Changing THIS Will Change Your Life

Your PERSPECTIVE directly determines THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE. This week, I’m doing a deep dive into how your perspective defines your reality and shapes our lives, emotions, and successes. AND I’m giving you 3 KEYS TO SHIFTING PERSPECTIVE to improve the quality of your life. This episode isn't just about adjusting your outlook; it's about foundational changes that lead to monumental growth and fulfillment. Whether it's overcoming challenges, appreciating life's nuances, or shifting your emotional responses - understanding the role of perspective is crucial. I’m revealing the 3 pivotal strategies that can help you shift your perspective: 1. Asking Better Questions: Learn how the quality of your questions determines the quality of your life. By enhancing the questions you ask yourself, you can unlock more meaningful and positive thought patterns. 2. Changing Meanings: I'll guide you through how to assign empowering meanings to your life experiences. This approach not only changes how you view challenges but also transforms them into stepping stones for success. 3. Reconnecting with Your Center: Discover practices that ground you and reconnect you to your core, whether it's through spirituality, nature, or personal rituals that foster peace and clarity. All of these feed into a greater mission of knowing and paying attention to yourself to a higher degree. PERSPECTIVE IS EVERYTHING. It's time to reshape your world by reshaping your perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

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• 0:43Ed Mylett?

  And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it waiting weeks on a big bank for capital. Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason. Over 20 years in business, over $12 billion deployed to small business across America. Stop letting bank delays slow down your momentum. Head to cardiff.co/Ed. That's cardiff.co/Ed. Cardiff.co. Real growth, fast funding.

• 1:28Ed Mylett?

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• 1:35Speaker 01

  This is the Ed Meyer Show.

• 1:39Ed Mylett?

  Welcome back to the show, everybody. It's such a blessing to be with you this week. I'm going to give you three keys today to, I think, just shifting perspective. Today's podcast is really about your perspective on life and how you see things. It's such a critical thing in life. And isn't it interesting that when we have a tragedy or something difficult in our life, or we hear about it with someone else, how that instantly changes our perspective? For a little bit, for a little bit. You ever have that if there's a passing of somebody that you love or in your family? It makes you reevaluate and recalibrate life and what really matters to you. But doesn't it seem like that's fleeting? And it's just for a while and then you find yourself six months, a year later, back to thinking and doing exactly what you did before.

• 2:23Ed Mylett?

  And so that happens with me as well. And so I saw this quick video this week that this is, these are not my words, but they made an impact on me and I wanted to share the words in this video with you because they were so compelling for me. And I think it'll be a gift for you as well. And then I would give you some takeaways that I took from these words. So here we go. I asked God, "Why are you taking me through troubled waters?" He replied, "Because your enemies can't swim." I asked, "Why do I always feel like I'm failing and struggling?" He answered, "Because your growth and accomplishments come from facing challenges and overcoming difficulties.

• 3:06Ed Mylett?

  Every failure is a stepping stone to success." I asked God again, "Why do I sometimes feel like life is filled with pain and helplessness?" He responded, "Because in your weakest moments, I am by your side. I use your pain to shape your character and your helplessness to showcase my power." Continuing, I inquired, "Why do I have to experience disappointment and setbacks?" He replied, "Because in disappointment, you learn to trust. In setbacks, you learn to persevere. I am with you every step of the way, guiding you towards victory." Finally, I asked, "Why do I always feel confused and lost?"

• 3:48Ed Mylett?

  He answered, "Because you overlook my plan for your life. When you focus on me, I will smooth your path and provide you with clear direction. Trust me, everything is within my control."

• 4:03Ed Mylett?

  It's had a big impact on me, a profound impact, because I think oftentimes, we do wonder why certain things happen in our life, and I think perspective is everything, you know? When I talk to people that are a little bit older than me, I'm always blown away by the perspective that they have. I recall when Max was about six years old, every weekend on Saturdays, I would take Max down to the car wash. And we would get my car washed, and it was back in the days where there really wasn't a lot of internet at the time. So there was a man there that we would see every Saturday, an older man, and he was reading his newspaper. And I think he sat there for hours, frankly. I always wondered, like, this guy's car took a long time to get washed. I think he would just come down there and read his paper, and maybe his car was, maybe it was being detailed, or he just let them work on it while he sat there.

• 4:48Ed Mylett?

  And so he would always, we'd always say hello, and he was a nice man. And, but I could tell that he wasn't happy. I could tell there was something unsettled in his spirit, and I watched him several times. It looked sad to me. And I took notice of it. You ever just feel someone's energy? And I remember several times seeing this man feeling some kind of sympathy for him. And I'll never forget this, because he, one Sunday, he goes, "So how old is Max?" And I said, "He's six years old." And he gave me great advice. He said, "Well, enjoy the six-year-old, because when he turns seven, that six-year-old's gone forever." And if you're a parent, you know that's true. That six-year-old really does go away, and there's a brand-new person at seven.

