288 The Starmaker: 7 Strategies to Empower People Around You to Shine with Chris Lee

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• 0:01Lewis Howes?

  This is episode number 288 with Chris Lee.

• 0:07Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week, we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:33Lewis Howes?

  Welcome everyone back to the show. Hope you guys are having a fantastic week, whichever day it is for you. And I'm so excited about this episode. I'm bringing back Chris Lee. He's a fan favorite. And I believe this is number eight that he's been on the show now, which is kind of crazy. The most interviewed person on this show. You guys keep asking for more from him, so we keep bringing him back. And this is all about how to empower the people around you and lift other people up. We talk about why it's important to empower and uplift the people around you and how it's actually going to help you in your life and to help you achieve your dreams when you make stars out of everyone else. Talk about how do you hold your team as powerful? The steps to that.

• 1:16Lewis Howes?

  And about the acknowledgement process and what if someone else feels uncomfortable receiving and giving acknowledgement? And also how to practice this entire process on a regular basis. Now, for those who don't know who Chris Lee is, if this is your first time here, he's a transformation coach, leadership coach, and emotional intelligence trainer. And he's been doing this work for well over 25 years. And hundreds of thousands of people around the world have gone through his trainings and helped take their life, their business, their relationships to the next level. So I hope you guys enjoy this one. It's going to be powerful. It's shorter than most of the ones we do. So without further ado, let's go ahead and dive in with the one, the only, Chris Lee.

• 1:59Lewis Howes?

  All right, welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness Podcast. We've got Chris Lee in the house, episode number seven, right?

• 2:06Chris Lee?

  Incredible.

• 2:07Lewis Howes?

  Seven times we've been on. Actually, this is actually technically eight, but we did a five-minute Friday, so this is the seventh full-length episode, and we'll have them all linked up on the show notes.

• 2:16Chris Lee?

  And my eighth participation.

• 2:18Lewis Howes?

  Eighth participation here.

• 2:20Chris Lee?

  I'm honored.

• 2:20Lewis Howes?

  Eight times. They were all here in the studio, right?

• 2:22Chris Lee?

  Right here.

• 2:23Lewis Howes?

  It's amazing. So, very exciting. Everyone keeps saying how you're their favorite guest, so we keep bringing you back. So, every time we come on, we have to top the previous time. So, we were debating what the topic was gonna be, and we came up with a good one. I think you guys are gonna all enjoy and appreciate, and we're calling this "The Star Maker."

• 2:44Chris Lee?

  Hmm.

• 2:45Lewis Howes?

  What's the subtitle?

• 2:46Chris Lee?

  "Seven Strategies to Empower People Around You to Shine."

• 2:50Lewis Howes?

  I love this. And for those that don't know who Chris is, he's a transformation and leadership coach. He's been doing this work for almost 30 years, now 28, 29 years, right?

• 2:59Chris Lee?

  I started when I was 10.

• 3:00Lewis Howes?

  So, exactly. He teaches workshops all over the world. He transforms individuals into leaders and helps them reach their full potential.

• 3:10Chris Lee?

  And I do it all over the United States, and Europe, and Asia, and also Latin America, which I'm very proud of. I work with the Latino community. I'm also on Univision Radio on a show called Maria Maring Live, where it's based out of Miami, but it's heard all over the country.

• 3:27Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 3:28Chris Lee?

  And, you know, for more information, you'll get it on this podcast.

• 3:31Lewis Howes?

  Yes, and you also got a book that's either coming out soon, or it's already out right now, and they can, we'll have it all linked up on the show notes on how you can get that, but it's on Amazon.

• 3:40Chris Lee?

  Yeah, it's "Transform Your Life: 10 Principles of Abundance and Prosperity."

• 3:46Lewis Howes?

  Which spawned from an episode that we did.

• 3:47Chris Lee?

  It came straight out of the podcast. The people's feedback was so incredible that I decided to create a book out of it.

• 3:55Lewis Howes?

  To create more exercises and content and passion.

• 3:57Chris Lee?

  Content, exercises, and I'm very excited.

• 4:00Lewis Howes?

