How to Stop Wasting Years of Your Life With One Simple Word

You don't need more talent. You need one more rep than you think you have. I get asked all the time what actually separates the people who win from everyone else, and this week I gave you my real answer: it's not talent, it's not connections, it's one more. One more call, one more set, one more minute. So instead of just teaching it, I pulled from the archives to show it in action, my conversations with David Meltzer and Jay Shetty, alongside some of my favorite solo teaching on this over the years. Here's what you'll gain from this episode: The one word mantra: The single word I've repeated to myself for three decades, and why I believe it's the real separator between winners and everyone else. The 24 hour myth: Why I stopped believing a day is 24 hours a long time ago, and the shift that gets me multiple days out of every single one. David Meltzer on accessibility: What makes some of the most successful people I know also some of the most reachable, and what that has to do with how you value your own time. Jay Shetty on evaluating progress: How often Jay actually checks in on himself, and why it's nowhere close to how often most people do. The story I still think about with Kobe Bryant: What I saw the last time I was around him, and why it changed how I look at every day since. Whatever rock is sitting between you and your dream right now, it's breaking down more than you realize. You just haven't seen the evidence yet. Stick around long enough and the candy comes out. 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈 → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ←➡️ INSTAGRAM➡️ FACEBOOK➡️ LINKEDIN➡️ X➡️ WEBSITE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 AM to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 PM. And my third day, 6:00 PM to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it. Waiting weeks on a big bank for capital? Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

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• 1:01Speaker 01

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• 1:25Speaker 02

  This is the Ed Mylett Show.

• 1:30Ed Mylett?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Now on with the show. Welcome back, everybody. I'm Ed Mylett. I'm fired up about today's show because we're getting right into what it takes to win. And that is this. Write this down. One more. One more. See, I accepted a long time ago, I wasn't the smartest, the best-looking, the fast enough, with the best background, the most connections. I didn't have any of those things. What I could control was my work ethic. You've heard me speak many times about outworking everybody, but I think that just feels good when we hear it. But most people don't take it seriously. If you think that I have a little bit of success in my life,

• 2:14Ed Mylett?

  I can tell you what I attribute it to. Yes, self-confidence, yes, mindset, visualization, goals, all the things I talk about all the time. Listening skills, influence, energy transfer, how to be happier. All of that stuff applies. When you get to winning, for me, it's come down to maxing out. And what maxing out means is you do one more at least than you think you're capable of. So when you're done, whatever you're doing, whether it's at the gym, or phone calls, or meetings, or in sports, one more shot, one more throw, one more swing of the golf club or the baseball bat, the separator is for the winners, they do one more. I'm addicted to one more. And so I want your mantra going forward to be, "One more." What does that look like if we're working out?

• 2:57Ed Mylett?

  That means when we're in the gym and we say, "I'm gonna do five sets of 10," I'm crazy. Like, I'm a psycho because I want to win. I want to be somebody. I want to separate. I want to compete. And the way I do that isn't with my giftedness. Because I wasn't born with a bunch of gifts. And I think gifts are crap. I think for the most part, gifted people struggle in life because things come easy to them. I like that things haven't come easy for me in my life. I like that I don't have natural talents in every area. And maybe you like that about you too. Maybe you've looked at yourself all your life and thought, "Man, I don't have that natural beauty or that natural talent or this gift for creativity or intellect or humor." I don't have any of those things. But what I got is I will outwork you.

• 3:39Ed Mylett?

  And so at the gym, one of the things I focus on, they say it's five sets of 10. When I'm at 10, I go, "One more." Bam, 11. If I'm running on the treadmill and it's a 45-minute run, I never finish at 45. I always go, "One more minute." 46. If I'm at the office and I'm supposed to make 25 phone calls that day, when I'm at the end of the day, I always do, "One more." If I've got meetings, I always do, "One more." My mantra for three decades in business has been, "One more." Why? Because we get out of life what we think we deserve. And I'm the kind of guy that I know, when you do 45 minutes on the treadmill and I do 46, I deserve to be fitter. I know that when I'm lifting weights and I watch you do five sets of 10, and every single time, I do one more.

• 4:23Ed Mylett?

  When it's a set of five, I do six. When it's a set of eight, I do nine. When it's 45 on the treadmill, I do 46. When it's supposed to be 20 phone calls, I make 21. When it's supposed to be an eight-hour workday, I work nine. Whatever it is, I always do one more. And what that does is it makes me eventually think, "I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do, so I should get things other people aren't gonna get." And if you go to the root of the things I believe philosophically about winning, the people that win, the great athletes that I coach, when I watch the really gifted golfer and the one who actually wins, the gifted golfer, they do what they're supposed to do. You'd never know they weren't working hard. It's not like people don't work hard. Everybody works hard. That's a given now. But what's the separator?

• 5:08Ed Mylett?

  To where you become the maxed-out version of you? See, the gifted golfer, they hit their 100 balls because they're supposed to. But the not-so-gifted one that ends up winning, they hit 101, or 110, or 120. I watch them on the driving range and I can hear them say, "One more. One more." What's the difference between Kobe Bryant and other gifted NBA players when he played? Or Michael Jordan when they played? Or right now, Kevin Durant? People tell me. Or Steph Curry? They're constantly, when everyone else is done shooting in the gym, they say, "One more." Larry Bird was legendary for, "One more. One more." The people that would throw the passes to him, the ball guys in practice, he always wants more. He always wants more.

• 5:51Ed Mylett?

  The great hitters that I know, the Mike Trout's in MLB, they're gifted, but they just take a little more. They take that extra batting practice, that extra session. They're always doing extra. That's the separator. Like, you can learn all this stuff. You can digest all the tactics and information that I give out, but if you're not willing to do one more, eventually, there's a part of you that says, "Maybe, maybe I don't deserve it. I'm just doing what everybody else is doing." And that's not good enough. It's not even good enough to do more than everybody else. It's your maxed-out level. It's one more of everything. And so whether that's a phone call, an email, a text, an appointment, one more time you tell your spouse you love them, one more time you go in and kiss your children goodnight, one more hug of somebody, one more phone call, one more everything,

• 6:36Ed Mylett?

  I want your theme to be, "One more." Have I said that enough times for you today? So what's that really look like in application? Well, the second thing it does for you is you actually do more reps of whatever it is you're doing. And when we do more repetitions, we get better. And when we do more repetitions, we're more productive. So number one is the psychology part. If you're someone who's always doing things other people aren't willing to do, you always max out, you always go to the next level, you convince yourself you deserve to win. You can take low self-esteem, low identity, low confidence, and change it over time by building this habitual addiction to doing one more. This obsession of one more. All the greats do one more and all the average don't. It's not that the average don't work hard.

• 7:20Ed Mylett?

  It's not that the average at your company, they don't, it's not that they don't work hard. They probably work pretty hard. But do they always do extra? Do they always do one more? Do they always do 10 more if they need to? Do they always get after it? The other part of it, number two, is you just get better because of the reps. You're just doing more of something, you get better. You get stronger. You become a better phone caller when you make one more phone call every day. You become a better communicator when you do one more meeting every single day. You get better at coordination in your sport or at the gym by just doing more reps. Yes, you get better. So that's the second layer. But the third one is, you stack the odds in your favor. See, for me, I want the odds that I'm going to win to increase. The larger numbers we play in life, in every area,

• 8:05Ed Mylett?

  more is always better. People tell you, "More isn't always better." And almost everything, more is better, just so you know. And almost everything. People who tell you more isn't better in most things are lazy. And they try to justify their own weakness. Don't let people who are justifying their own weakness convince you that you working hard, you doing more, isn't the pathway to your success. People say, "Well, you gotta work smarter, not harder." That's a lie. Because everybody who wins works smarter. The separator is who works harder. And by the way, we become smarter through working harder. All the new revelations, all the breakthroughs, all the new discoveries, always come when you're doing one more. Always come through more repetitions.

• 8:46Ed Mylett?

  You find new ways, new strategies, new words, new keys by higher repetitions. So even if you believe working smarter is more important, you will become smarter by doing more. So if you work 300 days a year, let's just say, 300 days a year. That's 300 more phone calls every single year. Over five years, that's 1,500 more contacts. 1,500 more contacts. Just think about that just for a second. Over 30 years, that's 9,000 more contacts. What are the odds the person who makes 9,000 more contacts, or even 300 more a year are gonna win? You give me two average people that walk in a room, same ability, same skills, same backgrounds, same product. One of them makes 300 more contacts a year than the other one.

• 9:30Ed Mylett?

  Who's gonna win? We know. How about over five years? One of them makes 1,500 more contacts over five years. Who's gonna win? Over a lifetime, 30 years of work, one makes 9,000 more contacts. Who's gonna win? You stack the odds in your favor. Never mind the person who'd made the 9,000 more contacts is better. They've got more reps. They've got more confidence. They believe they deserve to win. They just have 9,000 more opportunities. How about a golfer? One of them makes 300 more swings a year. A year. And that's just one more swing a day, right? And over a year, over five years, 1,500 more. 9,000 over a lifetime. Who's more likely to win? So you pick anything you want. You begin to stack the odds in your favor. How about at the gym? If every day you went one more minute in your cardio.

• 10:14Ed Mylett?

  So it's supposed to be 45, you do 46. Do you know what that starts to do to you? You start knowing you're different. You start knowing you obliterate standards. You start knowing you can break through. When you break through an artificial barrier like 45 minutes, you do one more. It sets a catalyst for your entire day. It sets a syntax. It sets a mindset for the rest of your life. Never mind the fact that if you do 300 more minutes, which is 9,000 more over your lifetime, who's gonna be more fit? So you begin to stack these things and your entire life changes. This is what I like to call compound pounding. Most people underestimate what time can do when backed up with massive activity. Right as I'm speaking to you, I'm looking out at the ocean right now. And there's a massive rock formation.

• 10:58Ed Mylett?

