Pod Insights On Purpose with Jay Shetty Daniella Monet: ON Body Image, Eating Disorders and Self Love About this episode Daniella’s candor in this episode is amazing. She opens up about her personal struggles with family, body image, finding purpose, learning to love herself, and shows us how she’s been able to use the negative experiences in her life to inspire people around the world. We discuss why it’s the day to day grind, and work put into personal relationships that sets us up for success, rather than the social media milestones.
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3:09 Speaker 01 Create before you consume. I think that that's a really good tool to go about because creating something that can have its own trickle effect makes you feel like you're part of a bigger purpose. Consuming social media, unless you're using it purposefully, can really weigh on you.
3:30 Jay Shetty? Make sure you've subscribed, rated, and reviewed. It means so, so much to me. The podcast has been getting huge, huge support, and I'm so grateful to each and every one of you. Now, the way I met today's guest is really, really interesting. I turned up to a food tasting at a vegan bacon company in L.A., right? Like, that's something you'll only ever hear in L.A., but it's a vegan bacon company. It's made out of mushrooms. It's absolutely incredible. It's called Outstanding Foods. And I happened to be invited for a tasting with one of their incredible investors and incredible ambassadors. Her name is Daniella Monet. She's an actress, she's an activist, and on top of all of that, she's an incredible human.
4:14 Jay Shetty? Daniela speaks openly and vulnerably about her personal challenges, her journey with her family, talks about her activism with so much passion. She's so kind, she's so giving, she's so loving, has so much talent, but an even bigger heart. I'm so grateful to call her a meaningful friend. This one is going to blow your mind. Welcome, Daniella Monet.
4:43 Jay Shetty? I just want to get to the heart of how you were able to do it, because I think for a lot of people listening, they want to be more comfortable being alone. They want to be able to create their own version of success, not be dictated by the one that's been brought about by their parents or society or their industry. How did you do that?
5:03 Speaker 01 Oh, my goodness. I think it stems from the initial feeling of being uncomfortable and knowing that you just don't want to be in that space for very long, right? So you start to look for resources to help you get out of being uncomfortable. I'd say from a young age, I was very independent. I had a great family and I had a great upbringing as a whole, but there was a lot of unstable elements. My parents were not a good, ideal marriage, I guess, scenario growing up. I didn't see what marriage and what like a compatible relationship really looked like. And I learned to, at that point, sort of take control of my own life
5:48 Speaker 01 and taking like care of my brother, make sure that I always made money. I was a little kid hustler. It was really weird if I think back to the things that I was doing, like making clothes, selling clothes, rhinestoning, anything that was popular at the time, I learned to do it very quickly. People wanted braids, people wanted their ears pierced. I was like all over the place. Okay, when I think about it, I'm like, just to make school lunch, you know, like money for lunch. Or when I was vegan, I had to buy my own groceries. So I learned like, okay, I'm having a garage sale this weekend because I want to get Follow Your Heart mayo. You know what I mean? Like, everything was like one for one. And I learned that it wasn't going to happen on its own.
6:28 Speaker 01 So regardless of my upbringing and sort of the chaos that was going on at home, which at the time I thought was normal. And which is even more weird. I I knew it was weird and I knew it was uncomfortable and I knew that they weren't a good fit for one another, but I accepted it and I sort of became my own adult at a young age. Meanwhile, I'm I'm acting. I'm in an adult world. I didn't go to high school. I really wasn't even in middle school for very often. I was on a a series at the time. I was the only kid on the show. So I went to school in a trailer, a tiny trailer, just me and this incredibly political teacher that wanted to push every
7:09 Speaker 01 election on this like fourteen, fifteen year old kid. So learn a little about that and what not to do.
7:15 Jay Shetty? Wow.
7:16 Speaker 01 And I think one of the things I learned very quickly was, like I said, I I had control over certain things. So I started to control what I ate to a point where it was unhealthy. Did go through an eating disorder while being on a show. I've never really admitted that. But yeah, I I dropped down significantly. I mean, I must have been at one point my lowest six fifteen, sixteen years old, seventy something pounds. I was on a CBS series, so the network was not happy. And in order to appease them, they did so much to try and help. They made sure that I had tons of vegan food and smoothies. They made sure I was going to meetings in the morning. I was so confused. I didn't
8:01 Speaker 01 think I had a problem. I wasn't being honest with myself. I was trying to sort of cope with being very quickly emerged into an adult world while knowing that I had a brother who was sort of still in the home scenario that wasn't healthy and wanted to help him and wanted to help my family and realize that like I need to be making a lot of money because money is going to help all of this. And so the drive was on another level. And having control over the things that I could, which was food and working out and staying as busy as I could and being as motivated as I could, really drove me to skin and bones.
8:42 Speaker 01 But I I saw the light pretty quickly and I'm going to be so honest about that. I I'm so grateful that I have this like consciousness in me where I don't need to go down a rabbit hole very long to learn that the bottom is up. And I learned that I had no choice but to be healthy. And that's where I started to talk more about health. And that's when I really started to lean on what I was and what gave me purpose and what made me happy. And speaking up for animals and taking jobs that I knew were positive and fun and interesting and not dark and deep and and too far stretched from the imagination was what I wanted to do. I became very selective in what I worked on.
9:28 Speaker 01 I then ended up on Nickelodeon therefore, because I knew that that's family friendly, that's happy, that's colorful, that makes me feel good, like I'm, I'm getting in the lives of children, which like for me, that's a game changer. I love children. I think they're, obviously they're the future and I want to have a significant role in their lives. I took being on Nickelodeon so seriously that I knew being a role model meant everything to me. I'm a big sister. I'm the oldest of my cousins and being on a show where I knew kids were watching meant that I had a position in their lives, that I was someone that they could look up to. And so
10:10 Speaker 01 that's been really powerful. And to this day, I still have young kids, teens, adults, you know, that grew up watching me on the last 12 years of being on Nickelodeon, come up to me and, and have nice things to say. And I just want to keep that trajectory going. That's really important to me.
10:29 Jay Shetty? But that's amazing that you see it as a responsibility, almost. Because you know that people are watching you. People are seeing you as a role model. As I said earlier, this, this show for me is really to talk to real models, people who can express their reality and people who I think are real models for the world to follow. You're definitely one of them in, in so many areas of your life. But I think it's really special that you took it as a responsibility because I think it's so easy at that age to be on Nickelodeon, to have fame, to have success and to just enjoy it. Like it's like, why do you even need to care about anyone else? Because you've worked hard to get there. But it seems like you've always just had this responsibility in your life.
11:09 Speaker 01 Yeah. Yeah, it's weird because sometimes I wish that I had a little bit more of that because I find myself wanting to help so much along the way and wanting to get to a certain place so that I could help more people that I don't celebrate the small victories in the timeline, you know? Like, I just kind of know that there's so many people and so many animals and so many resources and the planet, I mean, you could go down forever, right? Like, you can think about, and I think for me, one of the things that is always in the back of my head is my family and the people that sort of suffer with things in my family.
