Pod Insights The Ed Mylett Show The Hidden Danger of Being Too Attached to Outcomes About this episode Are your goals driving you—or draining you?
In this month’s sit-down with my brother Brendon Burchard, we break open something rarely talked about but absolutely critical if you're chasing success: the difference between being committed to your goals and being attached to them. We’re not here to dish out motivational fluff—this is a raw conversation about mastering presence, building true rhythm in your life, and not letting your need for results rob you of your ability to perform at your best.
Brendon and I talk about how most people get lost in the micro—obsessing over metrics, routines, and outcomes—while completely missing the bigger picture. Goals aren’t the problem; attachment is. I share the metaphor of a pro golfer who misses an easy putt—not because he lacks skill, but because he’s mentally fast-forwarding to what it means if he makes or misses. And in life, just like on the course, the moment you get needy, you drop your frequency.
We also dive into what I’ve learned through experience and faith—how the real shift came when I started surrendering the harvest to God. Your job is to plant the seeds, do the work, show up—but the outcome? That’s not yours to control. I want you to think about this: who are you becoming? Because your state of being will take you further than any checklist or protocol ever will.
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Key Takeaways:
Why presence matters more than pressure in moments of execution
The difference between being needy for a goal and committed to a vision
How “working the rhythm” can outperform chasing the result
Why surrendering the outcome increases your ability to perform
The identity shift from achiever to warrior—and how it changes everything
What it really means to move in a direction instead of chasing random goals
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2:08 Ed Mylett? This is the Ed Mylett Show.
2:12 Ed Mylett? Welcome back to the show, everybody. So as I am joined every single month by this brilliant man, the man who wrote High Performance Habits, the man who is the mentor to all the mentors you know on social media that's in the personal development space, and your favorite episodes, I find for most of you, every single month are with the man who wrote High Performance Habits and a bunch of other bestselling books, but he just lays out his brilliant content once a month here on the Ed Mylett Show. One of my literal best friends in the world, and I can tell you the last five years of my life, the person has come into it, I'm the most grateful for, Brendon Burchard. Welcome back to the show, brother.
2:46 Brendon Burchard? Wow, brother. Thank you so much. I love doing these with you.
2:49 Ed Mylett? I love it. So does the audience. And so, guys, fasten your seat belts. It's gonna be the best 30 minutes you've ever spent, I hope.
2:53 Brendon Burchard? It will be awesome. I want to brag on you real fast because I know it's your show. No one needs to hear this, except Ed and I just did an event together for Growth Day in Austin, Texas. And his ability to read an audience and to kind of size up the energy that they have and that they need is so above level. And I say this because every time I'm on, you compliment me as a speaker or as a coach. And I got to be with you and watch you do it across two days. And I don't think, if you're a podcast listener or YouTube watcher, it's hard to know what he does in front of these audiences. So I just hope someday you get to be out there in the crowd or on the stage with him like I was. It's just an unbelievable thing to watch. So thank you, brother. That was amazing.
3:34 Ed Mylett? Well, we gotta do the podcast on this. So we're gonna do that next. But you said this, and by the way, this is not in our plan, just so you know, but that Growth Day event was incredible. And especially the Sunday portion we did with the Ultra members. If people want to find out about Ultra, do you remember the link? Because I don't remember it.
3:49 Brendon Burchard? Yes. Ultra.vip. And we spent an extra day with just a small group, me and Ed, and it was really a magical experience because you shared some personal things and some coaching experience, vice versa. But we also talked about our families and our experiences with the audience. And then we took Q and A from them. And it was a very heavy QA. You mastered that. That was a really incredible watch.
4:12 Ed Mylett? Is it Ultra.vip.com or just Ultra.vip?
4:15 Brendon Burchard? Not VIP, it's that VIP.