  So, I'll have it all linked up. And where can they follow you on, where do you hang out most? On Twitter?

• 4:05Chris Lee?

  I'm on Instagram.

• 4:08Chris Lee?

  ChrisLee65 or Twitter ChrisMotivator or on my website for the book it's ChrisLeeMotivator.com

• 4:18Lewis Howes?

  We'll have it all linked up here at the end, but today we're talking about star makers and how to make others around you shine and empower others around you to shine I should say and let's start off first by saying why is it important that we think about because I think it's important to actually shine ourselves and actually become the best we can possibly be and not dim our light in any way

• 4:38Chris Lee?

  Ever

• 4:39Lewis Howes?

  Ever, but why is it just as equally important if not more important to do the same for everyone around you to lift them up and empower them so they shine just as bright and maybe not brighter than you can someday?

• 4:51Chris Lee?

  Well, I think it's the legacy that you leave, you know, when we think about our lives, our lives are brief in terms of space and time and we have moments that we get to take advantage of and every moment in my life is a gift and I know that this moment I have an opportunity to shine, at the same time, I think it's powerful for me to create people shining around us and you do that Lewis because that's why you do what you do and it's why what attracts us to each other is that we dedicate our lives to offering information and technology and offering tools that will have people shine and think

• 5:32Chris Lee?

  of the feedback that you've gotten during your book tour, I've been with you and people saying because of what you said or because of a guest on your podcast, my life has transformed. And so really what we're talking about is that, be a star maker and when I think about being a star maker, I think about my mission, my mission in life is truly to create superstars around me and that excites me and that gives me more energy to pursue my own dreams. So absolutely, I'm committed to accomplishing my vision and my dreams, but there's nothing more rewarding than empowering other people.

• 6:10Lewis Howes?

  I'll second that because you know, when I started this podcast, I remember thinking like, I don't want to just do my own show where it's just me talking all the time. Yes, I want to have a platform where I can share my voice and do that if I want to, but I want to create a platform where I can Bring others on who maybe don't have as big an audience and and put their message out to the to the world. And let my audience know about them and be impacted in a positive way by them and make it mutually beneficial. So, you know, that's one of the reasons why I wanted to create this, so I could have a platform to do that for other people as well. And it's, you know, without that intention of trying to get something in return, it's given me a ton in return.

• 6:47Chris Lee?

  Of course.

• 6:48Lewis Howes?

  By building others.

• 6:49Chris Lee?

  Absolutely, absolutely. And it's one of the key principles to abundance. I talk about this in the book, which is the law of giving. You know, when you are creating stars around you, you're giving to people, you're being a giver, you're inspiring, you're motivating.

• 7:03Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 7:03Chris Lee?

  You're evoking people's greatness. And as a business owner, those of you that own businesses that are listening to us, the most powerful bosses are the bosses that have their employees shine.

• 7:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 7:16Chris Lee?

  I don't know if you've ever been in a situation where your boss took credit for everything. And everything you did was his idea, even though you came up with it.

• 7:23Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 7:24Chris Lee?

  And then there's nothing that shrinks a company or that shrinks the morale of employees than a situation like that.

• 7:30Lewis Howes?

  And the greatest bosses and the greatest, I would say, coaches in the sports teams, when you hear the after the press conference, is when they take the blame for everything that goes wrong and gives the credit to everything that goes right to everyone else.

• 7:41Chris Lee?

  Absolutely.

• 7:42Lewis Howes?

  They don't take any credit when it's all, when everyone's like, oh, it was greatest coaching game of your life. They're like, no, my players did all the work. They put in the time, the energy, like I was just here to.

• 7:51Chris Lee?

  Or those coaches that when they win a championship and they're and they're like, well, I and then I and then I and it's all about I. There's no, you know, there's no I in team.

• 8:01Lewis Howes?

  Then the team is feeling disrespected or resentful.

• 8:04Chris Lee?

  Right.

• 8:05Lewis Howes?

  Like, hey, we're the ones busting their butts here, you know?

• 8:07Chris Lee?

  Or like you're in a family or you're in a relationship and your boyfriend doesn't acknowledge you for anything.