11:51 Speaker 01 My brother, who feels like he's almost like my own child, he suffers with addiction and has been homeless for probably on and off for about a year or two. Sorry, I've never actually, like, spoke about it. So that for me, to see that in my own four walls and like the closest thing to me, the kid who, I mean, he slept in my room the majority of my life, he had his own bedroom, but he slept in my room on a trundle bed because I feel like I was like his safety net. So I've learned that I want to be that because I know that I have that capability
12:35 Speaker 01 and I want to be that for more people, you know? I could be that for him and I could do as much as I possibly can, but I want to help people before they get to a place where it's harder to make a change. So I've really tried to make that a big goal of mine.
12:51 Jay Shetty? Yeah, and in a big way.
12:52 Speaker 01 Yeah.
12:53 Jay Shetty? I think, thank you for sharing that, by the way. I'm sure it wasn't easy.
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15:08 Jay Shetty? That means you'll see thousands of organic products across their stores, from the produce department to the aisles. It also means you'll never see certain ingredients. They've banned artificial sweeteners and colors, high fructose corn syrup and more, so you can shop with peace of mind. Shop Whole Foods Market in-store or online. Yeah, thank you for being so open and vulnerable and just sharing so genuinely here because I don't think that you're someone that ever hides anything. I never feel that way. Like when I'm following you on Instagram or I see any of the content you're making, it's just from the heart. It feels that way to me anyway. And when I'm hearing you today, I'm actually loving learning about you even more
15:51 Jay Shetty? because it's only making me appreciate everything else you do.
15:54 Speaker 01 Thank you.
15:55 Jay Shetty? And it's crazy because I align with so much of what you're saying in my own life. So my sister, my sister's nickname that I've given her as kid, because I treat her as my kid, like my child. So it's so funny that you said that about your brother. And similarly in our parents, I felt I mediated my parents' marriage growing up. So I can definitely resonate with that. And then I resonate with something else. I'm listening to you and I'm just going like, wow, we have, there's so much in common. And I know you were saying it earlier when we were outside, but it was the same as the not celebrating little wins.
16:27 Speaker 01 Yeah.
16:27 Jay Shetty? I rarely do that because I see how much work that needs to be done in the world. So I'm constantly focusing on what's next to solve or not, what's next to heal, what's next to have an impact on.
16:39 Speaker 01 Totally.
16:39 Jay Shetty? Where do you, where do you kind of see that going or how do you want that to grow? Because I mean, we haven't even started talking about all the great activism work you're doing, which I think is important for people listening to know. But how do you see yourself kind of transforming those elements we've just spoken about now? Moving forward, how do you want them to change?
16:58 Speaker 01 Sure. So I've been sort of, in a lot of ways, I've earned, but I've also been given this platform just from really being on TV and being in people's lives and feeling like they're connected to me. So I want to utilize that. I want to grow that and I want to utilize that for the good. I think that, yes, I'm invested in these companies and I like to call them conscious companies because they're not purely just for the monetary investment. They're there because I see a bigger picture. So companies like Outstanding Foods, I know that they have a direct effect in the lives of animals, not to mention the health and the other trickle effects that come along with it. But companies like Sugar Taco.
17:42 Speaker 01 I believe in making vegan food, healthy, organic vegan food that tastes delicious, accessible at a good price point. Because that's an argument of people's, you know, they have this idea that veganism is too expensive, it's not attainable, it's not realistic for a normal person's lifestyle. That is what I want to scratch right off the bat. That is so far from the truth, and I feel like, just not to go down another rabbit hole, but
18:08 Jay Shetty? Do it.
18:08 Speaker 01 Spending money on what you put into your body, much like spending the time and whatever investment you make to work out, or health, wellness, whatever that mean, meditating, whatever that investment you're making, has such a huge impact in the big picture of your life. A lot of people spend all this money on healthcare, on pills, on things to make this instant fix in their lives, when, if you just do a little bit of the work along the way, and you're really being mindful of how you create you as a whole, and what you do to help yourself thrive, that is a non-factor. I don't know, knock on wood, but I don't know, the last time I've seen a doctor, spent
18:48 Speaker 01 money at a pharmacist, all of the above, never, I don't even take an Advil, Tylenol, nothing.
18:54 Jay Shetty? Wow.
18:55 Speaker 01 But I really do believe that a lot of that is because I make conscious efforts to drink water, to work out, to love myself, to meditate, to do something that makes me feel whole and balanced. So that goes along without saying, right? What these conscious companies, like if you can make these baby steps along the way, and they become easy to implement into your lifestyle, then hopefully the bigger picture is that someone will gravitate towards either eating plant-based, or taking better care of themselves, and so on and so forth. So that's sort of the companies that I've invested in thus far. I have a couple that are on the ground level startups, I'm sure you know.
19:34 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
19:34 Speaker 01 Where it's, you know, it's not
19:35 Jay Shetty? And I'm excited.
19:36 Speaker 01 Right?
19:36 Jay Shetty? As a consumer, as a future customer.
19:39 Speaker 01 I appreciate that, I appreciate that.
19:41 Jay Shetty? But I love the way you do it, because if you don't follow Daniela on Instagram, you should go and follow her, because you make it fun.
19:49 Speaker 01 Oh, thank you.
19:50 Jay Shetty? Like, it's not preachy. It's never condescending. You never sound like you're better than anyone, or you've got it right, or you've got it figured out. It always comes from that space of just, it's, you make it look fun. I saw you on your recent video, you went on the streets out with the big pig mascot.
20:07 Speaker 01 Yeah.
20:07 Jay Shetty? And you were out with pig out bacon. And I just, I loved it. I was just like, this energy is so fun. And it's, and even the fact, when we were speaking about it earlier, and you mentioned it now about how you've focused on making vegan food accessible and affordable. I just think the way you're thinking is so far ahead. Like, you're so far ahead of how others are thinking about helping people.
20:29 Speaker 01 Thank you.
20:30 Jay Shetty? And, yeah, and I love that.
20:31 Speaker 01 Thank you. I just think that there's so many people that are underserved. And there's a, there's these stereotypes that go along with that, right? You don't make a lot. You have to eat a certain way. They pump these saturated cities that are lower income with the McDonald's, with the Jack in the Box, with the elements that these people can afford, right? They're, they're not serving these companies, these communities in the right way. That's setting people up for the opposite of success. So to create awareness via social media and using your voice of the platform that you have to implement these different lifestyle changes along the way, I think that person tells their friend, tells their mom, tells, that's the way that I think.
