LOVE WILL FLOW LIKE CRAZY! (Manifest Your PERFECT Relationship!) | Dr Joe Dispenza

Dr Joe’s passion can be found at the intersection of the latest findings from the fields of neuroscience, epigenetics, and quantum physics to explore the science behind spontaneous remissions. He integrates that knowledge to teach people how to heal their bodies of health conditions, make significant changes in their lives, and evolve their consciousness. Today we dive deep into the core of human emotions and the pivotal role self-love plays in shaping our lives and interactions. Dr Joe emphasizes that to experience love authentically, we must let go of parts of ourselves that do not align with love. Embracing love for oneself naturally extends to others, enhancing our ability to connect, give, and thrive in relationships. Through understanding and managing our energy and attention, we align closer to a state of wholeness and gratitude, further attracting positive experiences and relationships. In this episode you will learnHow self-love is fundamental to cultivating successful relationships with others. The concept that a part of us must "die" to fully embrace love and shed unloving aspects of ourselves. The significance of brain and heart coherence in attracting healthy, loving relationships. Why survival emotions like anger, fear, and jealousy are separations from love, not opposites. How to shift from survival mode to a state of creation and open-heartedness, vital for personal growth and loving connections. For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1540For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes on Radical Self Love & Acceptance:Jason Derulo – https://link.chtbl.com/1460-podKaramo Brown – https://link.chtbl.com/1457-podPokimane – https://link.chtbl.com/1443-pod Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Joe Dispenza?

  In order for us to find love, a part of us must die.

• 0:03Lewis Howes?

  Ooh, wait, wait, wait. Why do we need to die to find love? A part of us?

• 0:07Joe Dispenza?

  Because anything that's not love in us must die. And that's the difference between knowing the path and walking the path.

• 0:13Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week, we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:37Lewis Howes?

  Welcome back and more to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Joe Dispenza in the house. Dr. Joe Dispenza, we have had you on the show many times, and I think you're probably the most requested person back that we have had. And the last time, we did an interview about love, self-love, loving others, and relationships. It got over 10 million views with a couple of different, you know, in Spanish and English translations. And some reason, people were just really wanted to understand the concepts, not of how to find the right partner or any of these different things, but really how to love themselves better.

• 1:21Lewis Howes?

  You know, if you want to attract or manifest a great relationship, what I understood from that previous interview was you've really got to learn how to love yourself better. And that is all about doing the work to overcome the old you that holds you back or that has made you attract people that maybe hurt you or upset you or let you down. But also, I feel like a lot of people haven't learned how to fully love themselves. And so you're not a relationship expert, but for whatever reason, over 10 million people wanted to watch your content on love and relationships. And, you know, I'm not here to ask you about your personal relationships, but you've worked with

• 2:05Lewis Howes?

  Trained and coached tens of thousands of people that come to your events, who go on to have beautiful relationships first with themselves, which I think is the most important thing, but then eventually, you know, they rekindle relationships that are maybe struggling. They really become a different person and attract from a conscious, healthy place and have more love in their life. And I think a lot of people want to get out of pain and they want to feel peace, harmony and love. And one of the highest frequencies that I learned about from your event, by going to your advanced meditation retreat, was that the frequency of gratitude and love allows you to bring just more goodness in your life.

• 2:46Lewis Howes?

  And that comes with relationships and attracting others who bring you that loving mirror.

• 2:55Lewis Howes?

  So I know this is something that you don't talk about that much, but I feel like you have a lot of wisdom around brain and heart coherency, which allows you to attract a healthier love for self, a healthier love for the world and a healthier love in relationships. And I'd love to explore more of this based on what we talked about before. So, thank you for being here. Thank you for being here and being willing to talk about this. I know this is uncomfortable.

• 3:23Lewis Howes?

  But people are so, they resonate with you as a human and your wisdom and your experience. You've been doing this work for a long time. And I'm curious, why do you think people struggle first off with learning to love themselves and be in a healthy relationship with self? Why is that? Is it because they're disappointed about their past and they're stuck in the memory of the past? Is it because they've been let down in relationships by their parents and then by their siblings or by intimate partners? Or is it just they don't believe they're worthy of love?

• 3:53Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah, I think at our true core, at our true source is pure love. That's what I think it is. And I think there's always more love to experience. I don't think that is, there's an end to that. So, people who hate themselves will hate others. And people who are angry with themselves will be angry at others. People who are impatient with others will be impatient with themselves, will be impatient with others. People who are unhappy with themselves will punish other people until they feel unhappy. It's just our nature as human beings. But when people are truly grateful for themselves or for their life, they're grateful for others.

• 4:35Joe Dispenza?

  People who love themselves naturally love others. People who are okay finally with themselves are okay with others. You know, it's just kind of how it is. So, one of the things that people have as a limitation to the understanding of love is that they're feeling something other than it. And in order for us to find love, a part of us must die.

• 4:59Lewis Howes?

  Ooh, wait, wait, wait. Why do we need to die to find love, a part of us?

• 5:03Joe Dispenza?

  Because anything that's not love in us must die.

• 5:06Lewis Howes?

  Oh.

• 5:07Joe Dispenza?

  And that's the difference between knowing the path and walking the path, right? So, so one of the things that we want to teach people in the work that we do is to understand how to manage their energy, right? And how to manage their attention. When you feel love, which is just a word, by the way, and people have their own experience of what that is, you tend to feel more whole. And when you feel more whole, you tend to want less. When you truly feel love, it is very different than being selfish. You're kind of more selfless.

• 5:49Joe Dispenza?

  And when you're in your heart, you're more prone to give, more prone to care, you're more prone to be present, you're more prone to be grateful, you're more prone to be kind. That's the consciousness of that center. It is the creative center. It's the union of opposites, it's the union of polarities, it's where oneness, where our divinity starts, right? There can't be enough said about that center. So...

• 6:16Joe Dispenza?

  If you just did an inventory of the amount of time you feel love during the day, and the amount of time you feel other emotions like resentment, or impatience, or frustration, or judgment, or jealousy, any other one of those emotions, that is the opposite of love. Fear is not the opposite of love, it is the separation from love. Pain and suffering, they're not the opposite of love, they're the separation from it. That anger, and hatred, and hostility, and violence, they're not the opposite of love, they're the separation from love, right? So, so then, you're living in survival, and living in survival is living in stress,

• 7:01Joe Dispenza?

  and living in stress produces a cocktail of chemicals and hormones that make you feel something other than love. Turns out, the majority of time, people are feeling something other than love, and they're feeling some of those other emotions. So you only get good at what you practice, right? And those emotions will drive certain human behaviors that are primarily universal, and will cause us to think in very predictable ways, right? So, the separation from love, because of an event, or a trauma, or whatever it is, causes people to view their life through a different lens than love, right?

• 7:38Joe Dispenza?

  Okay, so, teach a person how to stop feeling those emotions of survival, right? Because in survival, it's not a time to create. No. When you're in survival, it's not a time to communicate. It's not a time to learn. It's not a time to cooperate. It's not a time to get along. It's time to run, fight, or hide. And when you're in survival, you're very selfish. You're self-indulgent, you're self-important, you're self-aggrandizing, and you're full of self-pity. It's all about the self, or self-involved in so many ways.

• 8:16Joe Dispenza?

  And that means that once I'm okay and I'm happy, then everybody else could be happy. And so in survival and we're feeling those emotions, we're doing everything we can to make that feeling go away, right? So it turns out that if you're in that state where you're in survival and it's not a time to create or not a time to love or not a time to open your heart, not a time to learn, you're compromised in a lot of ways. So bring that into a relationship, a relationship with peers, with coworkers, with relatives, with family, with a partner. Then the fundamental question is, what would love do in a relationship? That's, I think that's a really important question.

• 9:02Joe Dispenza?

  Now, we have different relationships with different people. And because we've had experiences with different people, because we've had experiences with them, we have neurological circuitry that is a memory that we can relate to that person. In fact, I see you based on the memory I have of you. I'm filling in my idea of Lewis based on my memory of him. I'm not really seeing you, I don't see things how they are, I see things how I am, right? So your brain only can see equal to how it's met. So based on my experience, I super like you, you're a great guy, we get along, we have a lot of things in common. And, and so I see you that way. And the feeling that I have from my interactions with you causes me to be attracted to you.

• 9:46Joe Dispenza?

  Like you're a cool guy, we hang out, we have great conversations. And so when I see you, there is a sense of love, there's an energy, there's a connection, there's camaraderie, there's some kind of type of union, right? Those are healthy relationships. And as long as we're honoring one another, that relationship will continue and foster really great outcomes. You have a relationship with someone like an ex or someone who's betrayed you. You have a different memory of that person based on your experience.

• 10:21Lewis Howes?

  Which triggers a different feeling, right?

• 10:23Joe Dispenza?

