mystery, the label of the term.

• 8:46Speaker 02

  Yeah, I mean, I think, you know, when we were really learning about brain health, we learned that one in five women are at risk for getting Alzheimer's. And Alzheimer's is really associated with like, losing your memory and that type of thing. But, you know, further than that, one in three women are at risk for some sort of like, neurodegenerative issue. So I think that, and that kind of like pushes into that dementia thing, which can affect your body, your ability to move, you know, your mood, and just your overall demeanor. And so like Emma was saying, there's so many different types. And, and when we started learning about this, we felt it's so important to really start talking to women about their brain health, because it's, um, when you go look at kind of like

• 9:31Speaker 02

  the brain health aisle, everything is very directed towards men. And when we started having this conversation, we felt very, very strongly that we should start really educating and just having a real easy conversation with women about dementia and Alzheimer's.

• 9:47Speaker 01

  Because our brain also does so much more than just hold memory, right? And I think that's where the confusion starts, because Alzheimer's is the most common form of dementia. Again, like I said, there's 120 other different types.

• 9:59Speaker 02

  It's crazy.

• 9:59Speaker 01

  And our brain does more than hold memory. It, you know, keeps us functioning in the world and showing up and, you know, being able to move and, and all the things. So, um, where it's the most common, it's just still, um, still important to, to talk about women and their brain and how we can support, support women.

• 10:22Mindy Pelz?

  So is Alzheimer's then would be one of the 120 versions of dementia?

• 10:26Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 10:27Mindy Pelz?

  Okay.

• 10:28Speaker 01

  You've got dementia, then under that umbrella sits all the different forms of dementia.

• 10:33Mindy Pelz?

  And when you put these 120 together, are women more susceptible than men to dementia?

• 10:39Speaker 02

  Yeah, one out of every five women are at risk for Alzheimer's, and that's compared to one out of every 10 men. So women are at twice at risk for Alzheimer's. I don't know the stat for neurodegenerative decline, but I know that the Alzheimer's stat is one in five compared to one in 10, which we found super staggering when we learned that statistic. And no one's really talking about it.

• 11:03Speaker 01

  No, and also, you know, when you think about one in eight women will get breast cancer. So, you know, we do so much for breast cancer awareness, which is so important. You know, I have family members that were affected, you know, by breast cancer too. And early diagnosis is so important, but it's also important to talk to women about their brains if we are at a higher risk. You know, one in five is staggering.

• 11:29Mindy Pelz?

  So what is it about the female brain that makes it more susceptible to dementia?

• 11:34Speaker 02

  I think it's so much having to do with hormones, you know? I mean, we have so many times in our lives when, you know, starting at puberty, where, you know, our hormones are fluctuating. And then again, when we have children, then again, when we're going through perimenopause and menopause. And estrogen and that estrogen decline is such a tricky time in women's life where, you know, estrogen is very tied into a woman's brain health. And I think that, you know, everyone, there's a misconception that it's an older woman, you know, disease, when this is really, we really need to start thinking about it as early as possible, but especially in midlife.

• 12:14Mindy Pelz?

  What's, what's the average onset age?

• 12:18Speaker 01

  Well, I mean, what was interesting to us was that we learned that you start losing your short-term memory by the age of 35. Is that right, Helen?

• 12:25Speaker 02

  Yeah, that is right. And right now, and like, you actually start having degeneration kind of 20 years before the actual Alzheimer's or issue comes up. And so the damage is happening, like for me right now, I'm 55, the damage is happening right now. And it might show itself. Well, hopefully not, because we're doing so much preventative stuff. But, you know, it'll show up 20 years later.

• 12:53Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. And, and is estrogen, the decline of estrogen, the catalyst? Or is there a bigger picture here?

• 12:59Speaker 02

  Well, I mean, I think there's many, there's many things that contribute. There's environmental factors, you know, the toxic burden that we're all under our nutrition. And, and, you know, there's a lot of things that we need to do to be taking good care of our brains. And so I think that estrogen plays just one role in it.

• 13:20Speaker 01

  I mean, Dr. Mindy, with your research that you're doing with your new book that's coming out, I mean, what are you, what are you seeing that might be new or, or different?

• 13:29Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, I would love to share that. I, I, I had a really revolutionary interview with Lisa Moscone a couple of years ago when she put the menopause brain out. And one of the things we talked about is how the female brain, as it moves through menopause, becomes less sensitive to glucose. So, and becomes more sensitive to ketones. So from that vantage point, I started to look at different fuel sources. And, you know, estrogen keeps us insulin sensitive. And when estrogen goes down, we don't just get, get menopausal belly weight. Our brain literally doesn't know how to use glucose as well. And so Lisa and I discussed, I said, well, we have this whole other fuel source.

• 14:13Mindy Pelz?

  It's called a ketone. You don't have to go on a ketogenic diet. You could just put an intermittent fast every single morning. Again, curious what you think of this. And get yourself a little dose of ketones. And ketones are neuroprotective. So they can protect you from those toxins. And they're a better fuel source for the mitochondria in the, in the neurons of the brain. So in my community, I've seen women who are 48 that have tremendous brain fog, that have poor memory. And we just teach them how to get off the ultra-processed foods. So they're not spiking these high glucose levels. And to just tack on a 13 to 15 hour fast every day. And so they're getting a dose of ketones.

• 14:59Mindy Pelz?

  And I am not joking within like, Three days, four days, you see a woman's brain come back online.

• 15:06Speaker 01

  Isn't that incredible?

• 15:07Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. So I, so like, I feel like that's, that needs to be part of the conversation. Because it's, it's an inability of the brain to use the fuel source it's used for years and years and years. It's like you became a hybrid car and now you gotta learn how to tap into the electrical system.

• 15:27Speaker 01

  Well, the thing is, is like, our doctors aren't speaking to us about this. You are.

• 15:31Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, thank you. Yeah.

• 15:33Speaker 01

  You're, you're educating us. And I mean, this was, this was one of the issues that I had in, when I was in my 40s, going into my doctor saying, I am experiencing brain fog. I don't know what is going on. Like, I am not firing in all cylinders. And I was dismissed over and over again, saying, you know, you're stressed. You're not getting enough sleep. Don't worry, it's mommy brain, you know? And I left that office just thinking, okay, and then realizing that, no, like, this does not feel right. And I sought after a, a brain health doctor to, you know, walk me through and make me understand what brain health is

• 16:14Speaker 01

  and what that looks like. I had never heard of it before. And I'm pretty up to speed on, on wellness, I thought. But brain health was a new term for me. And, you know, he introduced me to the pillars of brain health. And also put me on, you know, a handful of vitamins that I was taking multiple times a day. And I remember turning to Helen, saying, you know, I am seeing a difference. The fog is lifting. I'm feeling great, but I cannot sustain taking all of these vitamins multiple times a day. So what I'd said to her was like, can we do something where we can just like combine all this stuff? And put it into a drink or a gummy or something that is easy?

