The Identity Shift You Must Make

Today, I WANT YOU TO FOCUS ON YOU. Many people overlook it, but the truth is you can't figure out your place in the world until you figure out who you are. This 1:1 episode is all about your IDENTITY and how you can use a razor-sharp understanding of yourself to… 🔥 ACCOMPLISH the big-ticket goals in your life🔥 Enjoy healthier and more LOVING RELATIONSHIPS🔥 Consistently live in your peak FINANCIAL, PHYSICAL and MENTAL states Whether you want to hear it or not, if you’re not checking all these boxes, the only person responsible for that is YOU and your perception of who you are. IDENTITY is the most important foundational building block that affects every other part of your life. It’s what you believe is the TRUTH about yourself. When those truths serve you well, you’ll lead a great life. When they don’t, you’ve got work to do to change your thoughts about who you are and what you deserve by changing your INTERNAL THERMOSTAT. Listen closely as I explain how you can tap into that identity thermostat using FAITH, INTENTION, and ASSOCIATION. This episode is a wake-up call for you to LOOK IN THE MIRROR and decide who you are and that you’re worthy of the best that life has to offer. The only way to do that is to work on your IDENTITY. Because who you believe who you are is eventually the person you will become. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time, too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it. Waiting weeks on a big bank for capital? Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

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• 1:36Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed Mylett Show.

• 1:40Ed Mylett?

  Hi, it's Ed Mylett, and I'm going to give you a strategy today that's going to help you be more positive and contribute in the lives of other people. See, here's the thing. If you're feeling helpless, one of the anecdotes to feeling helpless is to get more helpful. And one of the ways you can be most helpful is to raise your own identity. Our identity is the core part of our lives. We're not going to outperform our identity. Our identity, best said, is it's the thoughts, concepts, and beliefs we hold to be the most true about ourselves. It's really the invisible force in all of our lives that holds us back or can accelerate our success, our bliss, our achievements to whole new levels. If you look at identity, if you think about it, it's almost like it's a life thermostat. See in this room right now, there's a thermostat sitting on that wall right now.

• 2:22Ed Mylett?

  And if it's set at 75 degrees, this room is going to be regulated to 75 degrees. No matter what the external conditions are, it could be 100 degrees outside. The external factors do not impact the internal thermostat in this room. It's 75 degrees. Consequently, also if it was 40 degrees outside, the heater will come on. It'll heat this room to 75 degrees. That's how your identity works. It's the internal thermostat of your life. And that's why very often, let's say that, you know, relationships or financially, you're a 75 degreeer. And if you ever notice in your life is you start to heat life up a little bit, it starts to go pretty well. Maybe your relationship's blissful and loving and incredible. Or financially, you've increased your results. You're at 80, 85, 90, 100 degrees of success financially or in business.

• 3:06Ed Mylett?

  And then it just seems coincidental, but somehow, some way, the air conditioner kicks on in our lives. You know, a car breaks down, an event happens, we lose an account, something takes place. And all of a sudden, we look up and boom, life's back at 75 degrees of relationship, of money, of business. That wasn't by coincidence. It is the regulator of your life is your identity. And so if you, you can do all the right things, all the activities, all of the thinking, all of the execution part. But if you don't increase what you believe you're worth, if you don't increase that identity, that thermostat of your life, you will find a way to cool your life back down to what you believe you deserve. And so one of the keys for me in my life is not just getting better at the mindset of life and the execution of business or strategy,

• 3:49Ed Mylett?

  but raising that identity so that I'm at 85, 90, 100, 120 degrees, so that I believe I'm worthy of, as my execution and my thinking reaches the same level, that thermostat setting, that life setting will change. It's not the external conditions of our life that dictate the terms. It's that identity, it's that thermostat setting. So, we gotta get more helpful if we feel helpless. And the way we do that is by increasing our own identity, that thermostat setting. That sounds great, doesn't it? So how do you do that? Well, I call it the holy trilogy of shifting one's identity. And that is faith, intention, and association. That's the three things you must work on in order to increase your thermostat setting. Number one, faith.

• 4:31Ed Mylett?

  For me, it's the center part of my life is that I have a God who loves me, that believes in me, that wants to see me successful, wants to see me prosper, wants to have favor in my life, wants me to feel comfort and peace. And so I find oftentimes it's interesting, people of faith, sometimes they, they, they're, God's in their life Sunday at church when they're worshiping, or they're in Bible study, or when they're eating a meal, they'll pray over it. But somehow, when they walk into a business meeting, a speech, a boardroom, a client environment, they leave God at the door and they think they're on their own. So for me, if you're a person of faith and God is with you all the time, and He loves you all the time, and He comforts you all the time, that includes business. That includes every area of your life. It includes Him wanting to bless you with a great relationship,

• 5:14Ed Mylett?

  bless you financially, bless you to the best of your abilities in business, and then whatever the other. If you're an athlete watching this, bless you in that at bat, over that putt, catching that football, hitting that shot. And so number one source of shifting your thermostat setting is reconnecting again with your faith and allowing yourself to feel it inside all the other environments that exist. Then there's number two, there's your intentions. See, I don't think enough people give themselves credit for having great intention. There's a power to intention in our lives. And so what most of us think is, I'll feel better about myself, or I'll be more confident when, when I get that job, when I get that relationship, when I get this amount of money, when I get that house, when I hit that home run, when I'm hitting a certain average, right? And so you're always chasing your tail.

