4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

What’s blocking you? What’s holding you back? Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood. Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Recognize Self-Sabotage How to Stop Putting Yourself Down How to Change Negative Self-Talk How to Understand Your Triggers How to Set Boundaries By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:08 What is Self-Sabotage? 05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior 08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves 11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage? 14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness 16:22 #2: Procrastination 19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down 23:15 #4: Perfectionism 27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior 28:53 weird noise in the background See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 3:26Jay Shetty?

  Right now, listeners of On Purpose get 40% off a subscription to Calm Premium at calm.com/jay. That's C-A-L-M dot com forward slash J-A-Y for 40% off. Calm your mind, change your life. Procrastination can be a form of self-sabotage and a source of self-undoing. For example, it shows up regularly in people who are working one job that harbor a secret, unfulfilled fantasy of doing something else. Maybe their dream is to become a performer or a writer, or maybe they've always wanted to learn to play the piano or run a full marathon or hike.

• 4:07Jay Shetty?

  They spend hours, days, weeks, and years dreaming about this future self and imagining how fulfilling and rich their lives will become once they finally make their move. Someday, they think.

• 4:22Jay Shetty?

  But if you're a procrastinator, it never happens. And the excuses they come up with to explain why very likely have nothing to do with the real reason, which in nine cases out of 10 can be traced back to experiences they had and the patterning that was imprinted in their early childhood.

• 4:43Speaker 01

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• 4:51Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose. I'm so grateful that you're here, spending your next few minutes with me, whether you're on a walk, whether you're walking your dog, whether you're cooking, whether you're driving, whether you're cleaning, whatever you're up to. Thanks for tuning in with me right now. And I'm so glad that we're living at a time where mental health has taken center stage and where more of us than ever before are familiar with the ideas and concepts around mental health. I believe that On Purpose has been a significant part of doing that because of you. You've helped spread On Purpose, spread this message

• 5:32Jay Shetty?

  so that so many people feel seen, feel heard, feel understood. And I couldn't thank you enough for all the reviews, for sharing the episodes with friends, the cut downs on TikTok and Instagram. It's amazing. Keep them coming. Today's episode is about the four ways we self sabotage ourselves and the three ways we can overcome those instincts and impulses that run counter to our own success and happiness. While we may not be familiar with self sabotage, most of us know what sabotage means. We've all seen films or television shows where one person sabotages another,

• 6:16Jay Shetty?

  whether it's a coworker who steals a colleague's report or a bridesmaid who sabotages her friend's wedding by drinking too much and causing a scene. Outside of the movies, though, it's surprisingly common at work as well. For example, you and your team may be engaged in a collaborative project, but a colleague decides to withhold important information and his behaviour ends up compromising everything you've ever worked for. That's sabotage. But in this episode, we're going to be focusing on the kind of sabotage that's aimed at ourselves. I define acts of self-sabotage as behaviours where we get in our own way. We trip ourselves up.

• 7:01Jay Shetty?

  We do or say things or act in ways that run counter to our own stated goals and our own success. Behaviours where we're our worst enemy and not even aware we are either. In fact, self-sabotage can even be framed as acting in a passive-aggressive way around ourselves. Because somewhere inside our own brains, we don't want what we tell ourselves we want. Think about this for a second. There's this beautiful statement by Muhammad Ali. He said, "It's not the mountain you're climbing, it's the pebble in your shoe." Right, this idea of what's tripping you up? What's getting caught in your shoe?

• 7:42Jay Shetty?

  I'm sure you're thinking about that recently as well, like, what's blocking you? And sometimes we'll blame someone externally. Sometimes we'll find someone else to take the responsibility. We'll shift accountability. But what is that? It's self-sabotage. And some of you may even have become more familiar with this idea and you're thinking to yourself, "Yeah, I keep doing this. I keep getting in my own way. But now I feel guilty about it, now I feel shameful about it, and now I feel bad about it." And that's not the point of this episode. The point of this episode is not to make you feel worse about it. It's to help you deal with it and feel better about it. So what do I mean when I say passive aggressive? When we use that term about other people,

• 8:26Jay Shetty?

  it's usually in the context of, say, a friend making a joking remark. Except she delivers that remark in a tone of voice that's not especially friendly or well meaning. Right? It's like when your partner's mad at you, but they wanna try and pass it off as it's not that serious, but really it is that serious? Like, maybe they're angry at you, but they can't admit it. Or more like, they're not even aware of their own anger. And instead of acknowledging, it sneaks out indirectly or passively in a way that communicates what they're feeling, but it's not honest enough, right? It's like, it's coming out in a way where it's like, "I hope you know what I mean,

• 9:10Jay Shetty?

  but I'm not gonna have the courage enough to say it." Or let's imagine that you and your partner just ended a night out with a big argument. Most couples take a certain amount of time to cool off before sitting down and doing the repair work necessary to ensure their relationship is back on good footing. But if your partner is passive aggressive, he or she will go out of their way to avoid resolving the argument. They might give you the silent treatment or stomp around the house and make a lot of noise to communicate that they're angry or their feelings have been hurt. What they won't do is tell you, which means you have to read in between the lines and be the grown up. You now all of a sudden have to become a mind reader.