• 8:12Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 8:12Chris Lee?

  You know, or your girlfriend doesn't acknowledge you for anything. So I think that this this topic is a lot bigger than we actually thought.

• 8:18Lewis Howes?

  I love it. I love it.

• 8:19Chris Lee?

  You know, it's truly about being light and inspiring the people around you.

• 8:24Lewis Howes?

  I like that.

• 8:25Chris Lee?

  And.

• 8:25Lewis Howes?

  So we've come up with seven strategies.

• 8:27Chris Lee?

  Seven strategies. There's of course many and there'll be sub strategies. But the first strategy to be a star. Star maker is to get over yourself, to get over your own ego, to get over your own needs to look good, to be right, to be in control, to have attention for yourself. I think one of the reasons why business owners or bosses or boyfriends or girlfriends are afraid for their people to shine is they're afraid that A, they might lose credit and B, they might lose them. You know, like if my, if they get too big, they won't be like, you know, my friend gets too famous, he won't pay attention to me anymore. Or if my girlfriend becomes too successful, she'll dump me. Or if my employees become too smart,

• 9:12Chris Lee?

  my boss might take me out of my job.

• 9:15Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 9:15Chris Lee?

  So there's that insecurity. Or if there's a simple insecurity of, you know how some people just like, like to always look good.

• 9:23Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I mean, who doesn't like to always look good?

• 9:25Chris Lee?

  Yeah, but if it's hard to. Yeah, we all wanna look good.

• 9:28Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:28Chris Lee?

  But if it comes to a point where we think that anyone else looking good has us look bad, that's a problem.

• 9:37Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:37Chris Lee?

  And there's people whose egos are so big that they think that anyone else's light shining will diminish their own light.

• 9:45Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:46Chris Lee?

  And that's, it's, it's the complete opposite.

• 9:49Lewis Howes?

  Or they just might be so insecure, it may not be a big ego, maybe just insecurity, right?

• 9:53Chris Lee?

  Yeah, it could be fear, it could be insecurity.

• 9:55Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 9:55Chris Lee?

  So get over your own ego insecurities, uh, be able to acknowledge if you know that you've got a barrier or an insecurity that you need to work on and work on it.

• 10:05Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 10:05Chris Lee?

  But I want you to hear this, the key to success as a leader is to create stars around you. That is one of the biggest keys. Whether it's a relation, success in relationships, success on a team, success on a business, you get to be a star maker. And one of the first ways to create stars is to identify and get over your own ego. So it's not true that if the people around you shine, it makes you shine less, you actually shine brighter. So that's the first step, first key.

• 10:40Lewis Howes?

  I love it. Okay. Key two.

• 10:42Chris Lee?

  Second key is to see. Potential and possibility and the gifts and people around you. What you focus on in life expands. If I see who you authentically are and the work that I do as a trainer. I have people walking in in the biggest breakdown of their life. Because they're going through either a transition or a transformation. And I see a lot of ugliness because people's dark side comes out.

• 11:09Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 11:09Chris Lee?

  And as a trainer, I need to see beyond that. See the diamond in each person, see the masterpiece in each person.

• 11:18Lewis Howes?

  It's hard to do for a lot of people, right?

• 11:19Chris Lee?

  Of course, but you know, there's someone I admire and that that is Mother Teresa, rest in peace. Mother Teresa always had a philosophy of seeing godliness in each person. So she had it, of course, in a religious context. But how I see it is see the diamond, the masterpiece. Every human being is born as a gift. I've never seen a baby, a child that was not beautiful. All babies are beautiful, all children are beautiful. We were all born with that light. And over the years, darkness and guilt and pain, and we've talked about this on this podcast many times. How life's events have covered up that diamond.

• 12:05Chris Lee?

  And if you want to be a key star maker. You need to learn to see through all of the garbage and see past people's fears. And when you start seeing greatness in people, they start showing up great. Because I have a belief, and this is something we've talked about a lot, is people show up based on how I choose to see them, not as they are.

• 12:31Lewis Howes?

