The 3-Step Mind Routine That Attracts Anything You Want | Ed Mylett

What if the life you want isn't waiting for luck to find you, but for you to become the person who can attract it? In this mashup episode, I bring together some of my favorite conversations about one of the most misunderstood concepts in personal growth: attraction. I'm not talking about wishful thinking or hoping the universe magically hands you your dreams. I'm talking about becoming the kind of person whose mindset, habits, standards, and energy naturally pull the right opportunities, relationships, and success into your life. Ryan Pineda, Lewis Howes, Jay Shetty, Dan Martell, Tom Bilyeu, and I dive into what it really takes to create a life that reflects your highest potential instead of your biggest fears. Ryan Pineda and I unpack why discomfort is often the greatest advantage you'll ever have. We discuss why success isn't about escaping hard work, but learning to love the process of becoming. Lewis Howes and I explore confidence, intention, and why the promises you keep to yourself ultimately shape the person you become. Jay Shetty reminds us that greatness isn't measured by how many people know your name. It's measured by how many lives you impact through service. Every one of these conversations reinforces the same truth. The person you become is far more important than the things you accumulate. Dan Martell and I talk about becoming "the one" who changes the trajectory of your family and your future. We discuss how the mistakes you're most ashamed of may actually become the greatest qualification you have to help someone else. Tom Bilyeu and I break down why time is one of your greatest assets and how intentionally designing your days allows you to create extraordinary momentum. Throughout these conversations, I also share the three step mental routine that has transformed my own life by helping me focus on what I want instead of what I fear. I truly believe you were born to do something extraordinary with your life. The challenge is that too many people spend their lives operating from old conditioning, fear, and limiting beliefs instead of intention and possibility. When you begin to change your thoughts, raise your standards, and intentionally pursue the emotions and life you truly desire, everything around you begins to change. The opportunities were always there. You simply become the person capable of seeing them. Key Takeaways: • Why your thoughts become the currency you use to purchase your future • Ryan Pineda on embracing discomfort as the foundation for long term success • Lewis Howes on building confidence by keeping the promises you make to yourself • Jay Shetty's reminder that serving others is one of the fastest paths to living a meaningful life • Dan Martell on becoming the person who changes your family's future and why your greatest struggles often become your greatest strengths • Tom Bilyeu's practical strategies for mastering time and creating momentum every single day • Why intention, repetition, and environment shape the life you ultimately attract • How changing who you are on the inside transforms what becomes possible on the outside You are far closer to the life you want than you think. One decision, one new belief, one courageous action, and one more intentional day can completely change your future. I hope this episode reminds you that you were never meant to live an average life. You were born to do something great, and that journey begins with the person you choose to become today. 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ← ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ➡️⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠FACEBOOK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LINKEDIN⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ➡️ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WEBSITE⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

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• 0:42Ed Mylett?

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• 1:03Speaker 01

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• 1:40Ed Mylett?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Now, on with the show. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. I'm so excited to spend this time with you here this week, answering a question I keep getting from millions of you, which is, Ed, how do I begin to attract into my life the things that I want and the things out of my life that I don't want? It's a pretty important question. I don't know that you could ask a more important question. And so I'm here today to try to help answer that for you. Now, here's the good news. The good news is this. There are people who have become great at this. Yes, there are people who have become great at attracting into their

• 2:22Ed Mylett?

  lives the things they want and getting things out of their life they don't want. Quite frankly, I've become one of them. I've studied them for many years, and I think I've become very good at doing that. I've coached many of them and continue to coach many of these people who are attracting things into their life that most people can only dream of. And let me tell you, these are things like the body you want, the relationships you want, the money you want, the emotions you want to experience, the memories you want to have. You can begin to attract those things into your life, and there's a science and an art form to doing it. Now, first, let me give you the good news. The good news is that there's a truth about you that I want you to hear. You ready? Yes, you. You were born

• 3:04Ed Mylett?

  to do something great with your life. Let me say that to you again, so you hear it for all the people in the back. You were born to do something great with your life. And maybe it's been a long time since someone's reminded you of this. Maybe no one's ever told you. So I'm here to let you know that. Now, here's the thing that's interesting about doing something great with your life. You probably won't know when you're doing it. Because we think about only the big things in our life, you know? Did I have this big award, this big promotion, this big circumstance happened? But oftentimes, the things in life that are very small end up being very big. For example, the man who helped my father get sober. That night where he helped my dad in the situation of my dad was going to lose his life or lose his family. That man didn't know that that small, kind gesture

• 3:47Ed Mylett?

  of helping my father, he didn't even know if my dad would stay sober. He didn't know he was doing something great. He didn't think he would. Heck, this guy was an alcoholic and a drug addict himself at one time. So he certainly didn't think he was doing something great. But little did he know that that man would become sober and help thousands of other people get sober in the next 35 years. Little did he know that that man's son was me. And that I've had the blessing of making hundreds of millions of dollars and inspiring millions of people on every continent in the world. Little did he know that little thing that didn't seem like he was doing something great was changing millions of lives in that moment. So you won't know when you're doing it. But you were born to do it. You were born to live a great life. You were born to be happy. You were born to contribute.

• 4:30Ed Mylett?

  You were born to make your dreams come true. And so I want to remind you of that. Now, here's the sad fact. 95% of people will live their entire life and never do it. Maybe more. They'll go their entire life and never live a life that they want. They'll never make their dreams come true. They'll never have success. By the way, what is success? Success to me is having a very clear picture of what you want, and then eventually your life matches that picture. But I don't even think you have to have that to be successful. I think success by definition is have a very clear picture of what you want and be in the process of making progress towards making that a reality. Obviously, the ultimate success

• 5:10Ed Mylett?

  is achieving the life you dream of. But progress towards a worthy goal, a worthy vision in your life, is the pathway to success. So why don't most people make it? Why don't most people? They go their whole life, they never really live. They react because they live in the physical world. They don't control their thoughts. I want you to remember this. Thoughts are the currency with which you purchase your dreams. Thoughts are the currency with which you purchase your dreams and your vision. If you can begin to change the way you think, literally, you can begin to change your life. But most people only operate in the physical world. They're not cognizant. They're not aware of even who they are. They don't even know who they are. And because they don't know who they are, they operate in the physical

• 5:55Ed Mylett?

  all the time. And so they're constantly reacting to what's happening around them, and they never dictate the terms. See, I don't think you lack a vision in your life. You know, the Bible says, where there's no vision, the people will perish. Well, listen to me. I think you probably have some type of a vision for your life. If I asked you, do you want to be happy or sad? Which vision do you have? Which dream? Happy. Rich or poor? You'd probably say rich, whatever that means to you. Rich in spirit, rich financially, rich in friendships, rich in love. You'd say rich. Do you want to be physically strong and healthy and have energy? Or be out of shape and lack energy and have poor health? You'd have a vision for the health, right? Loving relationships or no relationships?

• 6:34Ed Mylett?

  Great memories or no memories? You have a vision. Your issue is depth perception. You think it's further away than it is. And because you think it's there, you've created patterns and beliefs and behaviors in your life that perpetually keep it that far away. And then eventually, you just kind of forget you belong there anyway. But remember this. Your dreams, the visions of your life, is God's way of giving you a preview as to what's possible. He doesn't play jokes on you. It's not some joke or some hallucination. It's what's possible. And it may not showing up the way you like it. It may not end up being what you like. Heck, you could be married to somebody right now that you love very much, but they weren't the picture you had when you envisioned your dream man or woman, right? But they make

• 7:19Ed Mylett?

  you feel the way you dreamed. So oftentimes, our dreams will show up in different packages than we imagine, but they'll give us what we really want, which is the emotion we want to experience. And so how do we begin to change our lives? What are the keys to doing it? So I'm gonna give you a few of them today. One is believing that. Why? Because you will never rise above what you believe you deserve in your life. You may do it temporarily, but that's why you'll see certain people get in really good shape, and then they get out of shape. They make a bunch of money, and then they lose it. They get in a loving relationship, and then it ends. You will never, long term, in your life, exceed what you believe you deserve to have, what you believe you're worth. And so these thoughts matter. Most people go through their whole life, never really knowing who they are. And because

• 8:01Ed Mylett?

  they don't know who they are, they can't change their world. Internal change is the key to changing the external things in your life. So, who are you really? Let's think about this for a minute. I say, I say, I don't think you know who you are. And you go, no, no, no, I'm Joe Jones. No, you're not. That's two names your parents gave you. But that's not who you are. Are you your body? When you don't show up to work on a given day, do you say, body won't be there? No, you say, I won't be there. You know, my dad, when he passed away, I had the honor of spending the next hour in the room with

• 8:43Ed Mylett?

  his body. My sisters weren't real comfortable doing it. My mom was still very, very sad. And so I was left with my dad's body in the room, waiting for the hearse to arrive to take my father. And you would think that that was one of the saddest moments of my life. But the truth is, it was, it was one of the most beautiful moments of my life. Because it was the greatest confirmation of my entire life that we're spiritual beings. Because something dawned on me immediately when I was there with my dad's body. And let me tell you what it was. Dad's gone. Dad's no longer here. His body was, but it was very clear to me, very apparent, my father was gone.

• 9:23Ed Mylett?

  So my dad wasn't his body. My dad was a spirit. And so when you begin to understand that you live in a spiritual existence and that thoughts have energy, thoughts have a vibrational frequency, you have a vibrational frequency. And to the extent that you can vibrate at a higher and higher speed is to the extent that you begin to draw into your life, the things that you want. The law of attraction means two things. We will eventually draw into our lives what we believe we're worthy of and we deserve and that we most passionately want. We also draw into our lives who we are. We will eventually draw to our lives. We attract who we are. Why is that? So let's go through this for a minute. You're really two things affect change in your life.

• 10:05Ed Mylett?

  Remember this repeated thought creates change and the more thought is repeated, the more it vibrates at a higher frequency, the more repetition it has, the more often it happens, the more that's when people say, I'm vibrating at a higher frequency. All that really means, that's why there's power to prayer. Because the more and more you do it, there's a frequency to it. There's a connection, there's a spirit that takes place. You know, when you pray, you're talking to God. And I do it many times a day. I do it on my knees every day, as many of you know, and I do it on my knees because it reminds me how small I am, that I'm not this body. And then I need something greater than me to help me. To guide me, to give me comfort, to give me strength, to give me insight.

• 10:47Ed Mylett?

  So one of the things that people that attract into their lives, the things that they want have, many of them are praying people. Praying is when you're talking to God, listen to me on this. Intuition is God talking back to you. These people have learned to trust their intuition. Trust their intuition. Prayer is you talking to God. Intuition is God talking back to you. And oftentimes it's a whisper. And if you can't get quiet, you can't get in your, inside your own spirit, you won't hear it. There are other times in your life where that intuition is screaming at you. We usually answer those. But it's the whispers we often miss. Why is that? How do we begin to change our thoughts? Because you are, believe it or not, your life right now is a direct reflection of

• 11:32Ed Mylett?

  what you've been thinking about. It's hard to say that. It's hard to believe it. No, someone took advantage of me. Listen to me. You have to accept that your life right now is a real reflection of what you believe you're worth and you deserve. And you're just getting it. It's hard to accept because there's been people hurt you or take from you, but believe me when I tell you, these same people will keep showing up in different bodies in your life. You ever have that friend, she keeps dating that same guy? Or he keeps dating that same girl. They look different, they're a different name, a different body, but it's the same damn person doing the same damn things. That's the rest of your life's that way as well. The kinds of people that come around, the money that comes around, the emotions that come around, they may show up in different packages, but it's the same thing until you change the thoughts. Why is that? Two things. Two things make our lives what they are. Number one is conditioning.

