The Power of Persistence: How Hard Work Will TRANSFORM Your Life Feat. Sean Casey

How far are you willing to go when the odds are stacked against you? In this incredible mashup, you’ll hear from some of the most inspiring voices, including Sean Casey, who prove that relentless effort and perseverance can change everything. From facing rejection in high school to becoming an MLB All-Star, Sean’s journey is a testament to what happens when you refuse to give up—especially when no one believes in you. We break down Sean’s story of growing up without the accolades or the attention of scouts, feeling like he was overlooked and underestimated. But instead of letting that defeat him, Sean doubled down, putting in the work day after day in a local batting cage, grinding until he became a player no one could ignore. He shares how his father's advice to “be accountable and put in the work” became the guiding principle that pushed him through the tough times when no one was watching and no opportunities seemed to come his way. It’s not just about talent; it’s about showing up when no one else is willing to. Alongside Sean's journey, you’ll hear insights from Nick Santonastasso, who redefined what’s possible by overcoming his physical limitations, and Grant Cardone, who emphasizes the importance of playing offense in life—creating your own opportunities instead of waiting for someone else to hand them to you. These stories will light a fire inside you, showing that with persistence, you can break through any obstacle. Here’s what you’ll learn: - How to turn rejection into fuel for success - Why your daily habits shape your future - The importance of "playing offense" and creating your own opportunities - Real-life examples of persistence leading to extraordinary outcomes This episode is packed with actionable strategies to help you push past your current limits, take control of your destiny, and build a future you deserve. Sean Casey’s story reminds us all that success isn’t about immediate recognition—it’s about the relentless pursuit of your goals, even when no one is watching. It’s a masterclass in perseverance, showing how hard work and dedication can transform not just your career, but your entire life. No matter where you are in your journey, this episode will inspire you to dig deeper, push harder, and keep going until the breakthrough happens. When life gets tough, remember that persistence isn’t just a strategy—it’s the key to unlocking your fullest potential. Keep showing up, keep putting in the work, and watch as everything begins to shift in your favor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

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• 0:45Ed Mylett?

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• 2:08Speaker 01

  This is the Ed Mylett Show.

• 2:13Ed Mylett?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. My guest today played 12 years in the major leagues. Let me just tell you something. He could flat mash. This dude could hit. So, we're going to talk about peak performance today and overcoming adversity, all kinds of incredible stuff with Sean Casey Case. Welcome to the show, brother.

• 2:38Sean Casey?

  Ed, thanks for having me on. Dude was so fired up to be here, brother.

• 2:41Ed Mylett?

  So, I want to go back to the, kind of the beginning with you. So, Michael Jordan's got this amazing story that everyone throws around that, you know, he ends up being the greatest of all time, but he didn't even, you know, make his varsity team his sophomore year. There's this great story, and it's a great story. But the guy went to North Carolina, had a bunch of scholarship offers. You, on the other hand, when I say this guy could hit, I mean, I, other big league baseball players envied your swing and just were, you know, you're just a remarkable hitter and player. But in high school, we go back, like, you didn't really have any juice. No one wanted you. Out of high school, you couldn't even get a scholarship. You couldn't even get someone to look at you. I want you all to think about this that are listening. Wherever you are in your life right now, you're like, no one knows me. Nothing's happening. This dude couldn't even get someone to come scout him.

• 3:26Ed Mylett?

  Never mind him offer you money. No one even come look, right? Is that true?

• 3:29Sean Casey?

  No. I mean, you know, it's funny. We were talking about, you know, you're out in California. You've got, you've gone, hey, we had nine dudes from our high school get drafted. I'm like, what? I couldn't, I haven't seen, I haven't seen nine scouts in my life in Pittsburgh. You know what I mean? It was incredible. So, you know, it's, it's a great story. And I, you know, as I look back, and I, I think we were, we were talking earlier, like, my dad's in a place right now where he's, has gone through two open heart surgeries and, and all this stuff. So, you know, even more like he and I have connected and, and we, we've kind of gone back down memory lane. And, you know, it's funny when I look back at, when I look back at, you know, growing up in Pittsburgh, like, you know, I was one of the better players, probably 10, 11, 12. You know how that goes. Then you go to the bigger fields, 13, 14. And so, I remember being 14 years old and, um, and, and I, I wasn't, I didn't play at

• 4:13Sean Casey?

  all freshman year. And I'm like, man, why am I not playing at all?

• 4:16Ed Mylett?

  You didn't play?

• 4:16Sean Casey?

  Like, I played a little bit. I was like, hey, Casey, get in there and pinch hit. And I'm like, what? You know, so, yeah. So, didn't really play much, played a little bit here and there. And I remember like a few games into the year going to my dad and being like, hey, dad. Help me out here. You know what I mean? Like, you know how good I am. You saw me hitting bombs when I was 12, just crushing balls like 220 in the gap, you know what I mean? Like dominating, you know? And I'm like, you know, and I, you know that I should be starting as a freshman, you know, freshman baseball. And he's like, and I was like, do you think you could go talk to the coach? No, that'd be, that'd be just help me out. You know what I mean? Like, get your dad to kind of snowplow in there and there.

• 4:53Ed Mylett?

  A lot of guys do do that.

• 4:54Sean Casey?

  That's what I mean. Exactly. You know, and I, I think back now as a dad, and I know you do too, Ed, is the conversations you have with your kid. Like, man, am I enabling my kids? You know, I, I feel like you disable people when you enable them. You know, am I enabling my kids sometimes? Am I making it too easy? And, and do I say no enough to maybe sometimes for a lesson, right? And like, so when I look back at this conversation, had my dad gone and talked to the coach? We're not even talking.

• 5:18Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, that incredible.

• 5:19Sean Casey?

  We're not even talking.

• 5:20Ed Mylett?

  So he says no.

• 5:21Sean Casey?

  So my dad says no. He's like, you know what, Sean? I'm not going to talk to the coach. He goes, he goes, but he goes, one thing I will say is the kid that's playing ahead of you, I don't think he's better than you, but you're not glaringly better than him. You're not glaringly better than him. He goes, if you want to start playing, then you got to start taking accountability for who you are as a player and for you, who you are as, you know, putting in the work. He goes, there's a batting cage that just opened up in the, in the town next to us. He goes, I'll make you a deal. He goes, I'll buy you as many tokens as you want, as long as you hit every day. As soon as you stop hitting, the deal's off.

• 5:58Ed Mylett?

  I love your dad.

• 5:59Sean Casey?

  Yeah, it was incredible. When I said, you know what? You got a deal, Dad. He goes, you got to start being accountable for who you are and putting in the work. And Ed, dude, I, I started falling in love. I, I went, I went to the cages. I went to this batting cage. It was Grand Slam USA and, yeah, you remember Grand Slam when they first came out? And I look back like things you're grateful for. I literally, my gratitude journal recently was like, I'm so grateful that that guy, Dick Thomas. Decided to put a Grand Slam USA in the town next to me in Pittsburgh.

• 6:27Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 6:27Sean Casey?

  You know, it's incredible when you think back at your life, you know what I mean? So I end up meeting a guy on Tuesday night named Frank Porco. Never played, never played, um, never ever played college baseball, but he was a hitting instructor.

• 6:37Speaker 03

  I wanted to ask you that. So this guy that helped you didn't even play college baseball?

• 6:41Sean Casey?

  Didn't play college baseball, just high school, and he was making some money on the side. But Ed, talk about divine intervention.

• 6:47Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 6:47Sean Casey?

  This guy knew hitting.

• 6:48Speaker 03

  Hmm.

• 6:49Sean Casey?

  This guy knew hitting and all the years I played in the big leagues and all the, all the, you know, hitting coaches I've been around, I still feel like Frank Porco.

• 6:55Speaker 03

  Really?

• 6:55Sean Casey?

  In Bethel Park, you know, Pennsylvania was the best coach.

• 6:59Speaker 03

  Wow.

• 6:59Sean Casey?

  So I would go to him every Tuesday night. My dad didn't make a lot of money. He was a chemical salesman, making like 33 grand a year, you know? So I knew those tokens were a big deal.

• 7:08Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 7:08Sean Casey?

  I didn't take that for granted. I knew those tokens. I knew the deal was a big deal, right? So, um, I would go every Tuesday night, hit with Frank Porco for 30 minutes, 5:30, 6 o'clock, 20 bucks. You know, it's a lot more now. It's not 20 bucks.

• 7:20Speaker 03

  Yeah, right.

• 7:20Sean Casey?

  But 20 bucks. And then I would just stay, man, and I became obsessed with the, the, the mechanics of, of a swing, all because I wanted to play JV baseball.

• 7:29Speaker 03

  That's crazy.

• 7:29Sean Casey?

  All because I wanted to start my sophomore year, really, right? And it's just, when I look back and like, you know how you talk about just like the compound pounding, the marginal gains, like I could see myself getting like a little bit better every time. Like, oh man, my front shoulder's staying a little better. I'm, I'm really driving off my backside. So next year it comes along and my dad was right. He's like, man, this is gonna work. So sophomore year, I start JV, right? And I'm like, wow, this is working. My dad's right. Like it's that, you know? And, and he was always telling me, you want to, and I was like, I want to play college baseball one day. And he was like, all right, preparation meeting opportunity, like be ashamed one day, Sean, if you came, if, if the opportunity came along and you weren't prepared. I'm like, and I kind of took that stuff to heart. It was just such great lessons. So my sophomore year, hitting every day still. I, I didn't play any other sports.

• 8:12Sean Casey?

  I did play some football and basketball, but by my sophomore year, I was just playing baseball. But I hit every day, hit every day after school. Next thing you know, I'm, I'm junior year, I'm starting varsity. And then senior year, I'm starting varsity. Now I'm a good hitter though, Ed.

• 8:24Speaker 03

  Yeah, now you can break.

• 8:25Sean Casey?

  This works.

• 8:26Speaker 03

  Yeah, yeah.

• 8:26Sean Casey?

  This, uh, doing stuff every day, like, you know, that invisible, those invisible gains, he really do work. And I was driving balls all over. Over the park. So we get to my senior year, man, and, and, you know, uh, kind of another, just a great lesson from my dad. He had just started a new company called Casey Chemical. He's been waiting to do it. He's 50 years old now. He's like, you know what? I'm gonna, I'm gonna start it. It was a, you know, it was, he was like a middle man for like, you know, for selling surfactant chemicals, right? And, and so I could, I saw how, how much he grinded. I saw like the, the work ethic that he put in and I could see now what he was talking about for three years earlier. So, and we, every, every month I'd come home from school and, and, uh, he would be, hey, time to send out the, uh, network marketing.

• 9:09Sean Casey?

  He's like, we got 5,000 letters, Shawnee. Get those, get that, those lips ready because you're going to be licking those envelopes and sending them off. And we would send them out. He would say, hey, listen, if we get three or four people to, to, to come back, we got a sale, we're going to pay the bills. And that's, that was like the kind of the thought process, right? So during my senior year, I had no college scholarship offers, not division one, division two, division three, right? Just like, they weren't there. And you know, you know, remember back in high school, you'd go to those tryouts where like, you know, the big league teams would come and then you'd run the 60 and that's why you got, and you're getting drafted. He was like, this is my leg can fly. You know what I mean? They're like, this Casey, like, does he have, does he have a, a disease we don't know about?

• 9:48Sean Casey?

  Guy looks like he's ice skating in quicksand. You know what I mean? So I'd run the 67, four, seven, five. I'd come, I'd come back at you after the trial. I'm like, oh yeah, when are we going to hit? And they're like, all right, these guys are coming back for day two. And they'd go down the list. They'd be like, and I'm like, Casey, uh, I think you left off Sean Casey. Like, no, you're not on the list. Seven, four, five. We'll see you next time. Royals tryout next week. I'm like, so dude, it was like so frustrating because I'm like, is this a track tryout or are we going to hit? We're not going to hit. This is right. So, so, so my dad, at, at that point, I was getting not many looks. And my dad said, you know what, Sean? I sat down with him. I said, Dad, I really want to play college baseball, but no one's coming. And he goes, no one is going to come. He goes, no one's coming, Sean.

• 10:31Ed Mylett?

  Hmm.

• 10:31Sean Casey?

  He says, you wanna make, you, you wanna go play college baseball? You gotta start playing offense, not defense and quit waiting for somebody to come. He's like, how about tomorrow?

• 10:43Ed Mylett?

  Hmm.

• 10:43Sean Casey?

  You come home from school, you come out to my office, Casey Chemical, you sit down with me.

• 10:47Ed Mylett?

  Hmm.

• 10:48Sean Casey?

  We're gonna write thirty letters. You're gonna write the thirty schools that you wanna go to. Division two, division three, wherever you want. So I come home from school that day, I'm kinda fired up.

• 10:57Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 10:58Sean Casey?

  I got a, I got a game plan. I sit down, my daddy goes, here we go.

• 11:01Ed Mylett?

  Hmm.

• 11:02Sean Casey?

  So bam, I write the first one to Penn State, next one to Clemson, then I'm writing to College of Worcester, Mary, I'm writing whoever, whoever will listen.

• 11:08Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 11:08Sean Casey?

  I just opened my mind, I'm like, I'm gonna play in the big leagues one day, but I gotta get to a college.

• 11:12Ed Mylett?

  Why do your face change when you started to talk about your dad writing the letter? I'm just curious, like, your face changed a little bit?

