The 5 Types of Overthinking and How to Turn Each One Off | Emiliya Zhivotovskaya [Best of]

The voice telling you that you're not enough, that something is about to go wrong, that you should have done it differently, it sounds like you. That's exactly what makes it so hard to catch and so hard to stop. Emiliya Zhivotovskaya has spent decades inside the science and practice of mental wellbeing, training thousands of coaches worldwide through her Certification in Applied Positive Psychology program. Her own path into this work began with a personal reckoning. An eating disorder that started in adolescence, years of thoughts she couldn't separate from herself, and the moment someone first told her she didn't have to be a passive recipient of what her mind was doing to her. In this conversation, we go deep into the phenomenon most of us call overthinking and find out it's not one thing. It's five distinct types of chatter, each with its own voice, its own purpose, and its own specific antidote. What you'll explore: The five types of mind chatter: worry, motivation, mindset, judgment, and regret. And how to tell which one is running you at any given momentWhy high-level worriers actually problem-solve less effectively, and what to do with anxiety that won't respond to "just let it go"The "I can't... yet" reframe that shifts a fixed mindset in a single word, and why it works where positive affirmations don'tHow to take your brain to court, the evidence-based tool for the thoughts that insist you're not enoughWhy your chatter isn't trying to destroy you, and what it's actually asking for If you've ever found yourself exhausted not by what's happening, but by what your mind keeps doing with it, this is the conversation for it. You can find Emiliya at: Website https://theflourishingcenter.com/ | Instagram https://www.instagram.com/theflourishingcenter/ | Mind Over Chatter Course https://theflourishingcenter.com/goodlife | Episode Transcript https://www.goodlifeproject.com/podcast/metacognition-rumination-self-talk-emiliya-zhivotovskaya Next week, we're sharing our conversation with Erin Weed, talking about her book Just One Word, and the surprisingly simple method she's used to help over a thousand people unlock their purpose and finally feel clear on who they are and where they're headed. If you've ever felt like you're searching for that through-line in your life, this conversation is for you. Check out our offerings & partners: Join My New Writing Project: Awake at the Wheel https://jonathanfields.substack.com/aboutVisit Our Sponsor Page For Great Resources & Discount Codes https://www.goodlifeproject.com/sponsors/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy https://acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 0:00Jonathan Fields?

  So have you ever had a thought, especially a negative one, that just kind of tortures you, you know, one that keeps spinning in your head and you keep trying to just stop thinking about it, you try and reason your way out of it or distract yourself and nothing really works. You're just kind of trapped in a spin cycle of overthinking. It happens to nearly everyone and it has nothing to do with how smart or accomplished or confident you are, there's something else going on. According to my guest today, the founder of the Flourishing Center and a dear friend, Amelia Zhivotovskaya, the reason you can't stop a thought by just telling yourself to stop is that the thought is actually trying to get your attention because it has a job

• 0:41Jonathan Fields?

  and it will keep trying to do that job until you actually respond to it in the right way. And most of us, we've never been taught how. What I didn't know going into this conversation is that overthinking, it isn't actually just one thing. It's five distinct types of chatter, each with a different source, a different voice pattern, and a different specific response that actually quiets it. Using the wrong response on the wrong type of chatter is kind of like trying to fix a leaky pipe with a hammer. The tools really do matter. And Amelia has spent decades inside the science and practice of mental wellbeing, training thousands of coaches worldwide through her certification in applied positive psychology.

• 1:25Jonathan Fields?

  And she came to this work through really her own years of being consumed by thoughts that she really didn't know that she could change. She did change them and has since taught so many others how to do it. So excited to share this conversation with you. I'm Jonathan Fields and this is Good Life Project.

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• 3:19Jonathan Fields?

  The overarching theme for this conversation is this thing that we kind of generally call overthinking. But I know overthinking is a word that a lot of us just use every day to describe what's happening when we're experiencing it. But there's actually a lot of science underneath this. There's a lot of structure underneath it. There are different names when you get into actually what's happening. And there are different strategies that we can embrace to help really deal with this and maybe even turn that thing that causes so much suffering in us into a bit of a superpower. So we're going to dive into this. And I have a dear friend, longtime collaborator, to dive into this with.

• 4:02Jonathan Fields?

  So Amelia, you have been living in this world where, you know, like when we first met a million years ago, you were actually in school during your master's in applied positive psychology at UPenn. Spent a chunk of years coaching and consulting. And for many years now, have literally been training the next generation of people to go out there and really help others in the world, in industry, individually.

• 4:27Jonathan Fields?

  How often does this phenomenon that we're talking about come up in the work that you've done, in the client work that you've done in the past, and what you hear coming back to you from the people who you have trained to go and help so many people?

• 4:39Speaker 07

  Thank you, Jonathan. I can literally say in just about every single session, some aspect of learning to control your thoughts, redirect the stories that you're telling yourself, or have mastery over your mind, can apply to just about every conversation. There isn't a trigger that we work through that doesn't have some aspect of what's going through your mind in the heat of the moment. There isn't a project that you're trying to build, or an idea that you want to build to fruition, that you're not going to encounter your brain's stories that it creates around it. And as stress levels go up, a lot of the stress that people feel, so whether we're trying to navigate our day-to-day stressors

• 5:23Speaker 07

  and trying to fall asleep at night, and then not being able to because your mind is just going, going, going, going. Especially in our world that is constantly changing, and there are so many things that people are making decisions about, and there's a space to constantly be overthinking your decisions. I decided to do this. I launched this. I posted this. Should I have done that? Was I too much? Was I not enough? The constant ways in which chatter and your mind is impacting your feelings, impacting the things that you do, is just, it's always present. But it's such a present thing that very rarely do people realize that the source of their suffering, the source of their overwhelm, the source of their stress has to do with the stories that they're telling themselves,

• 6:06Speaker 07

  or what's going on in their mind. And then because the sound of your own mind chatter, or your thoughts, sounds like your own voice, it's very hard to separate apart what's chatter, and what's things that I can actually reframe and redirect. And so it leads to this swimming in this stew of, just like asking a fish, what is water? It doesn't even occur to us that the cause of our stress or our overwhelm has to do with the way that we're thinking. The things that we're telling ourselves about the situation. So I think it's ever present and it's also rarely taught or trained or that we're rarely ever taught or trained.