• 12:18Ed Mylett?

  You've been being conditioned since the minute you were born. You've been conditioned since you were an infant. You've literally learned to think. And by the way, some of that conditioning, if you come from a good family is really wonderful, but not all of it is. And some of it will serve you in some areas and others, but you've been conditioned by the people that raised you since you were an infant to actually think like they think, to have the emotions that they have oftentimes, the languages and the words they use. You literally speak a language right now that you learned from your parents or whoever raised you. If you speak English, you learned that language. Infants are that easy to imprint. You learn that language. You have a friend who might be bilingual, they speak, let's say, Spanish and English. Is it not amazing to you that their children can learn both languages simultaneously?

• 13:02Ed Mylett?

  That's how much conditioning impacts a child. By the way, if a family speaks five or six languages in a home, the children will very easily learn all five of, six of those languages when they live with them. That's how much conditioning is imprinted in a child, how easy it is. The complexity of thoughts and words and actual, the actual language someone uses is conditioned by their parents. That's why you speak the language you speak right now. You didn't study it in a book. You literally had it imprinted and conditioned into you as a child. That's the power of conditioning. Now, the good news is, if you begin to take control of your thoughts, you can reverse and re-engineer and recondition yourself to begin to think differently.

• 13:46Ed Mylett?

  The reason you have the language you have or the thoughts you have is they were repeated over and over and over and over and over again. And they begin to vibrate at a very high frequency. And when they do that, they're imprinted inside of who you are, and then your external life reflects this. But what most people try to do in their life is they operate in the physical world, rather in the three planes I'm going to discuss in a minute. So number one is conditioning. Number two is environment. It reinforces what's around you. You know this, you are your environment, whatever around you, whoever you hang around, whoever the people are that are around you, you begin to behave, think and act like them. So imagine the compounding of conditioning of these things that happen and then your environment.

• 14:27Ed Mylett?

  So the environment reinforces the conditioning and the conditioning reinforces the environment. And so to change our lives, we change two things. We change our conditioning and we change our environment. You can change one or you can change both. There's a magnified power to changing your conditioning, your thinking over and over again, and your environment. The good news is you can absolutely do this because we attract into our life what we believe we're most worthy of and what we think about. Our mind moves towards what we're most familiar with. So if you can begin, this may sound simple, to simply begin to force and place your thoughts on the things you want, the people you want, the life you want, the emotions you want, you will become familiar with them and you will begin to recondition yourself.

• 15:13Ed Mylett?

  And if you then wrap that around an environment of people who will support it, you become pretty damn powerful. And that's how you begin to change your life. That's why listening to my podcast matters. See, there's the two best books I've ever read are The Power of One More by this guy, Ed Mylett. Other than my scriptures, by the way. And Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. And Napoleon Hill in his book says so many brilliant things. I've read it maybe 30 times. But one thing he talks about is education, you know, learning things. You listen to my podcast to be educated. You go to seminars to be educated, right? We went to college if we did to be educated. But what he says a real educated man has, and by the way, in these days, they called it an educated man, now it's an educated person. So I'll read it correctly.

• 15:57Ed Mylett?

  An educated person is not necessarily one who has an abundance of general or specialized knowledge. An educated person is one who has so developed the faculties of their mind that they may acquire anything they want or its equivalent without violating the rights of others. One more time, okay? Because this is how you change your life. An educated person is not necessarily one who has an abundance of generalized or specialized knowledge. An educated person is one who has so developed the faculties of their mind that they can acquire anything they want or its equivalent without violating the rights of others. So it's our minds. Trust me, I'm one of these people.

• 16:39Ed Mylett?

  I've been blessed to come from an average, ordinary background. Some might even say dysfunctional and produce an abundance of wealth, an abundance of great relationships, an abundance of beautiful emotions and memories, an abundance of contribution in changing the world. And I'm not special. I'm not a particularly educated person. I've got a communications degree and I was an average student. But I have the type of education he's describing. I understand me. And we'll begin to understand ourselves, then we can change. And that starts with an evaluation of your thinking. I know this is good, isn't it? So who are you? We have already established you're not your body, you're not your name, you're not those things. So who are you?

• 17:23Ed Mylett?

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• 18:50Ed Mylett?

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• 19:27Ed Mylett?

  I believe you're a spiritual creature. So I think you live, I think there's three elements to you, three that comprise the physical and spiritual you. So you have three things. You have your physical body. It's attached to you right now. It won't be forever, but it's attached to you for right now. You have your intellect and your ability to think. And then you're a spiritual creature. Those are the three elements. So although my name is Ed Mylett, that's not who I am. Although I might have a certain size bicep or waist or that's not who I am. Who I am is all three of those things. And who I am permanently is I'm a spiritual creature. So having said all of that, how do we begin to change it?

• 20:12Ed Mylett?

  We have to begin to change it by repeatedly thinking about the things that we want in our life, repeatedly thinking about our dreams, beginning to believe that we were born to do something great. And living life, listen to me, with the expectation that great things are going to come. You have to begin to live your life with the expectation that great things are coming your way. That you look for that as opposed to the problem. You look for the blessing as opposed to the curse. You assume great things are going to come into your life. And when you begin to do that, you properly begin to move towards the things that you want. You'd be amazed that things have begun to become real to you when you repeat. Have you ever had that thing where you're repeatedly thinking about somebody and all of a sudden

• 20:56Ed Mylett?

  they text message you and you're like, how did that just happen? Or you've got something you're really focused on doing and then there's something on TV that's the exact topic. How does that happen? Those things were always there, but they were outside of your awareness because you were not obsessed with them. The reticular activating system in your brain reveals to you the things that matter the most that you believe most deeply. So if you believe you're a victim or you believe bad things are going to happen and you live in that expectation, the world is going to reveal to you the circumstances that make that to be true. This is a fact. And by the way, it may be true, but if you believe I overcome the fact that I've got these deficiencies. I overcome the fact that I don't come from the perfect family or look the perfect way

• 21:37Ed Mylett?

  or the right race or the right ethnic sex or the right religion or whatever the world thinks is right, which there is no right. But because I don't have all the decks stacked in my favor, I overcome it anyway and win anyway. You begin to have those things enter your life, the people, the things, the meetings, the thoughts, the emotions come your way. And then what happens is you begin to get enthusiasm and enthusiasm and it's an energy frequency. And when you meet an enthusiastic person with high energy vibrational frequency, highest energy always influences lowest energy. More certain person influences less certain person. So if I'm more certain I'm going to win than you are that I'm not. If I've got higher energy frequency than you do and you're up against me, I will defeat you.

• 22:22Ed Mylett?

  Because in life we get what we most believe we deserve. And so if you can pour enthusiasm and passion into these thoughts that you have and repeat them regularly, you recondition yourself and then surround yourself in an environment. Remember this, why is the environment matter? Here's a quantum physics saying, particles themselves are not responsible for their own creation. That means they don't create themselves. It's created by the environment. Right? And so when we get to change our thinking, we change our environment. We begin to expand. This is true of everything in the world down to particles. And that's what that body of yours is. Right? And so the way you use the body is to understand this concept of the mind.

• 23:05Ed Mylett?

  And we begin to move our physical bodies, we change things and the outside world begins to shift to comply with what we know we're worth. It will shift for you. It will begin to comply with you as opposed to conspiring against you. I promise you, you've got to begin to think that the world will comply with your will. And then you add to that prayer where it's being blessed. See, one of the things I do very often, because it's part of my intention, intentions matter. Remember this, intent matters, desire matters. See, when you have a dream, it's just a dream or like a wish. But when you move to desire and then you shift to intention, something happens. You begin to ask for help.

• 23:50Ed Mylett?

  You begin to ask others for help. And in my case, I can't tell you how many times I've just prayed and said, Lord, I need help with this. I need to understand this better. I need more people in my life. I need the meeting. I need, I need this. And when I begin to do that, I find that when I pray about these things, that not too long after he begins to talk back to me. And that's where my intuition speaks. It may not be the person, but it's an intuition. It's a whisper. You know exactly, you've had the moments, you know exactly what I'm talking about. So what I want to challenge you to do today is just very simple, is to remember you were born to do something awesome with your life and you won't know when you're doing it. You won't know when you're doing it in big ways and small ways.

• 24:31Ed Mylett?

  And the things that seem small in our lives may be the most significant later in our life because we don't know the ripple effects of those changes. If we can change our conditioning, if our parents can teach us to speak an entire language when we're an infant and we're not educated at all by traditional terms. I promise you, we can begin to condition ourselves as adults. But you've had thousands of those repeated thoughts the other way. You have to begin to condition the new ones. When you change your environment and you begin to understand I'm a body with an intellect and a spiritual being, but I am not my body. I'm a spiritual being. And when I begin to work in the forms of energy, right? And vibration and frequency and repetitive thought increases the frequency, increases the vibration. I begin to shift the world around me and our dreams and our visions become realities.

• 25:16Ed Mylett?

  And then you become one of these people who are in that 5%. Listen to me. 95% of people go to work their entire life and work a 40 hour week and end up dead broke. Dead broke financially, dead broke emotionally, dead broke spiritually. 95% never lived their life. These 5% over here understand only one distinction, which is the plan I just gave you. It's the only distinction. Here's the truth. Most people are scared to change who they are. In fact, even before that, they're a little bit scared to meet themselves. They've never spent any time getting to know themselves. But when you begin to do that and you go on that understanding of who you are, your life changes.

• 25:59Ed Mylett?

  You don't want to get to this end of this life and go, I blew it. I didn't max out. I didn't make anything happen. I, here's the truth. Here's the truth. Most people will live their entire life scared. Scared. What are other people going to think? What if I fail? What if I'm not good enough? What if I don't deserve it? That's all conditioning. That's all conditioning. It's all a lie. See, if I can get you discouraged, I got you. No matter what you believe, if you believe in heaven and hell or whatever you believe, but if you believe there's a devil or an adversary, what can he do to get you in your life to be one of those 95s who never do anything? He just gets you discouraged. He just gets you to play scared.

• 26:43Ed Mylett?

  I don't have to make you dumb because you're probably not. Right? I don't have to make you lazy because you're probably not. I just got to make you scared. I just got to discourage you. And most people go through their whole lives, living in some type of fear of a boogeyman who doesn't exist. And they get to the end of their life and they have regret because they never got to know who they truly were, their true power. They were born in the image and likeness of God. They were born to do something great. If God is with you, nobody can stand against you. I want you to remember that today. You begin to think those thoughts repeatedly and you change who you are. That whole particle thing of who you are that makes up who you are begins to change and you literally become a different being.

