Fear Is Running Your Life. Here's How To Break Free - Erwin McManus

Erwin McManus is a pastor, author, and speaker. Fear is so ingrained in our minds that we forget it’s not our natural state. So how do we break free from it, understand ourselves better, and push past fear to become our best selves? Expect to learn why people find it so hard to know and show themselves, why so many people are negative at a default, how to not get paralysed by overthinking, how do you live a courageous life, how to overcome fear and how to stop being so afraid, the biggest differences between being lazy and tired, why we’re so mean to ourselves, the most common myths people should stop believing immediately, balancing the tension between humility and confidence, and much more… - 00:00 The Danger of a Lack of Self-Belief 02:32 How to Know if You’re Ruled By Fear 09:11 Favourite Stories of Overcoming Fear 13:42 Why Negative Emotions Stick More Than Positivity 20:04 The Poor Mental States of People We Admire 24:04 How to Overcome Overthinking 27:18 Seeing Fear as a Trap 40:47 The Lived Experience of Reframing Fear 43:35 Difference Between Self-Love & Overcoming Fear 51:04 Balancing High Expectations With Being Kind to Yourself 1:00:08 Where to Find Erwin - Get access to every episode 10 hours before YouTube by subscribing for free on Spotify - https://spoti.fi/2LSimPn or Apple Podcasts - https://apple.co/2MNqIgw Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - https://chriswillx.com/books/ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic here - https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch in the comments below or head to... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/

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• 0:00Chris Williamson?

  You said you've limited your impact in the world because of a lack of self-belief. Tell me the story then.

• 0:08Speaker 01

  Well, you know, I think when I was young, I had the view that some people were just naturally heroic. And some people were just naturally born cowards and I fell into that category. You know, if I look back when I was young, I was afraid of everything and some of it was experiential. You know, my, we got attacked by a dog. So I was afraid by, you know, terrified by dogs all my life. I, we, I had a seatbelt break on a roller coaster and almost flew off the, the, uh, the roller coaster. And so I was afraid of, of roller coasters or anything fast. And, and I began realizing that I began accumulating fear and the problem with fear is that it doesn't stay in a category. It, it, it permeates throughout your, your whole soul, your psychological wellbeing.

• 0:49Speaker 01

  And I began realizing that I was more defined by fear than I was by almost any other emotion. And I, and I didn't really have a strategy. We didn't have what we have today. So many ways of accessing insight and ways of understanding mental structures and mind shifts. But so I had to make my own decision. I had to decide how would I affect this? How would I change this? And so I developed a strategy to use fear as my, um, my life compass. Whenever I felt fear, I just moved toward it. Whenever I felt afraid of something, I actually moved more aggressively in that direction. And what I discovered by the time I'd finished my twenties is that, uh, there were actually international magazines and documentaries that were flying in to see what I was doing because they felt I was fearless.

• 1:34Speaker 01

  And I thought this is so ironic that I was being defined as someone who was fearless. And in fact, my, my favorite superhero is Daredevil, the man without fear. And it was because I iconically longed to become that person because I knew how my whole life was captured by fear. And so I learned how to take negative material and turn it to a positive asset. And I think that for me is the key is that I've lived a pretty adventurous life, traveled to nearly a hundred countries, gone to some of the most dangerous places in the world, you know, walked the streets of Damascus, you know, dropped into Pakistan and, and, uh, throughout the Middle East, different parts of the world that uh, very few people ever go to and very few people ever survive.

• 2:15Speaker 01

  And one of the most interesting things for me is that in those moments, I, I didn't feel captured by fear at all. And a huge part of that was because I'd learned how to take this emotion, this experience called fear, turned it into a positive fuel and used it as a way to motivate me to move forward in life.

• 2:30Chris Williamson?

  How can people work out if they are being ruled by fear in their life?

• 2:36Speaker 01

  Well, I don't think it's that difficult to teach. And I think most of us know just intrinsically that when we're afraid. But it's usually related to when we have a dream, an ambition, desire or goal. And we're more afraid of the consequences than we are the benefit. And so when we're paralyzed moving into our best view of ourselves or our future, that's when we know we're controlled by fear.

• 3:01Chris Williamson?

  Hmm. Yeah, the fact that the potential pitfalls are more terrifying than the potential outcomes are infusing. The fact that you've got this sort of running away from something that you don't want as opposed to running towards something that you do want. And the balance between those two energies is really interesting.

• 3:24Speaker 01

  Yeah. And one of the things we have to realize is that one of the things that's unique about human beings as a species is that we're interconnected to the future. Every other species, from the best that we can tell, is completely existential. They live in this moment. They're surviving the Serengeti, you know, they're, you know, they're surviving the hunt and, and the fight for survival. But human beings are inseparable from a relationship to the past and the future. And when we live in the past, we tend to live a life of regret. But when we live in the future, we have two options. We have an option to either live a life that would be described as, as a life of faith or a life of fear, because the future is unknown. And, and from my perspective, it's uncreated. I, I'm not a fatalist.

• 4:10Speaker 01

  I'm not a scientific determinist that thinks everything is mathematically already predetermined. I think we have choice. That we have creative agency as human beings. And so then we're connected to this obscure, mysterious space called the future. And how we engage that, whether we have a sense of optimism and hope, or whether we're filled with fear and trepidation, that will shape the way we experience life in the present.

• 4:34Chris Williamson?

  You see faith as the opposite of fear?

• 4:37Speaker 01

  I do. And if, you know, if faith is a hard word for someone, I'd say optimism is, uh, is, I think, you know, every, every highly spiritualized word has a very non-highly spiritualized word, but we all have them. And, you know, some people, well, I don't, I don't, I don't believe in faith. And I go, well, you psychologically live by faith. I'm getting on a plane today to go to Salt Lake City. I'm putting my faith in that pilot. I'm hoping he had a great day. I'm hoping if he's married, his, his wife really loved him, or his husband really, her husband really loved him, and that he's not depressed. I, every day, I'm putting my faith in something that's outside of my control. And I'm working from a framework that everything is going to move in my favor.

• 5:23Chris Williamson?

  Let's do some inversion for a second. Imagine that you have somebody who is, they've maybe got a bit of a predisposition for fear, but you want, you wanted to get them to spend their life being as fearful as possible, to be as terrified, as trapped, as paralyzed as they could be. What are the things that you would get them to do? What are the ways you would get them to think? What are the sort of mindsets that you would get them to embody?