  So if you baby people and make sure that they're, you know, okay, and always finishing their sentences for them. Cause you don't think they're going to be able to speak their voice or whatever it may be. Then they're never going to be able to shine. But if you just allow them and give them the space and expect the greatness in them. Then you create that possibility for them.

• 12:49Chris Lee?

  Think about it. I mean, have you ever been with someone who thought you were stupid and they're like, yeah, uh huh, sure. And they were like cutting you off and, and oh, please, come on, you know what we're talking about. Well, you, your own being starts shrinking.

• 13:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 13:04Chris Lee?

  And then, I don't know if you've ever had a boss that, that just, you know, cut you at your knees, or a business partner that thought you were gonna make every move that was wrong, or have you ever been in a car with someone who thinks you can't drive, like, "Watch out!" You know, so it's like, it's, we create environments around us instead of holding people as powerful. Hold your team as superstars.

• 13:29Lewis Howes?

  How do you hold them powerful?

• 13:30Chris Lee?

  Have you ever, have you ever, I, I, sorry to cut you off real quick, but, how many sport movies have we seen where that team was the underdog, and it was because the coach was just really horrible with them? And there's that one maverick coach that came in and said, "Wait a minute, these guys are winners," and then they would win the championship, and it was based on a true story. It truly is how you hold people, people will show up.

• 13:56Lewis Howes?

  Right, yeah.

• 13:57Chris Lee?

  And, uh, you know, I think that it's a question of, you know, I think you're gonna ask me, "How do I do that?" It's a question of seeing the positive.

• 14:05Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 14:07Lewis Howes?

  What if you don't see any positive in someone because they're just constantly creating negative results, or they're just constantly messing up, or they're creating this evidence that confirms that you don't believe in them?

• 14:19Chris Lee?

  Well, you know what, then what you do is you focus on what's possible for him. Maybe you don't see it in him yet, but there's certainly a possibility.

• 14:30Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 14:31Chris Lee?

  And then address, which is, you know, one of the steps we'll get to, address what needs to be worked on.

• 14:37Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 14:37Chris Lee?

  So, step number two, once again, is see the possibilities and the gifts in others. Hold people as capable, hold people as powerful, hold people as intelligent, brilliant, and beautiful, and awesome, and they will show up that way. And I don't know about you, but I love being around people that hold me as capable.

• 14:58Lewis Howes?

  Of course, absolutely.

• 14:59Chris Lee?

  And it inspires me. It builds up my self-worth, it builds up my self-confidence, and we all need that, you know, I was, you know... Even Madonna needs that. I was seeing an interview where she was saying that she was in an environment of people that were negative and that she couldn't, it was hard for her to sing because she was seen in a negative way and how being around people that love her inspires her. Yeah. And so it doesn't matter who you are in this world, we all need positive reinforcement. Sure, perfect. Okay, number three. Number three, acknowledge the strengths that people have. Like, let them know. Give feedback. Be verbal about it. Yeah.

• 15:38Chris Lee?

  Appreciate, acknowledge, highlight. Highlight what people are doing right. Remind people of what is right about them. I have a saying that I always say, there's so much right about you. Hmm. Because as human beings, our tendency is to focus on what's wrong. We look at our hair, don't like it. We look at our body, don't like it. We look at our results and we're always conditioned to train ourselves what's wrong. You know, my ethnic background, my age, my financial status, my sexual preference, we're always in judgment of what's wrong.

• 16:19Chris Lee?

  And most of the time when we communicate to our employees, it's to correct them on something wrong. But how often we say, hey, I just want to let you know that I appreciate you. I want to thank you for being so amazing. You know, think about, you know, I've worked for so many companies, I've never, I've rarely have I had a boss that was in gratitude about what I was doing. Usually it was no comment until I messed up, then there was a comment about messing up. Right. And see, I think in a relationship, very rare to, except in the beginning. In the beginning, it's me too, me too, me too. In the beginning, it's you're great, so you, I love you, I love you. But you know, once the relationship is in that comfort zone,

• 17:01Chris Lee?

  very rare do people remind each other of what's positive and what's amazing about each other. And so acknowledge people's strengths, acknowledge your family member's strengths, acknowledge your employee's strengths, acknowledge each other's strengths, assets, what you love about each other, what you appreciate about each other. Sure. Gratitude will create stars around you. I love it. Number four.