• 11:17Sean Casey?

  You know what? Cause it fires me up. I'm so grateful.

• 11:19Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 11:20Sean Casey?

  I'm so grateful, you know, it just, you, you, you know, I'm forty-eight now, so you're grateful for those, you're grateful when you look back when you're eighteen years old, seventeen, seventeen years old and, and, uh, you know, you got a dad that's, that's willing to stand next to you when you're, when you're grinding.

• 11:35Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 11:36Sean Casey?

  You know what I mean? That when it's, you know, when it's, you know, when it's not, you know, when everyone tells you you're too slow, you're this and that, you know, you got the guy next to you say, you can do it.

• 11:44Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 11:44Sean Casey?

  Why not you?

• 11:45Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 11:46Sean Casey?

  You know?

• 11:46Ed Mylett?

  I told you the truth too, right? Like, hey, no one's coming.

• 11:48Sean Casey?

  April, no one's coming. And you know, and I think that's the reality of it.

• 11:52Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 11:52Sean Casey?

  That was the reality of it. Like, and then I get, you know, I was like, when you, you know, fight with reality, only you lose a hundred percent. I'm like, they're not?

• 11:57Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 11:58Sean Casey?

  He's like, so we sit down and write these thirties, thirty-

• 12:01Ed Mylett?

  Amazing. I just gotta tell you, like, you're getting me. Like, I don't know why my eyes are watering, but like, I know that that was a, like, you're not here if you don't write those letters. You're not, I know they're gonna hear it in a minute, but like, you're not here if your dad doesn't stand by you. You're not here if you don't play offense. He doesn't tell you, no one's coming, Shawnee.

• 12:16Sean Casey?

  No one's coming.

• 12:17Ed Mylett?

  No one's coming. It's just amazing how moments in life can define us, right?

• 12:21Sean Casey?

  That's what I mean. Like, even with my kids, I'm like, God, I hope I'm saying the right stuff.

• 12:24Ed Mylett?

  Me too, me too.

• 12:25Sean Casey?

  I hope I'm giving the right lessons. I hope I'm not just snowplowing, you know, the road for them and making sure everything's smooth, you know what I mean?

• 12:32Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 12:32Sean Casey?

  The, the less, the adversity that I had was that, that's where I got my advantages, right? So-

• 12:37Ed Mylett?

  So you write the letters?

• 12:38Sean Casey?

  I write the letters, dude. Thirty letters, right before I'm done, I get up to go, he goes, hey, hey, hey, sit back down, he goes, got one more letter, he goes, University of Richmond sent you a flyer. I'm like, oh, fly, you know, now it's like social media, these kids are like, hey, look at my swing, check me out, look, I got millions of followers. They're like, hey, University of Richmond sent you a flyer last year from the Keystone State, can't, why don't you send them one too? So bam, last letter, University of Richmond, dear University of Richmond, thanks for the flyer.

• 13:02Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 13:04Sean Casey?

  I really think I can play there, you know what I mean? Boom, boom, boom. So bam, season goes on, dude, and I'm still hitting every day after school, and I'm having a great year. We ended up winning the championship that year at my, at my school, Upper St. Clair. But with four games to go, brother. And it's incredible how this, how this works. First to bat, I remember we're playing this team called Montour, I get a pitch middle away, bam, rocket left center, you know, I'm like, let's go, couple ribbies, you know? Next, next pitch, you know, get a pitch middle and bam, right, right center, you know? So I'm four for four, eight RBIs, you know, and, and, and four doubles, and you know, bro, like, you, you could probably look back at your high school career, college career, and you know the games.

• 13:40Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 13:41Sean Casey?

  There's a handful of them where you're like, that was, that was incredible.

• 13:43Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 13:45Sean Casey?

  That was my greatest high school game ever. Hands down, no doubt about it, and one hundred percent. So Jerry Malarkey, who's the, who's the coach at Upper St. Clair, I'm running out to play first for the seventh inning, we're dominating this team, he's like, hey, Case, he's like, man, you've had a heck of a game. He goes, how many hits you got? I got four hits, man. He goes, how many ribbies? I got eight ribbies, Jerry. He goes, yeah, you know what? That's great.

• 14:06Sean Casey?

  You see the guy behind the backstop right there? That's Mark McQueen. Just drove six hours from the University of Richmond. To come see you play. And I was like, are you serious? He's like, yeah, he wants to talk to you after the game.

• 14:19Ed Mylett?

  Oh, my gosh.

• 14:20Sean Casey?

  So after the game, I went over.

• 14:21Ed Mylett?

  Preparation and opportunity.

• 14:22Sean Casey?

  Preparation meeting opportunity, and I remember thinking to my dad, like, dad, was this preparation meeting opportunity stuff? Are you BSing here? Because I don't see any opportunities, right?

• 14:31Ed Mylett?

  Right.

• 14:31Sean Casey?

  But he's like, what, and he always, he was always adamant, was, one's gonna come. One's gonna show up. You know, and I went over to Mark McLean, shook his hand. He said, hey, man, he's like, really like your swing. Um, you know, he goes, I, I, let me get back to you tomorrow. So he went back to Coach Atkins back in Richmond, called me, offered me a thousand dollar scholarship. And I think at the time Richmond was like 30 grand. My dad made 33 grand. I was like, Dad, what are we gonna do? He's like, we'll figure it out. We'll take a second mortgage on the house. We'll get some financial aid. So I went to University of Richmond, brother, on the only offer that I had from those letters that I sent out because playing offense and not defense, right?

• 15:05Speaker 03

  Oh, my gosh.

• 15:06Sean Casey?

  Yeah, incredible. I go to University of Richmond.

• 15:08Speaker 03

  Are you, wait, are you all hearing this? Just so you know, the end of the story is this man plays 12 years in the major leagues as one of the greatest hitters over a decade in the major leagues. Multiple All-Star teams. This dude got no looks. No look. If you feel like you're missing your, like, are you hearing this? He gets a thousand dollar, and all due respect to University of Richmond, all due respect. But this is not like Arizona State either, right?

• 15:34Sean Casey?

  It's a mid-major, yeah, exactly.

• 15:36Speaker 03

  Incredible. Go ahead.

• 15:38Sean Casey?

  Incredible. So I go to University of Richmond, hadn't even seen the school. Show up first day with my buddy Jay Adams. Hey, man, hey, nice campus. You're taking 45 visits. I'm like, hey, Ed Milat, let's get him. This guy's gonna be leading off for us for three years. We got boom, boom, boom, Pac 10, SEC. I'm like, hey, great campus.

• 15:57Ed Mylett?

  And I'm interviewing you now, just so you know. And you're the one who played 12 years in the big leagues, so it works out okay. You're on my show talking about your big league career.

• 16:06Sean Casey?

  Isn't that incredible?

• 16:06Ed Mylett?

  It's incredible.

• 16:07Sean Casey?

  It's incredible how life works out. So true. So I go to University of Richmond, bro. I end up starting my freshman year, have a good, good freshman year. Freshman All-American, like, you know, I mean, in that league, you know, but I'm still developing as a player. My sophomore year, I do well, and I go to Cape Cod League. And you obviously know, that's your ticket. If you can get to the Cape, you know, and that year Todd Helton was there, Darren Erst, that was there, Michael Olson, good players, right? Have a really good summer, hit like 340 with the wood bat, you know, almost, you know, lead league in RBIs. And the only reason I say that is because it's the part of the story. I go back my junior year and I'd be, and I, and I, and I hit 461 and I'd led NC, Division One, NCAA baseball in hitting batting, 461, incredible.

• 16:47Sean Casey?

  So I think back to three years or six years, seven years earlier, I'm asking my dad to go talk to the freshman high school coach because I'm not playing. And he just gives me the lesson of you've got to work harder. You've got to put the time in. You've got to start being accountable for what you do. Set new routines. What are your habits after school? All that stuff. And then for me, it then all started to develop. Like, I look back and like, seven years later. Gosh. With the, with, with like you talk about the, the compound pounding, that piñata effect of the invisible gains, all that stuff. Seven years later in the NCAA division was champion. That is freaking incredible.

• 17:22Speaker 04

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on the podcast from Stuck to Unstoppable with host, Stephen Scoggins.

• 17:30Speaker 05

  You mentioned something called becoming an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever.

• 17:35Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 17:36Speaker 05

  And so many people that I see are self sabotaging because they're not viewing it through that lens. So talk to us a little about that.

• 17:42Ed Mylett?

  Okay, I'm sorry. I'm tapping this great note down. Um, here's the thing. Here's the governor that you put on yourself if you're someone who is not an impossibility thinker. Being an impossibility thinker is really simple. It's being willing to envision things you're ill-prepared to do. See, the, the, the people that I know that I think have achieved this level of success, they have a lower threshold for what they need to know about something in order to imagine it and believe it's possible. So unsuccessful people have a very high threshold of what they have to know. Or what they have to have everything in place. And so they won't step into the unknown. I used to coach a race car driver. I won't say his name because I had an NDA with it, but a very successful NASCAR driver.

• 18:27Ed Mylett?

  And he told me, he goes, Ed, the most difficult thing in racing is not the normal race. It's when there's a crash in front of you. And when there's this crash in front of you, he goes, I want you to imagine you're going 180 to 200 miles an hour. And all there is is a cloud of smoke. It's all you see. And you have to drive into that cloud of smoke, not knowing that on the other side, there may be a stalled car that you're going to hit head on and kill yourself. And he said, it's your ability to drive through that fog, drive through that unknown, drive through that smoke that separates you from other drivers. What most guys do is they start looking at the wall. And they veer towards it. And he said, my ability to drive through that crash smoke, even though I don't know what's on the other side of it is what separates me from other guys. And man, that's so true in business and life, too. Successful people are willing to drive through

• 19:12Ed Mylett?

  the smoke, not knowing what's on the other side, but believing I'll be resilient enough when I get in the room to figure it out.

• 19:17Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 19:17Ed Mylett?

  Unsuccessful people are people who are not successful yet go, I'll go, I'll drive once I know. I'll go once this, once the conditions, once my kids are grown, once I have this much, once I read one more book, once I do one more, once, once, and then the threshold keeps getting higher and higher and higher, and they never take action. That's a big separator. In order to achieve the impossible, you have to be willing to imagine it and actually allow your brain to go there, knowing you don't have all the information. I have a podcast, it's probably the most successful business podcast, you know, weekly podcast on the planet, entrepreneurship. Man, I started out, I didn't even know how to order the microphone. The first one I did, I didn't record it. I forgot to record it, right? Like, my son was the editor, he was 16, but I was willing to get into the space, not knowing everything. I didn't know who the guest

• 20:01Ed Mylett?

  was gonna be. Man, I didn't even know how you posted it once you recorded it. I remember, I remember Tony Robbins was like, hey, man, you, you put that thing on the chip? I'm like, chip? He goes, in the recording device, dude, you have to have a microchip in there to record the show. And I'm like, shit. I didn't know that. I thought you just pressed record. He goes, what did you think you were recording it on? I'm like, the machine.

• 20:24Speaker 05

  Oh, gosh.

• 20:25Ed Mylett?

  There's a, so what if I would have thought about all I didn't know? I wouldn't have the number one show in the world.

• 20:30Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 20:30Ed Mylett?

  So you gotta start to drive through the smoke.

• 20:33Speaker 05

  Yeah, no, gosh, that's so good. You know, I was just thinking too, one of the things that you mentioned in the book is this, that goals are energy. I've never heard somebody actually phrase it that way.

• 20:41Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 20:42Speaker 05

  You know, there's lots of things on goal setting, make smart goals, let's do this. But then you said, goals are energy. And I got to thinking about it, I'm like, anything that I, that I intentionally went after. With my, with my full heart, with my full self, always manifested in some way, shape or form. May not look like exactly like I thought it was gonna look.

• 21:00Ed Mylett?

  Or when you thought it would happen either.

• 21:02Speaker 05

  Oh yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Talk to me about goals and energy, because I had never heard someone actually say it that way before.

• 21:09Ed Mylett?

  Well, a goal is a thought, and a thought creates a space that didn't exist before you have it. And I'm not going to get really quantum on you, but it actually creates an energy field that didn't exist before you had it. So when you have a goal, it creates an energy around it. That goal now has a vibrational frequency, and the more you feed it, and the more it vibrates faster, and you start to feed it and feed it and feed it, its energy level can get up to a point where it achieves itself.

• 21:29Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 21:30Ed Mylett?

  And most people don't look at it that way, but that's exactly how it is. I'm a Christian, you are as well, but I also believe there's an energy field that just the Almighty created.

• 21:38Speaker 05

  Yep.

• 21:38Ed Mylett?

  And so I believe goals have energy to them. Now, having said that, I don't think you get all your goals. And I say it in the book, I think you always get your standards, though. And that's why the next chapter is on standards. Goals without standards are empty. What I really focus on is what my standards are that can help deliver on the goals that I have. So the goal creates the energy, the standard creates the delivery mechanism.

• 21:58Speaker 05

  Jeez.

• 22:01Speaker 05

  Can I be transparent with you about something? Please. So as a Christian, I've been on the fence for probably 24 months. Right? Because I, meaning not, not with my faith, but with elements of how quantum and energy and stuff relate to my faith.

• 22:20Speaker 05

  I discovered Dispenza's work, you know, a couple of years ago, probably when everybody else really started to, and I started to kind of go through some of his work and...