• 5:33Ed Mylett?

  And he goes, "In fact, enjoy the seven-year-old, because once he turns eight, that seven-year-old's gone forever. They become a whole new person and remake themselves." And, and you know what? And enjoy him when he's 16, because when he turns 17, that 16-year-old teenager's a completely different person. They just, they keep changing and growing. And I didn't even mean it in a mean way. But I remember I turned to him, and I said, "Sir, when did that process stop for you?" And he put the paper down. He said, "Again?" I said, "When did you stop remaking yourself every year?"

• 6:13Ed Mylett?

  And he sat back and he went,

• 6:17Ed Mylett?

  "I don't know. I guess maybe,

• 6:21Ed Mylett?

  maybe my early mid twenties."

• 6:24Ed Mylett?

  I said, "You should evaluate that." I said, "One of the things I'm most obsessed with in my life is that the 33-year-old me will be gone forever when I turn 34, replaced with a whole new, better, growing version of me." This episode is sponsored by Ro. A lot of people assume GLP-1's cost a fortune, and that assumption keeps them from even looking into treatment. Ro helps people find a more affordable path to FDA-approved GLP-1 treatment. Ro wants to help people lose weight. That's why they have more affordable GLP-1 options, whether you're paying with insurance or cash. Ro's free insurance checker makes it easy to see if you're covered for GLP-1 injections. Just submit your insurance card and Ro handles the rest. No paperwork, no waiting on hold, no confusing phone calls.

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• 7:52Ed Mylett?

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• 8:43Ed Mylett?

  And I hope someday when I'm 40, that when I turn 41, the 40 year old's gone forever. Just like the six year old Eddie Mylett, there was a new version of him and improved. Now, obviously you take parts of you into your future, but there's a new and improved version every year. I'm remaking myself. You know, you can look into your body, your lung tissue, your digestive tract, even your bones are remaking themselves on a very regular basis. It's part of nature to be reborn and remade. But so many people lack the perspective in their life and that lack of perspective causes them to not grow anymore. There's this great quote that I used to throw around all the time that said, "Most men die in their early twenties.

• 9:24Ed Mylett?

  We just don't get around to burying them until they're in their seventies." Too many people right now are not remaking themselves and wondering why they're not happy. This requires growth. This requires perspective. And I think that quote that I read you earlier about God, whatever your version of God is in your life, however you look at that, everyone knows how I look at it. But however you look at that, that it changes your perspective and that the things that happen in your life take on a different meaning. See, everything in life is what does something mean to us? If you can change the meaning of something, you can change everything in your life. But once we stop growing and changing, it all starts to feed the same meaning. They ever say, "Well, you keep telling the same story to yourself."

• 10:07Ed Mylett?

  That's a big thing in personal, change your story and you should change your story. But in order to change the story, you have to change what you believe things mean. And so that's why the questions that that person was asking that God was answering changes the meaning of when things happen. So I'm a big believer that you are supposed to be replacing yourself. So if you're 28 years old and you're listening to this today, one of your ambitions ought to be to take all the great things with you into your 29th year, but to grow and improve so that 28 year old's gone forever and there's a new, better version of you at 29. If you're 40 years old, listening to this today, that by the time you're growing all year long, that by the time you turn 41, that 40 year old's gone forever, just like the six year old you was gone forever when you turned seven.

• 10:50Ed Mylett?

  Just like when you turned eight, the seven year old was gone forever. Just like when the 16 year old turned 17, the 16 year old was gone forever. If you look back at your life, you've changed and grown quite a bit, haven't you? What pace, at what percentage, how much, right? And to what perspective do you need to accelerate this? And so I believe very deeply in life that the meaning we take away from experiences changes everything. And how do you change your meaning? So I'm going to give you three keys today to shifting perspective, to shifting perspective. Number one, with that quote I gave you in the beginning illustrates.

• 11:32Ed Mylett?

  Number one is ask a better question, have a better life. The quality of your life is really comprised of the quality of the questions you ask yourself. Because the quality of the questions creates the quality of your thoughts. Quality of your thoughts defines the meaning. So if you can begin to ask better questions in life, you can have a better life. But what you're doing right now, the reason you're not growing, if you're not, or you're not growing at the rate you could, is because you're not looking to ask a better question. See, the powerful thought of that whole thing I read to you is that it was powerful questions with better answers. So it was a pretty average question with an extraordinary answer from God. And when you begin to ask the right questions, I believe you begin to get the right answers.

• 12:15Ed Mylett?