  And you can see the rivets in the rocks. And what caused those rivets in the rocks was compound pounding of the ocean hitting that rock over and over and over again. Over and over. Compound pounding against that rock. And over time, that ocean breaks the rock down. Over time. Where you can see the breakdown in a rock that water does hitting it. Think about that over time. Not one time when the water hits it. Not two times, not five times. When you add up years and years and years of that water hitting the rock, it breaks it down. And that's like getting through to your dream. You have to be like that water hitting the rock I'm staring at right now. That over time, that compound pounding breaks down the barriers,

• 11:41Ed Mylett?

  breaks down the obstacles, breaks down anything in your way of getting to your dream. So I'm sold out on all the strategies and tactics that I teach you. But what I believe in completely is the power of compound pounding. And here's the crazy thing about most people. They will give up on their dream before the compounding has been allowed to kick in. So they'll work at it, and they'll work at it, and they'll work at it. And they don't see the breakthrough. But what they don't understand is that rock was getting ready to break if you just keep pounding against it. But because most people don't see the evidence. See, if you watch that water hit that rock over one day, you're gonna see no difference. Two days, no difference. Five days, no difference. Maybe even a year, there's no difference. Maybe even five years.

• 12:26Ed Mylett?

  But you have the compound pounding of every wave hitting that rock over and over again. There's an inevitability to the breakdown of the rock. That's true of your goals and dreams as well. There's an inevitability to success. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. When we adopt one more, when we adopt compound pounding. Do you know the kind of confidence you begin to have when you just accept in your life that I am going to be relentless? I'm always gonna do extra. And you accept the fact that all things break down over time. All the barriers will go away. All the obstacles will go away. Everything in your way will go away if you keep after it over an extended period of time. Most people overestimate what they can do in a year. They do.

• 13:11Ed Mylett?

  They set up goals for a year and they overestimate where they're gonna get to. And they dramatically underestimate what they can do in a decade. And the reason for that is most people don't understand the power of compound pounding. So I want you to accept today that you're gonna be relentless, that you're gonna keep coming, that you're like a dripping faucet. You're like those waves hitting the rock. Other people are gonna get slowed down. Other people are gonna take a break. Other people are gonna flinch. Other people are gonna cool it. Other people are gonna believe they've made it. Or maybe some people are gonna believe they can't make it. But you're gonna be relentless. You're gonna be repetitious. You may not be the fastest. You may not be the smartest. You may not be the strongest. You may not be the most beautiful. You may not have the most articulate thoughts and ideas in the world. But what you got is compound pounding. What you got is one more. And when they get weak, you just keep coming.

• 13:56Ed Mylett?

  When they flinch, you blow their doors off. That's how you win in life, is you keep getting after it and keep getting it after it until the job gets done. So a lot of people can be excited for a day. They can be excited for a month. Some people can be excited for a year, or two, or three years. But the winners, they stay excited as long as it takes to get the job done. They keep after it until the job gets done. They never stop. They're always after it. And that's where their strength comes from. That's where their confidence comes from, is knowing their capacity to keep coming at you. And that all your competition's gonna get weak. They're gonna get tired. They're gonna surrender. They're gonna give in. They're gonna think they made it. They're gonna take a break. They're gonna cool it. And you just keep coming. It's just nature. Just like the nature of the ocean against that rock.

• 14:39Ed Mylett?

  It's just nature that you run down your dream, that you knock down your dream. I want you to implement all the things that I teach on max out, all the tactics, all the strategies. But more than anything, I want you to buy into the fact of an inevitability of you winning. That it's inevitable. That it might not be a year, or two years, or three years. But you're gonna stay excited and you're gonna keep doing one more until the job gets done. Today's message is very simple. You can win. You should win, and you will win. I want you to feel this. You will win if you just keep coming. You keep getting after it. You keep doing one more. You can control this. You can't control all the exterior things in your life. People's attitudes, how they treat you. Who cancels on you? Who changes their mind? Who hates on you?

• 15:24Ed Mylett?

  Who lets you down? But you can control this. You can always go 46 instead of 45. You can always go 11 instead of 10. You can always make the next phone call. Always do one more meeting. Always do one more. Always, always, always. And I promise you, you will knock down that rock that's in between you and your dream and make them come true. Today's really simple. You're gonna knock down whatever that rock is that's in between you and your dream. You're gonna keep after it. You're gonna be relentless. You're not gonna give in. You're gonna be the person who stays excited until the entire job gets done, until that dream is real. And you know, long term, all these other people, they're gonna flinch, they're gonna get weak, and you won't. You've adopted a max out mindset. And I want to remind you today to stay connected with me. I want you to win.

• 16:09Ed Mylett?

  Hope you can feel it today. I want to break it down to its most simple form, which is that you use nature to your advantage. You use the force of you, the force of effort, the force of sustained effort over an extended period of time to wear out the obstacles in front of you in your dream. I want you to feel the confidence that comes with it. I'm telling you. Look at me. Listen to me. You're gonna do this. You're gonna win if, and it's a big if. If you'll just adopt it. It ought to be written everywhere. One more, one more, max out, everywhere you can put it. It's inevitable. It's not if anymore. It's just when. And I want to remind you of that. Share and subscribe to today's program. I hope it gave you hope. I hope it gave you certainty.

• 16:51Ed Mylett?

  And I hope it gives you a very simple recipe to dominate. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. This episode is sponsored by Ro. A lot of people assume GLP-1's cost a fortune. And that assumption keeps them from even looking into treatment. Ro helps people find a more affordable path to FDA-approved GLP-1 treatment. Ro wants to help people lose weight. That's why they have more affordable GLP-1 options, whether you're paying with insurance or cash. Ro's free insurance checker makes it easy to see if you're covered for GLP-1 injections. Just submit your insurance card and Ro handles the rest. No paperwork, no waiting on hold, no confusing phone calls.

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• 19:08David Meltzer?

  I know in your book, you talk about slowing down time, which if we could slow down time, right? Let's talk about baseball. Imagine if you could slow down time, even I could bat, like you were leading the nation in average. I could be better than Ed Mylett if I could slow down time and slow that 95 mile an hour fastball down. How do you slow down?

• 19:27Ed Mylett?

  Well, that's the best question. It's chapter two. It's called The Matrix. And the best do exactly what you just said. Tom Brady has the ability to slow things down under duress and pressure. I have another chapter called equanimity, one more level of equanimity. The athletes that get rattled, things speed up. I watched Michael Chandler fight this weekend, and Michael's been in some really intense fights a couple of times. He's a good friend of both of ours. And sometimes, under the duress in these fights, things have sped up for him, and it's not served him well. This fight, I watched him step back, get equanimity, and slow things down. And he executed one of the most dramatic knockouts ever. How do you do it? There's a thing in your brain called the reticular activating system. It's the filter that reveals the entire world to you of what's important

• 20:09Ed Mylett?

  to you. So I just bought a Tesla, for example. I just like what Musk is doing. I told my team, get me one of these Tesla Plads. Next day, it's in my driveway. And now, David, everywhere I go, there's Teslas everywhere. I mean, literally everywhere. In front of me, to the right, three lanes over, other side of the freeway. I'm like, babe, another white Tesla. Here's the thing. They were always there, but they've become important to me. So my RAS now filters them into my awareness. You begin to see, feel, and hear things that were always around you, that were not a part of your awareness and your filter. So the key thing to slow things down. Tom Brady, when he's pre-snap, he slows things down. His RAS finds the coverage and the open receiver. The rookie quarterback finds the covered guy. So the difference in life is, can you make your dreams, your

• 20:52Ed Mylett?

  goals, the meetings, those relationships, those thoughts, your Teslas? And the way you do it is by repeatedly reprogramming your reticular activating system in your brain. And I go very detailed on doing it. And the other reason I love The Matrix as an analogy, is that Neo is the one. They call him the one. And in every family, the one eventually shows up. In your family, you're it, Dave, and mine, I'm the one. Meaning, you find a rich and successful family. If you go back in their lineage, it's somewhere they weren't. And then the one shows up, the one that changes everything for that family, that cares for their mom like you do, right? That just changes everything, how they live, how the world treats them, how they think, their emotions. The one shows

• 21:35Ed Mylett?

  up. So Neo in The Matrix is the one. I teach you how to be the one in your family by using your RAS to slow things down. So you see, hear, and feel things that were always there that can change your life.

• 21:47David Meltzer?

  And one of the other things that you do really well is utilize that time. So not only can we slow down time, but utilize the time productively with accessibility. When I say accessibility, people would be amazed how accessible Ed Mylett is. You know, I've always found it interesting that Mark Cuban, Ed Mylett, Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor would always immediately text me back or email me back. And yet, everyone perceives them differently. So accessibility is not only accessing what you want, but it's accessible to others to give of yourself and be of service. And then also, this lens of gratitude intertwined in productivity and accessibility. Meaning, there's a nuance in your book that when we

• 22:31David Meltzer?

  look at being grateful, finding the light, the love in the lessons, having faith in everything, we have to integrate time. Is it worth my time to spend with Ed Mylett over Gary Vaynerchuk? Right? Which one's going to feed me more? Or whoever or whatever we're doing? And so many people don't reconcile time into the productivity, accessibility, and gratitude lenses of our activities during the day. How do you, because I know you talk about 21 days in a week. I talk about the power of 64, 64 hours of productivity a day. 60, I get 60, so eight times seven, 56 days a week. You're only at 21, brother. I can start mentoring you. But more importantly, how do you do that? Because we can beat people

• 23:15David Meltzer?

  with time in a quantitative sense.

• 23:17Ed Mylett?

  Well, that's the, it's one of the most important chapters in The Power of One More. Here's the deal. The 24 hour day is the most archaic, antiquated, ridiculous concept that is currently existing in mankind. My second day is noon to 6:00 PM. And in that same thing, I want to get as much productivity, contacts, calls, fitness, faith, whatever it is in that day. Third day is from 6:00 PM to midnight. And some days, these are just chill days, right? Some of the days are just family days. But the point is, what happens now, because I've shrunk and compressed timeframes at the top of every day, like around noon every day, this alarm clock goes off, medicine, hey, what did I get done the last day? What do I need to redouble? What do I need to be accountable for? What did I miss? So instead of, you know, average person, once a year, checks off of themselves, New Year's resolutions. Really productive

• 23:59Ed Mylett?

  people, maybe they do it once a month or at the end of the week. Some people end of their 24 hour day, all right, what do I have to do tomorrow? But I'm now doing it three times in a normal day. So two things happen. Number one, I get 21 days a week. I get way more productivity. And these are real days, too. You can actually get a full day's work done in them. But the other thing that's important about it is, other people begin to respond to you differently. Because now, time is precious. That's why diamonds are more valuable than paper, right? What's rare is precious. The more rare your time is, the more precious it is, the more other people respond to you in a particular way. So it's one of the most, I would say, single-handedly, there's maybe five things in the book that are all really detailed. I don't know where they rank, but this is on there somewhere where I completely changed my perception of what a day looks like. And then the last

• 24:43Ed Mylett?

  thing is this, in life, you don't always get your goals. You don't. People say, I want more self-confidence. Everybody knows, keep the promises you make to yourself, you probably get more self-confidence. Because self-confidence is a relationship and reputation with yourself. And if you can keep the promises you make to you, you're going to be a pretty productive person. But what if you had a higher standard? There's a chapter called One More Higher Standard. You always get your standards. You don't always get your goals. But if your standard is, I always do one more. I always do one more. Now I keep the promises I make to myself, and one more. I'm going to tell my daughter I love her every day, and one more time. I'm going to do 10 reps on the bench, and one more. I'm going to make 10 contacts, and one more. I'm going to text message five friends, tell them I love them and care about them today, and one more. Now you've changed your life

• 25:28Ed Mylett?

  the way you manipulate time, because your standard is different for how you conduct yourself.