• 27:27Ed Mylett?

  When you become that different being inside, this outside world complies and you get whatever you want out of it. So let's get clear. By the way, be really clear on what you want because you're probably going to get it. Be specific too. Don't, I want to lose weight. How much we want to like, how much weight you want to lose? I want to be wealthy. How much money do you want to have? Right? I want to be happy. What are the emotions you want? Bliss, ecstasy, passion? What are they? Get clear about them because the world's going to begin to comply and bend. You will bend the universe to comply with you because you're going to listen to that intuition, which is when God's talking back to you. Woo, it was good today, wasn't it? Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Now onto our next guest.

• 28:11Ryan Pineda?

  So, you know, speaking of, of grinding and like all the adversity, while you were talking, it was making me think like for me, you know, we're both baseball guys.

• 28:19Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 28:20Ryan Pineda?

  And so I just remember I played eight years in the minors and you know, independent baseball and everything. And I remember literally taking hundreds of bus rides, staying in motels and making literally 1,200 bucks a month.

• 28:34Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 28:35Ryan Pineda?

  Doing that. And I'm like, that made me who I am today.

• 28:38Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 28:38Ryan Pineda?

  Where I'm like, dude, I'll go sit and coach. I don't really care.

• 28:41Ed Mylett?

  Who cares?

• 28:41Ryan Pineda?

  Coach is great.

• 28:42Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 28:42Ryan Pineda?

  Compared to what I was doing.

• 28:43Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 28:44Ryan Pineda?

  And so it's just like, when you're built in comfort, you don't really flex your muscles and grow and all that.

• 28:52Ed Mylett?

  I'm going to tell you something, this sounds weird. I'm not comfortable in comfort to this day.

• 28:55Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 28:56Ed Mylett?

  I'm comfortable in discomfort. I'm, I still have a hard time being comfortable. Like if we go on vacation, man, I'm, it takes me three or four days before I even unwind. And then maybe I got one or two good days and then I feel like shit, I need to get back to work. And then, so I'm not, I just sort of, I'm 52. I get me now.

• 29:13Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 29:13Ed Mylett?

  I had this illusion or delusion that I'd be a dude who could sit on a beach all day.

• 29:18Ryan Pineda?

  No.

• 29:18Ed Mylett?

  And that's what I would do. I just can't like, I just, I love work. I love, my work is my sport. It's my hobby. I wasn't as good as you, so I didn't have eight years of minor league ball. I got a little brief taste. I was, I got relieved of my duties early on, but I, I love how I feel when I end a day that I busted my ass and good stuff happened.

• 29:39Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 29:40Ed Mylett?

  I don't like how I feel. That doesn't mean, man, look, I've had plenty of trips to Cabo.

• 29:44Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 29:45Ed Mylett?

  Where I've had a lot of tequila and a lot of golf and I didn't do a lot of work. I have done that, but I find my tolerance level for doing it is much shorter. Like I'll go two, three days, I'm ready to get back. I'm going to tell you something crazy. I'm 52, I could go anywhere in the world I want to. I have never been on a vacation longer than a week. And on that one week vacation, I have never not worked some of the days.

• 30:06Ryan Pineda?

  Right.

• 30:07Ed Mylett?

  So like, okay, this is going to trip people out like. I've never been to Europe.

• 30:11Ryan Pineda?

  Hmm. I haven't either.

• 30:13Ed Mylett?

  I haven't been. And to be honest with you, I had a bunch of trips scheduled and I canceled them when I was younger because stuff at work came up. And I don't really feel like I missed anything, to be really honest with you.

• 30:21Ryan Pineda?

  We have a lot of commonality because we go to Cabo all the time. So I love going there.

• 30:26Ed Mylett?

  Why do you love to go? Because you can get there in a couple hours.

• 30:28Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah, it's the easiest frickin' trip ever. It was the only place open during COVID. It was great.

• 30:33Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 30:33Ryan Pineda?

  So I went to Cabo. I go to Cabo a few times a year.

• 30:36Ed Mylett?

  Me too.

• 30:36Ryan Pineda?

  And, you know, I'm going there because I like sitting on the beach for a few days. I like the service, the food, the weather. Everything's great. But I've never been to Europe for your, because like, I don't want to walk the streets and like, I don't know, see history.

• 30:50Ed Mylett?

  I don't care.

• 30:51Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 30:51Ed Mylett?

  To be honest with you, I'm not a sightseer.

• 30:53Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 30:53Ed Mylett?

  I'm not, I, I, God, I'm gonna get a lot of hate. I just don't care. Like, I, I don't want to fly 12 or 15 hours when I can just fly. Like, I got, I'm doing a speaking tour in, I think it's Dubai in October. Number one thing, I'm like, oh, the flight over.

• 31:06Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 31:06Ed Mylett?

  You know, and then I'm going there. It's a good example. My team's planning the topic. Like, will you talk on this day? And I'm like, okay, so it's a day change. I go, get me in there, get me to do the talk. Like, no, it's like 20 hours of flying. I go, I don't care. I don't, I'm not, I don't want to see it. I want to get back. I, I live on vacation.

• 31:21Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 31:22Ed Mylett?

  So the biggest thing I would say to someone who's relating to what I'm saying or wonders, I've built homes where I want to actually vacation and live.

• 31:29Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 31:30Ed Mylett?

  So my vacation is five o'clock tonight. When you're gone, I'll be smoking a cigar out there on my balcony with a nice 1942.

• 31:36Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 31:37Ed Mylett?

  In the glass, and I'm on damn vacation.

• 31:39Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 31:39Ed Mylett?

  I live oceanfront, man. I got an island. I, I, I don't need to go to your version of vacation. And sometimes I go to Cabo. Even Cabo, I'm like, I just left there. It's right there. That's Cabo. It's a little warmer. Like, what's better there is like, the food's better. Like, the service is better. And you should change your place.

• 31:57Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 31:57Ed Mylett?

  So it recharges you to get back. And I don't want to steal the dream from people that want to be like, travel the world. That's a, I don't even like packing when I travel. Like, I just, my stuff's in my closet, man. I just go grab my shorts and go down to the beach. Like,

• 32:07Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 32:08Ed Mylett?

  So I actually did this early on. I went to a seminar. A guy spoke. I'll never forget this. And he's like, I live on vacation. I go, that's the version I want. I don't be packing bags. Here's the other thing, like, no one's going to relate to this, but like, I'm introverted. I like it quiet. I don't even like hotels.

• 32:24Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 32:24Ed Mylett?

  To be honest with you, I don't like the noise other people make. I'm, like, I like being in my damn house. I worked real hard to get this house here and to get the other houses. So like, I, and I just, something in my body goes, let's get back and accomplish something. Let's expand. Let's do something. I almost feel like I'm wasting away when I'm on vacation. Maybe that'll change when I'm 70. I don't know. But like, I thought by the time I was 50.

• 32:45Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 32:46Ed Mylett?

  I'll be like, this will be out of my system. It's just not. I love, I don't love all the work.

• 32:50Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 32:51Ed Mylett?

  I love meeting the next version of me. I love more self-discovery. I love expanding my being. Like, I, I'm addicted to that. My, I'm not a big drinker. I probably smoked too many cigars, but like, I'm addicted to the expansion of me.

• 33:05Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 33:06Ed Mylett?

  Of my soul, of my spirit, of my being, of trying to understand myself and God and life and human beings better and make a bigger impact. And you know, like, that's my addiction.

• 33:16Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah. No, I love, I've never heard that. I, I like to live on vacation. Like, that's.

• 33:21Ed Mylett?

  I do. I live on vacation.

• 33:22Ryan Pineda?

  And you see that, like, I, I don't have, you know, $30 million plus house on the beach.

• 33:26Ed Mylett?

  Well, on your way. You're ahead of where I was.

• 33:28Ryan Pineda?

  Hmm. Yeah. Well, with me, even at the current stage, you know, a house that's 10% of this, right?

• 33:34Ed Mylett?

  I'm sure it's more than that.

• 33:35Ryan Pineda?

  I, I don't like to go leave that, because we have everything. Like, it's a great house. And so if I'm gonna go stay at a hotel, I'm like, this has to be an upgrade.

• 33:45Ed Mylett?

  Correct.

• 33:45Ryan Pineda?

  Over what I have over here, because why would I go?

• 33:48Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 33:48Ryan Pineda?

  So it's, that's basically your point.

• 33:50Ed Mylett?

  One thing that's changed me the last five years, I have become a little bit snooty in like, when I travel, where I stay. So it used to be like, I tell myself, get me a good deal on something.

• 33:58Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 33:58Ed Mylett?

  Even when I was rich, I was like, give me a good deal.

• 34:00Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 34:00Ed Mylett?

  And then a couple of those deals weren't really good deals, you know, once I got there. So now when I do travel, I go, what's the best place?

• 34:07Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 34:07Ed Mylett?

  And I want to stay at the best place with the best service.

• 34:09Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah. No, I'm with you. And I've, I've learned to value service as like, my experiences have grown. Because before, I mean, look, I grew up poor as a minor league baseball player. So like, even eating Chipotle was like a sacrifice.

• 34:23Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 34:24Ryan Pineda?

  Like, dude, man, I either make rice and chicken and it costs me $2, or I eat Chipotle, it's five times. That was the decision.

• 34:31Ed Mylett?

  Top ramen days, too.

• 34:32Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah. And, you know, I remember the moment I didn't have to worry about paying for Chipotle anymore. It was like, wow, this is crazy. And then you start to, you know, try new things. And then we started going out to dinner for a hundred bucks. And I'm like, wow, this is crazy.

• 34:46Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 34:47Ryan Pineda?

  Then, then you go to a $500 dinner with your wife. And you're like, dude, this is, I understand why people pay so much for the, this. It's not that the food is just so much cra- it's the service, it's the ambiance, it's all of those things.

• 35:00Ed Mylett?

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• 35:44Ed Mylett?

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• 37:04Ed Mylett?

  Sure. I still have these moments, like, I bought the island or whatever, right? You go, did that wow you? Yeah, it did. But let me tell you, like, I still have these flashes where like, I'll be at dinner with my family, the bill's 280 bucks or whatever. And I'm like, I'm paying for this and I'm not worrying about it. Like, those things I used to worry about so much, or like, it's amazing to me how, not simple, that's more than simple, but like, those things still give me great pride and joy compared to like even the big things. Because I had, I went so long as an entrepreneur. I can tell you how I lived, man. I, I had to rent an office. And I was looking for a new office. I had my financial company. And I found this office building that was on the roof above a Taco Bell.

• 37:50Ed Mylett?

  And the reason I rented this building, I signed a three-year lease, is I figured out I'd go down there and eat Taco Bell every day. And I can, and I can refill this Mountain Dew cup here every day and not pay for a new soda. That's literally how my stupid brain thinks. I tell you, I'm risk averse, but like, I literally kept my office for three years. Because I could go get 59 cent bean burritos every single day. It wasn't good for my fitness back in the day.

• 38:09Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 38:09Ed Mylett?

  But anything I could do to conserve or save money or pump more back into my business. And so now when I do go to Mastro's for dinner, it's not the best place in the world, but it's good. I'm like, I'm taking my family to dinner.

