How to Be Present and Feel More Alive feat. Mimi Bouchard

We're kicking off this episode with thoughts on dry January, some life updates from Ashley, Rayna's feelings about starting her tour, and then we're laughing about the hilarious "describe your ex as a store" trend and sharing our own. Then we have an interview re-release with Mimi Bouchard, founder of the Activations app, to discuss the most effortless way you can start to manifest what you want in life. She shares her story of transforming her life and what led her to start the app (hint: no meditation required), and we discuss things that numb you vs. things that make you feel alive, how to act like your future self even in the smallest moments, reducing your screen time, and our personal favorite, manifesting during sex. Follow Mimi on Instagram @mimibouchard and download Activations. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Activations: For a limited time, get a 14-day trial + a great discount on your subscription at activations.com/gge. Shopify: Go to https://shopify.com/gge and start building your own empire today. Chime: Bank fee free by signing up at https://chime.com/girlsgottaeat. Skims: Shop our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com. Hungry Root: Get 40% off your first box and free item in every box for life at https://hungryroot.com/gge with code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first order and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:00Speaker 00

  One of the best things you can do this year to feel more alive and more present, and when you're feeling alive, you remember to bounce back so much more. Everything is going way better in your life when you're feeling alive.

• 0:27Ashley Hesseltine?

  This podcast is a Dear Media production.

• 0:29Rayna Greenberg?

  Hi, guys.

• 0:30Ashley Hesseltine?

  Hi, guys.

• 0:30Rayna Greenberg?

  Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta Eat.

• 0:33Ashley Hesseltine?

  Welcome back. I have a question for you.

• 0:35Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 0:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  Have you heard of anyone doing Dry January?

• 0:39Rayna Greenberg?

  I'm glad that you asked. So I went on the road, like, to do a couple of shows this week, like, with Britney shows. I went to Portland and Seattle, and I opened both shows asking, is anybody?

• 0:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, you did?

• 0:50Rayna Greenberg?

  Is anybody still doing their resolutions?

• 0:52Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 0:53Rayna Greenberg?

  And a lot of people yelled out, "I'm doing Dry January. I'm done with it." And that was January 7th and 8th.

• 0:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  They'd already given it up?

• 1:00Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, and they'd be still doing their resolutions. I will say, though, I think we're hearing about it less because I think people drink less.

• 1:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  They are just drinking less.

• 1:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 1:07Ashley Hesseltine?

  I think we all gotta be drinking more. The state of the world, who cannot drink? Like, we need to drink to get through this shit. So I think people are like, "Fuck, no. I'm not giving up alcohol. The world is on fire. That's all I have." We had a friend come over to watch football, our friend's fiance, and he was like, "I'm trying to do Dry January, so I'm just gonna have some beers."

• 1:29Rayna Greenberg?

  That is so funny.

• 1:30Ashley Hesseltine?

  He is so, he loves, he's a beer drinker, but it's so funny. Like, I, when I was in my heaviest drinking phase, I would, like, sober up with beer.

• 1:39Rayna Greenberg?

  I always sober up with beer.

• 1:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's insane. Like, end of the night, "Oh, I'll switch to beer. I need to sober up." That's insane.

• 1:44Rayna Greenberg?

  That's how I always did it. It was just so I, like, also, like, so I wouldn't get hung over in between venues. Like, if I would go from one bar to the next, I'd drink a beer in between, so I didn't get, like, hung over before I started drinking liquor again.

• 1:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 1:55Rayna Greenberg?

  I do think people are just drinking less, and so I don't hear about it as much.

• 1:58Ashley Hesseltine?

  Or more. I'm saying, I just think it's like, whatever we're doing, we're not stopping.

• 2:03Rayna Greenberg?

  Fuck, no.

• 2:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. Okay, a couple other things, Rain. I cannot believe you have not said anything about my phone case. My lack of phone case. I have been raw dog for days.

• 2:13Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, cuz I don't notice it cuz you have that thing on the back of it. So I just, when it's over, it looks like it has a case.

• 2:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Why? What are you doing?

• 2:20Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, so Shashank, my current husband, he has been raw dog since we met. I saw it yesterday. I noticed it yesterday.

• 2:27Ashley Hesseltine?

  No case.

• 2:28Rayna Greenberg?

  I honestly, it made me uncomfortable just looking at it.

• 2:30Ashley Hesseltine?

  When you meet somebody with no case, like this has been our whole relationship. Like, I'm like, I don't know if you're like me. I feel like it's like meeting someone who like does CrossFit. Like, you're like, I don't, you're, you're stronger than me. I don't know if we're the same type of person.

• 2:42Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, it's only one of two things. You're either richer than me, or you're dumber than me.

• 2:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  I mean, the phones are stronger than they used to be. They don't crack like they used to be. But he, the other night, we were going out. He was, I had taken it off for something, and he was like, don't you like it? It feels nice. I'm like, I do like it.

• 2:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, it feels nice. It's sleek.

• 3:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  It's so much lighter. It's so much easier to put in a little purse, but I just don't feel comfortable. And I was like, I'll try it for the night out. I loved it so much. I was like, and this is an older phone, so I'm gonna get a new one anyway. And then I was like, you know what I want? I still want my Octobuddy, and I want a little bit of grip. So I found a magnetic one. So this is a MagSafe Octobuddy. So now I'm case free with an Octobuddy. This is the new me.

• 3:21Rayna Greenberg?

  I don't, I don't support it. I support a lot of things that you do. But I also, you're rich enough to buy a new phone if you need to. You could afford it.

• 3:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, one more thing, one more thing. Update. Now I'm turning it to you because look what I just got. You're gonna be so proud. I literally feel like you. Look at my jewelry organizer.

• 3:37Rayna Greenberg?

  Ashley, you finally got a jewelry organizer. This is the one I have. It's perfect.

• 3:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  We'll put it on the screen.

• 3:44Rayna Greenberg?

  I mean, it's perfect. Oh, okay. You walked in, you were like, it looks like you have a jewelry store in here. I like having organized jewelry.

• 3:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I wasn't like hanging my shit. So now I got my necklaces and bracelets and my rings and stuff. So I feel like I have gone a little rogue in one area of my life, my phone, but I.

• 4:03Rayna Greenberg?

  Tighten it up in the jewelry department.

• 4:04Ashley Hesseltine?

  In the others. Yes, yes.

• 4:05Rayna Greenberg?

  I mean, when I walk in, I, I turned my bedroom into a closet. So when I walk into the closet room, cuz I don't, I don't have, I don't have kids. I could do whatever I want. You know, don't have kids. Turn the second bedroom into a closet. And I have all my jewelry like on stands and stuff. It's nice. I feel like I'm a responsible adult.

• 4:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, what I had going on before was just, it was in a bunch of trays and little dishes and weird stuff.

• 4:27Rayna Greenberg?

  I don't know what you were doing out here.

• 4:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Don't worry about it. I don't wanna talk about it. Embarrassed. Okay, let's like our part.

• 4:34Rayna Greenberg?

  A lot of updates about your life. Okay.

• 4:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  I know.

• 4:37Rayna Greenberg?

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• 4:51Ashley Hesseltine?

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• 5:16Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, my tour starts in 10 days. I am nervous. I'm excited. I just, I can't wait. And I just, I want to thank you guys for the amount of tickets you bought without seeing me do one standup set. I have not posted one thing. And I mean, that's a lot of trust. The people are like, I know she's going to take this seriously and take our time and our money seriously. And I've worked really hard. So I hope you guys love it. Tampa, we are launching on January 29th. Ashley will be with me. And Miami, February 1st. It's a 4pm show.

• 5:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  Miami, not the matinee.

• 5:47Rayna Greenberg?

  Like a boozy brunch show. We have more friends coming to that show than I have any other show on the tour until New York.

• 5:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Miami at 4pm, people are just waking up.

• 5:55Rayna Greenberg?

  I know. Come have breakfast.

• 5:56Ashley Hesseltine?

  They might not have gone to sleep yet.

• 5:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Come have breakfast.

• 5:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, exactly. It's a breakfast show. It's a brunch show. There isn't a brunch culture in Miami because people don't get up.

• 6:04Rayna Greenberg?

  People are not awake. So come have brunch at the Miami Improv. It's gonna be great. It's RainyGreamer.com. And I am going to run the whole hour in New York before the tour starts. So that'll be January 28th at The Stand in New York City on East 16th Street. Andrew Collin is gonna open for me and Oscar Aiden, who went on your tour with you. And I'm just really excited. And those tickets are cheap. So if you want to come see me on the cheap.

• 6:29Rayna Greenberg?

  I'll see you in New York City on January 28th. And I just, I can't wait.

• 6:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, yay.

• 6:33Rayna Greenberg?

  So RainyGreamer.com.

• 6:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  10 days. I cannot wait. This is all I have to live for.

• 6:37Rayna Greenberg?

  So excited.

• 6:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, I'm really so excited.

• 6:40Rayna Greenberg?

  Every time you say you're hosting the show, it makes me laugh.

• 6:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  So I'm really excited.

• 6:45Rayna Greenberg?

  You are, but it's really funny.

• 6:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  I mean, I've said this before, I'm so excited to come and not work and not have to panic and be anxious.

• 6:52Rayna Greenberg?

  Welcome to my life.

• 6:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Exactly. So in Tampa, we have some friends who were longtime old friends of mine from Atlanta and they live in Naples and they made the trip to come to Tampa when I was there last year. And then you met them in LA. They came to LA and they are like making a whole night of it. Like they are staying overnight. They're missing their kids' basketball game. Like they just had so much fun at my show and they loved meeting you. And so they're so excited to come. And I'm like, I'm gonna sit with you guys and drink. Like I am so excited. Those four days, I cannot wait to kick it off in Tampa, host, write a show, kick the tour off and then go right into this bachelorette party and then the Miami matinee on Sunday and then we're going to dinner afterwards. Like I am so excited for these four days.

• 7:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  And I don't have to do this thing in the back of my head that like, no offense, that I have to, that I have to do. I mean, we all get anxious or nervous on some level and it's for me, it's like, I can't ever fully relax and enjoy myself. If I know I have a show that night or the next day.

• 7:49Rayna Greenberg?