• 5:59Ed Mylett?

  If your identity and your confidence is contingent upon producing a result that has not yet existed, it's pretty difficult to catch it, isn't it, if you have to have it to get it in the first place? Instead of saying, maybe I ought to get credit and I ought to be worthy of more because I intend to do well. As a young man in business, I started to figure out, you know, I, I may not have all the answers. I may not be the smartest, the best looking, the most articulate. My IQ isn't 250, but I intend to serve. I intend to make a difference. I make mistakes, but overall, I'm a good person who wants to do good in the world, and I should be favored because of that. Not enough of you are giving yourself credit for your intentions. You want to shift your identity overnight, connect with your faith. You want to double shift it, connect with your intentions.

• 6:44Ed Mylett?

  So when I go into a business meeting, or I go into a lunch, or I'm going into any type of encounter, even in my golf life, when my sport I play, I remind myself that I've got a God who loves me, who wants me to win, who wants me to be blessed, who wants me to be favored, who wants me to feel peace. Number two, I intend to do good. I'm a decent human being. And you know what? Good things ought to happen to good people. And then third is association. You are who you hang around. See, if you're an 85-degree or 75-degree financially, but you start hanging around someone, say like myself, who lives at 100 to 40, 150 degrees of finances and wealth and abundance, you will get heated up by proximity to somewhere in between the two of us and a lot closer to where I am than where you are. Same thing in relationships. If you want to have a great, loving relationship in your life,

• 7:29Ed Mylett?

  but you're living at 75 degrees in your relationships, you start hanging around people who are in loving, beautiful relationships. Your thermostat setting will increase. Same within your faith life. If you want to start walking with more faith in your 75 degrees of faith, if you start hanging around people who walk their faith life at 100, 150 degrees, you'll be heated up through proximity. And so these are the three things we do in order to shift our lives. Our identity is the governor on our life. It is the most powerful force in the world. It's the invisible force that governs everything is that thermostat setting. And then if that's true, the way we shift it is always going to be our faith, our intentions, and our associations. And those associations are so huge. I know you've all heard, you're the product of who you hang around the most often, but look at the last 90 days of your life.

• 8:13Ed Mylett?

  Okay, and ask yourself this question. Other than, say, your spouse or children, who are the two or three, four people you've spent the most time with? Picture their faces and their lives right now. And then I want you to measure one thing. What's their emotional maturity like? See, what I find with all successful people is they have a degree of emotional maturity that other people are absent of. So I always measure, what's their emotional maturity? How do they handle success? How do they handle failure? How do they handle their lives? Then ask yourself this. These three or four people you've been around, can you immediately name two or three things that they have in their life in an area that matters to you? Let's say it's money. Let's just say it was money. That they have, that you don't have, that you wish you did have?

• 8:54Ed Mylett?

  Or in relationships, can you name two or three things in their relationships that they have that you wish you had, or in business, or in their physical body? And if you can't immediately go, "Yeah, they got two, three, four things, man, I would love to have that in my life," then I'm not so sure that that's the person you ought to spend the most time with. The reverse question is also, "Hey, can you name two or three things they have that you definitely don't want?" When you look at their financial life, if finances are important to you, or do they have two or three things going on in their life financially you definitely want no part of? Or in their relationship life, you know, if you want a better relationship, if you look at their relationship, there are two or three things like, "I wouldn't want that relationship. I don't like the way he or she treats them," or "they get treated," you can look at that. Or their physical body, you want to be in really great shape, you look at them,

• 9:37Ed Mylett?

  do they have two or three things about their health or wellness that you don't think are really great? Well, that's an immediate sign, maybe they're the wrong people. And so taking an evaluation of who your associations are, are they emotionally mature? Do they have the two or three things you would like to have in your life, they have in theirs, that you'd like to get heated up and get? Or do they have two or three things you want to avoid? These are signs that you should be away from them. So the way we get more helpful is we increase our identity, and we increase our identity by working on our faith, our intention, and our associations. If you do those three things, I believe you're going to live happier, you're going to help other people become happier, you're going to make a contribution in people's lives that's deeper and more meaningful than you've ever made before. And by the way, lastly, that's what you were put here to do. You were put here, you were

• 10:19Ed Mylett?

  born to do something great with your life, in small ways and big ways. You were made to do something awesome with your life. Maybe not all of it's going to get limelight or notoriety, but you were born to make a difference in the world. And the more you realize that, the more you step into your intention, the more you step into the person you're capable of becoming, the more you just decide, "I'm raising that thermostat setting. I'm no longer this other character I was playing." At any point, you and God are the authors of your life. You can grab the pen and start to write a new chapter and say, "I'm stepping into this new character." Their identity's higher, they're more faithful, they're focused on their intentions more often, they improve their associations, and they help people. Well, I hope I'm doing that for you, quite frankly. That's why I exist. And so, if you're not following me

• 11:04Ed Mylett?

  on Instagram, or my podcast on iTunes, or Spotify, or one of those platforms, or YouTube channel, subscribe to all of those, and follow me. Every day I create content that I hope improves your life, helps you max out your life. And today is one of those little snippets for just a few minutes that I hope helps you help more people. God bless you. Max out. This is the Ed Mylett Show.