4:17 Ed Mylett? Okay, that shows you what I know, guys. Okay, so there you go. We were talking about this nuance that's never discussed in personal development or performance that I think both of us have a great understanding from, partially because of the influence Wayne Dyer had in our lives. I mean, we both shared that, but I want you to talk about attachment. So, goal setting is so important and it's, you know, if you break the topics in personal growth or self-help or business, goal setting is one of those major topics. But it can get overcooked sometimes. There's this nuance that we're going to discuss today. Brendan, start out with about having a goal, but not being so obsessed of being attached to an outcome that it somehow suppresses your ability to perform.
4:57 Brendon Burchard? Right, because most people, when they have a high ambition or a big vision or very specific goal and they're striving for it over and over and over, day after day after day, they end up increasing their need for it. And now as they're seeking it, they're like, I have need for it. And it takes them out of their own energy into almost an addictive energy or an obsessive energy that ends up depleting their presence. And as you know, like with sports athletes we all work with, it's like, hey, when they lose presence, they lose games. If they're trying to figure out that exact next play and something is interrupted and they can't pivot or adapt, they can't be present in the next play, in the next huddle, in the next moment,
5:43 Brendon Burchard? then they always lose. Or if they do win, they develop such a bad habit that when the big stakes are there, when there's real pressure, they put more pressure on themselves. And so, everything is about getting people very excited about an ambition, very clear about what it is. But the real outcomes and the real goals you're looking for are mastery in a skill and presence of mind.
6:10 Brendon Burchard? Practice, practice, practice. Develop the mastery so it becomes almost automatic, natural. You're fully capable. And then presence of mind to just be in that moment. Be in what we call the way, a part of the way, in presence with that. When you can do that, then you'll start winning. If you overly control because you need an outcome, it's like dating somebody who's needy. No one wants to date somebody who's needy. You want to date somebody who can be playful, who's there in the moment, but they're not needy. And if you can remember not to be needy about an outcome and be present with high skill, then you'll win.
6:46 Ed Mylett? Yeah, you're exactly right. I was thinking about it from a business standpoint, but the relationship one's great. Like you want somebody who's in love with you and their goal is to someday be with you or make that work, but you don't want to have this feeling like they're needy to have it happen. Because what happens is especially like in sales or business too, when you're so obsessed with your goal or outcome, you become, the neediness becomes desperation and you reduce your frequency and you actually place yourself under this person. And somehow now when you're presenting to them, they, they kind of have that smirk on their face like they know you need something. So there's a place of presence and confidence that comes with having a goal, but not being so obsessed with the outcome. These seem like interchangeable words, everybody, but they're truly not. I'll give you an example that I, I gave this day.
7:29 Ed Mylett? When I work with golfers, for example, they have a goal to win a golf tournament. They have a goal to make a certain amount of money, a goal to be ranked at a certain place in the world. And that goal is very healthy, it causes them to do the extra reps of putting and hitting the balls and et cetera. You could transfer golf to any career. Having that goal is beautiful. But in the moment of execution, you must separate from your outcome in the moment. Because here's what happens, if you're over a putt and you want to make that putt, say a professional golfer with their buddies on a weekend, they got a five foot putt, they'll make 99 out of 100 of them, right? Because it's not needy, there's no desperation to it. But all of a sudden they get in a golf tournament and it's Sunday and if they make this putt, they win the golf tournament. All of a sudden now they're obsessed with the outcome that's attached to the goal, which
8:14 Ed Mylett? the outcome is to make this putt. And the minute you're obsessed with making the putt, I really, you really think this through, everybody. You're now not in the present moment. You're one second from now whether or not you make the putt. You're obsessed with this next moment of making it as opposed to just executing. So in the moment of execution, you have to let go. And separate from your outcome and be present because when you're obsessed with making the putt. You've now fast forwarded two to three seconds from now from when you do or don't make it. And what your mind does is, what are people going to think if I miss it? What are they going to think if I miss it? What are they going to say? He choked it away. Or what are they going to think if I make it? If I make it, I get all this other stuff. If I miss it, I get. And now you're now, you're actually living in the aftermath of the moment. So addicted to the outcome and not in the present moment.