21:16 Speaker 01 So the more honest I can be with people about how I live, and really, it's just how I live. It's not like perfect in any means, but it's just, for me, it's worked. And when something works, like, I just want people to know. And I think it's like, it's our right to share with people and help people along the way. Because why wouldn't you? If you're thriving in your own right, then why wouldn't you share whatever tips or tricks that you have? And so I've, I've sort of started a little pet project, just on Instagram, called Daniella's Digest.
21:50 Speaker 01 And it kind of goes in different terms of the word, right? So it's like, yes, what we put into our body and we digest it and all those kind of things. But also in general, like, I just want to break down different articles and different facts and share inspiring messages. And eventually I see myself interviewing people in this space, the health and wellness space, but also just always reminding ourselves to keep it light and fun.
22:15 Jay Shetty? Yes.
22:15 Speaker 01 Because that's how I got into these people's lives. I'll never forget that. I do sitcom, I do comedy, that's my forte. And that's the approach I have in life, you know? If we can't laugh at it, even if it is deep and dark and scary, we have to find the light or else there's no optimism. There's no potential for, for change or innovation. You have to constantly be kind of seeking out the light, even in the darkest of times. And that's what I want this platform to sort of be. And I want that to resonate with people. If, if they're feeling like they're not motivated today or they need a nudge, like, that's, that's what I want to be there to do. And I, yeah, that's, I'm excited about it.
22:55 Jay Shetty? Yeah, go find it on Instagram, Daniela's Digest, right? Yeah, I had it down on the notes. That's awesome. Yeah, I love that you're doing that. And, and I couldn't agree with you more. My whole reasoning behind doing video at a time when most people in the health and wellness space were doing courses or they were writing books and they were speaking. And I was just like, we need to get this out to everyone. And my whole goal when I first started making videos was to make content that was at the pace of entertainment. So I wanted it to feel like a short movie. I wanted it to feel like a song. I wanted it to feel like entertainment as opposed to education.
23:33 Speaker 01 Yeah.
23:33 Jay Shetty? But for it to have insightful messages within it. Now, I'm, I'm not funny, so I, I had to make
23:38 Speaker 01 You're funny.
23:38 Jay Shetty? Meaningful, meaningful videos that are not comedic. But I love it when comedy or any of this is viewed with the point of getting people towards the light. I, I couldn't agree with you more. And I'm so glad you're doing that. We need that more and more and more.
23:51 Speaker 01 Oh, thank you.
23:52 Jay Shetty? Yeah, we genuinely need that more and more.
23:54 Speaker 01 Thank you.
23:54 Jay Shetty? And I think the more of us that use our platforms and our skills and the talents that we have in whatever way it is to make things accessible, easy, relevant to everyone in the world, the more likely we're going to see it.
24:07 Speaker 01 Yeah.
24:07 Jay Shetty? See it take off.
24:08 Speaker 01 100%. I mean, They exist for a reason and you could use them however you choose. And I choose to think I'm not here for a long time. I'm here for a good time and I'm gonna try to make some good out of it.
24:18 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
24:19 Speaker 01 I want to do that for people and
24:21 Jay Shetty? You are.
24:21 Speaker 01 Thank you. So, I mean, please, you're preaching to the choir.
24:26 Speaker 01 Okay, so it's been so awesome to be able to see the content that you're creating. And honestly, it never stops at that. Like, there's so, I just, I love the word trickle effect because I feel like that is the perfect word to explain what is happening in our generation. And in the generation of social media, you just never know. And I think the unknown in that regard is optimism. And that's what I'm sort of striving for, is more of that.
24:51 Jay Shetty? Yeah, I wanted to pick that out because I think so many people in our generation also have a negative view of social media.
24:57 Speaker 01 Yeah.
24:57 Jay Shetty? And I find that's because we're so consumed by it, rather than using it purposefully. And so we find that people actually feel they're wasting. I know I saw a study that said people are wasting about six hours a day on social media, doing something meaningless or insignificant. How, where do you get your optimism for social media and the trickle effect? I know I get it, but how did you get to that point where you were like, actually, social media is helping, it can work?
25:23 Speaker 01 Mm hmm. I think it started with realizing, you know, it's no different than taking that few minutes for yourself in the beginning of the day to drink your coffee or read a magazine or whatever it may be, watch the news. You're getting some sort of information to sort of, and that really does trigger what your day's gonna be like, what's gonna sort of ignite that spirit in you. And so I think people can use social media to do just that. They just have to curate the right social media that they're sort of funneling into themselves. And that's why I feel like accounts like yours are so, I mean, that is the proof and the pudding right there. Starting your day off, and I know that you're strategic about when you post because when I turn my phone on and it's the first video I see, I'm grateful because I know that that's what my brain needs to absorb.
26:07 Speaker 01 If I'm gonna choose to use social media, I'm gonna choose to sort of put these positive images and these positive messages into me, rather than seeing, I hate to say it because no discount to them, they're a hustler in their own right and I'm sure they have their own purpose in mind. But I don't need to see a hundred different beauty bloggers and OOTDs to make myself feel like I'm, you know, good enough. It doesn't do that for me personally. And some people do resonate with that. But personally, my goals are so different than that. And so I think For someone out there who looks at social media in a negative way, be sure that you're using social media to benefit you and you're not just a consumer. And maybe take the approach of trying to create before you consume.
26:52 Speaker 01 I think that that's a really good tool to go about because creating something that can have its own trickle effect makes you feel like you're part of a bigger purpose. Consuming social media, unless you're using it purposefully, can really weigh on you.
27:07 Jay Shetty? So well said.
27:09 Speaker 01 Oh, thank you.
27:10 Jay Shetty? So well said. Create before you consume. I totally agree. When you're part of something, when you're part of creating something, it doesn't take you away from anything, right? When you're part of creating what everyone else is seeing. And, and I have to say that I get motivated by Daniela's extreme workout regimes. Like, I'm just like, wow, I need to, yesterday you were pushing a truck.
27:31 Speaker 01 Yeah.
27:32 Jay Shetty? I was just like, what? I was like, oh my God, like you pushed it and then you were chasing it.
27:36 Speaker 01 Yeah.
27:37 Jay Shetty? And then you ran around it.
27:38 Speaker 01 Oh, goodness.
27:39 Jay Shetty? And I was just like, wow, this is so epic. I was so impressed by it.
27:41 Speaker 01 Thank you.
27:42 Jay Shetty? But it's, yeah, it's great, but that, that discipline you have and it's, I feel the same way about yours. You post so many and you do make it funny too. Like, I, I remember there was a time when you were eating avo toast every day.
27:53 Speaker 01 Yeah, oh yeah.
27:54 Jay Shetty? And I'm a huge avo toast fan. So it was just, it was just, I, I couldn't agree with you more. I think when you're also able to connect, I find that the great, the thing I love about social media is that you really, you really attract the energy you create. You really attract the energy you put out. So if you're always putting out positive, meaningful messages, whether they're comedic or whether they're from my side, more, more inspirational or positive, whatever they may be, you start attracting people. And that's how we connected.