  I've been in this like constant cycle. I'm congratulated. I'm happy for you. This is how I've been living. It's really nice. I'll be honest. I have this constant cycle of like, before I got on stage in Portland last week, I had like written all this new material. And I was like, why am I doing this? This is crazy. This is ridiculous. Like you're not good enough for this. You, you're not going to memorize 10 new minutes of stuff before you get on stage. You're supposed to talk for 22 minutes. Like you can't remember this. I got on stage. It was amazing. I had a great time. The audience was really fun. I love, we did Portland and Seattle. I love those audiences. I had a great time in both those cities. But my self-talk before I get on that stage is like, what are you doing? You are not good enough for this. You're going to forget stuff. No one's gonna laugh at you. Everyone's gonna laugh at you, but not the way that you want them to.

• 8:31Rayna Greenberg?

  And then I got on stage and I'm fine. And I have to like remind myself that roller coaster is like not real. Like, once I step on the stage, like I will feel fine.

• 8:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I told you this. I don't, I don't know why I do this to myself. Like I've stand up for 12 years. And like, if I hadn't been on stage for a while and I was going to go out to do even just a random set, not even a show on a tour. Like the thoughts in my head, I'm like, Ashley, what is your problem? You've never once like. Gotten on stage and I mean, we've all bombed on some level, but you've never gotten up there and like embarrassed yourself or forgot your jokes. Like, what are you scared of? Like, the self-talk is crazy. And then you're driving home and you're like, oh, my God, what is wrong with me? Why can't I seem to correct this before it starts? And it's like, it's, is it in your body or is it in your brain? And you're trying to figure it out. And obviously, the more you do it, the less it is. And like, you know, towards the end of my tour, I was like, I can do this in my sleep. I'm not feeling that type of nerves. But we all just have that and it's sometimes hard to enjoy yourself.

• 9:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  And like last year, when I was in Miami on my tour, it was like all the girls and I just wanted to like have drinks with them and stuff. And I'm like, I have to go work and like be a clown for them.

• 9:32Rayna Greenberg?

  I know, like you're the entertainment. You can't get all fucked up.

• 9:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 9:35Rayna Greenberg?

  I just, I don't know. I hope that people just like realize that like imposter syndrome comes to everybody.

• 9:41Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes, I like the message.

• 9:41Rayna Greenberg?

  You and I have done hundreds and hundreds. I mean, you have done thousands of stand-up shows and you still feel like that. Like, I've never gotten on stage and had people be mean to me or boot me offstage. Like, the feelings are not anchored in anything real, but I'm still like, are people gonna like this? Is this gonna be funny? And even if they don't, who cares? I'm not performing brain surgery.

• 10:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  But you do have to do some, if it works for you, like when I really started to feel like that, when I toured in 2022, I literally wrote affirmations.

• 10:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Affirmations.

• 10:07Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like literally in my phone, like you're the baddest bitch on the planet. Everyone's here to see you. You sold out however many tickets, thousands of tickets. Like, you know, you like, you have to shift it. I don't think it's helpful to have those thoughts and step right on stage. Like, even if you think you're kind of lying to yourself, you gotta be like, you're a bad bitch.

• 10:22Rayna Greenberg?

  You did this. I did that.

• 10:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, you're about to go crush it.

• 10:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Because you will. Yeah, I'm excited to get in front of you guys.

• 10:28Ashley Hesseltine?

  Anyway, I don't need to like give you, it's just like.

• 10:30Rayna Greenberg?

  No, I need it.

• 10:30Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 10:31Rayna Greenberg?

  I had to, and I had to remind myself, like, you feel like this every time you're walking on stage and you feel great every time you walk offstage. And I've been performing for strangers, not for you guys. Like, it's gonna be even better in front of you guys.

• 10:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Totally, yeah.

• 10:42Rayna Greenberg?

  You guys don't care if I fall on my face. You're gonna love me anyways. I'm not, I actually, it's really good material.

• 10:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, it's

• 10:47Rayna Greenberg?

  And then if you want to come see me in LA this week, the last show before the improv is at Bar Lubitch. It'll be on Wednesday, the 21st. So you guys can come see me this week. I'm doing 30 minutes. So that's it.

• 10:57Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 10:57Rayna Greenberg?

  BradyGreenberg.com.

• 10:59Ashley Hesseltine?

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• 11:40Ashley Hesseltine?

  So we kind of made it look a little simpler and the strings are a little bit longer. So if you were looking at it, you can go to Vibes Only Instagram, too, as well. You can use both of the toggles and the strings and you can wrap it around his balls. So this is a really great toy. He is gonna wear it on his penis and it's gonna stimulate him and keep him stronger, longer. And it feels really good for him, too. And then it's gonna vibrate on your clitoris. And there is this textured vibrator that's gonna sit right on your most erogenous zone. And this will just skyrocket you to the best orgasm of your life. I tested this toy out. I remember I tested a sample in Detroit when we were on tour and Shashank was there. And we were like, oh, my God. So then we changed some things and made it perfect. And now it's even a little bit different and, you know, new and improved.

• 12:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah. And we have another cock ring. It's called the Richard. It's the best selling couples toy in the company, but it's not adjustable. So this is highly adjustable. It's for both of you. It's really fun. Valentine's Day is coming up, so you can spice up your Valentine's Day evening. And to Ashley's point, the packaging is so beautiful. So you can feel really proud giving this to somebody. We have really designed this to be high end, luxury, really beautiful.

• 12:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes. And so it's one size fits all. The Richard is an incredible toy. Again, it's our best seller. I love it. But I mean, if you're huge, if you're Matt Khalil that we talked about on the snack last week, if you're two Coke cans, you need the Bond Band. Or really small, you need the Bond Band. You know, if you're really on the extreme ends of the dick spectrum, this is going to be for you. And ah, just love it. Love it so much. Affordable price, all the things.

• 13:11Rayna Greenberg?

  And you can pair that with our cleanup towel. We really release this with new sayings and new colors every once in a while, but you know, it's perfect for that messy finish. If somebody has sprayed anything all over you, all over the bed, if you want to put it down on the bed, this new one says, "Nice shot." It's in a beautiful navy blue. You can pair it with any of our toys and it's just a fun little accoutrement to include in your purchase.

• 13:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, it's really fun. It's like a golf towel style. It has the little carabiner on the top. You can hook it.

• 13:40Rayna Greenberg?

  And it's moisture wicking. So if you need to, you know, lay it under you or whatever.

• 13:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, yeah, it's great for cleanup and for period sex. Okay. So those are the two new Vibes Only products. You guys check them out and have your spiciest Valentine's Day by yourself or someone else yet.

• 13:54Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, we're going to restock a couple of things next week for the Valentine's Day drop, but obviously if you order now, it'll come by Valentine's Day. So vibesonly.com, thanks for your support and we hope you guys love it.

• 14:03Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, so I saw this meme that was so funny to me and I shared it with you. And the first slide of the carousel said, "Describe your ex as a store. We want to laugh." And I scrolled through and I'll read some of them.

• 14:18Rayna Greenberg?

  People really delivered. Okay.

• 14:20Ashley Hesseltine?

  So funny. So there's all these like tweets or whatever people submitted or where they found, they found them on the internet. So Victoria's Secret, because Victoria was a secret. H and M, him and his mom. Sheen, he lied about the size. Apple, because he updates but never changes.

• 14:36Rayna Greenberg?

  I saw one that said Pepsi because he had a problem with Coke.

• 14:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  Pepsi because he had a problem with Coke, yes. Rolex, because he rolled back to his ex. Netflix, because I share him with four other girls and I'm the only one paying.

• 14:47Rayna Greenberg?

  That had levels to it.

• 14:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Costco, because everyone got a sample. 7-Eleven, open to everyone 24/7. Microsoft, Micro and Soft. Skittles, he wanted to taste the rainbow. T-Moo, because his quality was shit. In-N-Out. Starbucks, because he screamed the wrong name. Uber, because everyone got a ride. Forever 21, because he never goes up. And then my favorite one, Duolingo, because I never learned my lesson.

• 15:12Rayna Greenberg?

  People are so creative on the internet. This was so fun.

• 15:15Ashley Hesseltine?

  So we did some of our own and I mean, they're about all my exes. I don't want to, I just want to be clear. This isn't like one ex that I'm going in on him. I picked like bad qualities of everybody everyone's ever dated.

• 15:26Rayna Greenberg?

  I didn't tie them to anybody.

• 15:27Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 15:28Rayna Greenberg?

  I will say, I couldn't really shit on people's sexual abilities. Cause I've had some like pretty good dick in my life. I don't think I've had like mind-blowingly bad sex, at least in recent memories. So I couldn't rag on people's sexual ability, just their personalities and that's it. Their personalities.

• 15:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay. Do you want to ping pong some back and forth?

• 15:46Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, I started with my least favorite ones, but I'll build to the best ones. Make-A-Wish Foundation, that's the joke, I'm the prize.

• 15:54Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, JCPenney's because that's all he had.

• 15:58Rayna Greenberg?

  The Dollar Store, because he was cheap.

• 16:02Ashley Hesseltine?

  GameStop, because he played too much.

• 16:04Rayna Greenberg?

  IKEA, missing pieces of himself and somehow I'm the one that has to deal with it. That might be my favorite one.

• 16:11Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay. Waymo, because he was never in the driver's seat.

• 16:16Rayna Greenberg?

  These are so good. Should we make this whole episode? Okay. Radio Shack, irrelevant but refuses to die.

• 16:23Ashley Hesseltine?

  Is that still around?

• 16:24Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 16:24Ashley Hesseltine?

  I thought, I wanted a Radio Shack one and I couldn't think of it.

• 16:27Rayna Greenberg?

  It's still around, refuses to die.

• 16:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, well, on that note, Poshmark, because I don't want this anymore.

• 16:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  Poshmark, someone come and get this.

• 16:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  Poshmark.

• 16:38Rayna Greenberg?

  Someone can pick this boyfriend up.

• 16:39Ashley Hesseltine?

  This could be someone else's problem.

• 16:40Rayna Greenberg?

  But this is someone else's house.

• 16:41Ashley Hesseltine?

  Facebook market place, can you come pick this up?

• 16:45Rayna Greenberg?

  You don't have to go home, but you gotta get up out of here. Okay, Spirit Halloween, shows up once a year and then ghosts you.

• 16:55Rayna Greenberg?

  That had levels to it, because I got ghosts in there. That was, that is what, that's, okay, that might be my favorite, damn it.

• 17:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  Spirit Halloween store, why were you something different yesterday?

• 17:05Ashley Hesseltine?

  Why have you changed your whole personality?

• 17:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Why are you totally different?