• 5:47Speaker 01

  Ironically, if you want someone to be paralyzed by fear, you don't get them to do the thing they fear. Because it's the fear of the, of the reality that's more powerful than the reality itself. And so my fear of roller coasters was far more powerful than the roller coaster when I finally got on it. My fear of, of dogs was far more powerful than the reality of dogs once I started spending time with them. And so the irony is if you want to be trapped and paralyzed in your fear, stay away from the thing you fear.

• 6:23Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, there's a lyric from a Beto song, the first song on the new album, that says, "All my worries were a waste of time." I've got that written, I've got that written on a post-it note above my desk at the moment. But, you know, whether it's, we suffer more in imagination than reality, whatever trite, you know, version of this you want to sort of re-bring up. But it is wild how much worse our minds are able to make anything than even the worst that reality would be able to deliver to us. It was so, all of the extremes, everything's maxed out at 10. The way that people are going to, the way that people are going to judge us, the lack of forgiveness that the world's ever going to give us, the, the way that they're going to know, the way that it's going to define us, the way we're never, never going to be able to get over it, so on and so forth. And then- Usually that thing doesn't come to pass.

• 7:08Chris Williamson?

  And even if by some obscene chance it does come to pass, it's nowhere near as bad as we think and we get over it more quickly and nobody else really cares that much. So yeah, I think the fear of fear is the biggest one.

• 7:21Speaker 01

  Absolutely. I don't know if the studies still hold true, but so many of the studies show that the number one fear people have is public speaking, which I think is amazing because when you're, when you speak in public, even if you're terrible, usually no one shoots you. You know, there, there's, there's, there are no physical or violent ramifications. You just have a bad moment. You know, I mean, I, I've been speaking for forty five years and, and early on, which is so ironic. I actually began speaking in the middle of government projects and middle of drug cartels and the middle of gang bangers and assassins and criminals. And so I actually had a genuinely dangerous environment. So the fear of speaking was way down the list.

• 8:06Speaker 01

  It was the fear of surviving those twenty, thirty minutes that was actually more real for me.

• 8:10Chris Williamson?

  Okay.

• 8:11Speaker 01

  And, and, you know, and I've had the opportunity to speak in front of maybe eighty, a hundred thousand people in, in a moment. And what's interesting to me is when I'm thinking about myself, I become consumed by fear. When I'm thinking about others, the fear is completely gone. And so there's an, there's a, an interesting relationship to fear is about self-preservation.

• 8:35Speaker 01

  And, and early on in my life, I made a decision that I would not make my life goal to exist, but to live. When you live a life of fear, you're moving towards safety and security. You're, you're moving toward preservation. You're moving towards survival. But you make every decision that will extract from you life. You will not be filled with hope or joy or excitement or adventure. And, and I do think that we have to make a decision to either exist or live. And that's the difference between, in a sense, fear and faith.

• 9:10Chris Williamson?

  Who are some of your favorite people that you've either worked with or people from history or stories that have sort of embodied this desire to overcome fear in their lives?

• 9:23Speaker 01

  Well, it comes to my mind right away, and this is sort of an ironic moment because I was invited years ago to go to the Academy of Arts and Sciences, and I watched the premiere of Braveheart. I had no idea what this movie was. This was way before there was any publicity or trailers. And I'm watching this movie about William Wallace, and I end up writing about William Wallace in one of my books and going to Scotland and kind of like digging up some of the history there and Robert the Bruce and all that, you know, era of history. But what struck me is that moment when Mel Gibson shouts out freedom and gives up his life. I had this exhilarating moment and this

• 10:07Speaker 01

  incredible moment of awareness. It felt like the most exciting moments of my life. And I had this thought, I cannot let the most exciting moment of my life be when I'm sitting in a chair watching someone else's life.

• 10:24Speaker 01

  And so when you, you know, when you ask me, who are the people I admire the most, I think ironically, most of the people who have motivated me were in stories, were in film, were in novels, were in science fiction. And I think that was what really began to instigate inside of me a desire to not simply read about other people's story, but to live one.

• 10:46Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, there's this odd sense, a kind of like a, I don't know, like inspirational melancholy. I've got that before when, you know, you're looking at a story. I used to get this when I watched my friends' bands perform on stage. So I was friends with a bunch of like quite big bands and, you know, I'd go and see them play and it would be, you know, thousands of people, it's sold out and this adoring crowd. And I remember I'd be stood at the back of the room and I'd be looking at, you know, this person not only conducting their own music, but conducting a room. Filled with 3,000, 5,000 people and getting them to do this collective effervescence, getting them to dance the way that they wanted, getting the, if that person turned up in this way, the rest of the crowd reflected that back to them. I just remember seeing it as so competent,

• 11:31Chris Williamson?

  so admirable, so powerful. But then very quickly after that, it throws into harsh light the places that you're not doing that. So you have this odd sense of inspiration and melancholy happening at the same time. You say, oh, my God, that's so amazing. I'm so happy for my friend and I'm so inspired by what they do and I want to be more like that. But as soon as you get to the, I want to be more like that, you then begin to think, well, that's an ideal. And as soon as I posit an ideal, I find myself comparing myself to the ideal and by design, I find myself lacking. Oh, and the lack makes me feel like insufficiency and it makes me feel fear and it makes me feel inwardly turned and introspective and ruminative. And yeah, it's, it's odd how inspiration has a, it's a bit of a double edged sword in that way.

• 12:15Speaker 01

  It is, but one of the things I think is important to come to grips with is that human beings experience depression because we're the species that can imagine a better version of ourselves. You cannot be depressed if you cannot imagine a better version of yourself or a better life or a better world. And so the dissonance is the ideal we long for and the life we have. And I find the gravitational pull of that. So even with depression, I mean, I've struggled with depression. I struggled with it for a very young age. And I realized that, that I moved toward depression when I accepted this fallacy that I had no power to change my life.

• 12:59Speaker 01

  And so depression wasn't really about my state of being. Depression was about my belief that I could not move toward my ideal. And the moment I actually took any step in the direction of the person I wanted to become or the life I wanted to live, that depression was gone. Now it was replaced with exhilaration and excitement. And I hadn't even achieved anything yet. I was just moving in a direction and it changed my inner dynamic.