• 22:28Speaker 05

  And it wasn't until you at Max Out Live, where you actually stood up in front of everybody and said, "Look, I believe in Jesus, but I also believe in energy, and I believe this resonance and this vibration is real", that I actually felt okay.

• 22:39Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 22:40Speaker 05

  Because I've been carrying that with me for so long, not sure, because, you know, I, I go to a, you go to a traditional pastor kind of scenario, and not everybody kind of gets it. And then you can, if you go new, you go too far, new age, and then, then you kind of start losing a little bit of your faith. I've been walking this path.

• 22:54Ed Mylett?

  Me too, brother. The new age is like, "You're God", and I don't buy that at all. Yeah, I know me really well. By the way, I'm really, no one's ever said that to me before, ever. And I have too. In fact, the chapter I wrote on faith and energy took longer than the rest of the book combined. And I really struggle with it because I wanted to honor my faith, the same time be honest about, listen, this, this interview is going well. Why? There's an energy frequency happening here. Yeah. You always know when you're in a space. God gave you this energy. God gave you discernment. Discernment is energy. Talks about it in the Bible. Doesn't call it energy, calls it discernment. But what discernment is, is you're sensing energy. Discernment tells you this person, I don't, you ever meet somebody, you're like, nah, I don't feel it. Absolutely. What's that come from? That's discernment, which is energy. So you're already proving that

• 23:37Ed Mylett?

  there's an energy field, or you've been other people like, man, I can't explain it. Man, I like this dude. I like her, right? There's an energy frequency. So to deny that is ridiculous. Also, highest energy wins. People that make us feel good. Yeah. What is a feeling? It's an energy, right? It's an energy. So everything is energy. We're always feeling energy. Highest energy wins. I'm trying to transfer energy when I speak. So to deny its existence is insane. In fact, take churches. A really, a good church is on fire for the body of Christ, has an energy that's infectious and people are excited that, why do you want to bring, why do you want to bring people to church? Because the energy, the feeling, right? We do something special here. So actually, I think great pastors understand

• 24:18Ed Mylett?

  energy. And I will say this to you, it's, I struggle with it as well, because I, I, as a, as a devout man of God, of, as a Christian, I always worry I'm sounding new agey. Me too. Right? When I'm like, oh, you tap into this field. And so I always am, I always am reluctant, but I've, I've come to the conclusion that all of the beautiful things in life that have served me have come from the Almighty, have come from God. Yep. And I know energy exists. Yeah. I think, and I think success has an energy. I think failure has an, I think slumps have an energy. We all know this. As I say it, you're all nodding. So to deny its existence is crazy. Having said all of that, I believe that energy is spirit.

• 25:01Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 25:01Ed Mylett?

  And when I, when I speak, you go, man, when you speak, sometimes I'm like, hey, man, that's not always me. That's the Holy Spirit.

• 25:07Grant Cardone?

  Mm hmm.

• 25:08Ed Mylett?

  And I'm not sure how to put it all together quite yet, but I'm not so sure that the Holy Spirit doesn't have something to do with energy.

• 25:13Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 25:14Ed Mylett?

  You know what I'm saying? And so I, I think we'll, you know, guys like you and I that talk openly about this stuff, maybe we'll find better ways to phrase it.

• 25:20Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 25:21Ed Mylett?

  But we certainly feel it. We certainly know it. And I don't believe the fact that you buy into energy discounts the fact that you have a Lord and Savior.

• 25:28Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 25:28Ed Mylett?

  And I think the notion of it's crazy. Does that mean you're not going to get criticism for people to think any word like that's blasphemous? Yeah, but I've just decided that's okay. I'm not religious. I have a relationship with God. It's my relationship with Jesus, right? And sometimes it's roaring and doing great. And sometimes I'm like, Lord, why are you doing this? Why are you, my dad died. What's going on here? I, I was at Chalk Hospital this week with kids that are, you know, one of the little boys has leukemia. You don't think for a minute I went, Lord, come on, man.

• 25:54Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 25:54Ed Mylett?

  Let's get this, you know, but I understand there's a higher purpose. I understand there's a calling. I understand there's an energy to it. So, man, I'm really appreciate you're transparent about that. It's, it's, it's probably the most difficult thing I've struggled with in my life, too.

• 26:06Speaker 04

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on Power Players with host Grant Cardone.

• 26:11Ed Mylett?

  Getting in the environment, changing my environment to be around people that were further ahead in some of the games of life I wanted to be in has had a huge impact on me. So a couple of these homes have paid for them themselves.

• 26:22Grant Cardone?

  Just by contacts.

• 26:23Ed Mylett?

  The people I got around.

• 26:23Grant Cardone?

  Okay, so, so now let's just leap off into that. All right.

• 26:27Ed Mylett?

  Okay.

• 26:27Grant Cardone?

  Okay. Because you got to leave the middle class to get to the upper class.

• 26:29Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 26:30Grant Cardone?

  I mean, if you want to get to the top, you got to leave the middle. You agree with that?

• 26:33Ed Mylett?

  You got to abandon almost everything you learned there.

• 26:35Grant Cardone?

  So, so your, your move to Idaho, that, that, buying that house, explain to everybody where it is and who lives there.

• 26:42Ed Mylett?

  Oh, really?

• 26:43Grant Cardone?

  And why, why exchanging money for that access is valuable in part.

• 26:48Ed Mylett?

  All right. So.

• 26:49Grant Cardone?

  This is, this is real power you're talking about.

• 26:50Ed Mylett?

  So the first thing I did is I, I moved there literally because of who some of the members of a couple of the clubs were. And some of this is not stuff that you can go into. But, so I didn't, the home I'm in now wasn't my first home. I bought a home I could actually.

• 27:00Grant Cardone?

  You'll drop names in a second. I guarantee you.

• 27:02Ed Mylett?

  Stop.

• 27:02Grant Cardone?

  It'll be a second. I'll be sweeping up after.

• 27:04Ed Mylett?

  He's begging for them. Is he not fishing for these damn names?

• 27:06Grant Cardone?

  Give me one name up there. And Corleone? I can't even say it right. Corleone.

• 27:09Ed Mylett?

  Corleone. Well, when you can afford it, you'll pronounce it right. I hope you get up there.

• 27:14Grant Cardone?

  Tell me, tell me one name of one famous person who lives up in the Carleons, with the Carleons.

• 27:19Ed Mylett?

  Corleone.

• 27:20Grant Cardone?

  Corleone.

• 27:22Ed Mylett?

  Tony Robbins.

• 27:23Grant Cardone?

  Okay. Give me another one.

• 27:24Ed Mylett?

  Uh, I'm not going to do this.

• 27:25Grant Cardone?

  No, give me one more. Give me one.

• 27:26Ed Mylett?

  John Elway.

• 27:27Grant Cardone?

  Okay. Give me one more.

• 27:28Ed Mylett?

  No, I'm not doing that.

• 27:29Grant Cardone?

  Just one more. A third one. Because you're the third.

• 27:31Ed Mylett?

  You're Adam Levine.

• 27:32Grant Cardone?

  See, I told you, I'm sweeping up after. I told you to be a second before you start dropping names.

• 27:37Ed Mylett?

  And someday Grant Cardone is what I hope. But anyway, what happened was I got up there and one of the reasons I sought those, it was beautiful. I bought a place I could relatively afford. It was a stretch, but not crazy. And I got around, it wasn't the sports guys, it wasn't the entertainers, it was the business people.

• 27:50Grant Cardone?

  It's on the lake.

• 27:51Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, but it was.

• 27:52Grant Cardone?

  Get a fancy boat out there.

• 27:53Ed Mylett?

  There's two top 50 golf courses.

• 27:54Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 27:55Ed Mylett?

  Actually, I got three boats, but that's another story. But there's, it's a top, there's two top 50 golf courses on this lake that I, one's called Gaza Ranch that I'm a member of.

• 28:03Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 28:03Ed Mylett?

  One's called the Club of Black Rock. They're wonderful golf courses, but more importantly, the membership is, are people that were further along in the game of life than I was.

• 28:11Grant Cardone?

  Access.

• 28:12Ed Mylett?

  And getting, and one thing about golf, as you've known, is you get four or five hours, you get to know somebody. It's not like a five-minute lunch, everyone's chewing their food. You play golf with somebody four or five hours. I remember one of my mentors told me, Eddie, rich men play golf. And I'm like, well, I'm not rich yet. I don't want to golf. It's boring, it's slow, you can't hit anybody, doesn't require weightlifting, you can be fat and win. It's not even really a sport, you know?

• 28:30Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 28:30Ed Mylett?

  And then, uh, he goes, you didn't hear what I said. Rich men play golf. And he goes, if you want to be around these people, you need to play some damn golf.

• 28:37Grant Cardone?

  Rich men play golf.

• 28:39Ed Mylett?

  By the way, there's some validity to that. There's some broke dudes that play golf, too.

• 28:43Grant Cardone?

  Well, it depends on the golf course.

• 28:44Ed Mylett?

  It does depend on the golf course.

• 28:45Grant Cardone?

  Right.

• 28:46Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. And by the way, there's some, there's some posers everywhere in life.

• 28:48Grant Cardone?

  So let's say there's a guy or gal or family out there and they're, let's say they're doing $58,000 a year.

• 28:53Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 28:54Grant Cardone?

  They're just getting started, trying to put it all together. Maybe the husband and wife both make 80 grand a year.

• 28:58Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 29:00Grant Cardone?

  And, and they like golf.

• 29:01Ed Mylett?

  Okay.

• 29:01Grant Cardone?

  Okay. Should they be playing golf just to play golf, or should they be going to the country club where the players are, where the rich men play golf?

• 29:09Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I think.

• 29:09Grant Cardone?

  For access.

• 29:10Ed Mylett?

  Okay, let me tell you how I did it. So I don't think you should be playing much golf at all at that level. There's a way that you can play success golf, though. And so.

• 29:15Grant Cardone?

  Success golf.

• 29:16Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. And the, and the way that you do that, in my opinion, is first you gotta go, you have to start a business. And nobody lives in these places or employs.

• 29:23Grant Cardone?

  Because I heard you're not even a good golfer.

• 29:24Ed Mylett?

  Well, I don't know where you heard that, but.

• 29:26Grant Cardone?

  All over.

• 29:26Ed Mylett?

  I don't.

• 29:27Grant Cardone?

  Everybody is playing with you.

• 29:30Ed Mylett?

  Maybe I told you that, just because we're gonna gamble.

• 29:31Grant Cardone?

  But, but, because you're not out there to play good golf, right?

• 29:35Ed Mylett?

  You're ill-informed, but that's okay. I mean, it's fine. Um, but I'm not a great golfer. I'm not.

• 29:40Grant Cardone?

  Thank you.

• 29:40Ed Mylett?

  But I'm better, I know I can beat you because I've seen some.

• 29:43Grant Cardone?

  I can't wait to find out.

• 29:44Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, me too. But anyhow, well, here's what I did in golf. When I did it.

• 29:49Grant Cardone?

  We're gonna video that whole thing.

• 29:51Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, wow, there's like thirty-four dollars there. That's awesome, man. Thank you, rich man. Anyway. There's like two hundred and thirty.

• 30:00Grant Cardone?

  Rich men play golf.

• 30:03Ed Mylett?

  You can hold your money like this, you need to get a bigger stack.

• 30:08Grant Cardone?

  Go get my napkin.

• 30:09Ed Mylett?

  You hold a whole bunch of stuff like this. That's your normal grip, isn't it, right there? Anyway, here's what I did for golf.

• 30:15Grant Cardone?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 30:15Ed Mylett?

  Okay, I think you gotta find a business you're gonna start. And here's what I did. I played a game with myself. And that game was this, if I hit my certain goals in a given month, I think you should go touch your dreams. I think you should live in your dreams. I think the more familiar you become with your dream, or whatever it is you want, the more you can touch it, feel it, and be around it. The more likely you become comfortable in it, the more likely you'll acquire it. And so one of the big things that I did was I would set these goals up, whether it be an income goal or a production goal. This is when I was part-time as an entrepreneur. And I'd say, if we hit X, we're gonna go away for one night. And that one night would be to a nice place. It might be like the Ritz-Carlton Laguna Beach, right? Where I would go, or the La Quinta Resort in Palm Desert. And I'd do one night in my dream. I'd spend the three or four hundred bucks, my wife would do a nice massage. And I'd go play golf. And guess who you run into those golf courses?

• 30:59Grant Cardone?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 30:59Ed Mylett?

  You run into some rich dudes. And I'd run into those guys on the golf course, and I would get to know them for that weekend, that time. So it wasn't golf.

• 31:06Grant Cardone?

  You're touching possibility.

• 31:07Ed Mylett?

  You're living your dream. The more you can touch it. If your dream is to feed a million people, spend one day a month actually in those charities feeding people. The more you get comfortable in your dream.

• 31:16Grant Cardone?

  So you don't wait until you're set to do it?

• 31:19Ed Mylett?

  You get little, you never do. You know this. Every little thing you've acquired, even getting Elena. You talked about how you chased her for thirteen months. You gotta round her a little bit in the meantime, because the more comfortable she can get with hearing your voice messages or from you, the more likely she's gonna get in your dream. Because you belong in your dream, but you have to touch it regularly before you get it. And so I would do that.

• 31:36Grant Cardone?

  So, give me an example of when you started touching stuff, like before you were, when did you get married? How old were you?