  Your life is really a patterns of regular questions you're asking yourself. All this data that tells us 80 to 90% of our thoughts are the same every day, and that most of them are negative. Why? Because 80 to 90% of the questions you ask yourself are just autopilot. Why do they, why am I this way? Why aren't I happier? Why aren't I more successful? What are they thinking about me? What are they going to think? What are people going to say? You add the same questions all the time you're asking yourself, and so your perspective doesn't change. That's why I love talking to people that are at later stages in life, because you just see a peace about them and a wisdom about them that's come with time, because they've had more perspective change in their life. That's why I think listening to podcasts, and hopefully mine at the top of the list,

• 12:56Ed Mylett?

  reading books and talking to people that are successful or happy can give you perspective. You want to do something that's unbelievably productive in your life? Go spend an afternoon at a retirement home or a nursing home, and talk to those folks about their perspective on life. You really want to have a lot of change in your life? Get with a great coach and ask them quality questions. Get with people that have the information. And the person with the most information wins. And by the way, for me, the source with the most information, that's why I read this to you, is God. And so when I pray, I ask questions and I find the higher caliber, higher quality, better, newer question, I elicit a better answer. So number one is ask a better question, have a better life.

• 13:40Ed Mylett?

  Number two, shift your perspective and you shift your life. I have this great story that I was once told and I, you know, it's not my story. But Mother Teresa, I'll give you two of them. You know, for most of us, if we saw, if we were with something, someone who passed away, or we saw a car accident, let's say, and we rushed to the scene of that accident and we had someone in our arms that passed away, you and I would probably, our perspective would be, my gosh, I just witnessed a tragedy in my life. And that's okay. That's reasonable conclusion that you had witnessed this tragedy. I think it was Tony Robbins that told me this story. And he said, actually, Mother Teresa said that the greatest honor of her life was to

• 14:24Ed Mylett?

  be present with a person when their soul leaves their body and goes to heaven. So can you imagine the exact same event? You and I would sit there and say, this is tragic, this is horrible. Mother Teresa would say, this was the greatest honor of her life to be there, to watch this soul leave its body and go to heaven. Same exact event, different perspective, different meaning, different emotion, different quality of life. You following me? Perspective creates meaning, meaning creates emotion, and the quality of our life is the quality of our emotions. We have a completely different life. Mother Teresa, in an event like that, is such an unbelievable, it's an extreme example, but it's illustrative of everything is perspective and meaning. It's not the events of our life that define us, it's the meaning we take from these events. Let me say that to you again.

• 15:09Ed Mylett?

  It's not the events of our life that define us, it's the meaning we take away from those events. If you want to change your life, you can go back and begin to look at what meanings you've taken. Ask yourself, what would I need to believe about that event so that it would serve me? Not what do I believe? What would I need to believe so that it would serve me? I could have, you know, they, there's all this data about children that grow up in alcoholic households. It's fascinating. Usually they're one way or the other. Either become extremely successful achievers or they repeat the patterns of their parent. Why is it that two children can go up in the exact same house with the exact same parents and have two totally different lives? Most of you are nodding probably when I say this, you're thinking of even your own family or somebody you know.

• 15:51Ed Mylett?

  Same two parents, same environment, same house, same upbringing, same information, two totally different lives. Why is that? Perspective and meaning. One person took away a different meaning from the exact same events and the other one took away meanings that didn't serve them, made them shrink, made them negative, made them bitter, made them lose their confidence and the other person didn't. What I learned from watching those events happen in my life is I learned what I didn't want to do. I learned when my dad got sober that people can change their life. I took those meanings away. So you know those pieces in your closet that you find yourself wearing like on repeat all the time? That sweater that kind of just goes with everything or these perfect pair of pants?

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• 17:18Ed Mylett?

  Now available in Canada and the UK too. That's Q U I N C E dot com slash ed. So, everything in your life is the meaning you take away from the event. And by the way, the meaning you attach to your work. There's this great story I'll tell you secondly. I believe it was JFK and he was visiting Cape Canaveral. And he's walking through Cape Canaveral, this is back in the days where they're, you know, they're gonna launch and, and go into space and attempt to go to the moon, as I understand the story at the time. And he walks by this man who's got a mop and a bucket. And he stops and asks this man and says, "What is it that you're doing here?"

• 18:04Ed Mylett?

  Now, what would've been reasonable for that man to say? "Oh, sir, I'm cleaning the floor, I'm making this place spotless, etc., etc." Do you know what this man replied to him, the man with the mop and the bucket? President Kennedy says to him, "So what are you doing here?" And this man says, "I'm helping put a man on the moon, sir." "I'm helping put a man on the moon." Had a completely different perspective about his work. He took a different meaning away from his work than what the average and ordinary person would do. It's not even what we do, it's the meaning we take from it. And then the third thing that I would recommend to you is to learn to reconnect with your center. To get centered in your life, I'm talking about this a lot more.