• 13:23Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, action is the antidote to anxiety is something that I wrote down in my twenties. And it's so true. You're not scared of the future when you're moving toward it, regardless of how slow it is, regardless of how kind of useless, or even in retrospect, how completely pointless the actions were that you took. There's something about that forward momentum that does help to fix it. I remember hearing you speak last year and you talked about a factory defect, the fact that every positive emotion flies through you and every negative emotion sticks to you. I want to dig into that.

• 13:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, you know, when I look at us as a complex human system, it is fascinating to me that all my positive emotions dissipate so quickly. And all my negative emotions stick with me. I mean, they stay with me long term. And you have to fight for those. And if you look at the gravitational pull of, let's say, character, it's astonishing to me that if I do nothing, I become the worst version of me. It would seem like I would just naturally, if I do nothing, I should just naturally become the best version of me, right? If I choose nothing, I should move toward hope, right? If I choose nothing,

• 14:33Speaker 01

  I should move toward love. If I choose nothing, I should move toward compassion and generosity and integrity. But when I choose nothing, I become the worst version of me. And so when you look at it, I think we actually are factory defects because when we choose nothing, we move toward depression. We move toward anxiety and stress. We move toward suicidal imaginations. We, when we choose nothing, we lose our integrity. We lose our generative nature. And the longer you choose nothing, you're choosing the worst version of you. And even when it comes to emotions. I've had incredibly exhilarating moments. Yesterday, I celebrated forty one years of marriage.

• 15:18Chris Williamson?

  Congratulations.

• 15:19Speaker 01

  And it's amazing to the same woman, and I say that somewhat hesitantly because she's not the same woman. She's changed at least thirty to forty times. So, and, and, and so I always say, if you want to be with someone else, just stay with her. She's, she's going to change on you. And forty one years of marriage, and in those, we've had some incredibly exhilarating moments, some beautiful moments. And those moments become memories, but the, the experience of those emotions, they pass very quickly. But if you have a fight, those emotions stay with you a long time. And, and so we have this incredible, you know, beautiful memory of our honeymoon. But two days ago, she threw away my apple turnover. And

• 16:06Chris Williamson?

  Oh, my God, do not touch a man's apple turnover.

• 16:08Speaker 01

  You know, and, and it was on our anniversary. And I'm like, hey, I bought this apple turnover at the really great place. And I bought you something too. And she goes, I threw it away. And I realized all these negative emotions. It was like the world was just absolutely being destroyed by Thanos because she threw away my turnover. There's something about negative emotions. They cause an instantaneous reaction. They go expansively and they go deep and they stay with us. Which is why when you're in therapy, you're not working through, I don't know how to stop forgiving. I, I, I don't know how to stop having optimism about the future.

• 16:52Speaker 01

  You're struggling with, I don't know how to forgive. I, I'm holding on to this bitterness. I, I don't know how to let go of this past hurt. Negative emotions stay with us. Positive emotions flow through us. And what we have to realize, and, and to me, it makes perfect sense because there's nothing worth achieving in life that doesn't take hard work.

• 17:16Speaker 01

  So why should we think the best version of us would not take hard work? And so you can only become the best version of you. I can only become the best version of me. If I'm willing to put the work in to become that person. If I don't want to put the work in, I become the worst version of me.

• 17:36Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, there's no seminars on how to be more depressed or how to have less confidence. All of those things come so easily, so naturally. We don't need any more coaching. We're already black belts.

• 17:46Speaker 01

  Yeah, we're naturals.

• 17:48Chris Williamson?

  Yeah. Yeah, it's wild. It's wild. I wonder, you know, I wonder how universal this is. The different people have different constitutions and different set points. But for a pretty big cohort of people, this is the thing that they're going to be battling with. It's the fact that for some reason, they seem to always be swimming against the tide. When they're trying to get themselves toward a good state, toward a hopeful state, towards something that appropriates optimism or abundance, or a vision for themselves that isn't based around fear or around concern or worry or anxiety. And yeah, that being able to somehow reprogram that, being able to step in and fact check your own mind is, uh, I think the battle that a lot of people have got to contend with.

• 18:32Speaker 01

  Yeah. And when you say this may not affect everyone, what's interesting to me, Chris, is the people who experience this the most are the people who experience the most success.

• 18:42Speaker 01

  You would think it'd be the other way around.

• 18:44Chris Williamson?

  The people for whom a good mental state comes the easiest are the ones that end up getting to the highest point.

• 18:49Speaker 01

  Yeah, and it's not. It's the other way around. It's because success tends to have something that pushes you and something that pulls you. And I find this dynamic over and over again. People who are highly successful have something that's pushing them, a fear of poverty, a fear of insignificance, a fear of not being loved, a fear of not having value or having worth. And it's, it's like a dark, a darkness that, that eats away at them and they're, it pushes them to accomplishment. And, and then hopefully there's something that also pulls them, a, um, a desire to make a difference in the world, a vision of a better humanity. An opportunity to alleviate human suffering or to make life better for other people.

• 19:31Speaker 01

  And what you, what I look for when I'm coaching a lot of young entrepreneurs is has the pull become more powerful than the push? Because when the push is more powerful than the pull, they're they're positioned for self destruction and for things to fall apart in their life. And so the irony is almost the less determined you are to become the the best version of you, the highest expression of yourself, the less aware you're going to be of the tension in your soul.

• 20:04Chris Williamson?

  Isn't it fascinating that the people that we admire the most have got the least admirable internal states? You know, the people that we all look up to, that are the best known, the most notorious, the most successful, richest, famous, whatever it might be, on average, are going to be the ones that you wouldn't trade places with the inside of their mind?

• 20:22Speaker 01

  And I think that's something we haven't really talked about enough in the world. Because we we keep admiring and idealizing people's outcomes rather than their essence. And what ends up happening is that we want their outcomes and so without even being aware of it, we also embrace their essence. And then we come to a place where we succeed and we hate ourselves.

• 20:47Chris Williamson?

  Hmm. Is there a level of success that you get to where you don't deal with overthinking?

• 20:53Speaker 01

  No, I haven't found it. And and in fact, it's really interesting. I was a there's a a minor league football league called the USFL. And I was working with that league. And the number one question I got from the quarterbacks and the different players were completely on overthinking. And that same week I was meeting with Sean McVay, the head coach of the Rams. And I had the the privilege to work with him. And I was telling him the story. I said, Hey, Sean, you know, on Monday I was working with the USFL and and they were asking about overthinking and I'm wondering, is the difference between a a player at your level and a player at their level that your players don't overthink? He goes, no. The number one thing I have to deal with is overthinking.