• 16:54Speaker 01

  And that's how we launched Make Time Wellness, actually. And Helen was like, yeah, let's, let's do it. Let's go.

• 17:00Speaker 02

  I mean, there's so many people like taking superfoods and, you know, there's all these different things that she could do, but no one was really like thinking about women and putting this all in one kind of comprehensive solution. And, you know, and it was during COVID and Emma was like taking all these supplements. I'm like, what are you taking? And it's just not sustainable for women to continue to take that many pills. I mean, you have to be a certain, you know, a certain type of person to be able to sustain that. And so we created Make Time Wellness and we really went out and we kind of identified what women was take, what Emma was taking and put it all into a drink that kind of checks all the boxes for women.

• 17:42Speaker 02

  And so we have Cognizin, which is citicoline in it. That's been clinically studied on women to really support focus, attention, brain health overall. A multivitamin, just by taking a multivitamin every day, women can like starve off. It's very great for our brains. MCT oil, curcumin, which we really can't talk about it, but we all know what it's traditionally used for. You know, it's to reduce inflammation. That's our core ingredient. And so we really cherry picked this kind of all these, you know, ingredients to support women and put it in an easy drink because we're like, we want it to be the easy conversation.

• 18:24Speaker 02

  And, um, you know, because so many people like me, I'm like, okay, I need to take luteinions and I need to take this and I, what does it even mean? So at Make Time, we really wanted to start having a very simple conversation and reach all women. Um, and also dig into the pillars of brain health. So a really big part of what we do and why we call it Making Time is so we can encourage women to really incorporate the pillars of brain health in their day to day.

• 18:54Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, I have, I have a lot of thoughts on that one because, um, in this book, I, I looked at four different people. I looked at the anthropological explanation for menopause and it's something called the grandmother hypothesis. And I interviewed Kristin Hawks, who's an anthropologist that talks about how back in the primal days, Women, when they, their period stopped, they were actually moved to a place of leadership within the tribe. And they had a whole new job, so the brain rewires itself to be able to meet that job. Then I extensively looked at Lisa Moscone's work, where she talks about there's three major times in a woman's life that the brain prunes itself again in order to make room for the, for the next moment.

• 19:39Mindy Pelz?

  And then I even looked at a feminist psychologist, I don't know if you know Carol Gilligan, but she talks a lot about how when a girl goes into puberty, this was back in the 1980s, which was my, my, my teenage years, that the culture teaches girls that you're worth, you're worthy if you're selfless. And then I looked at Clarissa Pinkola Estes's work on what the mystical explanation of that transition through menopause is. And I really took a complete look and realized that there's, yes, we have the nutrient issue. And that's a big one we'll come back to here in a moment.

• 20:21Mindy Pelz?

  But we also have a culture that doesn't understand the plight of a woman and definitely doesn't understand the menopausal plight of a woman. So I just want to say, I love what you're up to because it's almost like women are feeling victim to the menopausal experience right now. And the answer that they're getting is just put a patch on and you'll be fine. And I keep scratching underneath that and saying, we need to look at hemoglobin A1C. What's, what's your metabolic system like? We need, I love that you're talking about toxins. We live in the most toxic time in human history. I did so much detoxing in my, heavy metal detoxing in my clinic.

• 21:06Mindy Pelz?

  And so I think it's very multifactorial. But the, the point I want to make is that women, and I love what you're doing with this supplement, what I'm seeing is women are like, really? Now I gotta, I gotta count my protein, I gotta lift weights, I gotta take 18 bottles of supplements, I've gotta get off my phone, I can't drink. Like, the list of what you need to do as you go through this process has, I think, buried women in the conversation.

• 21:36Speaker 01

  It's overwhelming. When I hear all of that, I don't want to do any of it.

• 21:39Mindy Pelz?

  Right. Yeah, you're like, I just want to live. Just want to live my life, let me live.

• 21:44Speaker 01

  Yeah. But you know, what we know is that the pillars are actually quite enjoyable. You know, that's what, that's what I've learned, you know, to prioritize sleep, nutrition, you know, supplementation, connection, social connection is so important.

• 22:00Mindy Pelz?

  It's huge.

• 22:00Speaker 01

  You know, and we can implement them at any point, at any time. So that is sort of where I focus is what are the pillars? They're simple, they talk to me, I know I can exercise, I know I, I know how important it is to stay connected and not to isolate like many of us caregivers do. And, and just move in that way, and that feels good to me. That is manageable to me. If I have to think about all of the other extra, the protein and the this and that, which of course is important.

• 22:33Mindy Pelz?

  Right.

• 22:34Speaker 01

  I become overwhelmed.

• 22:35Mindy Pelz?

  Yep, yep, yep. So walk, walk us through the pillars because you're offering something really new in, in brain health with that kind of simple approach.

• 22:45Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, sleep, right? We, we know how important it is to sleep and, and, and get, you know, eight to nine hours of sleep, which just seems wild to me.

• 22:56Mindy Pelz?

  But what if you can't sleep? Like a lot of women can't sleep.

• 22:59Speaker 02

  Yeah, I mean, I think like sleep hygiene and talking about sleep hygiene, that's really important and that's something that we do at Make Time is really give women actionable tools on, you know, if they're having trouble sleeping, you know, some things that they can do to help them. And it doesn't have to be really complicated, like go see a sleep therapist and, you know, all the things that people are out there, you know, soapboxing on. It's really like, you know, shut your phone down, make yourself a ritual and make going to bed something that's important in your day and not something that you just kind of like fall into because those sleep hours are so important. And, and it's something that we really have to think about. I'm a horrible sleeper. I have something called like sleep procrastination.

• 23:44Speaker 02

  Like I'm so busy all the time. Like when I get into bed, I

• 23:48Mindy Pelz?

  Never heard of that.

• 23:48Speaker 02

  don't want to go to sleep. I want to do all the things I didn't have time to do during the day and I really have to work hard on it. So we share those tips with women and really make sure you're, you know, disconnecting from screens, making your room environment something that's conducive to sleep. And and prioritizing it because if you're not sleeping right, you are going to have brain fog. You are not going to be able to think clearly. You are going to forget things. And so sleep is is super crucial. And and most women just don't understand that.