• 6:48Speaker 07

  How do we actually redirect our thoughts, take control of our chatter and not just make the chatter stop? Because there's a reason your mind is telling you these things. It's trying to get your attention, but we're often just passive recipients of what our thoughts are giving to us. And it doesn't even occur to us that we can do something about it or that we should do something about it. And so one way of thinking about it is that the thing that we're talking about this chatter, this this overthinking, this rumination that we get ourselves into, it's almost like an alarm that goes off in the house. It's an alarm that's going off in your brain. And it's supposed to, all emotions and all mind chatter are meant to try to get your attention to pay attention to something.

• 7:31Speaker 07

  But what happens is, is we're not taught how to turn that chatter off. And so the alarm just sort of is going in the background all the time. There's this, this constant, you know, worry or this constant rumination or this constant thing. And we just sort of drown it out a little bit, but it's, it's there. And so I think the nature of our world has actually hit, taken all of these buttons that we're evolutionarily wired for, that are natural, healthy responses. It kicks them into overdrive and then we are not trained with the skills of, you know, oh, just quiet your mind or just, just think about something else or just calm yourself down. And we're not actually trained in any of those things. We hear, we say these words all the time, like, go relax, you know?

• 8:16Speaker 07

  That's easier said than done when you are in a hyperdrive and a tendency to just be going, going, going.

• 8:23Jonathan Fields?

  Gets back to what you were saying earlier in that like, there is information in whatever it is. The problem is that we hit spin on this and there's a cycle that just spins and spins and spins. And then so often what became the early signal that had some important information for us? We not only spin it and just can't let it go, but then we start to layer different stories on top of it. That may be doom and gloom stories or things or what, all these what ifs. And not what ifs in terms of amazing possibilities, but what ifs often in terms of worst case scenarios. And then it just kind of paralyzes us when we think about this phenomenon. And you've used a couple of different words for it.

• 9:05Jonathan Fields?

  Like I shared overthinking, you said chatter, rumination. Do we know what's actually happening on a brain level, on a neurophysiological level, that gets us stuck in this? Or is it really more a behavioral thing?

• 9:24Speaker 07

  At a neurological level, thoughts are just firing signals throughout our brain. Our brain is firing signals for everything from keeping your heart beating, to keeping you salivating, to keeping you blinking, to keeping your organs moving and your body digesting. Our brain is signaling off these molecules and these firings so that we can be alive. And thinking is just not any different than that. So in some ways, thoughts are signals that are going off inside of our brain. And then our mind is making sense of these. It's creating a story. It's creating a story about who we are. And so the way to start to navigate this is to just understand also that we are not our thoughts.

• 10:08Speaker 07

  It's just a whole bunch of zaps, of neurons firing inside of our brain that are just innocent. They're not trying to keep you up at night. They're not trying to make you so stressed out that you can't give your presentation the next day. They're just doing their thing. And without them being regulated or without us focusing our attention, we're just going to be reactive as opposed to responsible for our thoughts.

• 10:36Jonathan Fields?

  That makes a lot of sense. So if so many of us experience this, and so often it has really negative effects, it affects our state of mind, our psychology, our physiology, our feelings, our behavior. It basically can bring so much suffering to us. Beyond the fact that it also consumes so much of our just cognitive and emotional bandwidth. It takes up so much time and space that we could be used doing amazing things, thinking amazing thoughts, building amazing relationships. Um, we just don't have that. I, I, I think so many of us have felt this, you know, like my, the, the spin cycle in my head is taking up so much of my time.

• 11:18Jonathan Fields?

  Like, I don't have as much left over to do the things that I wanna do, to feel the way that I wanna feel. And by the time that I do, I'm exhausted from the, the spin cycle of overthinking. And all I wanna do is sit on the couch and binge the latest, you know, like, episode of whatever it may be. So, you know, beyond the fact that, um, as you said, like, each one of these different things has a seed of something that has information that is important, that does matter to us. What is your sense of why so many people, what's the underlying why here? Why we tip into, oh, there's something that just came into my mind.

• 11:56Jonathan Fields?

  It's something I need to think about or consider, maybe make a decision about, like, what's the why behind why so many people then go from that place? And start to escalate it and circle it up and up and up and up and up until it becomes all consuming? Is there sort of a common, underlying mechanism that makes us do that? Or is it really just unique to the individual?

• 12:17Speaker 07

  I think the, the mechanism is just being human. And what I, what I hear you saying is, is, you know, what's happening that there's, there's a couple of different aspects of it. One is the snowball thinking, which we sometimes refer to as catastrophizing, where it's like, one thought leads to another, leads to another, leads to another, leads to another. And next thing you know, you've taken a molehill and you turn it into a mountain. And, and it becomes this big thing in your head to even just the idea of, well, how, what happens when I can't let it go? And a lot of it is because we think that we need the chatter in order to solve the problem. So sometimes if you just say to a person, just, just clear your mind, just let it go, let that story go.

• 13:01Speaker 07

  That without understanding that there's different types of chatter, it becomes a little bit more complex, but I'm just gonna keep it all together for a moment. So let's say you, uh, you took, took the time and you wrote an email to your colleague. And there was something that was happening that was upsetting you. They did something that just didn't feel so good. They spoke over you in a meeting and you needed to get something from them. So you write this email and you decided to be a little bit vulnerable and you were a little bit vulnerable and you hit send. And now the email is sent. You know, at some point, you're going to get a response on this email. May not be tonight. It's the end of the workday. It could be tomorrow. And now here you go. It's already sent. You can't undo it. You could probably try to remove it from the inbox,

• 13:45Speaker 07

  but then they'll see that you removed it and that the message was deleted. And then you start the whole chain of thoughts. Well, if I delete it and they could see that it was removed, then I have to send a follow-up email explaining why it was removed. And should I have said that? And da, da, da, da. And then your, your significant other comes and just goes, "Let it go, Jonathan. Let it go. You, you already sent it. You'll cross that bridge when you get there, however they react." But the brain just fixates on it. And so there's different types of chatter that we have. It's like, what happens when we think we've made a mistake, which is regret chatter? "I should have done this. I could have done that." What happens to the "what if" type of chatter? "Well, what if this happens? And what if that happens?" Or the chatter where you're trying to get yourself to motivate yourself to do something.