• 17:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes. Okay. Peloton, everyone got a ride.

• 17:12Rayna Greenberg?

  That was strong.

• 17:13Ashley Hesseltine?

  No, I like it.

• 17:13Rayna Greenberg?

  My last one, Party City, because you know I love Party City so much. Party City, you can't keep opening and closing, like are we together? Make a decision.

• 17:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay. This one is pretty niche and it does kind of describe my ex. Wendy's, because why are you so unhinged on social media?

• 17:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Please stop tweeting.

• 17:31Rayna Greenberg?

  I hope he never stops.

• 17:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my gosh, that was so fun.

• 17:34Rayna Greenberg?

  That was so fun. God, I love this.

• 17:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, so let us know, you guys. Please leave a YouTube comment or a Spotify comment, wherever you guys like to be, and let us know yours. I could read these all day.

• 17:45Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, these are amazing. Okay, I love that you found these. Great job.

• 17:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  So today, we have an interview with Mimi Bouchard. This episode originally launched last year, the very beginning of 2025, and it performed really well. Activation saw a great response, and so we are collabing with them again to release the interview.

• 18:04Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, we're really excited to re-release this for you guys. We know so many people found this inspiring. It's a great, like, start to the year. What do you want to manifest? What do you want to, what do you want to create for your year type of episode?

• 18:16Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, there are some great tips for manifesting and getting an app and using the app that way. I really love the stuff about screen time. That's always a goal of mine. And some things she said were really impactful for the way to frame how you're thinking about your screen time and reduce it. That's a goal of mine this year and always. So we hope you guys can take some of the tips and tricks and implement them into your own, like, 2026 planning and goal setting. And if you are curious about activations, Mimi's app, you can check it out through the special link in the show notes, where she offers a 14-day free trial for Girls Got to Eat listeners, plus a really great discount. So check the show notes or head to activations.com/gge to learn more.

• 19:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  We are just going to talk about our partners, and then we will get into the interview for you guys.

• 19:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, Shopify. I mean, this is where Ashley and I run Vibes Only, our Girls Got to Eat store, where you have been fans for years. And if this is sort of your year to start a new business, this is what's going to help you start now. So if you're reflecting and thinking, like, what do I want to do? January is like the perfect time to take that energy and put it into action, take a side hustle or a hobby, turn it into a business. And Shopify is really going to help you guys do that. So it's the best place to start and grow a business, just like ours. The one commerce platform behind the biggest brands you know, and it will really allow you to turn something that is a side hustle into a full-time business. So there are so many bells and whistles. There are so many plugins. There are so many ways that AI can assist you and guide you through everything. There's directions, reports, they can edit

• 19:51Rayna Greenberg?

  images and content ideas. We follow along, obviously, for all the reports with Shopify for vibes only on our phones. So I always know every order that comes in. I know exactly like the times of day people shop and the days of the week and exactly what products are selling the best. So I love their reporting and they just make it really simple. It's really user friendly.

• 20:10Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I mean, I can't imagine our lives without it. Every successful e-commerce business we know runs on Shopify, including our own. And so we just can't recommend it enough. And if you were ever like, where do I start? This is where you start.

• 20:22Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah. And our whole team has login so they can manage different aspects of the business as well. It really is just the one-stop shop to run your business. And this commerce platform has not only made it easy for us to start and run a business, but made it possible to scale. So if you're ready to build your own empire, whether it's merch, products, or the next best idea, go to Shopify.com slash GGE and make it happen.

• 20:41Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, I'm telling you guys about Hungry Root. You have heard us talk about it before. So you know that we love it and it just really helps simplify your life, helps you eat better, healthier, really delicious home-cooked meals, but also your breakfast, your lunches, your snacks, just everything that you're going to have in your fridge and your pantry. If you are busy at work, if you're a parent, it can really be such a game changer for saving time and of course, reaching those health goals, reduce your stress, all the things to do your weekly meal planning with Hungry Root. So really, it helps you plan your meals for the week, fills your cart, delivers everything you need to eat healthy every single day. I really love all their vegetables and proteins and snacks and breads and grains and things like that. It's all really, really high quality. And of course, you can personalize your deliveries with your dietary preferences and allergies and stuff like that, of course, and your budget. Recently, we had this really delicious chicken

• 21:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  stir fry. I've had delicious pastas. Also, we got that Instapot. So we're like trying to figure out recipes that we can use in the Instapot, which is just so great. And there's great variety. They have over 50,000 chef crafted recipes to choose from every week, many ready in just 15 minutes or less. I love that. Just a really quick meal. They source only high-quality meat and seafood, no hormones or antibiotics, organic produce and non-GMO options, and they carry trusted, healthy brands. So again, like I mentioned, you're going to get your full meals, but also your snacks, like your hummus, your yogurts, your chips, crackers, things like that, too. And I just love how personalized it is. And again, whatever era you're in, we're in our Instapot era, that's really what we're looking for. But whatever you guys have going on, and I

• 22:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  just love everything they do. So you are going to love Hungry Root as much as we do. For a limited time, get 40% off your first box plus a free item in every box for life. Go to hungryroot.com/gge and use code GGE. That's hungryroot.com/gge, code GGE to get 40% off your first box and a free item of your choice for life.

• 22:27Rayna Greenberg?

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• 22:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like lighting money on fire.

• 22:54Rayna Greenberg?

  Literally, that I really needed. It like made a huge difference in my life. So Chime isn't just another banking app. They unlock smarter banking for everyday people with products like MyPay, gives you access up to $500 of your paycheck anytime and getting paid up to two days earlier with direct deposits. So we love this and it turns everyday spending into real rewards. You can bank fee free plus overdraft coverage. It helps you build credit history stress free, get paid when you say. So again, up to $500 and you can earn up to 3.5% APY on savings. So we love all that and they have a Chime card. It's a new way to build credit history with your own money, get rewarded every single day. No annual fees, no interest, no strings attached. So you guys check it out. Chime is not just smarter banking. It's the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already

• 23:38Rayna Greenberg?

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• 23:47Speaker 03

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• 24:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, let's get into it. All right, guys, we are very excited to welcome our guest today. She is an entrepreneurial trailblazer and the founder of a new type of audio, Activations, a top rated motivational audio app, which has amassed tens of thousands of subscribers in just two years. Designed to fit seamlessly into daily life, Activations are functional audios designed to help subscribers make the most of moments every day. To live the life they have always imagined. What a great way to start the year. Please welcome to the show, Mimi Bouchard.

• 24:36Speaker 00

  Thank you so much for having me.

• 24:38Rayna Greenberg?

  Hi, Happy New Year.

• 24:39Speaker 00

  Happy New Year.

• 24:42Rayna Greenberg?

  So I was just listening to your app last night and you know.

• 24:45Speaker 00

  How did you like it?

• 24:46Rayna Greenberg?

  I love it. I mean, I just love that it's the way it's categorized and it's like, whatever you need in that moment, there, there you are. So.

• 24:51Speaker 00

  Did you feel energetically different after listening?

• 24:55Rayna Greenberg?

  I did like a more of a relaxing one. It was, I was doing it at night. So I was like, I don't need to get all gassed up.

• 24:59Speaker 00

  She needs less energy at night. I'm like the, I love the motivational ones. Like I, we created the nighttime ones just because people wanted them, but like, most of the app are these like motivational, like energy changing ones that I was actually listening to in the car before coming. And they just got me so, they get me so amped up for life. It's like a natural high.

• 25:19Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, who doesn't need like a pep talk, like at any time of day, you know, so.

• 25:25Speaker 00

  Just a reminder to be who you want to be.

• 25:27Rayna Greenberg?

  I love it. Well, so we were conceptualizing this episode with you and so much of your story is so inspirational and so much of what you talk about is about just like being a better you in the new year and like not spending a ton of money to do that. And really relying on your own self. So this is a perfect episode to like, start the year and let's like meet you, get to know you and your story. Cause your story, you were just saying to us, I'm a totally different person than I was eight years ago.

• 25:49Speaker 00

  Yes, well.

• 25:50Rayna Greenberg?

  Let's unpack it.

• 25:51Speaker 00

  I've transformed my life in every way, shape or form in the past eight years. And I feel like when I share this, it, it's honestly just a way for me to express to people that it doesn't need to be that hard. And of course it took effort, but I feel like once I realized that it was all about my self-image and how I saw myself, then the change started happening faster and faster. So about eight years ago, I was, just to paint a picture, it didn't feel good on me, but I was 20 pounds heavier. I was very unhappy. I was depressed, anxious. I had a binge and purge eating disorder. I had $8 in my bank account.

• 26:33Speaker 00

  I was partying a lot every weekend, doing drugs, living paycheck to paycheck, really not the version of myself that I wanted to be, obviously. I was numbing every day. I felt like life was just happening to me. I didn't feel responsibility for the life I could create. I had huge self-image issues. I was incredibly insecure. I was one of those people that just looked in the mirror and always just found faults. And I just wasn't happy. I was, I was very depressed. And then I found personal development and really started diving into all of this work. And this is back almost a decade ago when personal development wasn't cool. Like, the books that I was reading were these books that were like with old

• 27:16Speaker 00

  white guys on the cover with their thumbs up, like, "Read this Success Principle book," or something, you know? Yeah, like the self-help section of the bookstore where it's like embarrassing to be there or something, you know? Now it's cool. Now it's cool. But before, I started getting into it when it wasn't cool. And I just became obsessed because I felt I was at this time in my life where I hated how I felt. I hated how I looked. I hated this relationship I had with myself. I hated what I was producing in the world. I knew I wanted to create something of my own one day, like for a business. I knew I wanted to have success. Money was always very important to me because I grew up in a household without a lot of money. Both of my parents are artists and we, you know, grew up struggling a lot. There were bankruptcies in the family, you know, my parents had to remortgage the house very often to survive.