• 31:42Ed Mylett?

  Twenty-five.

• 31:42Grant Cardone?

  Twenty-five, that's young.

• 31:43Ed Mylett?

  I was young, yeah. Yeah.

• 31:45Grant Cardone?

  Okay.

• 31:46Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 31:46Grant Cardone?

  Like, how'd you know that she was the one?

• 31:48Ed Mylett?

  Well, we started dating in high school.

• 31:50Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 31:51Ed Mylett?

  And so, I think just, that was a long time to wait, really.

• 31:54Grant Cardone?

  Yeah, yeah, yeah.

• 31:54Ed Mylett?

  If you think about it.

• 31:54Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 31:55Ed Mylett?

  So, I mean, it was a long time to wait to get married.

• 31:56Grant Cardone?

  You were, did you have money then?

• 31:58Ed Mylett?

  I had no money then.

• 31:59Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 31:59Ed Mylett?

  No, no, in fact, she paid for our wedding. And we got married at the Shiloh Inn in Pomona, and my wife paid for the entire wedding. And it's because she worked at that hotel in the banquet department. And my honeymoon that night was one night at the Shiloh Inn Pomona. That was the entire honeymoon we took. So, no, there was, I had no money. I mean, literally no money. In fact, my car was repo'd like about eight months after that wedding.

• 32:18Grant Cardone?

  Wow.

• 32:19Ed Mylett?

  After the wedding.

• 32:19Grant Cardone?

  You had a car repo'd? What kind of car?

• 32:20Ed Mylett?

  I'd have caught an Acura NSX. No, Acura, not NSX, Acura Integra.

• 32:25Grant Cardone?

  Uh huh.

• 32:25Ed Mylett?

  I had that repo'd.

• 32:26Grant Cardone?

  They took it away from you?

• 32:27Ed Mylett?

  They did. I had the, I had my water turned off in my house at one time. We were showering down in the condo, so that's part of being an entrepreneur. I think a lot of entrepreneurs think, oh, this is a sign to stop, right? I've gone broke, I've, this isn't working for me. Most of us, most entrepreneur stories, if you really looked at it, they're nasty. They're ugly. There's a whole bunch of down, embarrassing times. We just stayed, we got off the mat faster. We did not, it's not that he didn't go broke at some time, or I didn't go broke at some time, or there wasn't setbacks. We just kept getting back up. And that's the difference. Yeah.

• 32:54Grant Cardone?

  So, so when you made the, from baseball player to, to the financial company?

• 32:59Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 33:00Grant Cardone?

  So, what, what made you successful there? What, what were the one or two or three things that like, got you off the mat?

• 33:05Ed Mylett?

  The same things is in baseball. Okay, so the massive one, everyone asks me, they ask you this too. What's the one thing you'd have somebody have if you were to put them in business?

• 33:13Grant Cardone?

  Yeah.

• 33:13Ed Mylett?

  Monster desire and hunger. Massive desire. You show me somebody with just monster desire, I'll show you somebody who will eventually find the right people.

• 33:22Grant Cardone?

  You take that over skill?

• 33:24Ed Mylett?

  Big time. You know that.

• 33:25Grant Cardone?

  Over, I could.

• 33:26Ed Mylett?

  Because I, I could teach, you know, there's tons of people with tons of skills with no heart, no desire, no courage, they lose.

• 33:31Grant Cardone?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 33:31Ed Mylett?

  You show me a bunch of, I mean, tremendous, like, tenacious, relentless, obsessive heart, they'll acquire the skills. Or they'll find the people who have them around them.

• 33:38Grant Cardone?

  I heard you were going to write a book about me.

• 33:40Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. I was in the middle of writing a book about that topic when his came out. Cost me thirty grand with an author, and it's in the trash can somewhere. And yours was unbelievable, by the way.

• 33:47Grant Cardone?

  Thank you, thank you.

• 33:48Ed Mylett?

  It's one of, it's an awesome book.

• 33:49Grant Cardone?

  Me and this guy, me and this guy, we, we literally have similar frequencies.

• 33:52Ed Mylett?

  We do.

• 33:52Grant Cardone?

  You think about different, we, this Mandalay Bay shooting, that just happened. Me and Elena were up in Vegas when the whole thing happened, but he was calling me. We have similar thoughts about some things that, okay, number two thing.

• 34:03Ed Mylett?

  Desire and hunger. Okay, and then the norm, this is the basic stuff, but here's the thing. Ferocious, crazy psycho work ethic. So they're aggressive, right? Like you, you, just about you and I, like right now, we're outworking guys at our income level. If you took guys at our income, our net worth level, and they're, I don't know if they're similar or different, but they're decent, right? That's the fact of the matter is we're outworking them. We're outworking them when we were broke, we're outworking them when we're in the middle, we're outworking them when we got to the top, we outwork and we fell down. I outwork people. I get there earlier, I show up sooner, I leave later, I make more phone calls, I dick around less. I'm not small talk, BS, nothing. I'm about making money, closing people, growing my business. And I think it's that, the third thing is that ability to literally focus in and remove distractions. I don't care what's going on in the world, I don't believe the world's coming to an end.

• 34:48Ed Mylett?

  I think what happened when you were in Vegas yesterday is a total tragedy. I prayed about it, I worried about it, but I'm not obsessed about it. I'm not gonna let the media or the world distract me from my dream, get me off track, because in a year, we're not gonna be thinking about Las Vegas. You're gonna be back to your life, thinking, I don't care what happens in the NFL today, Iraq, I'm aware of it, but I don't, I'm not putting energy into it. So it's, you know this, it's how distracted people get. Can you get laser focused on what is you want, but more importantly, what the hell you're supposed to be doing? Literally, just show me your habits and what you do. Anybody in any sport will tell you that too. The best guys have this massive, massive hunger, they outwork everybody, and they have this ability to get in- Smaller guys, slower guys. Slower guys, and they get into the hyper focused zone.

• 35:33Ed Mylett?

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• 37:37Ed Mylett?

  Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Now onto our next guest. This man to my left, I think is one of the most inspiring people on planet earth today. Thank you. And an unbelievable public speaker for the record that you're going to hear about in a minute. But this is Nick Sanatistasso and I'm so excited that I'm going to help even get you further exposure to the world. I'm excited. I'm excited. I am too, brother. So you were born with something called Hanhart syndrome. Yeah. Right? Nick has a story to tell, as you can tell, is probably different than anyone you've ever heard before. This guy's a weightlifter and a bodybuilder and a really good one. We were talking off camera about our diets and training and the pros and cons of doing that. And it's interesting, right?

• 38:22Ed Mylett?

  It's keep flashing. I keep wanting to say this to you, but it's only when you tell me a story like that, or when you make that move that I think about you like, oh, he does have that because your spirit's so massive.

• 38:35Nick Santonastasso?

  Thank you.

• 38:35Ed Mylett?

  I just don't think about it. And it takes me aback that I don't frankly, right? Like you're a stud in every sense, man, like a massive fricking champion in every sense. By the way, the Lord also wired you with this unbelievable ability to communicate your thoughts in a really passionate, intense, emotional way, which is why he's such a sought after speaker. Because it's one thing to live what you're living and to achieve what you've achieved. It's another thing to be able to articulate it where people can actually picture it and see it emotionally. Like I'm picturing you on that airplane. That's a gift. So God also wired you with the gift to speak. And so if you have an organization, everybody, right?

• 39:16Ed Mylett?

  And you want somebody to come in and inspire them and teach them, take their excuses away, give them the tips and strategies that does it. This man has just got the example beyond belief, but also the ability to communicate it. And so before we move into the bodybuilding stuff, we might as well tell them in the middle because they always don't want to wait till the end, right? So how do they find you? Do they go to your social media? If they do, how do they find you there? And how do they find you to speak? Because I know people watching this are like, okay, I want more of this dude, more than I'm even going to get in the time with Mylett. How do they find you?

• 39:42Nick Santonastasso?

  So on all my platforms, it's at Nick Santonastasso, my Instagram. If you type in Nick No Legs, you know, your boy pops up.

• 39:49Ed Mylett?

  Is that right?

• 39:50Nick Santonastasso?

  So key words, Ed.

• 39:51Ed Mylett?

  Nick No Legs, okay.

• 39:53Nick Santonastasso?

  It's my, for booking, it's [email protected]. But you know, that email is linked to my Instagram and my Instagram is at Nick Santonastasso. And so they can find me there, but I'm on YouTube and everything.

• 40:04Ed Mylett?

  He's everywhere, which by the way, we might as well do that before bodybuilding. Let me go there first. So one thing you may not know about him, but this dude blew up on Vine, right? And doing, I love that you took your gift. Right, because I actually consider this now your gift. Amazingly, it's your gift and what you've done with it has magnified it, right? And so, you've taken that gift and you used it for like humor and pranks and stuff. So, a lot of them may not know this, but like also, social media is a place where they can be entertained and informed and inspired, which they can through with you. And some of these videos are out there still, YouTube and stuff. So, tell them a little bit about what you did, because it's like, man, you talk about parlaying something. Like taking something, some of my things are deficient, you go, nope, flipping this into a massive strength. You did that on Vine with these pranks and stuff, so tell them about that.

• 40:48Nick Santonastasso?

  So, when I was a senior, when all that wrestling stuff, and you know, I was gaining that confidence, the app Vine came out, and I was like, I'm gonna put myself on the internet, you know? And my thing was, okay, if I can motivate and inspire people, that's great, but I also want to make them laugh. Because I love making people laugh. And so, you know, I had a mastermind, little like group session with my friends. I'm like, what has never been done before? You know, what has never been done, because if I post something that's never been done, it's gotta go viral. And I'm like, guys, how many, is there any legless guys crawling around Walmart pretending to be a zombie?

• 41:15Ed Mylett?

  No.

• 41:15Nick Santonastasso?

  And they're like, exactly, they're like, no, I'm like, let's go, you know? So, I lived in New Jersey, I was in regular clothes, and I put fake blood on my face, fake blood, you know, on my clothes. I said, let's go to Jersey, which, that Walmart had been kicked out like three times, like, dude, just don't come back anymore. You start too much trouble.

• 41:31Ed Mylett?

  Did they really?

• 41:32Nick Santonastasso?

  Yeah, yeah, I've been kicked out of that Walmart for pranking. And so, we were looking for a victim, and there was a, we, we go down the aisle, and this guy's looking at paper towels. And I'm like, yo, pull out the camera. And so, I come around this corner like, braaaah! And he throws the paper towels at my face, and I'm like, was it six seconds? And they're like, dude, we got it, six seconds.

• 41:50Ed Mylett?

  You gotta have six seconds online.

• 41:52Nick Santonastasso?

  Yeah, six seconds, so be creative as you can at six seconds. And so, I'm on my way home, still in school. And on the way home, I told myself, I said, if this reaches 500 kids, 500 kids and adults, and they could just see, they could see, look how happy Nick is. Look how happy Nick is joking around, maybe I could be a little bit happier in my situation, that's all I wanted. I woke up the next day, had over 80,000 likes and over 80,000 revines. And it went internationally viral, and you know, news articles from all over the world. But Ed, the one that stood out to me the most, the title was, NJ Teen, Born With Disability, Turned Into A Positive. And that's all I wanted from people, that's all I wanted, people to say, well, look at him making the best of a situation. Because life hands you one hand. One hand and you gotta make the best of that hand. You gotta play it to the best of your ability.

• 42:37Nick Santonastasso?

  So I wanted people to show, oh, maybe my situation's not that bad. Or maybe I could play my hand a little bit better. That's all I wanted for people.

• 42:43Ed Mylett?

  Damn.

• 42:44Nick Santonastasso?

  So you know, that picked up and I posted a bunch of, now it's just funny. Now I was just posting funny videos, some zombie pranks, some other things. And I gained a million followers in under a year doing that and created this outlet. And that led me to Fox International hiring me to scare Norman Reedus, the main actor of The Walking Dead in Tokyo, Japan.

• 42:59Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 43:00Nick Santonastasso?

  Which, you know, I always tell people, the meaning, the meaning behind all this is, when you start to focus your energy on serving others and helping others, the universe comes back with amazing opportunities. Amazing opportunities. And it's not, that's not some voodoo stuff. Like, that's real. Like, you know, the energy you put out, it comes back tenfold when you try to help people. So that's all I wanted to do is help people. And so, yeah. I wanted to make people laugh.

• 43:22Ed Mylett?

  No, but seriously, like you, you like fully embraced the, the noise in that to me. Like, it's hilarious, it's funny, but you're like, hey dude. It's like, you just say, look, I know you're thinking this about me. I'm gonna make it hilarious, right? And I, I gotta tell you, like, I'm picturing this dude in middle school, starting to get pointed at and made fun of. And then he finds himself just a few short years later in Tokyo, Japan, million views, doing something that high profile. It's just freaking unbelievable to me, right?

• 43:48Nick Santonastasso?

  I appreciate that.

• 43:48Ed Mylett?

  You've also, though, I talked about earlier, I don't wanna just tease it, because you know I'm an athlete, or I like, I used to be, or I think I am. I think, I still think I'm an athlete. You've turned this thing into now, like, you lift real weights, bro.

• 43:59Nick Santonastasso?

  Thank you.

• 44:00Ed Mylett?