• 24:21Speaker 01

  But you're and you're also detoxing your brain in the middle of the night. You know, it is so important for us to be throwing out the trash of the day to wake up feeling refreshed and cleansed. This is very important for our brain health.

• 24:35Mindy Pelz?

  Let's talk about cod liver oil for a second. And I I know what you're thinking. Cod liver oil? Really? Dr. Mindy, that sounds like something my grandmother took. But hang with me here for a moment, because this is one of those old school remedies that modern science keeps proving right. Cod liver oil is one of nature's most concentrated sources of omega-3 fatty acids. Also, it's high in vitamin A and vitamin D, all in a form your body can actually recognize and use. This is such a powerful combination that is profoundly anti-inflammatory. It's protective to your brain. It supports your

• 25:18Mindy Pelz?

  hormones. And it does something I care really deeply about, which is it starts to repair and nourish your gut lining at a deep cellular level. This is something I personally take every single day. And one of the things that I have noticed the most is what it's done for my skin. I recommend it to women who are navigating hormonal shifts, dealing with chronic inflammation, or simply trusting to protect their long term health. So Standard Process is the company I deeply align with and trust. It's a whole food based, clean company, and it has held the standard of quality for decades. And I expect only the

• 26:03Mindy Pelz?

  best from Standard Process. They are definitely one of the top supplement companies in the world. So if you want to try it, check it out. You can learn more and get some for yourself at drmindypels.standarprocess.com. That's drmindypels.standarprocess.com. Enjoy.

• 26:26Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, I remember, I'm 56 and I remember when I was like in my late 40s, I hit a moment where I'm like, "God, going to sleep is like a full event." Like, the room has to be cold. I switched all the light bulbs out to red light bulbs without my family knowing. They're all of a sudden like, "Why is every light I turn on here a red light?" And then I had a weighted blanket, I had a mask. I'm like, "Oh my God, I used to just crawl in bed. Now I've got like a whole uniform."

• 26:54Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, we do what we need to do. I'm quite similar to that. I try and disconnect before I go to bed. I do read, you know, I think reading really sort of helps me get me into a zone. I have this mattress sort of cooler, which helps me a lot. I've got my Oura rings, so I'm tracking my sleep. You know, I've got all the things, but I know for me, it is one of the most important things that I work on when it comes to my brain health, because it is the hardest for me. And it's important.

• 27:26Speaker 02

  Yeah, and another pillar is really managing your stress levels, you know, and because if you're not, then sleeping is going to become really difficult. So when you start learning that they're all connected, you know, and, and everything kind of works together, that's, I think, what's really important. Because if you're not managing your stress and making time for yourself and listening to your brain, like if you have too much going on, that's your brain telling you, like, you need to take your foot off the gas pedal and start listening to what's happening in your head, because we're beautiful creatures. Like, our bodies will tell us. And make time has, I mean, we called the brand Make Time because self-care

• 28:08Speaker 02

  has gotten so overused, it's become a beauty term. We really don't like that term. Women just aren't making time for themselves. And by doing just simple things like prioritizing sleep, acknowledging that you're stressed and you need to kind of take a step back and do some things for yourself, whether it's take a break, go for a walk, you know, call a friend, whatever that means to you, is so super important.

• 28:36Mindy Pelz?

  What do you think about the burden that women are under right now to, you know, overperform in life? Like, you know, I, I used to have a picture of Rosie the Riveter in my kitchen and I was a working mom and I remember one day coming home from work and looking at Rosie and going, "I think you had it wrong. I don't think we can do it all." And you mix that with the culture applauding women for working, being super moms, and then you gotta stay a certain size and you gotta keep up with, you know, your kid's schedule at school. And, and is it possible that we're overburdened with have-tos, which is causing us, our brains to keep spiraling when we get into bed?

• 29:20Speaker 01

  A hundred percent. I mean, I think, you know, I grew up in a single parent household. My mother was working three jobs to keep us afloat. I saw what it looked like to, you get on with it, you do what you have to do, you don't ask for help, you don't ask for support, you suck it up, you get out there. That was what I saw. So, you know, coming into this world now as, as a woman, that is the, you know, what I have subscribed to. And now moving into this caregiving role, you know, realizing that, you know, I didn't know that I could ask for help. I didn't know I, I was allowed to. And if I asked for help, I was, I, I thought I was failing myself, my husband,

• 30:03Speaker 01

  my family. So I think as women in society, we really need to sort of unburden ourselves from all that we have, all, we set ourselves up so high, but we will fail, you know? And I, and I realized that. That was sort of my rude awakening was becoming a caregiver and burning the candle at both ends. And I needed my husband's neurologist to give me permission. To ask for help. You know, I didn't know that I was allowed to. So I was very grateful for her who said like you, you, it's time. You can't, you, you cannot set yourself up like this. And so, yeah, I think it's important for us to be talking to women

• 30:48Speaker 01

  and, and knowing that it's okay to slow down. It's okay to make time. And that is truly important for us to be able to sustain anything.

• 30:59Mindy Pelz?

  Yep, yeah, yeah. It's, it's so well said. And I will tell you, my experience working with women is there's so much of our worth is wrapped up in everything we do. So when we slow down, where's the worth juice coming from?

• 31:17Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, the world is moving so quickly, right? And you see it when you're on social and this person doing that and that. You're like, oh, I gotta get in there and I gotta keep, you know, moving at this speed that is, it's too much. It's really too much.

• 31:32Mindy Pelz?

  Yep, agreed, agreed.

• 31:33Speaker 02

  Yeah, I mean, hence the make time movement. You know, I mean, that's a real big part of what we're doing is, you know, getting women to start talking about how we're making time, how we're kind of pushing back on that grind culture status quo. And also, you know, like, it's okay, there's seasonality, you know? Like, sometimes there's busy seasons, sometimes there's not. Let's like, let's make sure that we're working through all of them and making time to take care of ourselves if we're in a busy season and enjoying the slower seasons. And so really talking about it and just having a dialogue, I think it's okay.

• 32:06Mindy Pelz?

  And what, what, when somebody says to me, you should stop stressing, it actually stresses me out.

• 32:14Mindy Pelz?

  I'm like, I don't know how to do that.

• 32:15Speaker 01

  How do you do that?

• 32:16Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. So when you talk about stress management, can you give us a few examples of what we might do?