• 28:01Speaker 00

  And it just, there was this lack there, constant lack. And reading personal development books, honestly, at that time, was so life-changing for me because it gave me these new beliefs and it gave me hope that I could actually create a life that I wanted. And some of these beliefs that I had learned were, "Take 100% responsibility for your life," you know, "You're an average of the five people that you surround yourself with most," rejection is redirection, you know, "No means next," like, "Keep going. You can create it." I love all these. Yes. Can you write this down for us? Basically, so I just, I became obsessed. I started consuming as much content as I

• 28:41Speaker 00

  could about personal development. And I started transforming my life. And the first few years of this transformation... Happened slowly, you know, I would slowly start, you know, drinking less, I would slowly start doing my morning routine in the morning and then I'd fall off track and I didn't have a quick bounce back rate, which is something I talk about. And I just would kind of, I would try and fall back off the bandwagon and then try again. And I was seeing these very, very small steps forward, essentially. And then there was this moment, a few years in, where I was trying to meditate and I couldn't concentrate on it. I just felt like it wasn't doing anything. And meditation was one of those things that I kept trying to do because everyone in the

• 29:26Speaker 00

  books were like, you need to meditate and you need to visualize because visualization is so important for you to reach your goals and for you to think about who you want to be. But I just couldn't stick to it. I felt this resistance and I felt like I needed something to invigorate me, to energize me, to give me this like intense, beautiful like excitement towards the future that I'm creating. And I just felt like it was not meditation that was going to do that because meditation is all about calming you, relaxing you, clearing your mind. I wanted something to like get me ramped up and to go like achieve. So intuitively, I stopped meditating and I started recording these audio memos on my phone, on like the voice memos app on my phone. And I just started to describe the future that I was creating.

• 30:11Speaker 00

  I was like, this is what it feels like to have millions of dollars in my bank account. This is what it feels like to have this home that I love, this relationship that I love. I was, you know, 21 at the time and still had never had a boyfriend and I felt really insecure and like I wouldn't find this love. And, you know, I was describing all these things that I wanted, how I wanted to look. I wanted to effortlessly be in this body that I love without thinking about food a lot, intuitive eating, without having this binge like eating disorder, without having food consume my mind all day. I wanted to live this life of my quote, future self. And this, what all did I know, was the first activation. I started creating loads of them. I would record them on a professional microphone and add music from YouTube behind them because

• 30:55Speaker 00

  music is such a big part of activations. Like we use very cinematic, movie moment epic music that just makes you feel alive. And when I started doing these activations, my transformation went from like zero to a hundred. It was insane. Within a few years, I started earning an incredible amount of money. I met my now fiance, literally the day after I described him in one activation.

• 31:20Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh my god. What?

• 31:21Speaker 00

  And now, and every single year, the transformations just double, double. Like, it's like this compound effect. It's this bell curve. It's like the more I do it, the more I live it, and the more I live it, the more I create it. And I could get emotional, like honestly, thinking about how my life has just changed so much. It's been such a blessing. I genuinely just feel so good every day. And I, looking back, like I didn't think that that was possible for me, and I did it. And it's just, it's been the biggest blessing of my life. I'm the happiest I've ever been.

• 31:52Rayna Greenberg?

  Wow, congratulations. That is so beautiful. No, really, I mean, you overcame everything that you mentioned. Like, those things, I've never had a relationship. I had an eating disorder. I was doing drugs too much and drinking. And by the way, you were 21 years old. Who didn't have every one of those issues?

• 32:07Speaker 00

  Exactly, I know.

• 32:08Rayna Greenberg?

  Drug issues, alcohol. I mean, I was so bloated. I was always on drugs.

• 32:11Speaker 00

  Yeah. A lot of us don't get out of it, and I needed to get out of it because I was going down a bad path.

• 32:16Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, and it affects your mental health. That was what was like making me feel bad the next day, you know, and you just, all those things like compounding. You can't like achieve what you want to achieve.

• 32:27Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 32:27Rayna Greenberg?

  I couldn't.

• 32:28Speaker 00

  Well, I'll tell you why. It's because alcohol numbs you.

• 32:31Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 32:31Speaker 00

  And I have this theory that if you do the things that numb you, you are directly less alive. So you're either feeling numb or alive. And things that numb you, it's things like overeating, overdrinking, doing drugs, being on technology, too much mindless scrolling, distracting yourself. And then the things that make you feel alive are things that slow down time. Numbness quickens time. You're wasting your life. You're gonna Blink and your life is done if you do numbing activities all day long. Feeling alive is like these activations specifically make me feel alive. Like having a beautiful, deep conversation with someone makes you feel alive. Like that feeling after a workout, being present, being in the moment makes you feel alive.

• 33:12Rayna Greenberg?

  I like the mental exercise that you talk about of like, imagine your future self. And who is she surrounded by? What does she wear? How much money does she have? Where does she live? And I think it's sort of like picking a goal and working our way towards it. Cause we talk every year at the beginning of the year about like, why is it hard to lose weight? And you know, these goals that are not like measurable and achievable. And they're just, it feels so like, I don't know, it's just this like floating goal. But I think you're really like, do this mental exercise of like, who do you see in three years? And like, let's go be her.

• 33:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  Well, saying it out loud, I've said that before on the podcast. It's so important and people just feel silly sometimes and you double down on saying it out loud. You know, like this is what you did to achieve what you have. But I've always said that like, stuff has like come to me that I've just said out loud, you know? And I feel like I, I've talked about this a lot, manifested my fiance and saying it out loud on this podcast, saying it out loud to myself. Like it's always worked for me, like little things too. I don't need to get into all of them. But just when I'm like, I was alone in my home and I like said that thing out loud and it

• 34:17Speaker 00

  Who cares about looking stupid if you're creating your dream life? I'll do anything that looks stupid if it means I'm going to be wealthy and happy and abundant and joyful every day.

• 34:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Absolutely. And I think that you can make every decision based on that. You can say, okay, what I want in three years is X. And so would the person that's going to get those things make these decisions? Would they eat this food? Would they take this trip? Would they make these business decisions? And I think that's a really good way. Like people say manifest, I think it can sound a little bit like, what does that mean? But to me, it's like you pick a goal and every day you say to yourself, is the person that want that goal, do what I'm doing today?

• 34:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  And I just love the rejection of traditional meditation.

• 34:51Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 34:51Ashley Hesseltine?

  I think that's gonna speak to a lot of people because I never thought of it the way you said it. I'm like, this is not what I want. I need to be amped up. I don't need to be in stillness about to fall asleep.

• 35:01Speaker 00

  Like meditation's great if you want to calm down, but it's not gonna help you reach these like huge goals that you have, really. Like you need something that just changes your energy because when that energy inside of you changes, everything else changes. Your self-image changes, your thoughts change, your beliefs change. Everything in your life changes when you change how you feel. And that's the trick. Like it actually, once you know that version of you that you want to be, once you have clarity on that future self, all you need to do is become them in everyday moments. And the more you do that, the more you'll naturally take the actions that that future self version of you takes. The more you naturally embody this energy, the more you'll start seeing opportunity everywhere that was always there.

• 35:47Speaker 00

  You just didn't see it.

• 35:48Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 35:48Speaker 00

  Because the reticular activating system, the RAS in your brain, wasn't triggered in that way. Because that RAS is, it's basically a filtration system in your brain that decides what you consciously notice. And it is triggered by your beliefs and your thoughts and your self-image. So let's just say you're the type of person that says to themselves, oh, I'm not lucky. I, you know, bad things always happen to me. I'm a victim. Like, yes. If that is what you're telling yourself, that's your truth. You're right. You're a hundred percent right. Because you're only going to ever find reasons to confirm that belief. But if on the contrary, you say to yourself, I am 100% responsible for my life.

• 36:30Speaker 00

  I am empowered. I know I'm moving in the right direction. I believe that with this work, with changing my energy, I am creating this life. I am becoming my future self. Your RAS is filtered in a different way and you're gonna start seeing reasons why everywhere. You're gonna start seeing opportunities. It genuinely changes everything in your life when you do this.

• 36:50Rayna Greenberg?

  I love that. I mean, that was kind of the lucky girl.

• 36:53Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 36:54Rayna Greenberg?

  On TikTok, lucky girl syndrome. Yes, it's just like, people talked about it, obviously TikTok in a lighter way, but obviously this is the reasoning behind it. And just, yeah, of course, if you're thinking like, only good things happen to me, I'm so lucky. Like, you're gonna find reasons to prove that all throughout your day.

• 37:08Speaker 00

  It's so true. And, you know, I'm just such a believer in what you deeply believe is actually the truth in your life. Like, if you believe the world works in a certain way, where things are really hard, and you're just, this is how life works, and it's just not the kind of life you can create for yourself, like, that is exactly the life that you're gonna live. That's the reality you'll live in.

• 37:30Rayna Greenberg?

  You just, you create your own lens. I have a close family member that always, she always says, like, everything bad always happens to me. If it can go poorly, it always does. And the same amount of bad things have happened to her as your average person. It's just the lens through which she chooses to see things. I, I find it very interesting. I want to like back up to you being 21, because we have like some young listeners, and you were like, I, I thought about like who I was surrounded by. So like, it's not hard for me in my like late 30s to surround myself with people that want like a little bit of a slower lifestyle, do less drugs, drink less, go home earlier. But when you're in your 20s, that's like pretty tough. So like, did you have to take an inventory of like, who was in your life and like cut people out?

• 38:07Speaker 00

  Gosh, massively. I cut out so many people. I actually realized that I'd rather be alone than with people that were not aligned with where I was going. And I had to be quite cutthroat about it. I didn't do it in this dramatic way where it's like, you're not my friend anymore. I just like phased out these people. And I noticed direct changes from doing that. I also realized that there were people in my life that like just couldn't see a big vision. And I wanted a big life back then. I was living this small life, but I wanted a bigger life. I wanted to have my own business and make millions and have, you know, just this really special relationship. I wanted to have just like the above-average human experience, okay?

• 38:49Speaker 00

  And unfortunately, the people that I was surrounded by back then felt threatened, I think, from that. Like, I remember there was this one girl, I overheard her actually, she didn't know I was in the next room. And she was a good friend of mine at the time, but when I kind of started sharing that I wanted to move to London and create my first business, which was an online magazine, and I wanted to start, you know, be an entrepreneur and, and leave school and just, you know, go do something different. I remember overhearing her talk. To another friend of ours, they were like shit talking me and they didn't know I was behind the next door, so I could hear everything they were saying. And they were laughing at me and they were saying, oh my God, she's so pathetic. She's gonna go start a blog or an online magazine. They were like mimicking me and like laughing at me.

• 39:32Speaker 00

  And I just remember then, I was like, alright, this is part of my story. I'm gonna go make success and these girls, you know, obviously wish them well, but there were definitely moments in my journey that I was just like, yeah, this is like, I'm definitely living a better life and

• 39:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I wonder what they're doing now.

• 39:48Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, I know, I don't know.

