Bonus #116 - Live Call Show Vol. 22 [PATREON PREVIEW]

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Stavvy's back talking directly to the fans!! Stav and Eldy give advice to beautiful patrons including a guy who's tired of taking care of his messy needy sister, a girl who wants to know how to get a Greek man-child that she's dating to get serious about her, and a couple updates from some beloved former live callers. 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets 🎥 Watch LET'S START A CULT on Hulu: https://www.hulu.com/movie/lets-start-a-cult-1f157c44-3840-4f01-8863-bb6afa472a0b If you'd like to be a part of future live call episodes, subscribe at www.patreon.com/stavvysworld to get access to the Stavvy's World Discord channel where these live calls are taken. Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:00Speaker 00

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• 1:07Stavros Halkias?

  What up?

• 1:08Speaker 02

  Hi.

• 1:10Stavros Halkias?

  What's going on?

• 1:12Speaker 02

  Um, hi, Stavi. Okay, so, basically, I went on a date with this guy last week, and it was only supposed to be like a coffee and like movie kind of thing.

• 1:23Stavros Halkias?

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:24Speaker 02

  Um, but then it went really well, so we spent like all day together. And like he invited me to this punk show, and I met all of his friends.

• 1:30Stavros Halkias?

  Ooh.

• 1:31Speaker 02

  And then it was like, uh, do you want to stay over kind of thing? And I was like, yeah, cause, you know, whatever. So then, you know, sex happened and whatever.

• 1:40Stavros Halkias?

  You think you're in a fucking indie movie? The fuck are you doing?

• 1:43Speaker 02

  Am I what?

• 1:44Stavros Halkias?

  You think you're in an indie movie? What the fuck are you doing, spending all day with this motherfucker?

• 1:47Speaker 02

  Dude, I know, but the vibes were good.

• 1:50Stavros Halkias?

  All right, all right, whatever. Keep going, sorry.

• 1:52Speaker 02

  Anyway, okay, so then we hang out, whatever, I leave, and then, two days later, we have plans to hang out again, and he wanted to do like something chill and just like hang at the house. And I was like, okay, that's fine. So we like watched a movie and got some Taco Bell, and it was chill. But he was like low-key like on his phone a lot, which I thought was kind of weird.

• 2:10Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, it is weird.

• 2:12Speaker 02

  Yeah, also, he has like that thing set up on his phone where like it uses Face ID to open like his apps, so people like can't get into his apps, which is fair, I guess. Also, he's 35.

• 2:22Stavros Halkias?

  And how old are you?

• 2:23Speaker 02

  I'm 26.

• 2:25Stavros Halkias?

  Okay.

• 2:26Speaker 05

  Uh, one more, one more question. Uh, uh, I wonder what ethnicity is this guy?

• 2:32Speaker 02

  Oh, he's a Greek guy. That's why I need to...

• 2:34Speaker 05

  Oh, interesting.

• 2:36Speaker 02

  Yeah, and he's from Flushing and I'm like, low key...

• 2:39Stavros Halkias?

  I was like, why is he still just asking this race question with such confidence? I was like, what the fuck is this? Uh, you had prior info, you fucking piece of shit.

• 2:48Speaker 02

  Yeah, I forgot to mention that.

• 2:50Stavros Halkias?

  So you're, you're trying to turn me against a 35-year-old Greek piece of shit who dates girls in their mid-20s? Uh, this is a tough one for me morally.

• 3:04Stavros Halkias?

  I have to recuse myself from this question.

• 3:08Speaker 02

  I will say though, I really like him. Like, I just don't know, like, if there's something I should be doing, especially like, he's super Greek. Like, is there something I should be doing that maybe like, I don't know, that I'm not doing that would make him, I don't know, wife me up maybe?

• 3:23Stavros Halkias?

  No, you're already in trouble if that's how you're thinking after two dates.

• 3:27Speaker 05

  Yeah. Yeah, it's been like a week, first of all, so...

• 3:32Stavros Halkias?

  I know, okay, the vibes were good, that's, and I respect that, but you can't chase the, the high of those vibes either, right? Cause like, like, that is one date. Sure, it was all day and it was actually probably like, it was essentially four dates, if not five dates in one day, but like, it was one date, and then when there's such a steep drop-off in date quality, that fast, that is a big red flag to me personally, right? Like, to me, this guy might just be somebody who's good at woo, you know, like, he's, and I, I identify with this, good at, good at the job interview, horrible at the job. That might be who this guy is, you know what I mean?

• 4:15Stavros Halkias?

  It might be the kind of thing where, and I, this sucks because clearly you, you hit it off, you're smitten by this guy, and you know, like I said, he comes from great genetic stock. Uh, there's, you're right, you're right to think this, but, I would, all my, my general advice right now is pump the brakes a little bit. As good as that date was... You gotta, you gotta like average out these, you, you, you like him enough to keep seeing him, right?

• 4:44Speaker 02

  Yeah, well, we were supposed to hang out tonight and then he canceled on me.

• 4:47Stavros Halkias?

  Bad sign. I hate to be, I hate to hit you with some, with the, with the real, with some real shit here, but it's like, that's another bad sign. And you kinda have to, and look, whatever, people cancel, what, it's fine. If you see him again and the third date is good. I think it's like, and the, and the third date is good, I think that buys him another one, but it's like, if he's already kinda taking you for granted, like, if you have this magical, he might just be a fucking, a middle-aged male manic pixie dream boy here, where it's like, you, he hooked you with this awesome, kinda like fairy tale first date, and then he's fucking, you know,

• 5:27Stavros Halkias?

  he's, you're eating cheesy gordita crunches and he's fucking sexting with his face app while you're in the bathroom, you know what I mean? Like, that's a big drop off. That's a huge drop off.