• 38:20Ryan Pineda?

  Yep.

• 38:20Ed Mylett?

  And I'm not worried about this bill. This is a great feeling. That, that stuff is what made all the long nights, all the rejection, all the drives, all the dark houses where people no-showed, all the clients who changed their mind, all the critics. You'd be surprised at what made it worth it. This makes it worth it, but this, more stuff like that makes it worth it to me. Like, my kids went to private school, man. I was able to educate my kids the way I wanted to.

• 38:46Ryan Pineda?

  Yep.

• 38:46Ed Mylett?

  That made it worth it. I took those arrows so my kids could go to a safe school where there's a security guard in the front and they don't have to worry about, like, that stuff is, here's the biggest thing about making your dreams come true. And I've just stumbled into this lately. I've been talking about it more, because I've had the blessing of this happening. You have these dreams you want to make happen. Live on the ocean, or pay off your mom's house, or whatever it might be that's your dream, or start your foundation. Buy your Lambo, whatever your thing is. That is cool. And when you make your dreams come true, it blows your mind. What you, what no one tells you about busting your ass and making your dreams come true is all of the dreams of the people you love that you will make come true. That you don't even know they have, and that they don't even know they have. I'll give you a perfect example.

• 39:30Ed Mylett?

  I worked really hard many years when I didn't have kids. Little did I know, when I was working till midnight, get up at four the next morning, or whatever I had to go through, I was actually someday making the dreams come true of children that weren't even born yet. Same with you, man. When you've been busting, some of these, most of your sacrifice, a lot of it happened before these babies were even born.

• 39:48Ryan Pineda?

  Yep, yep.

• 39:48Ed Mylett?

  The coolest thing about getting wealthy and making your dreams come true isn't what you think it is. It's the dreams you will make a reality for the people that you love in your life, some of which aren't even born yet, that you don't even know they have. That's the secret part of becoming somebody in your life that no one tells you. You can go to any seminar and go, man, it's so good to buy a Lambo. It's so cool to have a jet. It's great to, what they never tell you is, there'll be literally millions of micro dreams of the people that you love. Some of them, some of you right now that are watching this or listening to this are working your ass off to make the dreams come true of somebody you have not even met yet in your life and may not meet for another decade. Yet you will do things for them because of what you're doing right now that you can't even imagine. That's the biggest part.

• 40:31Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah. For me, I was never a big material guy. Like, I just started buying watches two years ago, you know? Like, I never, I, I flew first class for the first time two years ago.

• 40:41Ed Mylett?

  Okay.

• 40:41Ryan Pineda?

  And so I never cared about it. And the more that. I've just gone through life and you know, bought nice things. You're like, I mean, the watch was cool, but it's gone. After you buy it, you're like, all right, whatever. The experiences is really what matters. And so, you know, I was talking to actually my team on the the drive up here. It's like, man, this drive up here is an experience, like what we're doing. You know, we were talking about my daughter had two crazy parties, you know, just like over the top that, you know, she's two, three years old. She's not ever going to remember this. And I was like, it's not even about her or that. It's about the other kids who will never get to experience something that crazy.

• 41:22Ed Mylett?

  Can I tell you one thing about your kids, though? We'll give you some insight on this. Her soul remembers it. And her emotional imprinting remembers it. So when you're giving your kids, when they're really young like this, these blessings of these incredible experiences, although they won't remember the actual experience when they're 25 years old, there's an emotional imprinting that creates patterns where she'll go back and pursue those same emotions of joy and beauty and bliss in her life unknowingly. When you, a child is raised without those experiences and without those things with trauma or stress, they seek those out as they get older. So these things you do for your kids, they don't have to be pool parties or money, but these emotional things that our children feel when they're young, they go seek those as patterns when they get older. So for

• 42:03Ed Mylett?

  me, when I was young, because my dad was a drinker, my emotional pattern was to worry, was to be afraid, was to be scared, was to even be angry. And so as I became an older man, even though conditions of my life changed, my emotional imprinting didn't change. I still was worried. I was still scared. I was still angry. So these things you do, those of you listening to this for your children, now that they're young, they may not remember them, but you're creating emotional imprinting where they will pursue those patterns and those experience and those people in their lives that deliver them for them as opposed to the ones that harm them and hurt them.

• 42:36Ryan Pineda?

  How does somebody break free of that? Because so many people are listening. They had no control over that. That's how they're raised. And you know, you got the majority of the world who's like, well, my circumstance sucked. There's nothing I can do. And then you have people who overcome it. How do they do it?

• 42:52Ed Mylett?

  First is being aware of it. That's why it's so important. They listen to what I just said. You just go, that explains me. That explains me. I got it. Okay. So there's some imprinting that was done. So the first is when you, when there's an emotion or a thought and you become aware of it, it loses most of its power over you. So like, for me, like, I love to create chaos in my life. No matter what's going on, I gotta mix in some chaos. And I used to say to people, man, I'm so good under stress and chaos. But what started to happen was I'd produce it unnecessarily. And I'm like, why the hell do I do this? Because I grew up in so much of it. And so, once I was aware of it, now when I start to do it, I go, I'm doing this stupid shit again.

• 43:28Ryan Pineda?

  You're just now, you're aware every time.

• 43:30Ed Mylett?

  Here I go. So that one is the awareness. And then two is like, beginning to live consciously. Don't be someone who just lives unconsciously, where you just respond and react all of your life. Live as a conscious human being. Choose, how would I like to live? What emotions do I want to experience? Begin to pursue them intentionally. There's a massive power in your life of just intentional pursuit of something, intentional pursuit of a goal, intentional pursuit of an outcome, intentional pursuit of a business, and also intentional pursuit of our emotions. What do we do? We set up goals every year. You teach it, I teach it. What are the things you want to get done? I want the jet. I want a hundred grand saved. I want to make two million. I want to scale my business by 20%. I want to get to 8% body fat. Whatever these things are, we write

• 44:13Ed Mylett?

  up down every year. Do you really want those things? Or do you want how they will make you feel?

• 44:18Ed Mylett?

  8% body fat, I'd be shredded. How would I feel? Right? Dream relationship, how would I feel? Hundred grand in the bank, million bucks in the bank, whatever it is, how would I feel? So although those are important things, how come we never get intentional about the actual feeling? What if you worked on both at the same time? Because what I found out is I've pursued the feelings and the emotions, it's been easier to produce the material things. Instead of, I did it the hard way before. I'm going to get all this stuff and then I'll feel better. What I started to do is I got a little bit older is I want all the stuff and the things and the accomplishments and the accumulations, but I also want the feeling. So I'm going to intentionally pursue both of them. Now you're a pretty powerful human being. You're aware over your crap. You pursue the emotions you want on a daily basis because we get what we most obsess over in our lives.

• 45:02Ed Mylett?

  So if they become your obsessive thoughts, you begin to get them. And I've found this, man, I'm going through a relatively stressful time right now. It's sort of tripping me out a little bit. I'm actually pretty blissful right now. I've actually had a great deal of peace through this season of my life. Kind of surprising myself right now. Normally, the normal me, I don't even find peace when it's good. I don't even find peace when I'm making millions and millions and hundreds of millions of dollars. And I'm finding peace during a trying time. Ooh, this is pretty, maybe I've grown a little bit here. Maybe this stuff I teach actually works, right? Maybe it works. And so, I would just tell you to become more intentional about what you want to feel and not just what you want to accumulate. Do both.

• 45:41Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah. And this is also, you know, for me, one of the big reasons why I wanted to have you come speak at WealthCon. Because you bring to the table this emotional, psychological, all these things that a lot of people don't talk about, right? Like, I'll come up on stage and I'll teach tactical things that I think people could do. Because I think very logically.

• 46:01Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, you do.

• 46:01Ryan Pineda?

  And to see guys like you explain why we do what we do, I'm like, dude, we gotta get Ed.

• 46:08Ed Mylett?

  Thank you.

• 46:08Ryan Pineda?

  So, you know, first off, I just want to say, I'm appreciative that you're coming to speak and...

• 46:13Ed Mylett?

  Can I tell you why I'm coming?

• 46:14Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah.

• 46:14Ed Mylett?

  It's you. So, I've been blessed, man. The last 10 years, I have an agent, but they don't book my speaking. I'm word of mouth speaking. And I'm fortunate. I get hundreds of requests a year and I do about 80. And now I'm pretty scrutinizing about who I vet. And one of the things I try to do is I want to show up in places where I think, here's how I term it to my team. Find me people who's a stock I would buy if they were a stock. So, and in your case, I've watched your stuff over time. I've watched how you've handled, I've actually watched how you've grown on camera too. And if you were a stock, I'd buy you because I think you're rising. And so if I can come and sprinkle a little whatever on that and what you're doing in your community, what you're doing here

• 46:56Ed Mylett?

  on the show, I want to be able to do that. Because I didn't get into this space, it's happened, but I didn't mean it to. I, I'm not the king. I don't mean it that way. But like, I didn't get in the space to be the king. Or I wanted to be the king and queen maker. I wanted to build a platform big enough that I could say, this person's awesome too. This person, listen to this person. Almost create a space where I could elevate other people. And that's what I do on my podcast, is I'm real careful of who sits in that seat because I know they're going to get millions of eyeballs and ears on them. And so when I come to speak somewhere, man, like you were the main reason that I decided to do it. And I've also just heard such good things about you from our mutual friends. And then today, off camera, some personal stuff you shared with me. I'm like, this is one of my dudes now.

• 47:34Ryan Pineda?

  I appreciate that.

• 47:35Ed Mylett?

  It's true.

• 47:35Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah, no, I really do. For anyone who wants to come, it's October 3rd to the 6th in Vegas. You can go to wealthcon.org and get your tickets. Actually, too, one thing that I'm also really appreciative you're doing is the dinner that we're going to have with, I think, 10 people only.

• 47:50Ed Mylett?

  I'm excited about that. Yeah, that's cool. Because when you go speak to these big crowds, you know, you always leave there wishing you could have connected more personally and intimately with a small group where they can ask you things and feel your spirit. And you don't just get sound bites, but you're in this. And so that'll be what that dinner will be, you know, affording certain people to have and for me to have. I learned a lot of these things too, man. When I go, I get fed as much as I feed people at these events. There's always an experience I have that I cherish, or I get a letter afterwards, or a conversation I have. So I'm selfish doing it.

• 48:20Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah. No, I'm excited for that. So anybody, you know, we have a new level of ticket that was specifically because Ed was willing to do that. So I think it's 10 people only. We've already sold a bunch of them. So check it out.

• 48:33Ed Mylett?

  Come join us.

• 48:34Ryan Pineda?

  Yeah, we'd love it.

• 48:35Ed Mylett?

  That was a great conversation. And if you want to hear the full interview, be sure to follow The Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest.

• 48:45Lewis Howes?

  There's something unique about you, Ed, that's no one else, and I'm not saying this because you're here. I don't think I've said this to anyone on the show. There's someone unique about you that I don't think I've ever experienced around anyone else. There's an essence, there's a presence, there's a power, a command, an authority, a humble confidence. There's like this essence about you. And I'm really curious, what do you think made you you? What were the elements growing up that made you all the things you are now? Was it the, you know, pre 13, kind of everything that happened with your parents? Was it stuff more from school? Was it a relationship that really kind of flipped these things on for you? What were the elements early on that

• 49:29Lewis Howes?

  made you this commanding, kind presence today?