• 17:27Lewis Howes?

  Before I actually go into that, what if someone feels uncomfortable giving, acknowledging someone? You know, a lot of times I feel like the reason they don't is because they feel uncomfortable. Or are there?

• 17:37Chris Lee?

  Go back to number one. Get over your ego.

• 17:39Lewis Howes?

  Okay, perfect. There you go.

• 17:40Chris Lee?

  Yeah. I mean, that's all about you.

• 17:42Lewis Howes?

  Perfect.

• 17:42Chris Lee?

  If you're gonna be a star maker and you're gonna be a leader, because leaders are star makers, you gotta get beyond whether it's comfortable or not. Usually, things that are worthwhile are out of our comfort zone.

• 17:52Lewis Howes?

  Right. Okay. Number four.

• 17:54Chris Lee?

  Number four, acknowledge people's weaknesses. You know, let them know what they need to work on, what they get to correct. But do it from a positive place.

• 18:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 18:03Chris Lee?

  From a, hey, you're so great, you're so amazing, and what I could see you could fine tune is. You know, let people know what, you know, because if you're truly creating a star, insanity is repeating the same thing over and over, expecting a different result. And so if someone's making a mistake, by you pretending it's not there, it doesn't make the mistake go away. So you get to acknowledge the mistake and in an empowering way, support them. And let them know what they need to develop, how they need to develop it. If you know how to, how to support them, find, if not, find someone who will.

• 18:39Lewis Howes?

  Perfect.

• 18:39Chris Lee?

  But it's important to acknowledge what's not working as well. And I think that.

• 18:43Lewis Howes?

  To make them a brighter star.

• 18:44Chris Lee?

  Yeah, make them a brighter star and to build a relationship in all relationships. Yes, I'm committed to you being a star. I focus on what's working in you. I let you know what that is, but I also let you know what I think you need to work on and what needs to be better. Or what you could do more efficiently. Maybe, maybe everything's working.

• 19:01Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 19:01Chris Lee?

  But there's something even that you could add to have it work even bigger.

• 19:04Lewis Howes?

  Mm-hmm.

• 19:05Chris Lee?

  And be a brighter star.

• 19:07Lewis Howes?

  Right. There you go. Okay. That was number four.

• 19:10Chris Lee?

  That was number four. Acknowledge the weaknesses and the challenges. Number five, you want to develop your team. Develop the people around you with coaching, mentorship.

• 19:20Lewis Howes?

  Education.

• 19:21Chris Lee?

  I've heard education, training, seminars. There's a book called The School of Greatness. I recommend it.

• 19:28Lewis Howes?

  You're in it.

• 19:29Chris Lee?

  I'm in it a lot. Um, seminars, coaching, mentorship. I think that developing myself and my emotional intelligence and developing my team and developing the people around me is a very powerful way of creating starts. A lot of companies don't invest enough in education or training services for employees.

• 19:53Chris Lee?

  You know, like, one of the things is, I would hire a coach for the company. I would hire a coach for the employees. There is something that an outside influence could bring that those of you that are swimming in that same ocean won't see.

• 20:08Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 20:09Chris Lee?

  I've worked for thousands over the last 28 years, corporations, some of the most important corporations in the world, where they are experts at what they do. But there's nothing like me going in, fresh.

• 20:23Lewis Howes?

  Yep.

• 20:23Chris Lee?

  No, no attachment to anything, to be able to talk to the CEO, CFO, vice presidents, employees, and supervisor, etc., and give them honest feedback.

• 20:34Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 20:34Chris Lee?

  And developing team develops stars.

• 20:37Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 20:37Chris Lee?

  You know, it's not, it's not a one-shot deal. You gotta develop it. So, coaching and mentorship, I've heard you say, hire a coach, coaching is important. I've been your coach for a long time.

• 20:49Lewis Howes?

  Yep.

• 20:50Chris Lee?

  You're amazing. You're the best at what you do, and, you know, there's always something that I'm able to provide for you that you're not seeing, given my expertise.