28:20 Speaker 01 Yeah.
28:20 Jay Shetty? Like, we met once, but then I was following you on social media. I was like, oh wow, we aligned so much. And then we had a relationship built up out of social media.
28:29 Speaker 01 Yeah.
28:29 Jay Shetty? And we've not met often. This is in fact, the second time we've been together, but I feel like I know you so well. And that's what I've loved about it, that when I've accelerated a relationship, and I say this to everyone, if you've built up a good connection with someone online, go offline as soon as you can, like try and meet with that person for coffee, or have lunch together, or whatever it is, obviously verifying that they're real and all the rest of it. But go and do that because you're going to build an amazing relationship with that person. You know, don't let it just be online. If you can go and meet that person, do it.
29:02 Speaker 01 I love that piece of advice. I think that's so great. And especially in this time where so many people can go years or longer with just having these, not fictional, they're real, they're real relationships, but without putting a face to the name and having that physical connection. I think there's so much more that can come of that. Yeah, so I totally agree with that. It's powerful.
29:24 Jay Shetty? I want to go back to when you were talking a bit about your parents and growing up. And now, obviously, you're engaged.
29:29 Speaker 01 Yeah.
29:29 Jay Shetty? You engaged last December, you were sharing. Congratulations.
29:31 Speaker 01 Thank you.
29:32 Jay Shetty? And I was, I was lucky enough to meet your fiance as well, which is awesome when we first met. And you guys are so cute together. I love it, yeah.
29:41 Speaker 01 Thank you. We work at it. You know, it's the biggest part of it, right? You want something so bad, you work at it. We just connected. We, we work well together for the most part. And I think we support one another's endeavors and we respect each other's independence, but we're very much a unit. I know we were talking earlier, because a lot of people asked me about the wedding. And there's so much of that on social media, you know, these big moments, these big chapters in your life are celebrated to the nines. I mean, the likes, the comments, the excitement around the buildup of, of an engagement or a proposal or a wedding or whatever. It almost makes you feel like everything in the middle is insignificant, which I think is such a misconception because it's the day to day that feels like the real success in a relationship.
30:25 Jay Shetty? Wow.
30:26 Speaker 01 You know, we can all have these moments where we celebrate one another and everyone around us is celebrating our love. And there's so much just anticipation around that. But really, it's the day to day grind. It's no different than building a company. It's that day to day grind that inevitably sets you up for a successful business or relationship. And I feel like we were doing that. And the wedding is, is not on the forefront of my mind. I'm really more focused on being the right fit and the right partnership. And on that note.
30:58 Speaker 01 So yeah, I think that that's like my main focus is just being the right fit and having the right partnership together.
31:04 Jay Shetty? What do you guys do to do that? What's your approach? What have you learned? How long have you been together?
31:10 Speaker 01 We've been together almost eight years.
31:12 Jay Shetty? Amazing. So you've been together for eight years. So anyone who's listening, that's real experience.
31:16 Speaker 01 Yeah.
31:16 Jay Shetty? That's not, you know, that's not just, oh, we've been together for a year. So you've been together for eight years. What have you learned? What has worked for you? What can help other people?
31:24 Speaker 01 He was my first relationship. So when I say I've learned, I have learned. Okay. In terms of the moving in together and having this co lifestyle was easy. That was easy peasy. I love, I love it, which is interesting, right? Most people are like, moving in is a very, you know, it could go one of two ways. And for us, it was like, I love to nurture and I love to nest. And anyone who's around me, it comes over. I just, I crave that taking care of element, like that's something that feeds my soul. So easy, that fit right in. I think for me, I have an independence element that I've established since a young age. And so being in a relationship, sometimes that that can be a little bit of a tricky element. But he's also an entrepreneur in his own right.
32:08 Speaker 01 So we sort of balance each other out. Like I found that person who can respect that quality in me and lifts that quality up rather than saying, oh yeah, it's another dreamer. It's another dream or whatever, you know, like, so we work at it and we, we've been figuring out how to communicate along the years and like that changes as you evolve as humans and it's, um, it's been fun. And I think that to me is what keeps us interesting is that it's not monotonous. I mean, it's monotonous in a way that we're one for each other and that's it. But it's not monotonous in our daily, weekly, monthly grind. Like we love adventures and we love trying new things and we talk about, you know, not
32:49 Speaker 01 falling into the, you know, conventional relationship or what that may be for some people.
32:56 Jay Shetty? Yeah. Yeah, I love that we were both talking about our, what's the right word? Our.
33:05 Speaker 01 It's like status quo.
33:07 Jay Shetty? Yeah, our not discuss.
33:09 Speaker 01 It's almost like we're not trying to follow the rules or something. Whatever the rules are.
33:13 Jay Shetty? Yeah, I don't I don't know who invented the rules.
33:15 Speaker 01 Who invented them?
33:16 Jay Shetty? Yeah, who invented them? I don't agree with any of them.
33:18 Speaker 01 Yes.
33:19 Jay Shetty? And why do they have to be tied to a certain age?
33:22 Speaker 01 Yes.
33:23 Jay Shetty? Demographic or a certain stage of life? And I've never I've just never thought like that. I've never felt that life is a set of stages that you have to live in order.
33:33 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
33:34 Jay Shetty? And I feel like the more you do that, you push away from what you were saying, which is falling in love with the process.
33:40 Speaker 01 Yes.
33:40 Jay Shetty? And then it becomes about the destination. It becomes about the next milestone. And I was saying that to someone. Someone was asking me the question the other day. They said, Jay, how do you stay detached from the result? Like, how do you stay detached from an expectation of how something should go? And I said that it's when you get to the degree that you're getting all of what you need from the process, to that degree, you don't need it from a milestone or an end. But if you're not getting any juice from the process, then you're going to wait for that award. You're going to wait for the milestone. You're going to wait for the big, the big day because you're not getting any happiness or joy. But if you're getting happiness and joy from the process, then you're not looking for it anywhere else.
34:21 Speaker 01 Dead on, dead on.
34:23 Jay Shetty? And that's where rules and norms and kind of mess.
34:26 Speaker 01 I see that happen so much in our generation. And I maybe it's because I'm at this age and I'm obviously in that that age where everyone is sort of celebrating those big milestones. But there's not enough of celebrating the things that I feel like take more inner strength, which are owning a company or working for someone or striving to do something in the activist community or speaking about real problems or issues in their family, whatever it may be, like all these different little things along the way that make you up to be this whole person and this happy individual. It's not always about the wedding or the baby shower, the big birthday bash, or whatever it may be, that kind of creates this identity of who you are for that moment,
35:11 Speaker 01 because then you set yourself up for failure. You get to that peak, it's where do you go from there?
35:16 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
35:16 Speaker 01 And that's why you hear about these girl, I have friends all the time, they're like, I'm going through the blues, the wed, the post wedding blues, and they're going through the depression of like, what was my life for a whole year and now I have to reinvent the wheel.