• 49:33Ed Mylett?

  Well, thank you for that. I, thank you. That's nice to hear. I, because by the way, I love people that have that combo. Like, I love people with a lot of self-confidence, a lot of humility. Because people with a lot of humility that have no self-confidence, you're kind of dragging them through life as a friend. Someone with all this self-confidence, no humility, they're going to burn out. They're going to make a mistake. They're not curious. They don't grow. I think that, I think even the reason I'm in the personal development space, why do I believe so much that people can change? I watched my dad do it. And then in my case, I had to learn these things, man, to be like a baseline functioning person. So my default personality...

• 50:09Ed Mylett?

  Is insecure.

• 50:10Lewis Howes?

  Even today?

• 50:11Ed Mylett?

  Even today.

• 50:11Lewis Howes?

  Come on.

• 50:12Ed Mylett?

  Very much.

• 50:13Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 50:13Ed Mylett?

  Very much.

• 50:14Lewis Howes?

  How is that the fault? You wake up and you say, I'm a nobody, or what? What's the story?

• 50:18Ed Mylett?

  I lack this, I'm fooling everybody.

• 50:20Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 50:20Ed Mylett?

  They really knew, you know. Pretty, some imposter syndrome mixed with just like tremendous. I was bullied as a kid, my dad was an alcoholic, I wasn't a real big guy. The only thing, I wasn't good in school, the only thing I was good at was sports. A lot like with you, you were a great athlete. So, my default is tons of insecurity. So that's probably never gonna go away, the humility part. So the part that I've worked on really hard is the self-confidence part. And so I've got all this stuff in the book on those tips and what have I done to build it? Cause I had to get there just to get to baseline. And then I'm like, this stuff works. What if I refined it and made it my own and started to build these other strategies and stuff? So, the confidence part is a thing I'm always gonna have to work on.

• 51:05Lewis Howes?

  Even today, even with all the success and the, you know, the massive show and the big businesses and all the homes and everything that people see?

• 51:12Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. The truth is.

• 51:13Lewis Howes?

  What else do you need though, to feel more confident?

• 51:15Ed Mylett?

  I don't need other things, it's an internal game. I don't need other stuff. In other words, the, the stuff is really fleeting and temporary. So I don't need another, you know, I bought an island lately, you know that, right? Like when I bought this island, it didn't give me, it didn't make me more confident. It just was something that I've always wanted to be able to do. But I, I, it's not stuff. What needs to happen for me is that I'm most confident when I'm living in my intention, which is to serve, which is to like help other people. When I'm not doing that, Wayne Dyer, when I met him really, really young, told me, you're gonna change the world, Ed Milat. And I'm like, and he, then he, I'm sure he said this to a lot of people, but he complimented me. I met him on a beach. We watched the sun come up together. In Maui. Yeah, I was running on the beach, that's where he lived. Yeah, I was running on the beach and we were in the.

• 52:00Lewis Howes?

  What was he like? I never met him.

• 52:01Ed Mylett?

  Incredible. So we became a dear friend of mine, but I'm running, you know, you get up before the sun comes up. I'm running on this, I'd won this incentive trip. And there's this bald dude running towards me with his hairy back. I'll never forget this sweaty hairy back. And it was so long ago, cause I had a Sony Walkman on. And he had one, and he ran by me, I go, that was Wayne Dyer. And I said, Dr. Dyer, you changed my life. And he had this deep voice like mine and he pulls it out and he goes, well, I doubt that.

• 52:26Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 52:27Ed Mylett?

  And he goes, I bet you changed your life. But he goes, how did I help you? And then he walked towards me and we, I get emotional, like God's been so good to me. We sat on this beach together and watched the sun come up for about an hour and a half. And about an hour into it, he goes, you're gonna change the world. And I'm sure he said this to a lot of people and he's like, and it's, you're very talented, you're brilliant, you're a good communicator, you know. And he goes, and that's not the reason why. And he was writing a book at that time called The Power of Intention.

• 52:54Lewis Howes?

  That's a great book.

• 52:55Ed Mylett?

  Great book.

• 52:56Lewis Howes?

  Incredible book.

• 52:56Ed Mylett?

  And he goes, you really intend to help people. And he goes, all these things with your father and your upbringing and all that, Ed? He goes, that's all made you. And he goes, you have such a heart to wanna help people. And he goes, would you do me a favor if we never meet again? And we ended up meeting many times. I said, yeah. And he said, never link your confidence to your ability. Cause I know you struggle with your confidence. If it's predicated on your abilities or your achievements, you're always gonna be chasing it. He goes, but if you'd link your confidence to your intentions. Man, you have beautiful intentions. And that is something I knew about me. I know I have a good heart. And I've never forgotten that. So when I do a podcast or a speech, I just connect to my intent, you know? And it's, it's been the one thing that's brought me confidence.

• 53:39Ed Mylett?

  Cause if you said, hey, Ed, you gotta be confident, cause you're great, or you got a house, or you have a plane, I go, yeah, but, yeah, but. But if you go, you gotta be confident, cause you have beautiful intentions to help people. I go.

• 53:50Lewis Howes?

  I might have to list you now.

• 53:52Ed Mylett?

  You might be right.

• 53:52Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 53:53Ed Mylett?

  And that's where my confidence comes from.

• 53:54Lewis Howes?

  So, as an athlete, I gained confidence from results. From actually getting the result of becoming better.

• 54:02Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 54:02Lewis Howes?

  I was not good. I was not good, and then I put in the effort.

• 54:06Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 54:06Lewis Howes?

  And all the mistakes or the failures, the feedback, what I like to call it, gave me the lessons and taught me how to get better to accomplish the result that I was looking for. Achieve the goal, win the game, or just improve my abilities. So what I'm hearing you say is, link, also link confidence to intention. Some people say, link it to the effort, right? Like the effort that you show up, that you just keep showing up. And others talk about the results.

• 54:31Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 54:31Lewis Howes?

  Should we be thinking about it?

• 54:33Ed Mylett?

  There's two, I have a whole, I call it the holy trilogy in the book of self-confidence.

• 54:37Lewis Howes?

  What is this?

• 54:37Ed Mylett?

  But the, the confidence trilogy is faith, have confidence. So if you're a person of faith, no matter what you believe in. It's amazing to me how people that believe in energy, quantum energy, or they believe in, they're a Christian like me, and I believe in both, by the way.

• 54:50Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 54:50Ed Mylett?

  But whatever their, their faith is, that they have it on Sunday, they have it in Bible study, or they have it when they get together with their friends or when they meditate. But somehow when they walk into a business meeting, they, they're alone. So, why are you alone then, but you're not alone these other times? So I'm never alone. So that's number one. Number two is my intention. And third is my associations change my confidence. But here's the biggie. If you don't have self-confidence, here's what you have. You have a really bad reputation with yourself.

• 55:15Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 55:15Ed Mylett?

  You have built a habit of not keeping the promises you make to yourself. We've all heard this before, but there's a level, I have a book, chapter in the book called One More Standard. Here's how I built what I would call almost superhuman confidence in spite of my insecurity. Think about that. Superhuman confidence in spite of my insecurity. And it's exactly what you just said. It's an effort play. If you don't have self-confidence, you've never kept the promises you make to yourself. Check that box. If you have self-confidence, you've started to keep the promises you make to yourself. If you wanna have superhuman self-confidence, you keep the promises you make to yourself and one more. So if I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna work out, I'm gonna do 10 reps in the gym, I do one more. If I'm gonna do 45 minutes on the treadmill, I do one more. If I wanna make 10 contacts in a day, I do that and one more.

• 55:58Ed Mylett?

  If I'm gonna tell my daughter I love her every day, I'm gonna do that and one more. And so that higher standard, cause in life, we don't get our goals, we get our standards long-term. And so, if your standard is one more, starts, what starts to happen is you go, I'm willing to do things other people aren't willing to do, and I combine that, that I have great faith, great associations, and I intend to help people. This is a formula to build wonderful self-confidence and never lack humility when you have it.

• 56:26Lewis Howes?

  So when did you learn this one more mindset? Was this from your dad early on, or was this?

• 56:30Ed Mylett?

  It's from my dad. So we talked about this, you know, a little bit earlier, but my dad had these couple theories he would always say to me. And so one was when he got sober, he gave it one more try. He was gonna stay sober one day at a time. And then my dad, I, there's no dreaming in my house. There's no like, my jet, you know, I've had, I've been blessed, like multiple airplanes, right? In my life. My jet was in almost walking distance of my dad's house. He's never been on any of them.

• 56:52Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 56:53Ed Mylett?

  And I would say to my dad, I would say, hey, let's go, go play golf in Maui. Let's go, there's these great golf courses in the ocean. And my dad would say, well, why would I go all the way to Maui to play golf with my favorite person, my son, when we can play here in Chino? It's not about there, I wanna be with my son. So this, my family had none of that stuff. But my dad knew I was a dreamer. And my dad would always say, you know, I was one decision away from changing my life the whole time. One choice. And he'd say, Eddie, you're not as far away from these dreams as you think you are. And I'd say, really dad? And he'd go, no, you're actually a lot closer than you think. But because you think it's so far away, you behave in accordance with that belief system and it always keeps it that far away from you.

• 57:34Lewis Howes?

  So how, how do we bring our dreams closer to us?

• 57:37Ed Mylett?

  The first thing is, that's a great question. The first thing is you need to believe and know that your one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one book, one thought, one something away from a completely different life. And when you know that, when you, then you begin to look for them. And so in the second chapter of the book, I have a thing in the book called the matrix. And your matrix is your reticular activating system in your brain. It's the filter for your entire life. Okay? And this filter reveals to you the world that's in front of you. Again, example of it is, I just, I like what Musk is doing. So I just bought a Tesla. I drove it here today.

• 58:08Lewis Howes?

  I got a Tesla too. Model X, or what do you got?

• 58:10Ed Mylett?

  I got a Plaid.

• 58:11Lewis Howes?

  Okay, wow.

• 58:12Ed Mylett?

  A Plaid, it's a good one.

• 58:12Lewis Howes?

  Nice.

• 58:13Ed Mylett?

  And so I bought this Plaid and all of a sudden, man, everywhere I go, there's Teslas.

• 58:17Lewis Howes?

  I see them everywhere.

• 58:18Ed Mylett?

  They're everywhere. I'm like, whoa.

• 58:19Lewis Howes?

  I see them everywhere.

• 58:19Ed Mylett?

  Three lanes over, other side, they're like, freaking Tesla, this is crazy. They were always there. Why didn't I see them before? Because they weren't part of my RAS. So the key thing, I teach you in the book, how to slow down time and create the matrix of your life. When you make the Teslas of your life, those relationships, those meetings, those thoughts, those encounters, you can very easily do this. But there's a process of repeated visualization you do that's not complicated. It's chapter two of the book, and it will shift you. The other component too, I have a chapter in the book called Become an Impossibility Thinker and a Possibility Achiever. Here's how most people's framework works. They don't have an RAS program, they're not intentional, so they keep getting. If the things most important to you are your worries, fears, anxieties, problems, bills, you will continue to have people, places and things revealed to you that confirm it.