  Which triggers a different feeling that's based on experience. And so then it makes sense then that the stronger the emotion you feel towards that person, the more you pay attention to them. And where you place your attention is where you place your energy. So you're giving your power away to change to that person or that circumstance. And it's entirely possible that your reality is staying the same because your energy is the same. And you in fact are contributing to that reality staying exactly unchangeable, right? So then you take a person and they've had a moderately difficult past. Everybody's got a story, but when's the story end?

• 11:04Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 11:05Joe Dispenza?

  And now is the new later, right? I mean, it really is.

• 11:08Lewis Howes?

  Now is the new later.

• 11:10Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah, like if you want to change that now, okay. So the person understands fundamentally they haven't changed since those, that event. They're feeling the same emotion they felt from 20 years ago. And somehow their, their personality is in the past, right? Okay, so the person then has to overcome that emotional state. And so they're sitting in the meditation and as part of their identity and meditation is getting beyond yourself. And as you're sitting there, all of a sudden you start getting frustrated and angry and resentful towards your ex. You want to have two choices. Just, just go fully down that rabbit hole for the next hour and see how that feels at the end. Or ask yourself, is this loving to me?

• 11:53Joe Dispenza?

  Justified or not, the only person it's going to affect is me.

• 11:56Lewis Howes?

  Is this loving to me or for me?

• 11:58Joe Dispenza?

  That was either one.

• 11:59Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 12:01Joe Dispenza?

  Okay, so if I could in my meditation really say, okay, this isn't loving to me. I know this isn't right, even though I want to make them wrong. I'm just going to work, I'm going to work on settling my body down from that emotional state. If I'm successful at regulating that emotion, no longer allowing the body to feel that emotion, inhibiting that thought and feeling that emotion, I'm breaking that conditioning response. If I'm successful at doing that, if I lower the volume to that emotion, I'm gonna take my attention off that person or problem, which means I'm gonna be taking my power back. Right? Because I'm gonna drop my energy, I'm gonna build my own field. Right? I'm no longer giving them my power to change energetically.

• 12:45Joe Dispenza?

  I'm no longer giving them my attention, my energy. If I overcome the emotion, I'll take my attention off that person and I'll begin to build my own electromagnetic field. Now there's energy to create. Now there's energy to heal. Now there's energy for a whole new future. And lo and behold, when you lower the volume to that emotion, you take your attention off that person. That's forgiveness.

• 13:08Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 13:08Joe Dispenza?

  Because if you don't feel the emotion any longer, then you no longer have your attention on that person and your life truly changes. You'll never hold on to that emotion again.

• 13:21Lewis Howes?

  But why is it, why are so many people holding on to resentment of what someone did in a relationship in their past versus allowing them to find forgiveness and peace about it? Maybe it's not agreeing that it was okay what they did, but why do people hold on to resentment for so long or anger about a past?

• 13:38Joe Dispenza?

  I think it's because people are afraid it's gonna happen to them again.

• 13:41Lewis Howes?

  Oh.

• 13:42Joe Dispenza?

  And when we have a traumatic event, big or small in fact, you're always on the lookout for the, any signal in the environment, any person or circumstance that's gonna be the smallest cue that's gonna say, "Ooh, I've done this before. I better get ready for it." So we're in a constant state of bad news, waiting for the worst-case scenario. So let me just finish this, okay?

• 14:02Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 14:02Joe Dispenza?

  Because the question really was about self-love.

• 14:04Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 14:05Joe Dispenza?

  The person who lives in resentment is making themselves unhappy.

• 14:09Joe Dispenza?

  A person who's judging everybody else because they're judging themselves is making themselves unhappy. A person who's complaining, blaming, making excuses, feel sorry for themselves, they're making themselves unhappy. There's nobody doing that to them. You say it's your ex? Okay, let's take your ex. Let's put him in a straitjacket. Let's shoot him to the moon. Now what? No, no.

• 14:28Lewis Howes?

  You're still holding on to it, yeah.

• 14:29Joe Dispenza?

  You're still thinking that way and feeling that way and that person is no longer in your life. You're defined by that story, by that past event, okay?

• 14:40Joe Dispenza?

  The person's truly sincere and thinks there's something other than that emotion of resentment. What's on the other side of it? Am I willing to sit through it long enough? And no matter how much the pain is or what my body does, I'm gonna sit this one out. I'm gonna work with my body and keep bringing it back into the present moment. It's like training an animal. You keep doing it over and over again. You stay, you stay, you stay. I'm not getting up, I'm not eating, I'm not moving. We're gonna keep lowering the volume. You keep reconditioning the body to a new mind sooner or later it surrenders. It surrenders to a new mind. When that occurs, there's that liberation of energy and energy moves into the heart. And you feel love for yourself. You feel a respect for yourself. You feel an honor for yourself. Something, you took your power back, you know? You built your field. Something feels right.

• 15:24Joe Dispenza?

  When we look at the data of people who do this, and we see their scans, their brain scans, or we see their HRV measurements, and they get good at this. We measure their oxytocin levels. Now oxytocin is the love chemical, right? It's made in the pituitary gland. It is the love chemical, causes us to bond, to connect, to unify. And when I showed the values of oxytocin levels with these people to scientists, they're sometimes 200 times above normal. Now, that's not a little love. That's a lot of love.

• 16:02Lewis Howes?

  It's an explosion of love.

• 16:03Joe Dispenza?

  It's a lot of love. And so oxytocin signals nitric oxide. And nitric oxide signals another chemical called endothelial derived relaxing factor. And that chemical causes the arteries in your heart and your lungs to literally open up. And blood flows into your heart and your heart is filled with energy. Just like when it engorges the sexual organs. There's an engorgement of blood in there and it activates it with energy. And there's a mind that's created. It's a consciousness.

• 16:34Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 16:34Joe Dispenza?

  Now, this one opens up, it's a whole different consciousness. In fact, the research on oxytocin shows that the slightest elevation in oxytocin, it's impossible to hold a grudge. It's impossible. You say, dude, I feel so good. I'm good, like, no, no, no, I'm good. I'm really good. Now...

• 16:55Joe Dispenza?

  That kind of state means I don't want to feel anything else but this. So I am not going to compromise myself or my energy to a lower denominator just because of you. In fact, I'm really good around you. I'm really okay. I feel so good. I don't want to judge you because I don't want to lose this feeling. So then imagine being around a cat like that. Being around a person like that, that's really easy to be around because they're okay with themselves. And when they're okay with themselves, they relate with people differently. In fact, they relate with them unconditionally. They just love them unconditionally and that causes an attraction, it causes a bond, right? So, one of the things I learned last year in watching people, you know, in this work and week-long events,

• 17:39Joe Dispenza?

  I do my best to pay really close attention. Looked at an audience one day and I looked out in the room, just we've just finished a walking meditation. Everybody sat down and I kind of glanced around the room and everybody had this radiant smile. And I said to them, "Hey, who's making you happy, by the way?" Who? "Who's making you happy?" "There's nobody doing that to you." "You're doing that to you." "You're making yourself..." I mean, you're not relying on your, anybody in your life to do that. Now, that is an attractive energy. That's the person who relates well with money. There's a relationship with money. They relate well with people. They're very giving, they're very caring. They want nothing in return. They're more present.

• 18:24Joe Dispenza?

  Because that's who they're practicing being. And so there's a natural affinity, a natural attraction. Because the person is really present and they're really okay. And something is different about them. Something is unique about them. So, the relationship we have with people, when we're in that state where we're really okay with ourselves, or we've made ourselves happy, we're really happy with ourselves, allows us to love just about, we'll find beauty through the lens of love in anything. And no one else sees it, right? Getting there is the overcoming process. That is what creates self-love.

• 19:04Joe Dispenza?

  Now, to be very clear, I think many people, I think I'll include myself, we confuse pleasure...

• 19:14Joe Dispenza?

  With love and it's not the same thing.

• 19:16Lewis Howes?

  What's the difference?

• 19:17Joe Dispenza?

  Well, pleasure is doing something that makes you feel good and but has nothing to do with love. Love has everything to do with something that you feel independent of pleasure. It's a some, it's, it's the, when you overcome yourself and you arrive at your goal, you reach your dream, you never give up on yourself. You had hard moments, you fell to your knees, you brushed yourself up, you got up, you showed up again for yourself. It's amazing to watch this. I watch it a week long events. I watch people literally change in seven days and they showed up when they said, I'm too tired. I have a handicap. I have a disease. I don't understand how rough my past is. I'm an addict. I, you know, I was in jail.

• 20:01Joe Dispenza?

  I, my mother was abusive, you know, all, they showed up in spite of I'm too old. I have, whatever that is. They, you keep showing up for yourself. You start feeling really worthy, really worthy to receive and the universe only gives us what we think we're worthy of receiving, right? So, so in, when you're in love, you're in a whole lot less lack. And if you're in a whole lot less lack, in a sense, you're moving closer to source and that's a really good feeling. That's a really good feeling. So, practice that every day. Practice that every day in your relationships with people, your relationship

• 20:44Joe Dispenza?

  with your body, your relationship with money, your relationship with your phone, your relationship with your car, your relationship with everything would be different.