8:55 Ed Mylett? And we always execute sales, relationships, putting, whatever it might be. In the moment of being present. And so it's a perfect example of it was. There's a great golfer named Rory McIlroy, who is, at the time of recording this, just won the Masters. And Rory was coming off of, as you know. Uh, he had lost the US Open last year in a moment. He had a goal to win the US Open, a major goal. Everybody, and in the moment on the 16th hole, he had a little putt that he made. I think they said 700 times in a row. But now he's so obsessed with the outcome of winning this golf tournament. He missed a putt that if he were present, he would make over and over again. Now, two holes later, he's, you know, ruminating on the fact that he had missed that putt. Now it's the 18th hole.
9:39 Ed Mylett? If he makes this little putt, he probably wins the golf tournament. To win the US Open, it's a dream. He's won it before, but it's a dream. And he missed it again. So what happened was he didn't separate from outcome in the moment because he certainly has the ability to execute. You fast forward to this week. When we're recording this, you'll hear it afterwards. And he is leading the Masters. He's going to get a career grand slam. Imagine this, you, you don't have to follow golf. He'd be the sixth golfer in the history of the sport. To win the career grand slam, which is all four majors. You're talking Tiger Woods, Jack Nicklaus here, Gary Player. You're talking about the best players ever. He's leading the tournament by four shots. There's about five, six holes to go. He has the easiest 120 yard shot he's ever hit in his life. He makes this 10,000 times out of 10,000 onto the green.
10:24 Ed Mylett? And he fats it in the lake. And he double bogeys. Then he makes it to the 18th hole. If he makes this putt, all he's got to do is par the hole. If he makes this little four or five foot putt, he wins the Masters, the career grand slam. That's been his goal since he was seven years old. But in the moment of execution, you have to separate from the outcome to achieve the goal. He did not. He missed the putt. He missed the putt. So now he goes to a playoff. Now he's in the playoff and he's made every mistake you could make to blow a golf tournament. And you know what he finally did? He said it in the post-fight interview. He goes, I just surrendered. I was like, I'm just going to execute. If I get the goal, I get the goal. I got that close. I get the goal.
11:08 Ed Mylett? He hits a perfect shot to four feet, makes the putt now because he's not attached to the outcome that he should have made earlier, just an hour before. And he wins the Masters. The point that I'm making to you all is that's a long way of telling you is having goals is requisite to success. But in the moments of execution, you separate and you just make the putt. You just make the call. You just do the meeting in the moment and you get back around to it. What would you add to that? Like you said, you learned some of this from Wayne. What was that version of it for you?
11:39 Brendon Burchard? Well, I'll add something first and I'll share what I learned from Wayne too. I, I would add just a phrase people can remember. Are you working the rhythm? Or are you worried about the result?
11:51 Brendon Burchard? That's the difference. When you're working a rhythm, working rhythm means you've just, you've got mastery. You've got skill. You've done practice after practice after practice. So now just work the rhythm. Just do it's all, it's almost natural now. All you do, work the rhythm. Just don't try to force things. That's what working the rhythm. It's like you're working the rhythm that you've already developed. So you already have a rhythm of play. You already have a rhythm of play that you've established over practice, practice, practice, competition, competition, competition. So now your rhythm is almost natural. And if you can stay in that natural element, that that spirit of the thing, as the Samurai used to talk about, you're in the spirit of the thing. So working the rhythm or worried about the result.
12:36 Brendon Burchard? And soon as you know, there's worry there, you're in need. So the way to tell the mental trigger is, oh, I'm worried about something. Oh, that means you're in need. I don't need to worry about the thing. I want you to work the practice, work the rhythm. And that will really help people when they're trying to figure out like, am I, because everyone has an obsession. And sometimes they confuse their passion for obsession. And sometimes you you're like confused of like result versus goal versus need. And so those two phrases will really help you. Work the rhythm, don't worry about the result.