35:27 Jay Shetty? Oh wow.
35:28 Speaker 01 And that must feel so tricky.
35:30 Jay Shetty? Definitely. And, and the interesting thing about that is that can happen with starting a company, that can happen with, it can have, that feeling can happen with anything.
35:38 Speaker 01 Yes, yes.
35:39 Jay Shetty? And therefore, I believe me and you're trying to say, what we're trying, what we're getting to is almost like, it shouldn't be around any of those.
35:46 Speaker 01 No.
35:47 Jay Shetty? It's, it's a personal choice. It's that personal exploration, that curiosity.
35:50 Speaker 01 Yeah.
35:51 Jay Shetty? Because there, I know people who've built successful companies and 10 years on are now re trying to find their identity, because their identity was so closely linked to that company.
35:59 Speaker 01 And that's how I feel about acting.
36:01 Jay Shetty? Right.
36:01 Speaker 01 I feel like for so long, I, my identity was, and I was just telling a friend of mine, it's like, in my family and my group of friends, like, there's the actress, that's the girl who, you know, was on TV or whatever. And I'm so different than that identity. Like, there's so many different layers to all of us. I just, I want to be the person who expresses the layers in between. And I think that's what I want other people to feel acceptable doing as well, because there, there's so much that makes us great.
36:29 Jay Shetty? Yeah. I love that. Expressing the layers in between.
36:31 Speaker 01 Yeah.
36:32 Jay Shetty? Yeah, it's so true. We can be seen as so one dimensional, even if you're not.
36:35 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
36:36 Jay Shetty? Our, our job titles make us one dimensional. It's like that becomes your imprint. And that's why I'm getting, that's why I get excited by, every time I get asked to send my biography for an event, I'm speaking out or whatever it is,
36:47 Speaker 01 Yeah.
36:47 Jay Shetty? I literally struggle, like, what to write. Because I'm like, I didn't even know how to describe what I do. And then my mom will be like, I want to tell you my friends what you do. And I'm like, yeah, I'm not sure, mom, like, how you can explain it, because if I told you a title, they wouldn't underst, like, you know, but it's beautiful that we are struggling to define ourselves in one sense.
37:05 Speaker 01 Yes.
37:06 Jay Shetty? Because it, we are multi-layered and multifaceted, and we have so many more dimensions and elements.
37:12 Speaker 01 Yep.
37:12 Jay Shetty? As opposed to saying, I am this, and defining ourselves by a, by a word or a job.
37:17 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
37:18 Jay Shetty? Absolutely.
37:19 Speaker 01 Because then you, you. By nature somehow instill all this happiness and that identity. And what if at some point that identity dissipates?
37:28 Jay Shetty? Yes.
37:28 Speaker 01 Or you decide to pivot and then all of a sudden you have to teach the people around you that, no, that's okay. Like, I don't, I don't resonate as that. And that's not all of who I am. I'm going to pivot into this. And this is also a part of who I am, and this also feeds me, and this also makes me feel empowered. It's a, it's a tricky thing to sort of navigate sometimes.
37:48 Jay Shetty? It sounds like you had to do that.
37:49 Speaker 01 Oh, yeah.
37:49 Jay Shetty? With your friends and family.
37:50 Speaker 01 Yeah. And I think little by little, I mean, everyone always thinks that I'm just gonna fall into another show. And I probably will at some point, but I'm taking this time to do what I think I'm supposed to do right now. And I think there's a bigger purpose behind all of it.
38:03 Jay Shetty? How, how have you connected that with your family and friends? Like, how have they been able to see that rise of you? Because I guess I've only known that side of you.
38:10 Speaker 01 Right, right.
38:11 Jay Shetty? So I've only known you as an activist more than anything, really. And I see you as, as an incredible activist. Like, you're doing amazing work. So how have the people who've had to evolve with you, have you helped them see the different side of you? Or has it just happened naturally?
38:25 Speaker 01 You know, it's been really nice that social media is so prevalent because people see what I'm doing very quickly and they kind of get on board pretty quickly. But no matter what I do, I don't know that I'll ever be able to shake the actress identity. And I'm okay with it. But I just hope that they know that there's so much more than that, you know? And that's, you know, that's all.
38:48 Jay Shetty? And I think you've leveraged it, which is, which is what we're saying earlier. And that's the best bit, I think, that you've leveraged that identity to be able to be everything else you want to be.
38:58 Speaker 01 Right.
38:58 Jay Shetty? And people, like you said, take you seriously. They follow you because of this particular identity, but you're showing. So I, I actually think it works hand in hand.
39:05 Speaker 01 Yeah, so do I.
39:06 Jay Shetty? It works hand in hand.
39:06 Speaker 01 So I'm not trying to shake it too much, but I also want people to know, there's those layers, they're there.
39:11 Jay Shetty? Yeah, no, exactly. Yeah, keep it.
39:12 Speaker 01 Little bullet points underneath.
39:14 Jay Shetty? Yeah, keep it. We need it because I, I think anyone I speak to that wants to be a advocate for change, an ambassador, an activist, I feel like when you are known for something, when you are influential in a particular way, everything you do. Becomes more amplified.
39:30 Speaker 01 I know.
39:31 Jay Shetty? It's just the world we live in.
39:32 Speaker 01 I know. And I'm aware of that.
39:34 Jay Shetty? Yeah. No, I know you are. No, no, yeah.
39:35 Speaker 01 No, I know, I know. It's just I, I, when I hear that, it's almost like I need to reinstate that way of thinking as well. Because I know that there is a reason why I've been given so many amazing opportunities to be on a platform or reach more people. And I, I sometimes forget how important that piece is and be so grateful for all of that.
39:57 Jay Shetty? And with your intention, it's perfect.
39:58 Speaker 01 Thank you.
39:59 Jay Shetty? Like, that's why I think, I feel very confident saying that to you because I know what your intention is and it's so much deeper. So when you have that beautiful intention and then you give influence to that intention, that amplification's beautiful. Whereas if the intention is just greed, enjoyment, negativity, fame, power, et cetera. And then you give that amplification, that never leads to any good.
40:22 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
40:22 Jay Shetty? And, and I feel like, I think you'll also inspire not only people who watch you or know you for what you've done, but also peers in this space to find more meaning in their life too. Because I find that, I was speaking to someone who's a successful singer the other day. And he was sharing the same thing with me, that he struggles with the industry and the kind of messages that are put out. And I was like, yeah, but you can change that.
40:48 Speaker 01 Yeah.
40:48 Jay Shetty? Like, people listen to your opinion. So you not turning up to interviews and award shows and actually sharing the right message is actually a disservice.
40:57 Speaker 01 Yep.
40:58 Jay Shetty? Like, it's actually a disservice because you not turning up makes, says nothing.