• 32:22Speaker 01

  I think it's really about, you know, when we talk about making time, it's really talking about the things that feed our soul. And that looks different for everyone. For me, it's about gardening. Like, I love getting out in my garden. I'm not great at it. I kill these plants all the time, but then I go to the garden center and then I get the thing and I replant. But that, for me, that is my meditation. Being out in nature, my hands in the soil, you know, pruning, weeding. That, for me, helps de-stress me. Out in the sun. That, that is personally what, what helps me de-stress. And it's different for everyone. It could be meditation, it could be, you know, whatever it might be.

• 33:02Mindy Pelz?

  So doing the things you love, not just sitting on the couch doing nothing, like prioritizing the things you absolutely love to do.

• 33:09Speaker 01

  Listen, if you want to sit on the couch and do nothing, you should do that. You know, I really think that we need to do some soul searching to really find out what, what our hobbies are. Like, what are our hobbies? What are the things that we used to love when we didn't have the weight of the world on our shoulders? And really just tapping into the simplicity, just going back to something simple. And it does look different for, for everyone, but that's why it's important we, we talk about it.

• 33:37Speaker 02

  Yeah. One of the other pillars is movement and making sure that we keep moving. And I think for me, making time to move is so important. And it really is for everybody because it's really supporting our brain health. And I think, you know, you were talking about these societal pressures. There's a lot of pressures as it relates to movement, too. Like, if you're not, you know, doing F45 and like, you know, stacking your like, you know, weight and getting gains, you're not out there doing what you're supposed to do. But it, it doesn't have to be that hard. Like, just by walking, like, everyone's like, oh, I need to get 10,000 steps. Just by walking thirty-five hundred steps a day, you can reduce your chance of Alzheimer's by twenty-five percent.

• 34:19Speaker 02

  That's measurable, it's meaningful, and thirty-five hundred steps is really doable. And so I think that just making sure that we're, we're moving and what does that look like for you? It doesn't have to be what everybody else is doing on social media. It can be just taking around the walk, walk around the block, joining a mall walking club, you know, there are people all over the country that can be doing different things to really make sure they're taking care of their brain health.

• 34:47Speaker 01

  And I love that stat so much because I, you know, when you get that in your head of, of this, these ten thousand steps that we must do every single day, and you're like, I'm not doing the ten thousand steps, and then you feel like you're failing to hear that, you know what, it's not all or nothing. You know, there are some middle ground here. We need to give ourselves some grace. So I loved when, you know, Helen had told me about, you know, it's thirty-five hundred steps you could do. I'm like, oh my God, that's doable, I can actually do that, as opposed to just throwing my steps out the window completely.

• 35:16Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, one of my, one of the lenses I see everything through is the neurochemical lens. And when you go to walk, if you, if you go out into nature, nature brings cortisol levels down, that right foot, left foot walking also calms the brain. If you go with a friend, you're now getting oxytocin. If you're out in the middle of the day without your sunglasses on, your eyes will actually take the light and turn, and it hits the serotonin receptor sites in our eyes, and your eyes will make serotonin. If you go to new places, you bring in dopamine. Like, all of a sudden, I started looking at walking recently as this is the most amazing tool and everybody can do it.

• 35:59Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, what we talk about at Make Time is like, get out there with a friend, go take a walk, talk about your problems, and I mean, you are doing something that is so beneficial for your brain health. And I know for me, like, when I take a walk, even if it's just a ten-minute walk. The creativeness that sort of comes into my brain, even though I'm trying to like, not have those moments, I just want to just sort of be at peace. But it's really interesting to me, you know, like people sometimes get their best ideas in the shower for me.

• 36:28Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, I was gonna say.

• 36:29Speaker 01

  When I want to walk, you know, I just like, it sort of opens up the creative flood, which is nice.

• 36:35Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. So you, so you're saying, women, let's just move. You're not saying, start lifting heavyweights. I mean, of course you can do that, but I just want to point out that a lot of women don't want to lift heavyweights, but they are willing to go walk with a, with a friend.

• 36:51Speaker 02

  I think, you know, you have to do what works for you and not what works for other people. And so it's like, if you love Pilates, or if you're a runner, if you just want to go for a walk, or if it's, you know, hiking, dancing, it could be any number of things that feed your soul. There's nothing worse than like, setting an alarm to get up to do something you don't like to do. So I think like, making sure you're enjoying what you're doing is key. And of course, women need to, you know, take their muscles into consideration as we get older. It's very important for our bone health and whatnot. But, but I think that as it relates to this discussion, it has to be you, making time for things that really feed your soul, like Emma was saying, is really key.

• 37:33Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, great.

• 37:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, and not setting, and not setting yourself up to fail, you know, we don't, we don't want that. It's just really about getting out there and moving. And yes, of course, lifting weights is so important, you know, I, I, I do it as well. But we just want women to know that anything is better than nothing.

• 37:50Mindy Pelz?

  Right, right. It's so well said. Okay, what's the next pillar?

• 37:54Speaker 02

  Well, connection.

• 37:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:56Speaker 02

  You know, connection is super important, especially today, because as we all know, we're losing connection because of social media, all of our screen times, and that this is not what connection looks like, you know. And so making sure that you're connecting with people one-on-one, talking about your problems, sharing, getting to know new people, staying in touch with people we love is very, very key. And there's such a big lack of that. And it's, it's so important that we bring connection back.

• 38:30Speaker 02

  And so making sure that you're making time to connect is super important.

• 38:34Speaker 01

  And they say that isolation is a silent killer and what they say it's like it's like smoking 15 cigarettes a day. I mean, this is how important connection is. And like Helen says, you know, we have lost it. We are so disconnected in our world today and we feel like we're connected because we're looking at social media, but that is not meaningful connection. It is really about being amongst our friends, our family, our community, you know, getting on the phone, talking, walking and talking is really is very important. Connection is really important for our brain health.

• 39:07Mindy Pelz?

  Did you find any research on if you connect in person compared to if you connect, you know, FaceTime on a phone or, you know, text connecting, like, is there different levels of connection? Because sometimes I think that in person is there's just another level of neurochemical juice there.

• 39:28Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, I've definitely noticed that sort of in this world of caregiving advocacy. You know, being in person is is really important, but it is very difficult for caregivers to be in person when they are at home solo with their person. So we need to find other other ways, other outlets. And yes, I think being together is is important, but also for a caregiver to be able to connect on a Zoom, you know, with a support group out of on a phone call. I mean, that is still really meaningful and very important.

• 40:05Mindy Pelz?

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• 40:48Mindy Pelz?