• 20:54Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 20:54Joe Dispenza?

  And so, so the overcoming process is the becoming process. You make yourself happy. You no longer need anybody to do that for you. Um, you have a person in your life who is conscious that wants to make themselves happy and share their joy and their love with somebody.

• 21:14Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 21:15Joe Dispenza?

  Uh, well, you have something really unique. It's, it's really special. It's really, it's, and, and love is a bonding, a very bonding chemical. It's a very bonding energy, right? Like, um, if you look at oxytocin levels in mammals. You typically see it when the female has just given birth and she's grooming the offspring and she's touching it and licking it and nudging it and taking care of it. There's oxytocin levels are released through the limbic brain, through the midbrain. It's the bonding brain. They're smelling, they're connecting, and they're attracting one another. It's creating a connection. A honeymoon stage of relationship where there's a lot of intense connection, a lot of intimacy,

• 21:57Joe Dispenza?

  releases oxytocin, creates monogamy, creates a bond, it creates unity, creates connection. Alright, so show the values to our, some of the scientists and my colleagues and they see oxytocin levels 200 times normal. They're like, dude, what are you doing? What is going on? Is it couples week? What is going on here? And I say, you know, I say the same thing. I say, number one, I want people to fall in love with their future, just like they've fallen in love with another person, because then if they do, they're bonded to that future, just like they're bonded to another person. Secondly, if you truly, truly want to connect to pure love, to source, to singularity, to oneness, to wholeness, to the fertile void, to vacuum energy, whatever you want to call that, universal intelligence, that's pure consciousness, that's pure love.

• 22:42Joe Dispenza?

  If you hit, you hit that moment where you hit connection, you will feel that arousal of love. It'll be, it'll be profoundly memorable for you. And it's, it's not chemical, it's electric. It's very electric. Wow. So you get a few of those, it becomes you, and you become it. And so, your love for the divine, your love for the mystical, your love for the unseen, your love for source, the love affair begins. And it's like being in love, it's, no one can tell you you're in love, you just know it. And it gets really hard to miss a date. Imagine, you go and, you go and connect every day, and you start your day from that place.

• 23:24Joe Dispenza?

  That's a relationship. That's a relationship with the world that you're bringing. So I think the overcoming process is part of it. I think it's practicing, getting to that place. I think it's practicing, opening our hearts more, moving out of survival, working with our bodies. In survival, it's not a time to love. It's not a time to communicate. So in a relationship that's built on emotions other than love, there's going to be a limit to love. Right? And so you got betrayed, someone else got betrayed, you get together, talk about your betrayal, work yourself up into a froth, feel the emotions, get emotional agreement, get a connection. You're connecting the same energy, the same emotion, because you're sharing the same information.

• 24:08Joe Dispenza?

  You're sharing the same memories and you can relate with one another. That's a certain level of consciousness.

• 24:12Lewis Howes?

  At your events and your retreats, I was at one a year ago. I think there was 2,500 people there, the one that I went to. And there was a lot of different people from all walks of life, from all over the world.

• 24:25Lewis Howes?

  I would say majority of the people were, you know, above 30, you know, from people I met. And a lot of people had been in relationships, some people had been divorced and some people had been in intimacy for a long time with their partner. And they were there together. They were growing and transforming together, right? Reinventing their relationship and expanding into the mystical together and all these different beautiful things. For all the people that you've seen have successful, long-term relationships,

• 24:56Lewis Howes?

  what is the thing that you see them do extremely well versus?

• 24:59Joe Dispenza?

  Oh, yeah.

• 25:01Lewis Howes?

  They forgive each other, they forgive.

• 25:02Joe Dispenza?

  They forgive the emotion. Now, the emotion's going to keep you in the past, right? So they have to be able to forgive.

• 25:10Lewis Howes?

  What happens if we don't forgive something that our partner or in a relationship does? If it hurts us or they said something and they did something, maybe it was really bad or just?

• 25:19Joe Dispenza?

  If you can't forgive, you'll never have love.

• 25:23Joe Dispenza?

  The love that we withhold is the pain that we experience lifetime after lifetime. You know, that's how it is. The lo- say it again, the love. That we withhold is the pain that we experience lifetime after. Oh, man. And, and then when we master our emotions, we master our creations. So that's a creation. And, and you have to overcome the memory and the emotion. And when you do, you belong to the future instead of the past. Oh, man. So, so otherwise, well, that's a perfect explanation of karma. You live by that emotion, that emotion's going to drive a certain behavior and cause you to think a certain way and you're on the wheel. You're, you're gonna, people are living the same lifetime every day. Oh.

• 26:06Joe Dispenza?

  They're on cycles. They're living the same lifetime after lifetime because they have to overcome the emotion. No one's, no one's doing that to them. Soul can't go to the future, can't go, can't go if it's stuck in the emotion of the past. Oh. So the soul has to overcome the event by overcoming the emotion. Forget what happened. And you'll never hear me say to anybody, tell me your story. I will never say that. I would never do that to you. Wow. I would say, overcome the emotion. And then the story ends. Wow. Because the memory without that emotional charge is the wisdom we get from the experience. We never have to do it again. And now the soul says, okay, I'm ready for the next adventure. Okay, so I was betrayed. Okay, I learned the lesson.

• 26:51Joe Dispenza?

  I did this, I did that. Okay, I got it. But we discovered that when people analyze their life within some disturbing emotion, they make their brain worse 100% of the time. Holy cow. Because you're thinking in the past, the answer's not there. Overcome the emotion. Actually, the thinking about it makes the brain worse. It drives them into higher states of arousal. Overcome the emotion, you have the answer to your own question. It's because it's not in the known. It's not in the past. You gotta get beyond it. So I say to people, when they ask me questions, just, just seven days, just across the river, you're gonna have the answers to your own questions. There's gonna be no better life coach for you than you. Right, right. So then the person who shows up worthy in their life.

• 27:33Joe Dispenza?

  A person who's happy because they're making themselves happy, that's such an unknown for everybody that they've just left and showed back up in their life, or who they usually complain with. They're like, "Oh my God, this person's joined a cult." "Oh my God, this person seems way too happy and they're happy without me." And really, it's just an energy that the person has broken out of the chains. They freed themselves from the chains of the past, right? And so that doesn't mean that they don't get frustrated, don't get angry. They just don't waste their time staying there because living by that emotion will create a gap between the way things appear and the way things really are.

• 28:06Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 28:06Joe Dispenza?

  And if we respond during that period, we'll always say the same thing. "I should have never said that. I should have never done. I should have sent that email or that text." You're altered in some way. So, learning to shorten the refractory period of your emotional response is emotional intelligence, right? And getting really good at that then allows a person to show up differently. And when people create the life they want, which happens a lot, why would they hold a grudge?

• 28:35Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 28:35Joe Dispenza?

  Why would they do that? They trust. They free themselves and they free that person. Like, everybody's been betrayed, everybody's been hurt. But if your life is wonderful, who cares? That, "Whoa, I wasn't conscious," or whatever. And then now it's when your life isn't working. And it ain't working and you're living by the same emotion. And that passes, you're gonna keep it alive, but you're the only one keeping it alive. Where is it? Where is your past? Where is it? It's only there, right?

• 29:06Lewis Howes?

  It's in a memory.

• 29:07Joe Dispenza?

  It's a memory.

• 29:08Lewis Howes?

  It's not here.

• 29:08Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah, it's not here. So then people spend enormous amounts of time not even knowing, not even aware that they're living in that state and always predicting. The default mode network in the brain is always predicting the next moment based on what it's learned in the past, right?

• 29:30Lewis Howes?

  And if you're holding a grudge of the past, it's gonna predict that in the future.

• 29:33Joe Dispenza?

  You're just gonna get ready for the next one.

• 29:35Lewis Howes?

  You're recreating the past.

• 29:37Joe Dispenza?

  Your future is your past.

• 29:40Lewis Howes?

  Oh, man.

• 29:40Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah. And that's all the known, right? So, getting a person to no longer live in the predictable future, you know, where they're just habituated, where they get up and do things and they're on a program. Getting a person, that's the predictable future is the known, familiar past is the known, living by the emotion, remembering the event. If the, if the familiar past is the known and the predictable future is the known, there's only one place where the unknown can be.

• 30:08Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 30:08Joe Dispenza?

  And that's the present moment. Getting a person to labor for the present moment liberates energy in the body.

• 30:13Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 30:14Joe Dispenza?

  And that's when the person starts feeling more like themselves and they don't feel as altered. And so you overcome the emotion of resentment, just use this as an example, by sitting in the fire for a week and just facing off with it and just working with your body and retraining it to a new mind. I guarantee you that when you see your ex, you'll, you'll see a part of you you used to be that you no longer are and you'll have nothing but compassion and love for her. And you'll be like, wow, wow, I get it. I totally get it. It's no longer the past anymore. You're not connected to it any longer and you free that person and your relationship changes and something shifts and there's, she's, he's, she's seeing you differently because you're showing up differently. It's not, it's not anything you're saying, you're lecturing them, they're just not showing

• 30:56Joe Dispenza?

  up as the memory they had of you and that allows them to be different. And that's, that's a great service.