• 14:29Speaker 07

  "Okay, I need to do this. I have to do this." And why the brain fixates on it is often just habitual. And it's often just dopaminergic. It's just your brain is kicking off dopamine that's trying to motivate a behavior, to get you to do something different, because the brain isn't wired for an email that someone is going to read that you can't undo. The brain isn't wired for a picture that you posted on social media. The brain isn't wired for, "What are people going to think of this brand that I've just put together? They've known me of running a company under this brand, and suddenly I want to offer this new thing? And what are people going to think about me?" It's just trying to problem solve. And so, so often, the reason that people aren't doing something about it is,

• 15:13Speaker 07

  one, they don't realize what's happening, because it just sounds like their mind chatter. They don't think they have control over it. And there's this little tiny bit. Where we think we need the chatter. We think we need the worry in order to problem solve. And research shows that high level worriers don't problem solve in the same way that people who are able to get into a calm state and look at the problem. So we really need to treat this, both the chatter and the emotion as just signals within our body that are meant to get our attention. But then if we aren't controlling it, if we don't have the reins over our thoughts, then it's just like, you know, there's a lot of play with this metaphor of the rider and the elephant, you know, just the elephant is running amok.

• 15:57Speaker 07

  And here we are trying to control this massive thing. And we can call it the monkey mind. The monkey just goes running around all over the place in our mind. And so becoming a master of your mind, being able to actually redirect your thoughts and to work with your chatter is a level of personal mastery that we can all aspire to. We just haven't been taught. And so we just wind up in this doing as we've been doing. And there's so many reasons why when we are having the thought, even when they're doom and gloom thoughts, it's very known that the brain doesn't truly know the difference between what it imagines and what it sees. And if you want, I can even walk us through a little magic trick exercise right now where

• 16:41Speaker 07

  I can even prove this to you. But that Yeah. We'll do it. Okay, great. So can I ask you to close your eyes for a second, Jonathan? Because it's going to help with that. And those of you who listen to the Good Life Project podcast while driving, keep your eyes open, but do this with us. You just practice your visualization. Okay, so Jonathan, I'm going to invite you to take a deep breath into your body and a slow breath out. I just want to acknowledge your shoulders just dropped as you did that. That's because you're a well-trained breather and do this a lot. And I want you to imagine that you are standing in your kitchen. And look around your kitchen for me for a moment and just tell me some of the things that you see around your kitchen.

• 17:21Jonathan Fields?

  I see stove, water purifier, sink, table, plants, dishes, cabinets, refrigerator floor, windows, trees and greenery outside of the windows. When we keep going.

• 17:39Speaker 07

  That's a good start. Beautiful. So why don't you now imagine that you see on the surface of your counter, a cutting board and imagine a cutting board with a bright yellow, orange, bright yellow lemon on it and a cutting knife. So I'm going to invite you to walk on over and take the lemon and place it onto the cutting board and then use the knife to cut the lemon in half. And as you cut in half, maybe you notice a little bit of the zest or the little explosion of juice that comes out of it. And then lay it flat down and cut it one more time until you have a quarter of a lemon in your hand.

• 18:20Speaker 07

  And then imagine bringing that quarter of a lemon up to your nose and just take a gentle smell. Maybe you could even imagine yourself smelling that lemon zest. And then imagine opening your mouth and squeezing the lemon juice into your mouth. And notice what's happening inside your mouth right now. And those of you listening, notice what's happening. And then when you're ready, open your eyes. And what did you notice, Jonathan?

• 18:57Jonathan Fields?

  I noticed my tongue pulled back and I also noticed that my shoulders pulled up towards my ears, like in preparation.

• 19:04Speaker 07

  Your mouth looked like it moved a little. Did you?

• 19:07Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, like now my chin kind of pulled back a little bit.

• 19:09Speaker 07

  Did you notice any more saliva? Did you feel yourself salivating a little bit more?

• 19:14Jonathan Fields?

  Probably a touch, yeah.

• 19:15Speaker 07

  So those of you listening, I've done this with thousands and thousands of people. And most of the time, people will perch, perch their lips a little, pluck their lips and they will start to actually start salivating a bit more. And what you experienced there, Jonathan, was this physical response, right? There was no lemon. You're just imagining yourself squeezing a lemon into your mouth and your body braced for it. I've done this so many times that just as I start guiding people through the visualization, I say, take out the lemon, I start salivating and I'm like, have to like suck back my own spit so I don't spit all over the mic. So the reason for this is your body doesn't actually have a lemon in front of it. It's just imagining it.

• 19:58Speaker 07

  And in that imaginative process, it's preparing yourself for receiving something citrusy and something tart. And it starts releasing saliva with amylase in it so you can start to break down the sugar. It's getting ready. In fact, one of the best things we can do for our just good health and nutrition in terms of diet is actually take a moment to pause and appreciate your food because digestion starts in the brain. Most people think digestion starts when you put food into your mouth and you start to chew it. But actually it starts with your eyes. It starts by seeing the food. Another example of this is you can find yourself in a restaurant and you're like, yeah, yeah, I'm not hungry. And then a waiter or waitress comes by with the plate of food and all of a sudden you're just like, hungry, I am hungry. And you're like, how did that happen so quickly?

• 20:43Speaker 07

  You just saw food and that kicked up your digestive system that said, oh, we gotta get ready to digest. Now, the same thing happens with our brain. So when we start to imagine the worst case scenario about something or we just get into like, hey, what if this happened? So what if I put this program out there and what if nobody registers for it? Then in that moment, I'm imagining that actually happening. What would that look like if nobody registered for it? My brain is actually creating a mental simulation. Even if I can't visually see it, it already starts to imagine it. And then what if nobody registers for programs in this next season?

• 21:23Speaker 07

  And then what if I run through the savings that I have in my business of paying payroll and all my expenses? And then what if I need to take out a loan and I can't get one? And then what if I can't pay my bills? And what if I become late on my mortgage? What if, what if, what if? So the snowballs start to happen. And the key is that at any given step, so many things would need to happen. In order for step seven to happen, one, two, three, four, five, six, seven. We're so not there right now, but the brain almost imagines that it's possible because at each step, it created a simulation of it actually being plausible. So we can go from these things that have absolutely no basis in reality.