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• 41:29Mindy Pelz?

  That's resetacademy.drmindypelz.com. I can't wait to see you there. What do you say? Like, I'm an extrovert and I have some friends that are introverts and we always compare notes because, and I actually heard the other day that extroverts, they, we get more energy the more we connect throughout a day and introverts just get drained as the day goes on. So I don't want to leave the introverts out of this conversation who are like, oh God, now I gotta go see people. What do we do with them?

• 42:02Speaker 01

  You're speaking to one right here.

• 42:03Mindy Pelz?

  Oh, great.

• 42:04Speaker 01

  So I'm a full introvert. Like after this conversation, I'm going to go crawl up in a ball.

• 42:11Mindy Pelz?

  You can do that.

• 42:13Speaker 01

  Yeah, I, yes, it is, it is hard to get out there sometimes to be able to connect and be amongst and really you have to, I have to bring in the energy to be able to do that. But I know there is importance to it. I know how important it is for me, for my health. To not isolate because I would love to actually, it's my default, but it's it's not healthy. It's really not healthy. And we need to learn as introverts to be able to come out of our our cocoons a little bit. And it doesn't have to be big and huge. It can literally just be with one person.

• 42:50Mindy Pelz?

  Mm hmm.

• 42:51Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 42:51Speaker 02

  I also think for extroverts, because I'm an extrovert also, it's really important we also mind our social batteries, because so many people are drawing off our our social battery, you know, when you're an extrovert. So people are coming to you for energy and you're that person, you know, and minding your own social battery is really important. Because, you know, even extroverts hit that point where they're like, I am out of gas. I mean, that was me yesterday. I had to like turn everything off. I had to like power down. I had to take a minute and now I'm ready to get back in it. But, you know, listening to your own social battery and making time, that's your brain telling you, if your social battery is low, you need to recharge it. And that's really like such the basis for

• 43:33Speaker 02

  this whole conversation we're having with women. It's just like cluing into these messages that your body's giving you.

• 43:40Mindy Pelz?

  In my research, I discovered Shelley Taylor's work, and she found that women have more oxytocin receptor sites in their amygdala, the stress part of their brain. And so we actually can move to a different stress response called tend and befriend. And one of the things I noticed when studying estrogen is when estrogen goes down, so does oxytocin. So it's almost like we have to go seek it and get it in deeper ways than ever before, to be able to have it calm the stress response. It's, and I don't know if you all have experienced this, but it's like superficial conversations just don't do it for me anymore.

• 44:22Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, I know I keep going back to this caregiving conversation because that is that is my people and who I am amongst. But I mean, I do find it so meaningful in a world that feels disconnected and discombobulated. There is something so beautiful, connecting caregiver to caregiver. And for me, that is really deep and it is meaningful. So yeah, I couldn't, I

• 44:50Speaker 01

  I agree to that.

• 44:51Mindy Pelz?

  I want to talk about the caregiving in a moment, too, because a lot of my audience is caregiving for their elderly parents. So, so we'll definitely come back to that. Okay, what's, so that was four? Did we have four things?

• 45:04Speaker 02

  Yeah, and then nutrition.

• 45:05Speaker 01

  Sleep nutrition, you know, the mind diet, Mediterranean diet is really, you know, healthy fats, is I find really, what I've learned, you know, very, very good for, for the brain. There's also, you know, a lot of really great, wonderful cookbooks out there, I think, that have really helped me sort of be able to implement the mind diet into our, you know, on our menu at night with the kids. You know, we have two young, young daughters, so I'm teaching them about healthy eating, you know, mindful eating. But, yeah, so, you know, nutrition.

• 45:39Speaker 02

  Yeah, and also, you know, watching your blood sugar, I think is really important, because if you have swings in blood sugar, you're going to have swings in your cognition. And, and we always, we really need to be watching that. And also, pure water, like making sure that we're not dehydrated, that we're having enough electrolytes, like our brains are made up of water. And when you're dehydrated, that alone can create brain fog and kind of like, a drain on the brain, as I like to say it. So, really making sure that you're eating some sort of blue zone diet. And, you know, just keeping on top of your hydration,

• 46:21Speaker 02

  and also watching sugar. Like, sugar is absolutely not good for us.

• 46:26Mindy Pelz?

  Right. What's, have you found one food that, or a group of foods that you're like, you definitely, like, blueberries became the mental health, like, superhero of foods? Are there other foods that you're like, you definitely need to get this in on a regular basis?

• 46:39Speaker 01

  I think nuts and seeds have, you know, are important. Olive oil. I really like to go for salmons, you know, that sort of has those omegas in it. I also, you know, take a little bit of extra omegas, just to make sure that I'm, that I'm getting more in. You know, we have to be careful with our fish intake because of mercury and, you know, it is such a hot mess out there. But, you know, I think that you just do what feels right and good, and that, you know, feels, you know, supportive to your body.

• 47:12Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. Let's switch to caregiving, unless there's anything else you feel like is really important for women to know. And I love the simplicity of your list, by the way.

• 47:22Speaker 01

  We keep it simple over here at Make Time. I think it's important. So we don't lose people, you know, we don't want to lose people. We want people to know that we can start looking after our brain at any age, and it is not, it is not difficult.

• 47:35Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. And it can be fun. Right.

• 47:38Speaker 01

  It can be fun.

• 47:38Mindy Pelz?

  Right.

• 47:39Speaker 01

  We make it fun over at Make Time. We're not trying to scare women. You know, we're not trying to do that. We want people to hear about the pillars and what we do. And it's, it's fun how we incorporate it into our lives and into our brand.

• 47:53Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. Health should be fun. Like, I don't know where we ever decided health was like arduous and required a whole lot of discipline. We need to rebrand that, for sure.

• 48:02Speaker 01

  Too overwhelming.

• 48:03Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. So, okay, talk about caregiving. And I'll tell you my personal experience in the last three years. My dad is 89, and my mom is 86. And, yeah, I mean, their, their brains, their bodies, my mom falls, my mom has had four, four joint, two hips and a shoulder replacement. My dad has had two knee replacements. Like, it's been a full-time job. But I think the hardest thing has been watching their brain health decline. And I just want to share one thing. When I read your book, Emma, I, you know, my dad has got some strange behaviors. And so we got him to a neurologist, took six months to

• 48:44Mindy Pelz?

  get there. Once we got there, he came out and he, he said, no, I don't have dementia. They just said that I have zero function of my frontal lobe.

• 48:55Speaker 01

  Wow.

• 48:56Mindy Pelz?