• 9:53Jay Shetty?

  You have to be that person who understands what's not being said. And you kinda feel a bit of pressure for it. What's really interesting is that self sabotage acts in a similar way, but with an important difference. When a friend acts in a passive aggressive manner, they're refusing or unable to acknowledge their feelings. And as I said, sometimes they have no idea what those feelings are in the first place. This is why I often frame acts of self sabotage as passive aggressive behaviour that we show not to another person, but to ourselves. Buried deep in our brain are feelings that for whatever reason, we don't want to let out into the open.

• 10:37Jay Shetty?

  Feelings that usually go back to our childhoods, our relationship with our parents or our siblings, and the attachments we developed or weren't able to develop with family members and friends. Years afterwards, we're still reenacting these models and dynamics in our behaviour at work and with our friends and in our relationships. The problem being that most of the time, we're the last people to know about it. Another way to define self sabotage is behaviour that runs counter to or even contradicts what we tell ourselves we want. Let me give you an example. On the morning you're scheduled to deliver an important presentation at work, you don't hear your alarm clock ring and you oversleep.

• 11:21Jay Shetty?

  Instead of getting up early and rehearsing your presentation, as you've been planning to do all week, you roll out of bed in a panic, take a crazed two-minute shower, and show up at work an hour late. By now, what's left of our nervous system is in tatters. When the time comes for you to deliver the presentation, you don't do as good as a job as you hoped. Your voice is unsteady, the slides in your deck are out of order, and you leave the room convinced you're going to be fired. Now, we all have days that don't go the way we want them to. But it's not irrelevant to the topic of self sabotage to wonder, "What's really going on with you?" The answer could be any number of things. Maybe you hate your job or your boss and have been thinking about quitting for weeks.

• 12:06Jay Shetty?

  Except you fear what your parents might say. So in this case, by showing up late and being unprepared, you've set up your boss to be disappointed in you and possibly lay you off. In essence, what is going on is that since you can't acknowledge your own ambivalence at work, you end up blowing up your own career. Does that, can you relate to that? Like, maybe not exactly like that, but I hope that resonates. Here's another example. Imagine you're in a relationship that from every category you can check off is ideal. The two of you get along fantastically well. You have the same taste in food and music and film and TV shows. Your families get along, they have things in common, and you feel you could spend the rest of your life with this person.

• 12:52Jay Shetty?

  At least, that's what you tell yourself. So why, even though you feel you've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, have you begun acting so cold and withdrawn to the point where your partner becomes so frustrated, they decide to break things off with you? Maybe, just maybe, the truth of the matter is that you fear intimacy, and you don't know it. Maybe you were burned before, or multiple times before, and your detachment and indifference is nothing more than a defense mechanism. Maybe without being aware of if you learned from your parents' relationship, or somewhere else, that people close to you can't be trusted. So out comes an act of self-sabotage.

• 13:37Jay Shetty?

  In this case, emotional withdrawal. And from that point on, you tell yourself that you're terrible at relationships, and how it's never your fault, but always the fault of the other person. That's self-sabotage. You're probably wondering, what's going on in the brain that leads to self-sabotage? Well, remember that the brain has one mission, which is to keep us alive and in balance. In that guise, it's focused on steering us away from threats, while simultaneously motivating us with the promise of future rewards. Self-sabotage typically comes about when these two desires get confused and blurry. Think of it as an ongoing war between dopamine

• 14:17Jay Shetty?

  and other brain regions that include the hypothalamus, amygdala, and the prefrontal cortex. To use our early example, let's imagine that on the surface at least, you tell yourself you want to excel at work. There's no reason not to believe you either. You're eager to show your boss and your colleagues what you can do. And in response, your brain floods your system with dopamine. But other areas of your brain have something to say too. Hearing you want to excel at work stresses your brain out, puts it on edge, makes it fearful. The hypothalamus kicks off this stress response by sending a message to the pituitary gland, which in turn stimulates the adrenal glands, which release cortisol, the stress hormone.

• 15:00Jay Shetty?