• 21:38Speaker 01

  And and I moved on to start talking about his life and where he was at. And he goes, no, no, go back. What did you tell them about overthinking? And I realized there is no level of achievement where you break through that that that dilemma of overthinking. And what's interesting about overthinking is we never overthink positive scenarios. Yeah, I'm really not overthinking, oh, I wonder if my wife's gonna love my gift too much, or, you know, and, you know, I'm not overthinking, I, I, I hope this podcast goes better than, you know, oh, I'm so worried, this can be better than I thought, right? And we're always overthinking negative scenarios. And, and so that's one of the things that I think is really important to realize is that almost the best way to counter overthinking is to begin to overthink positive scenarios.

• 22:24Speaker 01

  And, and realize, oh, no, this is, this is not my brain trying to solve a problem. This is my brain trying to control an outcome.

• 22:32Speaker 01

  And I do not have control of the outcomes.

• 22:38Chris Williamson?

  Yeah, it's strange to think that you don't get paralyzed by overthinking about positive outcomes, you only overthink about terrible ones. And, uh, yeah, again, if you were to say, well, it's the people that are the most positive that end up with the best, the best outcomes in life. So what, why are so many high achievers plagued by overthinking? They're not overthinking how well things could go. They're overthinking all of the different errors and potential vectors for weakness and that thing over there, you know, they're vigilant, they're permanently vigilant to all of the different ways that these things could go wrong.

• 23:09Speaker 01

  Yeah, overthinking could also be a superpower. Again, it's about taking negative material, turning it to positive energy or positive force. And so if you find yourself overthinking, go, all right, I'm gonna over, I'm gonna give myself, you know, 20 minutes to overthink and I'm gonna write down every potential scenario. And I'm gonna create a solution for every one of them, because all I need is one more solution than I have a problem. I mean, success is really just about having one more solution than you have a problem. You, you can't outthink your problems, but you can wonderfully, um, have a creative process of finding solutions. I, I think most of the solutions that I find in my life, I've already found way before the problem, because I've thought about the problem before I ever faced it.

• 23:52Speaker 01

  And so a lot of people think, oh, you're so good at making decisions in the last minute. And I go, no, I had this minute five years ago in the shower, when I was overthinking the possibility of this scenario.

• 24:03Chris Williamson?

  What uh, what is it that you're saying to the people that you work with, the athletes, et cetera, when they come to you and they say, I, I just cannot stop overthinking. I feel paralyzed by it. It consumes me. It's stopping me from enjoying the things that I want to do. It's stopping my performance from the very thing I'm supposed to be overthinking about. Now I have a relationship with my overthinking. I'm not even thinking about the thing. I'm thinking about my overthinking. How do you interject that? How do you pattern break it?

• 24:29Speaker 01

  Action. So the best way to overcome overthinking is immediate action. And what you find, I would say 90% of the time, when you're working through a scenario, your first solution is the solution you come to after overthinking and thinking through another hundred solutions. And then you come back to that first solution. That first solution is usually so clear. And then it's the consequences. And so what you have to ask yourself is, am I trying to mitigate the consequence? Or am I trying to find a solution? And if you go, I have, it's just like when you're playing quarterback. It's amazing to me how, when

• 25:10Speaker 01

  you're watching like a Joe Burrow or a Josh Allen, you know, or Patrick Mahomes, but you're finding someone who can make your decisions really quickly. I mean, that's the thing to me about like watching Tom Brady. It's how fast he makes his reads and he makes a pass. And he may throw to the, his second option and his fourth option ends up being wide open. He doesn't worry about that. He finds the first option that's open. What you find with quarterbacks who have incredible athletic ability, but they don't seem to have a decisiveness, is that they end up rolling out of the pocket to create more time for themselves because they missed an earlier opportunity that was actually there. You know, isn't it, it's kind of amazing when you're watching something like pro football.

• 25:51Speaker 01

  And some quarterbacks seem to never have a receiver open. And, and other quarterbacks seem to be able to throw their receivers open. And it's, to me, this is the thing with overthinking. Action is what destroys overthinking. Move forward, make a choice, make it fast. And because your brain Only listens to one language and that's action. And it's even true when it comes to personal life change. You know, it's, you know, we've moved into 2025 and, you know, you can have all these different resolutions and all these different goals and I can tell myself, this is the year at 66 that I'm going to get in the best shape of my life, you know, and this is the year I'm going to make these decisions, these choices.

• 26:33Speaker 01

  But the people in my life, if I've made those resolutions before, they know I'm lying. Even if I don't know I'm lying, they know I'm lying because they've heard it before. But you know who really knows I'm lying? My brain. My brain knows I'm lying because it's heard me say this over and over and over again. The only way my brain is ever convinced I'm not lying is action. The moment I act differently, my brain is now hearing a language that has integrity. And it's the same way with overthinking. I say, look, trust your instincts. If you've achieved a level of excellence or of greatness or competency, your first instinct is probably the right one. And then if it doesn't work out, you have a better chance of succeeding the next time than you do with overthinking.

• 27:18Chris Williamson?

  It's interesting sort of bringing it back to the fear thing that fear doesn't keep you safe, it's keeping you trapped. It feels like it's keeping you safe, but what it's actually doing is it's keeping you trapped and being trapped, the paralysis is precisely the thing that's going to keep you fearful.

• 27:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's why I love describing it this way, that your freedom is on the other side of your fear. Because if you're afraid of heights, you stay low. If you're afraid of people, you stay alone. If you're afraid of the dark, you stay in the light. Your fear establishes the boundaries of your freedom. And so when you're defining your fears, you're actually defining your personal boundaries. And I'm absolutely convinced that the freedom we all long for is on the other side of our fears. And our fears becomes a psychological boundary that holds us captive and tells us that it's too dangerous to go there. But the moment we go there, we realize, oh my goodness, you know, this is what I've been

• 28:18Speaker 01

  dreaming for of all my life. Yeah, I grew up incredibly shy and reclusive and introverted. I was in a psychiatric chair by the time I was 10 years old, Chris. And

• 28:32Speaker 01

  You know, being tested for for um mental, you know, disabilities and uh I was a straight D student, first to 12th grade. My English teacher, last day of high school, asked me if I thought about going to college. I said, maybe. She said, you will never make it. I didn't go to school right away. I just I work construction. I was a carpenter. I worked as a lumberjack. You know, I I made pizzas, flipped burgers. I I, you know, I had no direction, no future in my life. And and a huge part of that was this fear that I could never accomplish anything meaningful. And so what I ended up doing is I I did nothing. So that there was no proof that I was not good at anything.

