Killed by Her Ex-Lover After Confrontation With New Boyfriend?! The Case of Alex Pennig

On December 16, 2022, 32-year-old nurse Alex Pennig had been found dead in her bathroom at home, victim to an allegedly self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head. But there were some serious inconsistencies with how she would have shot herself using her non-dominant hand, and why her hands were completely clean. Also in her apartment at the time was Matthew Ecker, a fellow nurse she was seeing who was supposedly just hanging out in the next room when she shot herself… with his gun. This episode is sponsored by: Wildgrain http://Wildgrain.com/KENDALLRAE - promo code: KENDALLRAE SKIMS http://skims.com/ - After you place your order, select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows. Grow Therapy http://growtherapy.com/kendallrae Nutrafol https://nutrafol.com/ - promo code: KENDALLRAE Hiya Health https://hiyahealth.com/products/kids-daily-essential?utm_source=superfiliate&utm_campaign=TCKR&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=eyJzZi1leHRlcm5hbC1zZXNzaW9uLXV1aWQiOiI5NWEzNThmZC03YmQ2LTRhYzAtOWRhZS1hMmEzMmRjYTI5ZmUifQ%3D%3D&ref=superfiliate-TCKR&attributes=%7B%22sf-external-session-uuid%22+%3D%3E+%22491cea8a-0de0-41ee-8c9c-c11726aaff4e%22%2C+%22sf-origin%22+%3D%3E+%22organic--TCKR%22%7D — Check out my foundation: Higher Hope Foundation: https://www.higherhope.org/ Watch my documentaries: 530 Days: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjUWkmOjNLk Apartment 801: https://bit.ly/2RJ9XXr True Crime with Kendall Rae podcast: Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3rks84o Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3jC66pr Shop my Merch! https://kendallrae.shop Check out my other podcasts: Mile Higher (True Crime) @milehigherpod YouTube: https://bit.ly/2ROzJcw Instagram: http://instagram.com/milehigherpod The Sesh (Current events, a little true crime, pop culture, and commentary) https://bit.ly/3Mtoz4X @the_seshpodcast Instagram: https://bit.ly/3a9t6Xr *Follow My Social!* @KendallRaeOnyt Instagram: http://instagram.com/kendallraeonyt Facebook: https://bit.ly/3kar4NK True Crime TikTok: https://bit.ly/3VDbc77 Personal TikTok: https://bit.ly/41hmRKg REQUESTS: General case suggestion form: https://zfrmz.com/yg9cuiWjUe2QY3hSC2V0 Form for people directly related/close to the victim: https://zfrmz.com/HGu2hZso42aHxARt1i67 Join my discord to chat with other viewers about this video, it’s free! https://discord.com/invite/an4stY9BCN C O N T A C T: For Business Inquiries - [email protected] mailto:[email protected] Send me mail: Kendall Rae 8547 E Arapahoe Rd Ste J #233 Greenwood Village, CO 80112

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• 1:16Kendall Rae?

  Hello, everyone, and welcome back to another episode of True Crime with Kendall Rae. Thank you so much for joining me. And if you're new to my show, then welcome. I'm happy to have you here. So you guys, today we are going to be talking about the wildly bizarre case of Alexandra Pennig. And the reason I say it's bizarre is because I just can't wrap my mind around how things went downhill the night that this happened so quickly. It's one that I will be super curious to hear your opinion on because I know there are a lot of opinions out there on this case. There are a lot of people who believe that the jury got it wrong, and many others believe that justice was served.

• 2:01Kendall Rae?

  It all kind of depends on, you know, which version of events you believe and if the evidence is compelling enough to you. And with that, let's Go ahead and start talking about Alex's case, starting with how her story began. Alexandra Pennig, or Alex, as most people called her, was born on December 22nd, 1989, to her parents, Mary Jo and Jim. And she was living in Minnesota at the time of her death, specifically in St. Paul, although I wasn't able to get clarity on where she was born and raised. From what I was able to find, though, it's obvious to me that she made a big impact in her 32 short years of life. Alex has lovingly been described as smart, empathetic, vibrant,

• 2:42Kendall Rae?

  and also as someone who has always had a place in her heart for the underdogs in our society. She deeply cared for her family and her friends, and she also had a soft spot for animals. I learned that she often brought in stray cats, girl after my own heart. This one was a stray that I found outside of my apartment complex a long time ago as a baby, and I bottle fed her, so I totally get it. She even had two cats of her own, Opie and Jax. Alex was also known for having every hair color in the book, truly, and for being incredibly feisty when she was growing up. She actually played ice hockey, and her friends said that she was fire on ice. But I'd say her biggest strength, you know, what she was known best for, was her passion for taking care of others.

• 3:26Kendall Rae?

