Bonus #156 - The Halkias Brothers Thanksgiving Special [PATREON PREVIEW]

The Halkias Brothers return for a very special Thanksgiving ep! You just stuffed your face, now go down to the basement with Uncle Stavvy, Uncle George and Daddy Nick while they share some of their favorite holiday traditions: talking about Korean BBQ, abusing Eldis, and playing with the newest addition to the Halkias family, Nick’s new baby, The Child. The bros help callers including a guy whose wife doesn’t want kids after going through a fitness journey spurred on by fertility concerns, and a woman who wants tips on what to do for her first Christmas away from family that’s unique and exciting. Follow Nick Halkias and his gym Odyssey Strength and Conditioning on his social media: https://www.instagram.com/nikostrength_ https://www.instagram.com/odyssey.strong ☎️ Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice! 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets ‼️ Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:01Speaker 00

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• 0:45Speaker 00

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• 1:02Speaker 01

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• 1:31Speaker 02

  It's Dobby, hello. Eldis, hello. Esteemed guest, it or yes, hello.

• 1:35Stavros Halkias?

  He's looking for the voice.

• 1:36Speaker 02

  My wife slash girlfriend. Six years dating.

• 1:40Stavros Halkias?

  Wife slash girlfriend.

• 1:41Speaker 02

  Now almost six years married. She was healthy, got unfit. And then when we started trying to have kids once married, was not able to do so.

• 1:50Stavros Halkias?

  Okay.

• 1:50Speaker 02

  So she decided to go on a fitness journey. She's in great shape now.

• 1:56Stavros Halkias?

  Okay.

• 1:56Speaker 02

  She gives me passive-aggressive comments about children while we're out sometimes, or just having an experience around another child. She goes, "Ugh, aren't you glad you don't have to deal with that?" And it kind of makes me sad, because the entire reason for her to lose the extra weight was for her body to be able to conceive children.

• 2:20Stavros Halkias?

  What the fuck?

• 2:21Speaker 02

  And I don't want to sound like

• 2:22Stavros Halkias?

  My wife is a cow that I breed. And I finally got my livestock in order. And now it doesn't want kids? What the fuck are you talking about? I mean, look, I get it. Anyway, let's let him finish, I guess.

• 2:36Speaker 02

  I appreciate her struggle. I appreciate the fact that she has gone through all this and now is in a healthy place.

• 2:46Speaker 02

  But it was always kind of an understanding that we were gonna have kids. I want to be a dad. I'm thirty eight. The clock's ticking, buddy. You know, I don't want to be fifty with a ten year old, you know? And we're almost there.

• 3:00Speaker 04

  Sounds like he don't want kids bad enough.

• 3:03Speaker 02

  How do I broach the subject to her? I'm not looking at seven ultimatum. I'm not leaving her, no matter what. I'm not saying it's gotta be kids or I gotta find another broad. That's not, that's not the argument.

• 3:16Stavros Halkias?

  This guy's cool.

• 3:17Speaker 02

  But in your vast wisdom, how do I communicate to her? I appreciate the fact that you're living your life now and you're happy with how you are.

• 3:31Speaker 02

  But remember when we wanted to have kids and, and now you're in great shape and that might be hard? And I want to be sensitive about this? But at the same time, like.

• 3:43Speaker 04

  He said he was gonna keep this brief.

• 3:44Speaker 02

  Procreation feels like the right move.

• 3:48Stavros Halkias?

  Why?

• 3:49Speaker 02

  For lack of a better explanation, like.

• 3:52Stavros Halkias?

  There's no.

• 3:52Speaker 02

  I want to share this life with my family that I haven't made yet.

• 3:59Speaker 02

  I don't know if that sounds selfish, but.

• 4:01Stavros Halkias?

  No, it's not selfish.

• 4:02Speaker 02

  To you.

• 4:03Stavros Halkias?

  Okay, look.

• 4:03Speaker 02

  Thank you so much. Love you. Bye bye.

• 4:05Stavros Halkias?

  Here's the thing. I do cut. I mean, look, we're playing with an awesome baby right now. You know what I mean? I, I get where this guy's coming from.

• 4:13Speaker 04

  I, the whole time, I'm like, what the fuck is this guy talking? I'm like mesmerized by my son.

• 4:17Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 4:17Speaker 04

  My eight month old baby.

• 4:19Stavros Halkias?

  So, okay, here's the thing. His, the way he phrased it, the, the problem in this relationship is so clearly their communication. Cause he's not. If he's like, hey, I thought we, I thought we were like going, we were gonna do this to have kids. And at some point, did that change?

• 4:39Stavros Halkias?

  No, it's okay.

• 4:42Stavros Halkias?