13:06 Ed Mylett? Raw, that's unbelievably good.
13:08 Brendon Burchard? Yeah, what I saw from Wayne and he did a European tour. I got to go along with him and it happened to be a time in my life that was really hard. I had wrecked an ATV, racing some ATVs and I snapped my wrist off, had dislocated my shoulder, broke my hip, broke a few ribs. I was in major pain. And I went on this trip to Europe because like, oh my God, I get to go with Wayne. I'm going right.
13:31 Ed Mylett? Right, right.
13:32 Brendon Burchard? And I just saw him go from space to space to space to space. So humble, so in the moment. You know, he's he's leading this big tour, but he's picking up his bags at the airport. He's riding the bus with everybody. He's eating eggs in the morning with everybody on the tour. You know, he's just gliding up to the front of the stage in these old historic churches to share and talk about spirituality, you know, there was no denomination there. We're just talking about spirituality and and his whole, his ease with life was so incredible. And for those who know Wayne's story or ever saw him on PBS or read his books, he also had this famous talk
14:14 Brendon Burchard? where he would guide the audience, Ed, you probably saw him do this. He would guide the audience in singing, row, row, row your boat. And so you get everyone saying, row, row, row your boat, gently down the stream.
14:32 Brendon Burchard? And his emphasis there, I'd never heard a man say gently go forth.
14:40 Brendon Burchard? Walk lightly and softly with peace and ride with the stream of life. Where I grew up, it was like very like, get this thing done, you know, and it was very, that's good. You need that type A, you need that driven mentality, you need the passionate completionist that makes us all successful. And you need to learn to not stress yourself out. You need to learn to have magnanimity and equanimity, and you need to have that sense of peace as you progress. The real insight that most people ultimately get is they want peace and harmony with the drive and success. And you can have both. That's what we learned in high performance research.
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17:27 Ed Mylett? If some of you that are listening that are younger or don't know Wayne Dyer is one of the we just called the godfathers of personal development. He's one of the icons. If there's a Mount Rushmore, Wayne would be on it and he was an influence both over Brendan and I. You know, for me, you guys, as I've gone through my life, I I'm a major goal setter. I'm obsessed with, I want to be very clear on what I want. And I know many of you are, and if you're not, that is step one. I mean, if you're not clear on what you want and maybe equally important, the why behind it? The why, like who you're doing it for, what you're doing it for, that'll give you the juice and the drive to push through the adversity as it comes. Goal setting on its own is sort of an empty thing, but when you attach your reasons to it, big, fat, unbelievably emotional, compelling reasons. Now you've got this thing that can push you past as long as those reasons are bigger than your fear or the obstacle, you've got something.
18:13 Ed Mylett? Having said that, like everything in life, you can take it to an extreme and I did. And I put tremendous pressure on myself. And this is a metaphor for life. The last several years, Brendan and I talked about this on Ultra as well. I've surrendered so many things in my life to God. I've just surrendered. This is yours, God. And the way that I would say it to you that are believers, I think your goals are what will get you to plant the seeds in your life, to do all the preparation, but you have to surrender the harvest. And when you surrender the harvest to your higher power, in my case, Jesus Christ, when you surrender the harvest, now you've separated from outcome. And now you can be fully present with your family when you execute.
18:57 Ed Mylett? You will be at your, if you want to speak a different language that I also believe in, you're at your highest vibrational frequency when you're the most present. And even if you're a second ahead in your thinking, you are not present in the moment and you reduce your frequency, you reduce your flow state, you reduce your ability to execute under that moment. And ironically, your obsession with the outcome reduces the probability of you producing the goal. Isn't that crazy? And that's why conversations at this level that you're hearing right now are rarely ever recorded. Because in personal development, it's bubble gum, it's rainbows, it's taglines, it's generalities, it's platitudes. And no one at the highest levels discusses the nuances that really create high-performance habits and maxing out. And that's what we're talking about right now.