41:02 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
41:02 Jay Shetty? You turning up and sharing something says everything.
41:05 Speaker 01 Yep.
41:05 Jay Shetty? And, and that's, I think you'll not only inspire the people that are watching and following and part of the community, but inspire peers, which I'm excited to see.
41:12 Speaker 01 Oh, thank you.
41:13 Jay Shetty? When I, when I'm listening to you, what I'm hearing so much is I hear passion, I hear meaning, I hear fulfillment. And I'm not saying any of that's perfect. And we both know that.
41:24 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
41:24 Jay Shetty? And same with my life.
41:25 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
41:26 Jay Shetty? But I'm hearing all of that. And in my opinion, that comes because you're a person of service, because you're an activist. And, and that identity of yours, that layer of yours is what's fueling all of this, right?
41:38 Speaker 01 Yeah, no, I just had this conversation. I, I was telling someone the other day, they were struggling to find out what their identity was, what their purpose is. Like, they just feel like they live a more mundane lifestyle and they just feel like they're constantly on that wheel of just what is the life? What is this? And I said, are you serving? And they looked at me and they just didn't know what that meant. And I said, are you serving? Like, it could be on the smallest way, but are you doing anything for anyone, whether it be a friend, family member, community, animal, whatever? That feels like power. That is something we all can do. That doesn't, there's no definition that describes someone who serves other than, it's all of us. We all can do that. And the feeling of doing something that can make
42:22 Speaker 01 an impact on someone else's life, or in a, in a bigger impact than you even could have imagined yourself, makes you feel like there's a purpose. And who knows what can transpire from that. So, thank you for even saying that, because there's something really special about finding that service element in your life. Cause I just, there's so much good. There's just so much good that can come of that.
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44:21 Jay Shetty? Yeah, definitely. I remember getting so into understanding service after I lived as a monk for three years.
44:27 Speaker 01 Yeah.
44:27 Jay Shetty? And and service was a total part of our life. Like that was that is the foundational principle of everything.
44:33 Speaker 01 Wow.
44:33 Jay Shetty? And then when I came back to the real world, I was like, okay, I need to understand how true this is scientifically too. And I saw this incredible study they did at Cambridge University, where this guy called Michael Norton, he tested how people feel when they were given given five to twenty dollars to spend on themselves or spend on other people. And they measured their happiness before and after without telling them it was a happiness experiment. And they found that everyone who used five or twenty dollars on themselves were no happier than they were before. So your happiness didn't go down, but it didn't go up. And everyone who spent the money on other people, whether it was five dollars or twenty dollars, their happiness went up by at least ten to twenty percent. And so it was just, you know, scientifically, from a data point of view, forget how we feel and forget what we know
45:19 Jay Shetty? just from that point of view. And the funny thing is that the most common things people bought each other were like bought themselves with Starbucks and makeup.
45:25 Speaker 01 Oh, my goodness.
45:26 Jay Shetty? And the most common thing people bought others with Starbucks and makeup. So it wasn't even about
45:29 Speaker 01 Yeah, what it was.
45:30 Jay Shetty? what it was. It was that feeling of giving. And the whole study kind of concluded by saying money can buy happiness if you spend it on other people. And it wasn't all about money. It was in terms of time and energy as well. So
45:42 Speaker 01 Investment of any sort.
45:44 Jay Shetty? Exactly. Right. Even if you don't have money, it's that investment of time and energy.
45:48 Speaker 01 Oh, that's so powerful. Oh, my goodness. I just hope people take that away. You know, like, I hope that really lands because it doesn't cost anything. I mean, it is a measure of money in that regard, but it doesn't cost anything to serve. And it could be so simple. I mean, people say, call your grandparents, you know, and you don't want to call your grandparents. You get off the phone with your grandparents and feel like a hundred bucks. You're like, wow, I just made her day. And maybe she didn't really know who I was. Like, she was really, what was that? Didn't matter. That is the piece that makes you feel like you did something that's bigger than you. And you step outside of being a selfish person like we all tend to be because it feels like survival of life sometimes. But yeah, it's it's awesome. Power of service, for sure.
46:31 Jay Shetty? I love it. Yeah, I often say as we've been we're wired for generosity, but we've been educated for greed. And and it's, you know, as kids, what you said, what you started with, this whole conversation, I'm going back to that. You started by saying that as kids, we're almost You know, our best selves. And that's why when you made that incredible decision at five years old, we're able to kind of tap into how we really feel. And I genuinely believe that kids are wired for generosity. As kids, we're wired for generosity. And then education of all types comes in. I don't just mean the educational system. And it kind of rewires us to become me, me, me. So it's beautiful. And I think everyone who's listening, for those of you who don't know, and we've gone so deep with Daniela today, but you know,
47:16 Jay Shetty? you work with a nonprofit called Bridget.
47:19 Speaker 01 Yeah, Meet Bridget.
47:20 Jay Shetty? Yeah, that uses video creation to equip underserved teen girls to envision themselves in careers outside their media environment. Tell us a bit about that because I want the audience to hear about these things because that's why it's so good having this conversation with you. Because you're living it, you're not just saying it, you're not preaching it, you're not just posting on Instagram about it. Like you're behind, you're an activist behind so many great ventures. So tell us a bit about that one.
47:44 Speaker 01 Oh, my goodness. One of the most amazing females across my path through yoga, ironically. I mean, not really so ironically, there's some amazing people in yoga. Her name is Asha and she used to work in the field of yoga. And she was going to school and she saw this need in the female community and these younger generositys of girls, these younger demos that are underserved. And she created Bridget, which is a community of girls that need a little bit of like a big sister element and also someone who can help guide them in their career path and give them that extra tool or hope or skill or just assist along the ways. I mean, some of these girls are young moms
48:28 Speaker 01 or just kind of were dealt a unique set of cards and need some more hope. And so we've teamed up with Microsoft. We were doing an event at USC and we're talking about the Me Too movement. And we're just speaking about the tougher things, but also giving a lot of hope and skills to this group of girls. And if you don't know about it, I recommend just doing a little bit of homework and following us or whatever and coming to one of our events. And we're all just real people at the end of the day. And we're just trying to do our part to instill whatever we can in these young girls.
49:02 Jay Shetty? Yeah, that's beautiful. Thank you. Yeah, thanks so much.
49:06 Jay Shetty? Yeah, it's it's great to speak to a real change maker.
49:08 Speaker 01 Oh, thank you.
49:09 Jay Shetty? Someone who's like, you're grassroots, you're but you're also an entrepreneur in in the activism space.
49:15 Speaker 01 Yeah.
49:15 Jay Shetty? And that's empowering, I think, for a lot of people to see that you can do good.
49:19 Speaker 01 Yes.
49:19 Jay Shetty? And make money.
49:20 Speaker 01 Yes.