• 31:05Lewis Howes?

  Yes. You mentioned about survival mode. When we're in survival mode, we're feeling stressed and when we're feeling stressed, we're unable to feel that kind of self-love, love for self.

• 31:16Joe Dispenza?

  Well, when you're in stress, you're altered.

• 31:18Lewis Howes?

  You're altered.

• 31:19Joe Dispenza?

  You're altered. You're not, you're, you're, you're altered self.

• 31:21Lewis Howes?

  You're shaken, you're not feeling whole.

• 31:23Joe Dispenza?

  You've moved from love.

• 31:24Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 31:25Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah.

• 31:26Lewis Howes?

  And when we enter a relationship from survival or stress or lack of worthiness or neediness, I need someone to make me feel more loved because I don't have it myself.

• 31:40Lewis Howes?

  What do we usually attract and create when we're attracting from neediness, survival and a lack of wholeness?

• 31:50Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah, I think that all of that lack, all of that separation is separation from love. Right? And the problem is, is that we've just been conditioned into thinking that it comes from out there. It comes from that person, that drug, that circumstance, that thing, that object, the app, whatever it is. And you're relying on your outer world to change your inner world. And so when things are good, you feel good. When things feel bad, you feel bad. So you're out of fact. You're not a cause in any way. So what if, though, you had a way to find that independent of your outer world?

• 32:29Joe Dispenza?

  The data we have suggests it's absolutely possible. Now you're free. You're free. Like, you don't need anybody or anything. You'd be a lot cooler to hang around with. Everybody would be like, well, you know, that's just, that would allow them, I know this. Your presence would allow them to move out of survival. And they would open their heart a little bit more. They'd trust you a little bit more. They'd be more kind. They'd be more soft spoken, less egocentric. Your presence would do that and may not be the first time, but they would start figuring out like, wow, this guy is really different, you know, something's different about him. And that's just because you're present and you're giving them your attention without judgment.

• 33:09Joe Dispenza?

  You see how hard it is to change. You've actually made that change. Because you've made that change and you see that you've made that change, but you see that in them, you're no longer judging them. You have compassion for them, like, dude, that's a tough one. Dude, it took me a long time to get over that, but you're not judging them. Like, what's wrong with you? You're like, oh, my God, I totally know what that's like. You've crossed that river. So of course, you would never offer them advice unless they asked you. You would probably give them a one liner. I mean, people who heal in our work so many times. You know, people in a state of desperation will say, what meditation did you do? And they laugh at them like, it's nothing to do with the meditation.

• 33:51Joe Dispenza?

  It was just, I changed like, and it was, it was, it was an arduous process. But they're telling a different, they're telling the story of their future. They're not telling the story of their past, their ex or their betrayer or whatever that person is. They have no regrets about that because why? They wish them well. It's not even, it's not like they're even trying to forgive to be spiritual. You know, people who try to forgive, like, I'm really gonna try to forgive that. Working harder. Yeah, this is not how that works. Like you are in love, like you don't have to try to forgive. You're just, you just don't wanna lose this feeling and you take your attention off that person. You're good. You, there's a lot of freedom in that. And that's how people heal. They're, they're building their own field. They're, they're, they're giving their body their energy back again. They're taking their power back in so many ways.

• 34:35Joe Dispenza?

  So, and then there is, then there is community, a collective consciousness. Like I, I, I, I like great conversation. I like spirited conversation. I like to be talking to scientists or people in my life that I love. I like to engage in just what the limit is. And like, let everybody take us on a journey to see how far we can go. I don't like to talk about like things that really, that are, that where there's pain or suffering or what. I don't, I don't, where there's ego, I don't really like that. Like that's a consciousness and, and, and everybody's done it. But i- if you're truly on the path of the evolution, you outgrow it. Yes.

• 35:16Joe Dispenza?

  You, you outgrow complaining, like you just, you just don't, you don't wanna make yourself unhappy anymore. You outgo, outgrow talking about yourself like you're better than anybody. Because if you do, you gotta face off with that person tomorrow and overcome them tomorrow. After a while, you're like, dude, just stop that. So you don't have to deal with you like that anymore. So you just start, you start outgrowing things that are just a side effect of your evolution. It's, it's not like you have to try to do it. It's just the side effect of a change in consciousness, a change in energy, a change in awareness, change in emotional states. Yes. And so in the heart. It is the selfless place. It's a selfless place. We can give from the heart. We care from the heart. We're kind in our heart. We're compassionate in our heart. We're inspired in

• 36:00Joe Dispenza?

  our heart. You know, we fall in love with our heart. We're grateful in our heart. And so I think people feel with every other part of their body but their heart. Like, they just don't feel with it, right? Practice feeling with your heart. Yes. And, um, God, we have, we have such great data. You know, we put these monitors on people for 24 hours, right? And I used to think primarily it was women that had these moments. Now we're seeing that men have them too. In fact, the men whose spouses take them or partners take them to an event and they really don't want to come, these guys are going to be fine. They have really, really big moments. So, so we see them in their meditation where you can these little blocks of five minutes and you see the heart just drop in the coherence

• 36:40Joe Dispenza?

  and it's just beautiful lines, beautiful looks. You can see this, it's very easy to see. You see this person sustaining it for 45 minutes during their meditation. So you're like, hmm, all right, this person nailed it. You go to the next meditation, another 45 minutes again. Hmm, done it once, done it twice. This is, looks like this person's getting a skill. All of a sudden, they do it a third time, another 45 minutes, and then low and behold, those three meditations in one day, then they're, they're in their room, you know, get unpacking and getting ready for bed. They're still wearing their heart rate monitor. And while they're not in a meditation, for one hour, while they're just unpacking and getting ready, there's an enormous amount of heart coherence is taking place for a whole hour. Why?

• 37:24Joe Dispenza?

  Because, just like a person who has a panic attack, who's embracing the worst-case scenario in their mind every day and emotionally feeling the anxiety and the fear of that event actually occurred, that image of that emotion, that stimulus and response, that thought and feeling has conditioned the body to become the mind of anxiety. The body has a panic attack with you or without you. Try as you may to control it with your conscious mind. You can't control, you program it subconsciously, right? So is it possible to have a spontaneous love attack? That's what she had. She had one hour or her body went into ecstasy. And you could see it.

• 38:01Lewis Howes?

  A love attack?

• 38:02Joe Dispenza?

  A love attack. She, I sent her, what did you do? She said, and I saw it, she, she laid, she got in bed and she laid down and rolled over and went to sleep. So you see her about an hour and 10 minutes, perfect heart coherence and just see it drop off into sleep. 13, 1400 different chemicals released to restore and repair the body. So the love that you feel is, is the glue that creates connection on a cellular level, on a molecular level, on an atomic level. Peel the atom all the way back, right to the center of the nucleus and you have nothing but energy. And that energy is what's called low entropy. And low entropy is high order and high order is high energy. And it's a lot of, lot of power.

• 38:46Joe Dispenza?

  So as you move closer to, to that source of everything physical and material, we have such great data to show that people actually run into it. And when they do, their autonomic nervous system goes into these elevated states of high, high, high gamma brainwave patterns. Now gamma is super consciousness. Gamma is very conscious, very aware. So the person's whole entire autonomic nervous system is processing hundreds of standard deviations of gamma outside of normal. That's not a little gamma. And it's so coherent. Now the autonomic nervous system touches every single cell in the body,

• 39:30Joe Dispenza?

  controls and coordinates all those systems, right? So now imagine stress is autonomic dysregulation, incoherence. This is autonomic regulation, but this is not a little regulation. This is enormous amount of energy that's taking place in the brain. And the autonomic nervous system is on fire. And every single cell in the body is getting touched by that frequency. And that frequency is carrying information and energy is informing matter. And that connection creates that feeling of pure love, of ecstasy or bliss. And now the person takes a piece of it with them. They become more of it and it becomes them. And so we measure. Their blood and there's a lot of oxytocin. We measure their blood and there's information in that blood that wasn't there before that heals cancer,

• 40:14Joe Dispenza?

  that reverses Alzheimer's, that causes viruses to not enter the cell. I mean, it causes the microbiome to change in a matter of days. Like, so that that interaction with that unifying field of energy that exists beyond our senses, whose signature is oneness, whose signature is wholeness, whose signature is pure love, means then that it lives within you and all around you, then you'd be remembering who you are and where you came from, which is pure love and it is the most familiar unfamiliar feeling you'll ever have. And it's not chemical.

• 40:46Lewis Howes?

  Wrong.

• 40:47Joe Dispenza?