  Her loved ones described her as a really just nurturing type of person, which suited her well for working as a nurse, of course. And one of the main reasons why Alex ended up becoming a nurse is actually a big part of her case. Back when she was a young adult, like so many of us do, Alex struggled with depression. And she also struggled with addiction, specifically to prescription pills. And she got to a very low point one day, and she ended up taking a handful of pills in an attempt on her life. And she even texted her mom, letting her know what she was planning to do. It was very, very scary. However, thankfully, almost immediately after taking them,

• 4:11Kendall Rae?

  she made herself throw up because she realized that she wasn't ready to quit. And so after being rushed to the hospital and having her life saved, Alex realized that she wanted to become a nurse and help others the way that nurses and doctors helped her that night. So after getting her bachelor's degree in public health from Montana State University, she got her LPN degree from St. Paul College, and then her RN degree from Alexandria Technical and Community College. And she was even asked to speak at graduation, where she truly spoke from her heart about getting to where she was. And it's very emotional to watch, especially with what ends up happening. By her parents' account, at this point in her life, at the time of her death, things were on a positive

• 4:54Kendall Rae?

  trajectory. In fact, on the evening of December 15th, 2022, she and her mom were texting, and her mom, Mary Jo, says everything seemed completely fine, nothing out of the ordinary. But in the early morning hours of the 16th, everything changed, and everything went downhill, like I said, so fast. At 2:50 a.m., St. Paul Police Dispatchers responded to a 911 call from someone reporting that his friend, Alex Pennig, had just shot herself in her apartment.

• 5:27Speaker 03

  How can I help you? I got a girl who shot herself.

• 5:36Speaker 03

  Where's the gun?

• 5:41Speaker 03

  The gun is right here. I have a concealed carry.

• 5:51Speaker 03

  Is she alive? Is she breathing?

• 5:58Kendall Rae?

  All units were immediately sent to her building, and they were met and escorted to her apartment by Matthew Ecker. Now, Matthew was Alex's friend, and he led them from the lobby to the elevator and then finally to her bathroom, which was just to the right of the front door. Unfortunately, though, there was nothing that they could do to save her. Alex was found lying face up with her left hand covering a gun, which was resting on the left side of her shoulder area. She had suffered a gunshot wound to her left temple, and at first glance, it did appear as though her injury was self-inflicted. Neighbors were spoken to, and no one remembered hearing anything, which...

• 6:37Kendall Rae?

  Kind of blows my mind, especially in an apartment complex. But they had to go completely off Matthew's recollection of the events that night. And he gave them his version of events right there in the hallway of her building. And this conversation was captured on body cam, so you'll be able to see it for yourself. And at first, he appears to be too emotional to really explain what happened. But after catching his breath, Matthew started explaining.

• 7:05Speaker 04

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• 7:20Speaker 05

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• 9:35Speaker 09

  We are frie- we're friends. Okay. She is a girlfriend of mine. Oh my God, I'm married. And she has been... Oh, my girlfriend, I was just... Take your time. For like two years. And I'm a terrible person for that.

• 9:58Speaker 09

  And we went to a bar. Today? Yep. Okay. Um, ah, what's a bar? Um...

• 10:11Speaker 09

  Does that make sense? Bar. Yep. And her boyfriend confronted me and he punched me. Ah, fuck, Alice!

• 10:25Speaker 09

  You say his boyfriend punched her? Her boyfriend punched me. Okay. And he got kicked out. Okay. And...

• 10:33Speaker 09

  We came back here after that, like, everything was fine.

• 10:36Kendall Rae?

  Like you heard Matthew say, Alex was his girlfriend, or at least she had been his girlfriend for about two years. He was married, and he and his wife had four kids, and yes, the two of them dated while he was married. And just like Alex, Matthew was also a nurse. The two of them had actually met in 2020 while working at the same walk-in clinic. And from what I was able to gather, it sounds like the two of them had broken up at some point, but chose to remain friends. So, anyway, Matthew loosely explained their dynamic, and then he started to describe what had happened that night. He said they went to a bar called Camp, and then they ran into Alex's current boyfriend, who he says punched him. He then goes on to explain that the reason they were even together that night was because

• 11:19Kendall Rae?

  Alex called him, saying that she was afraid that her current boyfriend, Shane Anderson, was going to hurt her after a fight they had just gotten into. And it's important to note that Matthew lived three hours away, and he was also headed into work when she called. But he cared so much for Alex, he decided to drop everything and wanted to be there for her because he wanted to, quote, "help her feel safe." After coming home from the bar, though, Matthew says that she took his gun out of his suitcase, which, side note, he brought with him as protection against Shane. He then says she removes it from the holster, then proceeded to walk backwards towards the bathroom. He claims she told him not to come any closer, or she would shoot, and then she locked herself

• 12:04Kendall Rae?

  inside the bathroom, which is where he says she fired the weapon. He then went on to say that he broke down the door to get to her when he heard the gun going off, but it was too late.

• 12:14Speaker 09

  And so I came here to help her feel safe.

• 12:19Speaker 10

  I'm sorry, I'm kind of rejecting you, and I know you've attacked this officer, but she locked herself in the bathroom?

• 12:26Speaker 09

  Yes, she did.

• 12:27Speaker 10

  How did you get in?

• 12:28Speaker 09

  I broke it. I just slammed into the door after I heard the shot.

• 12:34Kendall Rae?