• 59:03Ed Mylett?

  And, if you operate out of your memory and your history, if this is your pattern, your framework, you will continue to find those things. You need to learn to operate out of your imagination and your dreams. This is a different framework for life. Imagination is different than dreaming. Imagination causes you to create dreams and thoughts that never happened. When you imagine something, you create a space. Once you have a thought, this is powerful. When you have a thought, you create a space that did not exist in the world before you had that thought. And that space is now exists. And the way your brain works and your life works and the universe works is, it tries to furnish that space, whether it's a negative or a positive thought. It starts to hear things it wouldn't hear. That's why like when you're in a crowded room and they say, Louis. You can hear Louis auditorily over all the noise. Why?

• 59:48Ed Mylett?

  It's in your RAS. It's why you see the Tesla, okay? So, if the key thing is being able to operate out of this imagination. Why is imagination so important? When you were a child, three, four, five years old, you were probably happier than you are right now. Why? Two reasons. A, you were closer to God, you had just been with God more recently. And two, you operated out of your imagination. You didn't operate out of a history and a memory, cause you didn't have one. And slowly over time, by the time you were 10, 11, 12 years old, loving people installed their limiting thoughts and beliefs, their software into you. Cause most things in life are caught, not taught. You catch them. And so now you're starting to operate out of history and memory. And you repeat it and your RAS begins to see the things that reinforce that history and memory.

• 1:00:33Ed Mylett?

  And so you basically have the same life over and over again with a different cast of characters in a different environment, but the same emotions. You have the same emotional home. My dad used to say to me, every call, bro, till the day he died and I'm 50 years old, blah, blah, blah, whatever we're talking about. Last thing he would always say to me, be careful. Be careful. And I go.

• 1:00:54Lewis Howes?

  Careful with what?

• 1:00:55Ed Mylett?

  I don't know. I never knew. But what is that programming from the time you're eight years old? Be careful. Hey, go to school. Be careful. So with that, it operated on this fear thing, right? Oh, I need to be careful. I need to be careful. But don't make this risk. Don't take that business decision. Don't start a podcast. Don't get on that stage and speak. Don't do this. Don't do that. You say that to an already unconfident, insecure person. He meant it lovingly. By the time I'm 50, worth hundreds of millions of dollars. Be careful. He didn't even know he was saying it to me. But what was he doing? He was installing, God bless him, his limiting beliefs into me as a little boy. So a lot of these things that you believe, you were defenseless when you started to believe them. They were installed in you by loving people who were around you. And even though your life may look differently, your emotional home, the four, five, six emotions you experience pretty regularly,

• 1:01:39Ed Mylett?

  might be very familiar from your parents, one or two of them, right? And so you need to look at your emotional home.

• 1:01:44Lewis Howes?

  What's your most powerful emotion? And the emotion that you wish you could let go of?

• 1:01:49Ed Mylett?

  Love is the most powerful emotion in the world. We will all do everything for love. If there were more love in the world, the way we treat one another, the way we express our thoughts, you know, you'll do anything for love, right? So love is by far my most powerful emotion. It's like, like, I love you. And like, when I just saw you, we didn't just, like, people, we didn't just hug for like, one second.

• 1:02:10Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:02:10Ed Mylett?

  And you do this better than I do.

• 1:02:12Lewis Howes?

  I hold people, I make it uncomfortable because I just want to hug and love on people.

• 1:02:15Ed Mylett?

  But it's not uncomfortable, bro. Because the reason you're so successful is you truly do love people.

• 1:02:20Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:02:21Ed Mylett?

  And you come from that place. And I know we're bigger dudes and like, like, that's a beautiful expression of a man. A real man is capable of real love. That's a sign of real strength. So that's the most powerful one. And then, for me, I know the emotion that I wish I didn't have. It's chaos.

• 1:02:37Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 1:02:37Ed Mylett?

  I.

• 1:02:38Lewis Howes?

  How often do you experience chaos?

• 1:02:39Ed Mylett?

  Less because I'm aware of it. But I'm going to tell you, all the time, till about five years ago, even when we first met. Why? I used to even say this. Man, I operate great under chaos. Man, you should see me operate under chaos. Most people can't handle chaos. I am calm under pressure. Well, the reason for that was, I grew up in an alcoholic home. So I'm very familiar with chaos. It became a very familiar emotion. And what we do is we gravitate towards the familiar emotions in our life, even if they're not ones that serve us. And I don't think there's negative or positive emotions. I say this in the book. There just are.

• 1:03:10Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:03:10Ed Mylett?

  Fear isn't negative. It, fear in abundance is negative. But some fear, being afraid to do this podcast, say, to some extent, causes us to prepare. So a dose of it, it was given to us in the caveman days, so T-Rex didn't eat us, right? So some fear is good, some anxiety is okay. Some frustration, some anger is appropriate. It's to the dosage level. And we get these four or five of them. For me, some chaos is okay. It's fun. It's exciting. It's exhilarating, right? But getting it every day, every week, every month, all the time. And so, how do you get rid of it? Well, one way you get rid of it is just be awareness. When you have an awareness of a thought, it loses its impact and power over you. It almost becomes like this, I'll do, I'm like, I'm doing it again, aren't I? I'm doing the chaos thing again. Everything's great right now.

• 1:03:54Ed Mylett?

  All the houses are paid off, my kids are happy, married to a great woman, got great friends. I'm doing the chaos thing again, aren't I? You dummy, you're doing it again. And it kind of loses its power over you. So I have a chapter in the book called "One More Emotion", and how to take an inventory of the emotions you have. And so, yeah, man, mine's definitely love, and the one I don't want is chaos. Because chaos causes me to act out of anger and frustration. It can depress me.

• 1:04:17Lewis Howes?

  And your intentions are not going to be as, I guess.

• 1:04:20Ed Mylett?

  It's pure. It's a gateway emotion. Chaos is my gateway emotion to the ones I don't want. Chaos gives me stress. Chaos gives me anger. Chaos gives me frustration. Chaos gives me fear. So it's a gateway emotion.

• 1:04:31Lewis Howes?

  What is the result when you create from that space of chaos?

• 1:04:35Ed Mylett?

  It's funny. I have been, I have found the ability to externally create something pretty productive.

• 1:04:41Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:04:42Ed Mylett?

  But stay with me on this. But the process in getting there is destructive. The process in getting there is not beautiful. And I used to think, a lot of successful people.

• 1:04:52Lewis Howes?

  Forcing your way to get the results.

• 1:04:53Ed Mylett?

  Almost through force.

• 1:04:54Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:04:55Ed Mylett?

  You know? And the, and I still do it sometimes. I'm thinking of a situation this week where I did it. And I used to think, well, that's a superpower, though, because I've created all these external.

• 1:05:04Lewis Howes?

  Look what I made.

• 1:05:04Ed Mylett?

  Look what I did.

• 1:05:05Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:05:06Ed Mylett?

  And I'm doing it because of that. The truth is, I did it in spite of it.

• 1:05:09Lewis Howes?

  You did.

• 1:05:09Ed Mylett?

  And there's a lot of things in our lives that we have linked to our formula, our recipe of success that we hold on to, that you've done in spite of those things, not because of those things.

• 1:05:19Lewis Howes?

  So you're 51 now, 52, 51? When you were 40, on a scale of one to 10, of the self-confident happiness joy scale, 10 being like, you loved yourself fully, you were peaceful, you had an abundant mindset, you were, had inner peace, you know, joy, 1 being you hated yourself, you were miserable, you're in chaos 24/7. Where were you on that scale at 40?

• 1:05:43Ed Mylett?

  Okay, the real answer is probably a 3.

• 1:05:46Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 1:05:47Ed Mylett?

  Of happiness. And, but if you met me, I could convince you that it was probably an 8.

• 1:05:53Lewis Howes?

  That you were super happy and you had it together.

• 1:05:55Ed Mylett?

  Probably a 3.

• 1:05:56Lewis Howes?

  And since your father passing, where are you now?

• 1:06:00Ed Mylett?

  Probably a 9.

• 1:06:01Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 1:06:01Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. And I no longer feel the need to convince you. Because I've learned that this has already existed within me. I didn't have to go get it. I just had to allow myself to experience it. And it took me a long time to treat myself in such a way that I allowed myself to feel these things that have always been there. I had them when I was a little baby boy. I just lost them along the way, in these patterns and programs that were installed in me and my experiences. And I got to share something with you, brother, that just dawned on me. I wrote this whole book. And two weeks ago, I had this, this is just for me and you, but everybody can hear it.

• 1:06:36Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 1:06:37Ed Mylett?

  And it, I've always tried to disqualify myself. I've always, you're not this.

• 1:06:42Lewis Howes?

  Why is that?

• 1:06:43Ed Mylett?

  It always shocks people, even people that know me really well. They're like, not you. I have that, but there's no way you have it, right?

• 1:06:48Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you're too confident, too talented, too.

• 1:06:51Ed Mylett?

  And I don't know that I'm too talented, but I think I can fake it pretty well. And I disqualify myself because, you know, the truth is that maybe for a while, everything that I got that was love when I was a child only came when I achieved something. So I started to conflate early on in my life, recognition and significance with love. In other words, my dad would love me if hit the home run. My dad would love me if I get straight A's. And so then, when I would feel these things. But something really amazing, and also like, I'm really big at holding myself, I love to beat myself up with mistakes I've made. I did this, I did that, I should have done this, I didn't do that. And I've always thought, these mistakes, these weaknesses of mine,

• 1:07:35Ed Mylett?

  disqualify me from being happy or helping people. And this amazing breakthrough. The one decision that changed my family forever is my dad's decision to get sober. And it changed my family forever. I'm talking to you because my dad made that decision. And I've always been so proud of my dad for that. But this is just, two weeks ago. 3:15 in the morning, I wake up, I'm crying. And I wake Kristiana up, I go, babe, someone helped dad. And she went, what, honey? I said, someone helped dad. She goes, what do you mean? I said, babe, I never thought about this. In my dad's darkest, worst moment of his life, in some coffee shop or some room somewhere, some precious soul helped my dad.

• 1:08:16Lewis Howes?

  Reached out to him, talked to him.

• 1:08:18Ed Mylett?

  Talked to him and got him sober.

• 1:08:20Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:08:21Ed Mylett?

  And I said, babe, that's not the powerful part. And I have no idea who this person is, but I wonder if they know the difference they made in Max and Bella's, my children's lives, or your life, or the millions of people I've helped, that one decision they made. And she goes, oh my gosh. I said, I never thought about this beautiful human being. Always gave the credit to my dad, but some stranger helped him. And I said, babe, this is the bananas part. Do you know what qualified them to help my dad? Their messed up life.

• 1:08:48Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:08:48Ed Mylett?

  They were an alcoholic. They were a drug addict. Little did that person know. The things they were the most ashamed of, the biggest mistakes of their lives, when they were using drugs and drinking and stealing. That was qualifying them to change my dad's life. And all of us, we run around carrying these bags of, I'm not qualified because I made this mistake. I had this bankruptcy, this relationship didn't work. I did this thing you don't know about, I'm so ashamed of.