• 39:49Speaker 00

  I hate to say that because I'm like, I'm now like, I actually truly wish them well. But there were times in my journey where I was like

• 39:55Ashley Hesseltine?

  I still want to know.

• 39:55Speaker 00

  I know, I know. There were definitely times in my journey where I was like, ha, like, you know, but anyway.

• 40:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  No.

• 40:01Rayna Greenberg?

  No, I mean, there's always gonna be people that laugh at you. And I think it's like, kind of funny looking back at it because I was a food blogger and it led me out of this tech job I really hated. It led me to meet Ashley and have this podcast. And everybody was like, you're taking pictures of your food. That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

• 40:17Speaker 00

  But I've noticed, this is the thing, the people that are gonna judge you and say rude things about what you do, it's like, they're not happy. I've never seen a happy person ever say something like that. So you just have to realize that, like, those people are just unhappy and they probably deep down have jealousy because they want to do something different and outside of the box, they just don't have the courage.

• 40:37Ashley Hesseltine?

  Every hater you see on the internet, like, you're, they're all telling of themselves. Like, you know, tell us you hate yourself without telling us, so. And I think it's good to have people like, that want a big life, that have big dreams and people you look up to. And those are the people you talk to if you want advice on certain things. Like, anything I've ever started in my life, I've, I've, I've used to blog as well, many, many years ago, and then I started an Instagram account, it was Influencer, the Podcast, stuff like that. I always ask people's opinion that I like, trust and value and that I look up to, you know, like, and those are the people that are always gonna say, that sounds like a great idea, I think you should do it, as opposed to the people that are gonna knock you down.

• 41:16Speaker 00

  Totally.

• 41:17Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay, just gonna take a quick break. I'm gonna tell you guys about Nutriful. You know I've been on a hair journey for quite a while and Nutriful is really one big part of it. I can't imagine my life without it. I take my women's formula, four capsules every day, and Nutriful really is the Number one, dermatologist recommended hair growth supplement brand trusted by over one and a half million people. I am one of them and it really is so personal to me. Like I had a situation where I was noticing so much shedding and my hair had changed so drastically. And I am not shedding in the shower at all. Like I feel like I've figured it out how to strengthen my hair and other things too. It's not just Nutriful, but Nutriful is like what keeps it growing, keeps it healthy and strong. I mean, I can't imagine my life without it. I do everything

• 42:02Ashley Hesseltine?

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• 42:44Ashley Hesseltine?

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• 43:12Rayna Greenberg?

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• 43:56Rayna Greenberg?

  for you, this is something you guys are really gonna love. Every time somebody says to me, "My breasts have gotten way bigger or smaller," which I replace my bras with, this is always my suggestion.

• 44:04Ashley Hesseltine?

  Smaller? You're talking about me?

• 44:05Rayna Greenberg?

  Talking about me. 19 breast reductions over here.

• 44:10Ashley Hesseltine?

  Both of us. Why are titties shrank so much?

• 44:12Rayna Greenberg?

  No, it's really disappointing. I hate it. I really hate it.

• 44:17Rayna Greenberg?

  So like, if somebody is postpartum, my sister-in-law had asked me about new bras, that's what I suggested. And I love the quality, and there's a million sizes and colors to choose from. You can shop our favorite bras and underwear at skims.com. And after you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you. Select podcasts in the survey, and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. And if you're looking for the perfect gift for Valentine's Day or for yourself, the Skims Valentine's Shop is now open. I love their drops. I love their seasonal drops. Okay. Can we talk about, I listened to you talk about this, I'm gonna remind you what you said, but I listened to you talk about it on a podcast, and you talked about four zero-cost ways to completely turn your life around. I'm gonna read them to you, and then I wanna unpack some of them. Because these are great takeaways that you had. So the first thing was doing a life audit, which you talked about, you know, who am I, who's around me?

• 45:01Rayna Greenberg?

  Adopt a quick bounce-back rate.

• 45:03Speaker 00

  So, the bounce-back rate is this term that I developed, and essentially, it's just the rate at which you bounce back into being your future self, the person that you wanna be. So for example, if you, if your future self is very healthy and cares about vitality, and for some reason, you go out and eat like a fast food meal one night, like, that's okay, but it's just how quickly you get back to being your future self. And it's not, "Oh, I've ruined it now, I have to wait till Monday." So your bounce-back rate is essentially, like, the measure of how successful you'll be. Because perfection is completely, like, not attainable. No matter who you are, whether you're a supermodel, and, you know, you have millions in the bank. No. These people that we see in magazines have never once had one completely perfect day, where they wake up at 5:00 a.m., they don't procrastinate,

• 45:47Speaker 00

  they eat organic all day, they, you know, like, do their perfect skincare routine. Like, no one ever has a perfect day. We're human. So perfection is not what we should measure success as. It is a quick bounce-back rate. Because what successful people have... That not successful people have is a quick bounce back rate. When they do something that veers off of the person that they aspire to be, they just naturally get back on the bandwagon quickly because it's part of their self-image. But someone, for example, that hasn't been able to create success in their business or something, and maybe they're procrastinating too much or mindlessly scrolling throughout the day, or they're not doing what they know that they need to do, they'll often just wait until they find inspired motivation.

• 46:31Speaker 00

  But the people that actually do it and achieve that, they'll just naturally do that because it's just who they are. So a bounce back rate is a great measure. When I first started my journey, I mentioned I had a very long bounce back rate. And now I can bounce back to being who I want to be in seconds. So that's just a tool you can think to yourself at home. It's the beginning of 2025. First, get clarity and do a life audit. Figure out who you want to be. Figure out the version of you that you want to be. And then in everyday moments, in these little moments, bounce back to being them. Whether that's just a thought spiral you're going down, a rabbit hole, how you're feeling, your energy, how you're thinking, your posture, just how you're embodying yourself.

• 47:14Speaker 00

  Just bounce back to being her in everyday moments. And you'll see, it's such an easy thing. It's just about the speed.

• 47:23Rayna Greenberg?

  I like giving yourself grace. And if you really read anything about habits, we talked to James Clear about this, who wrote Atomic Habits, which is the greatest book about habit forming. And he talks a lot about, like, it's okay if you decide you're going to work out all the time and lose weight. It's okay if you take a week off, but can you get back into it? And like, that's it. And nobody has this perfect day. And I like that notion of that.

• 47:42Ashley Hesseltine?

  A hundred percent.

• 47:43Speaker 00

  Exactly.

• 47:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, you can apply it to anything, like dating. If you're on some sort of journey and you slip up and you sleep with your ex, whatever, we're all human, you know, just get back into it. Like, don't throw it all away because you made one mistake. Well, maybe it was a mistake. You know, you decide if it was a mistake or not.

• 47:58Rayna Greenberg?

  Maybe it was a fun night. You'll get back to being her. But maybe you want that little dopamine rush, your toxicity, and that feels good too sometimes. Okay, so your third thing, act like you are already your future self.

• 48:09Speaker 00

  Yes, act as if.

• 48:11Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah.

• 48:11Speaker 00

  The best way to be who you want to be is act like them.

• 48:14Rayna Greenberg?

  Is be who you want to be.

• 48:15Speaker 00

  Exactly. Like, you don't need to overcomplicate it. All of this is so simple. It is so easy. You don't need to be in the perfect situation, the perfect time, with the perfect mindset to just act like your future self and do all the things I speak about. You just have to do it in everyday moments. Like when you're in line at the grocery store, if you have a minute, just like, don't even say anything. You don't have to think anything either. Just hold yourself like the person you want to be. Pretend you're like the main character in your movie. And this main character is creating their dream life. They're transforming, they're becoming this next level version of themselves. You just have to hold yourself like it. Act as if you're meeting a stranger on the street.

• 48:56Speaker 00

  Or if you're at that grocery store and you're at the cash, like speak to the person like you are your future self. Have these little moments that are seemingly insignificant. But if you keep doing this, you do them in bigger and bigger ways. And it just ends up becoming who you are.

• 49:11Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay. And rounding it out with reducing, Ashley's gonna love this one too. And this is so good for you. Reducing the time that you spend staring at a screen.

• 49:19Speaker 00

  Oh, my gosh. This is game changing. And I was speaking earlier in the podcast about numbing versus feeling alive. And those two things are complete opposites to each other. When you're feeling numb, you're not feeling alive. When you're feeling alive, you're not feeling numb. And I have noticed from both personal experience and from just, you know, looking at the world around us and reading certain things about this as well. There is science to prove it. Your brain actually like does this weird thing where it just disassociates. It shuts off when we're mindlessly scrolling. And one of the best things you can do this year to feel more alive and more present. And when you're feeling alive, you remember to bounce back so much more. Everything is going way better in your life when you're feeling alive.

• 50:03Speaker 00

  The best thing to do is just to limit your screen time. I saw this kind of scary thing the other day and it was this guy showing, um, it was like a piece of paper with all these dots on it. And it was like every single dot, he was doing this TED Talk. Every single dot is a month of your life. And he showed all the dots filled in for like a typical 18 year old. And it just shows how many months left we all have. And he said, okay, and then now all of these months are going to be spent you sleeping. And then all of these months are going to be spent you doing errands. And then all these ones are you working, which leaves like just a few rows left of you having free time in the time you have left to live on this earth. And he said, at this rate, 93% of that time will be spent staring at a screen.

• 50:48Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

• 50:49Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 50:50Rayna Greenberg?

  I knew you were gonna say some shit like that.

• 50:51Speaker 00

  That was crazy.

• 50:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  And it's like, it really hits. Yeah.

• 50:56Speaker 00

  You really just need to, in this sobering way, realize how precious time is. And get emotional about it. You know, like, if you really want to change your life, you need to get emotional about the fact that we don't have that much time living our one chance being alive. What is that one chance, that one opportunity that you want to experience in your life? And if you want to live an existence where you just rinse and repeat the same day that never actually makes you feel that great, and you're just kind of getting by and waiting, and it's like, we constantly live in the state of waiting for something. And then you reach the end of your life and you're like, what?

• 51:37Speaker 00

  Don't end your life with regret, is what I'm saying. And that's why I feel so passionate with personal development work, with the activations I've created. They help you live your future now. They help you be alive and present and live in this beautiful, precious moment as the person you want to be, embodying the feelings and thoughts and emotions as the person you want to be. It's not this far distant goal in the future, this life that you want. Like, you can live it now while it's happening. You can just embrace this beautiful, precious life right now. And that is what I feel the most emotional, like, talking about. Because it's like, what is life if, if you're not going to do that?