  Now, some context to this is important, okay? So, according to sources, Matthew did have his license to carry, and it wasn't unusual for him to carry his weapon. He had it on him a lot of the time, it sounds like. However, it was obvious to him when he got to Alex around 2:00 PM that she wasn't in immediate danger. Whatever fight that she had supposedly gotten into with Shane was over, and he was no longer there. But since he had already made the long drive, Matthew says they decided to continue to hang out. And eventually, they ended up at camp, that bar, which is where they run into Shane. And Matthew was not lying about what happened at the bar. He certainly got punched by Shane. You can actually see security footage of it, captured the entire interaction.

• 13:19Kendall Rae?

  Matthew and Alex can be seen entering together, but as they approached the bar, they end up separating. Matthew stays on one side of the bar, while Alex walks over to the other, which, by the way, was where her boyfriend Shane was sitting with another woman. And pretty soon, Shane gets up and walks over to Alex and strikes up a conversation, no idea what was said. This was followed by Matthew making his way over to that side of the bar, and then he sits on the other side of Alex, so she's sort of sandwiched between them. And then, after just a few seconds, Matthew stands up, faces Shane directly, and reaches his hand out, almost as if he's introducing himself. But within seconds, Shane punches Matthew, and the two of them tumble to the ground. Shane did get kicked out after this,

• 14:03Kendall Rae?

  and Matthew and Alex ended up staying at that bar for another 45 minutes or so. And when they got home is when he said Alex took his gun. So for a second, let's go back to that footage in the hallway of Matthew talking to police. He proceeds to explain what happened after the gun went off, which, according to him, there was a short delay in calling 911 because he couldn't find his phone. And this is important. He said he absolutely touched her and tried to render first aid because he's a nurse practitioner. And he also admitted to washing his hands.

• 14:38Speaker 10

  And how long, it said that you waited a little bit to call the police?

• 14:41Speaker 09

  No, I looked at her, I ran back out, and I couldn't find my phone. And I tried to find...

• 14:48Speaker 10

  Okay, and then, uh, did you touch her at all or...

• 14:52Speaker 09

  I did, yeah, absolutely.

• 14:54Speaker 10

  Where was she?

• 14:55Speaker 09

  She was laying where she was.

• 14:57Speaker 10

  Okay, so how did you move, like, where did you, what did you do? I know it's...

• 15:00Speaker 09

  I tried to... All this thing, just with her hand, and she was trying to breathe.

• 15:10Speaker 10

  She was trying to breathe and you were trying to stop the breathing for the blood?

• 15:13Speaker 09

  Yeah.

• 15:14Speaker 10

  So how did you try to give first aid?

• 15:18Speaker 10

  I know, I know, I know, I know.

• 15:24Speaker 09

  I'm an NP.

• 15:25Speaker 10

  Okay.

• 15:26Speaker 09

  I'm working on emergency at the park.

• 15:30Speaker 09

  And I saw a table of just like chainsaw breathing.

• 15:35Speaker 10

  Yeah.

• 15:35Speaker 09

  Like I understood that this was just dumb. She just, I, I, I tried what I could.

• 15:42Speaker 10

  So, and I know that I just have to, because I have a medical examiner.

• 15:45Speaker 09

  I get it. Like I, I, I tried to do what I could.

• 15:49Speaker 10

  Okay.

• 15:50Speaker 09

  And then I washed my hands.

• 15:51Speaker 10

  Then you washed your hands?

• 15:52Speaker 09

  Correct. That's why I don't have anything.

• 15:55Speaker 10

  And then you, then you called the police?

• 15:58Kendall Rae?

  And if you're listening to the audio only version of this episode, it's really important to know that Matthew was totally clean in this footage. Not a drop of blood could be seen on him. And right there at the end, where he said he washed his hands is also super important to remember. It's a very big part of this case. I mean, you'd think that even if he washed his hands, there would still potentially be some blood on him, at least on his clothes or something, especially since he said he tried to stop her head from bleeding. Yet despite touching her bleeding wound, he was spotless. And this was something that officers noted right away and made them question if he was telling the full story.

• 16:41Kendall Rae?

  So they end up asking him to come into the station and give a formal statement, which he did willingly.

• 16:51Speaker 04

  Hi, I'm Jenna Oshkowitz. You might know me from Glee. This is At the Table, the food allergy podcast, a show about food, connection, and what it really looks like to live with food allergies. Each episode, we hear stories from real people like Daniel.

• 17:05Speaker 05

  People would always think I was lactose intolerant, so I just kind of shortened my explanation to I'm deathly allergic, in a big way that defined a lot of my childhood.

• 17:16Speaker 04

  And while there are challenges, there are moments that remind you you're not alone.

• 17:21Speaker 06

  One of the best guys that I dated, he made a point to memorize all my food allergies.

• 17:27Speaker 04

  So join us and hear their stories and more because living with food allergies isn't just about what you can't eat, it's about still having your seat at the table. Brought to you by Genentech and Novartis. Listen to At The Table, the food allergy podcast on America's number one podcast network, iHeart. Follow At The Table and start listening on the free iHeart radio app today.

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• 18:46Kendall Rae?