• 22:07Speaker 07

  They're not likely to actually happen. But because we're creating these stories and we're imagining it, it in some ways seems plausible. And so, and research can, has shown this with even things like having a person holds up an object and look at an object and they'll run a scan of the areas of the brain that light up when they're actually seeing the object. And then they would have them close their eyes and now recall the object or imagine seeing the object and they take a look at what areas of the brain are lighting up. And there can, there tends to be a 60 to 80% overlap in terms of the areas of the brain that light up. And athletes use this all the time. It's why they use mental simulation where they will rehearse themselves going through a routine,

• 22:52Speaker 07

  imagining themselves in the moment, going through the steps, step by step. So that when they are actually ready to do it, they just take action. So this is a natural, healthy part of our brain. But when it's going to these doom and gloom places, or it's telling ourselves these stories about ourselves, we're imagining these things, they start to feel as though they're real. And particularly about the ones that are related to worry. When your brain sees something or imagines something that it's like, what if this bad thing happens? Your body is going to be flooded with stress hormones that are wired to make you take action. They're supposed to propel you to, when you feel scared, run away, fight back or freeze. And oftentimes you, it's nothing to run from.

• 23:36Speaker 07

  There's no actual threat, but we're left with this elevated heart rate. We're left with this amygdala that's over firing or this cortisol that's being released in our body, making it a little harder to concentrate, making it a little harder to fall asleep. And then we find ourselves in this cycle, particularly if we then look at just how, like you said, these thoughts can become really depleting. Our thoughts can make things heavier, harder, weigh us down in ways that we usually don't even realize.

• 24:09Jonathan Fields?

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• 27:11Jonathan Fields?

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• 27:54Jonathan Fields?

  But there are these five different types. So I think it would be helpful to maybe walk through the five different types and just, um, so we can have a sense for what these are and how to distinguish them. And then maybe we'll talk about some of the tools that would be relevant for each. So maybe we'll go one at a time, just sort of defining and describing what each of these different types of, of overthinking chatter rumination are.

• 28:19Speaker 07

  Yeah, absolutely. And I should say that the way that this model got created is that we're looking at the five types of chatter that need changing. These are the five types of overthinking and ruminating, or the types of thoughts that people could have. That if you don't learn how to navigate these types, they're going to be more problematic. There are some types of thoughts that we have that are just factual thoughts, like I'm hungry. I have to pee. How much time is left in this podcast? What do I need to go do next? You don't need to train yourself because those types of thoughts, even if you're having them, at the very least, all they'll do is stop you from being mindful. Then there's sort of dreaming thoughts like, oh, where could we go for vacation this year?

• 29:04Speaker 07

  Or I've heard that Bali's, you know, beautiful this time of year. All of that type of chatter, it's just thoughts about the future. It's sort of innocent. In fact, it's great to daydream and get creative and think that. So that kind of thought, those kind of thoughts are fine. Again, the worst that they'll do is stop you from being in the present moment, just being really aware of what you have right now. Empty mind, blank mind. But the five types of chatter, these are chatter that we want to be able to learn to work with. Because they can lead to weighing you down, stressing you. Or some of them could put you, if you don't learn to challenge them, at risk for depression or at risk for anxiety. And if you look at what are the highest maladies that people struggle with nowadays?

• 29:49Speaker 07

  It's some aspect of generalized anxiety disorder or some aspect of depression or the two going together. And so we could actually help quite a lot of people navigate this, these two major ailments that they're experiencing by teaching them this chatter. So I call it the Mind Over Chatter approach, and we start with the idea of worry chatter. And let me actually just say all five really quick, so we know where we're going. Worry chatter, judgment chatter, regret chatter, mindset chatter, and motivation chatter. So worry chatter is anytime your mind

• 30:30Speaker 07

  Has thoughts about the future that have a flavor of protection or fear. So it could be worry chatter, it could be anxiety chatter. And what's great about this approach and actually training it as a system is if you can hear the beginning of what your mind is saying, or what you're ruminating or overthinking about, when you can catch that beginning part, you can know which chatter to apply to it, or which way of reframing it. So worry chatter is anything that starts with what if? It's anything going into the future. So what if I don't get this job? What if I make a fool of myself? What if they think that I don't have what it takes? What if they call me out on it? What if they don't listen to me?

• 31:14Speaker 07

  What if I do get it? So it's any time that we're having that thought of what if something bad is gonna happen? Or it's anything future oriented. It could also be like, I'm gonna mess this up. I'm going, I'm, I will, so it's, I'm going to, I will, I'll end up, I'll never. Any of these future oriented thoughts. And the key about mind over worry chatter is that we wanna first start by having compassion for our mind as to why it's doing this in the first place. The only reason you're worrying is because there is the thought of a potential threat, which is not very likely, and your brain is trying to protect you from it.

• 31:55Speaker 07

  So the way to work with worry chatter is always first to say, thank you, brain. I know you're trying to protect me. And work with the worry. And in order to work with the worry, we have different processes, but I'll give you some shortcuts to it. The first one that you can use is understanding that the things that you're worried about, we're not actually worried about. You're not worried that something will happen to your health. You're not worried that you will lose your home, or your job, or your freedom, or all these other things. We're worried that these things would happen, and that they would crush us. They would stop us from being able to move forward. You know, what if I make a mistake? You're not actually afraid of whatever that mistake is. You're afraid that you'll make this mistake, and you will not be able to recover from

• 32:40Speaker 07

  it. So teaching people to work with their worry, we work with the helping them understand that they have handled it. The talk back sentences to, well, what if this happens and what if that happens? The short key is that you say to yourself, I've handled it before and I'll handle it again. Or you catch yourself going to those worst case scenarios. And sometimes we take a process where we actually let the brain go worst case scenario. And you just go, okay. And then what happens? And then what happens? And then what happens? And actually get all those catastrophizing thoughts out. And then go to the unrealistically best case scenario. So what if the positive opposite happened? So it goes from, I'm looking for a job, haven't been able to find a job.

• 33:24Speaker 07

  I nail my ideal job right out the gate. And then you go down this unrealistically best case scenario so that you can get to what's most likely going to happen. Because in that place of worry, we're not able to problem solve. So it's really important to be able to peel them apart. And as you said earlier, Jonathan, you're like, why? Why don't we just do away with this? Why don't we just stop? Well, there's nothing like telling a high level worrier that they shouldn't worry. When you tell them that they shouldn't worry, they just worry more that you're not worried as much as they are. They worry for you that you're not worrying enough. And so they just dig their heels even more into their need for worry. And what, so rather than working with the worry, we want to understand that the worry was just there to get your attention.