  It's not like cute, like, oh, he lifts weights, isn't that neat? I'm like, watching your stuff, I'm like, you have found, it's like, you just won't be stopped. It's like, okay, I'm gonna do bench press. You think I can't do bench press? I'm gonna do it. And you, I'm watching your, I'm like, what the heck? This dude's unreal. So you end up going, nah, I don't wanna just like lift weights. Like, I wanna do some bodybuilding.

• 44:17Nick Santonastasso?

  Well, yeah, so.

• 44:18Ed Mylett?

  This is awesome.

• 44:19Nick Santonastasso?

  Yeah, so I, I was posting the pranks and I actually moved out to LA. I was supposed to be a core cast member of like an Impractical Joker show, with like a disabled cast, so you could pull some pretty cool pranks.

• 44:28Ed Mylett?

  Oh, gosh, yeah, that would be, that's a great idea.

• 44:30Nick Santonastasso?

  Yeah, I moved, I was 18. I moved out there with a roommate, just me and my roommate. And, you know, 18-year-old kid, LA's expensive to live in. And I was living, it was paying $2,000 a month for a little shack of, like a loft. And two weeks after I signed my lease, they canceled the show. And I didn't have any income. I went broke. I went and, and, and, you know, talk about how my, my mom was like, as long as you're happy, you know, we love you. My dad was like, well, you're happy, but you need to be independent. You need to make money. So that was always in my head. I was scared. I didn't know how to be financially independent. I didn't know that. I can't work some regular jobs like people. Oh my God, like what am I gonna do? So. I'm sitting in LA and I'm broke and I refuse to tell my dad I'm broke. I mean, I'm eating like peanut butter and tortillas, like, you know,

• 45:11Nick Santonastasso?

  low, low point for me and, but like, I'm grateful for that experience. I'm grateful because I live like that. I know, I know that I can live like that if I ever went, you know? Yeah. So I moved home, I moved home back to my parents in Jersey and I said, Nick, what's next? And I said. That could have been a low point. Yeah, yeah. But I was like, you need to stay on, what, what's next? And my, the kid I wrestle, one of my best friends, Josh, that I wrestle with, you know, we're still best friends to this day. He was always a big dude. He was always lifting. And I thought to myself, I said, well, if I get in super good shape, which I don't know how to do it yet, but if I get in super good shape. Love that. If I get in super good shape, how marketable is that? Because you can't buy a fit body. They can't take away from me my shape. I put, you know, put my blood, sweat and tears in this. They can't, it's very marketable too.

• 45:52Nick Santonastasso?

  So from a business standpoint too, but I did, I did want to look good naked, you know, I wanted to look good. And, and I knew that would, that would instill more confidence in me. I'd be more comfortable in my body because I was out of shape doing pranks. So I'm like, Josh, you know, Josh, and I had another buddy, Ryan, that helped me right in the beginning. And I said, you know, this is what I want to do. I want to take over the fitness industry because there's no one like me. I'm a unicorn, you know? So if you put me in the industry and I excel, it's gonna, it's gonna catch. Yes. So for the first year, I posted, you know, these lifting videos. I had no idea what I was doing. And that's what I always tell people. We are the architects of our life and each and every day, we have the ability to learn whatever we want to learn and implement it. You know, if you don't know it, learn it and implement it. But that's the thing. We just, maybe, maybe people are just learning things and not taking action, but you know, you gotta implement it.

• 46:32Nick Santonastasso?

  So I'm posting these fitness videos for a year and, you know, I, I told people, I told all my following from, you know, pranking, I said, guys, this doesn't, this doesn't make me happy anymore. This doesn't fulfill me. And, you know, when I have kids, I want them to know me for much more than crawling around Walmart. So I was like, I want to become a fitness model. I want to become a bodybuilder. I want to become a keynote speaker and I want to break into the mainstream modeling industry. I put out all my goals. I put out all. The things that I wanted to accomplish, I said, these are the things I want to want to accomplish. I don't know how I'm gonna do them. You either support me or not, but this is what this is what I want to do. So for the first year, I was posting these lifting videos with, you know, my buddies and I was getting unfollowed. You know, hated on, dude, we love your pranks, you know, why are you doing this? You know, how are you gonna become a bodybuilder? You have no legs, one arm, like all this stuff, same cycle. You know, when I wanted to be a wrestler, same cycle. So I was used to it. I was used to the people.

• 47:17Ed Mylett?

  You've seen this show before.

• 47:18Nick Santonastasso?

  And I was like, I was like, you, I was like, you guys are thinking, thinking this is a phase for Nick, but this is gonna be a lifestyle. I'm gonna, I'm gonna crush this. So that's what I tell people. I was going into the gym and it was just trial and error. And that's life, you know, falling on your face and figuring out which approach for you, which approach works for you. Because I couldn't go in the library and say, oh, no legs and one arm, this is how you lift, you know, it wasn't there for me.

• 47:37Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 47:38Nick Santonastasso?

  So we would go into the gym and figure out, you know, how to work. Well, actually, the first six months, I wasn't even working this side. I was like, I don't need this side. You know, I'm just gonna bench press on this side, work this side. And then I fell in love with bodybuilding. I fell in love with the way it felt, you know, therapy, you know, the iron, this is the therapy. And so I was like, this is something that I really want to do. And, you know, I don't want to, you know, I don't want to do it half ass. I want to do a hundred, a hundred percent. So I need to, I need to figure out this side. So basically, it was just like going in there, which micro movements can hit this, you know, with the bands or with resistance? And how I'm gonna activate the lat, just going in and figuring out different ways. And my knowledge in nutrition got better, my knowledge in training got better, my physique started to change. And people are like, uh oh, this.

• 48:15Ed Mylett?

  It changed big time, though. What ended up happening? Tell them what happened. I mean, one of the things that happened is you ended up being competitive in shows, right?

• 48:21Nick Santonastasso?

  Yeah, so I, I wanted to immer, you know, immersion. I wanted to basically just get in a better environment. In New Jersey, there wasn't much of a bodybuilding environment.

• 48:30Ed Mylett?

  Okay.

• 48:31Nick Santonastasso?

  So I moved to Tampa about nine months ago. I moved to Tampa nine months ago. And when I moved, I promised myself, I promised my family, my friends and my supporters. I said, guys, I'm going to step on the stage, the competitive bodybuilding stage for men's physique before 2017 was over. So not only was that holding me accountable, but that was basically throwing myself in an uncomfortable situation. It forced me, forced me to level up. And that's what people need to realize is if you don't think you're ready for something, jump into it. You know, like just because it's going to force yourself to learn what you need to learn, learn to excel.

• 49:01Ed Mylett?

  Damn.

• 49:01Nick Santonastasso?

  And so embrace the uncomfortable times. So I'm like, Nick, you know, You don't know it, but you'll learn on the way. And so I did a 12 week prep and my, my, my best friend to this day, Cody. Cody and Mitch, Cody trained me, you know, basically dedicated, you know, my whole 12 weeks of the prep to training me. And, you know, I, I gave everything to that prep because I was basically making, making history. You know, no one stepped on the stage looking like this. So I was like, I was, and, and the thing is, Ed, people would have gave me an, an applaud if I stepped out at 12% body fat. But that wasn't me. No way. I'm like, you know, people clap anyway. I'm coming out shredded. Just like the wrestling, same thing. Don't grab when I lose. I'm gonna win. Yeah, exactly. So I was like, I'm gonna come out like the, the best I could possibly be. How shredded were you? It's pretty, I was pretty shredded. I was probably like five or six percent.

• 49:45Nick Santonastasso?

  And, um, so 12 week prep and actually 10 weeks into my prep, I went out to Mr. Olympia to, because I had, I had a big, I have a big following in fitness, you know, bodybuilder. People know me all over for bodybuilding. So I wanted to go there and that's a recharge for me for people saying, you know, oh my God, you motivate me. You know, that's where I get my fulfillment is, you know, people telling me how I impacted them. Yes. So I'm going there, I'm recharging and, you know, we talk about like moments where guided, you know, moments that were just like, oh my God, this happened for a reason. The Friday I didn't, I, I went to the expo. Saturday I went to the expo. Sunday, you know, I was chilling. I was like, ah, I'm not gonna go to the expo. I'm just gonna hang. I was in a hotel room and I'm like, you guys wanna go to the gym? And they're like, yeah. So we went to City Athletic Club, which is a super famous gym in Las Vegas. And I remember my boy Casey Mitchell, he, right when I walked in, he was like, dude, the rock, the rock is upstairs lifting.

• 50:30Nick Santonastasso?

  I'm like, really? And I'm like, he's like, yeah. I'm like, well, I need to still get a lift in, you know, I'm on prep, like I still lift. And he's like, yeah. So I go up there and here, here Dwayne was, you know, with the security guards. And prior to that, he, he had retweeted one of my bodybuilding videos on Twitter. So just like Nick, much respect. Love what you're doing. So I was like, I told my guys, I'm like, he already knows who I am. We don't need to bug him. I don't ever, I wouldn't wanna be bugged in the gym, you know, if I was him. So let's just like chill. So like we're lifting, we're lifting and he, he was in the corner and he pulled off his headphones and you know, everybody bombarded with pictures. And you know, everyone's taking pictures. C.T. Fletcher was there. Kai Green was there. A bunch of studs. Yeah. And then, you know, yeah, that is a stud gym. And you know, I'm sitting there and I'm posing in the mirror, you know, I'm like two weeks out, just like doing me. And a security guard comes up and he's like, can Dwayne meet you?

• 51:13Nick Santonastasso?

  And I'm like, yeah, like, I'm like, please. And he's like, we'll escort you, escort you so you can privately meet him. And so they put me in a corner. I have it all filmed and you know, we, we dabbed him up and he's like, hey man, how you doing? You know, I love your stuff. And he's like, I'm a big fan. And I'm like, dude, I'm a big fan of you. And I was like, I'm gonna do what you did. And he's like, "What do you, what do you mean by that?" And I'm like, "Dude, you're The Rock." People knew you for college football, flag football, and then you went into WWE. And then you just took over every industry, bro. You're like crushing everything. I said, "I'm gonna do what you did." And he said, "Nick, you're right." Because people like me and you, they put us in any industry and we adapt. We adapt and we overcome. And he's like, "I, I, you're gonna do it." And talk about a moment of confirmation for me that I was doing the right thing. And after that, he's like, "Can I grab a picture?" And you know, another fangirl moment. I'm like, "Dude, of course. You can grab a picture. I love you."

• 51:57Ed Mylett?

  Right.

• 51:58Nick Santonastasso?

  So, you know, we took a picture and I told him about my competition. You know, he's like, "Dude, you're shredded." I'm like, "I'm two weeks out. That's the only reason why I'm shredded."

• 52:04Ed Mylett?

  Right.

• 52:05Nick Santonastasso?

  And so I told him about my competition and everything. You know, flew home and two weeks later, I'm backstage and I'm pumping up. I'm pumping up for my show and Cody comes over and he's like, "Dude, The Rock just posted you on his Instagram."

• 52:15Ed Mylett?

  Come on, man.

• 52:16Nick Santonastasso?

  I'm like, "Really?"

• 52:17Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 52:17Nick Santonastasso?

  And he wrote this really heartfelt message. It's still there if you scroll down. And, you know, very heartwarming message. And at the end, he said, "Nick, I want to thank you for, you know, sharpening, sculpting my perspective a little bit more on life." And, you know, I, and I, and I tell the guys, you know, I, I tell my buddies, "When I'm up on stage, it's really hard for me to, it's still hard for me to realize the impact I have on people because it's Nick, just Nick."

• 52:38Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 52:38Nick Santonastasso?

  Like, I forget to tell people that I drive a car, but I drive a car. You know, it's just me doing me.

• 52:42Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 52:42Nick Santonastasso?

  So for someone like that to be like, "Dude, you are moving people." It was just like, "Oh, my God, like I'm, like I'm going the right way. I'm, I'm going..."

• 52:49Ed Mylett?

  How'd you do on the show?

• 52:50Nick Santonastasso?

  I took, so I, I placed third in Mens Physique Novice. So it was my first competition, so that like the amateur, I took third. And I beat an able, I beat some able-bodied guys. And I'm like, "Yes."

• 53:00Ed Mylett?

  You crushed.

• 53:01Nick Santonastasso?

  Thank you.

• 53:02Ed Mylett?

  How cool is it, by the way, because by the way, all of you should know this too. You can someday inspire your own heroes, which is what you did with Dwayne, right? You can someday, your example can inspire your heroes. You said a couple of things I just want to go back to because we're like, "Here we go." Flying out of time again, right? Because this is like unreal. Number one, several times you said, "I don't know how I'm gonna do it, but I'm gonna do it." So many people are stopped by thinking they need to know how to do something without chasing it. More important is why and your passion for it. The how will reveal itself in the chase. So many people are held back by, "I don't know how," right? Get your butt in there, start chasing it. The how begins to get revealed. Also, I think Dwayne used an unbelievable word for you, which is "adapt." He said, "Guys like you and I adapt." If you think about it, your life, because of the way that you were born, you've had to adapt all of your life.

• 53:47Ed Mylett?

