Forgiveness, Can You Imagine? | Take A Walk

We will be wronged—by friends, by colleagues, by life itself. When that happens, we have a choice: to be consumed by bitterness or to rise above it. Marcus showed us the way. The question is, will we follow?📕 Pick up a copy of the 10th Anniversary Edition of The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday at dailystoic.com/obstacle📓 Pick up a signed edition of The Daily Stoic Journal: 366 Days of Writing and Reflection on The Art of Living: https://store.dailystoic.com/📖 Preorder the final book in Ryan Holiday's The Stoic Virtues Series: "Wisdom Takes Work": https://store.dailystoic.com/pages/wisdom-takes-work🎙️ Follow The Daily Stoic Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dailystoicpodcast🎥 Watch top moments from The Daily Stoic Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dailystoicpodcast✉️ Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Get Stoic inspired books, medallions, and prints to remember these lessons at the Daily Stoic Store: https://store.dailystoic.com/📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. 📢 Share | ⚙️ Manage Subscription

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• 0:05Ryan Holiday?

  Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we bring you a Stoic-inspired meditation, designed to help you find strength and insight and wisdom into everyday life. Each one of these episodes is based on the 2,000-year-old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women, help you learn from them, to follow in their example, and to start your day off with a little dose of courage and discipline and justice and wisdom. For more, visit DailyStoic.com.

• 0:56Ryan Holiday?

  Forgiveness. Can you imagine? "He was betrayed. The state was imperiled. Civil war lurked. When Avidius Cassius declared himself emperor in 175 A.D., he committed an unpardonable sin. Yet pardoning him is precisely what Marcus Aurelius attempted to do. In fact, he tried to use the coup attempt as a chance to practice reconciliation, to show the Roman people, as he told his soldiers, that there was a right way to deal even with civil wars. Marcus Aurelius wanted to forgive a man who has wronged one, he said, to remain a friend to one who has transgressed friendship, to continue faithful to one who has broken faith.

• 1:41Ryan Holiday?

  Can you imagine? It was almost superhuman, and yet it was precisely what he had trained for his whole life. It's what he'd written about in meditations over and over and over again, that when wronged, we should try to think when we have acted that way to someone else, that the best revenge was not to be made awful and evil by your enemies, that something harms you only if it harms your character. Practicing this could not have been easy. Surely Marcus Aurelius was also angry. Surely, part of him was relieved when the revolution stalled and when his enemy was struck down by an assassin. Yet we also know that Marcus wept at the tragedy of losing his chance to grant him clemency.

• 2:24Ryan Holiday?

  We may never face a coup, but we will be wronged by friends, by colleagues, by life itself. When that happens, we have a choice. Will we be consumed by bitterness or to rise above it? Marcus showed us the way. The question is, will we follow him? And actually, I told a version of the story in The First Obstacle is the Way, which came out over 10 years ago. And I just did this updated edition of the book, where I got to sort of take another better stab at that story. That's been the cool part of the success of Obstacle is the Way is that it's still, just as Marcus's story is still relevant 2,000 years later, that that book is still holding up 10 years later, which has been really cool. You can grab a signed copy of The Obstacle is the Way

• 3:09Ryan Holiday?

  at store.dailystoic.com, or just swing by the painted porch sometime. We've usually got them out on the shelf. I'm really proud of that story. It was sort of the natural end of the book, and I was so excited when it came together. And it's just surreal to me to still be talking about it all these years later. Enjoy.

• 3:33Ryan Holiday?

  Take a walk. Seneca believed that we should take frequent wandering walks, because constant work will fracture our minds. As a writer, he would have agreed with the novelist Helen Dunmore, "A problem with a piece of writing often clarifies itself if you go for a long walk." So take some good time this week to take some walks and watch the dullness and feebleness depart. Enjoy the scenery. Enjoy being away from your work. Make them part of your morning and evening writing routine. Return with a stimulated mind that's ready to journal about and follow the philosophy you know. You think that it's taking a break, but really, you end up smarter and clearer than

• 4:17Ryan Holiday?

  you were when you left. And that's from this week's entry in the Daily Stoic Journal, 366 Days of Writing and Reflection on the Art of Living by me, Ryan Holiday, which you can pick up signed versions of in the Daily Stoic store. And as Seneca says, "We should take wandering walks so that the mind might be nourished and refreshed by the open air and deep breathing." That's in his essay on Tranquility of Mind. But Marcus Aurelius says, "Pass through this brief patch of time in harmony with nature, and come to your final resting place gracefully, just as a ripened olive might drop, praising the earth that nourished it and grateful to the tree that gave it growth." That's Meditations 448.

• 5:00Ryan Holiday?

  And then Seneca again in on Tranquility of Mind. "The mind must be given relaxation. It will rise improved and sharper after a good break. Just as rich fields must not be forced, for they will quickly lose their fertility if never given a break, so constant work on the anvil will fracture the force of the mind. But it regains its powers if it is set free and relaxed for a while. Constant work gives rise to a certain kind of dullness and feebleness in the rational soul." There's no problem so bad that taking a walk can't at least help you solve a little bit of it. And I also feel like I've never regretted deciding to get up and take a walk. My morning routine is built around it. As I've said before, I don't touch my phone in the morning, go for a walk.

• 5:45Ryan Holiday?

  It's about a mile and a half to the mailboxes at the end of the road, little P O boxes for everyone there. It's not just good for health. It's not just, you know, getting out and getting sunlight, but it's, it's refreshing. It's time not spent struggling with some work thing. And yet I almost invariably return with something to write down, with something I remembered I need to do during the day, with some sense of purpose and energy for the day. Not only do I do the one in the morning, then I sometimes do walks on phone calls during the day around, around the Daily Stoic offices and the Painted Porch bookstore here in Bastrop, Texas. I love walking through these little southern towns.

• 6:27Ryan Holiday?

  It's always beautiful and shady because they planted the trees so long ago. But then we usually go for a walk after dinner. Sometimes our kids take a popsicle or, you know, my wife and I'll have a piece of chocolate. During April and May, we like to pick blackberries on the wall. But we just, we walk around. Sometimes we watch the sun come down. You know, we watch the deer run, or we look at the cows, or pet the donkeys. Sometimes we bring the donkeys carrots, although most of the time our kids eat the carrots before we get there. But the point is, this time outside is wonderful, and it's philosophical, and it's refreshing. And it's one of the most important things that I do. So I hope you will take some walks today.

• 7:09Ryan Holiday?

  It's one of the best exercises you can do. It's also one of the best forms of exercise for your mind. So take a walk. The Stoics demand it.

• 7:23Ryan Holiday?

  Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoic Podcast. I just wanted to say we so appreciate it. We love serving you. It's amazing to us that over 30 million people have downloaded these episodes in the couple of years we've been doing it. It's an honor. Please spread the word. Tell people about it. And this isn't to sell anything. I just wanted to say thank you.