• 25:33David Meltzer?

  And you've elevated that standard, which has an energetic aspect to it. We have a frequency that also gets into that reticular side of things where things become, or you become aware of them by what we think, say, do, believe, and feel, those five different levels. It gives us a deeper purpose. And you and I are both extremely faith-based people. And through that aspect of faith, we integrate energy and quantum science, the mathematical side of things. How does your purpose and faith that is integrated together relate to energy and quantum science, the quantitative side of the world?

• 26:13Ed Mylett?

  No one's asked me that. So that was the hardest chapter for me, brother. One more prayer. Because I wanted to talk about my faith, because I'm a faith-based person, but I also didn't want to put off people who didn't share my faith. And because I'm also science and quantum-based, I believe there's a quantum field. In fact, I don't believe it. I know it. I just happen to believe there's an almighty creator that created it. That's all. I don't know why that's in conflict with people. And so, right? So there's this whole notion that, well, if you're faith-based, you're not scientific or energy. And if you're energy-based, you're not faith-based. You and I know tons of pastors and rabbis that are very energy-based people that are also dogmatic in their faith. And so, why do I love you so much? Because we vibrated a similar frequency. And so, there's a connection there. We've all felt energy before. We've all been able to vibrate at

• 26:58Ed Mylett?

  a frequency where there become answers to things that really, we're not capable of answering on our own. And so, for me, I know I feel energy. The key thing for most people is that if you don't believe in energy, you don't really believe in influence. You don't believe in inspiration. You don't believe in connection. You're always making people feel something. You're always emanating an energy. You ought to start to take control of what that is and be intentional about it and work at it. Because that is, energy is influence. Energy is love. Energy is emotion. And so, every part of my-

• 27:29David Meltzer?

  And money, and money. Don't forget money.

• 27:31Ed Mylett?

  Everything is. And so, it all has an energy frequency, a vibrational frequency. And so, although I'm extremely faith-based, I'm a Christian. You and I've sat around and talked about these things many, many times. I'm blown away by the fact that I, that people would think, well, that would, I would deny the fact that there's quantum energy in the world. That's like denying that there's gravity. I just happen to think that the gravity and nature and oxygen, the way it relates with animals and all that stuff, came from one place. But having said that, I'm very much, you know, some of my dearest friends are the people that are the best in the world at it, like Dr. Joe Dispenza. So, and yourself, and others whom I admire greatly. So I'm super energy-based, I'm super quantum-based. And I can tell you that I believe even this podcast has a particular energy frequency to it that people will respond to, different than other ones, because there's two dudes

• 28:15Ed Mylett?

  that vibrate a particular way, spending some time together.

• 28:19David Meltzer?

  You know what's so amazing is we grew up similar in so many respects, but also differently in our faith, and yet we ended up in the same place as faith. And one time when we first met, you had a statement and you said, "God is good." And it wasn't just you were saying it. I almost cried when you said it. And I thought to myself, 20 years ago, if I met Ed Mylett, because I was at a different frequency, I would have had judgments and conditions that separated a brother of mine, someone that I'm so connected to and through, inspirationally, energetically, and I would have let those three words, which I state every day as many times as I can today, and believe full-heartedly, despite my background, which is different than

• 29:03David Meltzer?

  yours religiously in the dramatic sense, and no one in the world, I think I share beliefs with as much as I do Ed Mylett, and I hope he takes that as the compliment. And I study very hard to understand that. Why do you think people resist that defining moment for me in faith, that, "Look, there's something bigger than us that loves us more than our mom loves us." And that gives me the faith to be protected and promoted at all times. And everything I look upon, I say to myself, "God is good." And I don't want to separate myself from anyone when I say that, but I know that there's listeners right now going, "I didn't know David Meltzer was a Jesus freak." You know, I know they're saying it, Ed. I

• 29:46David Meltzer?

  know they're saying it. I know my rabbi brother's saying, "Oh, my God, did he not learn anything?" But I believe God is good, and so do you. And that's what has blessed me to be where I am today with you on this podcast.

• 29:59Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, brother. I love you. I think that it's resisted because the truth is that religion has gotten the way for a lot of people getting to know God. And religion's done a lot of negative things in life. It's done a lot of positive things, too. But organized religion, I think even some of my most devout pastor friends would say, "Hey, it's bumped up on doing some stuff." There's been a lot of wars over religion, right? There's been a lot of judgment over religion. And I don't really, I guess I'm religious in the sense that I'm a Christian, but I'm not a religious person in the sense that I subscribe to a particular dogmatic church. And so I think that's what the gap is. I think, and by the way, I think

• 30:38Ed Mylett?

  it's a reasonable assessment of people over time. I know something you don't know. I'm right, you're wrong. Right? And that's not something God would ever say. That's not something that's true. And so what I have is a relationship with God, which means it ebbs and flows. When my dad died, I wasn't happy with God, right? When my dad got cancer, I'm like, "What's going on here, man? What are we doing?" Right? So it's okay to question one's faith. In fact, if you don't, someone that never questions their faith will never grow in it. And so I just think the answers to life lie there. And I would just tell everybody to embrace your version of what God is. And the more you explore that in your heart, I think the more, by the way, any of you listening to this, here's what

• 31:20Ed Mylett?

  I do know about you. You wonder, you wonder, it's a calling that's been on your heart since you were a little boy or a little girl. You've always wanted to know. You always want to do explore that. In fact, it's always going on in the back of your mind. What's true? What's life all about? What happens when I die? Right? Most importantly is what happens when I live? And so I think these questions are beautiful, and I don't think you should avoid them. And I think you should be open to whatever inspiration and answers you get, and not use the judgment of other human beings or dogmatic religion from people to cause you to be suppressed in your pursuit of it. Because it's a beautiful pursuit. It's what life's all about. And you will find more bliss and happiness as you find your version of those answers.

• 32:02David Meltzer?

  And that beautiful pursuit in this idea of one more takes that faith, that understanding, and you've really helped me understand what is the paradox or the paradigm of my life, that I don't need to go get more healthy, more wealthy, more happy, more worthy. Because of my faith, I am happy, healthy, wealthy, and worthy. I just got to figure out what I'm doing to interfere with it. And the concept, the concept of one more, to me, is clearing the interference. It is clearing the interference. Because every time we say, "I'm gonna call my daughter," you know, I have minimums in my life. "I'm gonna call her one more time

• 32:44David Meltzer?

  or one more minute," which isn't easy with teenage girls, "but I'm going to do it, even if I feel rejection at times." But it's never too late to have this one more philosophy of clearing the interference of our potential. And everyone has different potentials. How come so many people think, "Well, it's too late?"

• 33:04Ed Mylett?

  Yep. Because they're carrying around baggage of the things they're ashamed of, the things they failed at, they think, their defeats. They think they're invisible. They think they're not qualified. They're not special. You don't know about the things I'm embarrassed by. You don't know about my bankruptcy, my divorce, my financial setback, this sin I've had. And we carry those things around with us. And because, so we think that somehow that disqualifies us from helping other people and living our best life. In fact, the opposite is actually true. I gotta tell you something, brother. I haven't told you this yet. So I wrote this book, The Power of One More, basically when my dad died and all the lessons in it. About two weeks ago, I woke up about 3:15 in the morning, crying. This is just for me and you, but everybody gets to listen. And it answers your question

• 33:49Ed Mylett?

  perfectly. And I woke up and I told, I woke Christian up. I said, "Babe," and she goes, "Yeah." Because what changed my family life forever is my dad got sober. That one decision changed our family. I'm not talking to you right now. If my dad doesn't do that, I don't help millions of people unless my dad makes that one decision. I said, "Babe," she goes, "What?" I said, "Someone helped daddy." She said, "What, honey?" I said, "Someone helped my dad. And I've never thought about it before. Someone helped my dad get sober." She was, "Oh, my God." I said, "I don't know who they are. That family, by helping my dad, changed millions of other people's lives and Max and Bella's lives, my children, are deeply

• 34:32Ed Mylett?

  affected by this precious soul helping my dad in some quiet place, in some room somewhere that no one will ever know about." And I said, "Here's what's amazing, babe. Do you know what qualified that person to help my dad? Their messed up life. They were a drunk and an alcoholic. All their mistakes, all the things they were ashamed of, all their life experience. That's what qualified them to change my dad's life and change my life and change millions of other, whoever this person is, in some quiet coffee shop somewhere or a room somewhere. They saved my family. Little did they know, all those years they

• 35:14Ed Mylett?

  were drinking and using drugs was preparing them to change the world. And it just occurred to me two weeks ago. So if you're listening to this, your mistakes, your setbacks, your experience, your failures, your sins are the very thing. That mess is your message. It's the very thing that qualifies you with your intent to serve, your giftedness and your experience to make a difference in the world and live greatly. And there's no better example of that than whoever this precious soul is that changed my family and millions of families forever because they were an alcoholic at some point in their life.

• 35:50David Meltzer?