  And champions in anything, yeah, they have drive. Yes, they have goals. They have their incantations. They have the gratitude. They have all that. They also have the ability to adapt. It's one of the things not covered on my show often enough, or any shows that I see like this, is adaptation. Adapting to your environment, adapting to conditions, adapting to circumstances that happen to you. And I agree with him. Guys like you, me, and him, and I'll just say you specifically, we adapt and we become great at whatever we do. You're about adapting your entire life. And so, stud story, dude. Like, now you go dominate. Because it's interesting. You did the bowling thing, not real good at that. Wrestling, you got even better. Then you've taken the fitness and the bodybuilding to like a legitimate world-class level now, brother. It's like, I want to acknowledge that. I think it's frickin' awesome.

• 54:32Ed Mylett?

  So, we are almost out of time. And I do, I feel like there's something special about you for every audience. You obviously know why you should book Nick to go speak. Let's be real here, okay? You're not going to have somebody like him ever come into your life, come speak to your organization, your school, or your company, who's literally, I mean, his example's unreal, but his ability to put these words together is unheard of in this space. And then like, you're going to come speak to my company. I can tell you that for sure. Thank you. What an honor it is to be with this gentleman here today and to share him with all of you. Most of you are probably familiar from him for the first time from The Secret. He's one of the stars, if not the star of The Secret. And it's an honor to have him today because I consider him on earth, one of, if not the greatest expert on the brain,

• 55:16Ed Mylett?

  on the inner mechanics of the brain, mindset, and peak performance. And so, I know it's what all of you want to talk about. So, I have John Assaraf here with me today. John, thanks for being here, brother.

• 55:25Speaker 08

  Ed, it's so good to be here and thank you for giving me the honor to be here with you.

• 55:29Ed Mylett?

  So, there's two prolific entrepreneurs who are now in this space that are saying, "These are the things we do." And isn't it ironic that we both do them? And we're both addicted to them? And we both attribute it to our success? So, please talk about that, brother.

• 55:46Speaker 08

  So I have my vision boards and I actually have my exceptional life blueprint that I've created. It's about fifty pages of my prayers, my rituals for my spiritual growth, health, wealth, my money story, my inner mission, my outer mission. You know, some of the stuff, you know, either that I have or that I'm creating. And so I create these visual representations to trigger the biggest part of my brain called the occipital lobe and to activate my memory center. So I have vision boards for what I want to create. So I'm giving my brain the exact instructions so that not only it focuses helping me achieve

• 56:28Speaker 08

  that, but most people don't understand about vision boards are creating goals in writing that are specific, is that your brain is a deletion and distortion tool as well. So if you give your brain the instruction of this is the stuff that's important to me for health, God, spirituality, charity, fun, experiences, my children, my mother, my father, my son, whatever it is, and you say this is what I want to trade my life for, delete and distort everything else, now all of a sudden you're using your brain as a deletion and distortion organism in order to be able to help you hyper-focus on what you want. So part one is get absolute clarity on what you want so your brain helps you eliminate what you don't want. Part one.

• 57:13Speaker 08

  Part two, right, part two is I tend to be a goal-seeking guy, right? And I used to not celebrate the small stuff and I used to just like, you know, fuck bigger goal, bigger goal, bigger goal, more, bigger, bigger. And somebody says to me like, are you gonna like slow down just to enjoy some of the stuff that you actually have done for yourself or for people in your family? And I was like, well.

• 57:41Speaker 08

  Let me create an accomplished board.

• 57:42Ed Mylett?

  So good, so good.

• 57:45Speaker 08

  So accomplished board, so accomplished board. You passed that test on your own forty years ago. Celebrate that. You helped this person who was challenged and celebrate that. You know, you did this for him or for her or for yourself. Celebrate that stuff to remind yourself. Because I'm tough on myself like I'm like I'm let's come on, let's go. It's a goal, let's go. And sometimes I forget the stuff that I have done, the stuff that I do do that I need to remember. So I created an accomplishments board and a list. So I can just go to it when I feel like, holy shit, am I, am I smart enough to achieve that next thing? Am I good enough? What a lot of people don't know, Ed, is

• 58:29Ed Mylett?

  So good.

• 58:30Speaker 08

  When I was a kid, I used to feel like I wasn't smart enough. And when I was a kid, it helped me back. And today I still feel like I'm not smart enough and that fuels me to get smarter. So I use it. Like I said, big goals, I go, God, I don't have the skills, I don't have the knowledge, but I can figure it out. I've got contacts, I've got friends and there's books, there's Google, there's, there's YouTube, there's holy mackerel. I don't need to have all the specialized knowledge anymore. So I have accomplished board, but also, you know, crap board is what conflicts are happening right now? I often say that there's only four things that are holding you back as a human being. Only four, there's not twenty-five, there's four that are the core.

• 59:11Speaker 08

  One is if your vision and goal is bigger than your self-image. Okay, so if you feel you deserve it, you can have this vision and goal and be excited about it, motivated about it. You will not do what it takes to achieve. One, two, if you have limiting beliefs. If you have a vision and goal, but you have a limiting belief that you're too young, too old, whatever the case is, your limiting beliefs will drive your behavior. Three, fear. Fear of being embarrassed, ashamed, ridiculed, or judged. Fear of failure, fear of disappointment. And we'll talk about disappointment, or fear of succeeding and failing again. Disappointment. Most, and then the fourth one, by the way, is you're lacking the knowledge and skill required. So that actually sets up a self-doubt trigger, which activates the Frankenstein brain,

• 59:56Speaker 08

  which causes you to lose motivation. But most people prefer to master disappointment and comfort zones instead of mastering change.

• 1:00:08Speaker 08

  So if I master disappointment, I know what I got. I just have to deal with, okay, this is what I got. And if I master my comfort zone, then at least this is the devil I know. Yes. Versus mastering change, and we know what's going on in our brain. We know what's happening neurologically, biologically, emotionally, physically. And all of that is a skill. Yes. It's just a skill. So why not just master change? Why not become an adaptationist right now in the time that you need it the most in the world? Because if you don't, then you're just going to keep repeating the same patterns

• 1:00:51Speaker 08

  that are going to get reinforced, and it makes it harder in three months, six months, and six years. So master change now and make that one of your core competencies, and then you master your life.

• 1:01:04Ed Mylett?

  Oh, my gosh, you guys. Anybody familiar with my work know how much I love this man and how much we line up on these things similarly? I love the way that you phrase things. And guys, one thing about change, one of the reasons we hesitate to change as humans is it's an energy depletion too. Humans kind of want to conserve energy. You have to realize one thing, everybody, and we're going to go to one more part, and then I'm going to ask you about grief. But, yeah, guys, we love to gravitate towards what we're most familiar with. We create these patterns in our life, and we repeat them over and over and over again. And if you're not conscious of what they are, if you don't create new ones, you're just repeating the same life in a different year over and over.

• 1:01:44Ed Mylett?

  And that script that John talked about, your script is the same as it was five years ago, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, with slightly different characters and slightly different dressings in the room. I'm fired up about today's show because we're getting right into what it takes to win. And that is this, write this down, one more, one more. See, I accepted a long time ago, I wasn't the smartest, the best looking, the fast enough, with the best background, the most connections. I didn't have any of those things. What I could control was my work ethic. You've heard me speak many times about outworking. Everybody, but I think that just feels good when we hear it. But most people don't take it seriously. If you think that I have a little bit of success in my life, I can tell you what I attribute it to.

• 1:02:27Ed Mylett?

  Yes, self-confidence, yes, mindset, visualization, goals. All the things I talk about all the time, listening skills, influence, energy transfer, how to be happier, all of that stuff applies. When you get to winning, for me, it's come down to maxing out. And what maxing out means is, you do one more at least than you think you're capable of. So when you're done, whatever you're doing, whether it's at the gym, or phone calls, or meetings, or in sports, one more shot, one more throw, one more swing of the golf club or the baseball bat. The separator is for the winners, they do one more. I'm addicted to one more. And so I want your mantra going forward to be, "One more." What does that look like? If we're working out, that means when we're in the gym, and we say, "I'm gonna do five sets of 10," I'm crazy.

• 1:03:12Ed Mylett?

  Like, I'm a psycho, because I want to win. I want to be somebody. I want to separate. I want to compete. And the way I do that isn't with my giftedness. Because I wasn't born with a bunch of gifts, and I think gifts are crap. I think for the most part, gifted people struggle in life because things come easy to them. I like that things haven't come easy for me in my life. I like that I have natural talents in every area. And maybe you like that about you too. Maybe you've looked at yourself all your life and thought, "Man, I don't have that natural beauty, or that natural talent, or this gift for creativity, or intellect, or humor." I don't have any of those things. But what I got is I will outwork you. And so at the gym, one of the things I focus on, they say it's five sets of 10. When I'm at 10, I go, "One more." Bam, 11.

• 1:03:58Ed Mylett?

  If I'm running on the treadmill and it's a 45-minute run, I never finish at 45. I always go, "One more minute, 46." If I'm at the office and I'm supposed to make 25 phone calls that day, when I'm at the end of the day, I always do "One more." If I've got meetings, I always do "One more." My mantra for three decades in business has been, "One more." Why? Because we get out of life what we think we deserve. And I'm the kind of guy that I know, when you do 45 minutes on the treadmill, and I do 46, I deserve to be fitter. I know that when I'm lifting weights and I watch you do five sets of 10 and every single time I do one more. When it's a set of five, I do six. When it's a set of eight, I do nine. When it's 45 on the treadmill, I do 46.

• 1:04:41Ed Mylett?

  When it's supposed to be 20 phone calls, I make 21. When it's supposed to be an eight-hour workday, I work nine. Whatever it is, I always do one more. And what that does is it makes me eventually think I'm doing things other people aren't willing to do. So I should get things other people aren't going to get. And if you go to the root of the things I believe philosophically about winning, the people that win, the great athletes that I coach, when I watch the really gifted golfer and the one who actually wins, the gifted golfer, they do what they're supposed to do. You never know they weren't working hard. It's not like people don't work hard. Everybody works hard. That's a given now. But what's the separator to where you become the maxed-out version of you? See, the gifted golfer, they hit their 100 balls because they're supposed to.

• 1:05:27Ed Mylett?

  But the not-so-gifted one that ends up winning, they hit 101 or 110 or 120. I watch them on the driving range and I can hear them say, "One more, one more." What's the difference between Kobe Bryant and other gifted NBA players when he played? Or Michael Jordan when they played? Or right now Kevin Durant, people tell me, or Steph Curry. They're constantly, when everyone else is done shooting in the gym, they say, "One more." Larry Bird was legendary for "One more, one more." The people that would throw the passes to him, the ball guys in practice, he always wants more. He always wants more. The great hitters that I know, the Mike Trout's in MLB, they're gifted, but they just take a little more. They take that extra batting practice, that extra session.

• 1:06:10Ed Mylett?

  They're always doing extra. That's the separator. Like you can learn all this stuff. You can digest all the tactics and information that I give out. But if you're not willing to do one more, eventually there's a part of you that says, "Maybe, maybe I don't deserve it." I'm just doing what everybody else is doing, and that's not good enough. It's not even good enough to do more than everybody else. It's your maxed-out level. It's one more of everything. And so whether that's a phone call, an email, a text, an appointment. One more time you tell your spouse you love them. One more time you go in and kiss your children goodnight. One more hug of somebody, one more phone call, one more everything. I want your theme to be "one more." Have I said that enough times for you today? So what's that really look like in application?

• 1:06:54Ed Mylett?

  Well, the second thing it does for you is you actually do more reps of whatever it is you're doing. And when we do more repetitions, we get better. And when we do more repetitions, we're more productive. So number one is the psychology part. If you're someone who's always doing things other people aren't willing to do, you always max out, you always go to the next level. You convince yourself you deserve to win. You can take low self-esteem, low identity, low confidence, and change it over time by building this habitual addiction to doing "one more." This obsession of "one more." All the greats do "one more" and all the average don't. It's not that the average don't work hard. It's not that the average at your company, it's not that they don't work hard. They probably work pretty hard. But do they always do extra? Do they always do "one more"?

• 1:07:38Ed Mylett?

  Do they always do 10 more if they need to? Do they always get after it? The other part of it, number two, is you just get better because of the reps. You're just doing more of something, you get better. You get stronger. You become a better phone caller when you make one more phone call every day. You become a better communicator when you do one more meeting every single day. You get better at coordination in your sport or at the gym by just doing more reps. Yes, you get better, so that's the second layer. But the third one is, you stack the odds in your favor. See, for me, I want the odds that I'm going to win to increase. The larger numbers we play in life, in every area, more is always better. People tell you, "More isn't always better." And almost everything, more is better, just so you know.

• 1:08:23Ed Mylett?

  And almost everything. People who tell you more isn't better in most things are lazy. And they try to justify their own weakness. Don't let people who are justifying their own weakness convince you that you working hard, you doing more, isn't the pathway to your success. People say, "Well, you gotta work smarter, not harder." That's a lie, because everybody who wins works smarter. The separator is who works harder. And by the way, we become smarter through working harder. All the new revelations, all the breakthroughs, all the new discoveries, always come when you're doing "one more." Always come through more repetitions. You find new ways, new strategies, new words, new keys by higher repetitions. So even if you believe working smarter is more important, you will become smarter by doing more.

• 1:09:07Ed Mylett?