49:20 Jay Shetty? And be successful at the same time. And you don't have to say no. And I think for a long time, I felt, especially when I was growing up, maybe it's in London, or I always believed that you couldn't do good and be successful. Like, they were two opposite things. Like, if you were successful, you were successful. But maybe you're a bit greedy. Because if you want to be successful, you have to be greedy. And then at the other end, I used to think, oh, yeah, do-gooding people don't make money.
49:40 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
49:41 Jay Shetty? And I always had, I don't know where that came from, and I'm still trying to explore that. But I always had that viewpoint.
49:45 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
49:46 Jay Shetty? And it's nice to see now in our generation, people bring that together.
49:50 Speaker 01 Oh, yeah.
49:51 Jay Shetty? To show that actually you can do more when you have more resources.
49:53 Speaker 01 Oh, yes. I feel like that's happening all over the place. These bigger companies are are realizing that people want to put their money in. These consumers care about where their money's going. And as soon as people, it's supplying demand, right? So as soon as people start to supply for something more than just consumer goods, or more than just getting their needs met, and they want a bigger picture involved in this, like, these companies will all start to follow suit because they'll realize, like, oh, people are becoming a little more woke over here. It's time to step up our game.
50:24 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
50:24 Speaker 01 And that's what I want to be a part of. I want to be a part of those companies that are realizing that from the beginning.
50:29 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
50:29 Speaker 01 And being the game changers, right?
50:31 Jay Shetty? I love it. I love it. I've got my five big questions for you.
50:34 Speaker 01 Oh, okay.
50:34 Jay Shetty? As we come to a close.
50:36 Speaker 01 Okay.
50:36 Jay Shetty? So these are, these are usually quick, but they've been a bit longer recently when I've been doing them because I have awesome guests and everyone has awesome things to share. So I stopped doing them as quick questions because I was like, if it gets deep, it's deep.
50:48 Speaker 01 Okay.
50:49 Jay Shetty? And you can make them as funny as you like to.
50:50 Speaker 01 Okay, okay.
50:51 Jay Shetty? So I genuinely feel like this. And and again, I I'm saying this to everyone, and I know Daniela would say this about ourselves. It's not about being perfect, but you do seem really happy.
50:59 Speaker 01 Yeah.
51:00 Jay Shetty? And content. And that energy comes out very naturally through you. What what makes you happy?
51:05 Speaker 01 I start my day with a cup of coffee. And I evaluate what I'm doing. I always am checking in with myself and I know when I'm feeling alone, I either pop a B vitamin or I get to the gym. And usually I get to the gym before I do anything because I know that there are certain things that make me who I am. And if I'm not the happiest person that I can be, then I can't serve in the way that I can do best, right? So I know the things that work for me and it's working out. It's being conscious of what I'm putting in my body. It's drinking coffee. I hate to say it, but it is. It gives me energy. I'm not an addict by any means, but I do know that there are certain things that make me who I am. And that's, that's part of it.
51:48 Jay Shetty? Amazing. Awesome. Second question. The number one question you'd ask a monk. Have you ever met a monk?
51:53 Speaker 01 No, just you.
51:54 Jay Shetty? Interesting. Okay. What would, what would you ask a monk if you ever met one?
51:58 Speaker 01 Oh, my goodness. What is your skin routine?
52:02 Jay Shetty? Would you actually ask that to a monk?
52:04 Speaker 01 No, never.
52:05 Jay Shetty? Can you imagine that?
52:06 Speaker 01 No.
52:06 Jay Shetty? Monks, I do have great skin, actually.
52:08 Speaker 01 I'm sure they do. Their lifestyles. What is your lifestyle? That's the question I would make. Like, what, what is, what does a Monday look for a monk?
52:15 Jay Shetty? Right.
52:15 Speaker 01 You know?
52:16 Jay Shetty? Interesting. Okay. Good. Good for me to know.
52:18 Speaker 01 What does a Monday look like? That's what I'm asking here.
52:20 Jay Shetty? Oh, you are, too, I suppose.
52:21 Speaker 01 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
52:23 Jay Shetty? What did a Monday used to look like? So I'm not a monk anymore, but what I used to be. Your mornings start off the same and that's, the morning routine thing is such a, I mean, it's really propelled into mainstream society now to have a good morning routine, et cetera. But all of our days would start at 4:00 a.m., you'd wake up at 4:00 a.m., you'd start meditating collectively at 4:30. And then by about 5:15, you'd have independent meditation or personal, private meditation. And half the day basically is spent in silence and self-awareness. It's your growth. It's about taking care of yourself, your needs, your learning, your development. And then the other half is spent in service. So the other half is spent being out there, whether it's helping build sustainable villages, or building food distribution programs, or
53:08 Jay Shetty? teaching young kids, or sharing the message, or teaching meditation, whatever it may be. So that construct is something that I've tried to take through in my life, that half of my life should be spent learning, growing. Even this exchange, like from today, I'm just learning, I'm just listening to you. Without trying to judge, without trying to teach, without trying to share. And then the rest of my day is spent serving by teaching, et cetera. And so that's kind of
53:34 Speaker 01 Amazing.
53:35 Jay Shetty? What a Monday looks like.
53:36 Speaker 01 Very cool.
53:36 Jay Shetty? That's what every day looks like.
53:37 Speaker 01 Yeah, I love it.
53:38 Jay Shetty? But yeah, okay. Question number three. The best advice you've ever received?
53:43 Speaker 01 Oh, that's a, I feel like I was a couple from you today, to be honest. Um, gosh, the best advice.
53:54 Speaker 01 Wow, it's scary when you start to draw blanks on that. And because I almost feel like some of the advice that I've gotten along the way has all been self-taught or self-learned. But then again, I would say that following leaders like you, I, I really do feel that way. There are people out there in my network or in my circle that I learn from on a daily basis. And I think there's just too many to even choose. I don't even know where I would start.
54:23 Jay Shetty? Nice. That's cool.
54:24 Speaker 01 Yeah.
54:24 Jay Shetty? That's fine. And then the question is, best mentor you've ever had, or some of the best mentors you've had?
54:29 Speaker 01 Best mentor. Oh, my gosh. Wow. I'm finding a lot now, for sure. I think growing up, I didn't even know I had mentors. My aunt was a significant role play in my life. Um, there was a time where I didn't know where I was living. I had my clothes in the back of my car. I was kind of just sleeping where I could sleep until I figured it out. And my aunt gave me her couch for a while and I learned a lot. I got a lot done in that amount of time. I went to community college. I got my personal training certification. I went to school for real estate, got my license. Like, there was this time where I was trying to figure it out, all amongst acting, which is crazy. I always felt like there was more than acting, always.
55:11 Speaker 01 And that couch and being in my aunt's life, still to this day, she's someone I lean on immensely. She's full of knowledge, full of wisdom, and she did a lot of work on herself and still does. And those are the people that I aspire to be like.
55:26 Jay Shetty? Wow.