19:42 Ed Mylett? This is the real stuff of goal-setting and separating from outcome. Having said all of that, Brendan, I want to ask you a question about the goal part of it. Because you know, the outcome part of it, I think is, uh, most people never even get to that point because they, they don't have a clear enough goal or clear enough reason why. And for both you and I, I don't, I'll be honest with you. They're supposed to read your goals twice a day out loud. I don't, I have never really been proficient at doing that. Yet if you asked me in my life, what are five or six of the things I'm currently working on, which you ask me almost every time we talk, I can give you a specificity and clarity. For me, if I were to give people advice on their goals, is it's not specific. It's like, I'd like to lose weight. What the heck does that mean?
20:27 Ed Mylett? Exactly how much, right? Specifics, I want to make a lot of money. How much and how and why? What would you say? What's an added kicker on the goal part that you would say?
20:38 Brendon Burchard? Goals are not the game. Defining success is.
20:44 Brendon Burchard? Goals are sub-levels of a definition or objective of a broader success. You need to figure out the, it's like, it's like, a lot of people, their goals are like a bunch of things on a chessboard. But if you don't know what success is on a chessboard, you're just gonna move these little pieces around. There's, there is no strategy. There's no goals. There's just like movement. And a lot of people, they're in movement. I say it to people all the time. A lot of people, Ed, they have busy work. But they haven't found their life's work. If they spend a little bit more time to find their life's work. What their definition of success is, what the key contributions are, what the bigger picture is that they're after. It doesn't need to be a grandiose purpose.
21:27 Brendon Burchard? It just needs me, I feel that I'm moving in this very meaningful direction. And this meaningful direction is gonna lead me to these type of successes that mean something to me. Whether it's family, or it's faith, or it's health, or it's business. But I have a direction because I have a definition. Now, goals are like mileposts. That's all they are. Goals are the mileposts on the grander path. And a bunch of goals randomly thrown about on a mountain ain't gonna get you to the top. And so it's very important, like, it's a definition of success. It's a direction. Then the goals become things you're looking at, cause like, oh, that's the next thing. Okay, that's gonna help me get there, right?
22:12 Brendon Burchard? It's like their key objectives, their performance indicators. There's things along the path, but they're not the path. You're trying to do this, yeah, I would say something, and you keep going. I've been doing this a long time. I've never heard someone say that. Our educational system and probably our superficial learning has been always focused on such the micro. Right? It's all the micro, and they're missing the direction, which is the macro, the bigger picture. It's just like, you, you get all the time, like, geez, Ed, I like your biceps. You know, what is it? Is it five grams of creatine or 10? And you're like, get in the gym, bro. Find an enjoyment and a hobby in working out, like, the, the athleticism. Is the success.
22:55 Brendon Burchard? It's not just the micro, we focus on the micro, how many milligrams of this? It's like, but you're missing the entire direction. And that's where most people are, people feel lost, not because they're not doing things. I know so many people, their protocols are unbelievable. They're spectacular, they send them to me. People read High Performance Habits, they're like, oh, here's all of mine. And they have this huge list of habits and protocols and ideas and affirmation. They have all the things, like all the pieces of the chessboard, but they don't know how to win the game. And so your, your game is to be on path to a direction that matters to you. And you're gonna have good days and you have bad days. Some goals will be fulfilled, some goals you're gonna detour around, like that was, that didn't happen to be the thing. You're still moving in the right direction, but that goal ended up not actually being the thing.
23:40 Brendon Burchard? You and I have both dumped goals before, because we realized it wasn't on the right direction.
23:45 Ed Mylett? Yep.
23:46 Brendon Burchard? And so I think goals are very important, but I think that they need to be thought of in context to a bigger play in life.