  It's electric. And when you have that moment, many times, there's an upgrade that takes place in the body. There's a disease, now it's gone. There's the eczema, it's gone. There's a myasthenia gravis, now it's gone. There's the Parkinson's, now it's gone. There's the blindness, now it's gone. There's a energies informing matter and that enormous amount of regulation, high, high amounts of regulation is raising the body in frequency. It's raising the body in light and all diseases lowering in frequency. So the person is connecting to something way bigger than their senses, way something beyond their senses and it's coming from within them. Now, and you only need one of those and you're, you're okay. From that point forward and the way you see life, you have some veil,

• 41:32Joe Dispenza?

  some illusion, some conditioning, some hypnosis is removed and you're now way more relaxed in your heart and way more awake in your brain instead of unconscious, stressed out in a program, right?

• 41:47Lewis Howes?

  And when I think you're more awake in your, your heart and your brain, you start to attract more great opportunities and you start to see, is this person in alignment with my type of?

• 41:58Joe Dispenza?

  Resonating, resonating in that consciousness.

• 42:00Lewis Howes?

  Exactly.

• 42:01Joe Dispenza?

  You'll be able to find your tribe, it'll be as obvious as anything.

• 42:04Lewis Howes?

  Exactly. Whether you're looking for a partner or friends or community or, you know, a place to work.

• 42:08Joe Dispenza?

  Business partner that you can trust.

• 42:09Lewis Howes?

  Exactly.

• 42:10Joe Dispenza?

  You resonate and you feel that and, and, and the heart is a strong element in the creative process. So if you have a coherent brain. Then you're sending the signal out into the quantum field. That's the, that's the potential in the quantum field that you're selecting. That already exists and you gotta have an intention. The more coherent the brain, the more the electrical signal takes place in the field. But if you wanna create the experience, the synchronicity, the opportunity, you gotta need a coherent heart and the heart is the magnetic field. And the magnetic field draws things to us. So now we don't have to go get it any longer, cause that's what we do in three dimensional reality. All of a sudden you start noticing, I, I really didn't do anything. Well, I got the email, I got the phone call, I got the opportunities.

• 42:53Joe Dispenza?

  I met this person, led to this and wow, and all of a sudden I have this life. And, and so if you're gonna believe in that future that you're imagining with all of your heart, it's gotta be open and activated. We train people to get in that place. And when they're in that place, they have wonderful relationships with everything and everybody because they're okay with themselves.

• 43:16Lewis Howes?

  Yes. Can you explain, I love this explanation. At your retreat, you talk about this over and over. Sending an intention with a signal from your thought out into the field.

• 43:27Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah.

• 43:27Lewis Howes?

  And then with your heart, drawing this intention from the physical world to you physically.

• 43:33Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah.

• 43:34Lewis Howes?

  Can you explain, every time you say this, I love it. And it just reminds me about the power of intention and having a coherent heart and brain connection. Right? And

• 43:44Joe Dispenza?

  Those are the tools.

• 43:45Lewis Howes?

  Being so clear on your thought and thinking of why you want this thing, you know, not wanting it from a place of lack, but already feeling grateful, all these different things that you teach in the retreat. But can you explain what this does when you have a signal from the brain and you have a magnet from the heart? How does that work in the physical world? And how can we apply this to, you know, if someone's been single for a long time and they're like, you know what, I'm ready for love. I'm ready for a greater connection and I've let go of my past, I've forgiven. I feel like I'm in a space that's allowing me to feel love myself and I'm allowing to bring a partner to me. How does this connect to that as well?

• 44:24Joe Dispenza?

  Okay. Well, let's talk about how we typically create, okay? We we basically create in lack or separation. And you're walking down the street and you see someone with a nice car and you're like, I love that car. And you don't have it. You want that car because you don't have it. So you're gonna go out and work or do whatever you can to get that car. And in order for you to get that car, we're in the plane of demonstration, you gotta do things. So there's the thought of having the car, and then there's the experience of having it. And the distance between the thought of the car and the experience of getting it is called time. Right? That's separation. So then, in three dimensional reality, you gotta, you gotta, everything that we do to create, to bring those two points of consciousness together, takes time and energy.

• 45:07Joe Dispenza?

  So we gotta do things, we gotta get up and go try things and try things out and do things and work and duh. And then you buy the car, finally, and then you may have to make payments, so you gotta keep working to pay it off. So it takes a lot of time and energy. So in three dimensional reality, the plane of demonstration, there's a separation between the thought of what you want and the experience of having it, and you gotta do things to get it, and that's called time. So then the cause and the effect, one point of consciousness, another point of consciousness, the separation is called time. Okay, well, you can get really good at that. You can get trained, you can go to school, you can make a lot of the right choices, you can meet the right people, you can figure out ways to accumulate more things and get all the things I want that you think that makes you happy, right? But after a while, you're like, some people never actually create the thing they want.

• 45:52Joe Dispenza?

  They spend their entire life in lack, because they're waiting for that event to happen to take away the lack of not having it, right? So their senses are fooling them into the illusion of separation, right? So they're creating matter to matter. And matter to matter takes time and energy. You can get really good at doing it. Okay. So there's this invisible field of unifying energy that exists beyond the senses, that's unifying everything physical and material. And the forces of nature, quantum physics, I've been trying to unify gravity and strong and weak nuclear forces and electromagnetism. Some, there's some intelligence that's keeping all of this in order after an explosion, like, after there's an explosion, there's normally disorder, but we got a lot of order here.

• 46:34Joe Dispenza?

  So unifying all those principles is really what quantum physics is about and finding the mathematics to do it. But undeniably,

• 46:43Joe Dispenza?

  In this realm, in the quantum realm, there's no separation. It's, there's nothing physical, there's nothing material, there's no matter, that's all taking place in three dimensional reality. It's all energy, it's all frequency, it's all vibration, it's all information, it's all consciousness, it's all thought. That is that invisible field of energy. Yes. So, okay, that invisible field of energy, Einstein said, "The field is the sole governing agency of the particle." He didn't say the particle controls the particle, he said the field controls the particle. So if I can change information in the field, I should be able to affect the particle matter. So it turns out that the, an atom is 99.99999% energy, information.

• 47:27Joe Dispenza?

  There's nothing physical or material there, point 00001 material, women, the probability of us seeing the truth of reality is zero. Wow. And we are only seeing a small spectrum of frequency, the rainbow, visible light, bouncing off the most stable form of energy called matter, giving us this hologram, this illusion of separation, okay? So if there was a way to create from the field, instead of from matter, and move closer to source, and create from a place of wholeness, and less from separation, I'd have to be able to get to the field. Yes. So then, if where you place your attention is where you place your energy, and you could, you develop the ability to take all of your attention off your body, all your

• 48:10Joe Dispenza?

  attention off all the people in your life, all the objects and things, your cellphone, your car, your house, whatever, all the relationships with all the people, all the places you need to go, the place you're sitting, the place you grew up, the place you sleep, the place you work, and nothing about the predictable future, the familiar past, and settle into the present moment, you would go from a somebody to a nobody, from a someone to a no one, from something to nothing, from somewhere to nowhere, from some time to no time, that is the moment your pure consciousness. You would be disinvesting all of your attention, all of your energy out of this three dimensional reality, out of the known, and placing it on the unknown. Now, let's demystify the process. Take away everything physical and material in the universe. Take away the earth, take away the moon, take away all the planets, all the moons from

• 48:54Joe Dispenza?

  the planets, take away the sun, the light from the sun, the stars, all the light from the stars, galaxies, you take everything away, wipe everything out, physical and material, what are you left with? Nothing. Nothing. Turns out that that nothing is filled with a lot of frequency and energy. That's true. And I don't know how to explain nothing to a materialist. But when you can linger in that place without a name, without a face, without a body weight, without a diet, without a disease, without a profession, without an identity in any way, without a past, and you can linger as pure consciousness, something really profound happens to the brain. Different compartments of the brain that have been modulated or compartmentalized or subdivided because of the stress hormones, you know, you shift your attention from one person to another person, to another problem, to another thing.

• 49:35Joe Dispenza?

  That habituation fragments the brain. The brain becomes a house divided against itself. And you narrow your focus, you over-focus, you become obsessive about something. That's what we do in stress. We turned out, it turns out if you open your awareness to nothing, the brain starts getting highly organized. Different compartments of the brain that were modulated start unifying. The brain starts firing this more holistic state. And the whole entire brain is resonating at the same frequency. Now, you get that brain going for that period of time like that, waves start that are coherent start interfering with each other. And when they do, they create bigger amplitudes. The higher amplitude, the higher the energy in the brain. So now you have resonance in the brain and the brain starts getting very mathematical, very organized, right?

• 50:18Joe Dispenza?

  So that brain that's coherent, the entire brain is functioning as one neurological network. The two hemispheres are coming together and there's this kind of psychic union called wholeness. Now that state of coherence, in moving out of the beta brainwave states into a slower brainwave state, produces electrical signals. Yes. And that electrical signal is the intention. That's the more clear your intention is, the more coherent the brain is, the stronger the signal. Okay, so if you decided to create from the field instead of from matter and you were just pure consciousness, and I asked you to send the signal out from a coherent brain, and whatever that thing is that you wanted, you could, you trained, we trained you how to do that,

• 50:59Joe Dispenza?

  then you would be shimmering the entire vacuum, that entire void. You are that. You're not you any longer. You're the source, right? So if you're the source and you're sending the signal out, then you're, you're touching the consciousness of everybody, of everyone, of everything, of everywhere, every time. The entire field is becoming electric because of your intention. Wow. Okay? Now...