  Your breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure all shoot up. More and more blood sugar is pumped into your bloodstream to give you energy for what's ahead. Basically, what's happening is that the reward and threat centers of your brain are at war with each other. They're being given contradictory messages, but the problem is, you can't admit it. Remember that the brain is always acting in our own best interest. Its mission at the end of every day is to protect us. The reward-seeking part of your brain may be saying, "I want to succeed at work." But the regions of the brain that predict potential threats respond by saying, "Do I really? Then why do I feel so angry? Why am I holding back?"

• 15:44Jay Shetty?

  In its chemical way, our brains are like friends through thick and thin, who know us better than we know ourselves. Here's another example. You might be someone who has always wanted to follow their passion, but keep putting it off. This is because your brain is busy predicting how you would feel if you pursued that dream but came up short. In other words, your brain is trying to protect you from emotions it knows are painful for you to feel. Future embarrassment, future disappointment, future pain. This is the essence of self-sabotage. The brain, knowing things we don't, or that we don't want to admit to ourselves, which in turn obliges us to act cross-purposes with ourselves.

• 16:29Jay Shetty?

  Self-sabotage isn't a cause or a source of anything. It's a symptom of a feeling or a dynamic that we're usually not aware of. When we act in a self-sabotaging way, we almost never do it consciously. Otherwise, we would probably stop ourselves. Unless we've been seeing a therapist for a long time, rarely do we have access to the original feeling or model that leads us to act in ways that run counter to our own interests and ambitions. Self sabotage has many faces, but here are the top four ways we do it. So you can use this as a checklist to understand. The first way is chronic lateness. Here, I'm not talking about those times when we're stuck in traffic

• 17:12Jay Shetty?

  or when we realize the clock in our car doesn't match the time on our phones and we arrive 20 minutes later for a doctor's appointment or a meeting with a friend. I'm talking about the habit of lateness. Lateness that happens so often and predictably that it's your middle name, the trait most closely associated with you. If someone tells you that lunch starts at 1 o'clock sharp, you don't show up till 1:15, 1:30, or even later. You always have a good reason, too. Your car was low on gas. You couldn't find your keys. The dog needed to be let out. A phone call came in that you had to take. Whatever the reason, it's always something. Now, most of us who are late apologize for holding everyone else up,

• 17:56Jay Shetty?

  and after that, things are fine. It's no big deal. You might even be someone with a genuinely flaky relationship with time and scheduling, someone who has trouble predicting how long it takes to get somewhere or get something done. But consider what your chronic lateness communicates to your friends and work colleagues. It reduces the trust they have in you. It means you can't be trusted to keep your word or be relied upon. Those are the real-world effects your chronic lateness has on other people. But considering that this episode is about self sabotage, what are some of the underlying reasons that drive the behavior of someone who's never on time? You could be someone who secretly believes the rules that apply to other people don't apply to you.

• 18:41Jay Shetty?

  Maybe you're on the outs with your friends but don't have the heart, the time, or the patience to find another friend group. Maybe you're secretly a diva who knows that by always showing up late, you can make a grand entrance with everyone's eyes on you and everyone whispering about that you're finally here. Whatever the unconscious motive is, it ends up doing you far more damage than good.

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• 21:35Jay Shetty?

  A second way we self-sabotage ourselves is procrastination. Procrastination, of course, means putting things off until the very last minute, or in some cases, never getting around to them at all. Like all the examples of self-sabotage in this episode, we've all been guilty at least once in our life. The problem's always is when we take these acts or behaviours to extremes. For example, I'm sure we've all had the experience in high school or college when we put off writing a paper. We were given a week to complete it, and every day we told ourselves we would at least get started. But as the week went on, we never did. At least not until the day before it was due, when we stayed up all night writing it

• 22:20Jay Shetty?

  and earned a not very good grade from the teacher or the professor. Or maybe you were one of those people who always did well anyway. But when it becomes a habit or a routine, procrastination can be a form of self-sabotage and a source of self-undoing. For example, you might be someone who delays paying bills you know are due the first of every month, but which you don't get around to addressing in time, which gets you into trouble with creditors and collection agencies. But where I see procrastination most often is in our own ambitions. It shows up regularly in people who are working one job that harbour a secret, unfulfilled fantasy of doing something else.

• 23:05Jay Shetty?

  Maybe their dream is to become a performer or a writer, or maybe they've always wanted to learn to play the piano or run a full marathon or hike. They spend hours, days, weeks and years dreaming about this future self and imagining how fulfilling and rich their lives will become once they finally make their move. Someday, they think.

• 23:29Jay Shetty?