  So if you work 300 days a year, let's just say 300 days a year, that's 300 more phone calls every single year. Over five years, that's 1,500 more contacts. 1,500 more contacts. Just think about that just for a second. Over 30 years, that's 9,000 more contacts. What are the odds the person who makes 9,000 more contacts, or even 300 more a year, are gonna win? You give me two average people that walk in a room, same ability, same skills, same backgrounds, same product. One of them makes 300 more contacts a year than the other one. Who's gonna win? We know. How about over five years? One of them makes 1,500 more contacts over five years. Who's gonna win? Over a lifetime, 30 years of work,

• 1:09:50Ed Mylett?

  one makes 9,000 more contacts. Who's gonna win? You stack the odds in your favor. Never mind the person who made the 9,000 more contacts is better. They've got more reps, they've got more confidence, they believe they deserve to win. They just have 9,000 more opportunities. How about a golfer? One of them makes 300 more swings a year. A year, and that's just one more swing a day, right? And over a year, over five years, 1,500 more. 9,000 over a lifetime. Who's more likely to win? So you pick anything you want. You begin to stack the odds in your favor. How about at the gym? If every day you went one more minute in your cardio. So it's supposed to be 45, you do 46. Do you know what that starts to do to you? You start knowing you're different. You start knowing you obliterate standards. You start knowing you can break through.

• 1:10:34Ed Mylett?

  When you break through an artificial barrier, like 45 minutes, you do one more. It sets a catalyst for your entire day. It sets a syntax. It sets a mindset for the rest of your life. Never mind the fact that if you do 300 more minutes, which is 9,000 more over your lifetime, who's gonna be more fit? So you begin to stack these things and your entire life changes. This is what I like to call compound pounding. Most people underestimate what time can do when backed up with massive activity. Right as I'm speaking to you, I'm looking out at the ocean right now. And there's a massive rock formation and you can see the rivets in the rocks. And what caused those rivets in the rocks was compound pounding of the ocean hitting that rock

• 1:11:18Ed Mylett?

  over and over and over again, over and over, compound pounding against that rock. And over time, that ocean breaks the rock down, over time. Where you can see the breakdown in a rock that water does hitting it. Think about that over time, not one time when the water hits it, not two times, not five times. When you add up years and years and years of that water hitting the rock, it breaks it down. And that's like getting through to your dream. You have to be like that water hitting the rock I'm staring at right now. That over time, that compound pounding breaks down the barriers, breaks down the obstacles, breaks down anything in your way of getting to your dream. So I'm sold out on all the strategies and tactics that I teach you.

• 1:12:02Ed Mylett?

  But what I believe in completely is the power of compound pounding. And here's the crazy thing about most people, they will give up on their dream before the compounding has been allowed to kick in. So they'll work at it and they'll work at it and they'll work at it and they don't see the breakthrough. But what they don't understand is that rock was getting ready to break if you just keep pounding against it. But because most people don't see the evidence, see, if you watch that water hit that rock over one day, you're gonna see no difference, two days, no difference, five days, no difference, maybe even a year, there's no difference, maybe even five years. But you have the compound pounding of every wave hitting that rock over and over again. There's an inevitability to the breakdown of the rock.

• 1:12:45Ed Mylett?

  That's true of your goals and dreams as well, there's an inevitability to success. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when, when we adopt one more, when we adopt compound pounding. Do you know the kind of confidence you begin to have when you just accept in your life that I am going to be relentless, I'm always gonna do extra? And you accept the fact that all things break down over time. All the barriers will go away, all the obstacles will go away, everything in your way will go away. If you keep after it over an extended period of time. Most people overestimate what they can do in a year. They do. They set up goals for a year and they overestimate where they're gonna get to. And they dramatically underestimate what they can do in a decade.

• 1:13:28Ed Mylett?

  And the reason for that is most people don't understand the power of compound pounding. So I want you to accept today that you're gonna be relentless, that you're gonna keep coming, that you're like a dripping faucet. You're like those waves hitting the rock. Other people are gonna get slowed down. Other people are gonna take a break. Other people are gonna flinch. Other people are gonna cool it. Other people are gonna believe they've made it. Or maybe some people are gonna believe they can't make it. But you're gonna be relentless. You're gonna be repetitious. You may not be the fastest. You may not be the smartest. You may not be the strongest. You may not be the most beautiful. You may not have the most articulate thoughts and ideas in the world. But what you got is compound pounding. What you got is one more. And when they get weak, you just keep coming. When they flinch, you blow their doors off.

• 1:14:09Ed Mylett?

  That's how you win in life, is you keep getting after it and keep getting it after it until the job gets done. You show me somebody who can succeed, so a lot of people can be excited for a day. They can be excited for a month. Some people can be excited for a year or two or three years. But the winners, they stay excited as long as it takes to get the job done. They keep after it until the job gets done. They never stop. They're always after it. And that's where their strength comes from. That's where their confidence comes from. Is knowing their capacity to keep coming at you. And that all your competition's gonna get weak. They're gonna get tired. They're gonna surrender. They're gonna give in. They're gonna think they made it. They're gonna take a break. They're gonna cool it. And you just keep coming. It's just nature. Just like the nature of the ocean against that rock, it's just nature

• 1:14:53Ed Mylett?

  that you run down your dream, that you knock down your dream. I want you to implement all the things that I teach on Max out. All the tactics, all the strategies, but more than anything, I want you to buy into the fact of an inevitability of you winning. That it's inevitable, that it might not be a year or two years or three years, but you're gonna stay excited and you're gonna keep doing one more until the job gets done. Today's message is very simple. You can win. You should win and you will win. I want you to feel this. You will win if you just keep. Keep coming, you keep getting after it, you keep doing one more. You can control this. You can't control all the exterior things in your life. People's attitudes, how they treat you. Who cancels on you, who changes their mind? Who hates on you, who lets you down?

• 1:15:38Ed Mylett?

  But you can control this. You can always go forty-six instead of forty-five. You can always go eleven instead of ten. You can always make the next phone call. Always do one more meeting, always do one more, always, always, always. And I promise you, you will knock down that rock that's in between you and your dream. And make them come true. Today's really simple. You're gonna knock down whatever that rock is that's been between you and your dream. You're gonna keep after, you're gonna be relentless, you're not gonna give in. You're gonna be the person who stays excited until the entire job gets done. Until that dream is real. And you know, long-term, all these other people, they're gonna flinch, they're gonna get weak, and you won't. You've adopted a max-out mindset. And I want to remind you today to stay connected with me. I want you to win. Hope you can feel it today.

• 1:16:23Ed Mylett?

  I want to break it down to its most simple form, which is that you use nature to your advantage. You use the force of you, the force of effort, the force of sustained effort over an extended period of time. To wear out the obstacles in front of you in your dream. I want you to feel the confidence that comes with it. I'm telling you. Look at me, listen to me. You're gonna do this. You're gonna win if, and it's a big if. If you'll just adopt it. It ought to be written everywhere, one more, one more, max out, everywhere you can put it. It's inevitable. It's not if anymore. It's just when. And I want to remind you of that. And another reminder is the Max Out Two Minute Drill. I'm trying to stay so connected with you. I want to know what you're going through, I want to know what your issues are, your thoughts, your

• 1:17:07Ed Mylett?

  your hopes, your aspirations, your dreams, so that I can help you with the right material, the right tactics, the right inspiration. So every day on Instagram, we run the Max Out Two Minute Drill. And it's very simple. Here's what winners get, by the way. The winners of the Max Out Two Minute Drill win coaching calls with me, with my guests, tickets to see me speak, copies of my book, Max Out gear. There's some going forward now, in a few weeks, that are riding on my jet with me, doing their coaching call live on my jet. There's so many great things that you can win. And there's three ways to win that prize. When I make a post in my main feed on Instagram, you just make a comment within the first two minutes. And not just hashtag max out, make a comment in the first two minutes. We pick a winner every day who just makes a comment in the first two minutes. And we usually extend it to about five minutes. Number two, make a comment on other people's comments.

• 1:17:52Ed Mylett?

  So after you've left your comment, comment on a few other people's comments. I'm going to begin to reward people who connect and collaborate because I want you doing that with each other in the community. So make a comment on someone else's comment. And third, if you miss the first two to five minutes, that's not a problem. Just make a comment every day on every post I make. And at the end of the week, we pick winners who just make a comment every day, regardless of whether it's at two minutes or four hours or eight hours afterwards. Doesn't matter what time it is. So there's three ways to win. Want to encourage you to participate in the max out two minute drill. Share and subscribe to today's program. I hope it gave you hope. I hope it gave you certainty and hope it gives you a very simple recipe to dominate.

• 1:18:31Ed Mylett?

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• 1:19:15Ed Mylett?

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• 1:19:59Ed Mylett?

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• 1:20:32Ed Mylett?

  That was a great conversation. And if you want to hear the full interview, be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. We're going to talk today with the great Rob Dierdick. Welcome to the show, brother.

• 1:20:45Speaker 01

  Hey, thank you for having me.

• 1:20:46Ed Mylett?

  Speaking of life and needle moving, I don't know if you texted me this or you posted it, so it probably doesn't matter, but that's the micro stuff. The macro is you're so obsessed with this that you look at like duration of time on the planet. And it was something about you just realized, you read something on, you're laughing, but did you text me this or did you post it?

• 1:21:06Speaker 01

  I just posted that I wanted to live 1 million hours.

• 1:21:09Ed Mylett?

  That's exactly right. So you read something that convinced you that you're going to, that you could live to a particular age and you deduced how many hours there. So I actually think this is brilliant because this type of focus causes us to live with intention and attention and the lack of, I think all the time, do you know when I pray at night? You're going to laugh at this. Never said this out loud, not even to my wife, until you and about 70 billion people right now. When I pray at night, one of my last prayers is that I'm going to live to 128 years old.

• 1:21:41Ed Mylett?

  Okay, and I really believe now again, someone will listen to this in three years. Wow, it's so sad he passed away. But, but, but I, I, I have that prayer and that intention and I've repeated it over and over and over and over again. Because I believe if I don't pick a number, if I don't pick a time, if I don't set a goal, if I don't, then I'll be up to the whims of whatever else comes my way. And I really believe that you create a space when you set something like that that didn't exist before you did it. And then you find the behaviors, the people, the things, the thoughts, the technology, the nutrition to fill it up. What I didn't do was calculate the amount of hours that it gives me to then optimize that time. So speak to that whole thing.

• 1:22:17Speaker 01

  Yeah, and, and look, I'm, you know, it makes, it really makes me happy. That means we're gonna, we're literally, we're gonna be friends deep into our hundreds.

• 1:22:26Ed Mylett?

  I love it.

• 1:22:26Speaker 01

  We're gonna be having these conversations about, well, what do you think? You thinking you're going to 128? You think you're gonna, I don't know, I'm push, I'm feeling pretty good right now.

• 1:22:35Speaker 01

  But I think about it more from a, this is what I'm big on. This is your existence, right? And, and this is, this is the framework of the, the experience, the human experience, right? You only truly can judge anything. Your energy, how well you're using time, everything that's happened in your past, how you actually feel in the present moment. You can only do it in the present moment and you only experience it in your mind, right? And then you have to make a decision of like, I want to change, um, all of these things. So I'm, I'm going to create a better future experience. That is the human experience and I realized that it, that I wanted to make it last to 112.

• 1:23:18Speaker 01

  I initially wanted to live to 104 and be shot in a rocket into space and explore the universe without the, um, light pollution from planet earth for the last year before I died and then floated out into the cosmos. Now, that was before I had a wife and kids. And so it's like now the audacity of don't worry about me. And then like I'm up there for like 24 more years, like, oh, so. That changed. And then when I read the book Ikigai, right? The Japanese Long Life and Happiness book. They talked about super centurions. And I'm like, oh, like that brand. I want to be a super centurion. So then I made it at.

• 1:24:02Speaker 01

  Then I made it that I would want to live to 112. And then as I started getting deeper into, okay, how many days is that? All right. Okay, that's how many days I have. This is how many days that I've done so far. Then when I was going, going through my time matrix and looking at all these different things where I spend time of like, wow, I spend nearly as much time shooting a television show as I will picking up my kids and taking them to school for the year. Right? And, and to me, as I just started looking at these hours and then where am I, where am I losing a lot of time? On the couch watching Netflix, you know what I mean? It's, it's me and the wife on there watching our favorite show.

• 1:24:44Speaker 01

  But boy, when you start looking at what that is, man, you're letting, you're letting the hard eight to nine percent go on the couch. You know what I mean? Like it's, it's cold, hard reality. But as I looked at that, you know, I'm, I then was like, you know, what is like, what's a round number of time? And like, wow, 1 million hours is 114 years and 54 days. I'm gonna, I'm gonna experience a million hours on this earth, right? And so of course, a lot of people push back on like, oh, it's good. Yeah, you're like a vegetable. What are you gonna do? And, and it's like, like, I didn't even contemplate that. And, and it's because you live in two different mindsets.

• 1:25:25Speaker 01

  There's, I live in a mindset that I just keep getting healthier and happier, more balanced, lighter. Life is more effortless. My system, that is, my entire body is more efficient. And I can show you in blood work. I can show you in net worth. I can show you in time and I can show you in qualitative data that I have collected about how I feel about my life, work and health. That I am in healthier, better physical condition, wealthier.

• 1:25:54Speaker 01

  healthier, more balanced and happier in the data, which only proves to me there's no reason why you can't keep getting healthier, happier and wealthier for the for the remainder of your life and then I'll just fall right off a cliff, you know, you know what I mean, whatever it ends up ending, but again, what's it go back to? I want to live with with absolute intention and I want to experience every moment that I get into and feel the vividness and the richness and the beauty that is the human experience and life. You know, you don't want to be so future focused and trying to create a better future that you never feel the present, right?