  And there's great significance to that in our lives. You know, one of the things that I can't still fathom is the size, scope, and scale of how, what I call the protection and promotion in my life, the mistakes, failures, setbacks, and sins, as I see them as a hot stove that, as a three-year-old, I try to reach out to. And of course, my mom slapped my hand, and she's never really hit anyone and screamed at me, and she screams at very few. And I immediately said, "Why am I being punished?" Because I didn't understand the stove was gonna burn me. And, you know, here with faith, whatever your dogmatic beliefs are, with faith, there's something bigger than us that loves us more than my mom loved

• 36:31David Meltzer?

  me at that moment to protect me. There is no punishment. That person that saved your father and saved his legacy and saved his family and now has saved millions around the world because it has given you the opportunity to be saved, to be saved from yourself, from the lessons and the love and the light that has always existed through you to others. But I can't still, I get choked up, fathom when we have a young kid that begs me, "Hey, Mr. Meltzer, there's only two podcasts in the world I listen to, Ed Mylett and you. And can I please meet him? He has changed my life. I come from the Bronx and this family,

• 37:13David Meltzer?

  and, you know, and I've got a college education. I'm inspired to do great things, to be kind to my future self and to do good deeds in the world, to touch other people exponentially, brother. Right? Exponentially, it doubles. And I see you doubling the thousands and then millions of people that are gonna sit there someday and say, "Thank you, Ed Mylett," or "Thank you, whatever the name of those guys were on their podcasts together that somehow planted a seed or watered a seed that changed an entire legacy." How do you deal with the importance of the ability to touch that many lives?

• 37:53Ed Mylett?

  First, I love you. You're special. You're the special one of all this stuff I've been doing. And I know you know that I feel that way. I don't know why. I'm gonna get emotional, too. It's just, first off, I'm gonna step back. It's pretty cool that two rich guys are talking about this stuff.

• 38:11Ed Mylett?

  There's very few profound conversations and you and I've had several of them now and I'm glad this one's being recorded. I just deal with it like this. I don't think God calls qualified people. I think he qualifies called people. And I just feel like I'm called to do this. And one of the things I talk about in the book is like, how do you change your identity and your self-confidence? And I say, well, there's a trilogy, faith, intention, and associations. But the second one's the biggie. How do I deal with it? Because I'm not, I don't have every answer. I do make mistakes. I'd like to sound, I'd like my life to be as smooth and as beautiful and as elegant as it sounds like in an interview, but it's not. There's mistakes I make all the

• 38:52Ed Mylett?

  time. But I know this about me. When I was a very young man, I know you know the story of, well, not that young compared to a lot of people listening. I was 30 years old. I won an incentive trip to go to Hawaii. And I'm running down the beach in the morning before the sun got up. And this man's running towards me. And he gets closer and closer and closer. And I realize it's Wayne Dyer. And those of you young bucks, if you don't know who Wayne Dyer is, Google him. But Dave definitely knows who he is. And I said, we were, I was running with a Sony Walkman on, Sony Walkman. And I go, Dr. Dyer, you changed my life. And he lifted off his Walkman after he had ran by me. He goes, I doubt that. I bet you changed your life. But he goes, how did I help you? And he walked towards me and we sat on the beach together and watched the sun come up. Can

• 39:34Ed Mylett?

  you imagine? And at that time, he was writing a book called The Power of Intention. And here's what he said to me, and I'll impart this wisdom on to everybody else on this topic. He said to me, Ed, you're going to change the world. And I'm sure he had said that to other people. But for me in that moment, it felt like I was the only person he goes, and it's, there's a, there's a spirit about you. There's a, God gave you this voice, and he gave you this ability to communicate. You're brilliant. And I'm like, just my hero saying this to me. And he goes, and none of that's why you're going to change the world. You're going to change the world because you intend to do well. You intend to serve. You intend to contribute. He said, I sense beautiful intentions on you, Edward. And I knew that was true of me. I've never believed I was talented or smart. I've

• 40:16Ed Mylett?

  never believed I was special. But I do know my heart. I do know I intend to help people. And he goes, the rest of your life, never link your confidence to your ability to do something. Link it to your intention to serve. And I've never forgotten that. That makes me emotional. Because I'm not the most talented guy in the world. I'm not the smartest. I'm not the biggest, the fastest, the strongest, the blah, blah, blah. I'm none of those things. But I do have a pretty good heart. I do intend to serve people. And so before I do a podcast like this, before I give a speech, before I do any business meeting, I do remind myself of my intent, and I have tremendous confidence in my intentions. And I would acknowledge, I would tell everybody out there, maybe you should take a page out of that book. Maybe you should read that chapter in my book,

• 40:56Ed Mylett?

  too. But your intention to contribute, to have a pure heart, to serve people, to make a difference, is where your confidence should come from. Because you'll find, whether it's your God, or the energy field, or a combination of both, the answers will come your way. The answers, you will find the people, places, and things that you need that are requisite to you delivering on this intention you have. But it starts with the intent. And that's how I carry that, you know, that not burden, but honor and privilege of some people wanting to hear what we have to say is that I know I intend to help. And usually, the spirit helps me move them in the right way. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. We have all the links in our show notes. You'll

• 41:38Ed Mylett?

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• 42:20Ed Mylett?

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• 43:03Ed Mylett?

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• 43:42Ed Mylett?

  Each of you, you and I included, we were born to do something great with our life. We were born to do something great with our life. And it's important to check in from time to time of what that current great thing is. And may, and sometimes we think it's the big things. It's the people that are on both our shows. They've made this big movie. They've got this big song. They're this big thing. What, you know, who's greater? The man who helped my dad get sober? Or the fact that maybe I've helped some people because my dad got sober? That one act was greatness in his life, that kind moment with another person that says, I can help you. Let me connect with you. And so don't discount your own greatness, your own call to do something great. And it

• 44:23Ed Mylett?

  doesn't have to be a script, or a play, or a book, or a speech, or on social media. It's just doing something great. And you matter. I don't, I don't mean this hokey. I'm telling you the truth about you. You matter. You were born to do something awesome with your life. Your family's supposed to do something great as a family. And it maybe it's just checking in and reminding yourself of that, and then asking yourself, what is that thing right now in my life? And so I just think that reminder is so important that, you know, it's great to voyeuristically look in on successful people, or what we think are successful people. It's also important that the camera turn back on you and go, you matter. You matter. You're great. And that's probably the most important

• 45:08Ed Mylett?

  thing we'd say today.

• 45:09Jay Shetty?

  Oh, gosh, man. Yeah. And, you know, one thing you just clarified beautifully is that great doesn't have to be big. And big doesn't mean great, right? And I think we're so obsessed today.

• 45:22Ed Mylett?

  We are.

• 45:23Jay Shetty?

  In that, to do something great, it has to be big. It has to be bold. You know, when I think about myself, honestly, Ed, and, and I can say this to you, because I think, I think in these sessions, and when we spend time together, you've heard my heart. I was one of those people who actually never believed I could do any of this stuff I've done. I never set out when I started, and I was like, oh, one day I'm gonna be, I didn't have any of that. That's not how I'm wired. I was wired in like, I want to serve. I want to serve whoever comes, whether it's five people, 10 people, I'm happy. I'll serve them. And as I started to do that, I got more confidence. Okay, now I want to serve larger groups. Okay, let me serve them. And then it was like, and I never believed at any

• 46:07Jay Shetty?

  point that there were these arbitrary abstract goals of like, number one, this, like, those weren't how I set out. And so when I'm listening to you speak, I hope someone's out there thinking, Jay, I'm like, Jay and Ed, I'm like you guys, where it's like, I don't vibe with all that, like, like motivation. It's like, I just vibe with the fact that I want to have a great impact, like the person that helped your father.

• 46:32Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. And you know what we've both found in our life, too? Just to give you insight from, someone called me seasoned today. You know, this, is that, you know, the universe or God really prepares you to step into the next room when you step in with some faith. And so maybe it does start with five or six people, and maybe that's enough. But perhaps, in that space you're in, there'll be a little door open. And if you step into that one, you'll, you'll find, I think we think, I have to have it all figured out. Wozniak's a good buddy of mine who started Apple. They didn't. They were a board company. They didn't know they'd be doing this someday. They stepped into the next space. And one thing I think we also want is an immediate result. And I talk about this in the book, maybe it's be the last little thing I'll share with you. But I went to a birthday

• 47:14Ed Mylett?

  party as I was writing the book, and it was for a young boy. And they had a pinata. We've all been to, especially if you live in California, you have the pinata. And so what they did is they took each of these little guys, they blindfolded them and spun them around. And they're all dizzy, and they're swinging, and they're not even near the pinata. That's life. A lot of times you feel like, man, I'm blind, I don't even know where I'm swinging right now, but I'm swinging. And so each kid hit the pinata. And the candy didn't come out. And so they take the blindfold off, that kid got tired. The next little boy came up, spun him around. So like, seven of them hit this pinata. No candy came out. The last boy, the smallest boy, the youngest boy there, they fill the blindfold on him, they spin him around, he's swinging too. That's life. You're just sort of

• 47:56Ed Mylett?

  swinging, right? They finally point him at the pinata. He hits the pinata just once. Bam. All the candy comes out. And all the kids jump on and celebrate. And I'm watching that, and I'm going, now who broke the pinata? Was it the last shot? Or was it the cumulative blows of each of the shots on the pinata? Well, we all know the answer. It was the cumulative shots. Life's a lot like that, man. That we're taking shots, but we don't see any physical progress. But every one more we're doing is compound pounding progress. And in life, you have to be willing to buy into what is invisible progress. Most people quit on their dream, quit on their vision, before the candy

• 48:39Ed Mylett?

  comes out. And what you and I didn't do is quit. We just kept swinging. And eventually, the candy comes out. The candy could be your bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety, your contribution. But most people are hitting the pinata of their life, and there's no evidence it's working. But the truth is, there's a compound pounding effect in life, that if you keep hitting your life's pinata, if you'll stick around, there'll be some candy come out. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. If you want to hear the full interview, be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Now on with the show.

• 49:20Speaker 05

  Now, how do you, so, one, I hope that people actually listen to you, because people do discount themselves. They do things, or have things happen to them that they're not proud of, that they think define who they are. And they never allow themselves to bring something beautiful to the world again, which is an absolute tragedy. So if the one is bringing this new way of thinking, if the person that thinks they are the most disqualified is able to channel that and make somebody's life better, how do they turn that into like something concrete that they can articulate? How do they turn it into a habit? Like, what is that process of going from, you know, Neo waking up and realizing that he can do something to actually dodging bullets?

• 50:02Ed Mylett?