• 34:09Speaker 07

  So that you could work with the chatter, so that you could problem solve. So that if these, God forbid, things can happen, that you have a plan. So, okay, thank you, brain, for telling me about these worst case scenario things that can happen. I believe I will handle them. So let me take a look at them. You know, what if this happens? Can I actually plan for this thing? No, I can't. There's only so much I can plan for something that might happen 10 years out into the future. Of what if something happens to me in retirement and I don't have enough money for retirement? What can I do about it today? Is how we work with worry chatter. And all those future thoughts can all be handled very much in the same way. So that you're able to reframe it, catch yourself going, what if this happens? What if that happens?

• 34:52Speaker 07

  And you can say, if it happens, I will handle it. Or you take the thought and you digest it. You write it down and you go, okay, can I actually do something about this in this moment? If so, great. What can I do to prevent it from happening? But it's like a banana with a banana peel. The banana is the thing you want to eat. The peel is the worry. And most people don't understand that they can separate the feeling of worry, the The heartbeat, the ruminating from the actual problem solving. So that problem solving is what you want to do. If you just stay in the worry and the ruminating about it, you're not going to be able to problem solve as effectively.

• 35:31Jonathan Fields?

  So, and that makes a lot of sense to me. One of the things that I'm curious about as you're describing this is,

• 35:38Jonathan Fields?

  does this get easier with repetition? Because what I'm thinking about, especially with the worry type of chatter, you know, scenario. You're looking at a new job opportunity. I don't know, will I be good at it? Will I get it? Will I not get it? What are they thinking? You get the job, right? The minute you accept the job, you show up the first day, and then the chatter just rolls into, what if I mess up? What if I lose the job? And then like you get to the next day, you get a really good project, you know, project, and then you're given something more complex. Ah, I'm not ready for this. Like if I screw this up, then there's even more riding on it. So it occurs to me, especially with the worry type, that there's probably no end to the cycle.

• 36:20Jonathan Fields?

  So what I'm wondering is, is are the interventions that you're talking about, they're very, it's fairly straightforward. Like you don't have to pay for them, that you can do them yourself. You can, um, is it the type of thing where the more we do these things, the more we sort of like build the muscle or the habit of noticing what our thought is? And then actually like, you know, like doing these simple interventions that you described, that it becomes more habitual that we, we default to these, these pattern interrupts? And that not only does it make it easier for us in the moment, but does it over time start to help us not go there in the first place?

• 37:00Speaker 07

  Yes, such a powerful question, Jonathan. It is more like whack-a-mo, where if you whack the thought and you get it, and then it's like, it's no longer worrying about this, and it's going to find the next thing to worry about. And then it's like you worry about not getting the job, but then you worry about the fact that now you have the job, and now you have to fulfill on the thing, and now the pressure comes. So the, and it does get easier if you can, over time, see the pattern and zoom. Out the lens and actually befriend the worry. We wanna, we wanna befriend this part of ourselves. We actually wanna love this part of ourselves. And this is where the best tool that we can actually implement is some aspect of self compassion. That we are not our thoughts. I am me having a thought. I can't be the thing that I'm observing.

• 37:46Speaker 07

  I'm the observer and I have, I, there's a part of me that's having a thought. So separating that out. And then when you see those patterns, we can understand that it is just this one thing. That's got this loyal job to do, which is to keep you safe and protect you. And so that when the habit, when the thing comes on and it does, you, you can just go, oh, how sweet. How sweet you are, dear part of myself that's trying to protect me. You know, you're done worrying about this and now you're, you're looking for the next thing. And literally is that when I work with clients all the time, they can literally feel that. Now their brain is looking for the next thing, cause everything is okay right now.

• 38:27Speaker 07

  Like, God, it's gotta be something to worry about. I'm worried that I'm not worrying about something. And when you can just see that it is a tendency that will always be present and we don't wanna lose it. Because you will at some point in your life, need the part of you that's going red alert, there is real danger. And so if we could just remove this part of you, you wouldn't want to. But we do need to start to befriend it, especially when it's that habitual. And being able to understand that it is just how, it is just manifesting from one worry into another. And it's that same tendency. And so rather than just even trying to whack a mole, we'll say, thank you. And you keep coming back to that same thing. Thank you, brain. You're trying to protect me.

• 39:09Speaker 07

  And then, once we do get good also at these talk, talk back sentences, I hear the, what if this happens? My go to is I'll cross that bridge when I get there. Or I'll handle it. And so it just, I hear my brain in repetition and the same thing for the other types of chatter. That's why I like it because they're quick little mnemonics. And over time, you're whack-a-moing faster and you get more time in the relapse where there is nothing to hold on to, where this familiar relationship you had with beating up on yourself, you can't just stop beating up on yourself because when you're trying to not do something, you end up just thinking about doing it more. So with the overthinking

• 39:52Speaker 07

  and the, the over ruminating and it's like you catch yourself like beating up on yourself, being so hard on yourself, you would give someone else grace that they messed up that speech. It's okay. They did the best they could, but you know, you had to be perfect. And so you're catching this and it's like, well, how do I, how do I stop this habit of beating up of myself or being so hard on myself? It's really hard to do, but the more you have compassion, little by little by little by little, you just, you stop doing it. And over time, that relationship that you had to it, taking form does shift and it becomes more habitual and you talk back to it faster. The voice becomes not as loud, it becomes not as strong. Doesn't mean it's not, it's ever going to go away because all

• 40:36Speaker 07

  of these things are just trying to protect you.

• 40:38Jonathan Fields?

  Right. No, that makes a lot of sense. So that's, that's one type. That's worry. Let, let's, let's walk through the other four.