• 1:09:11Lewis Howes?

  And that's why you're qualified.

• 1:09:12Ed Mylett?

  That's the thing that qualifies you. The humanness in you. You are the only human being with your combination of gifts that you were given, whatever they are, and your experience. And real human beings help real human beings by being vulnerable and transparent, saying, I know where you are. I've messed up worse.

• 1:09:32Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:09:32Ed Mylett?

  I've made greater mistakes. I felt more, I know that depression, I know that anxiety. I know that shame. I know what that feels like. That beautiful soul who was a drug addict and alcoholic, they didn't know all those mistakes they're making were leading them out of their heart. And they finally got to a point where their intention was to help my father. In the lowest moment of his life, they changed my dad's life. And they're changed mine, and maybe me and you are changing a few today because of that person's mess.

• 1:10:02Lewis Howes?

  It's crazy.

• 1:10:02Ed Mylett?

  Is that crazy?

• 1:10:03Lewis Howes?

  That's amazing.

• 1:10:04Ed Mylett?

  I know. I know. Love them and thank them.

• 1:10:07Lewis Howes?

  That's amazing, man.

• 1:10:09Ed Mylett?

  Before we start the interview with my next guest, just want to remind you all that you can subscribe to the show on YouTube or follow the show on Apple or Spotify. We have all the links in our show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way. Now on with the show. Each of you, you and I included, we were born to do something great with our life. We were born to do something great with our life. And it's important to check in from time to time of what that current great thing is. And may, and sometimes we think it's the big things. It's the people that are on both our shows. They've made this big movie, they've got this big song, they're this big thing. What, you know, who's greater? The man who helped my dad get sober? Or the fact that maybe I've helped some people because my dad got sober? That one act was greatness in his life.

• 1:10:54Ed Mylett?

  That kind moment with another person that says, I can help you. Let me connect with you. And so, don't discount your own greatness, your own call to do something great. And it doesn't have to be a script, or a play, or a book, or a speech, or on social media. It's just doing something great, and you matter. I don't, I don't mean this hokey. I'm telling you the truth about you. You matter. You were born to do something awesome with your life. Your family's supposed to do something great as a family. And it, maybe it's just checking in and reminding yourself of that, and then asking yourself, what is that thing right now in my life? And so, I just think that reminder is so important that, you know, it's great to voyeuristically look in on successful people,

• 1:11:39Ed Mylett?

  or what we think are successful people. It's also important that the camera turn back on you and go, you matter. You matter. You're great. And that's probably the most important thing we'd say today.

• 1:11:50Jay Shetty?

  Oh, gosh, man. Yeah, and, you know, one thing you just clarified beautifully is that great doesn't have to be big.

• 1:11:58Ed Mylett?

  No.

• 1:11:58Jay Shetty?

  And big doesn't mean great, right? And I think we're so obsessed today.

• 1:12:03Ed Mylett?

  We are.

• 1:12:03Jay Shetty?

  In that, to do something great, it has to be big, it has to be bold. You know, when I think about myself, honestly, Ed, and I can say this to you, because I think, I think in these sessions and when we spend time together, you've heard my heart. I was one of those people who actually never believed I could do any of this stuff I've done. I never set out when I started and I was like, oh, one day I'm gonna be, I didn't have any of that. That's not how I'm wired. I was wired in like, I wanna serve, I wanna serve whoever comes, whether it's five people, 10 people, I'm happy, I'll serve them. And as I started to do that, I got more confidence, like, okay, now I wanna serve larger groups, okay, let me serve them. And then it was like, and I never believed at any point that

• 1:12:48Jay Shetty?

  there were these arbitrary, abstract goals of like, number one, this, like, those weren't how I set out. And so when I'm listening to you speak, I hope someone's out there thinking, Jay, I'm like, Jay and Ed, I'm like you guys, where it's like, I don't vibe with all that, like, like motivation, this, like, I just vibe with the fact that I wanna have a great impact, like the person that helped your father.

• 1:13:13Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, and you know what we've both found in our life, too, just to give you insight from, um, someone called me seasoned today, you know this, is that, um, you know, the universe or God really prepares you to step into the next room when you step in with some faith. And so maybe it does start with five or six people, and maybe that's enough, but perhaps in that space you're in, there'll be a little door open. And if you step into that one, you'll, you'll find, I think we think, I have to have it all figured out. Wozniak's a good buddy of mine who started Apple. They didn't, they were a board company. They didn't know they'd be doing this someday. They stepped into the next space. And one thing I think we also want is an immediate result. And I talk about this in the book, maybe it'll be the last little thing I'll share with you, but I went to a birthday

• 1:13:55Ed Mylett?

  party as I was writing the book, and it was for a young boy. And they had a pinata. We've all been to, especially living in California, you have the pinata. And so what they did is they took each of these little guys, they blindfolded them and spun them around, and they're all dizzy and they're swinging, and they're not even near the pinata. That's life. A lot of times you feel like, man, I'm blind, I don't even know where I'm swinging right now, but I'm swinging. And so each kid hit the pinata, and the candy didn't come out. And so they take the blindfold off, that kid got tired, the next little boy came up, spun him around. So like, seven of them hit this pinata. No candy came out. The last boy, the smallest boy, the youngest boy there, they throw the blindfold on him, they spin him around, he's swinging too. That's life. You're just sort of swinging, right? They

• 1:14:38Ed Mylett?

  finally point him at the pinata, he hits the pinata just once, bam, all the candy comes out. And all the kids jump on and celebrate. And I'm watching that, and I'm going, now who broke the pinata? Was it the last shot? Or was it the cumulative blows of each of the shots on the pinata? Well, we all know the answer. It was the cumulative shots. Life's a lot like that, man, that we're taking shots, but we don't see any physical progress. But every one more we're doing is compound pounding progress. And in life, you have to be willing to buy into what is invisible progress. Most people quit on their dream, quit on their

• 1:15:18Ed Mylett?

  vision, before the candy comes out. And what you and I didn't do is quit, we just kept swinging. And eventually, the candy comes out. The candy could be your bliss, your joy, your financial success, your notoriety, your contribution. But most people are hitting the pinata of their life, and there's no evidence it's working. But the truth is, there's a compound pounding effect in life, that if you keep hitting your life's pinata, if you'll stick around, there'll be some candy come out. That was a great conversation. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way.

• 1:15:56Dan Martell?

  One of the things I wanna wrap up on, Ed, and it's, you know, the power of one more, you talk about it, is just, every person has the potential to be the one.

• 1:16:06Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:16:07Dan Martell?

  And I didn't call it that. But if you meet my family, they will definitely say, like, Dan, Dan went first. And then people always say, well, were your brothers and sisters in trouble growing up? Yeah. But it seemed like, once I got my life together, and I, and I changed the energy, that everybody just kinda came with us. And like, how beautiful is it? And this is a thing I, I wanna acknowledge, is, um, the moment you realized that there was a one for your dad. Your dad was an alcoholic, and somebody showed up and was that for him, and it shifted his life and your life.

• 1:16:47Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:16:47Dan Martell?

  And my life.

• 1:16:48Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:16:49Dan Martell?

  Cause I'm here with you.

• 1:16:50Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. So, thank you for asking that. I wrote The Power of One More, and I, um, a lot of it has to do with my dad, and, you know, one more was my dad got sober one more time, and then he stays sober one day at a time. It's interesting, cause that's a little bit of the book, but the rest of it is like, really detailed stuff, as you know. But after I wrote it, about six months after I wrote it, it was out, actually. Woke up right down the bedroom right below where we're sitting right now.

• 1:17:17Dan Martell?

  It was in this house?

• 1:17:17Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, in this house. I was real, I was crying. And, uh, Christiana woke up, she goes, what's wrong? And I said, babe, I was kinda gasping, and I'm like, someone helped daddy. And she's like, what? And I go, someone helped daddy. And she goes, what do you mean? I go, someone helped my dad get sober. Why in the world this never occurred to me before? But in my dad's program, someone helps you. And she goes, oh, my gosh, she said, this person has no idea, I'm my dad's son. So the ripple effect, they did something great with their life, they helped my dad. In the darkest, lowest moment of my, my father may be taking his own life, certainly was gonna lose his family, certainly losing his career, but maybe his life, in my dad's lowest moment of his life, some precious human being stepped

• 1:17:59Ed Mylett?

  forward and said, I see you. I see you. I can help you. Let me tell you about you. And they changed and saved my dad's life. That person has no idea that because they helped my dad, I'm his son, I've reached millions of people. They have no idea the ripple effect of that one act of kindness, that one act of, um, my intention is to serve you. Now, that's incredible. My wife goes, oh, my gosh. I said, that's not even the most amazing thing. The most amazing thing is, what qualified this person to help my dad? What qualified this person to help my dad is the very thing most of us think disqualifies us from ever being successful. It was the things that human being was most ashamed of, most embarrassed

• 1:18:43Ed Mylett?

  by. You know what qualified them? They were also a drunk at one time. They were also a drug addict. They were also a liar. They were also living in the shadows. They were also ashamed at one time in their life. And because of that, the thing that they thought disqualified them was the very thing that was qualifying them to change my dad's life and be the one in my dad's life. In our lives, we are constantly stacking things that we think disqualifies. My bankruptcy, my business failure, this sin of mine, this thing I cheated on, this mistake I made. Maybe it's none of that. I've just always been invisible and average and ordinary, so I'm disqualified going forward from not being. And we stack these things and believe we're disqualified. Nothing could be further from the truth. You are most qualified

• 1:19:25Ed Mylett?

  to help the person or people you used to be. You used to be. And in my dad's case, right? That guy used to be a drunk. That dude used to be an alcoholic. That person used to be a liar and a drug addict. That's what qualified them. So they could look at my dad and go, let me tell you about you.

• 1:19:41Dan Martell?

  I know.

• 1:19:42Ed Mylett?

  I know who you are. I'm also that person, and I changed. And that's also why it's so important in life to continue to grow and change, because every time you evolve into the next version of you, you're more qualified to help the people you used to be. And so you're not disqualified from being successful, you're not disqualified from being the one. In fact, probably the things that you think are the disqualifiers are the very things God would prefer to use to help you change other people's lives and ultimately your own. Even that mistake I made with my family, I could, that family that I didn't have, I could have easily lived the rest of my life going, man, I'm disqualified. I didn't help that family. That's not the case. The case is, I'm immensely qualified because I made that mistake to never do it again, and to help all these other families.

• 1:20:26Ed Mylett?

  Do you know how many families I told, I'm not leaving here tonight, because let me tell you about this mistake I made once, and I'm not making it tonight with your family. And how many of them were persuaded by that story to then participate? So the thing I thought disqualified me actually qualified me most to help the rest of the families.

• 1:20:42Dan Martell?

  Whoo.

• 1:20:43Ed Mylett?

  It's true.

• 1:20:47Dan Martell?

  That was powerful.

• 1:20:48Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:48Dan Martell?