• 29:10Speaker 01

  And and what I had to really begin to realize is that fear was the debilitating element in my soul. And and I had this very odd kind of experience. Years later, as an adult, my son was around 15 years old. He wanted to meet my stepdad that he'd never met. Um, that's where I had my name, McManus. And we flew across the country, tracked him down. I hadn't seen him in um almost two years, and almost 20 years. And and he said to my son, um, I don't know why he said this. He goes, I don't know what your dad told you, but he was just average. He goes, I don't know if he, you know, he was talking about athleticism and sports, different things. He goes, you know, I I don't know what he told you. No, his brother was exceptional, but he was just average.

• 29:55Speaker 01

  And I remember um saying to him, Dad, I don't know what you think I would tell him. I I I was just average. And as I was leaving,

• 30:04Speaker 01

  what really hit me was he was absolutely right.

• 30:09Speaker 01

  I hid in the average. The one way to remain invisible in life is to be average. And I I was trying to to cover all my insecurities and all my my self doubt by just being average, because if you become extraordinary, you now become the target of other people's critique or criticism. Or, you know, evaluation. And one of the choices I had to make in my own life is realizing I I I want to make a difference in the world. I want to do something that matters. And and I remember I had an uncle who drove me to uh college, about 15 hour drive. And he saw me years later, goes, hey, do you talk now?

• 30:53Speaker 01

  And he didn't mean for a living. He meant, do I actually talk? He goes, I drove you 15 hours. You never said a word. I was so introverted. No one would have ever guessed. I would end up speaking to millions of people around the world. And what I can tell you, Chris, is that what shifted for me wasn't that I wasn't afraid to walk up on a platform. What shifted for me was I didn't walk in that platform for my ego. And I didn't walk in that platform for my, for my need or search for self-worth. But I wanted to actually help people find freedom from the fears that had held me back. And I, and, and I looked at myself and I thought, if I've been trapped in fear at

• 31:35Speaker 01

  such a profound level, and have found my way out, I'm convinced most of humanity is trapped in fear. And if I can just help people find just enough self-belief to break out of that prison that they've created themselves by believing these things about themselves, then for me, my life has been well spent.

• 31:55Chris Williamson?

  Where does that self-belief come from, or that courage?

• 31:59Speaker 01

  For, for me, it came really deeply rooted in what later I found it as a faith. You know, I grew up irreligious. I didn't have any, any spiritual contacts. I didn't know there was a God or believe in God. Um, you know, and, and when I was in my, when I was 20 years old and I was in college, I was studying philosophy and, and was just trying to find meaning in life. And I was on a desperate search to figure out whether my life had any significance. I, I, I was drowning in, in a personal nihilism that life had no meaning, that existence was just arbitrary, that human, um, action was,

• 32:42Speaker 01

  you know, was empty and hollow. And, and, and then to

• 32:50Speaker 01

  Consider this narrative that we're created by God and that we're created in his image. And that what gives God pleasure is for us to express goodness and to live a life of love and to elevate the value of other human beings. And for me, I found that in the person of Jesus. And what helped my self belief was this possibility. And, you know, I know you can have a lot of scientists and philosophers and, you know, and I'm just, for me, it's just very, very personal.

• 33:23Speaker 01

  The possibility that my life actually mattered was overwhelming to me. And I wish I could say I made this incredibly scientific, academic, you know, mathematical decision. It wasn't. It was for me more of a, um, God, you know, if you're out there and my life matters, I, um, I'm in, you know? I just want to make a difference in the world. I want to serve humanity. I want to help people live a life that's fully alive. And, um, and my self belief came in this conviction that my life wasn't about me, that my life had to be bigger than me and that I could actually shift the course of human history by living a life that expands love and hope and faith.

• 34:07Chris Williamson?

  What happened over time with your relationship to fear?

• 34:12Speaker 01

  Well, it was really kind of interesting because I was driving in through a city that was at that time, the highest murder rate, highest crime rate in the United States. And I was considering going down there and working on a project, but I was scared. I mean, out of my mind. And I'm borrowing my girlfriend, who is now my wife, Kim's yellow Pinto. So I'm in the hood in a yellow Pinto. I'm begging to be killed.

• 34:41Speaker 01

  And my heart is pounding against my chest. I'm 24 years old and I'm terrified. And I stopped the car in the middle of the street. And I'm kind of new in this whole faith thing. And I just started reading the Bible and I kind of stopped and prayed. I said, God, I can't come down here if I'm scared to death to get out of the car. And all these people of faith were giving me these great verses that were so encouraging, you know, and but none of those came to my mind. There's a particular statement in the scriptures where it says, "To live is Christ and to die is gain." And I had this deep sense in this moment that said, Erwin, if you'll just die right now,

• 35:27Speaker 01

  I'll take you on a life journey that only dead men can walk.

• 35:33Speaker 01

  And in that moment, I just, I had a personal funeral.

• 35:38Speaker 01

  And I told myself, I am dead to all my fear, to my existence, and to my doubts. And I spent the next 10 years working in the middle of drug cartels, walking into houses or projects owned by cartels, Uzi, machine guns everywhere, cocaine stacked to ceilings. And I can tell you, Chris, and I never, I never felt fear. Because they couldn't, I sat across from a guy who sent me a letter in prison telling me he would kill me the moment he got out of prison. And when he got out of prison, I went and found him and walked into the room he was in.

• 36:15Speaker 01

  And it changed the way I could approach life because you couldn't take anything from me. And then 40 years later, I had stage four cancer. And I had prostate, bladder, and lymph node cancer that had been undetected and had metastasized. And had six and a half hour surgery, not knowing if I would live. And the craziest thing in that season, Chris, I never felt fear one time. And my, my family will tell you this, that, um, and the reason is because fear became my ally. It could take nothing from me. I had given it everything. And, and I'm 66 now.

• 36:59Speaker 01

  And every time I move into a new decade, I find myself strangely more fearless. And in fact, my family, they asked me if I would just slow down or be a little more cautious or, you know, and, and I'm like, why? The older I get, the less life you can steal from me. You know, and, uh, you know, and, and, and I've been in the most dangerous, violent, fragile environments in the world, and I walked out of those. There used to be students who would put money on every day, what day I would be assassinated.