  Meanwhile, the scene continued to be processed, and that's where a few key things stood out. So for starters, investigators noticed that inside her apartment, there were six bottles of prescription medication as well as some alcohol, which at first glance confirmed what Matthew told them in the hallway about Alex having struggled with addiction. These pills included antidepressants as well as amphetamines, all of which were prescribed to her. And this could have backed up what Matthew was saying, that she did this to herself. But only if you fail to look at the entire picture here, because when you start looking at all the evidence and all the inconsistencies here, you might agree with investigators that it looks like Alex was not responsible for this.

• 19:31Kendall Rae?

  While looking at the scene, police started noticing some glaring problems with Matthew's story. One of the biggest ones being the fact that the sink in the bathroom, the one that he said he washed his hands in, was bone dry. Now, according to Matthew, there was about a four-minute lag between the shooting and him calling 911 while he was looking for his phone. And even if that's true, which investigators believe more time had passed, and I think you will too, there's no way the sink would have dried that quickly. Plus, think about it, if his hands were bloody, the faucets would have had blood on them from when he turned them on, right? But those were completely clean, and I should also mention, the gun was completely clean, too. It didn't appear to have blood on it, which doesn't make a whole lot of sense if you

• 20:16Kendall Rae?

  believe Matthew when he said that she put it to her own head. If Alex pulled the trigger, or she was holding the gun and it went off, either way, there would be blood spatter on that gun, no doubt. And then, of course, there was blood around her body, and that already started to dry, which tells investigators that that gun went off a lot earlier than Matthew claimed. And then we also have to go over the fact that investigators noticed that the position of Alex's body did not match Matthew's story. And if you're watching this episode, you'll be able to see this visual here, which will really help. But for my audio listeners, you really gotta try your best to picture this. Basically, what they found was that her legs were straddling either side of the door.

• 21:01Kendall Rae?

  And they believe that if Alex pulled the trigger, and then Matthew busted open the door after that, like he claimed, then her legs would have been swept to one side, not one on each side. And in their minds, this suggested that the bathroom door was open when the weapon was fired. And I'll touch more on some other inconsistencies as we go on here, because there are quite a few, but I want to keep walking through the events as they unravel. So Matthew gets brought into the station for further questioning. And meanwhile, additional officers went to speak to Shane, because also, while they were at Alex's apartment, they had observed two holes in the wall, as if someone had punched And they were trying to get a clearer picture of the alleged domestic dispute that

• 21:46Kendall Rae?

  kicked off Matthew coming to town in the first place. They also, of course, wanted to know if he knew anything about what happened. But based on the body cam footage, and it's tough to watch, Shane was extremely shocked and very heartbroken.

• 22:00Speaker 12

  I have a witness that says you were with Matt, Matt Hecker.

• 22:04Speaker 13

  I don't even know who that is.

• 22:06Speaker 12

  Okay, and Alexandra, you know Alex Pennig?

• 22:11Speaker 13

  I know who Alex is. That's, I've been dating her.

• 22:16Speaker 12

  So it's not good news for her. And we have investigators downtown who would like to chat with you about last night and.

• 22:24Speaker 13

  It's not good news for her?

• 22:26Speaker 12

  Yeah.

• 22:27Speaker 13

  What do you mean? Is she okay?

• 22:29Speaker 12

  No.

• 22:32Speaker 13

  What do you mean?

• 22:33Speaker 12

  So the investigators wanted, so she was in a lot of trouble.

• 22:37Speaker 13

  She's in a lot of trouble?

• 22:39Speaker 12

  And the investigators want to chat with you about, about what you know of her. They, for some reason, they know that you were an ex-boyfriend or something, that you might have information about who she hangs out with. Potentially, you were with them at a bar last night.

• 22:52Speaker 13

  Is she okay?

• 22:57Speaker 12

  She's passed away.

• 23:00Speaker 13

  No.

• 23:03Speaker 12

  Yeah.

• 23:05Speaker 13

  Oh.

• 23:06Speaker 12

  That's why we need you to talk to the investigators.

• 23:08Speaker 13

  Oh.

• 23:10Speaker 12

  I can't, I can't share all, I don't have all the information.

• 23:15Speaker 12

  The investigators need to chat with you.

• 23:18Speaker 13

  No way. Alex Pennig? You're kidding me?

• 23:24Speaker 12

  No.

• 23:25Speaker 13

  You're kidding me?

• 23:26Speaker 12

  I wouldn't.

• 23:28Speaker 13

  Oh my God.

• 23:33Speaker 12

  I'm sorry to be the bearer.

• 23:35Speaker 13

  Please, please, please, please, no.

• 23:38Speaker 12

  So.

• 23:40Speaker 13

  Like we, I didn't see you last night.

• 23:44Kendall Rae?

  He explained that they had been dating for a few months and it had been going very well, so much so that they had planned on moving in together.

• 23:51Speaker 13

  You're kidding me?

• 23:52Speaker 12

  No.

• 23:52Speaker 13

  Yeah.

• 23:53Speaker 12

  I wouldn't, I wouldn't.

• 23:54Speaker 13

  You cannot, you cannot, you cannot, you cannot.

• 23:58Speaker 12

  I know it's it's obviously as serious as it gets.

• 24:01Speaker 13

  Oh my god, like that's that's like we like we're we're I was talking about like moving out of my place and like moving in with her. Like we like we've been like she's she's been okay like.