  I was like, I think that's dementia. And I, my sister and I sat and talked about, why did they not want to give him a diagnosis? And then, when I read your book, I was like, wait a second, there's something fishy that went down in this, in this office with, with the neurologist. And what we see is same conversations, this, what we're seeing, we're just the same conversations. He'll ask the same thing over and over and over again. And it's easy to get frustrated and be like, Dad, we just told you, we're going. To a restaurant in an hour. He's like, oh, oh, okay. Like, I'll give you an example. He had spinal surgery.

• 49:37Mindy Pelz?

  And literally in, right before they're about to wheel him in, he turns to me and he says, what am I doing today?

• 49:44Mindy Pelz?

  And I said, Dad, do you remember they're doing spinal surgery on? And he's like, oh. And he goes, did I choose this? And I said, yeah, you did.

• 49:52Speaker 01

  That's so hard. It is so hard to watch the people that we love lose parts of, you know, of what made them them. It is very hard and heartbreaking for us to see. But, you know, I think this idea of, you know, like for me, learning about when my husband was diagnosed diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia and realizing like, you know, that's why I think landing on a diagnosis is so important. Because then you can learn how to separate your person from their disease. You realize that by them, you know, asking, you know, the same question over and over again. It's not because they're doing it on purpose. It's just because their brain is being dismantled.

• 50:33Speaker 01

  Their brain is changing. And then that then that turns into how can we support them? And support ourselves, you know, to be able to protect ourselves when we are when we are seeing those really hard changes happening in our loved ones.

• 50:47Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. It's so subtle too, right? It just sort of like, I really like some, when it first started happening, I would say to him, really? Like, you really don't remember? And then now I'm starting to realize, I just got to play along.

• 51:01Speaker 01

  Yeah. I think that when you can sort of decide to accept what is happening, it is easier just to go along, you know, by doing the, but don't you remember? Or you just said that, you know, and it's not, they don't, they're not, again, not doing it on purpose. It's just, just to go along with it. It will save you that energy, that sort of cortisol spike that sort of comes with it. You have to learn how to protect yourself in those moments. And not try and test them.

• 51:34Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah.

• 51:35Speaker 01

  You know, just move away from the, the testing.

• 51:38Mindy Pelz?

  How long did, did it take you from diagnosis to where you are now to find a good care routine for yourself? Like, how did you find yourself in that caregiving role? Cause I, I, from your book, it sounds like there was a lot of dots to connect. And then, once they were connected, you were trying to figure out how to help Bruce, but you didn't really think about how to help yourself in that initial phase.

• 52:05Speaker 01

  No, I mean, I didn't realize that caregiving could be so bad for your health. I didn't know that. You know, a lot of us are thrust into this role without any previous knowledge or education about the disease that we are starting to care give for and what caregiving looks like and, and means. It was, you know, learning these statistics that caregivers die at a rate that is higher than people their own age who aren't caregiving. And that was, that was a wake up call for me. That I wouldn't allow this disease to take our whole family out, especially not me. So I really sort of realized it was a wake up call for me to learn that I needed to

• 52:46Speaker 01

  put my, my, my care first in order to care for the people I love. And I think that goes to just women today in general. You know, we, we put everyone at the top of our list. Our, you know, our kids, our parents, our business, our whatever it is. But we just need to learn how to sustain this journey that we're on.

• 53:14Mindy Pelz?

  I, I wanna, I wanna say something about that one thing because this is what I really wanna change for women is this badge of honor we wear when we put everybody's needs ahead of our own. Like, we think it's really something that's to be proud of. And I love the way you said that because that's partly what's damaging the brain is that we've outsourced our worthiness to all the people around us.

• 53:41Speaker 02

  Yeah, and get yourself that friend, you know, that I think is so important as women, we need to like reach out to our friends and just be like, hey, you know, like, you're going a little hard. Are you okay? Like, can I, can I help you? Like stranger danger, you know, take a minute and let's make sure you're taking care of yourself. And Emma and I do that for ourselves, like each other frequently, like, hey, you're going a little hard right now. Um, are you okay? And what can we do? And so I think talking about it's so important. And also, you know, I think that we really need to, I mean, again, make time. And it's okay if we want to be like the superhero and do all these things.

• 54:25Speaker 02

  And if that's your ambition, great, but also making sure that we're recharging our batteries. And, um, and being good friends and that there's a sisterhood, I think is super important.

• 54:36Speaker 01

  Yeah, calling each other out is important. Sometimes we need to be put in check.

• 54:40Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, yes. I, I, when my kids were little, I was so overwhelmed one day that I put myself into a timeout. And I, I, I closed my bedroom door and they're like, what are you doing? I'm like, I'm going into timeout now. And I thought, oh, that's a good parenting strategy.

• 54:55Speaker 01

  Great one, actually. I love, yes, I love that.

• 54:58Speaker 02

  I still do that. I'm like, I just need to go spend some time in my closet, not to really like do anything, but just to like go somewhere. And like, just take a minute.

• 55:07Speaker 01

  Be compressed.

• 55:08Mindy Pelz?

  You know, recently, my, my dad had this really extreme spinal surgery, which took over about a month of my life. Um, like literally everything just got put on hold. And I had several moments where I had to say to myself, am I going to tend to my dad right now? Or am I going to go work out? And that provided a lot of guilt.

• 55:31Mindy Pelz?

  It was like, I really want to go work out. But what happens, like it was a couple of days, like what he was still wearing off from all the anesthesia. What happens if he wakes up and we're not there? Like you start feeling like, no, no, no, I need to be there for him. Because he's going to be confused when he wakes up. So how do you, how do you handle those moments? I'm sure you've had a thousand of them, Emma.

• 55:53Speaker 01

  I think as caregivers, that is what we, we are riddled with guilt all the time. Um, but you know, it just gets in, it just gets in the way of caring for ourselves and caring for our, our person. You know, it like, you have to sort of again, make a choice of like, yes, of course, he might be confused, he might need you there, but your sanity, your health. You're, you know, you're going to feel a lot more energized and um, you know, have that sort of pick me up by, you know, doing that exercise that you, that you need to do. So yes, um, we are, we are riddled with guilt as caregivers. But I just think that we have to put that aside because it's just not helpful.

• 56:37Speaker 01

  It ends up just not being helpful.

• 56:39Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. And do you have like, when you look at your day? Do you have like parts of your day that are like for you? And parts of your day are for the caregiving? And your caregiving, your children, let's just not forget the demands of a mother. Um, but also your husband is, have you segmented it like that at all?