• 37:33Chris Williamson?

  You had your own Deadpool.

• 37:34Speaker 01

  I did. And, and you know, I'm looking at it now, I go, what kept me safe was my lack of fear of death. Well, this conviction that, uh, you couldn't take anything from me. And even this killer who told me he was gonna kill me when he came out of prison, looked at me and he was so confused by me and he said, you and me are the same. And, uh, which we're nothing alike, but, uh, he said, I'm radical for evil and you're radical for God. And, uh, and I found ironically, safety on the streets because this guy sent the word out that if somebody touched me, he would kill them.

• 38:12Speaker 01

  And just for respect for the lack of fear. And I think every human being is desperately trying to figure out how to be alive. We're all trying to figure out how to break out of the malaise of existence. And to be able to, to just drink deeply of this experience called life and,

• 38:31Speaker 01

  and I, and I want my life to be proof that that's possible. And I think that's what all of us long for.

• 38:37Chris Williamson?

  Can you tell me more about the relationship with this guy, this criminal?

• 38:42Speaker 01

  Well, his name was William Westfall, so he's a real human being. And he had gone to prison for slitting his girlfriend's brother's throat. But the guy did not die, but it had cut off his vocal cords. And when he was in prison, his family had, had, um, come to faith. And he felt that I had infringed on his territory.

• 39:02Speaker 01

  So he sent me a few notes while he was in prison, letting me know that when he got out of prison, he was going to end my life. And it's always nice to know someone's thinking of you, right?

• 39:13Speaker 01

  And so when you

• 39:14Chris Williamson?

  I like a letter as much as the next guy.

• 39:16Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, you know, back then people did write, you know, and and when he got out of prison, I decided I didn't want to be walking down the street and fear that this guy's gonna come out of a corner. So I just decided to go find him. And I knocked on the project door where he was staying. And there was probably 20 people in there. And the moment I walked in, everyone ran out, and it was just me and him. And he pulled out the switchblade because he was known for, um, he was a white guy who was really good with a knife, which was which made him very unique. And, um, he sat across from me, he goes, this is the same knife I slit his throat with. And he goes, police never got it, he just laughed. And, and, um, and, you know, I just began to have a conversation with him. I said, you

• 39:59Speaker 01

  know, you're out of prison, but you're not free. Behind every corner is somebody waiting to kill you. You're living a life of fear. And, and I talked to him about how his life could change. He wasn't interested, you know, and, um, he wasn't interested in God, he wasn't interested in faith, but he was fascinated by someone who was in a fight of him. And, and I, and I actually think he was fascinated by someone who was fully alive. Well, he was living a life of fear and violence. And then, um, not much after that, he was trying to show choke his girlfriend to death, and she took a pair of scissors and killed him. And, um, not every story ends up with a good ending, you know, so that's the story of my friend, Bill.

• 40:44Chris Williamson?

  Wow.

• 40:45Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 40:47Chris Williamson?

  Just going through more of that sort of fear setting, you're about to go and speak on stage as somebody that was an introvert as a kid and wouldn't speak on a 15 hour car ride, you're sat opposite somebody that's got a switchblade out, who's sent you multiple letters saying that they're going to kill you. What's happening inside of you? What's the reframe? What's the body feel like? What's the mind feel like? What is it that you're saying to yourself? Because, you know, a lot of people will like the idea of this, like the idea of fearing less and being fearless. And yet, they step into a situation like that and they're just, you know, overcome with this wave, this tidal wave that they can't stop.

• 41:27Speaker 01

  Yeah, I'm not recommending my life to anyone in that regard. And I'm not saying that even my choices are always the wisest. And, but what I would say is that Whenever you look back on your life and you know your life has been informed and fueled by fear, you never feel that you've lived your life to the fullest. So what I would say to someone is adrenaline is natural. Fear, when people say you shouldn't fear, I'm like, you know, if a lion is hungry and it's running at you, fear is the most reasonable emotion in life. And so I don't think you should be quote fearless in terms of the experience of that emotion.

• 42:09Speaker 01

  You just have to have mastery over your inner world and you have to have intention in your life that's bigger than consequences. And that for me has been the big question is because it's also in business, right? You know, and you know, I've started a lot of businesses in my life. I've been an entrepreneur for 40 years and I've lost millions and millions of dollars, which puts me in a very small group of people. You know, anyone can make millions, but you know, losing them, that takes a real art. And, and you know, and I wouldn't have been able to do that if I had let fear paralyze me. And so what I have always asked myself is would I do this even if it fails?

• 42:49Speaker 01

  And when I can say this is worth doing, even if it fails, I can move forward with so much intention and fear doesn't have mastery over my life. And I think the problem sometimes is we want to do things that succeed rather than things that are actually significant and meaningful for our lives. I don't, I don't really have like goals, the way other people have. You know, I don't have like financial goals. I'm not trying to make millions and millions of dollars. I'm not trying to buy, you know, mansions or airplanes. My life is really measured by is this worth my life? And if I fail, will I still find a deep sense of satisfaction that I tried this?

• 43:34Chris Williamson?

  Yeah. What's the line, draw this line between self-love, self-belief and overcoming fear? Do these things fit together? Are they exactly the same or is there something different going on?

• 43:45Speaker 01

  Well, there's definitely a difference between loving yourself and being in love with yourself. Right? And one is very healthy and one is narcissistic. And I, I think when you're in love with yourself, you refuse to look at yourself honestly and you lack self-awareness. But when you love yourself, you see your flaws, you see your faults, you see your shortcomings, you see, you know, where

• 44:12Speaker 01

  you're deficient, but you do not let that be the basis of your worth. And I, and I do think one of the significant shifts that has to happen in our lives is a lot of people are, are fighting for their worth. And they're, they're trying to succeed to prove their worth. It's so much better to accept your worth and to move from your worth rather than trying to move towards your worth. And what I would say to most people with about, when it comes to self-love is really loving yourself is about understanding your worth and value without having to accomplish anything else in life. This has been for me, an incredibly liberating thing. And, and again, my faith is deeply rooted to that.