• 24:17Speaker 12

  Have you been you've dated in the past?

• 24:19Speaker 13

  We've been we've been like no, we've been like consistently like dating like for the past like three months.

• 24:25Speaker 12

  Oh, okay.

• 24:27Kendall Rae?

  And after this, he voluntarily went to the station to answer more questions and he talked about their plans for the future. What's interesting, though, is he described their relationship as a happy one. Yet Matthew painted a much different picture, a picture of a relationship filled with abuse. Now, whether or not you believe Shane is up to you, and I don't feel like we have enough information to believe him or not, but Shane completely denies all the allegations of abuse from Matthew. He did admit to punching the wall, the hole in the wall, uh which to me is very concerning, very questionable.

• 25:07Kendall Rae?

  But he said that he did it because they got into an argument about what was taking him so long to move in. And while I personally think that punching a wall is a big red flag, makes me worried. He claims that he never laid a finger on her. He said that they fought like a married couple, but things were good between them. There is no proof either way to confirm or deny his claims. And as for why he punched Matthew, which to me is also a big red flag, considering how quickly that happened. Um, he said that he was just jealous that Alex was with another man. But these events aside, the nuances of his relationship don't entirely matter when it

• 25:49Kendall Rae?

  comes to the context of who actually pulled the trigger because we know that it wasn't Shane. I mean, we flat out know he wasn't there that night. He is not on security cam footage. Uh, so investigators immediately didn't believe he was responsible and he got put off to the side, but I don't know. Their relationship, they could have had a horrible relationship for all we know, or it could have been a good one. I don't know. There's not enough information. And like I said, it doesn't really matter when it comes to the context of her actual death. This was between Matthew and Alex. So investigators dug deeper into their history to see if they could uncover anything to explain what happened. As I explained earlier, Matthew and Alex met when they were coworkers at a clinic in 2020.

• 26:34Kendall Rae?

  And as far as the affair goes, each of their parents have sort of a different idea of what happened. His parents said that it was definitely a fair, whereas her parents only describe him as someone that she worked with. And without Alex being able to give her side of things, I'm positive there's a lot to their dynamic that we'll never truly understand. What I can say, though, at least from my research, is that unfortunately, Alex may have slipped back into a not so healthy pattern when it comes to drinking and pill usage. Several sources have reported that she was struggling to maintain a steady income because of inconsistencies when

• 27:18Kendall Rae?

  it comes to her showing up for work and just problems at her job, and that Matthew was helping her pay rent. I'm not able to confirm this. This is just what some sources say. I also learned that Matthew was doing something else for her. Remember how I said investigators found six bottles of prescription pills at her apartment? Well, guess who was prescribing them? Matthew. And to be clear, it wasn't illegal for Matthew to be prescribing her pills, but it is highly unethical. She was not his client, and he knew about her history with addiction. And from what I can tell, he was getting her deeper into something that was incredibly

• 28:01Kendall Rae?

  dangerous, given her past. And three days before the night of her death, she texted Matthew and said, "I shut myself out to the world. I needed a mental health break, and I'm not very hopeful at the moment about life." And of course, these are very sad, concerning messages. And...

• 28:20Kendall Rae?

  Because of this, Matthew says it's obvious that she was responsible for what happened, that she did this to herself, but her parents adamantly deny that she was in that kind of headspace at this time. Plus, they said that she didn't even like guns and had never shot one before, which I should point out is pivotal to this case. Earlier, I mentioned that the gunshot wound was to her left temple and that her left hand was placed on top of the gun, and there was even gunshot residue found on that same hand. But what's super important to note here is that Alex was right-handed. So you're telling me that she just picked up a gun when she had never used a gun before with her left hand, her non-dominant

• 29:02Kendall Rae?

  hand? Matthew even told investigators that he thought it was strange that she used her left hand, that he had noticed that because he knew that she was right-handed. And to me, and this is just my opinion, it almost seems like he was trying to get ahead of that part of the story because he knew that it didn't make any sense. But that's not even where the weirdness ends because remember how I said that the gun was clean and free of blood spatter? Well, so were her hands. There was residue from the gunpowder, but there was no blood. And this was an inconsistency that investigators, of course, brought up to Matthew when he was down at the station.

• 29:42Speaker 14

  For starters, I suck at shooting with my left hand because I am right-handed, right? So I'm not gonna do something with my left hand if I wanted to. I don't know what she did with her left hand. It was in her left hand. But then to have her left hand completely clean. It was in her left hand. I can't explain that. Even if she did do it to herself, there would be blood on her hand, right? I would think so. Yeah. And then if you say what you did and put it back on, there definitely 100% should be blood on her hand, right? Yeah. Her hand is completely dry.

• 30:19Speaker 14

  That's what my partner here is saying. Right now, all this evidence is not bad enough. I can't. I just want you to just think. I just want you to think about this and what, what you're. You're asking me to confess to something I didn't do. No, I'm not. I'm asking you just to think. I mean. I'm asking you to think about it. I'm asking you to think about your wife and your four kids. Oh, my God.

• 30:40Kendall Rae?