• 40:45Speaker 07

  Great. So from worry chatter, we can go to motivation chatter. Motivation chatter, and I might've said this in a different order, but let's just don't go to motivation chatter. So motivation chatter is any time that your mind is weighing you down with, I have to do this. I need to do this. I should do this. And one would think that this is just perfectly innocent, just having the thought, I need to do this. I have to do this. But what it turns into is too much of that chatter makes you feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulder. You feel burdened by everything you have to do and you need to do. And one of our core needs as human beings is for agency and autonomy. So we don't realize that every single time we're thinking like,

• 41:30Speaker 07

  I need to pick my kids up from school and I have to make dinner and I need to call this person back and I have to do this. That if it's just like gee, I have to do this, it would be fine. But most people, when it's ruminating and their and their mind is just going. It's on a set cycle and I don't do enough and I should be doing more. So the reason we're do we're having that chatter, you should do this, you need to do this, you have to do this. Don't forget, you have to do this. Is because your brain is trying to motivate you to take action. But what often happens is it doesn't motivate you. It just makes you feel like you are overburdened or you do eventually do it. But when it's overthinking and ruminating about it, it's just on overkill.

• 42:12Speaker 07

  It's like I wrote down, I wrote this down on my to do list. I will get to it eventually. I don't need to think about it. It's a misuse of energy to keep letting my brain ruminate about it. And so there's a quick turnaround for this. The first is just to remove the burden and reclaim agency. You don't have to pick your children up from school. You want to pick your kids up from school because you don't want them stranded at school by themselves. You don't have to do the laundry. You choose to do the laundry because you would prefer to wear clean underwear. You don't have to return your email. You want to return your email. Because you'd like to get back to people that are waiting for you. You don't even have to pay your bills. Really, you don't have to pay bills.

• 42:57Speaker 07

  And I would imagine that you would like to keep your wifi in your heat and your house and all these other things. But but even that, it's like you don't actually have to, but without the control over the motivation chatter. It just starts to feel heavy and you just feel burdened by everything, by the world, by this world you've created, even when it's a really good things. Like I have all of these things that I want to do. They're all so good. But they're not actually motivating you to take action because there's just too many of them. So with that one, the quick one is you go from. I have to, I need to, or I should to I want to. Or I get to, or I choose to.

• 43:39Speaker 07

  Or you can take that choose to to I choose to blank because blank. I choose, I don't have to go to work. I choose to go to work because I like collecting a paycheck. I don't have to go to the gym. I want to go to the gym. But sometimes you don't want to go to the gym. And then you could just, you could just say, I want to want to go to the gym. But even I want to want is better than I have to. So this is one of the ways that in our mind, we don't even realize it. We, we zap ourselves of our power. We zap ourselves of our agency because of the way in which are we're overthinking these things. Where the only reason your brain is saying it in the first place is because it wants to motivate you to

• 44:23Speaker 07

  go to the gym because it's good for you, pick up your kids. So motivation chatter, catching it and then replacing it. I get to, you don't have to make dinner. You get to make dinner. Little shifts like that can take something from it feeling like a burden. And you can't turn your chatter off, can't turn your mind off, just, just going, going to feeling grateful for the thing that you get to do. And this you can not just introduce to yourself, but it's really helpful to introduce your family to this idea or your colleagues to this idea. My, my team says this to me all the time. I'll be on a meeting and they'll say, okay, I have to go teach class right now. And they'll say, do you have to or do you get to?

• 45:07Speaker 07

  And I'll be like, you're right. I get to go teach class right now because no, really I do. I'm so honored, right? Like, that's the thing when they say it, it's like, yeah, I do, I get to. I'm, I'm grateful that I get to. But so often we forget that, right? And so that's motivation chatter.

• 45:25Jonathan Fields?

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• 48:06Jonathan Fields?

  What I love about these interventions, too, is the interventions themselves are not heavy. It's like they're not adding burden or complexity. They're straightforward. They're simple. It's just a matter of getting into the practice of noticing and then using them on a regular basis. So we talked about motivation. We talked about worry. Let's walk through the other three.

• 48:27Speaker 07

  Yeah, so the next one that's good to know about is mindset chatter. And the reason I call this mindset chatter is it's intimately tied to the idea of fixed and growth mindset. And we know that research shows that people who hold more of a growth mindset are more successful, they're better able to... Handle stress, persist in the face of setbacks. Growth mindset is something that's really essential for resilience. And this is when you hear your brain thing, say things that start with, I can't, or I don't. I don't know how to do that. I can't do that. I don't have what it takes for that. And again, that might actually be accurate in that moment,

• 49:08Speaker 07

  but there's a deflated feeling when we just say, I can't, or I don't. And if it's just like, oh yeah, I know, I can't do that tomorrow. I'm not free at that time. That's fine. But what we're talking about is the one that actually ties into a mindset. Like, I don't have what it takes to do this. If we add the word yet to the end of it, like, I can't speak, I'm learning to speak Hebrew. I can't speak fluent Hebrew yet. I can't bake a cake from scratch yet. I don't know how to launch online marketing ads from scratch yet. I don't know how to drive a car yet.

• 49:52Speaker 07

  Any of these things that we, we can, by adding the word yet to it, it's just a simple one where we can start to catch mind chatter. It's always really good for kids, like, I can't do this. I can't do this math problem. To help them hold a growth mindset, we could say, you can't do it yet. And what that conveys is that change is possible. So just in the same way that autonomy and agency is really important for motivation for human basic needs, the belief that things can change, a sense of optimism for the future is also really important. So you want to be strategic around where you need this, but it's just, if you can catch where you start saying yourself, I don't do this well enough, or I can't do this.

• 50:36Speaker 07

  It's same to, I'm not that kind of person. I'm not someone who can do that. I'm not like that person. Those are the types of thoughts that have this underlying mindset that may be more of a fixed mindset around, I, I'm not smart enough, or I can't do those things. And so just adding that yet at the end of it is a simple mindset chatter hack that takes something that would otherwise be a period. I don't know how to do this, period. And it just makes it a comma. It just opens up the, keeps ourselves open to change is possible. Change is always happening. And that's an important way to deal with that type of chatter, to get it to stop, to get it to stop from it ruminating.

• 51:21Jonathan Fields?

  Yeah, I mean, that makes a lot of sense to me also because what you're talking about is acknowledging the reality of your current moment. You know, you're not deluding yourself to say, oh, yes, you can, when maybe you don't have the skill yet. Maybe you don't have the experience yet. Maybe you don't have the resources or whatever it may be. So rather than asking you to step into some sort of delusional mode and say like, yes, I can. But everything inside of you is screaming, but you know, you really can't. And, and the reality is that you can't. It allows you to acknowledge the fact that in this very moment, maybe you're not ready or you're not equipped or you don't have what is needed to do the thing. But that means that's just a snapshot. Like, that's not the movie. That's not the projection down the road.