• 51:25Joe Dispenza?

  If you're source, why would you go anywhere to get anything? And so consciousness is coherent brain. And then the energy of the heart is love. And pure, pure love is source. So if I asked you to fall in love with that future and I asked you to draw the future to you with the magnetic field of the heart, the heart produces a magnetic field up to three meters wide. That's, that's, that's studied. So now, love is the glue that holds the atom together. Okay. Okay, if I got a coherent heart, the more coherent my heart is, the more energy in my heart, the more I can draw my future to me. So you send the signal out, you draw the experience to you.

• 52:09Joe Dispenza?

  And now you don't go anywhere to get anything. When there's vibrational match between your energy and some potential in the quantum field. And when there's a match, you start seeing those synchronicities. You synchronize your energy to that possibility. And, and so you start seeing the coincidences and the synchronicities and the opportunities. I'm not talking about a parking space. I'm talking about like real life events. Yes. This is a critical moment for people. Because I think people don't realize how powerful they really are. When that event happens in their life, they will look back at every single betrayer, everything that happened in their past and they won't care. They won't care any longer. That's the moment their past no longer exists because they're proving to themselves

• 52:52Joe Dispenza?

  what they innately already know that they may have forgotten. Which is what? That is that the creator of their life. And when you have that synchronicity, you are humbled by the truth. And you feel this sense of greatness, like real greatness, like I am honored to be human. I'm honored to be alive. I'm honored that I actually created. It's not the, it's not the wealth. You're gonna ask anybody in our community, it's not the health, it's who you became. And people think they want this or they want that, but I'm telling you what they want is wholeness. Yes. And you have wholeness that you no longer want. How could you want when you're whole? Game change is really amazing. And so the closer we get to Source and that's our work, how deep can you go? And we teach people how to go as deep as they can.

• 53:36Joe Dispenza?

  There's a brainwave state that takes place that I can predict. When we see it, I know the person's gonna have a big moment. In fact, we can predict it, we can replicate it, um, and we can induce it. And the person goes into these really slow theta brainwave states, and that's when they're in a hypnotic state. They're very suggestible to information. And they're in coherent theta, and when they move outside of normal, we know the next moment is they're gonna hook up. And the brain's gonna go into gamma, and they're gonna feel a whole lot of love, not a little love, like a lot of love. And it's gonna be an arousal, and it's gonna be ecstasy, it's gonna be bliss. To them, they're having, they're seeing their the unknown self.

• 54:16Joe Dispenza?

  The 99.99% of reality that we're unaware of, and don't exclude yourself from that. And so the person has a moment in the unknown, and a profound mystical moment, or an understanding, or a download, or a connection to Source, or a healing, or something that takes place. It took a bite of wholeness. It took a bite of it, right? They became more whole. And when you're more whole, you don't need as much. That's right. And when you're not, you don't need as much, you're really cool to be around. Like, it's really easy to be around you. In fact, if you're so whole that you feel so abundant, that the only thing you wanna do is give, we have people in this work that have created millions of dollars, and they're giving it away. And the more they give it away, the more money they keep getting. That's the experiment for them. That's their experiment.

• 55:01Joe Dispenza?

  They're trying that out as an experiment. Why? Because an abundant person would never hold on to anything. They have more than they need. So... The side effect of creating from the field instead of from matter shortens the distance between the thought of what we want and the experience of having it. And that takes means there's less time and the greater frequency, the closer we are to source, the less separation is two points of consciousness, it means there's less time, it should happen in a shorter amount of time in three dimensional reality. In that event, it's none of your business when it's gonna happen or how it's gonna happen. Because the moment you try to predict it, you're back to Newtonian model of reality.

• 55:38Lewis Howes?

  You're wanting and needing again.

• 55:40Joe Dispenza?

  You're laying a known over the unknown. And the consciousness that lives within us, that source says, I honor free will, go for it, do it your way.

• 55:50Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 55:50Joe Dispenza?

  And so we have to lay down the very thing we used our whole life to get what we want, for something greater to occur. And that's not an easy thing.

• 55:58Lewis Howes?

  Oh man.

• 55:59Joe Dispenza?

  Because it's such, there's such a propensity to jump in there and do, right?

• 56:02Lewis Howes?

  I know.

• 56:03Joe Dispenza?

  Control it or force it. And so we control, we force, we predict, we fight for it, we manipulate, we cheat, we lie, we steal. We do everything when we're matter, trying to change matter to take away that lack or separation. But if there's an alternative way to do that, to shorten the distance between one point of consciousness and another point, between cause and effect, and you start believing that you're the creator of your reality, you stop trying so hard. You start, and people in this work, I think that the excitement for me, and what I'm proud of in terms of our community is that they do the work. Not because they have to, or they want to please God, or do the right thing, it's not that. They don't want the magic to end in their life. They don't want it to end.

• 56:47Joe Dispenza?

  It's not like, oh geez, I gotta go create my life. It's kind of like, so I, someone sent me a text just yesterday, a very, very, very wealthy, very successful person, and he said to me, I need to take a break from creating. Like, I'm gonna take a break. Is that okay? Is it okay? Like, his whole life has just gotten super beautiful, and he's so alive again, all these wonderful things happen. He said, I almost, I almost don't feel worthy. I don't, almost don't feel worthy, there's so many great things. You know how many times you showed up for yourself? You aren't worthy, that's why it's happening.

• 57:22Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 57:22Joe Dispenza?

  You aren't worthy, you showed up, man. If you don't show up, you don't believe you're a creator.

• 57:28Joe Dispenza?

  You show up, it means you do believe. And so many people, as I said, they may say, well, I think this stuff works, but I don't know if it works for me. This is a big moment because if you don't show up, then you don't believe it's possible. But if you show up, you still believe it's possible. So showing up for yourself every day, investing in yourself is investing in your future. And people say to me, well, I did it for two weeks and nothing happened. And I would say to them, you're not that good. Like, I don't know what else to tell you. It's not like it doesn't work for you. It's just like, learn a little bit more knowledge, understand what you're doing. Your, your health condition isn't changing. Okay. Your, your relationship, you want a relationship?

• 58:09Joe Dispenza?

  And, and you want a relationship and love and you're living the three quarters of your day in fear? You think you're, you think you're going to attract love? You've got to be able to feel that feeling instead of fear. And when it's the hardest, it matters the most. Then you're worthy. Right. You're worthy of love. You are worthy. When you get to that point where you're worthy of love, it's not like entitlement, like, I'm, I'm worthy of love. That's not how that works. You are worthy of it. It's, it's, it's, you're so worthy of it, you're okay without anybody. That's when it gets really good. That's powerful. And you don't need it. Well, because you don't, you don't need anything. Because you feel whole. Exactly. Now that, I call that the natural state of being. That's why we practice so much relaxed in the heart and awaken the brain because

• 58:51Joe Dispenza?

  there are so many biological changes, neurological, genetic changes that take place in that present moment. So many wonderful changes. So the person who wants the wealth, the person who wants the relationship, they can't be saying, or the, or the health, they can't be saying, well, how come I'm not healed?

• 59:10Joe Dispenza?

  The person who's, the person who's in the process of healing would never say that. That's the person, that's the old self. Right. That says, how come I don't have a new relationship? Well, we'll figure it out. Like, the two weeks went by and were you spending the rest of your day in fear and in lack? Were you, were you hating yourself and hating your life? Who do you think, you think, you think you're worthy of love at this point? You're not gonna, you're not gonna be happy. No one's gonna make you happy until you make you happy.

• 59:35Lewis Howes?

  That's true.

• 59:36Joe Dispenza?

  And that changes everything. You find that person and, and they're happy for no reason. You gotta, and not just happy like always happy, but, but a sensibility that they can manage themselves and manage their emotions and manage their attention in such a way that's admirable.

• 59:53Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 59:53Joe Dispenza?

  Like you're inspired by that person. Your, your relationship, the person that you're with is an inspiration to you. Like wow, I'm inspired by this person. I'm moved by this person. I wanna, I wanna show up for this person. I wanna give as much as they give in this relationship. I wanna, I wanna care as much as they care. I wanna be as kind as they are. I wanna see when everybody else reacts, this person doesn't react. Something is cool about that person. That's, that gives the person or the people that were in relationship permission to show up differently. And that's, that's when it becomes infectious. That's when it becomes wonderful.

• 1:00:29Lewis Howes?

  I want to ask you two final questions because I could go on for hours with you as always. But I want, I want people to digest this because the explanation of the, the signal and the magnet, I think, I want people to watch that on repeat until they truly understand it and practice it. Uh, because when you understand that, that is the game. It's figuring out how to make this happen and create this looping effect of sending out the signal with your pure intention and drawing it back in with your heart.