  I like so look. His attitude is a little strange, but look, I get it. If you wanted kids and you thought you and your wife were on the same page. And then she started doing stuff to have kids, but then at some point changed her mind. I think the biggest problem here is that there seems to be a lack of communication. Somewhere along the way, you thought, oh, she's doing this to have kids. And maybe that's how she started.

• 5:09Speaker 04

  Right, yes.

• 5:10Stavros Halkias?

  And maybe she changed her mind too. And maybe those comments are sort of. But also you've never directly talked about it. So this woman might think like, oh, I guess we don't want to have kids anymore. I'm glad I had the like, he's not really bringing it up. And she might even be insecure and being like, aren't you glad we don't have kids? And maybe she even wants, you know, like, you don't know until you have the conversation.

• 5:32Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 5:33Stavros Halkias?

  That's the weirdest part about this is you're, he's clearly resentful and mad.

• 5:37Speaker 04

  So you think he just assumed she got in shape so they could have kids?

• 5:41Stavros Halkias?

  I mean, maybe they had the conversation at the very be, I could see it being a thing where. That's why she started it, but then maybe I could see a world where she was like, whoa, this is really rewarding. I'm having a, I feel better with my body.

• 5:55Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 5:55Stavros Halkias?

  Maybe she's at the point where she doesn't want to have kids with her. Maybe she's like, I worked so hard to get my body at this place. I don't want to have kids. And I also, I empathize with that. The guy doesn't have to fuck his body up to have a kid. So if your wife starts feeling that way, and that doesn't even preclude having kids, by the way. You could adopt, you could, you know what I mean?

• 6:14Speaker 04

  Absolutely.

• 6:14Stavros Halkias?

  You could fuck it. There's, there's a lot of options. But the problem here is just. You haven't talked about it. You're getting so resentful that you clearly are mad at your, at your wife. And it's like. And you said it yourself, you don't want to leave her. So there's a, you have to have this conversation. I'm, I wonder how old she is, cause he's talking about himself in terms of the clock is ticking. Yeah, right. No, it's not. It's like if you, you wanna have kids so bad. Give your wife some time though, like let her maybe enjoy this newfound level of fitness, this, you know, this, you know, the, maybe she's more confident, uh, from like a body image perspective. Yeah. Cause pregnancy just- She could be trying to cheat on you, she could be getting ready to cheat on you now that she's hot and you're not-

• 6:58Speaker 05

  Maybe she's already getting fucked down. Maybe she's already sucking dick all over the place, all over town. She's going to the gym. She's going ape shit.

• 7:13Stavros Halkias?

  But I really think it comes down to just talk to, I mean, literally have, this is such a, you could be like, hey, do you want, maybe the next time she makes a comment, or even just like, hey, you know, it seems like your attitude towards having kids has changed, like, are you not interested in this?

• 7:28Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 7:28Stavros Halkias?

  This is your wife, dude. These are, this is the person you're supposed to have these conversations with, and you clearly are, you, maybe you're not a confrontational guy, whatever, but we hear it in your voice, this thing that happens where you're just, because you're too much, and I've been here, you're too much of a coward to have a hard conversation, so you grow resentful of the person that you have, should be having that conversation with, cause you blame them instead of yourself. Right. You know, and so,

• 7:58Speaker 05

  That's facts.

• 7:59Stavros Halkias?

  You just gotta have this conversation, you know, you just have to be like, hey, what are we doing here? I can't, do you not want kids? I want kids. Are you totally gone on it? Is it about your body? Is it about something else? Until you talk to her, you don't really know. Yeah. You know? Um, and you can use one of these comments as an excuse, I guess, but you could also be like, hey, are we like, you could just check in, like, so is this so, are we not, do you, do you not wanna have kids? It is as simple as that, honestly. Yeah. I mean-

• 8:26Speaker 05

  Or, let's hear it, George. Bang the table really hard, say, who is he? Who is he? Don't fucking lie. Who is he? Don't lie. You've changed a lot. Not just the weight. Towards me, towards everything we've built.

• 8:43Speaker 05

  We discussed having kids. Now all of a sudden you don't want kids.

• 8:48Stavros Halkias?

  That's a good way, cause that way you show you're in control, you're not a man to be trifled with. That's smart too. And what better day to do that? Then today Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving, yeah. So the second you listen to this on Thanksgiving, rut, no matter what the vibes are, it may have been a nice relaxing day, switch it up and do exactly what George just told you to do. Good luck.

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• 9:51Speaker 00

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• 10:34Speaker 00

  coolness, pain, or color changes in fingers and toes. Common side effect is nausea. For full prescribing information, call 1-833-4-NUR-TAC or visit Nurtac.com. All right, back to your podcast, playlist, or whatever's keeping you going today.