  I think one of the things is the way that we approach time. This is something that almost no one talks about anymore. So I feel like you may be behind. You may actually be behind your destiny right now. Like, maybe you're not on pace. In fact, I think most people watching this, listening, will say, "I am behind on achieving my destiny." I'm not exactly sure what it is, but I feel like it's slipping. I feel like I'm behind. So you better figure out time differently. And you can bend and manipulate time to your advantage. The most stupid, antiquated, ridiculous concept on planet Earth today very, very well may be that a day is 24 hours. It's so stupid. It's the dumbest thing ever. 24-hour days were contrived when there were no cars. There was no electricity.

• 50:47Ed Mylett?

  If I wanted to get you a message, I had to write something down if I could, send it on a horseback, hope you get it. That's insane. Never mind the internet. So what used to take hours, days, weeks, months, years to do can be done now in a millisecond in the internet or on our smartphones. Yet we measure the time the same way that guy did? That's bananas. That is so stupid. Yet everybody does it. And so I, about 25 years ago, went, "I'm not the most talented. I'm not the smartest, and I'm really not." And you've had guests on your show with IQs maybe 100 points higher than mine. This is the truth. I know a couple of them. I had them on my show. How in the world? I don't come from, you know, a whole track record of success, right? I don't have the perfect upbringing. How in the world am I gonna win? I gotta do things other people aren't willing to do,

• 51:31Ed Mylett?

  which I'm doing, that's the one mores, and I gotta fix the way I look at time. What would I need to believe about time? What would I need to believe? What would the question be? And so my days now are from 6:00 AM to noon. That's a day. It's six hours. And in that day, some days you just chill. But in that day, I'm gonna get the amount of productivity, faith, working out, fitness, money, business, you name it, in that day. We've all had a morning where we go, "I got more done this morning than I have in weeks." Well, why can't you do that every morning? So I measure time. I've compressed and condensed time. I've bent it. My day is 6:00 AM to noon, and I'm not crazy. You're crazy for thinking it takes 24 hours, just like some dude in a cave did 300 years ago. That's bananas that you still think that way, and it's unfair that people have taught you this. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 PM. That's day two. But what the cool thing is, at the end of day one,

• 52:16Ed Mylett?

  this clock goes off about noon every day, bro, and goes, "What did I just get done? What didn't I do? What do I need to be accountable for? What do I need to double my efforts?" Just like you do at the end of most days, right? And then the next day is 6:00 PM to midnight. And some of those are just fun days. Some days I chill, right? But some days, they're really super productive. What I've done now is I have changed and manipulated time. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, I'm gonna kick your butt. Stack that up over a year, you're toast. Stack it up over five years, my entire life is different than it would have been otherwise. And if you do this for about 90 of your traditional days that you think are, you will come back to me and go, "That profoundly impacted my life." And here's the other thing that happens. The world responds to you differently when you value your time like that. What is precious is valuable.

• 52:59Ed Mylett?

  That's why a diamond or this watch is way more expensive than the piece of paper that's written down there, because it's more scarce. When your time, when you interact with the world, is slightly more scarce, they respond to you as if you're more valuable. So you get more accountability, more productivity, more fun, more joy, and the world flips its response to you. All of a sudden, you become more valuable and precious to people when your time is different. And you'll get thousands more days in your life and live a much more blissful and happy life than the person who only gets 24 hours.

• 53:28Speaker 05

  Yeah, so this is a concept that I really hope people take seriously. So I'm often asked, like, how frequently I evaluate my progress? And I'm like, "No, that's probably about every three hours." And I think people are surprised to hear that it's not daily, it's not weekly, certainly not monthly or yearly. It's like, I'm constantly, okay, was I productive in this period of time?

• 53:48Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 53:49Speaker 05

  In the book, you reference it, if I remember correctly, as like squeezing the air out of all those gaps, where most people are like, "Okay, you know, if I get this done in my day, then I'm fine." And if you took that and made your day those six hours, suddenly, it's like, okay, I need to be really efficient.

• 54:04Ed Mylett?

  What if you took that day, Tom, and then combined it with the power of doing one more, that mindset, and then chasing inconvenient things on top of it in those days?

• 54:11Speaker 05

  And on top of that, sprinkle the little self-love to make sure that you don't burn out.

• 54:14Ed Mylett?

  Little self-love, little reticular activating system, where we're doing repeated visualizations, where we're finding the things in those days that we need to be able to find. Uh-oh, you may just change your life.

• 54:25Speaker 05

  You know, I know exactly what happens. And you liken this to Kobe Bryant. And walk people through, like, so what Tim Grover has said about, like, his work ethic and extra practices and stuff, because it's like, I don't know how many times the successful people have to say the same things for people to get like, "Okay, cool, I get where this is going."

• 54:46Ed Mylett?

  You know, one really simple thing is this. You need to get in a bigger hurry. I can just distill it down to something simple. You need to get in a bigger hurry. You're too casual. You're too slow. You walk too slow. You talk too slow. You think in terms of too much time. And if you would just speed up the pace, man, like, you know this, when you're around someone like Kobe, or Grover, or you, or anyone that kind of vibrates at a frequency that feels like success energy, it's faster. You don't have to talk faster. Many of our most favorite people talk much slower than you and I do, but they're just in a little bit of a bigger hurry. I'll give you a Kobe thing that's not in the book, though, that just for me and you, and everyone gets to listen. Kobe was scheduled to do my show six days after he passed.

• 55:23Speaker 05

  Oh, God.

• 55:25Ed Mylett?

  And deeper than that, I was with Kobe the week before he passed away. Let me tell you the story about this, because I think it's pretty profound, about the one mores. In a volleyball tournament, our daughters played volleyball together. And it's, if you have a kid who plays volleyball, you all are going, "Yep, I get what that is. These are long days and noisy days." So this thing starts about 8:00 AM. All the dads are there. The last match was 10:00 PM.

• 55:52Speaker 05

  Oh, God.

• 55:53Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, dude. And I'm the last dad in there, except this other guy in a black sweatsuit with white stripes on it. And he's about 6'6". And it's Kobe. And we've been around each other many times at these tournaments, where the last of the two dads left. And so the tournament ends. His match was on a different end of the court than my daughter's was. Something happened. I have no idea why I did this, brother. I watched him this day. And I was on the other end, and I watched him. He had his baby in his left arm, his little one. And he was rubbing the back of his daughter that was playing. And literally, I went, "I don't hug Bella enough." Look how affectionate he is. It just stood out to me. And because it stood out to me, his outward affection, I watched him, bro.

• 56:38Ed Mylett?

  And I watched Kobe walk out of the gym that day with this baby and his arm around his other one. And I watched him walk out. And he obviously stood out because he was so tall. And I can picture him right now, Tom, walking out of that door for the last time. Six days later, he died. And I wonder, see, if you want to know the power of one more, it's when I take it from you, and you can't have it anymore. I wonder if someone would have whispered, "Kobe!" when he got in the car that day. "Six more days." How would that week maybe have been different for him? What would he have said? Who would he have loved? Who would he have reached out to? What would have mattered to him? How about the Saturday before? "Kobe, one more day." And he's getting on that helicopter.

• 57:23Ed Mylett?

  "Kobe, one more hour." See, it hits us when I say that. And there's a whisper happening that you can't hear. "Tom, eight more years, 18 more..." Whatever it is, there's a whisper. We forget, we're gonna die. Napoleon Hill says, "Begin with the end in mind." What if you did that with your life? What if you began with the end of your life in mind and worked it backwards? Bro, my favorite thing in the world was to golf with my dad. My favorite thing, man. We're both no good at golf. I put my hero in a golf cart with me for five hours, a foot away,

• 58:07Ed Mylett?

  and the conversations. Watch my dad walk a car. Do you know what I would do, bro, for one more round of golf with my dad? One more time. "Hey, Dad, good putt." "Yeah, that was a good one, wasn't it, Eddie?" Put his arm on me, high five. You know what I would do for that?

• 58:22Ed Mylett?

  What would you, how would you act if you started to think about all the elements of your life like Kobe's last six days, Kobe's one more day, Kobe's one more hour, me getting that back with my dad? What if you started to look at the relationships you have in your life like it was the last time you had a conversation with him? The last time you get to hold Lisa's hand and look into her eyes, right? But how much more precious does she become? Maybe it's the last podcast, the last interview. How much more precious would it be? How much more engaged could we be? Engaged as we are, that next meeting, that conversation with, is it Gerson over here, right? The conversation with him, man. See, when we begin to distill downs and we realize, yeah, there's a power to one more because they're not promised how many we have.

• 59:06Ed Mylett?

  And so that day with Kobe, it just burned it into my soul, man. When I watched him and then to see six days later, he was gone. That time with his family was so precious. And so I would just challenge everybody, if you want to know the power of one more, it's when I take it from you. And there's a power and there's a blessing that you get one more in your life. You're going to get another chance to talk to Lisa. You're going to get another great dinner with her. You're going to get another show. Those listeners have another day to change their life. They have another opportunity to do one more. They have another opportunity to make their family proud of them. They still have more time. They don't just have one more day probably to be the one in their family. Life is beautiful. It's precious. And sometimes we only have an appreciation for it in its absence.

• 59:49Ed Mylett?

  Sometimes we only have an appreciation for the power of the one more's or the people in our lives when we imagine their absence. And so I would just ask everybody to consider that. Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode.

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• 1:01:07Ed Mylett?

  That way. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So grateful you decided to join me again here this week and I have some special stuff for you. I've been asked a lot, what are some of the things on peak performance when you work with, you know, elite performers? I've been blessed that over the last 30 years, I've worked with some of the top athletes in the world, CEOs, political figures and entertainers as well. And what are some of the things that you work with them that you could teach us on the show and also that you've learned from them through, you know, friendships and coaching them? So I'm going to just share two this week with you because I think they're major. And even if you think you're familiar with these two topics, hang in there with me this week because I'm going to reinforce it on a much deeper level and explain to you that

• 1:01:50Ed Mylett?

  there's levels to this game of success and frankly of life. So the two things we're going to cover this week is repetitions, doing more repetitions, okay? And number two seems uncorrelated, but we're actually going to talk about deadlines and having deadlines in your life. It's two of the biggest things that I work on with the top performers behind the scenes that I coach. And so we're going to get into this week. Before I do it, my team keeps telling me to remind you all of this, that to get on my email list, if you go to edmylett.com and I think it says join here, just put your email in there. I have nothing to sell you. There's not going to be a funnel you're going to fall into. I just want to be able to communicate with you regularly. We're going to start sending out a newsletter about the shows that come out before they come out and you'll get early access. So go to edmylett.com and submit your email there and you'll be grateful that you did.