• 1:01:01Joe Dispenza?

  And at the same time, feel, feel, feel the emotion of your future before it happens.

• 1:01:06Lewis Howes?

  Oh.

• 1:01:06Joe Dispenza?

  Because in the quantum,

• 1:01:08Lewis Howes?

  It's so big.

• 1:01:09Joe Dispenza?

  In the quantum, you gotta feel it to experience it.

• 1:01:10Lewis Howes?

  You do.

• 1:01:11Joe Dispenza?

  And three dimensional.

• 1:01:12Lewis Howes?

  Before it's here.

• 1:01:12Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah, and three dimensional reality, you experience it.

• 1:01:14Lewis Howes?

  When it happens.

• 1:01:15Joe Dispenza?

  And you feel it afterwards. In the quantum, you gotta feel it to experience it. And whatever you experience in the realm beyond space and time and emotionally embrace must manifest in this space and time. It's the law.

• 1:01:24Lewis Howes?

  Let's go. Let's go.

• 1:01:26Joe Dispenza?

  But, but, but my point is, is that if it doesn't happen in two weeks, don't give up.

• 1:01:30Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:01:30Joe Dispenza?

  The experiment continues. What is it, what, what does that mean? It means that you gotta fill your brain with more knowledge. You gotta practice more. You gotta be more present. You can't be thinking about your coffee. We're thinking about what happened yesterday. You're not there. You're not there. You're not there. When you are there, you're not thinking. Look, think about this. If you got up feeling connected to your future emotionally, then you would say you would be feeling like your future has already happened.

• 1:01:59Joe Dispenza?

  If you feel the emotions of your future before it happens, you would no longer look for it. You only look for it when you don't feel connected to it because you're in lack or separation. Try that out with your eyes open. The entire day, I'm going to sustain my energy, put more attention on my inner world, just a little bit more, relax in my heart and wake in my brain. Let me tune in to that future. Let me feel it when I'm at the stoplight. Let me feel it when my best friend's complaining to me. Let me feel it when I'm washing the dishes. Let me just practice my own thing as an experiment. I do this just to see. The more I tune in, the more I draw to me. It's no longer about the event. It's about, it's getting so lost in the effort, so lost in the act, that the act actually creates the experience. You're too involved in what you're doing.

• 1:02:44Joe Dispenza?

  When you default back to the old person and feel the same emotion, don't expect your life to change. You just return back to the same state of being, the same energy. There's no one, no person or nothing doing that in your life. If you say it's that person or that thing, you're back to being at effect in your life. So then being a cause in your life then, is not trying to rush and get it done. Getting back in your life is actually being present in the moment and just try something else differently, draw it to me. So the brain coherence and heart coherence is producing a Wi-Fi signal. And now you're connected, now you're hooked up. When your brain is incoherent, you're incoherent. When your brain is incoherent and you have no Wi-Fi signal, you don't have that connection. When your heart is not coherent, you have no Wi-Fi signal, you have no connection.

• 1:03:29Joe Dispenza?

  You're separate, you're too far from the router, from the, you know, from your source. So tuning up the autonomic nervous system, tuning up the nervous system by getting a tune in, by tuning into energy and frequency, keep doing that. Boy, we see just really, really wonderful things. I mean, I always say to the scientists, All those meditations on nothing and you're getting all of this incredible data? There's gotta be information in that energy and that frequency that's not coming from their senses. They're not, it's not coming from the candy bar or the drug or the diet. They're not taking anything and yet there's information in their blood. Looked like they were. Where is it coming from?

• 1:04:11Joe Dispenza?

  It's coming from the field. And so the person dials down the neocortex and moves into theta, theta hypnosis. You're suggestible to information. But in hypnosis, you're plugged into reality with your senses. You're getting instructions, you're hearing things, you're seeing things. And of course you're suggestible and you can, you can program a person. But the person's sitting in a meditation. Their eyes are closed. There's music playing. They're not connected, so they're out of world at all, but, but they're still suggestible to information. And there's only one other place you can get information from and that's frequency. And the more coherent the brain and the more coherent the heart, the more coherent the information. And the little gland in the back of the brain called the pineal gland and the brain's radio receiver hooks up

• 1:04:54Joe Dispenza?

  to that frequency and that energy and it transduces that information at the profound imagery in the brain. And the person is having a transcendental moment. And that moment, they are seen beyond the veil of this illusion of separation. And that's when they remember who they are and where they came from. That moment, you can only talk around. But it is electric. And so what if it took you six months to get there? Would it be worth it? Yeah, I would, I would say so. Seeing, seeing what's in the blood of people who hit that moment. And there are many people that don't hit that moment and still have the same information in their blood. Eighty-four, eighty-three, seventy-seven percent of the community. It's pretty crazy.

• 1:05:33Lewis Howes?

  That's incredible. I want everyone to go to your website because I want them to sign up to get on your retreat. Because when I went there. I felt an incredible explosion of love.

• 1:05:44Joe Dispenza?

  I saw.

• 1:05:44Lewis Howes?

  I'm disconnected from my phone. It's in the hotel somewhere. I'm tapped into my heart and I'm practicing being in my heart and feeling nothing except for the feeling of love for hours and hours and hours. And then I'm learning from you, the science, the research, all the data. You have so many research papers now out that will link up to talk about, here's the hard facts, the data, the peer reviewed science that's proving that you can get incredible healing results, wholeness results that allow you to attract from the field more beautiful things in your life, not because you need them or want them, because they're available to you now.

• 1:06:22Joe Dispenza?

  It's an experiment.

• 1:06:23Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, exactly. And I want people to sign up, follow you and practice some meditations. You know, a lot of this comes from the practice and the experiment of it like you talked about. This isn't going to happen if you just think for one moment at a time and then the rest of your days are anger, fear, resentment, lack.

• 1:06:42Joe Dispenza?

  Do the inventory.

• 1:06:43Lewis Howes?

  Exactly. Do the inventory every night. How much time did I think about love, peace, gratitude, forgiveness versus anger, resentment, or lack?

• 1:06:51Joe Dispenza?

  And if the answer is, well, you don't understand, I have a reason to feel this way, then you're not there.

• 1:06:56Lewis Howes?

  You're not there.

• 1:06:56Joe Dispenza?

  You're not, you're not beyond your past.

• 1:06:58Lewis Howes?

  Exactly.

• 1:06:59Joe Dispenza?

  And I always say justified or not, the only person that that's hurting, those emotions is really you.

• 1:07:06Lewis Howes?

  It is.

• 1:07:06Joe Dispenza?

  It really is. And so you gotta ask yourself, is this loving to me? And this is the beginning of your relationship with yourself.

• 1:07:12Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely.

• 1:07:12Joe Dispenza?

  And self forgiveness is so important. Not self forgiveness, like, okay, go, go out and do it again. But like, what did I learn? Do I really want to end up here every day? Do I really want to end up in the same place? I don't want this.

• 1:07:23Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:07:23Joe Dispenza?

  Okay, so then what would you tell your kid if he didn't want, well, change? Change that, like, how do I change it? Well, stop it. You want to be happy, stop being unhappy. Life's really simple.

• 1:07:34Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:07:34Joe Dispenza?

  And so the unlearning process, the breaking the habit process, the overcoming process, nobody likes to talk about because it is the overcoming process.

• 1:07:43Lewis Howes?

  It's hard.

• 1:07:43Joe Dispenza?

  That is the becoming process. That woman who broke through and her heart blew wide open and she was abused as a child. Boy, she, she was so happy with herself. She was, she, she saw herself when she was ready to give up and say, I can't go any further because emotion was so hard. She went one more time and her heart opened up. She was so incredibly free after that moment. She, she literally moved out of her past into her present moment. And she, when she was making that decision, when she saw like all the days that she never missed a meditation. And she fell in love with that person. She fell in love with that person.

• 1:08:27Joe Dispenza?

  And it was that future self that was drawing that past self to her in love. There's a future you, there's a future me that already exists. It's more mystical, more loving, more abundant, more free, more unlimited, more genius, more cool. And it's you, right? And, and so the overcoming process then is the difficult process because so many people rather just get on their cell phone, get distracted, scroll through Tik Tok or social media. They just regulate their emotions by something else happening. They're not conscious they're doing that, but that's what they're doing.

• 1:08:58Joe Dispenza?

  In this case, we're asking you to do it on your own. So, so you're sitting through the fire, you're not going for the cell phone. Man, it's, it's, it's like you're, you're, you're, you're, you're in the river of change. And it's uncomfortable and it's uncertain and there's unpredictability and it's the unknown. But man, that is the place to create from not from the low, from the unknown. So getting people into that place where they're uncomfortable and okay with it and understanding that there is a future that, that already exists, you just have to become it, right? Become that person. So it's not your wealth, it's who you become. It's not your health, it's who you become. You can ask the people who healed, ask the people who are abundant, they'll say, no, no, no, no, that wasn't it. And you can talk to the people who had really profound instantaneous healings. Instantaneous healings.