  Cause I think most people wouldn't have connected the shame, the area of life that they feel less than deficit as the, the, the tool that they should be using to go serve the world.

• 1:21:00Ed Mylett?

  If you're faith-based, and if you're not, that's okay, everybody listening, but if you're faith-based, if I'm the adversary, and I wanna get you to quit on your dream, there's one weapon I'm gonna use against you. Discouragement. I'm gonna get you discouraged and believe you're disqualified. Cause if I can get you to believe that, you have no chance. And most people are walking around discouraged, thinking they're disqualified, and they're actually hanging that lie onto the very thing that is probably their qualifier. That's the irony. It's like, if you really, in politics right now, what you do in politics, if you wanna win, you accuse the other party of the very thing you do. And you do it before they can accuse you. And so in life, what we do, the adversary does, is he gets us to accuse us with the things that are the very thing that would be the key to get us to go change our life. Uses it as a weapon against us. And so don't let anybody do that to you.

• 1:21:45Dan Martell?

  That's beautiful.

• 1:21:46Ed Mylett?

  Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Don't forget to follow the show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Now on to our next guest.

• 1:21:55Tom Bilyeu?

  Now, how do you, so, one, I hope that people actually listen to you, because people do discount themselves, they do things, or have things happen to them that they're not proud of, that they think define who they are, and they never allow themselves to bring something beautiful to the world again, which is an absolute tragedy. So if the one is bringing this new way of thinking, if the person that thinks they are the most disqualified is able to channel that and make somebody's life better, how do they turn that into like something concrete that they can articulate? How do they turn it into a habit? Like, what is that process of going from, you know, Neo waking up and realizing that he can do something to actually dodging bullets?

• 1:22:38Ed Mylett?

  I think one of the things is the way that we approach time. This is something that almost no one talks about anymore. So I feel like you may be behind. You may actually be behind your destiny right now. Like, maybe you're not on pace. In fact, I think most people watching this, listening, will say, "I am behind on achieving my destiny." I'm not exactly sure what it is, but I feel like it's slipping. I feel like I'm behind. So you better figure out time differently. And you can bend and manipulate time to your advantage. The most stupid, antiquated, ridiculous concept on planet Earth today very, very well may be that a day is 24 hours. It's so stupid. It's the dumbest thing ever. 24-hour days were contrived when there were no cars. There was no electricity.

• 1:23:23Ed Mylett?

  If I wanted to get you a message, I had to write something down if I could, send it on a horseback, hope you get it. That's insane. Never mind the internet. So what used to take hours, days, weeks, months, years to do can be done now in a millisecond in the internet or on our smartphones. Yet we measure the time the same way that guy did? That's bananas. That is so stupid. Yet everybody does it. And so I, about 25 years ago, went, "I'm not the most talented. I'm not the smartest, and I'm really not." And you've had guests on your show with IQs maybe 100 points higher than mine. This is the truth. I know a couple of them. I had them on my show. How in the world? I don't come from, you know, a whole track record of success, right? I don't have the perfect upbringing. How in the world am I gonna win? I gotta do things other people aren't willing to do,

• 1:24:07Ed Mylett?

  which I'm doing, that's the one more's, and I gotta fix the way I look at time. What would I need to believe about time? What would I need to believe? What would the question be? And so my days now are from 6:00 AM to noon. That's a day. It's six hours. And in that day, some days you just chill. But in that day, I'm gonna get the amount of productivity, faith, working out, fitness, money, business, you name it, in that day. We've all had a morning where we go, "I got more done this morning than I have in weeks." Well, why can't you do that every morning? So I measure time. I've compressed and condensed time. I've bent it. My day is 6:00 AM to noon, and I'm not crazy. You're crazy for thinking it takes 24 hours, just like some dude in a cave did 300 years ago. That's bananas that you still think that way, and it's unfair that people have taught you this. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 PM. That's day two. But what the cool thing is, at the end of day one,

• 1:24:51Ed Mylett?

  this clock goes off about noon every day, bro, and goes, "What did I just get done? What didn't I do? What do I need to be accountable for? What do I need to double my efforts?" Just like you do at the end of most days, right? And then the next day is 6:00 PM to midnight. And some of those are just fun days. Some days I chill, right? But some days, they're really super productive. What I've done now is I have changed and manipulated time. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, I'm gonna kick your butt. Stack it up over a year, you're toast. Stack it up over five years, my entire life is different than it would have been otherwise. And if you do this for about 90 of your traditional days that you think are, you will come back to me and go, "That profoundly impacted my life." And here's the other thing that happens. The world responds to you differently when you value your time like that. What is precious is valuable.

• 1:25:35Ed Mylett?

  That's why a diamond or this watch is way more expensive than the piece of paper that's written down there, because it's more scarce. When your time, when you interact with the world, is slightly more scarce, they respond to you as if you're more valuable. So you get more accountability, more productivity, more fun, more joy, and the world flips its response to you. All of a sudden, you become more valuable and precious to people when your time is different. And you'll get thousands more days in your life and live a much more blissful and happy life than the person who only gets 24 hours.

• 1:26:04Tom Bilyeu?

  Yeah, so this is a concept that I really hope people take seriously. So I'm often asked, like, how frequently I evaluate my progress? And I'm like, "Nah, it's probably about every three hours." And I think people are surprised to hear that it's not daily, it's not weekly, certainly not monthly or yearly. It's like, I'm constantly, okay, was I productive in this period of time?

• 1:26:24Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 1:26:25Tom Bilyeu?

  In the book, you reference it, if I remember correctly, as like squeezing the air out of all those gaps where most people are like, "Okay, you know, if I get this done in my day, then I'm fine." And if you took that and made your day those six hours, suddenly, it's like, okay, I need to be really efficient.

• 1:26:40Ed Mylett?

  What if you took that day, Tom, and then combined it with the power of doing one more, that mindset, and then chasing inconvenient things on top of it in those days?

• 1:26:47Tom Bilyeu?

  And on top of that, sprinkle the little self-love to make sure that you don't burn out.

• 1:26:50Ed Mylett?

  Little self-love, little reticular activating system, where we're doing repeated visualizations, where we're finding the things in those days that we need to be able to find. Uh-oh, you may just change your life.

• 1:27:01Tom Bilyeu?

  You know, I know exactly what happens. And you liken this to Kobe Bryant. And walk people through, like, so what Tim Grover has said about, like, his work ethic and extra practices and stuff, because it's like, I don't know how many times the successful people have to say the same things for people to get like, "Okay, cool, I get where this is going."

• 1:27:21Ed Mylett?

  You know, one really simple thing is this. You need to get in a bigger hurry. If I could just distill it down to something simple, you need to get in a bigger hurry. You're too casual. You're too slow. You walk too slow. You talk too slow. You think in terms of too much time. And if you would just speed up the pace, man, like, you know this, when you're around someone like Kobe, or Grover, or you, or anyone that kind of vibrates at a frequency that feels like success energy, it's faster. You don't have to talk faster. Many of our most favorite people talk much slower than you and I do, but they're just in a little bit of a bigger hurry. I'll give you a Kobe thing that's not in the book, though, that just for me and you, and everyone gets to listen. Kobe was scheduled to do my show six days after he passed.

• 1:27:59Tom Bilyeu?

  Oh, God.

• 1:28:01Ed Mylett?

  And deeper than that, I was with Kobe the week before he passed away. Let me tell you the story about this, because I think it's pretty profound, about the one more's. At a volleyball tournament, our daughters played volleyball together. And it's, if you have a kid who plays volleyball, you all are going, "Yep, I get what that is. These are long days and noisy days." So this thing starts about 8:00 AM. All the dads are there. The last match was 10:00 PM.

• 1:28:28Tom Bilyeu?

  Oh, God.

• 1:28:29Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, dude. And I'm the last dad in there, except this other guy in a black sweatsuit with white stripes on it. And he's about 6'6". And it's Kobe. And we've been around each other many times at these tournaments, we're the last of the two dads left. And so the tournament ends. His match was on a different end of the court than my daughter's was. Something happened. I have no idea who I did this, brother. I watched him this day. And I was on the other end, and I watched him. He had his baby in his left arm, his little one. And he was rubbing the back of his daughter that was playing. And literally, I went, "I don't hug Bella enough." Look how affectionate he is. It just stood out to me. And because it stood out to me, his outward affection, I watched him, bro.

• 1:29:14Ed Mylett?

  And I watched Kobe walk out of the gym that day with this baby and his arm around his other one. And I watched him walk out. And he obviously stood out because he was so tall. And I can picture him right now, Tom, walking out of that door for the last time. Six days later, he died. And I wonder, see, if you want to know the power of one more, it's when I take it from you, and you can't have it anymore. I wonder if someone would have whispered, "Kobe!" when he got in the car that day. "Six more days." How would that week maybe have been different for him? What would he have said? Who would he have loved? Who would he have reached out to? What would have mattered to him? How about the Saturday before? "Kobe, one more day." When he's getting on that helicopter.

• 1:29:59Ed Mylett?

  "Kobe, one more hour." See, it hits us when I say that. And there's a whisper happening that you can't hear. "Tom, eight more years, 18 more..." Whatever it is, there's a whisper. We forget, we're gonna die. Napoleon Hill says, "Begin with the end in mind." What if you did that with your life? What if you began with the end of your life in mind and worked it backwards? Bro, my favorite thing in the world was to golf with my dad. My favorite thing, man. We're both no good at golf. I put my hero in a golf cart with me for five hours, a foot away.

• 1:30:43Ed Mylett?

  And the conversations. Watch my dad walk a cut. Do you know what I would do, bro, for one more round of golf with my dad? One more time? "Hey, Dad, good putt." "Yeah, that was a good one, wasn't it, Eddie?" Put his arm on me, high five. You know what I would do for that? What would you, how would you act if you started to think about all the elements of your life, like Kobe's last six days? Kobe's one more day? Kobe's one more hour? Me getting that back with my dad? What if you started to look at the relationships you have in your life like it was the last time you had a conversation with him? The last time you get to hold Lisa's hand and look into her eyes, right? But how much more precious does she become? Maybe it's the last podcast, the last interview. How much more precious would it be? How much more engaged could we be?

• 1:31:28Ed Mylett?

  Engaged as we are? That next meeting? That conversation with, is it Gerson over here, right? That conversation with him, man? See, when we begin to distill downs and we realize, yeah, there's a power to one more, because they're not promised how many we have. And so that day with Kobe, just, it just burned it into my soul, man, when I watched him. And then to see, six days later, he was gone. That time with his family was so precious. And so I would just challenge everybody. If you want to know the power of one more, it's when I take it from you. And there's a power and there's a blessing that you get one more in your life. You're gonna get another chance to talk to Lisa. You're gonna get another great dinner with her. You're gonna get another show. Those listeners have another day to change their life. They have another opportunity to do one more.

• 1:32:11Ed Mylett?

  They have another opportunity to make their family proud of them. They still have more time. They don't just have one more day, probably, to be the one in their family. Life is beautiful. It's precious. And sometimes, we only have an appreciation for it in its absence. Sometimes, we only have an appreciation for the power of the one more's or the people in our lives when we imagine their absence. And so I would just ask everybody to consider that.

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