• 52:19Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. I mean, unfortunately, you can look at your screen time and you can break it down that way. And when we talked with Scott Galloway, he was like, when I coach men, I take their phone and I'm like, here's the hours and hours you spend doing god knows what, porn, gambling, whatever it is, you know, social media. Not that those are all created equal, but you know, like, all the, everything else you could be doing with that time.

• 52:38Speaker 00

  And like, you can also, sometimes people have to, like, forcefully actually delete the apps, not just trust.

• 52:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  I do the time limits, which is a slow start.

• 52:47Speaker 00

  I used to do that. And I would, every single time, just, I had this, like, it became habit for my finger just to go, oh, snooze or next, or like, turn it off. Like, so, I was telling you guys off air, I actually spent the past six months, like, deleted Instagram and TikTok and everything. And it was the most freeing, beautiful time. Like, I genuinely feel like. I have never been happier in my life.

• 53:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  Can we back up and like talk about?

• 53:11Speaker 00

  Why and everything?

• 53:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, I want to hear. This is like major, like six months off and like the apps you weren't on. You know, were you still communicating with people? Like, I just want to hear about it.

• 53:20Speaker 00

  You know, I was playing with the thought for a while. I had to combat the random belief that like, oh, with my work and business, I should be online because I have a following on there. And then I was like, does it actually influence like my revenue for my business? No, like it doesn't. And does it actually, what is it actually doing? I was really thinking like, what is social media actually doing to benefit me? And I couldn't come up with a great reason. Like, it doesn't directly influence the revenue for my business. Like, everyone that is subscribed to activations by now that follows me like is subscribed. Like, it doesn't really make a huge difference if I do. Like, people are already like subscribed and I, you know, I just didn't.

• 54:03Speaker 00

  I didn't feel like there was a massive benefit when it comes to like my big goals in life right now. And I was always kind of, you know, a weekend here and there, I would turn off, I would delete the app from Friday to Monday. Like, I was doing things like that already. But then I just realized that there was just no benefit to it. So I played with the thought of just deleting it for a while. And I, it's been six months. I actually just did a post like as an update and then I re-deleted the app. So I still, I don't have, like, it's going to be another six months probably. And I have, you know, my assistant can probably do a post for me if I need her to or like, I can, you know, I like sharing. And I'm going to revive, I think, my podcast like we were talking about before, because I think that like audio will never really make you feel numb.

• 54:44Speaker 00

  That's why I love audio so much. That's why I love listening to podcasts. That's why I love activations. Like, audio, you're still present. There's something about staring at a screen where you disassociate. Anyway, so I also had this realization that, so I'm getting married in July and my life, you know, I'm ending this one era of my life right now. There's, you know, just a bit of time left I have before my wedding and after the wedding, maybe we'll start a family and you know, kind of that era of my life will, will begin. And I just felt, you know what, this is a very important year for me. I want to be as present as possible. I want to be alive, as alive as I possibly can. Like this is a very precious time for me. So I thought, I'm just gonna delete it. And I realized as well that like,

• 55:28Speaker 00

  I just stopped caring. Like my ego just really calmed down as well. Like there were little things, like the past six months, I've done the craziest trips. I've been on yachts. I've been like in the coolest places. And I just have had zero craving to like post and gloat about it. So I just think that shows just a level of evolution I've had recently. Cause obviously we all, you know, social media is where you show off. Like it's hard to be real on social media. And I just didn't feel like I resonated with it anymore. And I just didn't want to spend my time that way. And it was hard because there were people that I stayed in touch with on there. But then like I realized I, you know, my real friends are gonna text me. I don't need to have loads of friends. Like I want to just be a bit more

• 56:10Speaker 00

  private as well, I've realized. And I think that just being glued to my phone and feeling this pressure to post all the time, it wasn't healthy. And I had withdrawals at first. I literally did. Like I, for weeks, actually, it took probably a whole month for all the cravings to go. It was insane. And I just deleted Instagram. And I actually was never that big at scrolling on TikTok, but Instagram was just like, you know, where you could get into this mindless pit of scrolling for me. And even if it was just for five minutes at a time, like it's not like I was spending all day. Like I work, like I'm busy. It's not like I was spending all day scrolling. Right. But it was just, I noticed that these like little moments, like even for five minutes before a call, or if I, you know, like was stressed and I just wanted to like numb out for a minute, I would just like scroll or like check something and feel like I was always

• 56:55Speaker 00

  needed on there. And I noticed that even five minutes of that affects the rest of my entire day. I wasn't as creative. I wasn't as good at doing things. Like the past six months, I have created so many life-changing activations with my team of audio engineers for the app, where I just felt this like connection. With something that I I really was hard to connect with before. Like the content on the app has improved. My career has improved. Everything has improved. My business has almost doubled in the past six months. Like,

• 57:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Congrats.

• 57:26Speaker 00

  Thank you. I I didn't need social media to do that.

• 57:28Rayna Greenberg?

  Uh huh. I think about, you know, people ask us all the time, how do you, how do you stay confident? How can I be more confident? When I think about, when am I the happiest? When I feel confident? And what makes me feel the least confident is comparing myself to other people on the internet. And it's the most like, everybody says all the time, you know, comparison is the thief of joy, but it really is. And like, I can see something sometimes first thing in the morning, it'll wipe me out for a couple hours. And over the years, Ashley and I have spent a ton of time talking about this on, on the show, but unfollowing people that make you feel bad about yourself. I moved Instagram to the last screen on my phone. So I kind of broke that muscle memory of going to it on the first screen all the time. And I love, I'm pathologically online and I love it. I love fashion tips and cooking videos and comedy, but I've certainly, I've muted a lot of words.

• 58:10Rayna Greenberg?

  So they just don't come across my desk. And I just don't want to spend my day comparing myself to other people. It doesn't benefit me. It doesn't make me more creative. It doesn't make me a better person. It certainly doesn't make me a happier person. And even taking it off your phone for like three or four days, it just feels nice.

• 58:24Speaker 00

  Yeah, like even just for weekends from Friday to Monday, delete, like it, you don't need to go cold turkey like me. Like I'm, I'm just a bit more of an extreme person, I think, but I agree with you, like just limiting it. And I've also realized that, so when I re-downloaded it last week to do like a, I just did an update post, it was on my phone for like a few days and I actually didn't have the craving. Like I maybe looked a few times, but that craving actually went away. So it was really cool to see that because, you know, you just kind of didn't care anymore.

• 58:53Rayna Greenberg?

  It really is like an addiction. I mean, I say this lightly in the, the way that like drinking and food can be. Cause you're doing something excessively, like for trying to get a hit of something. I don't know.

• 59:05Speaker 00

  I think it's just as addictive.

• 59:06Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, like I'm scrolling, like, what am I looking for? What am I hoping to feel? Like, what am I wanting to come across? You know, and I'm the same as Rayna, you know, and I love to look at comedy and, you know, we need to stay in tune with pop culture and stuff for our podcasts and all that stuff. Like it is a necessity and it does benefit our business, both of our businesses as well. So, I mean, that goes without saying, but it's just like, sometimes I'm scrolling, I'm like, what am I hoping to feel?

• 59:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  You know, what am I, what am I trying to get, get out of this? And then I like, when I realized that I put my phone away most of the time, you know, like you're numbing, but yet still trying to get a hit of something, you know, the every, we all have our own reasons for doing it, but it does, it does feel like the excessively eating or drinking or something else too.

• 59:46Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 59:47Ashley Hesseltine?

  Can we talk a little bit more about activations?

• 59:49Speaker 00

  Absolutely.

• 59:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  And just like the, the, the science behind it and the ideas behind it and how people can use the app because we've referenced it like a lot, but I would love to just.

• 59:57Speaker 00

  Yeah, for sure. Well, activations are a new type of audio that I developed. So it's not meditation, it's activation and it's this beautiful mix of visualization, motivational guidance and this music that makes you feel so alive. And we actually use a lot of composers. I met with one of our composers yesterday for lunch that do like a lot of movie scores. So that create these like movie moment type of audios, like music that just really tell a story. And as we all know, music has such an influential role in how we feel and our state. Like imagine watching a movie without any background music. Who doesn't know how to feel?

• 1:00:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  You hear like shoes squeaking on the floor.

• 1:00:37Speaker 00

  Yeah, like.

• 1:00:38Ashley Hesseltine?

  Like awkwardness. Yeah.

• 1:00:40Speaker 00

  Yeah. You don't know when to be scared. You don't know when to be hopeful. You don't know when to be happy. You don't know when to be nervous. Like it, music really does tell you how to feel. It's like another language almost. So can you imagine using the power of music, like very cinematic, movie moment, emotive music that makes you feel like you are transforming, you are evolving. It is changing your state, even just listening to that music. That plus these visualizations, these affirmations, these like subliminal messages, changing how your brain works. That together, paired with certain frequencies that our audio engineers layer into a lot of our activations. It is like this audio that is transforming you, whether you are listening to it consciously or just in the

• 1:01:24Speaker 00

  background. So it is the most powerful tool that I have ever, ever found when it comes to transformation. It's what's transformed my life.

• 1:01:33Speaker 00

  We also have tens and tens of thousands of users that use the app every day. And those people send in their stories all of the time. We're hearing these insane transformation stories. We have people from all over the world that are genuinely doing a 180 in every aspect of their life by listening to these. And the crazy thing is, is that I haven't really done that much marketing with the app. Like, it's all been pretty organic, honestly. We have experimented with some paid marketing this year, but like, over the past three years, it's been organic. Everyone's talking about it. Like, word of mouth has been the biggest way that we've grown. So that just shows that, like, it's so good. People are changing. They're talking about it. So, anyway, so activations, it's just an audio app, and it's the only place you can find activations.

• 1:02:17Speaker 00

  And we have activations for every moment of the day. We have over 15 categories from walking to seated, if you want a bit more of like a, like, internal reflection moment. We have writing activations with guided prompts. We have cooking ones, cleaning ones, workout ones, legs up wall ones for lymphatic drainage.

• 1:02:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  I love the legs up the wall. I saw that category last night. I'm like, oh, my gosh. I do it like, at least once a week. I'm like, legs up the wall. Yeah. So I love that you could put on the activation for that.

• 1:02:44Speaker 00

  We literally have an activation for everything. Getting ready in the morning, doing your makeup, like, we also have-

• 1:02:49Ashley Hesseltine?