• 1:09:42Joe Dispenza?

  I get them on a stage and for 10 minutes, they're talking about how amazing they feel from the experience. And finally I say to them, will you, will you tell the audience, oh yeah, I was blind and now I can see. Oh yeah, Parkinson's, now I don't have any, like the, the event is more powerful than their healing. The healing is consequence.

• 1:10:00Joe Dispenza?

  Of them overcoming, right? And it's the overcoming process that is the becoming process. That's the relearning process. The reinvention process, right? And that's, that's what we live for. And so we overcome our fear. We overcome our resentment. We overcome our anger, our betrayal, and we become something else. We're moving closer to source or moving closer to love. And it's not something that you have to try to do. It's just who you become. It's not like you have to try to forgive. You just feel so good. You don't want to feel anything else, right? And, and you're more resilient and you're, you're more healthy, you're more whole. Imagine like people who are super wealthy, a lot of times they say to me, and we're talking billions. They say, we're miserable. We're in agony. And I say, why?

• 1:10:43Joe Dispenza?

  And they say, because, well, I can't enjoy a sunset anymore. I can't relax. I don't know how to do that. Like, I, I don't know how to do that. I can't even appreciate life. And yet somehow, then we overcome ourselves and we feel more love. We're more prone to give. Why? Because we want people to feel the way we feel. That's not like I'm doing this to, to, to please anybody. I'm, I feel so good. I, I want you to feel the way I feel. So the only way I can do that is to give you what I have. And I feel so good, I'm happy to give it away. Like, I don't know, imagine a world like that, you know? So, so falling in love with yourself is falling in love with life, right? And falling in love with life is falling in love with yourself. Whatever it is that's standing in the way between you and love, that's the journey. That's the journey.

• 1:11:28Joe Dispenza?

  Cause it, cause pure love is source, right? It is, is pure consciousness. So, as I said at the beginning, that in order for us to find love, a part of us must die. Or anything that's not love in us must die. And that, and that, that, that biological, neurological, chemical, hormonal, genetic death of the self has to occur for something to be reborn. That's the phoenix rising from the ashes. And it's not like someone's going to do it for you. Nobody's going to choose you. That you are endowed with the free will as pure consciousness as a creator that has fallen from source to such a degree of separation, you have your own free will to create reality any way you want. So then your job then is to reinvent whatever that is in your life,

• 1:12:13Joe Dispenza?

  whatever that dream is. And I'm saying to people all the time, I don't care what it is. I don't care whatever it is you want. I'm totally cool with that as long as you know how to create. And as you get good at this and you start having the things you want, then the only thing you want to do is give back. The only thing you want to do is make a difference. And the side effect of that is people start taking care of people. And in our community, you know, we inform one another, we respect one another, we honor one another, we support one another, we heal one another, we shine for one another so others can shine. That's the emergent consciousness. And that collective group of people that's bound together in a different energy, a different frequency, that is that then glue creates

• 1:12:52Joe Dispenza?

  a community, a collective network. And I think that that then is what people are looking for in the world.

• 1:13:00Lewis Howes?

  I want people to follow everything you're doing. It's inspiring. It's amazing. Get Dr. Joe's meditations, sign up for your newsletter so you can be informed about everything you have going on. You've got research papers coming out. You've got a walk that people can be a part of, you know, depending on when this interview comes out, to continue to inspire and bring people together to transform from the inside out. You've got incredible books that are transformational. I want people to get everything. So check it out. I've been to a lot of, for the last 11 years, I've done a lot of different workshops, I've done a lot of meditation retreats, I've been to India, I've done, you know, I've done so many different things. I've done extreme cold, extreme heat, I've done a lot of different

• 1:13:43Lewis Howes?

  healing modalities, therapies. And the thing that I love about your work is you bring

• 1:13:52Lewis Howes?

  Practical style of meditation that people heard meditation for a long time. But you bring it in a unique way from all your experiences and from all the science and research that you've done and proven with other outside scientists and researchers to show here are the actual results. So you give evidence, you give data, you give testimonials, you get so many examples of how these things work in different cases in life. So when you teach, you know, science and the mystical, you marry the two and allow people to receive it with the information while experiencing something that's unknown to them, where they believe more. And when they believe more, they can recreate that more and then they

• 1:14:37Lewis Howes?

  can spread the message more to others. So there's something beautiful about your work that I want to appreciate and acknowledge you for. Because that's the first time I've seen you since the event, even though we've texted and messaged a few times, but it was such an incredibly powerful seven day experience. And I just want everyone, I hope everyone gets the opportunity to experience it someday. You've got courses online that people can learn a lot of this information from as well. And there's just so many resources you have on your website. So we'll have that linked up. Here's my final question for you on this.

• 1:15:11Lewis Howes?

  You know, maybe I can convince you in a year or two to do another one about level C. But my question for this, I have a shirt that I got at your event. That someone gave me and it's based on a mantra that you said over and over again in this seven day experience. And the question is, what would love do? So I want to throw that question back to you. This is something you say to everyone in your retreats. What would love do? I'm curious, how do you answer that for yourself?

• 1:15:38Joe Dispenza?

  Um, God, you know, I'm a mission driven person. I've had all kinds of things in my life. And there's not a whole lot of things that I have meaning for aside from the people that are close to me and that I love. But what I really love is making a difference in people's lives. I think that's innate in us. I think that it's so much easier to clean your neighbor's garage than your own. I don't know why that is. We're wired to take care of one another, you know. And so for me, what love does is, number one, being the example, doing the work and being the example of everything that I teach. I think that's important for me. But then I'm a mission-driven person and I think that

• 1:16:21Joe Dispenza?

  the only way my mission is to change individuals, to somehow change their lives and ultimately empower people in some way to create a different world. And so I work just like anybody else to move closer to it. I practice all the things that I teach. And I do find incredible value in being part of transformation. I think when you witness a mother whose child has been autistic for years, stand on a stage and tell her story in tears, and tell... I think the people that were part of that coherence healing, that were actually changed that kid's life, changed the mother's life, I think the greatest form of gratitude that

• 1:17:04Joe Dispenza?

  we can ever feel is receiving gratitude. And when we receive gratitude, something really profound happens. You're part of someone's transformation. It's tribal. And we tend to switch on networks in the brain that cause us to move closer together, to commune, to become more social. And the side effect is that we become more appreciative. We appreciate life. We appreciate the moment. And people who do, as an example, the coherence healings, that's what love does. Like, that's what love does. And they're not doing it to hang a shingle out there to say, "I'm a healer or a life coach." They're doing it because they're getting so much out of the experience. They're part of a person's change,

• 1:17:45Joe Dispenza?

  this empathy, this kind of human empathy awakens, where you realize that we're all connected on some level. We're wholeness in parts, you know. Every individual's part of the whole. And if we change enough individuals, we can change the whole. And whatever that point is, I don't know. But for me, what love does in some way is... To be the example in our lives, to show people what it looks like. To, to, to be something other than what's normal and natural. Different from the collective consciousness in some way. And dare to be original enough, you know, in the beginning, you'll be considered foolhardy and insane. And you pull it off and then you're a genius, you're mystic, right?

• 1:18:26Joe Dispenza?

  And then so, so I'm sure that many people in this work that faced off with their family and friends when they were given a hard diagnosis, had to come up to terms with themselves and, and, and really look to see, like, do I love myself enough to do this? And, and showing up every day and falling in love with yourself every day is a great anecdote for the, for the healing process. So for me, I want to be, I, I, I watched a woman open her eyes for the first time in Cancun and saw for the first time of standing right there. I wanted to be there. I wanted to be, I wanted to celebrate with her. I wanted to be right there in that moment when she opened her eyes. I wanted to be right there. I wanted to, I wanted to experience her joy. I wanted to, I wanted to celebrate with her, like.

• 1:19:10Joe Dispenza?

  To me, that's the gift of life. That is what, I think that's what love does. And, and the effect of love is caring and kindness and healing and connection. No judgment, no conditions. It's something, it's something, it's, it's a never-ending process of discovery, right? And, and every mystical experience I've had, that where I felt profound feelings

• 1:19:35Joe Dispenza?

  has always led me to the understanding that there can't be any more love to this, until the next one.

• 1:19:40Lewis Howes?

  But then there is more.

• 1:19:41Joe Dispenza?

  And then there is more. I'm like, my, my God, man, I have just shaded myself. So, so then surrendering fully to love, right? Surrendering fully to love every day is a mystery. Where does it lead me? I don't know. But the unknown has never let me down up until this point. So that, that brings me, for me, the greatest joy to somehow make a difference in people's lives.

• 1:20:06Lewis Howes?

  I hope today's episode inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a rundown of today's show with all the important links. And if you want more inspiration from our world-class guests and content to learn how to improve the quality of your life, then make sure to sign up for the Greatness Newsletter and get it delivered right to your inbox over at greatness.com/newsletter. And if no one has told you today, I want to remind you that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.