23:55 Ed Mylett? That's so good. I was thinking of that, as you're talking, now I'm flashing to people that have been in my life that I admire. And that is verbatim the definition of who they are. Some of them don't even have specific goals. They've got the direction they wanna go and be. And then others of them do have very specific goals that they are, are almost like leading indicators they're on path.
24:18 Brendon Burchard? Yes.
24:19 Ed Mylett? And oftentimes, as I've changed where I wanna be, that goal is no longer, I've audited myself, I said, that goal is no longer part of where I wanna go and what I wanna be. I, I, I shouldn't do sports like I am so much today, but I was thinking of Tiger Woods, when you were describing it, arguably the greatest golfer of this generation, you know, he's known for being obsessed and you know, Tiger's overall mission was, he, he wanted to be the greatest golfer of all time. And maybe break Jack Nicklaus's records, but he wasn't so massively obsessed with, I gotta win five Masters, three U. He actually is famous for saying, I just wanna put myself in a position on the back nine on Sunday to have a chance to win. And if I put myself in that position enough times, and that's who I am, listen.
25:03 Ed Mylett? Everybody's who I am is somebody who puts himself in a position to win more times than not. Things are going to work out. That is the great example of having some goals, but a surrender. Knowing because what happens when you miss one, if you're so addicted to it, and that's the end all be all. Does everything else collapse around you, which it does happen for a lot of people. I had this goal. It was to be at this and I'm not. And then everything else has collapsed. And I have found as I've gotten older. I if I could go back to the younger me, I'd say. Ed, you'd be happier and more productive if you were more obsessed with the state of being. That you want than the state of just doing or getting.
25:49 Ed Mylett? And so it's not that I don't think you should have things you want to do or get. But they are secondary to who you're being, becoming. And I actually in the moment, yeah, I just really believe this. If you're really great at what you do. Like you're just really great. Pretty much by and large, great things start happening. But if it's all about your protocol, all about the things you want to hit as opposed to being. And by the way, state of being is being present in the moment, like as a dad. I'm a better dad when I'm not doing dad things. I'm just being with them. I'm just being with them. Do I have a goal to be a great dad? Yes, but that's that sounds awfully odd. It's like, it's what you just said. It's like my overall direction in my life is.
26:35 Ed Mylett? I want a loving, beautiful family. And every measurable way, I want joy and laughter and peace and faith in my home. Right? So it's it's more that than it is some specific measurable in my life.
26:48 Brendon Burchard? People ask me all the time, like, Brendan, what's the difference between a high achiever? And a high performer? And for those who haven't read high performance habits or studied my work, it's like, what we discovered with high performers is. They have long-term success, but they also maintain their health and positive relationships. Meaning they achieve long-term success, but they don't wreck their health or relationships. That's the difference. But another way I've learned to say this is high achievers, they're they're weapons. You know, they can go in, complete the thing, get the thing done. And they're like, they're very good at conscientiousness as a trait in the, you know, in following through, in completing things, paying attention to details. But there's a difference between a weapon who gets things done, achieves goals, makes things happen, completes tasks.
27:31 Brendon Burchard? There's a difference between a weapon and a warrior.
27:36 Brendon Burchard? See, Tiger Woods, no matter what you all think of him, he's a warrior. What he's battled through with his health, I don't know him personally, I know people who do. But he's battled through some extraordinary things. And a warrior is much more adaptive because they know the bigger war that they're playing. See, if it's just the goal, the task, the protocol, the thing, you're playing and you might be good at it. That's busy work. But the difference is life's work. A warrior is an embodiment. It's a personality, it's an identity, as you shared earlier. You don't want to just do like, good dads cook meals. Okay, that's good. But you're like, I'm a father. Yeah. And I'm going to be a great father for the child because I love this child. Now, that's a different spirit. A warrior's spirit is embodied, there's an identity.
28:21 Brendon Burchard? And there's a reason, listen to this, there's a reason for the fight.