  Matthew was also confronted with the fact that the blood around Alex's body had already started to dry.

• 30:46Speaker 14

  The reason why we are asking about the timeline so much, and you know, you're a doctor. Um, the blood in, around her on the toilet in the sink was, it was dry already.

• 31:00Speaker 15

  Okay.

• 31:00Speaker 14

  When the police got there. So we're wondering, maybe is the timeline maybe just a little bit off? Because, I mean, you know, as a doctor, that blood doesn't dry that quick and doesn't start flaking or anything. And by the time that the police officer arrived, they noticed that it was dried already and.

• 31:18Speaker 15

  Yeah, I mean, I, it's, it's possible that I got up and went out and then came back and then went out again. I mean, it was not a lot.

• 31:28Speaker 14

  It doesn't.

• 31:28Speaker 15

  Not a lot.

• 31:30Speaker 14

  I mean, it's possible he maybe passed out. I don't.

• 31:34Speaker 15

  It was, I don't think it would have been that long. Because that blood was starting to coagulate. It was, it was that, okay. Yeah, I, I mean, like I said, I may have gunned. It's possible that I went out to try to find the phone and then came back and I was doing stuff and then went out to get the phone again. And I, I mean, I don't think I passed out at all, did I? I remember, um, pretty sure I didn't.

• 31:58Speaker 14

  But it wasn't long. I mean, it was not long.

• 32:01Kendall Rae?

  His whole story during questioning really started to fall apart. You could just tell he was trying to keep his story straight, that he was struggling, he knew it wasn't making sense, and the detectives just weren't having it. They're telling him, dude, this is not adding up. And eventually, they just decided that they were going to leave the room and they told him to think about everything one last time and see if maybe he would change his story, that they would come back and ask him once again. And guess what? He did change his story.

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• 34:07Kendall Rae?

  After almost two hours in questioning, Matthew admitted that he moved the gun, which is the only thing that makes sense, of course. And he stands by the fact that she was the shooter, but he now claimed that he panicked and moved the gun after it all happened. Since the weapon belonged to him, Matthew said he was worried that he would get in trouble. And rather than leave the evidence as is, he said he moved it to his suitcase only to panic again and put it back in the bathroom on her shoulder. He swears he didn't clean the gun, though, which makes no sense, because it was clean, clean, when it was found. Now, I just want to insert my own personal thoughts here. I kind of think that he was planning on fleeing,

• 34:53Kendall Rae?

  because remember, they were drinking that night. I don't think he thought this through at all. I think he may have thought, I'm going to...

• 35:02Kendall Rae?

  Put the gun in my bag and I'm going to leave it. I'm going to clean it, then put it in my bag and leave. And then he all of a sudden remembered like, wait, I'm on camera here at this apartment complex. I cannot get out of this. I was here. So then he decided to stage it. I can't really make sense of his story any other way because it's so stupid. I don't know why anyone would stage a scene this way. And that's another reason why I described this case as just bizarre. Everything about it to me is so bizarre, how this happened so quickly. Matthew's behavior, it's all just weird.

• 35:38Speaker 15

  So the change that I have, and I was scared. After this had happened, and I maintain that the shot went off behind the holster. I was not in the bathroom when that went off. I will maintain that until the day I die. I did take the gun and I put it in my suitcase. I got scared for a second. I didn't know what was going on. I took the gun, I made it, put it in the holster, and I don't remember if I dared or not. I put it in the suitcase, went back, looked to her, and said, yep.

• 36:20Speaker 15

  Went back to the suitcase, grabbed the gun, and put it back there. I don't know what my plan was there. I don't know what I was thinking. I got scared for a second, but that's, that is what I did. Did you clean the gun off? I did not clean the gun off. So there's going to be blood inside the holster and blood inside the suitcase? There should be. If there was blood on the gun, there should be. That's all. I didn't clean the gun off. Your point of getting rid of the gun was why? I got scared. I got scared. But scared of what? I don't know. Getting in trouble. Because I knew it was my gun. I got scared. And then I knew it was wrong.

• 37:00Speaker 15

  And put it back in there. It was up here when I got it. That must have took you a long time because by the time the officers got there, the blood dried. The other blood's coagulated.

• 37:12Speaker 14

  This is your time.

• 37:13Speaker 15

  I freaked out. I took the gun. I put it in my case. I brought it back. I, I put it on her chest. I moved. I, I was.

• 37:21Speaker 14

  Yeah. I believe you, man. I believe that you did that, but.

• 37:24Speaker 15

  Things were good between us. Everything was.

• 37:27Speaker 14

  Were they though? Were they though?

• 37:28Speaker 15

  Yeah.

• 37:29Speaker 14

  You just got punched by her ex-boyfriend at a bar.

• 37:31Speaker 15

  I don't care about that.

• 37:32Speaker 14

  But things were good?

• 37:33Speaker 15

  Yeah. Yeah.

• 37:36Speaker 14

  You're always saying that things were good. You guys have been dating for two, for two years and you have a wife and four children at home. Things weren't good, Matthew. Things weren't good. She wasn't happy with that.

• 37:47Kendall Rae?