• 18:46Ed Mylett?

  And so to do things that give you perspective is to reconnect with center. We lose perspective when there's chaos around us. We lose perspective when we're just repeating the same thoughts and the same questions and the same emotions over and over again. So, in order to change that, one, you gotta ask a better question. Two, you've gotta shift your perspective and your meaning. And third is reconnect to your center. So what are the things you could be doing to reconnect to your center? For me, my center is my faith. And so I focus on my prayer life. In fact, I'm reading a prayer right now, I probably as well just pull it up on my phone. I wasn't gonna do this, but I'm reading a prayer currently that I think I should share with you guys. So here we go. Father, here I am before your throne with a heavy heart and an anxious mind. Come, Lord, and fill me with your holy presence.

• 19:30Ed Mylett?

  Let me rest and be at peace. Let me feel your protection. Let me feel as if I'm under the shadow of your wings, safe, hidden, and secure in you. Only you can give it and take it all. I pray, Father, please take my fear away and give me your peace that surpasses all understanding. You know that my life is in your hands. My trust and my hope is on you alone, Father. Thank you in the name of Jesus. Amen. It's just a prayer I've been reading myself. I give myself different prayers from time to time that just change my perspective. So for me, by the way, whatever your faith is, I also meditate. I love vibrational frequency. I love to center myself. And so whatever your practices are, get back to those practices. Care for your body a little bit more.

• 20:12Ed Mylett?

  For me, I've learned that my center almost always has to do with my faith and my body, that when I'm connected to my body, this what we would consider to be a temple, when I care for it a little bit better. So these things may seem very simple to you, but reconnect if you're meditating, really refocus on it. If you've got prayer life, really refocus on it. For me, it's strange, but the more I do little things where I'm connected to my body, cold plunging, sauna. Here's a random one for you lately. I just love to stretch. Just stretching and some yoga has really helped me reconnect to my center, something I've never done before. I'm a bigger guy. I always thought I'll get around to stretching. I'll get around to yoga. Well, this year, last 12 months, I've made it a pretty big priority. It helps me reconnect.

• 20:56Ed Mylett?

  It's just I'm present with my body. I also love to do earthing and grounding where I walk around with my bare feet on the earth. I try to get in the grass or on the beach if I can and just reconnect to that. For some reason, that helps me connect with my center. And then lastly, just one of my formulas is I love to be around water. And so when I had an apartment and couldn't live near the ocean, I always had like a fountain in my house where I could hear running water, something some of you may relate to this just somehow being around running water centers me, calms me, whether it's a lake or an ocean, even a pool, a fountain, something that is water centered for me, helps me reconnect to my center.

• 21:39Ed Mylett?

  And those are just part of my form is I think it's to know oneself, right? And so I love to work out and lift heavy and all that stuff, but boy, I have really tell you something. I found out stretching and yoga, my prayer life, my meditation, my earthing and grounding. These are not things that five or eight years ago, you probably would have heard me talk a lot about, but they've helped me change my perspective. And so what today was all about was sharing with you a perspective shift on life and getting you to consider is one of the things I need to do of all the things that's talked about in personal development, self-help, self-improvement, entrepreneurship. What about my perspective? How is my perspective impacting my thoughts? How are those thoughts impacting my behavior, the decisions I make, the emotions I have?

• 22:23Ed Mylett?

  And if I can shift my perspective, I can tell you that I think you can shift your life. And so go back in the beginning of this video or audio and listen to that exchange that this person has with God, that you could have with your God. And then ask yourself a better question, shift your perspective and shift your life and reconnect with your center. And I think you're going to find a formula and a recipe that may have change come finds you as opposed to you having to always go chase change. You could actually become somebody where change helps find you, where you magnetize and gravitate to yourself because of this incredible perspective you've had. And the last thing I want for you is to be a man or a woman who in their twenties or thirties

• 23:05Ed Mylett?

  really dies, but doesn't get buried until they're in their seventies, eighties, nineties or beyond. That's not what you want to be. You want to be that person who every year, that new birth date, that new time is replacing the former you, taking the best of the best from the previous person, fixing the things that aren't so good and growing and improving into that new year, just like the six-year-old did, just like the seven-year-old did. Just like the 16 year old did, so should the 40 year old, so should the 25 year old, so should the 65 year old. And I believe those are the key things to creating change in your life. All right. I hope today helped you, everybody. It certainly helped me. It made me really rethink stuff as I prepared for this today, and I hope it made an impact and a difference for you. That's why I do it. I just want to make a difference in your life. And if I have, please share this with someone else's precious soul that you think

• 23:49Ed Mylett?

  could impact their life. God bless you, everybody. Max out.

• 23:55Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed Marlin Show.