• 52:04Jonathan Fields?

  It allows you to acknowledge the fact that, okay, so this is my reality in the current moment. And there's possibility on the other side of this. Like, then you get to ask the questions. Well, what skill would I need to acquire? What resources would I need? Like what? So that now you can put, put yourself into this mode of instead of ruminating, well, I can't, I can't, I can't, I can't. And then it goes to an identity level. I'm terrible, I'll never, you know, and now you're like, I can't. Okay, that's the reality yet. So what would I need to make happen so that I could actually make this thing happen? So it puts you into this possibility mode rather than this shutdown mode, which, and it acknowledges your reality rather than asking you to step into something that you know in your heart is not true.

• 52:48Jonathan Fields?

  And just try and repeat it enough times so that like you fake your way into making it, you know, a truth which you will always know is actually not true. And that creates that cognitive dissonance, which just you kind of know it's not right. Um, so I, I love that simplicity. Um, talk to me about the, the final two types and how.

• 53:07Speaker 07

  Yeah. And just to layer on to that, what you just said is you're in doing that and staying solution focused and actually generating ideas around what you do. You're actually using the chatter and the thoughts for what they're trying to get you to do. But without knowing how to, they're just on a loop. It's like they're on loop to try to get you to take them and do something with them, but you don't know how to take them down from the cloud and do something with them. So they just keep going. Whereas when you catch it, you start to become creative. Okay. Well, what can I do about it? It's opens up problem solving. And at the end of the day, that's what you want. You want that problem solving. So the next one you actually just mentioned, it then becomes an identity.

• 53:49Speaker 07

  And when it becomes an identity, that identity, whether it be positive or negative, becomes some aspect of a judgment. So the next type of chatter is judgment chatter. Whether the judgment is positive or negative, it can still be a judgment. And so what, what is that form? What form does that take? This is chatter that starts with, I'm so, I always, I'm a, she's a, he's a, he thinks, she thinks. It's any time that we are judging ourselves, judging others, or judging the situation. And that type of chatter, judgment chatter, requires us to take our brain to court.

• 54:34Speaker 07

  Because when it be, when we can take on a positive identity that serves us, like, I am hardworking, I figure things out. So in that case, that's great. You're hardworking. You don't need to challenge that, but I'm not good enough? Is the kind of thought where I am and then fill in the blank. Oh, let me catch that. Well, how do I handle that? How do I get myself to stop thinking that? You can just say, stop it, stop it. What's wrong with you? You shouldn't think that. Well, all that does is just makes you ignore it for a little bit, until you're trying to fall asleep at night and then pop, all the thoughts keep going again. But instead, we actually want to zap it. We actually want to transmute it. And that's what the talk. Backs do. And so we begin to say, okay, if my brain wants to judge myself,

• 55:18Speaker 07

  others or the situation, I need to say, where is the evidence? What does it mean to be not good enough? We literally want to take our brain to court. So if you walked into a court of law and you were the defendant on a case and he said, you know, you stole the money, the judge would say, prove it. Where is the evidence? You don't just, you don't just get away with these accusations. You have to back them up with evidence. So we start to look for evidence for or evidence against it. So actually be taking your brain really seriously. Starting to ask it, can I know that to be certain? Where is that evidence? And then you can talk back to it. You literally can say, that's not true because, or another way of seeing that is,

• 56:00Speaker 07

  so when I was healing from my eating disorder, I would catch my brain saying things like, you're so fat. You're so, you know, ugly, you're so gross, you're so this. And I would say, okay, that's not true. Or another way of seeing that is I'm not feeling so great in my body right now, but I'm not these things. And so the talk backs, I'm not smart enough, or I, or they think, right? They think I'm an idiot. Well, can I know that to be certain? Can I actually know what they are thinking? No, actually I can't. And so it's like, basically you're saying to your brain, I'm not going to let you get away with that. And that process can just start with catching it anytime you hear,

• 56:43Speaker 07

  there are, I'm a, he thinks, she thinks, this is, you know, then you can catch it and you could say, can I know that to be certain? Or where is the evidence for that? And you start to challenge your brain. And then we start to choose a better feeling thought, choose a more useful thought, a thought that's not constantly looping and reframing that perspective.

• 57:08Jonathan Fields?

  No, that makes so much sense. It's really similar in a lot of ways to Byron Katie's work.

• 57:13Speaker 07

  The four questions.

• 57:14Jonathan Fields?

  Where you're really asking like, is it right? Is it true? You know, like what, show me the evidence. And so often we never go there. Like we just let our brain tell us that it is. And if it's something that's constructive and builds you up and like, you know, actually like is positive in your life. Cool. I'll roll with that. But when it, when it's taking you down. Yeah, I think I love the idea of taking it to court. That makes so much sense to me. Which brings us to the final one.

• 57:40Speaker 07

  Final one. The final one. This final one, I think, is actually the crux of what you were asking about, about overthinking. Because this is regret chatter. So a lot of overthinking is actually regret chatter. This is when you just can't let it go and you're, the actual regret is, I could have, I should have, what if I had? And so it's the shoulda, coulda, woulda. And what is it about? It is a part of you that's still trying to get your attention to say, you might have made a mistake. And what it's putting you through is a replay of, well, what if you made a mistake? What if you made a mistake? What if you made a mistake?

• 58:21Speaker 07

  But it just sounds like different things, you know, I shouldn't have written that, or how are they going to receive that? So this is regret chatter. And the talk back to regret chatter is really coming to peace with your past. It's an element of self forgiveness. So the talk back to it is, I can't change the past. Actually saying, thank you, brain. I hear you saying that I should have said this differently. But I can't change the pain, I can't change the past. Here's what I will do moving forward. Because the regret chatter is trying to get your attention so that next time you don't do the same thing, or you don't do it similarly. And so being able to say, thank you. The past is history.

• 59:04Speaker 07

  The best thing I can do for myself is hold on to the lesson and let the, let the rest go. So even saying, what's the lesson? What can I do? It can also sound like, I wish I hadn't, or I can't believe I. Those are places that if you can, if you hear the beginnings of those sentences, it's very likely that you're going to be on a loop. I can't believe I did this. I'm such an idiot. So there you have regret chatter, judgment chatter. What if they all think I'm a complete bozo? Worry chatter, right? But you can start to catch them all together, but they start to now be familiar. And now they're just parts of you coming together, feeling bad.