  A date, before date.

• 1:02:49Speaker 00

  Before a date. We have a pre-date one. We have, like, literally every scenario you could think of. There are over 700 activations on the app. There are somewhat, something for everyone. And the main thing with activations is that it changes your state. It changes your energy. It helps you rewire your mind so that you become your future self. There are activations on there that will help you understand who your future self is. So many of us, we're like, okay, we want to improve our lives. Like, what does that actually look like? I don't know. So, I have a two-step formula to transformation. That's number one, clarity. Number two, becoming. So first, you need to get crystal clear on who your future self is. Really understand her. That's where you want to go to a writing activation. Journal about it. Write about it. Put pen to paper. And then, the only thing you need

• 1:03:32Speaker 00

  to do is become that person. Become them in everyday moments. And the beautiful thing about activations is that you can habit stack them. They don't require you to carve out 20 minutes every morning and- You know, we're all so busy activations. It's just something that you listen to, just like you listen to a podcast or an audiobook or music. Then you have this craving to listen to an activation when you're in that mode to like step into a new energy. And this is how it works so well with transformation. It's like the Pavlov dog theory. We've all heard of the Pavlov dog theory where Pavlov rings a bell, the dog salivates. That's classical conditioning. Activations are classical conditioning for the average person to help you become your future self.

• 1:04:10Speaker 00

  So when you're pairing these new thoughts and new beliefs and new feelings and emotions with everyday actions, this is when change really happens. So for example, if you're listening to a walking activation, which is my favorite category.

• 1:04:22Rayna Greenberg?

  I was gonna ask for your favorite one.

• 1:04:23Speaker 00

  And the getting ready in the morning ones too. I'm a morning activation girl, but anyway, if you're listening to a getting ready activation every morning when you're doing your makeup or skincare routine, or if you're listening to a walking activation for 10 minutes every morning when you're walking your dog, like soon enough, you're not even gonna need the activation to feel abundant, unlimited, like confident and just like in love with life. So when you weave these in through your day, and even if you do them like, you know, for two minutes a day or three times a week, like you're just gonna start noticing these changes. And the more you do it, the more you feel like you're looking back and it's like, oh my God, so much has changed.

• 1:05:03Speaker 00

  It just crept up on me. Like this is what a lot of our users notice. It's like, okay, they're just playing it even in the background. They don't have to consciously even listen to it, but it's just, it's programming their subconscious. It's like a subliminal. And within like a week or two, we get these messages of people being like, I didn't even think it was doing anything at first, but then I was like, oh my God, all of this has changed. Like my thoughts are changing, my habits are changing, my patterns are changing. I'm creating like so much more of what I want in my life. And it's amazing if you want to make more money as well. I think financially, like a lot of people that come to our app, they want to create more wealth in their life or they want to be happier. They want to, you know, create a new relationship. But for me, money is always a fun thing to manifest. Like I think money is the easiest thing for me to manifest.

• 1:05:45Speaker 00

  It's just a very fun frequency to tune into because it's like this big expansive feeling of like abundance and wealth and unlimitedness. And a lot of our activations have that undertone to it. It's like this excitement. It's, it's almost like a natural drug and you're just listening. And with headphones, it's the best experience. And I was actually just listening to one in the car with headphones on the way here. I think it's called. Embody magnetic manifestation energy. It's like one of our new anytime ones that you can listen to whenever. And I was just like, fully feeling this way that I want to live the rest of my life feeling that way. It's like this buzzing throughout my body, this excitedness,

• 1:06:26Speaker 00

  this awe for life, this aliveness. And I just know in that moment, that my energy is attracting even more of that. And it's like this snowball effect.

• 1:06:36Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, exactly.

• 1:06:36Speaker 00

  So if anyone is listening and they want to try it, I know you guys have a special link to get two weeks free and a discount. But yeah, it's just, it's life changing. And you guys can try it for two weeks free. And if it doesn't do anything, you can cancel it. And if you forget to cancel, you can get your money back. We have a full money back guarantee. Like, we just want to make it so low effort and so easy for people to try because it's genuinely life changing. And yeah, I'm just so, so excited.

• 1:07:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  And so, just so you guys have the details on that, again, we said up top, but you can get the 14 days risk free, and you can get a massive discount off your subscription. So go to activations.com slash GGE. So you are going to go to a website to get that discount. So you can see the URL in our episode description. It'll be on our website as well. But that is going to be activations.com slash GGE. The discount is only available through the website, not the App Store. Obviously, your app is in the App Store. But to get that two weeks free, that's going to be the link.

• 1:07:32Speaker 00

  Yeah, annoyingly, the App Store doesn't let us do discounts.

• 1:07:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  We know, we know.

• 1:07:36Speaker 00

  Yeah, you can just quickly sign up on the website, free trial, and then download the app and use your existing sign in details and take advantage of that two weeks free. Because in two weeks, you can, you can see a difference. Like, that's why we wanted to do a long trial period, because we just wanted to prove it. Like, we have nothing to sell here. We're just showing people something that they can try. And they're going to see it works. Like, we wanted to make it low, low risk and low effort.

• 1:07:58Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. And it's a beautifully designed app. There's hundreds and hundreds of activations to choose from. I mean, there is so much to explore. Yeah, but like, easy to navigate. It's not overwhelming. You know, you got, the categories are really, really helpful. So you're not going to go in there and be like, where do I start? I think you're, and you're naturally going to gravitate towards one of the categories. And I just love that you're like, guys, it's not that hard. You know, like, I think people get overwhelmed with change, and what do I need to do and change my whole life? And it's like, you're over here, like, listen, it's just, you don't have to pay attention. It's just going to creep into your brain.

• 1:08:26Speaker 00

  No, but that's the thing. Like, I was there. I remember being at my bottom and being like, "Oh, this is all so hard. I have so much to do. I'm so far away from where I want to be." And this is the exact thing that I did to get to where I am today. And it, I'm telling you, is the most effortless way to transform. You can transform in a really hard, manual, like, labor way. Like, you can, like, really, really work it. Or you can just take a bit more of a shortcut and change your thoughts and your self-image. This is what activations does. It changes your self-image. And then, when you change your self-image, everything else in your life changes. Because, think about like an onion. The core of the onion is your self-image. And every other layer on top of

• 1:09:09Speaker 00

  that, it's like your habits, your thoughts, your, what you do every day. And when you just try to manually change something without first changing your self-image, it becomes very hard to change. So for example, if you do not have the self-image of a runner, then you're not going to wake up in the morning and go for a run. But if you have a self-image of a runner, then you're going to feel weird in the morning if you don't get up and go on a run. I'm saying this, I don't identify as a runner. But it's a really easy example. I don't want, like, I'm a Pilates girly. Like, I don't care to run. But if I wanted to, I would like, change my self-image first, before even trying to wake up early and, and like, drag myself out of bed and, you know, rely on discipline. Like, that's all hard.

• 1:09:53Speaker 00

  I'm just gonna do the work internally first, so that it becomes easy.

• 1:09:56Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. I love that. Love the mindset shift.

• 1:09:59Speaker 00

  I am very much so in the middle of like pragmatic and spiritual. I feel like I give a bit of a balance with that. But there is a part of me that is a little bit more spiritual. And I do believe in some of the quantum physics theories that state that your energy creates your life. And the biofield around us, which is actually measured by science, we all have a biofield of energy around us. I deeply believe that the energy that you put out is the energy that you attract back.

• 1:10:26Rayna Greenberg?

  Really, we just, we can't thank you enough for just your openness about your own life and your story and your struggles. And it's really inspiring to see what you've done and how you turned your life around. You're getting married and.

• 1:10:38Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 1:10:39Rayna Greenberg?

  How long have you guys been together?

• 1:10:41Speaker 00

  Seven and a half years.

• 1:10:42Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh, okay.

• 1:10:43Speaker 00

  He's my first boyfriend. Remember, I remember I was single at 21 and I did an activation and the next day I found him. That was, he's the guy.

• 1:10:49Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh, my God.

• 1:10:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  How did you guys meet?

• 1:10:51Speaker 00

  Bumble.

• 1:10:52Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay, okay. Did you know, like, he was the one or like, I'm curious how like your activations and your mindset and your manifestations kind of translated into him?

• 1:11:05Speaker 00

  Well, first of all, with activations, it's very important to focus on how it feels. So some people think that you can like manifest a very specific thing. But I don't believe that. I believe that you can manifest a very specific feeling that thing will give you. So I'm kind of open to the universe surprising me with what it actually is. So I was, the day before, on October 12th, 2017, I recorded an activation describing Ben, my, my partner. And there were some more visual aspects, like he's 6'4" with dark hair, you know? Obviously, I think that was a bit more luck because I believe in the feeling of it being more.

• 1:11:40Rayna Greenberg?

  He's 6'4"? You're little.

• 1:11:42Speaker 00

  I know, I know.

• 1:11:43Rayna Greenberg?

  Good for you.

• 1:11:43Speaker 00

  Our height difference.

• 1:11:44Ashley Hesseltine?

  You guys met the same week we met.

• 1:11:45Speaker 00

  Oh, my gosh. Wow. A lot happened energetically in that week.

• 1:11:50Ashley Hesseltine?

  October 17?

• 1:11:51Rayna Greenberg?

  October 17th. Listen, October is like a thing. We were the ninth. October is like, I, I just have a big thing about October.

• 1:11:57Speaker 00

  A big week for us. We love October.

• 1:11:59Ashley Hesseltine?

  That week 2017. Look at us now.

• 1:12:02Speaker 00

  That's so crazy.

• 1:12:04Rayna Greenberg?

  You manifested for us, actually.

• 1:12:06Speaker 00

  Well, we're all manifesting together. But anyway, so on October 12th, I recorded one and I obviously said some things about how he looked, but I also said mainly how he made me feel. And I really emphasized that I really like, I'm a helpless romantic. So I'm like, we have these movie moments together all the time. Like, he makes me feel this way. He's charming. Like, I just described him. And the following day. I met him.

• 1:12:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my gosh.

• 1:12:30Speaker 00

  Like, one day later, I I've met him and since then, we've been inseparable.

• 1:12:34Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 1:12:34Speaker 00

  And, yeah, he was my first boyfriend. We're getting married in July and I definitely, I didn't know the minute I met him that he would be my fir- like, I didn't have this feeling, oh, that's my husband.