• 1:26:38Speaker 01

  And so for me, I'm I really began to understand what state my mind is at all the ti- at all times and how do I learn to control that? And begin to put in systems and solutions that keep my mind in a balanced state is really one of the bigger things that I've learned to do over the last year or so. Share with us one of those systems. Well, you know, I the if you can imagine this, your your mind is is balanced in this way, right? You it's past, present and future, right? And so there's sort of five sections as I see it and and on one end, it's dwelling in the past. You ain't doing nothing. You want to sit and dwell about something you did, you ain't doing nothing.

• 1:27:23Speaker 01

  Then the next level up is rectify, right? You are problem solving, taking action, something that happened in the past. So now you're in the present past where, okay, I'm I'm dealing with something that happened. Now I'm problem solving, taking action to make a better future, right? You sit right in the middle and you experience it or you go to the next level is creating, right? And so now you're in this future present, right? Where you're experiencing the present while creating the future? That's that's where you want to toggle, right? Because what goes beyond creating the future is wishing. Right, because then if you're sitting there wishing the future was better and wishing like, like this will be like this, or you're dwelling, you're not moving, right?

• 1:28:07Speaker 01

  And so you wanna be either experiencing the moment, or handling something that happened in the past-present, or creating something in the future-present state, and, and, and swing between that, right? And so if you can imagine, that's your mind, what you, what you think about on an ongoing basis is ranges between all of that. That's where the action lives. Now, it's the quality of your mind. And your mind's quality is either in a proactive state, a reactive state, an inactive state, or a magnetic state, right? And for me, when I, when all aspects of my life are in order, meaning I'm eating super clean, everything, all, all my goals and visions and everything is,

• 1:28:51Speaker 01

  is running smooth, I'm, I'm spending very little time rectifying the past because I've designed my present-future experience with such intention. I'm dealing with very little disruption, that then I eventually go beyond just being proactive to this magnetic state. And I know you've experienced this before, because this is when your, everything is going, operating at such a level that answers start coming to you without you asking the questions. It is the law of attraction that, that's the unexplainable force that lives in the quantum field, where your energy is at such a high level, you are so clear of not only being present and experiencing, but creating your better future, and you rise to this, you vibrate to this level,

• 1:29:36Speaker 01

  to where the answers show up and you never ask the questions, right? And for me, I'm trying to master all aspects of my existence to where I basically sit in that state of toggling between future-present and proactive and magnetic at all times.

• 1:29:56Ed Mylett?

  Oh my God.

• 1:29:57Speaker 01

  It's a deep one. It's a deep one.

• 1:29:59Ed Mylett?

  No.

• 1:30:01Ed Mylett?

  Okay, that's an all-timer.

• 1:30:04Ed Mylett?

  I want everyone to go back the last five or six minutes there. That's an all-timer.

• 1:30:10Ed Mylett?

  When we talk, I always filter it through my life and my perspective. I just realized something because I do know what that vibrational frequency feels like. When I am getting answers to questions I haven't even asked. It's not frequent enough. And the reason it's not frequent enough is I'm depleting my energy reserves to not put myself in a state where I can have that type of energy and what I call vibrate at that frequency. And you're exactly right. And that's the other reason why rest, recovery, being present matters. I just really pulled something here. This, I just really did.

• 1:30:41Speaker 01

  But let me say this. Every single thing matters. Every thought, every action, every decision, every single thing that you do is interconnected to, to get you to that space. And, and for me, it's like, I think, oh, I'll have a glass of wine. I'll have a couple of chips. It, it, it will pull, it will pull away from that. I'll make, I'll make one bad decision from eating bad that will then cause me to be short with my wife. That leads to this entire, it pulls, pulls me right out of the magnetic state. Right? Because it's like, even when you're there, it's really sensitive. And you could just get one thought that could rip you out of that. You could look at one text, it could rip you out of that, right?

• 1:31:25Speaker 01

  It's like, and so that requires really, really understanding every single bit of you. And then giving value to everything you do, rather than trying to like pocket your values. Oh, if I eat healthy, oh, if I'm stay focused, oh, if I clear out this stuff, oh, if I rest or recovery versus like, no, it is all works together to make the best version of you. How committed are you? How disciplined are you to live at, at the level that you know you have to live at? At a consistent enough basis that it becomes to compound effortlessly and become a way of life, rather than getting disciplined again.

• 1:32:08Speaker 04

  Hmm. That's really what it is, you know?

• 1:32:10Ed Mylett?

  Well, for me, I burned myself out going from those states to the good state, back to the bad state. I'm still having wine with you at dinner tonight, but um, I know exactly what you're talking about. And uh, everybody, you all hear the show every single week. It's pretty rare that I'm this quiet because I just, I, my really process a lot of information when you and I go like this. It's good for me. I'm already thinking of stuff I'm gonna say and I'm gonna teach that I'm gonna steal, that I'm gonna make mine.

• 1:32:38Speaker 04

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on Impact Theory with host, Tom Bilyeu.

• 1:32:43Speaker 09

  Your actions also have to line up. You're never gonna be able to think your way to success.

• 1:32:48Ed Mylett?

  I love Think and Grow Rich. It's my favorite book other than my scriptures, but I gotta be honest with you. You don't just think and get rich. You gotta do stuff. The question then becomes, what do I need to think and what do I need to do simultaneously or incongruency? That produce the result. And that's why I did the things that I had the things in the book. Second chapter, as you know, and I know you're a huge Matrix fan. Like as I'm writing this chapter, this is Tom's chapter.

• 1:33:08Speaker 09

  I was like, this is the greatest chapter ever written. I love this.

• 1:33:11Ed Mylett?

  But one of the points that I make in the book is be able to slow things down and get into bullet time. But there's two things I love about the Matrix. One, I think that's an absolute example of the reticular activating system in the brain. And so you do have to be good, but the question in life becomes, listen, I believe your one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one, one show, one thought, one new emotion, potentially away from changing your entire life. I've proven this in my life, so have you. And the question then becomes, how do you find them? And this RAS is super powerful in our brains because it's the mechanism that filters the entire world to us. It literally reveals to us our reality, just like you just said. It reveals our reality. I just bought a Tesla. I drove it here today. I like what Musk is doing. I'm like, I'm gonna get one of these Teslas. Man, every freaking where I go, I see Teslas now.

• 1:33:56Ed Mylett?

  Red one, babe. Hey, there's a white one. There's a plaid. Three lanes over, other side of the freeway, babe, black Tesla just drove by. She's like, how in the world do you know this? Because it's become important to me and it's now in my filter. It's now a part of my RAS. That's why when you're in a loud room, all the auditory sounds, someone doesn't even say it loud. Tom, you can hear your own name in a room because it's become important to you. See, the question in life is, can you make your goals, your ambitions, the emotions you want, the thoughts, the relationships you need to become your Teslas? And if they become your Teslas, things slow down. The other part of the Matrix I love, I'll come out for air, is Neo is the one. He's the one. And when my wife and I were little, I literally live on the beach now, brother, that we used to walk on.

• 1:34:37Ed Mylett?

  We were in high school, we were dating and we'd walk on this beach, go babe, I'm gonna get you one of these beach houses. We're gonna, we're gonna get one of these beach houses. She goes, you are? I go, yep. And I have no idea how, and I go home, I go, Dad, who are these freaking people? Who lives there? He's like, I don't know who the heck they are, but they don't work with me, you know? And I figured something out. When you find a family or a person that's happy and successful, or either one, somewhere back in their lineage, they weren't. That family wasn't. And then the one shows up. The one. And that one changes that family forever. It changes the way they live, the way the world treats them, the way they think. They're the Neo, they're the one in their family. And in my family, I'm the one.

• 1:35:21Ed Mylett?

  I'm the one. I didn't like it, I didn't hope for it, I fought for it. I fought for it. I did the things in this book to become the one in my family. And if you're listening to this or watching it, why don't you consider the fact that potentially maybe you're the one? And the fact that you don't think you are, or that you're not qualified to be the one, or don't have the background, or the skills, or the confidence, probably makes you the one. Cause that was me.

• 1:35:42Speaker 09

  Now, what, what does the one do? What do they introduce to the family that changes it so profoundly?

• 1:35:47Ed Mylett?

  I think they introduce a different way of thinking, Tom. I think they introduce a belief system that the world doesn't dictate the terms to our family anymore. We're gonna dictate the terms to the world. And that we have some measure of control over the results of our lives. I think most people go through their lives thinking they have no measure of control. And I had a huge breakthrough, brother, two weeks ago. After I wrote the book, and as you know, as I wrote the book, when my dad died, I thought, I need to write this book, cause my dad taught me all these profound lessons of one more, and I'm the next to go. I don't know if it's this week or 60 years from now, but I'm the next to go. And I woke up about 3 o'clock in the morning, 3:15 exactly. And I woke up, Christian, I said, babe, wake up. And I was in tears. This was just two weeks ago.

• 1:36:29Ed Mylett?

  I said, babe, someone helped daddy. I'm 51, bro. My dad was sober for 35 years. This never occurred to me. She goes, what? I said, someone helped my dad.

• 1:36:41Speaker 03

  She goes, "What do you mean? Someone helped my dad in his darkest moment of his life get sober. In some coffee shop or quiet place where my dad was down on his knees, losing his family. Some precious human being helped my dad. I don't know who they are. They changed our entire family. Max and Bella's lives are changed because of this person that we don't know. Millions of people I've reached because this person helped my dad." She goes, "That's amazing." I said, "Here's what's more amazing. What qualified them to help my dad? Their shame, their mess, that they were also a drug addict and alcoholic. This precious soul, the things they're the most ashamed of, that they think disqualified

• 1:37:24Speaker 03

  them the most in life, is the very thing that qualified them to help my dad in the most important moment of his life, is where their giftedness, their experience, their shame, their setbacks, is what qualified them to change my life and my dad's life in this dark space. I've been in personal development, my dad's been sober forever. It never occurred to me. The mess you have in your life, the things you are most ashamed of and embarrassed by that you think are the most insignificant, that disqualify you the most, are probably the very things that will qualify you to connect with another human being in your business or your personal life to change their life. And don't ever underestimate the ripple effect. They were just helping some man get sober in some dark space in his life, never knowing

• 1:38:09Speaker 03

  the one was his son. Never knowing that this whole existence of my family was changed, not just by me being the one, not just by my dad's decision, but by a completely flawed person. Remember, think about this person, at some point they were stealing from their family, driving drunk, did things they're completely ashamed of in those states. That was the experience that qualified them to change my dad's life. So if you're listening to this or watching it, stop discounting yourself. Stop carrying these bags of your life of the things you're embarrassed or ashamed of or that you think are insignificant, that don't amount to anything. Those are the things, you, precious you, that could change another precious human being's life in a moment where they need you the most. And if you don't believe you're qualified, if you don't believe you can do it, you're

• 1:38:54Speaker 03

  gonna miss those moments in your life. And your entire existence here wasn't what it was supposed to be.

• 1:38:59Speaker 04

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on the Heavy Checklist Podcast.

• 1:39:04Ed Mylett?

  Scripture says, "Hey, where there's no vision, the people will perish." If you dig deeper, that's not that people don't have any vision. Look, would you rather be fit or fat? Would you rather be happy or sad? Would you rather be rich or poor? Right, like, would you rather have a private jet or fly commercial? This is, these are easy questions. People have a vision. Their issue is depth perception. Right. They think they're further away than they are. Yeah. And because they think they're so far away, and it's so complicated, everything stays that far away all their life. They keep it there by their behaviors. But what if the truth is, you're one decision away from changing your life, your one relationship, your, like I said earlier, your one podcast, your one YouTube video, your one new book, your one new meeting? Check this out. About three weeks ago, I'm playing golf, and a really good friend of mine goes, "I want you to meet this guy.

• 1:39:49Ed Mylett?

  I want you to play golf with him tomorrow. Your net worths are similar, and he's a fascinating dude. And there's, you know, meet guys every single day worth hundreds of millions of bucks. Let's get together." I go, "All right, I'll play with him tomorrow." So I go to the first tee, and he goes, "Oh, Ed Miliband, I'm a huge fan of yours. I can't wait to spend five hours. I got all these questions for you." I go, "I'm betting how it's gonna work, bro. I already know about me. I wanna know about you." Yeah. "Tell me your story." And he goes, "I could do it on the first tee. It's really simple." I go, "Give it to me." He goes, "1986, I loaned a dude 50 grand. So did my best friend." This is fascinating, bro. And he goes, "A week later, my best friend said, got scared, said, 'Give me the 50 grand back.' I kept the loan to the guy." He goes, "It turned into 750 million bucks." I said, "Get the heck out of here, dude. Who'd you loan that money to?" Jeff Bezos.

• 1:40:34Ed Mylett?

  Shit. I went, "You gotta be kidding me." That dude was one relationship, one decision, one loan away from completely changing his life. Now, that's an exaggerated example. I don't have that story. But I have a series of little, as you've said, one more decision. Yes. One more meeting. One more breakthrough. One new emotion. One new thought. And every single time I've changed my life, he did it in one big one. Yeah. But you're right. You're way closer to the change than you think you are, and oftentimes, it's a very simple change.