• 59:44Speaker 07

  Over things that right now you can't change, but what you do have control over is can you learn the lessons and can you let go of the rest? So a lot of regret chatter is being at peace with your past. A lot of it is about forgiveness. Um, one of my favorite definitions of forgiveness is letting go of hope for a different past. Right? The past is over. It's already done. Hoping that the past could be different isn't going to really help you. It was, and so catching the chatter and saying, thank you, brain, somehow flagellating myself about this and beating myself up over it, making myself hurt through my stress or feeling

• 1:00:25Speaker 07

  bad, isn't helping me. It's not going to help me prevent this from happening in the future. What could I do differently? So I should have, I could have, what if I had, I wish I had it, I can't believe I, that's all a form of, of regret chatter. And talking back to it by coming to peace with it. That is done. And I can't, uh, can't do anything about it, but I can take the lessons. And in doing that, I embrace more of that growth mindset, that learner path thinking, all of which will make you more resilient, but without the ability to catch the thought, pull it down from the cloud, be like, uh-uh, I'm going to dissect you. I'm going to talk back to you. Then it feels like it just, these

• 1:01:10Speaker 07

  thoughts are all swirling around and they seem like they just happen without you being able to do anything about it. But actually learning how to talk back to them in real time, what it does is it just, it just shuts them up, especially when you take your brain to court. It's like, all right, I guess I can't get away with calling you a bozo anymore, an idiot. And hence, you know, it might show up in another form and then you'll say, thank you. And you quiet it down. And over time, it does shift the relationship to thoughts.

• 1:01:38Jonathan Fields?

  That makes so much sense. I mean, the, the five different types and the interventions that are appropriate for each. But, but I, I do want to circle back to one phrase that you just said, which is sort of like catch it and pull it down from the cloud. Cause it seems like That's sort of the meta skill that that is that binds all of them. Like before you can actually say, oh, like, which of the five is this? And then how do I, how do I talk back to it? How do I bring it to court? Like, what is the appropriate response? You've got to first have the ability to sort of say, oh, this is happening. Um, let me pull it down so I can actually see what's happening and then figure out what, what's appropriate.

• 1:02:19Speaker 07

  Absolutely. Yep. And so the starting place for all of this, the capacity to have your mind be controlling the chatter is to be able to be aware of your thinking. And this is actually one of the things that makes humans the unique animals in the whole animal kingdom is that we have metacognition. We have the capacity to time travel in a way that other animals don't. We can think about the past. We could be thinking about the future. So you could be walking down the street and one would think that you are actually there now, but it's only your body that's there now. Your mind has time traveled into the past or into the future. And the capacity to catch your thinking and to actually think about thinking, that is

• 1:03:03Speaker 07

  that metacognition that makes us uniquely human. So that's why I call this the most empowering, the most important skill that we all have the capacity to master. We're just not being taught it. And many practices such as meditation and mindfulness prepare you to be able to slow down your thoughts and to create the space to actually be the witness and hear them. And so that's why meditation does make you a Jedi of your mind so that you can start to hear those things and then being proactive with them. Sometimes just catching the thought and writing down the thought that you're having it also is enough to make it go away. What I'm then giving you is like icing on the cake because then you just like karate chop it up and it just no longer exists.

• 1:03:47Speaker 07

  But a lot of people find relief from the overthinking and from the ruminating just by writing it out, just by getting it out of their mind. And in many ways, that's literally what we're talking about with these thoughts are just there trying to get you to pay attention. Don't forget, don't forget. You might mess up. Don't forget, people might judge you. Don't forget, you might be ostracized, whatever that might be. And so when you write it down, you're like, okay, I got the memo. I'm not going to forget. I, but you turn off the alarm. Otherwise, it's just that beeping going on in the back and it depletes you and it takes away from you being your fully vibrant self or as happy or as excited or as energized as you could be because literally

• 1:04:32Speaker 07

  your, your brain can weigh you down and it can also tire you out. If you ever had that moment where you're just like, I'm just so tired of thinking. I'm so, just so tired of hearing this, hearing this loop in my head. It's like, it's like as though you're a song, right? Like if some kid got some really annoying songs stuck in your head, you'd be like, I'm so tired of hearing that song. Or your kids are learning a song on the violin and they're just playing it over and over again. Okay, okay, I've had enough. I've had enough. Well, it's like that, but it's your own voice. And how do you make it stop? You make it stop by catching it, writing it down, working with it. And then if you want, you can then re-upload them back to the cloud,

• 1:05:10Speaker 07

  changed with these new talkback sentences. I get to do my work. I get to figure this out. I, the most likely outcome is we would be okay and we'd figure it out. But then you put it back in the cloud and you're being conscious of creating your reality, conscious of the thoughts that you want to be thinking and how you want to show up in the world.

• 1:05:33Jonathan Fields?

  Hmm. So helpful. Um, I know I'm, I'm going to start trying to really actively practice these things myself. It feels like a good place for us to come full circle in our conversation as well. So in this container of Good Life Project, if I offer up the phrase, "to live a good life," what comes up?

• 1:05:51Speaker 07

  Hmm. To live a good life means to live a life of alignment of who you are and what you feel like you've been put here to do, surrounded by people that you love, that make you feel like you belong and that you matter. And with the vital health to be able to execute on that aligned purpose of what you've been put here to do and to enjoy it with the people that matter most.

• 1:06:22Jonathan Fields?

  Thank you.

• 1:06:23Speaker 07

  Thanks for the question. I love that.

• 1:06:27Jonathan Fields?

  Hey, before you leave, next week's episode is one you won't want to miss. Erin Weed joins me to talk about her new book, Just One Word, and the surprisingly simple method that she has used to help over 1,000 people unlock their purpose and finally feel clearer about who they are and where they're headed. If you've ever felt like you're searching for that through line in your life, this conversation will be for you. Be sure to follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts so you don't miss this or any other upcoming episodes. This episode of Good Life Project was produced by executive producers Lindsay Fox and me, Jonathan Fields, editing help by Alejandro Ramirez and Troy Young. Chris Carter crafted our theme music. And of course, if you haven't already done so, please go ahead and follow Good Life Project wherever you get your podcasts.

• 1:07:13Jonathan Fields?

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