• 20:59Lewis Howes?

  Sure, exactly.

• 20:59Chris Lee?

  And the same thing goes with my book. I've never had a book, so you're supporting me, coaching me.

• 21:05Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 21:05Chris Lee?

  In terms of how to position this. So, developing the team around you, mentorship, coaching, emotional intelligence, guys, that's one of the keys to developing stars. As you develop your employees' emotional intelligence, you're gonna create stars that are long-lasting stars.

• 21:26Lewis Howes?

  And I know everyone listening right now, they, a lot of them understand the importance of this because they've been listening to the podcast, educating themselves on a weekly basis, which is great, and they're sharing it with their team. I know moms that email me and say that they play this in the car with their kids listening, so they're developing stars in an early age from just sharing these, these episodes. So, the people listening definitely are on track with that, which is great to know.

• 21:50Chris Lee?

  Well, that's what's great about talking to your audience, because your audience is, already has a, a, an ear for it.

• 21:56Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 21:57Chris Lee?

  And they're already in the mindset of entrepreneurship and development, and they're always looking for growth.

• 22:04Lewis Howes?

  Yep.

• 22:05Chris Lee?

  And it's important that you get people around you on that. So, like, share this.

• 22:09Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 22:09Chris Lee?

  Share these episodes. Share all of the, what, what number is this? Do you know?

• 22:15Lewis Howes?

  Two eighty something.

• 22:16Chris Lee?

  That's incredible, Louis.

• 22:17Lewis Howes?

  Crazy.

• 22:17Chris Lee?

  Two hundred and eighty episodes.

• 22:19Lewis Howes?

  Crazy.

• 22:20Chris Lee?

  That's crazy. So that would be number five.

• 22:22Lewis Howes?

  Okay, number six.

• 22:23Chris Lee?

  Number six, pay it forward. Have your, it's not just about creating stars that are left with all the information. Have your stars create stars.

• 22:34Lewis Howes?

  How do we do that?

• 22:35Chris Lee?

  Teach them how to empower people around them. Lead by example. When they see your example and they see that you're acknowledging of them and that you're empowering of them, that you're supporting them, that you're developing them, that you're giving them feedback, that you're, you know, speaking about them and that they're speaking about you in a positive way. When they see your example, then they're going to want to develop stars as well. And let them know that this is about paying it forward. A star that creates a star that creates a star that creates a star. Then we got an empowerment network. Then we got people that are focused on making an impact. And the more that we give and the more that we contribute to the people around us, the bigger we become.

• 23:20Chris Lee?

  So it's critical to pay this forward and to not only give all your information to the people that you're encouraging. In my seminars, for example, I'll have ninety-five to two hundred and fifty people. And yes, I'm committed to them and developing them and inspiring them. And I give them the tools, but one of the key tools that I give them is to say, now, share this with other people. You know, one thing is for me to share the podcasts that touched my life from the Lewis Howes podcast with you. Another thing is for me to tell you or empower you to share it with everyone you know and have them share it with everyone they know. And that's how we create stars around us.

• 24:00Lewis Howes?

  I love it.

• 24:00Chris Lee?

  So pay it forward.

• 24:02Lewis Howes?

  Pay it forward. That's number six.

• 24:03Chris Lee?

  Number six. And number seven is practice. You know, with practice and rigor and discipline and being, being a...

• 24:12Chris Lee?

  Consistent in this practice and one of the ways we could practice is by appreciating the people around us. So I'll start with you. What I appreciate about you is your humility, your vision, your heart, your never-ending relentless pursuit of making a difference. You use your life to empower people. And yes, you're accomplishing a lot for you. You're crushing it personally. You're making things happen. You're, you know, from the person I met over a year and a half ago to who you are today, it's incredible. The growth and the momentum that you've created in your life.

• 24:57Chris Lee?

  But what I love the most about you is you're still Lewis. And you're still that guy that was on the couch that was wondering, am I ever gonna get off this couch? And that you're now using everything you have to make a difference in the world. And I appreciate that. And I'm excited to see you shine as bright as possible. And when your book hit New York Times bestseller, all I do is cry of happiness.