• 1:02:35Ed Mylett?

  Okay, now let's get into it. So this whole success thing, the difference between winning and losing is so small, it's almost too scary to talk about. It truly is. And the reason that people don't talk about it too much is they don't really know what it is. There's a lot of people unfortunately that are now in the coaching business or personal development that have really never won themselves outside of telling you how to win. And so a lot of their information, when I listen to it or the successful people that I coach listen to are like, what are they talking about? And so I want to give you two things that I know definitively work and this is from my own life and from the lives of the people that I work with. And in a minute, we'll give you a treat. This has been such a passionate topic for me and so fresh on my mind, as I was preparing

• 1:03:16Ed Mylett?

  for today's show yesterday, I was working, doing some other recording for something else, working and this concept came up to me and I recorded it out in my backyard looking at the ocean. And I'm going to throw to that clip in a minute. It's about seven minutes long because as I was doing it in the moment, the era of that moment, you're like, hey, I'm going to do this right now because I know later it won't be as good or as fresh. And so I recorded something for all of you yesterday that's going to be a part of today's podcast. And so if you're on YouTube, it'd be cool. You'll get a chance to see a different view. There's an ocean in the background. If you're on audio, that's okay too. It's going to be still the same information that the people on YouTube are going to get. But here we go. So number one thing is repetitions. I think most people don't really have a concept of how many practice repetitions it takes to get great at something.

• 1:03:59Ed Mylett?

  And in the clip I'm going to show you in a minute, you're going to understand exactly what I'm talking about, why reps matter and there are levels to this stuff. Let me give you an example of things that would probably blow your mind. I think you all probably know who Steph Curry is. Steph is going to be a Hall of Famer, probably top 10 NBA player of all time. Some people think he's the best player of all time, but he certainly knows the best shooter of all time in the history of the NBA. Went to Davidson College. This is not a guy that went to a big time school. He was not heavily recruited and even out of college, he was small. So a lot of people wasn't sure whether or not he was going to make a great NBA player. And his dad, Dell Curry, was an NBA player and even with having that pedigree, people doubted this kid. Now he's the greatest shooter and it's not even arguable of all time in the history of the NBA. But why is that?

• 1:04:43Ed Mylett?

  Because a lot of guys in the NBA are great shooters. A lot of them have a talent for it and a lot of them practice a lot too, right? Practice and doing repetitions. You don't get to the NBA with a lot of repetitions. But even in the NBA, there are levels to this game. Listen to this. To this day, Steph Curry takes 500 practice shots a day. 500. That's 3,500 a week, 14,000 a month, 168,000 practice shots a year. And now it's almost 2.8 million practice shots in his career. Think about that just for a second. Now, wouldn't it be easy for Steph Curry to go, I already know how to shoot. I've already made a lot of shots in my life. What's the point of me doing more and more of this? It's monotonous. I'm already good at it.

• 1:05:27Ed Mylett?

  It's just routine. And that's what you think with your sales presentation. That's what you think with your phone calls. That's what you think about everything in your life. And too many of you have set a standard for yourself that's just as good as you already are. But Steph Curry knows that the more and more he does this reflexively, then he can operate under pressure. Then he can operate when he's fatigued. It's one thing to shoot shots. I was listening to his video of another great shooter named Ray Allen and he said, man, I didn't just jump and shoot because in a normal game, I'm running up and down the floor. He goes, I watch a lot of guys do practice shots. They barely get their feet off the floor an inch or two. I take a full shot, jump just as high on my practice shot as I do on a game shot because I'm going to be that much higher off the ground when I shoot. So a lot of guys practice, they make their 100 practice shots, but it's not at full speed.

• 1:06:12Ed Mylett?

  It's not under the same amount of pressure. Steph Curry does 500 a day and he's already the greatest. He's already made millions of shots and he keeps doing more of it because there's levels to greatness. Just get this straight. Greatness always rises to the top. If you feel under recognized right now, underappreciated at your job, just realize this. If you're great, they eventually find you. Success eventually finds you. If you want to be a millionaire in whatever your business is, you have to be outstanding at it. You can't be just the best person in your office or in your town. You've got to be the best in the industry. And the best is not more talented, the best does more reps, repetitions. Tiger Woods was known to hit around 1,000 golf balls per day in his prime.

• 1:06:57Ed Mylett?

  He was obsessed with practicing. He would practice over 10 hours a day on the practice range. He would practice up to 10 hours a day and he was already Tiger Woods. Think about this just for a second. A thousand shots a day. He'd say a thousand contacts a day. He was already Tiger Woods. He'd already won all these golf tournaments. He was already known as the one or two best players in the world, but there's levels to this game. That's how he dominated. See, it's one thing to win for a year or two years, but to dominate for a decade. Do you know that I know a lot of people that were successful in business for a year or two or three that are now broke or that used to be wealthy and not anymore? Because when they got to a decent level, they stopped refining their game. They stopped doing the reps.

• 1:07:41Ed Mylett?

  Listen to me, please. Most of you that even have some momentum right now, you take for granted the game. Do you know how many reps and hours I put in to do a podcast like this? I'm going to talk about it when the video comes back to me. I've done thousands of hours on camera, thousands of hours on stage and I still practice and practice and practice because I know there's levels to this game. Let me tell you a fascinating story. About four years ago, a very, I'll just tell you, Adele bought a home where I lived and she lived kind of across the fairway at this golf course from me. And I didn't know that she had bought the house. And I woke up one night, it was like two o'clock in the morning and I'm hearing all this music. It was blaring across the fairway into my backyard and I was really upset. I'm like, I got to sleep, right?

• 1:08:24Ed Mylett?

  So I go into the backyard and I listened for a few minutes and then it was not great music. It was karaoke. And I'm like, I'm not going to listen to this for the next two or three hours. I got to sleep. And so I actually got dressed and I started to drive over to her house, not knowing that it was her house yet because she had just moved in. In fact, it was her birthday. And all of a sudden the music changed and like a voice of an angel started singing. I mean, like of an angel. And it was Adele. And I start listening to this and I stop, I go, I'm about to get a 30 minute concert from Adele in my own backyard. It was the coolest thing ever. And I just listened to this beautiful voice and I was so glad I didn't go over and ask

• 1:09:08Ed Mylett?

  them to stop. And the next morning at breakfast, I saw her there and I said, I just got to tell you something. I was almost in your backyard. She goes, well, actually one of the other neighbors did come over. And I said, it was just so great to hear your voice. And I said, I'm just curious, like, how often do you practice? Let me tell you what she told me. I wanted to make sure I wrote this down. She said, well, I'm about to do a Vegas residency soon and me and my team will put in over 2,400 hours of reps and practice before we have the first show. And she said, I'll probably sing the average song there. I wrote it down here. At least 100 hours each probably.

• 1:09:48Ed Mylett?

  She's already Adele. She's already refining her craft. Because she knows under pressure, when the crowds bigger, she's not feeling well, or she's tired. She still wants to be at her best. See, most people just have a standard of, I want to get pretty good, and then on their good day, they're good. But how are you on your bad day? How are you when you're sick? How are you when you're tired? How are you when you're stressed? How are you when you've had a fight with your spouse? How are you when it's a really big appointment or an important one? And so, I don't know, Tiger Woods does it, Steph Curry does it, Adele does it. You could argue, these are three of the goats of all time in their industry, and I could keep naming people for you if you want. But hopefully, that sets the stage for repetitions. Whatever you think is enough, it's not. You gotta do more. And I address more in this video.

• 1:10:31Ed Mylett?

  I'm gonna throw it to the video in my backyard I recorded yesterday, because I can't do it this well again. So here we go, listen to this. So this week, we're gonna talk about two things. Repetition and deadlines. And these have been two things in, you know, in my career that have become benchmarks of success that are kind of secrets. I was speaking this weekend in Dallas for a friend of mine, Kent Clover. And in the green room, there were several people in there, very complimentary that, you know, I was their, you know, best speaker they've seen in their life, and nice things. And the guy said to me, he said, hey, man, like, you know, and I've watched you, I've come to this group, this particular group that I spoke to, I've spoken to them. About every three years, he brings me in, and it's a different message. Over the three years, actually completely different, six years ago, three years ago, and then this year.

• 1:11:16Ed Mylett?

  And he said, like, he goes, like, I just feel like you're getting better and better, which is a great compliment to hear. I was, you know, love hearing that. I don't know if it's true or not, but I love hearing it. And I said, well, one of the things, man, is I'm crazy about getting my reps in, my repetition. One of the reasons I do speak so much is it keeps me sharp and I keep getting better. You do something enough times, over and over and over again. If you're smart, you're learning from each experience, you're taking notes, what worked, what didn't, what setup didn't work, what conclusion didn't, how can I tie it down different? Maybe it's the sequencing, maybe something I think's gonna work on stage doesn't work at all. But I said, I only know this because I've done hundreds, if not thousands of reps on stage. And the reason that I still speak, people say to me often, like, why do you still travel so much and speak? I'm paid when I do it, but it's certainly not something that I need to be doing.

• 1:12:01Ed Mylett?

  I really do it, A, because it's not worked to me, and I feel like I'm making a difference when I do it. And I'm having a sense of contribution. The second reason is, and I talk oftentimes about this with a lot of my comedian friends, I don't want to lose my edge, I want to keep expanding and keep growing. And the more speaking I do, the better I get, as long as I'm taking lessons every time I do it. Well, this is true for you, in your craft, you've got to do more reps. Not only because you're gonna have a higher propensity of getting more accounts, more clients, more whatever, but you're going to get better. Most people aren't doing enough reps at whatever their chosen craft is. My son asks me all the time in golf, Dad, what do you think I'm not doing that I need to? More reps, more reps, more reps. And I know people will tell you often in personal development, well, more isn't always better.

• 1:12:44Ed Mylett?