• 44:55Speaker 01

  You know, the, the idea, Chris, that, you know, there, there is a God and he, that he sees me, values me and loves me without condition. Then I go, okay, if I'm love without condition, nothing I do expands that love, elevates that love or makes it more real. It's just there. And, and so now I can live my life from that worth, from that value, and it's incredibly liberating. And, and I think I understand in the small sense as a parent, you know, I, I have a, a son, Aaron and a daughter, Mariah and 36 and 33 and

• 45:33Speaker 01

  nothing they do changes or elevates or increases how much I love them. Now, I've been proud of them at different times, at different levels for different things, but it, but love is a different thing. I, I, I love Aaron and Mariah and that's the baseline. And if I'm capable of that, as a really flawed, broken human being, I'm actually convinced that that is the driving principle of the universe. And that that is really the essence of who God is. And so that's how I begin.

• 46:07Chris Williamson?

  Wouldn't it be lovely if we could love ourselves in the way that we quite easily love the people around us?

• 46:13Speaker 01

  It would, it would, I think it's harder to love ourselves when we're really honest about who we are. You know, and, but if you cannot love yourself, you cannot really fully love another human being. Because that human being is flawed too. And that human being is imperfect too. And if you're always trying to, in a sense, earn your own love,

• 46:37Speaker 01

  you're going to treat other people the same way. And I think one of the most liberating things in the world is to realize that love is not conditional. That if love exists at all, love is unconditional. And for me, that is like, that is a basis of everything I do in my life. I don't wake up in the morning going, I need to find a way to be loved. I don't wake up in the morning going, I gotta go earn my value. I do not wake up in the morning going, I gotta go prove my worth. I wake up in the morning going, I'm free. And I'm alive. And I get to choose and create. And this is going to be fun.

• 47:14Chris Williamson?

  One of my friends took a medium dose of mushrooms in Australia and sat on a rock. And this question came to him, which was, do people love you for who you are or for what you do? And it's a difficult question to answer because what we want is for people to love us for who we are. Because if people love us for what we do, it feels contingent and dependent and fragile and volatile. And like, if people love us for what we do, not for who we are, and we stopped doing what we do, the love would go away with it. But an even deeper question is, well, do you love you for what you do or for who you are? Because a lot of the time, I think we ask the world to show up for us in a way that we're not prepared to show up for ourselves.

• 47:57Chris Williamson?

  Saying, hey, I want you to love me for who I am, not for what I do. Meanwhile, my self-love will be contingent based on my performance today, not my character over time.

• 48:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, and I think that maybe there's a slight third option between loving you for who you are and for what you do. They love you for who you are to them.

• 48:18Speaker 01

  And, and that's why we end up putting on so many different personas and have so many different masks. And life can be so exhausting when you think that person loves you for who you are to them. And if that changes in any way, then that love changes as well. And yeah, I actually think one of the greatest achievements in life, Chris, is to come to a place where you accept your own imperfection and you love yourself, not based on your own evaluation of yourself, but on the fact that you have been created with value. You know, I mean, what is value anyway? I remember working with all these Wall Street investors and we're talking

• 48:59Speaker 01

  about economics. One guy said, you know, I only believe in economics, you know, and, and I said, well, I would agree as long as you believe that economics are just simply an assessment of value, that we human beings decide what something is worth. And he goes, yeah, no, I agree with that. And I mean, it's so random. We decide gold has value. We decide diamonds have value, right? We decide avocados have value, whatever, whatever it is, right? And, and, and, and those things change based on our own preferences or our own opinions or perspectives. But it's the same with human beings. You know, when a human being has value to us because they

• 49:41Speaker 01

  contribute something to us, then we consider them to have value. And if our personal value is based on what other people project our value is, we're slaves. We become absolutely captured by the opinion of other people. And that's why you can't let someone else decide whether your gold or diamonds or avocado, you have to decide your own value in life and go, I, I, I have value because I exist.

• 50:11Speaker 01

  And I have value because I am a unique human being. And, and I can work from that value and I can work from that love. And, and I don't actually know how you find that. And I admit my limitation. I don't know how you find that without a relationship with God. And I think it's a very difficult thing because it's ethereal. Like, what is the outside determiner that tells you your value? And, and, and that for me has like been so life transforming. To go, I know I have intrinsic value. I believe I've been created in God's image and likeness, but I also believe every human being is created in God's image and likeness and that every human being has intrinsic value.

• 50:53Speaker 01

  And so it's my responsibility and my privilege to treat every human being with that kind of value and that unconditional love.

• 51:03Chris Williamson?

  Just going back to that difference between our expectations and our performance. How do you come to think about how people can balance that high expectations with the things, with things that they need to be grateful for, with things that they do well? This sort of balance of pursuing perfectionism and also giving yourself grace when you fall short. I think this is kind of one of the curses of competent or high performing people.

• 51:29Speaker 01

  Yesterday, we, we have this space we call the arena where we do some coaching. It's a mastermind that connects around the world. And we talked about the tensions between gratitude and ambition. And, and, and so each one of these core like virtues, like humility and the tension with confidence. And then faithfulness with the tension of proactivity. Because there's some basic virtues that we want to have. We want to be people who are humble and want to be individuals who are grateful. But we also have these attributes we must have, which are ambition and confidence. And, and sometimes we confuse.

• 52:05Speaker 01

  Humility and confidence as in opposition with each other, when actually they they work in a in a in a very harmonic way. That when you're when you're truly humble, you have great confidence. Because you have a clear picture of yourself. And humility is not the same thing as a lack of of self-confidence. It's not a sense of insignificance. You can only truly be humble if you know your power. Only a truly powerful person can express real humility. Otherwise, it's just weakness. It's just timidity. It's mildness. And when you know your strength, that's when you can actually be truly humble. And so I tell people, no, there's not a tension here.

• 52:49Speaker 01

  This is actually synergy. Truly humble people are powerful people. Truly grateful people are ambitious people. They're not in conflict with each other. Ambition is not is not an anti-virtue. You know, people will say to me, well, be ambitious, but don't be too ambitious. Wait, wait, wait a minute. Would you say to me, have integrity, but don't have too much integrity? Or would you say, you know, um, you you know, be loving, but don't be too loving. It's a whenever we think something's a virtue, you cannot have too much of it. But we actually don't think ambition is a virtue. But ambition is actually a virtue. It's just that selfish ambition is corruptive.

• 53:32Speaker 01

  And so when we look at ambition, it is not in opposition with gratitude. Grateful people are more ambitious because they become more generative. By the way, I don't think it's incidental that the word generosity comes from the same etymology as the word generative. You cannot be truly generous if you are not fully generative. And so a grateful person takes full responsibility for all of their talent, all of their intelligence, all their potential, all their capacity, and optimizes that for the good of others. I, I think people who live only for themselves are the greediest people in the world. Because they have so much more capacity to do good for other people.