• 25:23Lewis Howes?

  I appreciate it.

• 25:24Chris Lee?

  Cause you know, I was working with you every single week, supporting you and you know, and, and I'm just proud of you. Proud of everything you've done, who you are as a son, as a, you know, as a brother and, and as a boss in every area of your life.

• 25:39Lewis Howes?

  So I appreciate it.

• 25:40Chris Lee?

  I appreciate that about you.

• 25:41Lewis Howes?

  Thank you, and I gladly receive it. And I think that's also something that people should be aware of is to receive when people do practice this, when people do acknowledge, because most of the times I see a lot of people who can't look someone in the eyes when they're acknowledging them, or they're looking down, or they're saying no, or they're not accepting it. And I think it's just as equally powerful, you taught me this, is the power of receiving acknowledgement as well as giving, so.

• 26:07Chris Lee?

  And owning it.

• 26:08Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. And really owning it. Thank you, I appreciate that.

• 26:11Chris Lee?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 26:12Lewis Howes?

  So, thanks for the acknowledgement.

• 26:14Chris Lee?

  So practicing that, I recommend that people do that with their friends, with their family members, with the people that, that are in their lives, to just build the people up around them. And you're gonna create a completely joyful atmosphere.

• 26:27Lewis Howes?

  I love it. Okay, so this is the, let's do a recap, a quick recap. The Star Maker, Seven Strategies to Empower.

• 26:35Chris Lee?

  The people around you to shine and number one is to get over your own ego and your insecurities. Number two, see possibilities and gift in others. Three, acknowledge the strengths and assets that people have. Let them know what it is, appreciate them. Number four, acknowledge people's weaknesses and challenges. Number five, offer to coach and develop them. Mentorship, emotional intelligence, work with people to transform what they need to transform. Number six, pay it forward.

• 27:15Chris Lee?

  Encourage the people in your life, on your team, to have that mindset of star making. And number seven, practice it on a daily basis, rigor. And you know, do it yourself. I think it's important to let people know. And sometimes it's not only hard to receive it, it's a challenge to give it.

• 27:39Lewis Howes?

  Right, both.

• 27:40Chris Lee?

  Yeah.

• 27:40Lewis Howes?

  So what do you recommend in practicing this? On a daily basis, on a weekly basis, a monthly, whenever it comes up for you? What do you think is like a good? Because if I say every day, is it gonna be as meaningful? You know, every week, you know, what do you think?

• 27:54Chris Lee?

  Well, look, some of the ways we could practice it, it is one, one thing is with yourself. What you acknowledge and appreciate about yourself. Cause being a star maker, you get to create the star in you as well. So saying it is good. Uh, when you have an opportunity, when the moment comes and employee does something that inspires you. Or you see that the employee needs like a pat on the back. Or you're the girlfriend, you know, would love to hear something nice from you. Then take advantage of that.

• 28:24Lewis Howes?

  Gotcha.

• 28:25Chris Lee?

  Um, so when the moment comes, I don't, I don't necessarily say that every single day you gotta saturate people. I love you.

• 28:31Lewis Howes?

  Right, right. Cause then it may not be authentic.

• 28:33Chris Lee?

  Then it's not real.

• 28:34Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 28:34Chris Lee?

  Um, another thing is writing it. You know.

• 28:38Lewis Howes?

  Handwriting.

• 28:39Chris Lee?

  Yeah, when's the last time you wrote someone a note appreciating them?

• 28:42Lewis Howes?

  Couple of days ago for me, cause I'm writing everyone who's helped me with my book launch, but usually not that often.

• 28:47Chris Lee?

  Where's mine?

• 28:48Lewis Howes?

  It's still being written.

• 28:49Chris Lee?

  I'm kidding, I'm kidding. Um, but um, yeah, writing a note, uh.

• 28:56Chris Lee?

  A gift.

• 28:57Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:57Chris Lee?

  You know, giving someone a gift just because today is Tuesday.

• 29:01Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 29:01Chris Lee?

  And I want to give you a gift. You know, why wait for a birthday? Why wait for a holiday? You know, send your, give your, give your boss a gift. You'll blow them away.