  Well, that's probably true to some extent in some things, but overall, more is better. And it's not just better because you're putting more out there with more chances to win, but you are getting better. And anybody that you've ever seen in your life, if you watch them over one year, three years, five years, they get better. You gotta get great. The people that get wealthy in this world, they get great at what they do. Whatever they do, they're great. And so, you gotta do more reps. I want to challenge you this week, more contacts, more calls, more Zooms, more whatever it is that you do. And then from each experience, deduce what worked, what didn't, and expand and improve from it. This is really important, like, I think many of you have seen me speak on stage, for example, and you think, man, this is like, you know,

• 1:13:29Ed Mylett?

  if you think I'm decent at it, my gosh, like, he just walks out there and does it. Well, I don't, I've just walked out there and done it thousands of times. And when I do it, I reflect afterwards. I have some introspection, what did I enjoy about it? What didn't I enjoy? There are things that I regularly think, oh, the crowd's gonna love this one, and then they don't. Or it doesn't hit, or the sequence is wrong. My stand-up friends, when you watch a stand-up special on like Netflix, for example, or, you know, Amazon, my friends that put those specials on, whether it's Sebastian Maniscalco, or Jeff Foxworthy, or Nikki Glaser, or Whitney Cummings, or whatever, Nate Bargatze, whatever comedian you see. You understand, they've been doing that routine for several years before they film a special.

• 1:14:11Ed Mylett?

  Oftentimes, it's usually about two years in between specials, and they start with new content. Two years, they've told every one of those jokes with a different pause, a different nuance, a different setup. To get it so dialed in. And these are the best in the world, and they won't record it for two years. Sometime, Rogan just went, I think, four years in between specials. And that, and it's only for an hour of content. They want to get the reps in, the reps in, the reps in, under different conditions, different circumstances, like small crowds, big crowds. And in your case, friendly clients, not so friendly clients, like over and over and over, then you get great. Then it's almost automatic, and then you become more impactful. So more reps at whatever you do. The second thing is deadlines.

• 1:14:55Ed Mylett?

  I'm kind of a psycho about it. And not enough people have deadlines on what they want to get done. For example, you many of you know, I'm developing the houses on my island. And one of the mistakes I made is I did not give them a deadline when they were gonna be finished. So they're just getting done whenever they do. And not only is it taking longer than it needs to take, they're missing the rhythm of success. Successful people have a pace, an urgency, a speed to them. That's unnoticed by the naked eye, but it's critical. And the only way that you find that pace is if everything has a deadline. So if you're gonna make 10 contacts today, by what time? Not just 10 contacts, don't lollygag the 10 throughout the day. By what time? If you've got a money goal for the month, by what date? If you've got a weight loss goal, by what date, what specific amount of weight? About everything I have has a deadline to it.

• 1:15:39Ed Mylett?

  This video that I'm recording right now, I had a deadline set for when it had to be recorded by for me. And it's moved me toward, you know what started to happen? I knew the deadline was coming, my mind started working on what I wanted to say, I started processing the information sooner. I knew it was coming, and so I've worked on this like three or four times over the last three or four days, as opposed to, oh, I'll just wing it, let me knock out a video. So deadlines create urgency, they create the right pace, but they also trigger your subconscious mind, particularly your unconscious mind, starts to go to work on whatever it is you're going to do when a deadline's attached to it. And it doesn't do that if there's no deadline. So let's just say, for example, I had a presentation I wanted to have completed by. If I don't set a deadline to it, it does not go to the unconscious file to start working on it.

• 1:16:23Ed Mylett?

  But when I go, I have to have that presentation ready by Thursday at 3:00 PM. This clock starts ticking in your unconscious, and now you begin to create all, and pull from all the resources of your unconscious and subconscious mind to start working on that presentation, even though you may not have consciously started working on it. Because there's a deadline attached, the big parts of your brain go to work on something. Isn't that powerful? Lot of data tells us this lately. By simply attaching a deadline, your subconscious and unconscious mind starts to go to work on making that thing great, even though you haven't consciously worked on it. And you rob yourself from all the benefits of memory, of cadence, of pulling those files up, of references, all the power of your spirit and your being.

• 1:17:08Ed Mylett?

  You rob yourself of all of that, simply because there's no deadline attached, because it doesn't move the file up in your subconscious mind to go to work on it. I don't exactly understand how that works, but I know that it does, you know that it does too. You ever have to get up really early in the morning beyond your normal time? You ever even realize how hard, isn't it more difficult to sleep those nights? Because your mind's like, I gotta get up at four, I gotta get up at four. It's going to work on getting up, which isn't good for your sleep, because there's a deadline set on it. The deadline makes you more productive, gives you the speed and urgency that you need to get something done. So now you're in the rhythm and pace of success. But that's the, that's the other part. The invisible part is your mind's going to work on making it great, even though you consciously have it. All right, everybody, repetitions and deadline this week. All right, so there you have it.

• 1:17:52Ed Mylett?

  So listen, I wanted to play that for you because I wanted you to have some understanding. And the other thing about repetitions, and then I'm gonna talk about the mind, because I use some terms, there's subconscious and unconscious mind. And I want to make some distinctions for you about those two things, because they are slightly different, in my opinion. But one thing about reps, just like for this podcast, for example, you guys, you know, I could mail in these podcasts when I do them. And I think my producer will tell you that, you know, most people have a producer that writes everything for them, and I write every one of these shows. All of the content you're seeing here today did not come from a producer, came from me. I don't have somebody write my scripts. When I have someone come on the podcast, I do have a producer do a cursory review.

• 1:18:30Ed Mylett?

  But I try my best every time to put two to three hours into every single podcast, sometimes five and seven hours, when I'm interviewing somebody. I'll watch other interviews of theirs, I'll read the book if I have the time to do it. You know, I've been a guest on hundreds of podcasts, and it's blown me away over the years, the discrepancy in preparation level. And so I think when you see somebody do something, whether they're speaking on stage, or they're great at sales, or they close, well, you know, they're persuasive, or a podcast like this, you think, well, they're probably pretty natural at it. Well, yeah, there's three stages of progress in life. I've covered this on a podcast a long time ago. But the three stages are the awkward stage. Awkward is where you just knew it's something and you're terrible at it. Right? You're just not any good at it because you're new at

• 1:19:13Ed Mylett?

  it. And when you do enough and enough repetitions, you move from awkward to what I call mechanical. And it's kind of where you kind of know the words, you know, the structure, it's pretty darn good. But it's still kind of, you know, hit and miss. It looks a little machinist. It looks a little rehearsed. It doesn't seem, what is step three? The natural stage. And the natural stage is it just looks like these people were born to do it. It's easy for them. They roll out of bed and it's a cakewalk. And then there's levels to natural. See, a great high school shooter looks pretty natural when you go to high school. And you go, well, that kid's the best kid. Then when you go to division one college, that's the best kid. And then when you go to the NBA, they can all have a natural shot. And then there's Steph Curry. And I know from golf, having a son who's a professional golfer, you know, you go to an average golf tournament, you can find the two or three kids who look

• 1:19:57Ed Mylett?

  a little bit awkward. Or maybe they have a mechanical golf swing. And then there's the two or three that are natural. And you go, that's a natural. Well, no, you've just got more reps, and more productive reps, more correct reps. And then even from there, then there's Tiger Woods. And that's a whole different level from the best of all time. And so these reps matter. I just want to challenge you to be doing more of it. By the way, it makes you more comfortable. It takes away your nervousness. You operate well under pressure. We always operate reflexively to our habits under pressure. And if you haven't practiced, I think what's incredible to me is that people just lose the stomach for it. And here's why. It's boring. It's monotonous. Unless you're trying to learn. When I get offstage, you guys, anytime you've seen me speak, one thing I won't, that you

• 1:20:38Ed Mylett?

  wouldn't see, is I immediately go through, it's borderline self-loathing. I've had other speakers, even pastors and I discussed this, but like, when I get off the stage, my mind immediately goes into, what could I have done better? What worked? What didn't work? What did I forget to say? How did I miss that moment? Man, I talked right over the applause, or I hesitated there. And I go into this mode where most speakers, just so you know, when they walk offstage, if you wonder what they're actually doing, they're asking the mic, they're asking the AV people, did I do okay? When they go back to the green room, did I do all right? When a singer walks offstage, and they seem so confident, they killed it. Was I okay tonight? They immediately become insecure. My standup comedian friends, almost every single one of them, they're done, bro, I messed the third joke up. Can

• 1:21:21Ed Mylett?

  you believe? Man, was it all right? Did they catch it? So everyone looks confident up there. And right when they get back, the great ones are in self-reflection. They're in awareness. They audit the performance. They learn from it. They get better. I'm so addicted to that, that I've been speaking on stage for 30 years. I've been fortunate that I've been picked the number one speaker in the world now, three of the last four years. And I don't, that's all a matter of opinion. It's nice to be acknowledged for it. But I certainly don't feel like it. If you knew how much beating of myself up I do, when every podcast is done, the first thing I say to my producer is, was that okay? And he's nodding and laughing right now, I guarantee you. Right? Because it's the first thing I say. And then I'll go through for hours afterwards, in my mind, what I could

• 1:22:03Ed Mylett?

  have done better, how I should have said this. Oh, my gosh, I hesitated there. You think, is it that important? Yeah, because it's my craft. It's my form of expression. I think if you started to look at your career, whether you're a custodian, a janitor, a flight attendant, an entrepreneur, a school teacher, a police officer, you play the piano, whatever it is, what if you started to look at your career like you were an NBA athlete? Like you were Tiger Woods? Like you were an artist, like Adele? That it's your form of expression? Steph Curry's form of expression is basketball. Tiger Woods' way of expressing his genius and his greatness was in his golf. Adele's greatness and genius is through

• 1:22:45Ed Mylett?

  her music. Well, in my way, it's my speaking. It's my content. It's my work. Have you ever been on a flight with like, an exceptional flight attendant? Like, an exceptional one? They bring a joy, an effort, a professionalism, an attention to detail, a standard that's meticulous, and you notice it, I always tell them. Or a server in a restaurant, you've had hundreds of servers, haven't you? Then there's those two or three special ones. Have you ever had anybody do any work on your home? You know, a lot of people do work on your home. And then there's the one, and they just take pride in it. And they're good at it. And they've got this mix of confidence and humility. They're confident they're really

• 1:23:26Ed Mylett?

  good, but humility that they want to get better. That's the nuance of success. And I don't want you to miss this. You've got to be great. Don't let everybody out there tell you, you're awesome as you are. Would you say that to your kids if they're bringing home Ds and they could get As? You would never say that to them. And by the way, you don't even believe it anyway. Because you know, you were born to do something great. I look at you, I look at my friends, like, I believe in you so much, I see the best version of you, not the current one. Now, I love the current one, but I know there's another version. And I don't accept the one in front of me if there's one that could be better. I don't accept an eight out of 10 speech for me if a 10 was my capacity.