• 56:58Speaker 01

  Yeah, I don't think there's a perfect day. You know, I think it just depends and you know, it's not just Bruce, you know, I have an aging mother as well. Um, you know, there's so many things that, you know, we are all juggling um, simultaneously. And it doesn't really sort of work perfectly, as I wish it would in my brain. Um, but, but no, I, I, what I do make sure, and I do check in with myself to make sure that I've given myself a brain break. If it's 10 minutes, if it's, you know, making sure that I do, you know, I, I always schedule my workouts. It's a, it's a Monday, Wednesday, Friday for sure. It is in my calendar. There are certain things that I have in my calendar that are just are non-negotiable um, for myself.

• 57:40Speaker 01

  That I need to sort of help me um, re sort of calibrate and energize myself. Um, so it's just understanding and going back to the idea and the importance of caring for ourselves. And how important that is.

• 57:58Mindy Pelz?

  What do you do on a brain break? For me, that's not like looking at social media. Like, I just want to make sure we're clear that there's probably good brain breaks and bad ones.

• 58:07Speaker 01

  I mean, I'll have Helen tell hers, but you know, for me, it's like, you know, walking out of the house. I can get stuck behind my desk in front of that computer screen, just, you know, email, Zoom, whatever. And there just comes a point where I just like, I'm like, I gotta get up. I gotta move my body. And a brain break is like 10 minutes outside in my garden, 10 minutes for just a walk around the block. Just to sort of clear, clear the space.

• 58:33Speaker 02

  Yeah. And honestly, for me, I think it can be so easy as just, I mean, I have to step away from the desk. I'm that person, you know, I mean, I'm locked to my desk too much. So it's, I love to take a brain break and go around and socialize. Like if I'm in an office setting, go talk to people, see how they're doing, ask how their weekend was, you know, like take that time to actually talk to people and not have it be about, you know, whatever project. And then when I'm at home, I love to just,

• 59:05Speaker 02

  clean my space. Like, you know, there's always something that you want to get to, that you don't have time to get to. Whether it's like moving a candle over here, or books over there, or like, you know, put it like, it could be anything, just to kind of like organize my environment or deal with something that's been bugging me. I think that's so important is just getting to things that you don't make time to do. So you could just not have them rent space in your head anymore.

• 59:29Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. You know, there's something called environmental psychology, where they are proving that if your environment is a mess, that it raises your cortisol levels. So.

• 59:42Speaker 02

  I have that. Do you have that?

• 59:45Speaker 01

  I need a clean space, or it's just too, it's too overwhelming for me.

• 59:49Speaker 02

  When we were all work from home, I mean, it was a disaster because I basically had to like clean my whole house before I can sit down. I mean, and I'm not that person either, like, you know, so, so I couldn't even sit down and start to think until my whole environment was better. I mean, I'm not, you know, like that was an interesting time. But here, like, I think, I think it makes you feel good when your surroundings feel good. And if that's something that makes you happy, do it.

• 1:00:16Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah. I, I have to laugh because I have a visual of you two in the office. And when you both take a brain break, Helen goes out and talks to everybody and Emma retreats and locks the door.

• 1:00:27Speaker 01

  I'm by myself going for my lonely little walk.

• 1:00:31Mindy Pelz?

  Exactly.

• 1:00:33Speaker 02

  And I, I take a walk without my phone. Like when I do like a lap, like I'll leave my home, my phone behind. And I also feel like I'm a total rebel, right? Because like, no one can get me. I've like forgotten about my calendar for a minute. Like if it's super important, like someone will come find me. And I just feel like such a rebel going around without my phone, not knowing what's going on. And it's a great, very freeing feeling.

• 1:00:59Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, I can totally see that. What, what about compassion fatigue? I, I've spent some time, um, because of being in clinical practice and seeing patients for so many years. And then when my parents started to become needing more of my attention, I just found I literally had compassion fatigue. And it's a real thing.

• 1:01:21Speaker 01

  Yes. So I had a therapist that taught me about this and it's called empathic distress, where you take on your person's illness, their suffering, you know, whatever it is that you are seeing in front of you. If you are a very compassionate human being, um, you will take, will take that on. And I had a tendency to do that. And what I have learned is that, or what I do now, especially when I'm going into caregiving spaces where everyone wants to share their story with me. I, I love being there, to be able to hear their stories, but it's so easy for me to then get into their head and their body and their space and then take all of that on. But I've had

• 1:02:06Speaker 01

  to learn how to protect myself. Um, and for me, it just kind of looks like this bubble that I put myself into where it's like, I can be present, I can be there and listen, but I have to be very conscious not to take on their feelings and emotions. Um, I, you know, and I also do that with. With my husband too, where I think, oh, he must be thinking this, or this must be going through his head.

• 1:02:30Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah.

• 1:02:30Speaker 01

  But I don't know, I actually don't know that to be true. So it's important for me to sort of protect my space so that I can look at what is happening externally from, you know, a clear, a clear mind, a clear headed mind. But yes, it is, it is, it is a real thing and it is important that we understand how to protect ourselves in those moments. So we don't take too much on.

• 1:02:59Mindy Pelz?

  I, one of the more challenging thoughts that I've had in caregiving my parents has been, because they're vibrant. Their health is, I mean, yet eighty-nine and eighty-six, they're like physically vibrant and they're very social. And I've had these moments where I'm like, we could be doing this for another ten years. Like, it's very possible this is the long game. Have you, I'm surely you've had those thoughts and how do you, how do you stop that thought process? Because it can be a little daunting.

• 1:03:33Speaker 01

  I definitely don't get too ahead of myself, you know, and again, it's important. I try to, you know, stay here, don't go there, because I don't know what tomorrow is going to bring. You know, especially when you are in the world of, you know, caring for someone with dementia. You have these moments where things are sort of, they plat, you know, they sort of level and, and then the next shoe drops. And then you have to sort of figure that out. So it's important for me to stay sort of more present, to not think too far in advance. And just to know that it is important to care for myself, you know, that, that to be able to sustain. You must care for yourself. And I say that all the time, but it's, you know, it's important for people to know.

• 1:04:18Speaker 01

  I want to give people permission to know it's okay to look after themselves.

• 1:04:23Mindy Pelz?

  Do you think dementia and Alzheimer's are all, let's just say, all forms of dementia, since we don't, you know, now I'm like, I'm rethinking how I put those two words together because it's sort of what we say in the menopause space. Do you think it's preventable?