• 29:10Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 29:11Chris Lee?

  You know, or get, or as a boss, give a bonus to, to your employees.

• 29:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 29:15Chris Lee?

  Or give them, you know, a certificate for dinner. Just small little, little details, little gestures.

• 29:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 29:22Chris Lee?

  Is a way to practice it.

• 29:23Lewis Howes?

  I love it. Chris, you are always amazing and you always add so much value to the podcast. I want to ask, uh, I don't know if I've asked you this question because I've had you on so much that I don't know if I asked this one, but I've been asking a lot of people. Did I ask you the three truths question yet?

• 29:38Chris Lee?

  No.

• 29:38Lewis Howes?

  So we'll do it now because I usually skip these questions because you've just been on so many times. So, uh, you've been on this the eighth time now, right? Is this the eighth time when we say?

• 29:46Chris Lee?

  Yeah.

• 29:47Lewis Howes?

  Eight time. You've got your book out. You've done these workshops for almost 30 years now. And, you know, your message is out there to the world. Let's say this is, uh, you know, many years down the line, it's your last day and your book's been erased. All these podcasts have been deleted somehow. Everything you've put out there content wise is gone and you're at your bedside and everyone there that you care about is there with you. And they say, everything's been erased that you've ever said, but we have a piece of paper and a pen and we want you to write down three truths. Of all the things that you've learned from all the people you've met, the experiences, you've probably seen more and heard more things than lifetimes of people have seen and heard from your experiences and workshops.

• 30:27Lewis Howes?

  What would you say are the three truths that you know to be true about how to live an amazing life? That you would write down on a piece of paper? And this will be like essentially your Bible for everyone to see.

• 30:39Chris Lee?

  Number one, I matter. Number two, forgive. Number three, generosity.

• 30:49Lewis Howes?

  There you go. Why, why those three are the most important things to you? Why do you think those are your?

• 30:54Chris Lee?

  Because I matter is something that, that we struggle with. It doesn't matter who you are. It doesn't matter where you are in life. I've had the most successful people on the planet and people that are the humblest people on the planet. And we just, as human beings, our existence is always a question and whether we matter or not.

• 31:13Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 31:14Chris Lee?

  And then forgiveness, uh, has us be free.

• 31:18Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 31:19Chris Lee?

  When I forgive, I'm free and I stand for people mattering and being free.

• 31:25Chris Lee?

  And generosity, back to the point of this podcast. The more I give, the bigger my life becomes, and the more I contribute, the bigger like the legacy I live that I leave is bigger. So, the more I give and the more I contribute, the bigger legacy I leave behind because I take nothing with me.

• 31:46Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, those are beautiful. Chris, I want to acknowledge you for coming on, eighth time for consistently stepping up the game and serving in a powerful way for my audience. My audience trusts you so much and I trust all your wisdom. So, thank you and acknowledge you for how much you matter to me and to this community. I appreciate it. And your book is out, make sure everyone goes and gets it. We'll have it linked up here in a little bit. I'll tell you where to go in a second. This is awesome, The Star Maker. You are a star maker. I appreciate you. Thanks for coming on.

• 32:16Chris Lee?

  Thank you.

• 32:17Lewis Howes?

  Appreciate it.

• 32:17Chris Lee?

  Thank you to all you listeners. Love y'all.

• 32:22Lewis Howes?

  There you have it, guys. I hope you enjoyed this episode with Chris. Make sure to go check out the show notes at lewishouse.com/288. And you can learn about all the stuff we talked about from today's episode. Also, if you enjoyed this, you can go check out some of the previous episodes that Chris has done. They're all linked up over at lewishouse.com/288. Make sure to share this out with your friends. Let them know about this. Post this on Facebook and Twitter and LinkedIn and everywhere else online. Or just shoot an email to a friend and let them know that you enjoyed this specific episode. We've got some big guests coming up and also some big announcements. That's right, I'm going to be doing a couple of major things this year and I want to make sure you guys get involved with it.

• 33:05Lewis Howes?

  So, stay tuned for these announcements and these incredible guests coming very soon. You guys know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.