• 5:38Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 5:39Stavros Halkias?

  Um, so don't, you cannot go at it with this, like, how do I impress this guy shit, cause he's clearly whatever scumbag. Uh, I'm like, Jesus Christ, I have to, uh, this is like, Elders just, this is a paid actor, you, you gave her this, so I would change the way I live my life.

• 5:55Speaker 05

  I don't give a fuck.

• 5:58Speaker 02

  So eventually, he will probably hear this.

• 6:02Stavros Halkias?

  Interesting.

• 6:03Speaker 02

  Oh, also he has your calendar in his room and we had sex next to it.

• 6:06Stavros Halkias?

  Bad sign, bad, bad sign. Get out.

• 6:13Stavros Halkias?

  But look, all, that's all I would say is like, just, you don't wanna be, you, you are still in the fact finding stage of this. You like him enough to keep seeing him, right? I'm not saying break it off with this guy, I'm just saying, you can't be in the, how do I make this guy date me? Because you're not even sure you want this guy to date you yet. You shouldn't be anyway, right? Like, he's gotta earn it a little bit and you also have to be, you also have to stand up for yourself enough that if it's- If it's a couple weird dates in a row, or even if it's just hot and cold and uneven. And like, he just kinda takes you for, he's, he's great one day and he's bad another day. These are bad signs and you have to like, stand up for yourself enough to get out of a relationship like that.

• 6:58Stavros Halkias?

  And like, that's why those first dates are always, if something is way too good, way too fast, it's like, it's either the best thing of all time and that's what you're hoping, you're hoping you just are having a whirlwind romance. That's already gone if we followed up with Taco Bell on a cancellation last minute. So that's done. This ain't, you're not telling, you know, that first date is in the rearview quite. Now, he can make up for it if he hit, if he's just great from here on out, then I'll eat my words. Am I betting on that? Not exactly, but like, so yeah, that's, before we get into how do you fucking convince a, he's a 35 year old Greek guy from Flushing, does he live with his fucking parents still too?

• 7:42Speaker 02

  No, he moved out, but he like, lives in a basement.

• 7:44Stavros Halkias?

  Right. I'm gonna guess he moved out and who, let me see the fucking lease. Who owns that fucking basement is another question. Is it his parents? That's a, that's a Greek Queens thing a lot, is they move, but it's just a unit their parents own, but. Yeah, so that's another thing, it's like, don't, let's, let's respect ourselves enough to fully, to fully decide if this person has earned you wanting them in your life full time. You know what I mean?

• 8:20Stavros Halkias?

  So, there you go. I'm sorry to have to give you a little, sorry to just come at you with the, with the harsh truths. But that's how.

• 8:27Speaker 05

  Here's a franker way to put it, like.

• 8:29Stavros Halkias?

  Oh, franker than that. You think I was too fucking gentle, you motherfucker? Go ahead.

• 8:34Speaker 02

  Yeah, I think that was plenty gentle, but continue.

• 8:37Speaker 05

  I mean, I think like, uh, you know, with a guy like this, he does probably sound like, kind of like a shitbag kinda. I mean, he's 35 going to punk shows. That's like, yeah, worst case scenario, he is kinda like, uh, you know, manic pixie boy like Stoff said. Best case scenario, he's just like charismatic, but either way, especially with like. You know, there's like a nine year age gap here. It's like, you know, the way, the way to lock a guy like this down will not be to like, press on make me your girlfriend.

• 9:09Stavros Halkias?

  Right.

• 9:10Speaker 05

  The girls who get ahead, like, you just gotta stay down for like a long time and.

• 9:15Stavros Halkias?

  And is it worth, is, is the, is it worth it is the question. You're right. You're actually right. Again, I'm thinking about what works on me and that's absolutely true.

• 9:24Speaker 05

  You gotta stay down for unfortunately a long time and you know, if, if it is worth it and if it's not like demeaning to you.

• 9:33Stavros Halkias?

  Totally.

• 9:34Speaker 05

  Um, but yeah, this guy will definitely not respond to getting pressed on. On what are we like three weeks in?

• 9:42Stavros Halkias?

  You're probably, yeah, you're right about that.

• 9:44Speaker 02

  No, for sure. I'm willing to like, you know, wait it out obviously and like, see what's the vibes, but yeah, I don't know. It was just weird after the second date and then the canceling today, but we are supposed to hang out on Sunday. So.

• 9:56Stavros Halkias?

  Okay.

• 9:56Speaker 02

  We'll see.

• 9:57Stavros Halkias?

  Well, hey, you know, you're still fact finding and stay in it as long as it feels good for you. But be honest about when it feels good. Cause if it stops, you have to be honest with yourself.

• 10:09Speaker 02

  Um, yeah.

• 10:09Stavros Halkias?

  And just, and really, and don't think about what potentially could be. Judge him on what has actually happened. That's a huge one for a guy like this. I really feel, I really feel bad putting this information. This is just, every girl breaks up with me right now. I get like four texts after this.

• 10:27Speaker 02

  Also, I will say he's like really hot. I just need to stay, say that quickly before.

• 10:32Stavros Halkias?

  That makes sense. Yeah. No, that makes sense. Obviously. That's why, that's why he gets to behave this way. He had, he had to have something. I assumed he's not, he's not a comedian. You know, he's not a very good comedian. You know, he's gotta be either talented or hot to behave this way.

• 10:46Speaker 02

  Yeah, amen.

• 10:48Stavros Halkias?

  Um, all right. Well, good luck, sister.

• 10:58Speaker 00

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• 11:39Speaker 00

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• 11:51Stavros Halkias?

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