  But if you're a procrastinator, it never happens, for any number of reasons. And the excuses they come up with to explain why very likely have nothing to do with the real reason, which in nine cases out of ten can be traced back to experiences they had and the patterning that was imprinted in their early childhood. The fear of failure, for example, or its close cousin, the fear of success. What would it really mean to pursue and accomplish their dreams or their goals? It might mean doing better than your parents in a way that's shameful to acknowledge. Or maybe your mom or dad had their own dreams they weren't able to pursue.

• 24:12Jay Shetty?

  By procrastinating and putting off what you want, you're protecting your parents and maintaining a familiar dynamic within your own family. It's an act of love that ends up damaging you. "I don't have enough time," you think, "or 'I'm too old,' "or 'I have responsibilities to your partner and my family.'" All of these things may be true, but it's not the real reason why you're procrastinating. By now, I hope you've become more aware of the conflict that arises in the brain when we self-sabotage and of the misalignment that happens when our conscious behaviour is at odds with our own unconscious motives. All acts of self-sabotage, remember,

• 24:56Jay Shetty?

  can be seen as defence mechanisms. They're the brain's way of protecting us from the stress and fear of confronting more difficult emotions. The third way we self-sabotage ourselves is by putting ourselves down. It's pretty easy to make fun of people who take themselves too seriously. There's even an argument to be made that the TV show The Office gave rise to a new brand of humour that comes from knowing more about other people than they know about themselves. And make no mistake, self-deprecating humour is a very attractive and humanising quality to have. It not only shows you have a sense of humour about yourself and your position in the world,

• 25:39Jay Shetty?

  it communicates that despite the good things that are happening in your life, you're still the person you always were. But here I'm referring to the constant habit of denigrating yourself, whether by apologizing too much, showing excessive humility, or never stopping to acknowledge the times you have a win in your column. Putting yourself down shows up in ways both obvious and not so obvious. Studies show that girls and women apologize more than men do, and many girls say "I'm sorry" almost as a reflex. But as well as showing kindness and consideration, the habit of over-apologizing can risk coming across to others as insecure and self-doubting,

• 26:24Jay Shetty?

  while at the same time undermining your own self-esteem. Denigrating yourself is also very common in people who don't know how to receive compliments. I have a friend who is doing fantastically well in his career, but whenever I would point this out, he would always say something like, "Ah, I was just lucky", or "I was in the right place at the right time". But refusing to take credit for your own accomplishments can end up hurting you. In my friend's case, by refusing to acknowledge and appreciate his own success, he was effectively asking others to buttress and validate his accomplishments. He came across as insecure and unconfident, qualities I knew wouldn't serve him well in the future.

• 27:08Jay Shetty?

  As is true in all instances of self-sabotage, the origins of our behavior vary, though it's safe to say they began when we were children. If you're constantly denigrating yourself, maybe you grew up around a hypercritical parent, and putting yourself down is a way of keeping that parent's voice close. Maybe, and this is a theme that keeps coming up with self-sabotage, it stems from lower-than-usual self-esteem, where a long time ago someone gave us the impression that we weren't good enough, or smart enough, or deserving enough. If you're in the habit of putting yourself down, you might fear that the act of owning your success risks alienating friends who aren't at the same level as you.

• 27:51Jay Shetty?

  Or possibly, you think that unless you put yourself down, someone else will jump in and do it for you. Studies show that while self-deprecation is linked to improve overall psychological health in most people, as usual, the risk comes from overdoing it and being seen as someone who lacks confidence and proficiency in their work. So the next time you hear yourself saying, "I was just lucky," or "anyone could have done what I did," ask yourself, "Are my words serving me, followed by, or are my words protecting me?" The fourth and final step of the ways we self-sabotage ourselves is perfectionism. Perfectionism is a personality trait

• 28:36Jay Shetty?

  marked by sky-high standards and expectations for yourself and everyone around you. If you're a perfectionist, you're no doubt averse to making mistakes. And this is often accompanied by fear that unless you act, or dress, or speak, or engage, or produce in any way other than what you deem to be perfect, then you're opening up yourself to criticism, unhappiness, and feelings of failure. Perfectionism is another common way we self-sabotage ourselves and psych ourselves out of attaining our potential. Perfectionism blocks progress. Perfectionism blocks the process. Perfectionism can block you

• 29:21Jay Shetty?

  from unlocking your potential. Perfectionism has its healthy, beneficial sides. It can be incredibly motivating, for one thing, and help you overcome challenges and accomplish what you're after. But what can make perfectionism unhealthy and even toxic is its capacity to paralyze us and keep us from going forward, since our greatest fear is what might happen if we make a mistake or a bad decision. Of course, self-sabotaging perfectionists can't admit this, and instead believe they have higher standards than other people and a vision no one else shares. If you're a perfectionist, chances are good you revise and rework things constantly