55:26 Speaker 01 Yeah.
55:27 Jay Shetty? I'm gonna, I'm gonna segue before I ask you the fifth question because you just made me think of a few things there. What, what are your thoughts on, so? Young men and women today who want to be actors, who want to be social media influencers, who want to be anything that gives you that platform. What would be your advice to them?
55:46 Speaker 01 Well, I think we live in a time where you can do it. That's the first thing I would tell someone is it's not a joke. Like you have more resources than like someone who lives in the heart of LA or Hollywood or whatever you imagine, who's going to auditions every day. You know, maybe decide what your true goal is in terms of what kind of entertainment you want to put out and then target that. So find the the network around that. Find the demo and start creating content on your own because at the end of the day, even people who are actors are still content creators. And I think there's so much more power and so much more self-worth in creating something of your own.
56:28 Speaker 01 But not to say that using acting as a platform isn't the right tool as well, because I do that as well. But I think a little bit of everything, working alongside, collaborating with people, creating your own, that is all equipment to become, you know, someone in the public eye or someone who has a voice or an actor. Those are all things you could be doing. And I always tell kids too, get involved in school plays. Get your feet wet, you know, stand in front of a large audience with the lights blaring in your face. Okay, just try it on. Try it on a few times.
56:57 Jay Shetty? Were you shy the first time or were you always like?
56:59 Speaker 01 Gosh, I don't remember ever being shy. In fact, I feel like I was really annoying most of my childhood is what I think. When I think about me as a kid, I'm like, gosh, she must have been so annoying. But I don't know, I just, I always felt like I, I didn't have a fear of speaking up. Yeah.
57:17 Jay Shetty? I'm so glad you're using that fearlessness of speaking up for the right thing.
57:21 Speaker 01 Thank you.
57:21 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
57:22 Speaker 01 Thank you.
57:22 Jay Shetty? And my last question before I ask you whatever else you wanted to share that I didn't cover today is the worst advice you've ever been given?
57:31 Speaker 01 The worst advice? Oh my gosh.
57:33 Jay Shetty? Or the one that comes to mind?
57:34 Speaker 01 After I had lost significant weight and I got my head back in the game and I started to get healthy, I put on quite a bit of weight. I thought it was like the right thing to do at the time. I felt generally happy. But I just knew where I was wasn't where I should have been, so I'm gonna do something else. And my manager at the time advised against it and was very honest about me putting weight on. And she told me that nothing tastes good as good as skinny feels. And um, yeah.
58:11 Jay Shetty? Wow.
58:11 Speaker 01 And I'd say that's the first thing that came to mind.
58:14 Jay Shetty? Yeah.
58:14 Speaker 01 It's pretty bad advice, because let me tell you, a lot of things taste good.
58:18 Jay Shetty? Yeah. Absolutely. No, I think it's a really important message. And that's why I always ask people the worst advice they've ever been given, because I feel more people in their life will hear bad advice than good advice.
58:31 Speaker 01 Yeah.
58:32 Jay Shetty? And so to be able to know which one's which helps a lot.
58:35 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
58:35 Jay Shetty? Because good advice is actually more rare.
58:37 Speaker 01 Mm hmm.
58:38 Jay Shetty? So when, when people are hearing this and they're hearing you share your worst advice and other guests who are sharing their worst advice, I want people to kind of get an arsenal of like the worst advice.
58:48 Speaker 01 Smart.
58:48 Jay Shetty? So that they know never to like buy into that.
58:51 Speaker 01 So smart.
58:52 Jay Shetty? Yeah, so that makes sense.
58:53 Speaker 01 That's, that's, that is good advice.
58:56 Jay Shetty? Is there anything we've not covered today that you're like, oh, did everyone want to share their story? Or I didn't get to share this message or anything? I, I always like bringing that up because.
59:04 Speaker 01 Yeah. I just want to tap into one really quick thing.
59:08 Jay Shetty? Please, it doesn't have to be.
59:09 Speaker 01 Yeah, so I um, I've been in this industry for a long time. I've come across a lot of very headstrong personalities. And I um, was in some uncomfortable positions with males and I learned a lot from it. And I'm going to eventually tell a little bit of this story. But I also feel like the one thing I want people to take away from just the Me Too movement in itself, because I've never really spoken out about it.
59:38 Speaker 01 Is, and this might be a controversial angle, but whatever it may be that you struggled from as someone in a position of vulnerability or feeling taken advantage of,
59:51 Speaker 01 there is such a strength that comes from that low. And I am a firm believer of utilizing that and harnessing that strength to create something that is instrumental in your lives and in the lives of other people. So I just feel like if anyone's listening and feels like something was done wrong to them, whether it's male, female, whatever it may be, instead of taking, and I get that everyone needs their time to sort of comfort themselves and maybe even sulk in that moment because, believe me, a good cry is a recipe for a lot of answers. But after you're done, take that time and say, "I am so ready to be the biggest boss."
1:00:37 Speaker 01 That's what I just wanted to make sure I said because, I don't know, it applies to a lot of things and I just really believe in like with every element of weakness or devastation or anything that anyone's encountered that felt wrong, there's so much strength that can come of that. So I just hope that people can like hear that and feel stronger.
1:00:58 Jay Shetty? Thank you for sharing that.
1:00:58 Speaker 01 Yeah.
1:00:59 Jay Shetty? Yeah, thank you.
1:01:00 Speaker 01 Yeah.
1:01:00 Jay Shetty? Thank you so much, Daniela, for being here. I'm so grateful. That was amazing.
1:01:04 Speaker 01 Yay.
1:01:05 Jay Shetty? We talked about so many amazing things.
1:01:06 Speaker 01 We really did.
1:01:07 Jay Shetty? And I learned so much.
1:01:08 Speaker 01 Oh, good.
1:01:08 Jay Shetty? And the time just flew by. I think we were talking for like one and a half hours, but it just, I didn't even feel it.
1:01:13 Speaker 01 Oh, my gosh.
1:01:14 Jay Shetty? Yeah, I didn't even feel it. It feels like we just started.
1:01:15 Speaker 01 Oh, my gosh. We'll do dinner sometime.
1:01:17 Jay Shetty? Yes, we have to, we have to. But thank you so much for coming on. Everyone who's listening, please, please, please go check out Daniela on Instagram. Is there anywhere else they should try and find you?
1:01:25 Speaker 01 No, I mean, I'm on it all. Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, just Daniella Monet.
1:01:29 Jay Shetty? Yeah, absolutely. And thank you so much again for coming and sharing so openly. Honestly, it was, it was really a lot of good learning for me.
1:01:35 Speaker 01 It felt good. It felt good.
1:01:37 Jay Shetty? Good, I'm glad. Thank you.
1:01:38 Speaker 01 Thank you.
1:01:38 Jay Shetty? Thanks, guys.
1:01:39 Speaker 01 Thanks.
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