• 1:24:09Ed Mylett?

  That's the point. I guarantee you, those thousand shots that Tiger Woods hit, we're with focus, we're with reflection, we're with adjustments afterwards. That's what makes it worth it. Every shot's different that Steph Curry takes. Every note's different for Adele. Every time she's learning more about her voice and her nuances. She's also told me that sometimes when she's singing a particular song, lyrics for another one come to her. So, how, why is that? Well, now we're going to talk about something that I covered in the video there. What is the difference, by the way? Because it's conflated stuff. And there's even a debate that they even exist, by the way, the subconscious and unconscious mind. But is there a difference? Because Freud, actually, for a long time, Freud thought they were the same thing. And then he kind of evolved his thinking. And

• 1:24:54Ed Mylett?

  to me, there's a little bit of a difference between the subconscious and the unconscious. We know what the conscious mind is. We all know what that is. But the subconscious, when we talk about the idea of deadlines now, as we shift into that concept, what the subconscious does is it has automatic actions, like breathing and heart rate, it does that for you. It regulates your daily life. It can be identified when you're introspective. It stores memories, beliefs, and experiences. It can be identified through introspection, as I've said, but it can also protect you from sensory overload. It's almost like the subconscious mind is almost like an operating system running in the background. And when you have a deadline you set on something, which was part two, it enrolls a part of your mind that's not enrolled when there's no deadline. And that's why, like, when, like

• 1:25:38Ed Mylett?

  I said, when you got to get up early in the morning, or even right now, if you have something major coming up, or you have before, like, you have a due date and you're pregnant, what it does is it starts to cause you to flash forward to that day, and the aftermath, and the preparation for it. Getting the room ready for the baby, having a stroller in place. You start to do things when there's a deadline or a due date. If you've got a big presentation coming up in the next few weeks, your mind thinks about it and starts to work on it, doesn't it? Or you got a party you're planning, or you ever have before? Your mind's working on it, even when you're not. That's what the subconscious mind does. And you only enroll that part of your brain when you put a deadline on something. That's

• 1:26:19Ed Mylett?

  why repetitions and deadlines matter. The unconscious mind includes thoughts, memories, desires, that aren't consciously known. And when you set a deadline for something, you begin to pull from thoughts that you don't have consciously. Memories of previous successes or failures that serve you in the new one with the new deadline. And new dreams and desires that could be somehow correlated as a vertical, or something connected to this thing you've got that a deadline's on. You can also have socially unacceptable ideas, wishes and desires that are just there in your unconscious. Your unconscious also has traumatic memories and painful emotions. The unconscious mind has automatic responses

• 1:27:01Ed Mylett?

  and reflexes, like breathing and digestion in it. And it's not something you can just summon on cue. But when you put a deadline to it, you can. The reason that this matters is, your brain is constantly trying to conserve energy. So when you come up with a goal, or an idea, or a to-do list of things you need to do, your brain immediately does not want you to put a deadline on it. Because then if you put a deadline on it, it can't save energy. It's constantly trying to get you to avoid deadlines. I'll get around to it. It doesn't matter. As long as I get all 10 done today, who cares by when? Doesn't matter if I do my homework, as long as, you know, I get it done. But when you put a deadline, your brain tries to resist it, because your brain's like, ah, now I can't hide from you. And then you flipped on your subconscious and unconscious mind, and now it's taking

• 1:27:45Ed Mylett?

  energy. That brain of yours is constantly trying to avoid you. And to get you to avoid deadlines, because it doesn't want to enroll the part of the mind that then requires energy from it. It's an energy saver. It's so lazy, it's crazy. And so that's why there's such massive power to deadlines, beyond, you'll hurry up, beyond the pace that I said, the rhythm and pace of success, beyond that. You've enrolled and enlisted a part of your brain that isn't enrolled if there's no deadline attached to it. Does that make sense to everybody? And so if that does make sense to you, here's the key benefits of some deadlines, okay? Number one, the pressure of an approaching deadline can push you to work harder and faster to achieve the goal. By the way, what's great about that is then you've knocked

• 1:28:28Ed Mylett?

  that out. You can be on to the next thing. I think when I said earlier, there's levels to this thing with the repetition, there's also levels to the pace. They're just levels of the pace.

• 1:28:39Ed Mylett?

  There is typically an impatience to most successful people. And I know patience is a virtue and I'd even in my life like to have more of it. But I have to be really candid with you. The standard for speed with the ultra-successful is different than the other people that don't win. It's invisible. You probably wouldn't know it, but when you were around them, they even seem a little pushy. Some people would call them demanding. And this is why as a leader, if you're leading people, you gotta have deadlines. And you've got to focus on the reps and you've got to focus on speed. The key benefits of this is it does put some pressure on people. Pressure is good. Pressure is a privilege.

• 1:29:21Ed Mylett?

  Remember this, the separation is in the preparation. I don't separate myself when I get on stage. I separated myself before I ever got there. I don't separate myself doing a podcast like this. I separate myself before I ever got there. Tiger Woods didn't separate himself necessarily on the golf course. It was before he got there. Adele doesn't separate herself on stage. It's before she gets there. Steph Curry, before he takes the court.

• 1:29:47Ed Mylett?

  For you, it's the before. And this is the stuff that you'll never see on Instagram. It's not sexy. It's not beautiful. It's what you do when nobody's watching that matters the most, not when they are watching. If you do the right things when nobody is watching, you will shine when everybody is watching. That's the irony. Deadlines help with prioritization, getting things in sequence. Sometimes stuff needs to move in front of other things sequentially. And when you have a deadline, it puts in priority the sequence of things. It can help people identify the most important tasks. In your company, you don't have enough deadlines. I'm not talking about month-long. I'm talking about hours-long. Hey, 10 contacts by noon. Five of these by then, three Zooms by this, right? Like deadlines.

• 1:30:29Ed Mylett?

  I know this isn't like glamorous. It's not the same as when I'm talking about breathing or walking on the beach. You know, people love those, but when it comes to the work in life, most people start to, it's this low vibration, man. I don't know if I want to know all this. But yet you want to be a millionaire, yet you want to win. Do you want me to talk to you as a friend? Do you want me to give you the real stuff? Cause you can just come to my content every week and I can just make you feel good. And I do that a lot because I think life is about that. But then there's times where we have to look at each other, friend to friend here, mentor to mentee and say, hey, let's go. Let's get this together, man. There's another level, my friend, sister. You know there's another level. You can feel it. Improved planning happens when you set deadlines.

• 1:31:11Ed Mylett?

  Deadlines force individuals to think through steps they need to complete in a task and use their time effectively. Deadlines create accountability, both for who you are working with and for yourself. When a deadline is set, people are held accountable for meeting their commitments and this shifts the company. When you want to shift the energy of your church, your boy scout troop, your girl scout troop, the scouts, whatever they're called now, a business, a family, you put deadlines on things, right? Hey, we're gonna take a family vacation this summer. Hey, mom, dad, when's it gonna be planned by? Where are we going? What are the dates? It also facilitates collaboration. Deadlines can help teams stay aligned and work together towards a common goal. It also does something that I call early issue identification.

• 1:31:55Ed Mylett?

  By setting deadlines, potential issues, challenges and problems get identified sooner in the process, which allows you to make adjustments that don't happen when there's no deadline. Then you get caught last minute, oh my gosh, this happened. Oh my gosh, that. I'll give you an example. Today, today, I was supposed to do another podcast with a guest today. They were gonna be in their home. There's an issue with their roof and they can't do it because of the noise going on. But because I have deadlines on how many shows I have to get in by when, we're okay with that. But can you imagine if this, if there was no deadline and that podcast I needed to be released next week to 10 million people like we do every week? And there was no deadline on the other ones? Then this problem comes up, we'd be in big trouble.

• 1:32:36Ed Mylett?

  But right now we're good because we've identified the potential problem well in advance, rescheduled it. That's because there was a deadline. And so this is because it forces the brain, as I've said, to use energy immediately. So your brain's going to resist this stuff. So you gotta resist all of it. So listen to me. Last thing I'll tell you.

• 1:32:55Ed Mylett?

  You deserve to win. You do. And I think you're much closer than it might seem. For most of you, it's not a major overhaul in your life or your approach to your business or your life that's required. It's a simple, small, fine-tuning, like a little carburetor adjustment on an old car. See, the world would convince you, you're either on it all the way or you're miles away. I don't think you're miles away. In fact, I know you're not. You wouldn't be listening to me today or watching me today if you were miles off. You're not miles off. That's the enemy trying to get you to believe that.

• 1:33:36Ed Mylett?

  The truth is, and I've said this many times in my book, The Power of One More, which is sitting right here. Now it's up straight. You're one decision away or one new action, one new adjustment, one new contact, one new relationship, one new thought, one new idea. One new deadline away.

• 1:33:57Ed Mylett?

  You know what happens when you shoot all those reps, all those shots? When you're in a slump, you find the adjustment. You go, ah, my elbow was too far out. I got it. Because not only are you doing the reps, you're evaluating it and making adjustments as you go. You're much closer than you think. Trust me. I know it seems miles away. I know it seems like it's never gonna happen for someone like you. Let me let you know something on the inside. I thought the same thing about my life. Most of the people you admire went through that same self-doubt, went through that same idea of, man, this is, this is not me. This happens to other people. I keep doing this and it's not happening. I'm telling you that if you'll begin to do the two things we talked about today, it may be for you the one thing you need to change.

• 1:34:42Ed Mylett?

  And what I'm gonna do every single week on this show is I'm gonna keep bringing you ideas that work, strategies that work, inspiration that moves you every single week on the show. And the reason that I do it, I have to oftentimes reflect on. And the reason that I do it is I so deeply believe the world needs you.

• 1:35:03Ed Mylett?

  I don't believe the world is gonna change because of a political movement. I believe the world changes from a grassroots revolution of good people making a difference in other people's lives in their core genius way. If that's a great flight attendant, a great astronaut, a great scientist, a great doctor, a great teacher, a great salesperson, a great mom, a great business leader, a great singer. I just believe the world's better when people are at the highest expression of themselves and expanding all the time in their life. Big believer in you, my brother or sister, big believer in you. If today helped you, set a deadline of the next two minutes to share this episode with somebody.

• 1:35:48Ed Mylett?

  And maybe you need to listen to or watch it twice. That would be the repetitions that might serve you.

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