  And at some point, he also recanted his part of the story where he said he attempted CPR. And this, many believe, is critical to the case. Matthew now claimed he didn't know what to do, so he didn't actually touch her. Yet at one point in his career, he was an emergency room nurse, so he definitely would have known how to help her. And honestly, I'm just guessing here, but I think he realized he needed an explanation for why his clothes were clean and saying he didn't touch her would explain that. And with his story flip flopping like this, the detectives definitely didn't shy away from calling him out.

• 38:23Kendall Rae?

  Plus, investigators and many others don't believe that things were going as well as Matthew said that they were between him and Alex. Listen to this. As the investigation goes on, they end up finding more security footage, and it was from Alex's apartment complex, like I mentioned a little bit ago. And while they were viewing it, they were able to track what time the two of them got home from the bar. It was 2:05 a.m. They entered her building and not long after, they see something interesting. Because at 2:24 a.m., both Matthew and Alex can be seen leaving her building together. Matthew is walking in front of Alex and he noticeably doesn't hold the door for her.

• 39:07Kendall Rae?

  And maybe it's reading too much into it, but the body language there seems a little. Cold. But anyway, a few minutes later, around 2:30 a.m., they come back in and the energy has continued to shift. Now, Matthew claimed that they were just going to his car to grab his headphones, which, side note, I think is kind of strange. They both needed to go get his headphones, and why did you need them that late at night? Maybe he used them when he's sleeping. Why would she go with you? I guess she could have. It just feels a little weird. And that doesn't explain why Alex's body language was so different all of a sudden. Because just looking at her, she appears to be impatient. She appears to be annoyed, and maybe even angry. She walked in front of him as they entered the

• 39:52Kendall Rae?

  building, and he can even be seen shrugging his shoulders at her, almost in a "what are you mad about?" kind of way. Of course, that's just how I'm interpreting it, and there are different opinions about it, but that is also the way investigators interpret it. And when her loved ones saw this footage, they could see that she was sort of stomping her feet, which they laughed about in their interviews and said, "This is something that she was known to do when she was mad." And then, as we know, only 20 minutes after this, Matthew places that 911 call. So investigators believe that something had to have happened between them leaving the apartment and him making that call. But that something is still a mystery to this day. And what will forever bother me so much about this case, this pissed me off so much,

• 40:37Kendall Rae?

  is they never forensically examined her phone. They never summoned her phone records. It's truly so unbelievable to me. I can't wrap my mind around it, but listen to this. When they were walking back inside the apartment complex, Alex had walked into the building's entrance at first, and she's waiting for Matthew there. She stood there alone for a short amount of time while Matthew's still outside doing whatever it is that he was doing. And while she was waiting, she can be seen on her phone. But we don't actually know- What she was doing on it, she could have been texting, she could have been texting Shane, she could have been texting someone about Matthew, who knows? All we know is that Matthew came back in and she walked angrily through the lobby towards the elevator.

• 41:21Kendall Rae?

  And I just think that whatever she was doing on her phone could play a huge role in this case. Maybe we could have learned more about her headspace at this time, maybe we could have understood more about her dynamic with Matthew. And investigators weren't ever able to look at Shane's phone because he said he lost it that night. I just find it strange that they didn't dig further. They were like, oh, he lost his phone, so whatever, especially with what happened earlier that night at the bar. But again, he definitely didn't kill her, so I'm not sure how much his phone would do. And so part of me wonders if she was texting him and she was annoyed with him because he wasn't responding, especially with what had just happened at the bar. But I don't know, that's completely speculation. We will probably never know.

• 42:06Kendall Rae?

  At the end of the day, this really comes down to Matthew and Alex and which version of events truly happened. And I do have to say investigators had a pretty big wrench in their theory because the medical examiner could not definitively prove in the autopsy that it was a homicide. Her manner of death was only ever ruled undetermined, and that was by two different medical examiners, which makes this case even more confusing and bizarre. That being said, there was one glaring piece of evidence that ultimately pushed law enforcement to move forward with an arrest.

• 42:46Kendall Rae?

  While Alex was being moved from the bathroom floor, investigators found this little metal ring underneath her body. And it's not like the type of ring that you would wear on your finger. This is a piece of metal that was part of the bathroom door's locking mechanism. The thing is though, in order for that to have gone underneath her, the door would have had to be broken while she was still standing. But in Matthew's version of the story, he forced it open after the gunshot went off when she was already on the ground. Now, we Obviously know that he moved the gun. And in doing so, we know that he repositioned her hand over the weapon. And he admitted to this, but at no point did he admit to moving her whole body.

• 43:29Kendall Rae?

  So that piece of metal confirms that she was standing when the door was opened. And because of that, investigators and later prosecutors as well, started to paint a new picture. What if Alex and Matthew got into some type of argument? Which it seems like the energy between them in that footage as they were headed back upstairs wasn't great. At least it seems that way. So what if they get into an argument when they go upstairs? And then Alex ran into the bathroom to try and get away from him to seek safety. And then what if Matthew broke the door open? She kind of hid behind it and he reached around and shot Alex in the temple. Would that be difficult? Probably, but not impossible.

• 44:13Kendall Rae?