• 1:12:43Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yes, and I don't think that's real, by the way. People can say it and it's fine. If that's your story, then it's a coincidence that it worked out that way. But, yeah.

• 1:12:49Speaker 00

  Exactly. And our relationship was not perfect from the back. I'm saying this perfect story, but the reality is, we've had loads of ups and downs. Like, we have had years where maybe we kind of fell out a little bit and fell back in. Like, we've been together for a long time.

• 1:13:02Ashley Hesseltine?

  Totally.

• 1:13:02Speaker 00

  So, I'm not here saying that, like, you know, it's been perfect from day one, but he, it's just become more and more like this relationship that I just, I I don't know what I would do without him. I'm so excited to marry him. I actually was meeting, I met with one of our, like, big composers yesterday for lunch, as I was mentioning. He's creating, like, a custom song for me to walk down the aisle to. I'm gonna be living in activation. I will.

• 1:13:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  I just wanna hear it.

• 1:13:26Speaker 00

  I will. I will actually probably have it on the app, too, because like-

• 1:13:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  That's really special.

• 1:13:30Speaker 00

  We'll use it in the app, but like, we're creating an activation, like, a custom, like, one minute, like, because it's like a lot of, like, orchestral, like, big and tense, like, the app, it's like, I'm literally gonna be walking in my own activation. So then I can also relive the moment a hundred times.

• 1:13:45Ashley Hesseltine?

  This is really- Yeah, music is so huge. I was talking to this wedding planner yesterday, and I was like, I'm gonna DJ the wedding. Just, I need someone who can hit play, but I am such a psychotic person about music. Like, I'm gonna have the playlist. This is when these things are gonna happen, during dinner, during dancing, you know, I don't want to miss a song that I went, played at my wedding. So, you know, I just need someone back there behind the DJ.

• 1:14:05Speaker 00

  When's your wedding?

• 1:14:06Ashley Hesseltine?

  Um, hopefully, November.

• 1:14:07Speaker 00

  Oh, my gosh. So exciting.

• 1:14:09Ashley Hesseltine?

  So, okay, and then you mentioned masturbating.

• 1:14:12Speaker 00

  Oh, my god.

• 1:14:12Ashley Hesseltine?

  And manifesting.

• 1:14:13Speaker 00

  This is off air.

• 1:14:14Ashley Hesseltine?

  We can.

• 1:14:16Rayna Greenberg?

  We don't have to talk about-

• 1:14:17Speaker 00

  No, no, no, I'm kidding.

• 1:14:17Rayna Greenberg?

  Your specific taste in masturbating, but if you want to, we can.

• 1:14:20Speaker 00

  I actually don't do it that much, because every time I'm horny, Ben is just, like, on it. Like, he's such a guy.

• 1:14:26Ashley Hesseltine?

  Love to hear it.

• 1:14:26Rayna Greenberg?

  That's the dream.

• 1:14:27Speaker 00

  I don't even know how, like, I don't share this a lot. But, anyway, I'll be, I'll be Girls Gotta Eat vibes right now.

• 1:14:32Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, vibes only.

• 1:14:33Speaker 00

  But, no, when we were talking off air about, like, I'm such a manifester, that, like, once, years ago, I read, oh, like, when you're about to orgasm, if you think about the things that you're manifesting, like, it draws it in closer to you energetically. And I was like, kind of makes sense, because, like- For me, like manifesting is all about how you feel and like, how do you feel when you're having an orgasm? You feel like incredible and your energy is like expansive and big and like you just feel high on life, right? So I have started and it's not even in, like it's in sex. And so Ben is like, did you do it this time? I'm like, yep.

• 1:15:07Rayna Greenberg?

  Oh my god!

• 1:15:08Speaker 00

  Ben's like, I can tell you're manifesting.

• 1:15:09Rayna Greenberg?

  Wait, I'm like, I don't, I don't, I'll do it with him. It's just like opened up my world. I've always done it during masturbation. I even did that with our company, our sex toy company.

• 1:15:17Speaker 00

  Oh my god, now you've something to do during doggy.

• 1:15:18Rayna Greenberg?

  Yeah, but now that's so funny.

• 1:15:20Speaker 00

  I'm doing it in sex. I'm manifesting during sex.

• 1:15:25Rayna Greenberg?

  Okay.

• 1:15:25Speaker 00

  Yeah, so.

• 1:15:26Rayna Greenberg?

  Well, do it in a position you don't love, you know? Sex manifestation. That is so funny. And he's like, did you come? Yes, did you manifest?

• 1:15:34Speaker 00

  I don't do it every time. Listen, I don't do it every time, but it's a different type of orgasm. It's weird not to get into the specifics.

• 1:15:40Rayna Greenberg?

  You could do it during anal and just disassociate. Yeah, but I like that, like, I'll die without everything. I like that you could manifest.

• 1:15:47Speaker 00

  I love how this podcast is just taking a complete turn.

• 1:15:49Rayna Greenberg?

  We had to, we had to do it.

• 1:15:50Speaker 00

  We'll bring it back to anal.

• 1:15:51Rayna Greenberg?

  But I like the sex manifestation with your partner and like what you want out of that relationship.

• 1:15:57Speaker 00

  Oh no, I don't even think about our relationship. I'm like, I've already got that. I'm thinking about money.

• 1:16:04Rayna Greenberg?

  I know, because you already got the ring bitch. I'm saying like, if you want to get engaged, what better time to be like?

• 1:16:10Speaker 00

  Sure, but like, I'm being honest, like I'm very, like, I know it's sometimes distasteful to talk about money, but I fucking love manifesting money because I came from so little and I've created so much for myself. Like, it's just such a fun thing for me to manifest because I really feel like it's unlimited.

• 1:16:24Rayna Greenberg?

  I don't think it's really that distasteful. I mean, listen, there's a certain way to speak about everything, but like if I'm gonna be life coached by somebody that's like, you can have this life you want and the money you want. I want to be like, have you done that? Have you gotten the money that you're talking about that I can have?

• 1:16:37Speaker 00

  Oh my god, so I started doing this, especially with money. So like when I'm about to, I'm like, okay, I'm thinking about the number. I'm thinking about how it feels. I'm thinking about the abundance. I'm thinking about, you know, the opportunity. Like, I'm thinking about the number. And I was doing this and listen, at the end of the day, I have probably done this maybe 20 times in my life, like this orgasm manifesting. It's not gonna do it every time, but it definitely works because it like permeates your energy in some way. And like, it, it makes you feel like, I honestly feel like activations. You know how they say, like, remember when you were younger, they're like, oh yeah, when you do this to your knee or like when you sneeze, it's like an eighth of an orgasm? I feel like doing activations is like an eighth of an orgasm.

• 1:17:14Rayna Greenberg?

  I love that.

• 1:17:16Speaker 00

  Because I feel that way and I like tune into that same frequency when I'm in that state. And this shouldn't have happened, by the way, like I haven't done much marketing for my business. Like, I don't have millions of followers online. Like, it's not like it just all came to me. Like, my entire business in itself has been a manifestation. Like, things just come to me. People just start talking about it. And I really do believe that I'm the source of the energy that's been creating this.

• 1:17:43Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, that's the secret. I like that people are like, what's your secret? For a lot of people, it was, well, I had billions of followers and that's, you know, not such a secret, but you like,

• 1:17:52Speaker 00

  It just happened too easily, almost.

• 1:17:54Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:55Speaker 00

  Like, and, and I had had, it's not like this is my first business and I'm just magically now a millionaire. Like, before this, I tried many different businesses and I failed many, many times. But this is different. Like, I all, I really feel like because it's also a business that so many people are also getting the same results from. Like, it's just this like ball, this like flywheel of just happiness, success, abundance for everyone involved. And it really just, the energy of the business itself, it's, it's what I preach, it's who I am, it's abundance, it's big, it's unlimited, it's happiness, it's awe. I love the feeling of an awe for life, like that feeling of like, wow, like, this is like, everything's coming together, everything is connected.

• 1:18:36Speaker 00

  And it's extremely exciting to just even talk about because it's just, it shouldn't have happened. Like, this has all happened in a very unique way. And then we just start seeing people out of the woodworks come out and like, say that they love the app. Like, Miranda Kerr messaged me and she was like, oh, my God, I love the app. Like, you know, just random people that I'm like, okay, like, wow. Like, people are just talking about this. It's, it's really special.

• 1:19:00Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah, they're being impacted.

• 1:19:02Rayna Greenberg?

  And of course, you guys know where to get the app. But Mimi, tell everybody where to find you, your company, everything.

• 1:19:07Speaker 00

  Yeah, absolutely. So, I'm probably not on Instagram, but if you want to go on my Instagram, it's at Mimi Bouchard. My first ever book with Hay House is coming out in April. So, you can preorder that now on Amazon. It's called Activate Your Future Self. And it is just so much info. I'm so excited for people to read it. It's like my whole life's teachings in one book.

• 1:19:29Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh, my God.

• 1:19:29Speaker 00

  So, go preorder Activate Your Future Self. And yeah, I guess, check me out on Instagram and see if I ever post again. I also, just to remind everyone, if they want to take advantage of The Girl's Got to Eat, big, big discount on yearly memberships for the activations app. They can go to activations.com slash GGE and take advantage of the two weeks free money back guarantee and the massive yearly discount.

• 1:19:53Ashley Hesseltine?

  Yeah. And if you guys forget that, it's on our website also at girlsgottaeat.com and in the episode description.

• 1:19:57Speaker 00

  I also think that we're putting a playlist of both of your favorite activations on the website.

• 1:20:01Ashley Hesseltine?

  Oh.

• 1:20:02Speaker 00

  So if people want to go to the website and look at both of your favorite activations, they can see which ones there are.

• 1:20:07Ashley Hesseltine?

  Okay.

• 1:20:08Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:20:08Ashley Hesseltine?

  Absolutely. Okay. And you guys know where to find us, girlsgottaeat.com. That's our website. Girls Got to Eat Podcast on Instagram and TikTok. I'm Ash Hess, Rayna is Rayna Greenberg. Our company Vibes Only, so you can masturbate and manifest vibesonly.com. Subscribe on YouTube. Share this episode with a friend and we will see you Thursday.

• 1:20:28Rayna Greenberg?

  Have a happy new year, guys. We love you so much. Thank you for being here, kicking the year off with us. We can't wait for 2025.

• 1:20:35Ashley Hesseltine?

  Bye.