• 1:04:39Speaker 01

  I think that, listen, I don't think that there is a silver bullet, but I think that there, you know, I think what we've seen with studies is that, you know, forty percent of cases can be preventable, you know, by implementing the pillars and caring for our brains. But like what Helen said, you know, dementia can, you know, start to seep in twenty, you know, to thirty years before we even get a diagnosis. So sometimes, unfortunately, it just might be in our cards, but the hope is, is that we can sort of, you know, keep it off, ward it off, until the hope is that, you know,

• 1:05:19Speaker 01

  science comes up with that pill, that treatment that's going to help us.

• 1:05:25Speaker 02

  I also think this is the, the big misconception, and we hear this all the time at Make Time, is like, oh, I'll get this for my mom. And I'm like, no, you need to get this for you. You know, we need to start, you know, teaching young women about their brain health and caring for their brains early. It's important. It's so important when girls are in college that they're getting the sleep, so their brains are detoxing, that we're building these healthy brain habits and waiting until you're, you know, sixty. I mean, it's never too late, but we need to start, like, really taking care of our most important asset immediately. And it's something that we need to teach our girls.

• 1:06:06Speaker 02

  And so, very important that we really make a brain part of our care routine right from the get-go. And it's as important as eating right, working out, like, taking care of your hygiene. It's just one of those things we need to really start talking about in society.

• 1:06:24Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, it's interesting. My daughter is 25 and I watch her mimic my behavior, which is very much, "I don't have time. I gotta do this." I said to my husband one day, I was like, "I feel like I'm in that song Cats in the Cradle." Like, "I don't have time, Mom." And then I realized, oh, she's just mimicking what I did. So I love what you're doing with your children, Emma. Like, I just think it's, we have to model it so that the next generation doesn't do it the way we did it.

• 1:06:54Speaker 01

  No, absolutely. I mean, it's important to model that. But my kids also see me not do it perfectly either. So I'm not gonna sit here and say, like, "I am doing everything perfectly." I'm not, but that's okay too, because you know what? If I'm gonna have some chocolate, I'm gonna enjoy it, okay?

• 1:07:09Mindy Pelz?

  Of course. Just make it really good. Make it really good quality ingredients.

• 1:07:12Speaker 01

  Yes. If I want that slice of pizza, I'm gonna have it. And it's okay, you know? It's okay for us to also enjoy life and not be so rigid. We really do need to give ourselves some grace in this.

• 1:07:25Mindy Pelz?

  Talk a little bit about Make Time. So what I'm hoping is that people listening to this podcast or watching it on YouTube will wanna tap into your resource. And I think connection to communities like what you've created is so powerful. So talk about how they can access it and what to find there.

• 1:07:43Speaker 01

  So you can get to us at maketimewellness.com. We're also, we also do a podcast. As you can see, I'm doing it from our podcast room today. Make Time Pod, where we talk to experts about what they think that we should be making time for. We're on Instagram at @maketimewellness.

• 1:08:02Speaker 02

  Yeah, I think our podcast is really great, because you know, our brand's called Make Time. So we do these little 15-minute vignettes where we bring experts on and we get right in it. Like, what are three actionable ways you can make time? To meditate, sleep, eat better, workout. And they're very short and sweet. And women really are able to walk away with these actionable things that they can do that are fairly easy. And so that's really important to us. Like, really making sure we're giving some really actionable ways that people can make change.

• 1:08:36Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, it's beautiful and I think resources are really important as somebody who puts out information. One of the things that I'm always challenged with is I don't want to give you information that you don't know how to apply because now you've just created anxiety for that human. So, and then community, we've been looking in our own world about how do we create more community because I think that is just where it's at. So, so I encourage everybody to go check out your resources and I just, I love what you all are up to. And I want to point out from one author to the other, I really loved how easy your book was to read. I, there are so many books I pick up and within two to three chapters,

• 1:09:21Mindy Pelz?

  I'm like, it was either poorly edited, maybe because I've written enough books that I can sense that, or the information, this is another thing that I think is important for women over 40 that I hear is they can't read books anymore because they can't hold on to that information. But like from the intro, I was sucked in. It was really well-written, so thank you.

• 1:09:43Speaker 01

  Oh, you're welcome. I mean, as your listeners will hear, I'm very simple when it comes to communicating, but that, but that's what works for me. And I think when it comes to talking to another caregiver, you know, we have so much already going on in our minds that I wanted to really keep things very simple, easy to digest. I also repeat things within the book multiple times because I think it's important for retention, right? I need things repeated to me multiple times to let it sort of sink in. And it's part of my story, but I've also brought in, you know, 25 experts and specialists who helped our family, you know, support our family. So I'm really bringing them in as

• 1:10:26Speaker 01

  well to be able to share their expert insight and wisdom with the next caregiver that will hopefully help them take care of themselves.

• 1:10:36Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, amazing. Is there anything we can do, because I have a very enthusiastic audience, is there anything we can do to support you two in this incredible mission? Is there any way for us to? Help make your passion easier.

• 1:10:50Speaker 02

  Share the one in five statistic. Women do not know that one in five women are at risk for Alzheimer's. And the more we start talking about it, the more women, if we get together, can really change the statistic. So I think it's really important that we talk about the one in five. And just come on over and join the Make Time movement. We'll be happy to have you.

• 1:11:12Mindy Pelz?

  Right. You know, I always say, when people ask me, well, why did you write this book? I always say, I write books to open a conversation up. And then I think it's our job to all step into it and take that information. And that's exactly what I see in your book, is just a conversation has been had. And then you're so beautiful that now you have Make Time to be able to let everybody step in over there. So, um, so I just thank you. And I'll let Emma go rest. And Helen, you can go find, you can go find somebody to talk to. But I really appreciate the conversation and just what you all are doing. I, I have this real deep sense in my heart that right now that women are really standing

• 1:11:55Mindy Pelz?

  up and making change for other women in the world. And it's just so beautiful to watch. And you two are a big part of that. So, thank you for everything you're doing.

• 1:12:05Speaker 01

  Yeah, thank you for having us on. And it's so important to support, to support the women out there.

• 1:12:10Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, agreed.

• 1:12:11Speaker 02

  Yeah, thank you, Mindy. And you're doing great work, too. We're such fans. So thank you so much for having us on.

• 1:12:16Mindy Pelz?

  Yeah, thank you. Thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. I love bringing thoughtful discussions about all things health to you. If you enjoyed it, we'd love to know about it. So please leave us a review, share it with your friends, and let me know what your biggest takeaway is.