  Because that would also explain why she was shielded from the blood spatter and why her hands were clean. And I'm sure a lot of you are already thinking, okay, but what about the fact that she had gunshot residue on her hands? Well, investigators say that that could have come from Matthew placing her hand on the gun after the fact, which makes complete sense to me. So with this, they arrested him for second degree murder. And his trial began in February of 2024. And Matthew was represented by defense attorney Bruce Rivers, who I'm sure a lot of you have heard of. He is a well-known defense attorney. He has a YouTube channel, in fact, where he reacts to trials and body cam videos and such.

• 44:57Kendall Rae?

  You might even recognize his theme song.

• 45:10Kendall Rae?

  Quite a bop, Bruce. Interesting guy. But anyways, during the trial, Bruce's strategy was to not only explain the inconsistencies in Matthew's story, but he also tried to paint Alex as someone who wanted to take her life. He talked about her history of substance abuse, her prior attempt, and the messages that she sent Matthew leading up to her death. The defense also tried to explain that the metal piece could have gone under Alex when Matthew tried to administer CPR. But let's not forget that he recanted the part of his story where he said he attempted to save her. They tried to poke holes in each inconsistency that I've shared with you, but there was still so much that didn't add up at the end of the day. And one thing I will say is that they never found gunshot residue on his hands,

• 45:53Kendall Rae?

  which, if you think about it, that doesn't make a whole lot of sense. Because Matthew admitted to moving the gun, therefore, he should have had some type of residue on him. And because he didn't, that part is quite confusing. I mean, he didn't wash his hands. We know the sink was dry. Maybe he did clean himself up in some way. Bruce explained that sometimes gunshot residue just doesn't transfer. I don't know. It's all very strange. As for a motive, I struggle with this, to be honest. It's hard to know anything for sure. Many people believe that their history of dating and the fact that he was prescribing her a bunch of medications may speak to why he may have snapped. Maybe she was threatening him.

• 46:38Kendall Rae?

  They did find texts on his phone, days before she died, where she was asking him to refill those medications. I know some people have theorized, and I don't know what to think of this, but some people believe that maybe he wasn't going to refill those. He told her he wasn't going to, and she was mad at him for that and maybe threatening to expose the affair or expose him for prescribing her the medications. That's complete speculation. No evidence that that is the case. Were they just in an intoxicated argument? And the affair got brought up? Maybe she was threatening to out him to his wife? I mean, who knows? The motive? Super, super unclear here. It could have really been anything.

• 47:22Kendall Rae?

  And of course, without a strong motive, it does make it hard. And both sides were nervous about what the jury was going to ultimately do. In the end, of course, the defense wanted the jury to come to the conclusion that Matthew was not guilty, saying that because a medical examiner could not rule this a homicide, that they shouldn't either. But when all was said and done, that is exactly what they did. They found him guilty of second degree murder in April of 2024, and he was sentenced to 30 years in prison. Like I said at the beginning of this episode, people are super torn on this verdict. And I don't, it's hard for me to say, I very much lean towards guilty.

• 48:08Kendall Rae?

  There is a part of me that thinks I can kind of see where there would be room for reasonable doubt. But I think ultimately, the evidence is strong enough. But don't get me wrong, it's tough. I had to think about this for a while because it is just so weird. And during sentencing, several people gave victim impact statements on Alex's side, asking that the judge give Matthew a sentence that is reflective of his actions. Meanwhile, his parents also spoke and asked the judge for leniency. Matthew's family does not believe he is guilty. They are adamant that the jury got this one wrong, and he has tried to appeal. He filed an appeal in June, but the original conviction was upheld.

• 48:49Kendall Rae?

  I think despite there being justice, though, Alex's loved ones are left with a lot of questions. And the big one being, why? Why? And obviously, because there's not a straightforward motive, a lot of people struggle to believe he's guilty. I definitely want to hear what you guys think on this one, whether you think he's guilty or not. And either way, I'm curious to hear your thoughts because this one has really bothered me. Before I go, I do want to end with a few more notes about Alex. Since her passing, she has been deeply missed by all of her friends and family. Two of her friends and her parents actually get together often to tell stories and memories about her,

• 49:32Kendall Rae?

  which I think is a cool way to keep her memory alive. And her parents also built a chicken coop in their yard, and they call it Alex's coop, which I loved that, and I think she would have loved that, too. Not only because she had a deep love of animals, but I guess right after she died, her parents had found a rooster in their yard. To them, it was sort of like a sign. And so now they have about a dozen chickens. And raising them reminds them of her and helps them feel close to Alex at the end of the day. The cemetery where she was buried is also near their house, so they're able to visit her often. And Alex's case just makes me so sad because she was so young and she had so much life left to live and so many more people to help. She should absolutely still be here today.

• 50:16Kendall Rae?

  And it makes me sick thinking of all that her family and friends have had to go through.

• 50:25Kendall Rae?

  That is going to be it for me today, guys. Thank you for joining me for another episode. And make sure you follow the show on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. It really does help me out. If you want to watch the video version of this show, you can find it on my YouTube channel, which will be linked, or you can just search Kendall Rae. I will be back with another episode soon, but until then, stay safe out there.

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