• 30:05Jay Shetty?

  until you decide they match your impossible standards of perfection, only to discover the next day that the work you considered perfect 24 hours earlier suddenly feels imperfect and in need of more work, which means you have to start all over again. Perfect and perfection are like the proverbial goalposts that refuse to stay put and that keep inching backward depending on what day of the week it is. Naturally, perfectionism can cause problems at work and in your social and love life. It can also impair both your physical and mental health. Perfectionism goes hand in hand with depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and eventually burnout.

• 30:49Jay Shetty?

  Since you're convinced that nothing you do and no one you know is perfect enough to match, never mind exceed, your own high standards, this often leads to erratic friendships and relationships. There's nothing wrong with seeking excellence. The problem comes when we take it to extremes, when our own perfectionism ends up boxing us into a corner. We forget that perfect as a concept is an abstract ideal, one that can change daily. When you lead your life expected to be graded for everything you do, you're setting yourself up for disappointment, disillusion, and endless frustration. By now, we know that the reasons behind any act of self-sabotage vary,

• 31:31Jay Shetty?

  though the culprit is usually a relationship or imprint from long ago. It could be a fixed and internalized belief about ourselves, or an exaggerated need for control. Perfectionists have both these traits in spades, the downside being that their perfectionism leaves them more vulnerable than most people to anxiety, depression, and escapist habits like drinking and drugs.

• 31:56Jay Shetty?

  Taking aim and chipping away at our own self-sabotage means beginning to collaborate with our own brains. And that means delving deep into the root causes of whatever self-sabotaging behaviour is creating problems in your daily life or getting in the way of things you hope to accomplish. Here are three ways to get closer to the roots of your own self-sabotaging behaviour. Step one in this journey is self-compassion. This can be a tough one for self-saboteurs to accept. By their very definition, procrastinators, perfectionists, chronically late, self-deprecating people are already extremely hard on themselves. Many have grown impatient with their own behaviour and some even believe they're beyond repair.

• 32:42Jay Shetty?

  "I'm terrible at love and relationships", they think. Or, "I'm hopeless at work and will never amount to anything." But if you read between the lines, what they're really communicating is that their best behaviours are misaligned with what they really want and they don't know what to do about it. If someone tells you they're beyond fixing or they're given up, most of the time they're doubling down on the original feeling or injury they experienced as children that they're now trying to avoid as adults. This is where self-compassion comes in. Instead of telling yourself that it's too late or you're never going to change or something is wrong with you and unfixable, why not try to picture yourself as a little kid?

• 33:26Jay Shetty?

  A four-foot tall, 95-pound bundle of love and energy who in between discovering new things about the world is also absorbing messages from parents, siblings, friends, extended family members, teachers and classmates. A child new to the world whose feelings are easily hurt and who is doing everything in their limited power to understand and defend themselves against a world that can sometimes seem overwhelming and unkind.

• 34:00Jay Shetty?

  Remember too, that they were born with a brain whose job it is on one hand to motivate them to seek rewards, and on the other to avoid stress, hurt, injury, and disappointment. Show your inner child some compassion. Treat them with as much patience, empathy, and understanding as you can. In a way, possibly you wish someone had treated you back then. As you start pinpointing the possible reasons why you and your goals got misaligned, remember that your brain is on your side, and the two of you need to work together. And then watch as everything you've always wanted,

• 34:42Jay Shetty?

  and I mean really wanted, starts making greater sense. And that by making peace with feelings you've spent a lifetime running away from, you're able to soar to levels you've always told yourself you wanted, but never thought possible. Thanks for tuning in and listening. I'm always in your corner. I'm forever rooting for you. If you loved this episode, you'll love my interview with Dr. Gabor Maté on understanding your trauma and how to heal emotional wounds to start moving on from the past.

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  Everything in nature grows only where it's vulnerable. So a tree doesn't grow where it's hard and thick, does it? It grows where it's soft and green and vulnerable.

• 35:23Speaker 03

  Now, more than ever, we need someone on our side. But Rob Whitman? Whitman's votes drove up costs, cut Medicaid, and risked 350,000 Virginians' healthcare to pay for tax breaks for himself and his donors. He's not on our side. Shannon Taylor will fight corruption, cut taxes, and bring down costs. This November, vote for Shannon Taylor. She's for us. Paid for by HMP, the HouseMajorityPact.com. Not authorized by any candidate or candidate's committee.