• 54:15Chris Williamson?

  There's also a pressure that comes along with that, though. The fact that if you realize just how much you could contribute, that sets an even higher ideal, right? And then there's a pain when you realize, oh, even though I think I've been working hard, I've been working hard in a very particular kind of way, in a way that's very selfish. And in a way that was serving me and my shallow need for recognition, validation, and to fill this internal void. And so the people think that I'm cool. And so I can fix the wounds from my past without fixing the wounds from my past by filling them in with the adoration of those around me.

• 54:48Speaker 01

  No, absolutely. I had this student who graduated from UCLA and he was from El Salvador, which is the same place I'm from. I'm from El Salvador and as an immigrant, but his parents were immigrants. So he's now the son of an immigrant and his parents became incredibly successful in the US. And now he gets to go to UCLA. They pay the tuition. So they've paid an immense amount of money for him to go to school. He graduates, you know, near the top of his class. And after he graduates, he says to me, I'm not sure what I'm going to do next. And I, and I said, what do you want to do with your life? He goes, you mean to pay the bills? And I'm like, your parents just put hundreds of thousands of dollars to send you to one of the prestigious universities in the world, not so you could just pay the bills,

• 55:32Speaker 01

  but so you could start a company that, that employs a thousand people and provides food for 5,000 families. And, and how could you ever graduate from UCLA and think your, your optimal goal is to pay the bills? And I do think it does put responsibility on us and I'm okay with that. I'm okay saying that when you have more opportunity, you have more responsibility. I'm okay putting that pressure on people saying if you have been given a higher IQ, you have more responsibility to make the world better. If you've been given extraordinary talent or capacity, you know, some unique skill or ability, you have a high responsibility to make a difference in the world.

• 56:14Speaker 01

  And I do take that stewardship really, really important and seriously in my own life going. If I have any ability, if I have any intelligence, if I have any talent or any capacity, that hasn't been given to me so that I could revel in it and just, you know, enjoy myself because I'm so awesome. If I've been given any unique capacity, it's because I have a higher responsibility to do good in the world and to help other people live lives that they could not live without my help.

• 56:44Chris Williamson?

  The responsibility of capacity is very interesting, but painful, right? Because again, with that, oh God, I've got, I've got this thing that I need to deal with and I need to grapple with it and it's more complex and it's going to cause me turmoil and the overthinking. And now you're saying that I need to pay it forward.

• 57:01Speaker 01

  Absolutely. And, and your life will feel meaningless if you don't pay it forward. I think that's sort of like the interesting catch 22 in this is that how many people you met who have accomplished so much and accumulated so many things and they're just hollow and empty inside. I remember years ago, I was working a bit more in the film industry and I was trying to get some scripts, you know, produced and things. And I got a phone call that this billionaire up in Beverly Hills wanted to meet with me and, and, and by the way, he didn't know much about me. So that was great because I could just come in as a writer and, and so I, I drive up to his house and I get to a gate and I have to, you know, send them my name and they open

• 57:44Speaker 01

  the gate and I drive up another road to go up into the hills. I didn't even know someone could have that much land in Beverly Hills and, and, and I'm sitting in this house and he shows up late and he sits down and he goes, you get 45 minutes. I mean, there was no warrant, there was no, hey, it's great to meet you, you know, so glad to have you here. It was very cut and dry. And about 30 or 45 minutes in, he asked me a question and he said,

• 58:12Speaker 01

  Can we meet tomorrow? And I said, yeah, yeah, we could, we could meet tomorrow. He goes, uh, how about two o'clock or so? And I said, yeah, I'll be here two o'clock. And I left so excited going, this guy's going to fund my movies. This is going to be awesome. And the next day I show up and we're walking on his property. He's like, this is where I think like Ben Affleck and all the boys come play volleyball. And he's just, you know, talking it up and everything like that. And I said, so why did you ask me to come back up? And he goes,

• 58:41Speaker 01

  when you walk in the room, you have this inner peace. And I've been searching for inner peace all my life. And I have all this wealth and have all this stuff. And I have no peace.

• 58:55Speaker 01

  And so I was just hoping maybe you could help me figure out how to find peace in my life. And, you know, I know I'm always supposed to be a person who has higher ideals and I'm always trying to, you know, help people at the deepest spiritual level, but I was slightly disappointed. You know, he did not want to fund one of my films, but he was actually looking for the inner peace that I brought into the room. And I think this is the reality, Chris, is that when we spend our lives consuming, we become, we become emotional, psychological and spiritual black holes. We just consume and consume and consume and it brings no joy. It brings no meaning. It brings no lasting happiness. And, but when we live our lives to serve other people, I don't think you can, you can, you cannot get too rich.

• 59:40Speaker 01

  You can become too greedy. You cannot have too much wealth. You can have, but you can be possessed by your wealth. And so it really isn't about how much you have. It's about how much has you. And when you live a life of generosity and live a life where you're determined to do good in the world, I don't think it ruins you. I think what ruins you is when it owns you rather than when you own it.

• 1:00:08Chris Williamson?

  I love it. Dude, I'm so glad that we got to speak today. I've wanted to sit down with you ever since I saw you talk last year. Irwin McManus, ladies and gentlemen, where should people go? They want to keep up to date with everything that you've got going on.

• 1:00:19Speaker 01

  Oh, man. Thank you. One, Chris, I have to tell you, I'm, I've become such a huge fan. I, I love your work. I love your interviews. You have an incredibly brilliant mind and your, your ability to cut through all the chaos and lack of clarity is a real gift to the world. And so I just want to let you know that I, I consider it a privilege to come on because I, um, I, I'm a fan and I just love your work. You can go to Irwin McManus dot com and, um, access the different spaces we have, like the arena mastermind, and we do a conference or two here in LA. I have a few books that I've written. My newest book is the seven frequencies of communication. The book that you're actually, um, were speaking

• 1:01:03Speaker 01

  to me about today was, is called mind shift and about internal mental structures. Um, but if you just want to know more, go to Irwin McManus dot com. But mostly, I'm just really glad to get to be here with you, Chris.

• 1:01:14Chris Williamson?

  Heck, yeah. I appreciate you, man. Until next time.

• 1:01:17Speaker 01

  All right. Take care.

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