28:27 Brendon Burchard? There's a higher value or a higher ideal for the fight. A lot of people have goals, but they've lost the higher ideal, vision, identity, sense of being. The spirit is not there. The tasks and the achievement is there, there's no spirit in it. And so I hope people also listen, Ed, when you say surrender, a lot of people get so hooked on that. Because they feel like, especially if you're, if you're a very controlling, driven person, it feels scary to say the word surrender because it sounds like giving up. And I learned this old phrase, uh, and I apologize, it's not my phrase, I don't remember who said it. Surrender is not about giving up. It's about giving more power to where it really belongs. So good. Isn't that good? It's so good.
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30:35 Ed Mylett? lived, has anything actually gone in the exact direction in your life you've seen it going, like specifically every single time, or does life happen? Life throws us variables and curveballs and bad bounces and setbacks and setups that you can't factor in. When you are so obsessed, you've got a goal, and you become so fixated on the outcome, because part of that outcome is also, it's gonna go the way you see it. And what happens is when you're that obsessed, and life throws you flexibility and variables and bombs and tragedies and difficulties, and out of left field, something comes in, you're ill-equipped to be pliable and flexible and pivot. And so, having the goal is incredible, but surrendering from the outcome, or even the way in which it's gonna show up and look, the way in which
31:20 Ed Mylett? it's going to happen, that's what the greats do, so that when they've got this outcome, this goal to win the tournament, or to... But they know there's gonna be a bad bounce in life. It's gonna go a different way. The wind's gonna blow a certain direction when you've hit the perfect shot and it didn't work out. You give the perfect presentation to the wrong company or person. And there's this setback. The client says yes, and then three days later changes their mind. The stock market takes a dip. Whatever it is in your life, somebody that you trusted does something where they hurt you. If you're so obsessed with the direction and the goal, that's why you get so derailed by setbacks or curveballs. Whereas the people that are heading, as he said, in a direction of being,
32:04 Ed Mylett? in a direction they want to go. They're pliable, they're flexible, they can pivot, they can innovate, they can create, they can move around things. These are the people that end up being the happiest? Because they're not expecting everything to go in some sequential order exactly how they want. But they also build a resiliency, a relentlessness, a toughness, a mindset of I will deal with these problems as they come, these challenges. They end up being the winner. And that's why this nuance, this is, this is one of these things like, to me, almost for the ages. Because it's, what we're doing right now is not discussed. But it's the real world.
32:46 Ed Mylett? I've almost never had a specific goal that has not come with a grenade or two thrown my way. And my ability to be more trending in a direction to put myself in a position, or as you've said, the type of being I want to be, or where I'm headed and why, allows me to navigate these inevitable obstacles that come our way. And that's what surrender means. I'm not, I'm surrendering to my higher power, but I'm also surrendering to not really know everything that's gonna come my way. But I'm believing in my ability and God's ability to bless me to get through those times to get to where I want to go. Not so obsessed with exactly the way I see it. Because here's what I bet. Even the person you're with in a relationship, if you're in love right now,
33:29 Ed Mylett? 95% of you, they showed up in a package you didn't expect. They don't look exactly the way you pictured them looking when you were 15 with your dreams. God shows up and gives us some of the greatest gifts in our lives in packages. We never expected them to look like or show up like. Some of you are in a career or doing something right now. You never imagined you'd be doing when you were young or even many years ago. Be open to the magic of life. And when you get so addicted to your goal and your outcome, you suppress the magic in life. You rule it out. Leave a space in your life open for the unknown and embrace that unknown, the good, bad, and the ugly. That'll help you navigate towards your biggest outcomes by not being so attached.
34:13 Ed Mylett? All right, this was, this was good today, brother. Brendan, thank you. This is why we do this right here. Every time we do this, bro, I get. We're getting fired up, brother. Man, it was so good. Thank you so much. It was good. Thank you, brother. God bless you, everybody.
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